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Offline BT65

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Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« on: July 08, 2008, 05:12:35 PM »
Alright ladies,

I figured it was my turn to start a new thread. 

Mahalia, I feel extremely bad for Tendai also.  She is a very strong, special woman.

Mum, I wish we had a Gabriel's here.  It sounds like a lifesaver; especially if you have kids.

Queen, I'm really sorry about the car.  If you don't get the apartment, I'm sure when you go for your orientation for section 8 there will be listings of places to rent.  I've never heard of a car allowance.  They don't have that here.   Oh, and I hope that idiot (your roomie's ex) gets thrown back in the slammer also.

Not much going on here.  I went to the store earlier and got some strawberries-Kroger had buy 1 get 1 free.  That's the kind of deals I like.   Also, I had talked to Liz this morning and she was wondering if I would pick her up some creamer (for coffee) from the store.  So, I went to her apartment and took her the creamer and I also took her some of the cake I made yesterday (which turned out fab by the way).  It's a white cake with double fudge frosting.  I'm watching how much I eat; but like I said in an earlier post, I can always tweek the Insulin.  Now, don't get in an uproar ladies, I don't do that all the time.  I realize to do that would be playing around too much with my health.  Only once in awhile.

Nothing planned for this evening.  It has been raining and grey here.  I took a snooze earlier and am just going to watch some tube and read this evening.  I hope everyone's well. 
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #1 on: July 08, 2008, 06:14:29 PM »
Good Afternoon all!

Mum-I too wish there was a Gabriel's. I could probably do some damage there!  ;D
Queen- That sucks about your car. Boy when it rains, it pours. Since you haven't heard about the house what is going to happen when your 30 days is up? I hope you find something before then. What a pain.

Well I still have not started my period, but the day is not over yet. This is the 28th day and I have fluctuated between 24 and 28. I took a home pregnancy test today and it came out negative which is good, but I still don't know why my period hasn't started. I don't know what is going on.

There still was not any water at school today but they brought in porta potties. Yeah, that will help. So ridiculous. Thursday is my groups last day but the rest have next week. I told a couple parents that there has been no water and they brought in the porta potties and if they might want to send water to drink with there child. I probably shouldn't have done that but it just bothers me. I would keep my child at home. It's not like they are going to be held back and it is only for 3 hours a day. Oh well...just 2 more days.

Well today I did something I have never done...made a steak. I have been craving it for the last few days. I rarely even eat meat and sometimes I crave a big, greasy, meaty cheeseburger... :) No I am not a vegetarian I just prefer the "side dishes" Anyways...it tasted pretty good. I had to laugh at myself because when I went to the market I did not even know what to look for or buy. This was the first time I bought steak. If I get meat it is usually ground turkey and sometimes chicken. Oh well, I was happy with how it turned out.  Now some ice cream would sound nice...LOL!

Hope you all have a good day!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #2 on: July 08, 2008, 07:47:02 PM »
good evening all, just checking in. Iam recouperating after the holidays.I had a great time with my sis and family. GHope all is well . Love to all. Viv- I can't remeber the last time i ate steak!!! i can't afford it!
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #3 on: July 09, 2008, 08:07:38 AM »
Morning ladies,

Viv, the last time I had steak was last month at the beginning of the month.  Actually I got a pretty nice one from Wal-Mart for a pretty cheap price.  I had Alex cook it on the grill and boy was it good.  Every once in awhile, though, I'm like you-I want a greasy hamburger (or cheeseburger).   Please let us know how things come out concerning your period etc. 

Netta, I'm glad you had a great holiday.  You deserve it after all you've been through.

Wendy, I hope you're getting better.  I've been thinking about you.

My granddaughter and the lady who takes care of her during the day came by last night on their bikes.  I wasn't expecting that, so it was a nice surprise.  I'm going to pick up my granddaughter tomorrow and spend the day with her.  Still haven't figured out what all I'm going to do with her, but I'm sure between the two of us, we'll come up with something.  There are several nice parks around here, so that's part of the plan.

Not a whole lot on tap for today.  I have to go out later, but nothing during the daytime hours.  I'm going to wash my car and maybe go to the library.  I need another book to read.  I hope you ladies have a good morning.  I'll be back later.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #4 on: July 09, 2008, 08:17:36 AM »
Good morning!  :) Well no period yet. According to my calculations I am 2 days late. I am going to try to get into the dr's office today and get a blood test. I think because of my status I need to know for sure and can't keep waiting. From what I understand a blood test is the best way. Oh I don't know what I am going to do if I am. For those of you who remember...my ex and I had a baby 11 yrs. ago and I decided to go the adoption route. It was the best decision for that time in my life. He is also the person who infected me. The only thing that really worries me is how my family is going to react if I am pregnant. They absolutely HATE him...especially after the HIV. When I was 22 and preg. my father made me move out and would not speak to me. Things are different now. I am done with school and I have a "career". Oh I don't know....I guess I will try not to worry until I know for sure. And then I worry that if I am will the Atripla have effected it? I mean I can only be a few weeks along I think....

I'll keep you updated...

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #5 on: July 09, 2008, 09:55:40 AM »
Well I miss one day here and so much happens, lol. Whole new thread and everything.

Betty- thanks for your kind words, I know help is out there it just seems to be "hiding" right now.

Queen-- I hope your luck gets better soon. when it rains it pours, but i believe everything happens for a reason and there is a light at the end of the tunel hang in there.

vivyt-- I hope everything works out for you. Being pregnant isnt the worst thing that can happen. I know its hard when you have no support, but theres help out there and many options. Stay strong.


All my other GF's I hope things are going well for all of you and your all having a wonderful day.

As for me, well I made a call to the ID clinic yesterday. They're going to call me back today, their aiming at getting me in next week sometime. Thats good I guess but it just brings back all kinds of anxiety and fears I have about dealing with this Virus. I guess thats why I chose denial for so long. I know i have to do it thouhg. I was speaking to a friend of mine last night and she was telling me about how a friend of ours mother died. I asked what she died of and her response was "AIDS". My heart hit my stomach, it was a nasty reminder for me. My emotions are shitty today, i think i need anxiety meds, well enough of my rant. I have to get back to some errands. Until later ladies!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #6 on: July 09, 2008, 01:04:21 PM »
Viv, I'm sure once you've seen the doctor, and had the pregnancy test, that will put some of your fears to rest.  Then you can inquire as to needing a med change, should you be pregnant etc.  Like Jshort said, it's not the worst thing.  We're here for you, to listen and support. 

Jshort, I'm so glad you're going to have an appointment soon.  It's always saddening to hear of someone who's passed from Aids.  But, when you see the doctor, and get your lab numbers, you'll know where you stand, whether it's time for meds etc.  There's always fear, especially the first time you're going to be seen regarding HIV, but doing something about it is a huge step in the right direction. 

I've not done much except shower and deep condition my hair (again).  I'm going to have to start deep conditioning every other day, as my hair has been so unusually dry.  I've had to do it before, no biggie.  I guess it's the years of bleaching (with a salon bleach, but done by me), using hair spray etc. 

I'll be leaving in a couple hours to get a few things from the store.  Nothing else planned today.  I might see if there's a meeting later I can hit (NA meeting).  Tomorrow night is my "home group," but with my granddaughter here I probably won't be able to get to that one.  I hope you ladies all have a nice afternoon and I'll be back later.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #7 on: July 09, 2008, 05:52:52 PM »
I'm still alive LOL

I'm not 100% better but I am able to get out of bed today.I'd say I am around 70% better. Billy wanted to drag me to the doctor today. I refused because I'm almost better. They likely wouldn't do anything but agree that I am sick and I'd spend my entire day being uncomfortable in the county clinic. Sitting next to someone who is eyeballing me or my my purse or asking if I have any spare change. If I where to go see a doctor it should have been days ago.
If I don't progressively get any better I will see a doctor. But so far I can see that I am doing better.

I think its an infection in my tonsils, ears and sinuses. I've got lovely green boogies.  :)
I'm taking my Bactrim and getting plenty of fluids. I'll check back in as often as I can.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #8 on: July 09, 2008, 06:57:28 PM »
My goodness what a day it has been.  *deep breath* I'll try to remember everyone.

Winn, glad you're still alive..lol.  Gotta love those green boogies.  I'm glad you're getting better.  You're like me, I don't go to the doctor unless I'm on my last leg or Hubby drags me kicking and screaming.

Viv, hun, the sooner you know the sooner you can move on one way or another.  We're here for you, hun.  Just let us know how it turns out.

Queen, AAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhh!  Whew!  I know that's about how you feel.  Sometimes there's nothing else you can do but scream...and laugh.  Neither one gets you much, but at least it keeps you from going postal. 

Betty, what did you decide to do with your grand daughter today? 

Well, #6 and I were up before dawn heading out to the ENT / audiologist.  She was a total booger-head and wouldn't cooperate with the hearing tests.  But, the audiologist was able to do a simple OAE.  It's not a very "good" test, but it was all we could do.  Bottom line: she has no fluid or pressure in her eardrum to suggest that her hearing loss is caused by an infection or obstruction to her eardrum.  We'll go back next Thursday, 11th, for her hearing aide screening and to make her ear molds for her aide.  For now, she'll get a "temporary" aid for her right ear.  They'll adjust it often and see how she does at various settings.  In 6mths, she'll get her perminant aide.  In the meantime, they'll keep an eye on her left ear to make sure that she doesn't start losing hearing in that one, too.

I have 2 batches of Rice Krispy treats to make for tomorrow night.  #2's baseball team is having a cookout and I'm bringing dessert and 2 bags of chips.  I'll also bring a pitcher of decaf splenda tea.  No one ever thinks to bring sugar-free drinks.  I need to make the treats tonight because tomorrow I will be at Gabe's. ;D

Tonight we're going to watch Swiss Family Robinson and finish off the sugar-free cupcakes.  I made them with the new Pilsburry mix and icing that is made with Splenda.  So far, they only have vanilla and chocolate cakes and icings.  But, I just puree fresh strawberries and add it in place of the oil in the vanilla cake. (you can also replace oil with applesauce and it doesn't change the taste at all)  VERY good flavor.

Alrighty my sweeties, I need to cue up the movie (it's a VHS tape.. :P) and call up the crazies..um...I mean my sweet kiddies.

Love to you all!
Mum :-*

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #9 on: July 09, 2008, 09:25:52 PM »
Wendy, I'm glad you're feeling a bit better.  Let us know how you are, kay?

Mum, I'm picking up my granddaughter tomorrow.  I'll be fetching her around 11:30 from her daycare and probably keep her for the whole day.  I'm planning on taking her out to eat at Ihop.  She's only been there twice; both times with me.  She thinks it's some magical place because of all the sweet things they have there.  Not sure what we'll do afterwards.  I guess I'll cross that when I come to it.    Now, send my some Krispy treats! ;)

Have a good night ladies and for heaven sake, behave!
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #10 on: July 10, 2008, 07:59:11 AM »
Good morning, my sweeties!

