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Offline northwest42

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High risk encounter, freaking out
« on: May 27, 2015, 11:51:03 AM »
First some background. I am a 21 year old bi male. I don't have promiscuous sex and have not had an encounter for six months since I was last tested negative.

That changed a few days ago however when I met up with a guy I had been chatting with for years. Very nice guy, but when we started hooking up he started having anal sex with me without a condom (I was the bottom.). I didn't stop him at the time and I am aware that it is MY responsibility to protect myself, but I went with it any ways.  It all happened so fast, and he finished inside me.

After leaving I texted him that same night asking him what his status was and told him my situation having tested six months ago. He told me that he doesn't normally have unprotected sex and he tested negative three months ago, in that time he hasn't had any hookups.

I feel very stupid and irresponsible. I have been pretty down on myself that past few days and have been horrified over the prospect of catching something. Anyone else been in a similar situation? I know I cant test until six weeks later, which is freaking me out even more.

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Re: High risk encounter, freaking out
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2015, 12:10:36 PM »
You had a high risk having unprotected anal sex and will need to test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results. You can read about testing here ... http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_5029.shtml

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Offline northwest42

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Re: High risk encounter, freaking out
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2015, 02:00:43 PM »
Thank you got the reply Jeff.

I know exactly what I did and I am totally ashamed of myself. I should of been more assertive and stopped this all before it happened because ultimately, I had the power to do so.

I still am deathly scared, I puked this morning thinking about it. It was the only time in my life I had unprotected anal sex. I have no clue how I am going to get through the next month well I wait to be able to be tested. I don't want to say I am over reacting, and I certainly don't want to say I am sure he is trustworthy.

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Re: High risk encounter, freaking out
« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2015, 02:29:20 PM »
You made a mistake so just learn from it and move on after testing. Its up to how you spend the weeks waiting to test but if I were you I would find other things to do than search the web about HIV in the interim. Best of luck and no need to reply so you can save your last free post to come back with an update after you test .

Offline northwest42

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Re: High risk encounter, freaking out
« Reply #4 on: Today at 11:52:25 AM »
Hello, just sending an update your way.

I contacted the guy I was worried about and he kept reassuring me he was fine. He even apperently went and got a rapid test the next week after having a discussion. It came back negative.

In 3 days it will be six weeks, so I went this morning to get a rapid test done.

Results are negative. I feel that is a fairly good confirmation, but of course I will be getting full blood work and my yearly STI checkup in a few weeks, so I will confirm it there.  :)

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Re: High risk encounter, freaking out
« Reply #5 on: Today at 05:37:25 PM »
You should re-test at 3 months for a conclusively negative result. Given your negative in hand currently, I expect you to continue to test negative.
Andy Velez


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