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Offline magicmckee

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telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« on: August 23, 2008, 03:31:49 PM »
am male, had an encounter with another guy 2.5 weeks ago, involved kissing and oral both receive and giving. i gave only for a short amount of time (maybe at least a minute or 2 minutes), not sure how much precum was in mouth and had a canker sore in mouth. i had two cold sores that were crusted over and scabbed over below my lower lip, not sure if that was a risk or not but im afraid pre cum might have gone on them directly or indirectly. no ejaculate in my mouth. i just had a really high fever two nights ago with bad headaches, im feeling better now but im ******* freaked out becvause now i discover around my thighs, waist, and up my stomach and across my chest what looks like a rash??? tiny red patches on my skin of varying shapes and sizes, not uniform in pattern and again, small. it pretty much went it away by the next day. my fever was about gone too, at most it was only there a little bit i never checked to see if the rash existed when my fever was high since i just noticed today! this rash matches the exact description of ARS and the fever too!!! and i dont think ive ever had a rash like this before

im so worried right now because all i've heard is that rash and fever occur concurrently only when HIV is present... this is what ive found on the net, and so im so frightened! however, my exposure was relatively low risl...what do you guys think? isnt this the telltale sign, and no one just wants to admit that its what i think it might be?

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #1 on: August 23, 2008, 03:34:07 PM »
my lips have a history of getting dried/chapped, but i dont recall them being so much that night otherwise i would have noticed... i somehow doubt they would have been bleeding somehow but of course i cant know every little thing

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #2 on: August 23, 2008, 03:36:46 PM »
maj,

Giving oral is a theoretical risk, but not a proven one. It's highly unlikely that you would have been infected this way.

But what are you doing giving oral when you've got herpes lesions on your lip? Do you not know that "cold sore" is another way of saying herpes lesion? The chance of you giving this guy herpes on his penis is thousands of times higher than you becoming infected with hiv from blowinig him. Get real. Keep your herpes to yourself.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Keep your herpes to yourself.

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2008, 03:41:00 PM »
thanks ann, i dont think the sores could have touched him because they were below the lips but with some distance. this is only my second sexual partner, but i will remember what you said in the future. so should i not be worried by the symptoms then? because they are so eerily close to ars.

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #4 on: August 23, 2008, 04:11:43 PM »
maj,

Symptoms, or even the lack of symptoms, will never tell you squat about your hiv status. ONLY testing will. If you're worried, test. If you've always had protected intercourse, then you can be confident of a negative result.

If you've still got the rash, take it to a doctor. There are hundreds of illnesses that can cause a rash. It's unlikely to be hiv.

Herpes can be spread through the fluid that leaks out of the lesions - even when they're crusty - and where the fluid is concerned it doesn't have to be direct skin-to-skin contact. Herpes is extremely easy to transmit, unlike hiv. I know this because I have herpes (and hiv) myself. I've never infected anyone with EITHER because I know what's risky for each and I act accordingly. Educate yourself and keep your herpes to yourself.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse and you won't have to worry about hiv.

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #5 on: August 23, 2008, 04:14:59 PM »
thanks, the rash disappeared the day after i noticed it. i will get tested at around 6-7 weeks, will keep my fingers crossed but am still really scared. would a rapid test be fine?

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Re: telltale ars 2 weeks later?
« Reply #6 on: August 23, 2008, 10:33:36 PM »
i know this is a little unrelated, but would syphilis have been a risk and how long would it take to appear in a persons mouth if it did (i probably dont have it, but wanted to be sure since i heard it can increase your risk of hiv too)

 


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