Betty, before you go to Ihop, check out their website.  Most times, you can get coupons sent to you.  All you have to do is print them off.  Also, when you go, sign up for their birthday program.  For kids, they get a coupon mailed to them for a free meal in their birthday month and adults get a coupon for 20% off the entire check in their birthday month.  Anything to save money.

There is a weekly special on our local news called "cheapskates".  Every Wed, they show an inventive way to save money.  Last night, they did a story about a couple who makes their own laundry detergent.  The ingredients cost $10, but makes 20 gallons of detergent - 5 gallons at a time.  For their family of 4, the ingredients last over a year.  I'm going to try it.  Goodness knows I spend a fortune on laundry detergent.

I'm off now to get a load in the washer so that I can hang it out before heading to Gabe's.  Have a great day.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #11 on: July 10, 2008, 11:55:01 AM »
Well I woke up this morning feeling even better than yesterday. I went to work alone today. Billy went with me yesterday and he had been going for me the last several days. He is truly the nicest person, one of those people who naturally just want to take care of other people.
I had that awful tickle cough last night from my sinuses dripping down the back of my throat but I managed to fall asleep after using the nasal spray. LOL it took me a good 15 minutes this morning to unclog all the impacted crap. < I know TMI >
I had a bunch of ear infections when I was growing up and even had to have the hospital hose out my ear once because it was so badly impacted I was deaf. Ear infections usually aren't intolerable for me anymore.
I prefer not to take any antibiotics unless I have to. The sinus crap bothers me. its a nuisance. I hope it doesn't get into my lungs. I'll go to the doctor if that happens because that is too uncomfortable. 

Mum you make me hungry talking about all those sweets.

Betty have fun with your granddaughter.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #12 on: July 10, 2008, 04:44:50 PM »
Hey Ladies,


Just checking in. Nothing exciting in my life today. Nothing but work and school work.

Sometimes I really HATE these Muth@#%)ers that work with me. Its all females and females are the worst BI^%ches to work with. Forgive my words. It's a long story and I will get into it more later.

Anywhos, Win- Im glad your feeling better. When I was first diagnosed I was so scared when I even just got a cold. I thought it was the end of the world.

Betty- Enjoy your grandbaby, How old is she, is she as exotic looking as your daughter, I bet she's beautiful.

Mum- When you get the ingredients can you please pass them along. Gas is kicking my butt down here.


Well let me go. I have to go in a classroom for a minute. I will check back in later.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #13 on: July 10, 2008, 05:29:17 PM »
Yesssssssssssssssss................My pc is fianlly up...now i have to catch up...thanks for all the adviice...esp Drag....i think youre right...We arent broken up still but i am gonna slow my role in tryin to force myself /our relationship on the lil guy...We will do it in his time...I really Luv my Yungin..this is actually the first man that has made me consider making myself better.........
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #14 on: July 10, 2008, 05:33:24 PM »
Hello! I hope everyone is having a good day!

Win- I am glad you are feeling better. I have been starting to cough and have had chest wheezing for a few months. I am afraid the pneumonia is coming back...

Betty-My sister and I used to go to IHOP and dinner once a week. We would have our pancakes. I love IHOP. Have fun!

Keeping- I know it...us women are the worst! LOL! I always said the reason women can never be on top is that we are always tearing each other down and men do not do that. We definitely are strange creatures...hang in there

Well I got my test result back and it was negative. I guess I am not pregnant but my period is still not here. I am 3 days late and I am really not ever late. The doctor said if I don't start by next week I need to come in. I do have to say that a big part of me is relieved and another part of me is disappointed. I told a coworker today that I might be and she was so happy for me. She doesn't know about my status but she knows all about the history with the ex and family and she still saw the positive side of it. That made me feel good. I told Mr. Wonderful (the ex) that we needed to talk and he asked if I was pregnant. I told him I did not have an answer for him and I would have to wait until tomorrow (today) He responded that we should not have a baby. This was all done via email. I emailed back that I didn't even know for sure what was going on and that we were not going to discuss it through email. I told him what time I get out of work and that he better figure out a way to get over here. That was early this morning and he has not read the email yet. I'm just waiting and I am not going to tell him the results right away. I am going to let him have and find what he is really feeling. Just last week I gave him an opportunity to say that this was all about sex and that's all. I told him I was ok with it and he should just say it. He wouldn't. He kept saying that it was more than that and that he wouldn't say it because it wasn't true. He has hidden so far away from his feelings he doesn't even know what is going on. AGGGHHH! Anyways...I don't know why I told you all that...oh well just background info.    Now I just have to figure out why my period is late. Thanks for listening.... :) :) :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #15 on: July 10, 2008, 07:02:24 PM »
Viv - If your intuition says he is in it just for the sex then I'd listen to it. I've learned its best not to second guess my gut feeling, though I do it anyway sometimes. Typically it will bite me in the ass though. LOL
I think I found your period. This is the second day without my birthcontrol. The placebo week, and I have a pink show.
I'd be perfectly content if I never had another one. I'd be fine if my uterus vanished completely. LOL
Its not like I can have babies anyway. My tubes are tied and so are Billy's. So the likelihood is pretty much non existant.
Not that I'd want to start all over anyway.

I hope your lungs clear up, are you taking Bactrim?

Keeping - I don't really remember how I reacted to sickness when I was first diagnosed. Likely the same as now. I had a sick baby and a rambunctious toddler, a fool for a husband and no time to think about myself.
Life is  definitely different now. Funny how much can change in so little time. My baby would be 15 by now and my rambunctious toddler will be 19 this year. And he is still rambunctious. LOL
I can relate with the female thing. The most females I talk to are you ladies. I've always had trouble enjoying the company of women in general. I do enjoy being around women with strong personalities. Women who are laid back and not fussy.
Women are more complicated than men to me.

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« Reply #16 on: July 10, 2008, 08:31:16 PM »
Good evening ladies,

Mum, I read your post about Ihop after I had already gotten back from taking my granddaughter home this evening.  But, I'll have to remember that because her birthday is coming up in September; the day before mine.  Good luck making the detergent.

Keeping, yes, my granddaughter is beautiful.  She's not as dark as my daughter is.  My daughter's father (my 1st husband) was 1/2 Mexican and 1/2 Native American.  My granddaughter's dad is white.  She has very light olive colored skin.  Sometimes women can be bad to work with, sometimes not.  I think it all depends on how much they're willing to get along with each other. 

Wish, if the young thing makes you happy, then hang onto him.

Viv, I'm glad you opened up.  I hope you and your ex have a good heart-to-heart.  That's what needs to happen.  You need to know where he stands.   About your period, well, sometimes periods are just late. 

Wendy, I'm glad you're feeling better.  I hope you continue to improve.

Well, I'm a bit tired tonight.  I took my granddaughter to Ihop, then we went to the library.  I got her two movies (and myself two).  We came back here, she watched her movies then played on the computer.  We decided then to go to Dairy Queen; then I took her home.  She wants to come over before school starts and spend the night.  My grandson will be starting preschool this fall.  Hard to believe. 

Other than that, I'm going to check out a few more threads and call it a night.  Have good one ladies.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #17 on: July 10, 2008, 09:05:49 PM »
Evening Ladies---

I feel like I have been doing drive bys, sorry for not commenting but I have been busy still trying to do things with this car. I did have to go to a junkyard and buy the parts for the window wipers and the horn. My gf who's son's car it is has asked me to stop doing things to fix it because she owes me over 300 bucks now but what I did today needed to be done for it to pass inspection which I will have to get next Friday. And she knows she can't get it back til she pays me off.

I still haven't finished my hair, I've been doing a little at a time but over half of it is done. Just been too busy to do it much today and I had to go to the grocery store. Now I am about to make some grilled chicken breasts on the grill along with some asparagus. I am tired and will be going to bed early since I have to be at the section 8 office in the morning.

Viv--Glad you're not preggers,that has to be a load off your mind.

Wishful-- I know you love the Youngstar so don't give up if you think it's worth a chance

Betty--Glad you had fun with your grand kid

The asshole didn't go to jail yesterday but asked for a continuance to get a lawyer. It seemed to have pissed the judge off but she allowed it. And then today the asshole gets into the roomie's account once again leaving messages of how he loves him. Well, the roomie closed out his email addy and got a new one. Hopefully, we will get a chance to present the emails and voicemail he left.

Have a good evening....
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #18 on: July 10, 2008, 09:38:10 PM »
Ok ladies, bear with me, this one might be a long rambling one. I apologize ahead of time... :) My life is pretty quite most of the time and then there is all this drama...I guess that's what prevents life from getting boring. I am just going to review some information...I think I mentioned what happened when I told my ex about my status if I didn't I will again. When I told him, he immediately replied that he was just tested and he was negative. I did not believe him since he is the only one I have been with. We didn't see each other for a very long time after that. When we started "hooking up" again he wasn't worried about using protection which to me meant that he also knew he was +. Of course I knew because where else could I have gotten it? Anyways...we have never discussed it beyond me telling him. He did ask if I would get on the pill and I told him I couldn't because the medicine would basically make it ineffective. I told him I had condoms and he doesn't want to. I know, I know, completely irresponsible and stupid. I don't even know why. I think part of me thinks, "The worst has happened. What the hell else could" I sent him another email saying I had the results and he knew where to find me. I want to talk to him in person so I know he is "hearing" what I have to say.

Just a little bit ago he sent me an email saying that we can't have a baby because we won't be around to raise it and that it would be sick and crazy to do that. I thought about it and I think he is referring to being +. I can't think of what else he could mean. Even though he didn't acknowledge it directly, he did so indirectly. It also tells me he thinks we are going to have a shorter life. What do you think? He obviously doesn't understand it which is ironic because he is a paramedic/firefighter. I again told him we need to talk. That's the update...I think it would be so much easier if there wasn't so much bagage and unresolved emotion. Next time I post I hope it will be after talking to him.

On a lighter note...I rented a movie, Vantage Point, and planning to get comfy and be entertained  :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #19 on: July 10, 2008, 09:57:33 PM »
Viv - Your ex would drive me bonkers with all the secretive stuff.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #20 on: July 11, 2008, 06:06:58 AM »
I agree with Winiroo Viv

I know it is not my place to say.............. but if you have not had any other sexual relationships then you could only have got HIV from him and it is very unfair about him not being straight about it, as he is almost treating you as if you are daft!! and that you know so little about HIV and can be fooled by his transparent lies and lack of acknowledgement of his HIV + status.

And you are obviously not stupid at all and it is very disrespectful for him to treat you as if you are :(

I wonder how old you both are, I ask because it is something I may have tolerated in my 20s but since then I never would and certainly not in my 50s. I guess if you are young this will seem very ageist of me to say that, but it is not meant to be.

