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Author Topic: found boyfriend is hiv from is friend he has cd4 400 vl 60.000 waiting my test!  (Read 2543 times)

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angel dust

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hi can any one advise me my boyfriend split with me out the blue a few weeks ago there really was no reason we were happy or so i thought,

i found out yesterday not from him may i add that he is hiv positive he dose not know yet that i am aware,
i have been told his cd4 is 400 and vl 60.000 can any one advise me to how bad this is how long he may of had it i got tested today i have to wait 1 week for results,
 when i met my boyfriend i knew he had a past in adult films he is bi sexual, but he said they all had regual tests so thought he was really safe as he no longer did that work for around a year from when we met and had stayed single and i trusted him but now my heads in bits
 i dont know how long he has known and has he delibralty tried to give me it i dont know and why has he not told me himself, what do all the numbers mean how likely am i to have it??  we had unprotected sex, i dont know why but i was more upset when he ended it out of know where than i am  at moment i still love him mad i know just hasnt really hit home yet some advice also worried for him but dont know why  he has not told me he has it or how long has he had it? well this weeks going to be hard a week feels like a lifetime right now
thanks for taken the time to read this all advice thoughts welcome xx

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Are you sure this mutual friend isn't just being malicious?

How long has it been since you two had unprotected intercourse? The window period for hiv is three months. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative MUST be comfirmed at three months. Only a three month negative is conclusive.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Good luck with the testing.

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angel dust

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found out boyfriend is hiv+ cd4 of 400 vl 60,000 how likely am i to have it??
« Reply #2 on: December 17, 2008, 10:50:12 AM »
hey me and my partner splt few weeks back i since found out he is positive
his cd4 is 400
vl, is 60.000
he is not yet on any meds
i got tested yesterday but have to wait a week for my results
what do u think my chances are we had unprotected anal and viginal sex for a year
how long do you think he has been infected with numbers like his???
are his numbers good or bad well its all bad but you get my drift
he is bi sexual, my heads in bit
all advice welcome but please be honest if you think i have high chance of infection
thank you so much for taking time to read

Offline RapidRod

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Have no idea how long he has been infected. As for his numbers I would like to have those numbers myself. Yes you have had a risk and you've tested so there is no more advise to be given except to use condoms correctly and consistently. Hopefully you will have escaped being infected.

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I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

angel dust

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yes it is definatly true iv seen the emails exchanged by them and some things have fallen in to place since i have thought it all through and read a lot,
my boyfrieng got a really swallon throat and lump in his neck a few months back it was so bad we went to the hospital, he went in saw the docs came out and said he had big absis and hole in the back of is throut an infection of some sort now thinking this is maybe a link
life sucks right now playing this waiting game just praying for clear test

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Although it's understandable that you're very concerned and would like some kind of guess on the likelihood of testing negative, we really can't do that. Getting tested is the best thing to do so that you will know one way or the other.

I can tell you that I have known many situations in which someone has been repeatedly exposed without becoming infected and in others where someone became infected after only a single exposure. So we'll just keep our fingers crossed for you and wait for the test results.

Meantime try and keep yourself productively busy with other things as it will definitely help to pass the waiting time more easily.

Keep us posted on your results.

Good luck and cheers.
Andy Velez


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