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Offline idiot2345

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91 test negative but still worried
« on: August 22, 2008, 11:27:04 AM »
I am a woman and had sex with a man in May'08.  It was protected but the man put the condom on all the way and did leave room at the tip.  After the event, I notice that he had alot of fluid on his pubic area and questioned him.  I saw that the semen was squished at the head and along the sides of his penis.  He told me that he was all in the codom and that the fluid was from me.  I didn't panic because I saw that the condom was still intact.  However, 3 weeks from said incident, I came down with sick.  I experienced severe muscle aches and chills but no fever.  The following day I was alright during the day but at night the same thing happened but this time a fever was present, 101.4.  The following day I was fine but developed a rash on my arms and legs, nothing on the trunk or face and still had a slight temp, 99.1 but felt otherwise fine.  Of  course I paniced and got tested at the 6, 8, 12 and 13 week marks which were all negative.  I was confident with my results until I started reading about a few folks that took much longer to produce antibodies.  I would just like some advice and would like to know if I should test out to 6 months.  I have been severely stressed and filled with much anxiety over this event and am barely able to cope.  Your guidance is appreciated.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2008, 11:32:22 AM »
idiot,

As a condom was used, you did not have a risk for hiv infection. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

Even if you did have a risk, you are still conclusively hiv negative. You do not have hiv and you do not need further testing over this incident.

You ARE hiv negative.

Please read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them with confidence.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2008, 05:23:18 PM »
Ann,
Thank you for the information.  I know that you consider my 91 day Oraquick Advance finger prick test conclusive, I  just can't help but doubt it because of the illness that I had 3 weeks after exposure.  BTW, in my original post, I meant to say that he did not leave room at the tip; therefore, after ejaculation, it was smeared on the head of his penis and along the sides.  This is what concerned me because I think that some of it could have come out of the condom from the top.  Is that possible?  He did have alot of my gluid on his pubic area but said it was all me.  That is my fear.  I'm not trying to be difficult and know  that this is not a therapy forum but am quite scared.  Especially, after reading the thread about the girl testing positive after a 3 month conclusive.  Please I'm just trying to get some sort of understanding of this.  I'm not trying to be difficult.  Thank you.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2008, 07:18:48 AM »
idiot,

As a positive woman, I've used a lot of condoms and I've NEVER seen it happen where there man's cum comes out of the condom during use. NEVER.

You ARE conclusively negative. Whatever your illness was, it had nothing to do with hiv because you DON'T HAVE hiv.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2008, 05:05:56 PM »
Ann,
Thank you for your advice.  I pray you're right.
All the best!

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2008, 07:24:49 PM »
I'm am so sorry to be writing about my concern yet again but mentally need to...please bare with me.  When I originally posted, I did not mention that I had taken a DNA PCR test and antibody test on 8/21...94 days after exposure.  I received said results a few days after my post here.  Both tests were negative, thank God.  What I'd like to know are these tests 100% conclusive or should I test out to 6 months?  I am aware that everyone says that 13 weeks is conclusive but I worried that I may be in the category that is a late seroconverter.  I am not an IV drug user, not on any chemo, and am not aware of having any immuno diseases.  However, I do have HSV2.  Your advice is greatly appreciated.  Sorry to be such a pest.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #6 on: September 11, 2008, 07:30:38 PM »
Reread the first reply you received from Ann.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #7 on: September 11, 2008, 09:03:32 PM »
That other stuff you are throwing in now means nothing as far as your test result. You have conclusively tested negative for HIV. Period. End of story.
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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #8 on: September 11, 2008, 09:53:29 PM »
I appreciate your honesty.  But the reason why I had those tests done was because the person at Planned Parenthood told me that condom protected sex was not 100% effective and that 3 mos. didn't mean much and that I had to retest in 6 mos. for a conclusive.  She totally freaked me out, so I decided to do those other tests.  Sorry if you feel that I am out of line and being ridiculous but I just want to put this behind me.  I'm a wreck.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #9 on: September 12, 2008, 07:54:31 AM »
idiot,

The woman at PP was wrong. The window period for hiv testing is three months and has been for a long time.

Keep using those condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #10 on: September 12, 2008, 08:55:04 AM »
Thank you once again...I'm going to put this behind me.  I think I will make an appt. with a therapist to help me through this issues along with a few others.

All the best to everyone.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #11 on: September 12, 2008, 10:30:47 AM »
That's a good idea about seeing a therapist to address other issues. Just tell the truth as clearly and simply as you can. Good luck.
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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #12 on: October 22, 2008, 08:54:40 AM »
Well just when I was feeling better and accepting my negative status with the help of a therapist, I came to this web site at a moment of weakness and read that some people do not make enough antibodies to show up on a test.  So they have hiv put do not make enough detectable antiboides.   Nothing was mentioned about taking IV drugs or being on chemo, etc.  So what is one to do?  What test will be accurate?  I'm so confused and extremely worried.

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« Reply #13 on: October 22, 2008, 09:02:14 AM »
idiot,

You didn't have a risk in the first place. You ARE hiv negative.

One of the people you read about has communication problems. We've asked him for clarification. The other person has obviously had hiv for long enough where his immune system has all but shut down and sometimes when this happens, the body stops making antibodies to anything. This has NOTHING to do with you. I suggest you stay out of the other forums where you are reading things you clearly don't understand.

You had NO RISK.

You ARE hiv negative.

If you've read the Welcome Thread like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #14 on: October 22, 2008, 09:08:52 AM »
Ann,
I expected to get a good lashing from you and rightly so.  I just couldn't help but post my thoughts since I was a complete wreck after reading it last night; you're right I shoudn't have been in that forum.  I'm truly sorry for upsetting you and anyone else.  I guess I'll bring this up to my therapist at our next meeting.  Again, sorry.

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Re: 91 test negative but still worried
« Reply #15 on: October 22, 2008, 04:09:21 PM »
Get it straight. You haven't upset anyone. We just don't like to waste time. You don't have an HIV risk problem. Your problem is ABOUT HIV. And we can't resolve that for you here. You're right. Talk with your therapist.

And lay off of surfing the net because it's only going to stir you up all to no good purpose.
Andy Velez

 


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