I just feel that it is a matter of self confidence and worth,  I personally did not have self confidence and worth at all and especialy with men when I was under 30 and got disrespected and used like a dishcloth and often told lies, half truths and generally treated as if I did not realise what was going on  ( I am talking about me here I do not wish to suggest that this is happening to you)

But once I acquired that confidence I was never disrespected again and no longer would I stand such nonsense - if anyone tried I just walked away..and beive men if their is any thing in the relationship they then often beg you to come back and mend their ways with you.

I guess you have not  confronted him as yet? but there seems no point that I can see in not? - i.e made it clear that you know he is HIV + because there is no one else you could have got it from and that you are not standing for such disrespect, that him being Poz and giving HIV to you does not alter anything but you need the respect of being told the truth.

Sorry I guess I am out of line - but I just felt I had to say it. I do nto like to see anyone treated like this by partners

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #21 on: July 11, 2008, 06:38:16 AM »
Good am GFs...sure feels good to be able to get on here this early in the am....Maybe ill stay off the net at work now huh?

Viv: he kinda sounds like my baby daddy...Never really wanting to acknowledge "it" but still knowing "it" exists,,,for ex: my babby daddy would deny having it to everyone else and that i was just crazy and jealous..etc. but when we were on good terms he never said anything and we never used condoms. I remember maybe a handful of times in 5 years now that he has asked me about my medicine..but that would be thw extent of it....Men are so DIFFERENT..lol...more scared than we could imagine or even more scared than us gals...
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #22 on: July 11, 2008, 07:37:50 AM »
Viv, my darlin', the guy is an ass and him telling you that you're not going to live long infuriates me.  We were told the same thing about Mini and yet here she is going strong with no "end" in sight.  I encourage you to go over and read the Long Term Survivors forum (just don't post there).  There are folks who have been positive for 25+ years.  There's no reason to believe that you won't live a very long, wonderful life. 

Wish, here's the directions for the detergent: Shave (with a cheese grater) 1 bar of soap (Ivory or Dove).  Add it to 3 cups of boiling water and stir until completely dissolved.  Fill a 5-gallon bucket with hot tap water.  Add 1/2 cup of Borax and 1 cup of laundry soda (Arm and Hammer - come in a big box).  Then, add the grated soap mixture and stir with a yard stick.  Put the mixture in airtight containers.  Let gel overnight.  Use 1/3 to 1/4 cup per wash load.  The ingredience are enough to do this 4 times, equalling 20 gallons of detergent.

Betty, I'm glad the 2 of you had a good time yesterday.  Not sure if your Ihop will do it, but our's let us use the kids' free meal and Hubby's 20% off on the same bill.  At DQ, did you get the new Girl Scout cookie Blizzard?  MMMMMMMMMM!

Our wee #6 came in with her blanket and pacifier (yes, she still has a pacifier at night, and yes, she's 4 1/2).  She climbed up on the couch and fell asleep.  She's never done that before.  She's so cute..and snoring.

Nothing much on the schedule today.  I put in a load before I went to bed so I need to get it hung and the last load in.  It's getting really HOT today and worse tomorrow - 90.  My hiney won't be stepping 1 foot outside in that weather.  I've got to figure out what to do for supper that won't heat the house, too.  I'm going to put chicken in the crockpot with some BBQ sauce for tonight.  At 90-degrees, we're probably have cereal..lol.

The picnic was really nice last night.  The evening was cool and most of the play stuff was in the shade.  Some of the kids brought fishing poles and the guys took turns.  Other kids were rolling down the hill, or playing kickball.  It made me very nestalgic.  We got home about 9, got the kids bathed and in bed.  I fell asleep on the couch by 9:30.  I woke up in bed, but have no idea how I got there..lol.

Everyone have a great Friday and a wonderful weekend!  Love each and every one of you.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #23 on: July 11, 2008, 07:56:57 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, so as soon as your friend pays you the $300 for the work you've put into the car you've got to give it back to her?    About the asshole, I'm a little surprised the judge gave him the continuance.  But now he knows you all are serious.  I hope he gets what he deserves.

Viv, I would be very upfront with your ex when you two talk.  He really is treating you a bit disrespectful, I agree with Veritee.  Don't let yourself be treated less than you know you're worth.  And him saying you two won't be around, well, that's b.s.  My daughter was 5 when I found out about my HIV; now she's 24 (which makes 19 years so far).  I'm not saying you should go ahead and get pregnant; I'm just saying.  He needs to be honest or I would refrain from seeing him for awhile.

Veritee, nice to hear from you!  How's your new thing coming (I'm sorry, I can't remember the exact wording right now).  I know you talked about it the last time you posted.

Wish, glad you're able to get on the net at home now.

Mum, no, I didn't get the Girl Scout cookie blizzard, but my granddaughter did.  My favorite thing to get there is the Oreo/brownie whatever it's called.  I really wanted to go to this frozen custard place called "Ritter's," as they are so much better than DQ.  But, my granddaughter wanted to go to DQ 'cause it's a bit closer.  It's supposed to hit 90 here today and stay that way for the next couple days.  I won't be going out too much.   I don't remember you mentioning you were having a picnic.  Of course, you very well could have and I just forgot.  I love picnics.

In a few hours, I'll be going out to lunch with my best gay friend.  I'm not sure where we're going.  I'm debating doing laundry, but I'll probably wait until Sunday; it's supposed to be cooler then.  Although where I go they do have air conditioning.  But, I really don't have enough dirty laundry to justify doing it today (this is called rationalization. ;)).   When I took my granddaughter to the library, besides getting the movies for her and myself, I also got a couple books.  One of them was written by one of the members of the Doors.  I started reading it last night and it seems pretty good.  So, I'll probably read and watch the movies I got.  One of the movies is about Bob Dylan, who is one of my favorite folk singers.  I just love his music.  I can't remember what the other one is about.  That just shows how my long-term memory is. 

Well, I hope you ladies have a good morning.  I'll be back later, I'm sure.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #24 on: July 11, 2008, 11:43:49 AM »
Good morning ladies,

Well where do I begin.....

Betty- enjoy your lunch with your friend, Im glad you had a nice time with your grand daughter. I love Ihop and reading your post made me hungry.

mum- Its hard to cook in the heat, I usually make sandwiches and chips, something along those lines. Who wants to eat when its that hot anyway. And Ive noticed my kids eat better when I make simple meals. I can go all out and make a huge dinner and nobody eats, I make hot dogs and everyone wants seconds......go figure!!

Viv-- your ex seems to have his own issues with being poz. Dont worry about him, or he will prob drive you insane. ???

As for me, nothing much going on here. I plan to clean the house from top to bottom today. Try is the key word, the baby is being an attention hog and cries everytime I leave his sight. I guess he's a bit spoiled. Im still having money issues but I guess these days almost everyone is. Im looking for a new job and I have an apt with my primary care doctor to see if I can get some meds for depression,. I think I have a touch of post partum. I asked the lady at the ID clinic if I should see her about my fatigue issues or my Primary care doc and her answer was "what I do is comprenhinsive, Ill do blood work and things like that, I dont think it has anything to do with your numbers so see your primary care doc" Im confused.... I guess that means she'll handle nothing but my HIV stats?? This is my first time dealing with an ID specialist so Im not sure how they work. Do I call her when Im ill or just go to my reg doc?? And how sure can she be that my issues arent HIV related? I mean I dont even know if they're HIV related or not....hmmmmm. This is why I hate dealing with doctors :-[

Anyway, I hope all of you ladies are having a great day. Until later GF's


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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #25 on: July 11, 2008, 01:33:42 PM »
Hey Ladies---

What started off being a good day has totally pissed me off. I should say my landlord pissed me off. I don't owe him any thing but 90 bucks, due to the trip I had to take to Pittsburgh last month. He hadn't even come to collect the rent this month but is going to leave a written up 5 day notice to vacate in my mailbox. I saw him when he came, I thought he was collecting rent from someone else in the building but he left the notice and took off. After speaking to another neighbor, come to find out he hasn't collected anyone's rent here. I think he is doing this because I have been complaining about the bugs and told my ASO who helps with my rent that I wanted to break the lease. I went over to the DJ which is across the street and told them about it, they said he has to come to them to file papers and then if he does that, they will notify me of a hearing. Honestly, by the time he does that, we would be moved out of here anyway. I think he is trying to keep my deposit, the asshole.

Betty, no, she doesn't get the car back until her son graduates, that's the deal. And it is in my name now so if she does want it back before then she will have to pay for it this time. I had to shell out over a hundred bucks for that since it was her father's car and everything was left in his name. And something keeps draining the battery, once again it was almost dead when I got up this morning to go to my orientation. It was dead, I had to walk but thank goodness it was only 5 blocks away from my house.

So, I am may not be on much since I will begin to start packing things during this 5 day notice which I know holds no water. Might as well get started, it's good we're only moving down the block but I will have 60 days to find a place through section 8.

Anyhoo, still don't have my hair finished because of doing other things but I will get it done over the weekend. T.G.I.F everyone.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #26 on: July 11, 2008, 02:57:20 PM »
Good Afternoon everyone!

Queen, you always seem to have so much going on! I think you deserve a break and should have some peaceful moments! I wonder why the landlord hasn't collected rent from anyone. That seems a little shady to me.Good luck with the packing. I have moved 3 times and I absolutely hate it!

Betty, Sounds like you had a good time with your granddaughter. Have a good lunch.

Jshort, I know how you feel about the money issue. It is amazing how fast it goes! I HATE spending my $$$$$!

Thank you for all your support! I finally talked to the ex and I am not really sure if it went well or not. He definitely has some preconceived notions about HIV. Even though we talked about it I think he still believes that our life span will be cut shorter. He also made it CLEAR that he did not want to have another baby and he seems to think I do and that I am doing this pretty much on purpose. Well, we got into a HUGE argument about that. I basically told him that he is only thinking about himself and not taking responsibility for his actions and that he is so caught up in is head he can't see beyond himself. I told him the blood test came back negative and I have taken 4 home preg. test, (one today) and those have all been negative but my period is now 4 days late. Anyways...I broke down and asked why he treats me so badly, like I am just a piece of s***. I said I have never done anything to deserve to be treated like this, of course I was  :'( (crying) during all this because I had just had it. I accused him of hating me and just being an all around JERK. He softened and then said he doesn't feel that way and he is sorry if he made me feel that way. At that point what I wanted to tell him was that I most definitely did not want to have a child with him especially with how he was acting. Of course there was more conversation and things ended better. Of course I hate to say it but we still had sex. I can't even explain why except that there is a major attraction between the two of us that has not lessened one bit since the first time 13 yrs. ago. We feel very comfortable together. I am going to have to be the one to end it because I know he won't and I guess I am just not ready to. My therapist and I will have a lot to discuss next week... :)

So that is the update. I am just waiting for my period to appear. I hope all the test are correct...if I don't start next week my doctor wants me to come in.

I hope you have a good day and thanks again for listening to all my drama. Oh and Veritee asked about my age...I am 33 and he will be 39 this year. So we can't even use the "I was young" excuse.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #27 on: July 11, 2008, 03:22:34 PM »
Viv: u n the ex sound like me n my baby daddy......an emotionally draining experience...i remembered saying some of the things u mentioned to him before...(about him hating u etc.) I say thank goodness no kids are involved cus it would be even harder for u to let go..trust me i know......
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #28 on: July 11, 2008, 04:09:28 PM »
He also made it CLEAR that he did not want to have another baby and he seems to think I do and that I am doing this pretty much on purpose.

Boy if that ain't the stupidest thing I have ever heard. If he doesn't want to have babies he needs to wear a condom. I assume he didn't.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #29 on: July 11, 2008, 04:27:58 PM »
Win, I totally agree. In fact I straight out told him that he should have worn a condom and in fact I even brought up at the time. He didn't respond when I brought that up today and that is why I told him he needs to take responsibility for his part too. I don't even know if I like him anymore. It just feels so complicated. The more I think about the more I want to tell him just to kiss my ass...LOL! That isn't even anything I would say....we shall see!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #30 on: July 11, 2008, 05:29:16 PM »
viv- all i have to say is count your blessings that your not having another baby with this jerk!! Im sorry your feeling badly. Ive been through this before and it sucks... to put it bluntly. Hang in there! I hope u feel better

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #31 on: July 11, 2008, 05:33:04 PM »
Evening ladies,

Jshort, you're right.  Everyone is having money issues these days-except for the rich folk.  About your primary care vs ID doc, it seems clear that the ID doc only wants to see you for HIV.  If you get sick, you probably want to call your primary.  If he/she thinks it's something related to HIV, then I'm sure he/she will refer you to your ID doc.  Good luck sorting it all out.  My primary care doctor is also my ID doc, so I'm fortunate.

Queen, wow.  So you're moving, aye?  That's a lot of work.  I don't know why the landlord would give you such a short notice to vacate.  I don't think he has a leg to stand on either.  Good luck.  Oh, and good luck with the car, figuring out why the battery keeps getting drained.

Viv, I would not put up with that man.  He is manipulative, like Wendy said.  BTW, when you guys had sex this time, was there a condom used?  Just wondering, so you won't be worrying about being pregnant again.

Wendy, I hope you're doing better.

Well, I had a lovely lunch with my best gay friend.  We went to the Famer's Market.  I had a chicken wrap w/ potato salad.  My friend bought some locally grown peaches, sweet cherries, blueberries, black raspberries, and red raspberries.  Then, when he brought me home, he insisted that I take 1/2 of each kind of berry (and peaches).  Of course, I didn't argue.  I love locally grown fruit!  So, it was a nice time.  I also bought some peach spread that I'm going to use in the morning.  That's locally made also.  Oh, and mum, they had locally produced honey, but I didn't buy any.  I just know where to go to get my next honey fix.  

Other than that, nothing going on.   I took a nap this afternoon and feel like I could take another one.  I hope everyone has a good evening.  
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« Reply #32 on: July 11, 2008, 07:31:21 PM »
I'm much better. Not completely better but I'm up and around and working like I am. Aside from my monthly gift I feel decent.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #33 on: July 11, 2008, 09:15:52 PM »
Hello ladies. Hope everyone is having a good night.                              Betty, glad you had fun with your Granddaughter and fun with you best friend. I love fresh fruit,especially peaches.                                        Vivyt, sorry about how things are going. Really you deserve to be treated better than that.      Really not much to say tonight. Will check in again soon. Cristy

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« Reply #34 on: July 11, 2008, 10:03:45 PM »
Betty- It seems like its going to be a pain in the neck to sort out all this doctor stuff :-[ Im going to have to switch primary care doctors because alot of my friends who dont know im poz work for his office and im not ready to disclose to certain people yet, so for privacy i need to switch. Im glad you had a nice time out today, i love the farmers market!!! I havent been yet but i usually go all the time during the summer. And if you dont mind me asking Betty, how long have you been poz? you seem to have alot of info which I must say Im very thankful for your knowledge since Im just begining on this journey.

Queen- I feel for you right now. Landlords can be as*holes! I had a landlord who simply refused to fix anything, i was on HUD and since he refused to bring the house up to code I was forced to move. I think he wanted to rent the place for more money but couldnt legally evict me since I did nothing wrong. I wish you all the luck in the world with all you have going on these days.


As for me nothing much going on. My Boyfriend is driving me nuts today. Nothing big just typical dumb man stuff. He went out (thank God) so im enjoying my alone time. I went to the primary care doc today who gave me meds for depression. I think I really needed them. He feels my fatigue may be because of my depression. Hopefully things get better....only time will tell.

To the rest of the ladies I hope your having a great night. until later





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« Reply #35 on: July 11, 2008, 10:39:14 PM »
Just a brief note......

Jshort, I've been diagnosed for 19 years.  I tested positive in a treatment center (for drug dependence).  Just hang in there.  Everything will turn out fine-you'll see.  Just keep believing and keep in touch with us.  I'm so glad you're posting regularly here, keep it up. :-*
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« Reply #36 on: July 12, 2008, 07:28:38 AM »
Good Saturday morning my beautilicious honies!  I've got to post fast - I see Betty is here and I want to beat her to the morning post..lol :P

Viv, I'm glad you are feeling comfortable enough to open up to us.  It sounds like a complicated situation.  Stay strong.

Betty, I LOVE farmer's markets.  We have apple trees in our yard, but they aren't very good to eat.  My parents have cherries and peaches.  I love to eat them straight from the tree.  I'm glad you had a good time.  It sounds very peaceful and relaxing.  I wish I had some girlfriends to just hang out with every now and again.  I have one really close friend, but she has 15 kids..lol..we don't get to go out for lunch often. 

Until October 2007, Hubby and I were landlords.  We had a rental property (owned it, moved, couldn't sell it).  We were the other end of the spectrum - too nice.  We got screwed constantly trying to help people out.  Last October, we bit the bullet, took out another loan, and "sold" it to the current tenant for what they'd paid in rent.  The loan was to pay off what we still owed.  For the 2 years that the last tenants - now owners - were in it, they were on HUD which didn't even pay enough to cover the mortgage, so Hubby and I were still paying about $300/mth so this lady and her son would have a place to live.  Then, she lied to HUD, lied to us, and being the softies we are, we took a cut in HUD, paid more out of pocket, and let them stay.  So, bottom line, we're still paying for a place that we don't even own.  What can I say, we're suckers for hard-luck stories. 

This afternoon we're heading to my parents' house for a swim.  I'm going to bring stuff for tacos.  I'll make the meat here this morning.  That way we'll only have to heat it up in the mircrowave and not heat up the house when it's 90 DEGREES outside.  My parents don't have a/c either - not even window units.  Most of their house is in the shade, and it has 30-ft cielings, so it stays cooler than our house and really isn't hot.  Dipping in the pool will feel good, too.  Our youngest daughter won't go anywhere near the water.  Sometimes we can get her to sit on the side and kick her feet, but that's all.  Our oldest, at 11, is just now comfortable enough to put his face in the water, but won't try to swim.  Mini, and our other 2 boys are FISH.  Mini and #5 aren't very good swimmers, so they still wear their vests, but our #2 LOVES to roll around under the water.  All 3 will dive and flip off of the diving board. 

I'm watching a very delightful old Ronald Regan Western.  Not sure what it's called, but it's quite enjoyable.  I love old westerns - they don't make movies like that anymore.

Everyone have a great, and safe, weekend.  Love to you all!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #37 on: July 12, 2008, 08:40:59 AM »
Hi GFs~

I haven't posted since the 4th!  On Sunday 7/6, I was at my parents' house to spend one more day with my nieces.  The 6yo took my mother's nylon round brush and tried to "curl" my hair with it!@#$%$#@!  It was funny at first, trying to get it out of my hair, but about 8 inches of my hair was rolled up and I couldn't even send the ends.  I was spraying detangler on the brush and then using straight conditioner on it, but it didn't help.  Then my mom comes in with a can of Pam cooking spray!  We were howling and she put that in my hair -- no luck.  Then Dad gets mayo and a fork and tries to pick the hair out from the brush -- nothing.  Two hours later I am in the shower and my parents are taking the girls to the next grandparents' home to visit (THANK GOODNESS). 

I got out of the shower and had to cut the F'n brush out of my hair.  It was a big lock of hair, above my left ear, towards the front.  Its only 4 inches long now, and I REALLY lucked out.  I can still wear my hair like before, but I am parting it on the other side to cover up my new ends that try to poke through the longer hair, lmao.

What a fucking riot.  I WAS pissed, but it was a funny experience, too.  Yes, my niece has my name as her middle name, and she is never going to come near me with a hairbrush again.  The older one was confused and didn't know if my Mom and I were laughing or crying when the Pam spray came out, lol.  Whew!  THAT was a stressful afternoon. Iceman wanted me to drive from my parent's back to my house so he could meet me later and help to get the brush out.  There was no way it would come out, so I refused.  Besides the brush was on the driver's side of my head!  ROTFLMAO  What a sight that would've been!

I have a lot more to say, but will post again later today.

Queen, sorry about the car and the 5-day notice.  Keep being the strong woman that you are.  Maybe the landlord has been written up and thats why he's not collecting rent from anyone?  Have you asked your neighbors what's going on in the bldg?

Viv~  Weather and stress can take a toll on our cycles.  When I was 17 I was 10 days late.  TEN.  I was starting college.  I understand your fear, but at least now you know you're not preggers.  Is you guy pos, too?  I think he is, from what I remember reading, he's the one who infected you years ago, right?  I am worried about co-infection.  Insist on condoms, INSIST, no matter what.  You owe it to yourself, GF.

BT~  When do you see Liz again?  I like reading about the two of you.  You always seem to connect.  What happened to Alex?  Did you get your locks changed?

Forgive me, reading a lot today.

Wish~  As far as the BF and his 5yo, seems like you know what to do.  I'm sure the kid is confused bec of the affection with Dad and then the arguing btwn the two of you.  Bite your tongue until the little one isn't around.  Right now the kid has to come first.  I am going through the same thing, and haven't even met Ice's kids.  I put them first bec they are young and vulnerable and going thru a divorce, too.  Its tough to be patient and not emotional, I know.  :)

Mum~  I tell you, if you even get to Morgantown on a weekend, plan ahead and let me know.  Maybe I could meet up with you.  PM your city to me, maybe I can go on a daytrip and meet you for an hour or so if you have the time!  Or we could always send smoke signals over them there hills, lol!

Cristy~  Happy Birthday!  :)  Did I read that you are moving?  Are you going to Jerry's mini gathering?  I have to catch up on that post and see what's going on.  PM me your city, too.  Maybe we could meet down in VA sometime!

Drag~  Have you set a wedding date yet?  Sorry your wrists are bugging you.  I have probs with my right hand, middle finger locks up overnight and I have numbness now in my index finger.  That's from trying to yank my hair from that brush last weekend.  Ugh.  LOL

Win~  Glad you are feeling better and that Billy is there to help you out.  I love the "splat" pic you have up now, lol.

More later!

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #38 on: July 12, 2008, 10:30:03 AM »
Good Morning! I have been coughing up a storm. I mentioned a while  back that I have had wheezing for a few months and now it is a cough w/some yucky tasting stuff...ooops...was that an overshare? LOL! I called my ID doctor yesterday to schedule a blood test since I had to cancel last month and the "exchange" told me they will not be back in the office until Wednesday. Great. Well I have wanted to look for a new doctor so I'm taking this opportunity to do it. Yesterday I looked up the doctors on my insurance and made a couple of phone calls. I am thinking that this time I am going to try a woman. There aren't very many. Anyways...I got a a hold of one and the lady who answered said she was gone for the day but to try again Monday. It was weird when I called because she seemed kind of hesitant when I asked if the dr. was taking new patients. She asked if I was looking for a specialist or a primary care dr. I told her I am looking for an HIV specialist and I already have been seeing a doctor and am thinking about changing. She got very friendly after that. They must get a lot of calls for primary care. I don't get how that could happen unless people just call randomly without looking for what the dr. does. I have Blue Cross insurance and there is a website you can go to and find a dr. in your area. You choose specifically what you are looking for. What is interesting is just a year ago they had the category "Infectious Disease" but now they have a category for "HIV/AIDS Specialist" I thought that was interesting. There must be more of a demand...

Anyways....still no period. I'm afraid I am going to be caught of guard with a gusher when it decides to come back. What a pain!

Betty, Ok I have to share something funny...this WHOLE time I thought your name said BETTYLACY and I just realized it doesn't. LOL! I do that a lot! What does it mean? We have a Farmer's Market but it only happens I think once a month. I want to go next time. I absolutely love fresh fruit. The problem I am having lately is that it is going bad really fast. Maybe it is just too hot in here. I guess I should start putting things in the fridge. I've never put oranges, nectarines, etc. in there but maybe that will help. I have to throw them out before I get to eat them... :(

Cindy, Nice to hear from you. You handled that hairbrush thing well. I would be so mad!  :) When do you think you will be able to meet Iceman's kids? You have been seeing him for quite a while now right?

Mum, have fun today! Someday I think we will all get together. That would be so much fun....at least I think it would be LOL! Who knows what would happen when so many different personalities get together.

Have a good day everyone else!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #39 on: July 12, 2008, 11:55:30 AM »
Hi Viv~

July 2nd was 8 months for Iceman and I.  His divorce is final this Fall. 

I guess I should post the other event that happened a few weeks ago.

Long story short, his oldest kid saw me in a dept store with Iceman.  Went running to the dressing room (unbeknownst to us) and started crying to her mother and sibling.  I go into the same damn dressing room and hear a woman (mother/ex) on the cell with someone and a child crying.   :o  I hear the mother mention the name of the child who is there crying and my ears stood straight up (so to speak).  That's when I knew it was Ice's ex and the kids in there!  They never knew I was in the same dressing room.  Talk about moving like a cat.......

I grabbed my clothes and high-tailed it out of the dressing room, only to confirm my hunch.  Iceman was on his cell with his ex, ten feet outside of the dressing room.  It REALLY was his ex and two kids who were in the dressing room!!!!!!!!  OMG  I went to the far side of the store for ten minutes trying to "phone a friend" phone ANYONE to calm my nerves.  No cell reception, couldn't even text Iceman.  He ended up speaking to the three of them (ex and two kids) outside of the dressing room.  The kids calmed down and the three left the store.  I slinked around and found Iceman, I was upset, feeling so bad for the child who saw us together.  I didn't see any of them, just heard the phone call and the one child crying.

So, the youngest keeps asking about me, curious if Daddy has a GF.  Turns out their mother had a talk with them and Mom is seeing "friends" too,, so its just another step in the process.  To think I heard his ex's voice 6 feet away behind a dressing room door.  She never saw me, just the one child did.

So, this "event" left me wondering, and so I asked Iceman "When were you planning on me meeting your kids?"  He said after the divorce is final, this Fall.  This was one of the stressful events I had referred to in an earlier post.  It really showed how Iceman respected ALL of us and how the kids need to learn that this divorce is NOT a temporary thing for the kids' parents. 

I feel closer to him than ever.

Can you IMAGINE being me in that dressing room?  I never go into this department store and his ex and kids are not in that city very often.  Talk about planets aligning!   ::)

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #40 on: July 12, 2008, 01:03:23 PM »
hello ladies,

oh, I missed you guys, I missed writing and responding, but I am trying to ration myself.
I still communicate a lot by email, as well as work on computer, as well as blog occastionally. I just try to limit myself. I have a new physiotherapist now b/c my regular is on a long vacation, and sometimes seeing someone like that makes you realize how far things have gone, b/c my old one is used to seeing me in pain.

I really like her and though i dont expect a cure i hope that i can keep learning new techniques from her to balance out the damage that all the computer time is doing.

Wendy, I was soo glad to see youre feeling better. when you didnt post for a couple days i was really worried. please take things slow.
I dont have such low T cells but am stuck in some kind of rut hovering above and below 300 since 1.5 years, before that i was hovering around 200 and in the first year of treatment around 100. it takes ages to regain them doesnt it? i also had some kind of flu last weekend but i recovered pretty quickly - i see a huge difference btw my recovery time from such things, or even from skin infections, candida and the like from when i was btw 100-200 and now that i am around 300 T cells.

anyway all this to say take good care of yourselves...

Viv, I cannot beleive this guy. it makes me upset, but i am glad to see you opening up and thinking the whole thing out loud here. forgive me if i am confising you with someone else, but i recall that he wasnt single? and isnt he much older than you? i just - it ties my stomach up in a knot. isnt he getting medical care? not that i personally care about that but wondering how far reaching is his denial. i would just like to send some superhero to whisk you away from him, seriously.

And regardless of all that, I join Cindy in saying use a condom, please. A friend of mine was reinfected by her positive fiance, she is now waiting on the newest classes of drugs to arrive her b/c shes just resistant to everything. it does happen. some people on here would say thats BS, not clinically proven, one in a million etc - conifection never concerned me and i never had an opinion on it until i saw what happened to my friend.

Cindy its great to hear from you. what a drama, poor kids, poor YOU. i guess its invetable, but kids do get used to those things. Ice handled it remarkably well i thought. it would be so cool if he would let you spend some alone time with the kids when you first meet them so you wouldnt feel under pressure to "perform". or you guys should do something fun that will take their mind of, like take them to a fair or a zoo or something.

i do this thing with the brush everytime i try to blow dry my hair, i'm hopeless.

the wedding will probabaly be in the 3rd week of Oct though we havent booked it yet but will soon. the big wedding will be on a weekend and i am very nervous about it.

Queen, sorry about the house and i just dont get how it could possibly be legal to evict someone in a few days notice? you could turn someone homeless that way. i dont get it. i suppose if the 3 of you decided to stay until a time in which it suited you to leave somewhere else theres not much he could do.

Mom, you mentioned your friend with the 15 kids, are they bio kids? i once met a family with 25 bio kids, there were hassidic orthodox jews, the woman was told after the 9th that any more births might kill her... this is not normal but usually these people would have 10 kids or so i guess. i cant even make one...

Betty I concur with Cindy its nice to hear about you and Liz. Im glad the Alex saga ended in the best possible way.

Keeping, I agree with you women can be tough to work with, most are ok but id always bump into the conniving ones... however i think we cant even compare the damage women do to what men do in this world... its like comparing a goldfish to a shark in terms of danger. so overall, except for a few special men, i prefer women. if i have to ask a stranger for help or go to someone's house or anything, i would always trust a women over a man.

Snow, hows the scraping going? i figured out it wasnt a popcorn "explosion residue" you were scraping but this type of paint, duh.

Wish Im so glad things are going better, hang in there. Hope you can continue to get the good things from the relationship.

Greetings to JShort, Netta, Cristy (when's the next date?), Veritee, Mahalia, Latifah, Tendai (this week i read the first encouraging news about Zim in a long time, it said the foriegn minister from zano sauid the opposition will also be part of the government, i sure hope this will happen, havent seen any followup on it) & anyone I skipped and who is still reading but not posted for a while. Hope you all have a great weekend
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« Reply #41 on: July 12, 2008, 06:04:31 PM »
Hi All I am new here just been reading yo dating thread, i feel ilke i can identify with some of u one way or another.
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #42 on: July 12, 2008, 08:46:01 PM »
Hi Tatenda welcome to the ladies area. Feel free to jump in. I look forward to getting to know you.

Good grief Mum. Don't let no one else walk all over you. OK?  You have enough on your plate without taking on stray needy people who don't give you the appreciation you deserve.

Thank you Cindy. Sorry about the hair-tastrophy. I've been there with the hairbrush attached to my head. Fortunately I managed to get it off without cutting. My hair didnt look too healthy afterward and much of it was left in the brush but I got the sucker off.
When ever I let Billy wash my hair he always washes it the wrong way. Scrubbing at the roots so I have to spend extra time with conditioner trying to unknot it LOL  He will learn one of these days.
I'd be so freaked if I where in the other dressing room. But I might have stayed in the dressing room and listened. I'm sneaky that way.

Thank you Drag. I'm going when I can go and stopping when I feel I need to stop. I stayed up too late last night 'fooling around' So my ass was dragging today. I took a nap and laid around in bed while Billy and our friend Billy painted my living room. LOL


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« Reply #43 on: July 12, 2008, 10:19:24 PM »
Late evening ladies,

Mum, I hope you had a nice time at your parents'.  My daughter always loved swimming when she was a kid.  There's a neighborhood pool where we lived, that I believe is still open.  I always used to take her to that, almost every day.  Those were back in the day when I would wear a bathing suit though. ;)   I love fresh fruit also, especially locally grown fruit.  I've already devoured the sweet cherries.   Oh, I didn't post this morning, since when I came on, I was the last one who had posted here (from last night).

Cin, I used to tangle up my hair back in the Aqua Net days when I was stripping, probably trying to get it (my hair) into a style it wasn't supposed to go into.   I would've felt very ackward being in the same dressing room as my bf's ex and the kids.  You handled it very well.  Whew.

Viv, please take care of yourself.  There's nasty stuff going around right now, and if it's not taken care of (especially stuff in the chest) it can turn into something awful.  Bettylacy, eh?  That's funny. 

Drag, so good to hear from you.  I'm glad you got over the flu.  I've never been to a physiotherapist, and I'm really not quite sure what exactly they do, but good luck.  I hope she can help you.

Wendy, so glad you're doing a bit better.  I hope you continue to improve.  Get some sleep!

As far as Liz goes........she's having an issue right now with a couple prescription medications that she really has no business being on.  I'm not trying to play "doctor," but she's making excuses to take them instead of there being a real medical reason (one of them being Xanax).  I used to be strung out on benzo's, and she's headed in that direction very fast.  So, I'm trying not to get caught up in that drama right now.  Of course, I'm still there for her if she needs help.

I went to my bff's son's graduation today.  He got his high school diploma.  He's worked extremely hard to get it, and I'm just so proud of him.  He has several issues (Tourette's, severely bipolar, a few other things), so this is quite an accomplishment.  It was a very nice ceremony.  Afterwards we had a few refreshments, then all went to dinner at a place called "The London Grill."  It was really good. 

Other than that, I'm going to check out a few threads and crash.  I'm tired and tomorrow I'm going to do laundry and a little shopping.  I hope you ladies have a good night.
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« Reply #44 on: July 12, 2008, 11:06:29 PM »
Ok Ive just read a heck of alot!! Seems alot happens here during the day, so where do I begin??

Betty-- Thank you for your encouragement, it means alot to me and its comforting to have ladies like you around who are so informative and supportive.

Moon- I lmao while reading the hair story!! :D Poor you! Thank goodness you can wear your hair the same and its not noticable. You got lucky! And I wouldve been horrified if I were in that dressing room. My heart sunck while I read that, But Im glad the ex took it well at least she's not some nut who went looking for you, Ive run across a few of those before. Glad everything is working out for you!

Viv-- feel better, take care of yourself and good luck finding a new doc.

Mum- I dont know how you manage to do all the things you do with 6 children. Your amazing, have a great time at your mothers house!

As for me, today I took the family out to eat. Nothing special just to a buffet. I like the buffets because my children are picky eaters and for a good price their gauranteed to find something they like and even go back for seconds and desert. Besides that my new depression meds which I started this morning are making me a bit drowsy but the doc said that would happen until my body adjusts, its not too bad just annoying. Ive begun to get canker sores all over the inside of my mouth. This has been happening often since feb, i cant help but to think its HIV related since Ive never had them before. I guess I'll tell the doc about it friday when I go to my 1st ID apt. besides that nothing much to report...have a great night GF's......until tomorrow ;D



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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #45 on: July 13, 2008, 07:21:13 AM »
Good morning!  I've been up for about an hour puttering around and being lazy.  Everyone else is still sleeping after swimming for a few hours yesterday.  It's just after 7am, so i turned on the TV to watch the news and see the weather - OMGosh!  I forgot today is Sunday..lol!  Now I've got to post quickly and get the gang up, fed, and ready for church.  I liked it better when I thought I could be lazy :P

Cindy, that is so hilarious about your hair!  Mainly, because it was your hair and not mine.  Back when #1 was born, I had one-length hair down to my waist.  I used to sit out on the porch in the mornings and brush it.  I was brushing the underside of the back and it got stuck at the nape of my neck!  Not only could I not get it out, I really couldn't see how it was tangled.  I stood up and started wrestling with it.  Some school kids were walking down off the mountain for school.  They took 1 look at me and started laughing at the "crazy white American".  It took forever (and a ton of pain) to get it out.  I feel you, hun...I really feel you. 

We'll be in Morgantown twice this week.  We're going on Tuesday to eat at Ihop and then on the zoo.  I didn't even know they had a zoo in MT..lol.  We'll be back to MT (Ruby) on Thursday.  #6 has an appointment with her eye specialist at 11 then at 1 we'll mozie over to ENT for her hearing aide test and to get her ear molds made for her aide.  Honey, anytime you have a day free, just let me know.  MT is not that far away and I'd gladly make it for you, babe.   :-*

Viv, have you tried buying those green bags for your fruit?  There's a commercial for them on TV, but you can get them at Walmart for cheaper.  They really do work.  I had strawberries in them for 2wks and they were just as fresh and pretty as when I bought them.

BT, I forgot to tell you that I finally got my rejection letter, but I'm pissed.  The reason they gave for my rejection - this is a DIRECT quote - "everyone gets rejected".  WHAT??  It said, basically, that I signed up for the wrong program.  That's CRAZY!  I signed up for 1 program, the one the application told me to sign up for.  I got a letter telling me that it was the wrong one and to sign up for this other program, so I did.  NOW, a month later, I get a rejection letter saying that everyone who signs up for that program gets rejected!  I'm calling tomorrow and asking what exactly it is that I'm supposed to do.  Remember that the doctor said if I bring in a rejection letter, then they will cut the cost for services in half.  But I don't think that bringing in a rejection letter that says "everyone gets rejected" followed by a hand-written note that I signed up for the wrong program will work.  Oh, well, here we go again.

Okeedokie, my sweeties, i've got to wake up the booglets and commence to feeding time.

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« Reply #46 on: July 13, 2008, 08:24:54 AM »
Morning ladies,

Jshort, there's a mouthwash called "Nystatin" that might help those canker sores (it's prescription).  I use Nystatin when I get thrush (which, thankfully isn't too often anymore), but I think it can also be used for what you're experiencing.  Of course, I'm no doctor.  If they become too bothersome, you might want to give your regular doctor a call before you see your ID doc. 

Mum, agencies are a real pain in the arse to deal with, aren't they?  I hate having to go back and redo things when the agency told me something wrong.  I think it's their fault and they should fix it.   Anyway, I hope you have a lovely time today.  I wish I lived closer; I'd love to come visit you.  Oh, I've seen the green bags on t.v. that are supposed to keep fresh fruit/veggies better longer.  I didn't know they sold them at Wal-Mart though. What is it they're called?  I'd like to buy some.

It's supposed to be a beautliful day here.  Sunny, 78, and hardly any humidity.  Yesterday was pretty awful-in the 80's and almost 100% humidity.  I really don't have any spectacular plans.  I have to do laundry and a little shopping. 

A couple of you have asked or suggested that I get my locks changed since Alex has moved out.  Well, this is the best way I know how to explain that.  Do you all remember in "Silence of the Lambs" when Jodie Foster and her roommate were talking in their room and the roommate told Jodie Foster to watch out for Anthony Hopkins?  Jodie Foster told her he wouldn't come after her-that it would be disrespectful.  That's the way it is with Alex.  He wouldn't break in here and steal from me.  He is a drifter and often a hustler; but for him to do something like that after I gave him a place to stay would just, well, be wrong to him.  And, I really don't think he would want to go back to prison.  I had left my purse with my wallet (with a debit card in it) out, my check book out and he never touched anything.  When he moved he didn't take anything of mine.  So I'm not worried about it.

Alright ladies, I'm going to check out a few more threads, eat breakfast, take a shower and get to the laundermat.  I hope you ladies have a good morning. I'll be back later.
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« Reply #47 on: July 13, 2008, 09:59:19 AM »
Good Morning  ;D

Mum, I have seen those bags on TV but I thought "Yeah, right!" You know how some of that stuff is on TV, but I trust you. You are someone who isn't frivolous and if something works for you it should work for me. I will go to Walmart and look. I had some bananas that were starting to ripen very quickly so I decided I'll make some banana bread. Well, I had some foil loaf pans leftover from something else I had made and used that. When I put the batter in, it seemed kind of full but I thought it would be ok. I was wrong. Of course it overflowed and got all over the bottom of the oven and started burning. I put a pan under but it was just too much of a mess and I could see that it would never bake up right so I had to throw it out. I was so irritated. What a waste!

Betty, ok...I keep thinking about your name. I don't know why. Sometimes I just fixate on things. I think it would be interesting to know the meanings behind the names. Mine is what I call my dog sometimes, her full name is Vivian. Vivyt is short for Vivian the Terror. I didn't put my real name because I was afraid to really identify who I was but I think I am over that. I figure if someone sees me on here they are either infected or know someone who is and therefore would not be judgemental. My real name is Andrea.   :) Such a baby step...LOL

Oh and just to update...still no period

Talk to you all later!

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« Reply #48 on: July 13, 2008, 01:43:19 PM »
Betty, I think they are simply called "green bags"..lol..really creative, but easy to remember.  I also forgot to tell you that I gave our middle and youngest sons each a mohawk.  I didn't continue it all the way down the back, though, just on the top of their heads.  They look so cool!  For church, I spiked them up.  I have a picture of them from this morning, but don't know how to put them into the computer.  I took a picture of the girls in dresses that I crocheted for them.  As soon as Hubby puts them into the computer, I'll put them up.  BTW, honey, you are welcomed at my home ANYtime.

Andrea, what a BEAUTIFUL name!  Do you pronounce it AnDRAYa or ANdree-a?  I'm so sorry about your banana bread.  I love fruit breads.  You can take your banana bread recipe and substitute apples or applesauce.  Add some cinnamen and sprinkle the top with brown sugar and VOILA! yummy apple harvest bread.  Sometimes I throw in a handful of quick cooking oats for nutrition or a breakfast bread.  If you make them in muffin tins, you can freeze them with no problem.  Just thaw them on a plate in the open and not in the bag, or they'll draw moisture.

Drag, about our friends with 15: my friend had a daughter from someone she never mentions.  She met her husband when her daughter was 7 and married him when she was 10.  That daughter is now a college graduate and 24 years old. After years of fostering children, 8 years ago they adopted a sibling group of 5. My friend quit her teaching job to stay home and care for them. Then, in April, they adopted a sibling group of 9, the youngest of which they brought home from the hospital when she was born.  They had the group for 17mths before they adopted them.  It was the first newborn that her husband was ever around.  Their kids range in age from 24yrs to 18mths.

I hope all of you are having a wonderful Sunday.  It's cooler today, 77, but super muggy with thunderstorms looming.  I'm hoping to finish prepping the boys' room tomorrow so we can get it painted next week at the latest.  I'm painting it a denim blue with a brick red trim.  I'm quilting their curtains from old bluejeans and flannel shirts (all colors).  Their room is on the weather side of the house.  I'm hoping that the thicker material will help keep the heat out in the summer and cold out in the winter.

Much love to you all!
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #49 on: July 13, 2008, 05:23:08 PM »
Thank you Mum. It is pronounced "Ondreeeeuh" (the multiple eee's mean a long vowel e) Does that make sense? If I was able to I would put the correct symbols rather than try to spell it phonetically...LOL!

Next time I make banana bread I will try that. I used to bake all the time but I kind of cut back. I enjoy it but it can get expensive.

Anyways...I should be cleaning but of course I'd rather be playing on the computer.  ;)

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« Reply #50 on: July 13, 2008, 05:33:18 PM »
Evening ladies,

Andrea, I love that name!  Now I know the correct name to call you instead of Viv (nothing wrong with Viv, just sayin).  Sorry about your banana bread.  I just love that stuff and I don't have a recipe or a loaf pan.  My real name is Betty.  I'm not sure where my parents came up with that. 

Mum, Mohawks, aye?   I can't wait to see the picture of them!  You're quite the talented little lady, aren't you?  About the green bags, I'm assuming they put them by the regular sandwich/storage bags?  I'll have to look for them next time I got to Wally's.  I was just there earlier today, but didn't really think about them.

I got my laundry done, did the little shopping I had to do, and watched a movie.  It was called "I'm not There."  It was about Bob Dylan and was kind of an artsy movie; so, if you're going to watch it, you have to make sure you can sit through a movie you know has kind of an existential meaning.  (I don't even know if that's the right word I'm looking for; it's just very artsy).  And, you have to like Bob Dylan.  I just love him and can listen to his music a lot.  Other than that, my brother is probably coming over tonight, so there will be more of "The Wire."  I hope all you ladies have a good evening.
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« Reply #51 on: July 13, 2008, 06:43:29 PM »
Andrea, I was asking because our friends (with the 15) have a daughter named Andrea, but she pronounces it OnDRAAAu (long A sound).  I think it's beautiful.

Betty, LOL..not sure if I'd call it talent.  #2 had such a thick mound of course blonde curly mess that it took me 45 minutes to cut it.  I used new clippers and they kept stalling..lol.  I had hair clips in his hair trying to keep the mohawk part out of the way.  It was a riot, but he was still.  #3's hair is fine and was already in a "boy" cut, so it only took about 20 minutes.  It wouldn't have taken that long except he couldn't stand still to save his hiney.  He almost lost an ear a few times.  I threatened to hog tie him and tape his mouth shut.

How are you doing, by the way?  Are you getting any better?  Do you find that the cough and tightness gets worse when it's humid out?

Cindy and Betty, I told Mini what you said in the other thread about her jumping and swimming.  She flashed a big smile, cocked that hip, and gave 2 thumbs up.  She's so funny.

Tonight we're going to watch "The 3 Ninjas" for family night.  It's like Ninja Turtles meets Cody Banks - a cute kids' movie.  For "adult" night, we'll watch either the new Stargate movie, "Ark of Truth" or "Hellboy I".  I started my period this morning.  Hubby got his monthly punch in the arm. ;D  My periods usually only run about 3 or 4 days and I don't tend to have cramps.  Before #5 was born and I nursed for 18mths, my periods would last forever and I'd live on Advil and the heating pad.  I've been irregular since January.  Not sure what's going on, but I may be going into peri-menopause.  My mom started at age 35, my age, and at 57 STILL isn't in "full" menopause.  NOT what I wanted to hear!  Why couldn't I come from women who went into menopause at, oh, 35..lol.

It's time for the movie, so I'll do some quick run-bys in the other forums, then cuddle with my kiddies.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #52 on: July 14, 2008, 08:03:35 AM »
Morning ladies,

Mum, sorry about your periods being irregular.  Doctors can check hormone levels, if you really want to find out if you're peri-menopausal.  I was considering having my doctor do that when I was having the period for a month.  But, it stopped, so I figured best leave well enough alone.  The only time I had cramps with periods was when I first started having them (age 12 I think).  When I got older, probably in fact after I had my daughter when I was 18, I never had cramps after that. 

I'm very tired this morning.  My cat, for the past few days, has insisted on jumping up on my bed around 6ish (as soon as she sees sun through the blinds) and meowing loudly.  I give her a couple kitty treats when I get up, so she's gotten very demanding.  I love her though; she's my companion. 

Today I'm going to clean, change my cat's litter and I'd like to go see if I can find a hose somewhere cheap (probably Big Lots).  Where I live, it's a house that was converted into three apartments.  I live in the back and outside, my side of the place is a little dirty and has cobwebs all over it.  I'd like to hose it off so it looks better.  Then tonight is the volunteer orientation at the Hope Rescue Mission (one of the local homeless shelters) I'm going to.  Keep fingers and legs crossed for that, please.  I only want to volunteer there a couple days a week, so I hope they understand.  It's clear on the other side of town and I just can't afford to run back and forth every day.  Hopefully everything will turn out alright.

So, other than that, I'll probably just do some reading and maybe take a nap this afternoon.  Have a good morning ladies.
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« Reply #53 on: July 14, 2008, 10:24:47 AM »
Good Morning  ;D! Not much happening here. Everybody must be out enjoying the summer....GOOD! This week is my only real week with NOTHING! Of course I am going to try to get all doctor visits, etc. in during this time. This morning I am taking my sister and her friend to take their placement tests at the local junior college. That should be fun...not! I am going to try to make an appointment with a new ID doctor and "check her out". It's hard to know what to look for. I mostly look for where I feel comfortable but I know there are probably some other things that are more important. Any advice??? Well I think I have finally made a decision to stop seeing "Mr. Wonderful" (my ex) After the whole blowup with him I am just disgusted. I have really been working on telling myself that I deserve better and I came to the realization that in order for me to move on what I really need to do is to forgive myself. Anyways...that's all for now. I need to get dressed...gotta take Vivian to doggie daycare or "school" as we call it and then drag my sister out of her bed which I am pretty sure she is going to be in when I come to get her...ahhhh to be 18 and have no responsibilities...LOL!

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« Reply #54 on: July 14, 2008, 01:23:14 PM »
Hey Andrea,

You asked what to look for in an ID doctor.  Well, I'm a bit like you.  The first thing I make sure of is that I'm comfortable in talking with the doctor  about anything on my mind.  I would make sure she's very knowledgeable about HIV things i.e. meds, etc.  And that she sees quite a few HIV+ people.  I would probably ask her how many HIV+ patients she's got.  That way you know she's experienced.  Also, you might want to ask her what issues she would want your primary care doctor to take care of vs. what she'll take care of.  That way you'll know so you won't waste an appointment going to see her if she would rather have your primary take care of something.

About your ex-good for you.  He doesn't really sound like he's trustworthy.  I know about attraction; I had a very strong attraction to my 1st husband.  But, it was kind of, oh, a "fatal" attraction.  Not good situations.  I hope  you're able to follow through. 

Have a good rest of the day. 
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #55 on: July 14, 2008, 01:46:46 PM »
I see a lot has been going on here, that's good. Sorry, I haven't been around but I have been busy doing things with the car still. And trying to look for another place, we still haven't heard back about the house, I just called and left another message. Most of the apartments from the list on Section 8 seem to be second floor apartments. I'm not looking for any of those because with this neuropathy, the stairs here is killing me. But a new list should be out on Wednesday.

It's good to see some people posting who have been missing for awhile...*looking@Cindy* But enjoyed the story about the hair and the brush. I know it wasn't too amusing while you were going through it but you got a new do out the deal... ;D

I finally got my money back for the money order that got lost. Right on time too cause I am broke. So, once again I am charging the battery on the car so I can go cash it at the post office. My roomie was suppose to take me on his scooter but maybe he had to go to work, I am not sure. He needs a damn cell phone.

My cute neighbor invited me to blaze with him which was kinda weird. I always thought he was cute since he moved in but he has a girl. I felt funny being there when she wasn't home but he assured me it wasn't a problem that his girl wasn't like that. But after talking with him, I got respect for him for how he treats his girl. And her name is Michelle too, geez...But he is soooooo fucking sexy it gives me fever. But I am no home wrecker and I will admire him from afar.....*sighs*

Not much else going on with me. Tonight is WWE Raw and I will try to finish my hair. Yeah, I am still doing it, micro braids can be a pain in the ass but they last a long time. Miss you all...
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« Reply #56 on: July 14, 2008, 02:18:33 PM »
I FINALLY finished stripping the walls in the boys' room.  Now all we have to do is sand them and they'll be ready to paint.  We're taking the kids to the zoo tomorrow.  On the way, we're going to Ihop.  Wed we'll sand the walls, get everything cleaned off, and start the painting on Friday.  Thursday is #6's trip to the eye specialist and get her ear molds for her hearing aide.

Other than that, not a lot going on.  I finished the laundry and got it all hung to dry when Hubby decided to see how "hard" the walls would be to sand.  Well, they weren't that hard.  As a matter of a fact, they were so easy that he did an entire section before I came in and yelled at him to stop.  All the beds, sheets, pillows, comforters, EVERYTHING was covered in dust.  I was so not the happy mama.  So, now, I have everything in the washer.  When it's finished, I'll get it hung out, take my shower, get everyone a snack, dressed, and we'll leave to pick up some tarps, sand paper, and paint.

I hope everyone is having a great Monday!

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #57 on: July 14, 2008, 03:52:16 PM »
Hey ladies...Just a drive to say wassup....

Mum u have to be the busiest mum ever!...I really admire your tenacity...

Betty: i need some type of hobby..or something to volunteer...esp with the kids being gone and yungin time so limited..i need something to keep my mind outta my imagination..lol so to speak...im drivin yungin crazy but im workin on it...

Welcome to all my newbies...this place is GREEEAT....hope you get everything out of it tht i have (and more).. ;)

Nothing really to report...Missin my babies like hell ...trying to be more productive at work..not that i dont do my work but tryin to be a little more proactive..i guess...Im just so damn bored its retarded..

Viv:...i have always had "vivian" in mind when posting to u..dats funny...I like andrea tho too..i think it sounds younger than Vivian for some reason.. Well My name is Jamie...if u didnt know that by now....I dont think it fits me...but its cool..i have always thought of myself as an Erica or Alexis...maybe cus i like those names..lol my sons "play" name is Alex...so go figure...

Wini: glad ur better..it really suck being sick n any way...((Wini)))

Where is ms. Tendai ???

Glad to hear from u QUEEn..u stay doin something to that hair...i wish i could micro my own hair..but my arms would be killin me...You have to go by a specific section 8 list???...if the landlord takes section 8 then u that should suffice right..whether they are on that list or not...Well good luck either way..hopefully ull find a house...enuff room for ur kitties...

Drag;;wassup gf?? hows it going?

Well thats pretty much it for me..i came in early today so im outta here..but ill prolly be on 2nite to check in..

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #58 on: July 14, 2008, 06:31:51 PM »
Howdy hello and all that jazz.

My son got a letter from SS telling him they are stopping his checks because he isnt enrolled in school. But he is so I went to his place and took him and the letter to school. After running around there and talking to every school official he knew we wound up in my car on the cell phone calling SS ourselves to get the proper forms mailed to him.
Waste of gasssss. LOL
Tommorrow he has to go to court. I'm crossing my fingers they wont lock him up. He has a lawyer so who knows. If he goes to jail it will seriously screw up what he has. Especially since he needs to be out and going to school to get this SS check.
I'll be glad when he decides to grow up a little and stops doing stupid crap and hanging out with idiots.

I spent some of today playing with my camera and the pictures. That was about the highlight of my day. LOL pathetic
My mucous has changed from green to yellow so I must be a little better. I feel better aside from the tickle cough and ear ache and sore throat. But both arent so painful that I'm grabbing for something to get pain relief. Its more annoying than painful.

One of these days everything is bound to go my way.  ;D

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« Reply #59 on: July 14, 2008, 08:26:17 PM »
Hello ladies, this is just a quick post to say hi. I'll have to stop in tonight and read to catch up. The baby and kids are driving me insane today. Baby is going through some wacky crying thing, hes usually good but today he just wants to cry...UGH here he goes again. So hello all, I hope everyone is wonderful. I'll check in later!

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« Reply #60 on: July 14, 2008, 08:57:28 PM »
Evening ladies,

Queen, you should check your local paper for other places that take section 8.  Not everyone is listed on the list they have at the office.  And good luck.

Mum, sometimes it seems like men have no sense (re: your husband not covering the sheets etc).  Thank heaven we're around, aye?

Wish, you work full-time don't you?  And you still want something else to do?  Wow, you must have tons of energy.  Send some to me, would ya? ;)

Wendy, I hope things go alright with your son.  Yeah, I know if he went to jail that would stop his SS check.  So, hopefully he won't have to and can keep his ass out of trouble.  Glad you're feeling better.

Jshort, how old is your baby?  It wouldn't be teething would it?

Well, I cleaned my whole apartment today.  Then I went to KMart and bought a hose and hosed off the side of the house my apartment is on.  I couldn't believe all the cobwebs that were on it.  And a couple of the spiders were pretty big.  I tried to drown them, but I think they may have gotten away.    I also went to the volunteer orientation at the Hope.  I might start there next week, hopefully.  Keep your fingers and legs crossed.  Nothing else to report.  Have a good night ladies.
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« Reply #61 on: July 14, 2008, 09:03:13 PM »
HI Ladies

Ok whr do i begin, i am 24 with a daughter I am also from Zim like Tendai but live in Canada and i hv an awesome boyfriend so that helps ( but he has pissing me off moments too smetimes )

Andrea, i thot you were a vivian or something along those lines.

Wini: glad to know you are feelin better. hope things with your son turns out ok

Wishful: for some reason i like u a lot. i hv been tryin to catch up on the whole groups posts, nad i wthink u r a cool chic. u should volunteer, I do and i lov eit but sometimes it feels like another job but its so fulfillin

Ok every bodelse, Betty, and all, i hope to get to know all of u too. i have nothin to report !!!

anyone heard from Tendai? i hope she doing okay, becoz i know just how hard life can be in Zim
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« Reply #62 on: July 14, 2008, 10:23:21 PM »
Well, my honies, today was, well...I'm just glad it's over and tomorrow holds new potential. 

JS, honey, it must be a kid thing.  My kids must have lost their minds because today they were HORRIBLE!!  So bad, in fact, that Hubby and I have cancelled the zoo trip tomorrow.  They'll spend the day picking weeds from the gardens, hauling rocks, cleaning the trash from the drainage ditch (it's dry), dusting, and anything else Hubby and I can think of to wear them out.  Any kid who asks how much he/she is going to get paid, gets double work load >:(  I'll tell them it pays exactly $4000 - the same amount as that day's 3 meals,2 snacks, room, and board..lol..I'm such a good mum :P

Betty, congrats on the new volunteering job.  I'm hoping to start helping with delivering meals through bi-county nutrition (meals on wheels).  In our town, the different churches "take" different days.  Our church delivers on Thursdays.  My parents already deliver, so I'll ride with them a few times to get to know the various routes.  I figure this is something that the family can do together - the kids will get a kick out of delivering lunches.

Winn, I'm glad you're feeling better, hun.  I had to suck the peace pipe tonight for the 1st time in a while.  But, it was hot and I got over-heated.

Tat, welcome to the forums!  I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to jump in and join us.  I look forward to getting to know you better, too.

Wish, my favorite cousin in the whole wide world is called Jamie.  She's a youngun'..lol..about to start her last year in college.  I remember the day she was born.  You, too,  are a strong, sweet, woman.  I think Jamie suites you just fine :)

I'm off to watch the new Stargate movie "Ark of Truth".  We watched Hellboy I last night, but I fell asleep.  Hubby said he liked it.  I was so tired that I couldn't finish it.  What I saw was good, though.  We got our stimulus check in the mail today.  We put it in the bank and tomorrow we'll finish paying off the car repair bill.  And, wouldn't you know it!!  Tonight Hubby picked up a big, nasty nail in our back tire.  I have to be at Sam's tomorrow by 7am to get it fixed.  Thank goodness it's under warrenty, so i don't have to buy a new one (to the tune of $200 - YIKES! :o)  Just when it looked like we'd finally get caught up...BAM!  Oh,well.  If nothing happened, what would I have to complain about?

Love to you all and only the sweetest of dreams!

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« Reply #63 on: July 14, 2008, 11:00:11 PM »
Hey everyone!

Mum, nothing wrong with getting dirty hands and hard work! LOL! How on earth are you going to find time to deliver food? I know I have said it before but I am going to say it again...I don't know how you do it. Each of us has a calling... :)

Tat, Hi! Welcome  :) :)

Betty, I am sending positive thoughts your way! I am sure the volunteering will work out!

J, sorry about the baby. Sometimes I feel bad that they can't talk. It must be so frustrating to not be able to say what is wrong.

Win, what happened to your son? I think I may have missed something. I have a bad habit of sometimes skimming messages and emails. My partner teacher has started adding "Go back and reread this email" at the bottom of her emails when there is important schedule stuff in it. I am so bad! LOL! I am glad you are feeling better. I have a terrible cough and my doctor is gone until Wed.

Wish, I like your name! I have always been partial to names that could work for either boys or girls. It's funny that you don't see yourself as a Jamie. I never really thought about it. I guess my name is who I am  :) My dad likes to tell everyone that he named me. My sister and I also have the same middle name...my dad again

Queen, finding a place to live can be such a drag! How is your son doing?

Well today went ok. I had to wait only about an hour and a half for my sister to finish her test. I feel really bad because she did not do to well and I kind made a comment about it and I think I embarrassed her in front of her friend, who did just as bad. I apologized to her when we got home but I still feel terrible. I called my mom to tell her how bad I felt and she said my sister was upset because she called her and was crying... :'( :'( It is going to bother me. I hope my sister gets over it.

So the mini novela (soap opera-translated loosely) of my life continues...still no period, made an appointment w/the Gyn for Wednesday. I sent an email to "Mr. Wonderful" for him to come get his watch and how he did not need to worry about me wanting anything (you know, physically) I responded that ordinarily he would be right but I just want to be done with this. This ego maniac told me I was lying to him and myself. I then wrote him that this was it and how I didn't want to let myself be used and so on. I don't want to bore you with a word by word account. He has not responded but it was the most honest I had been with him and myself. Of course he still needs to come get his watch. I am confident that I will remain strong...why is it that you never hear about men getting all twisted? Oh well...we live and learn right? Some of us just take longer than others  ;)

Have a good night!

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« Reply #64 on: July 15, 2008, 06:16:06 AM »
Yes it' early, even for me, and yes I should still be in bed.  BUT, remember that annoying little nail in the tire?  Hubby called Sam's last night to find out what time their tire place opened.  Lucky me!  As a business member, they kindly open at 7am!!  So, I woke up before 6 and thought I could "sneek" in some more sleep.  WRONG!  Hubby rolled over and said, "Make sure you don't go back to sleep, you have to leave soon."  I almost smacked him, but what would be the point?

So, I'm here in my rocking chair still in my P.J's and I need to leave in 15 minutes.  I'll definately need my afternoon nap.

I have no idea how the new Stargate movie was - I fell asleep.

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« Reply #65 on: July 15, 2008, 07:26:01 AM »
Morning ladies,

Tatenda, welcome to the women's family, er, forum.  I'm glad you're joining us.  Hope to get to hear more from you!  Unfortunately, we've not heard from Tendai in awhile. I'm hoping she's alright.

Mum, I'm sure the kids will love delivering meals.  Before my dad died he was getting meals on wheels.  It really helped him.  What a great thing to do.

Andrea, we all say things sometimes we wish we could go back in time and fix.  Your sister will get over it.  Just give her time.  Are you going to be able to stay strong when your ex comes to get his watch?  Sometimes it's hard to see the person face-to-face.  Good luck.

I've been up about an hour.  My kitty woke me up around 6:00.  I'm about ready to lay back down.  I talked to Liz for awhile last night.  She asked me if, when we went out to eat, it was considered a date.  I told her I didn't know.  She said she likes my style and would love to take me out sometime on a "date."  I told her alright.  But, I'm not getting involved with someone who's strung out on benzo's (which is what Xanax is).  We did talk about her using Xanax.  I told her my experience with those kinds of meds.  She knows that she's built a tolerance, and she said she wants to try something different.  I told her about cognitive behavioral therapy that's helped many people with anxiety attacks.  So, we'll see what happens.

OK ladies, I'm off to check out a few more threads and watch the news.  I hope you all have a good morning.
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« Reply #66 on: July 15, 2008, 10:46:34 AM »
Good am Ladies...Hope all is well with everyone.

Tatenda: WOW that made me feel good...cus sometimes people dont like me at all and I try so much to be understood..But Thank you for that!

Betty : Energy>>>>>>>>>>>>>> your way sweety...Yes i work full time..but when i go home im still bored..i may cook or something but thats it..then my gfs just wanna drink n smoke every night and i have about had it with that...im gonna stop everything..i really want to be settle down n married right about now...and i would like a more fulfilling career....i really hope i am able to start school in the spring....i am so sad alot..i cry almost every night...im just unfulfilled i guess.... :-\

Viv: Thank you...I mean i wouldnt change my name or anything...my mom named me after my dad..his name was James..i kinda like that it doesnt fit into the racial stereotypes of "black names" tho..something positive i guess...

Thanks mum! your too sweet yourself!

Jshort: i feel you mama...even with my babies gone i feel u...i wake up every night now like 330 for no reason..i think im losing my freaking mind...but youre blessed and your children are going to make u proud...

Well i am goin to go to church this weekend...I need some uplifting spiritually...I am glad you guys are here tho to talk to  :D

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #67 on: July 15, 2008, 11:00:42 AM »
Just wanted to say a quick HI to everyone, I have been thinking of you all.

 I got my daughters room done finally and I am on my sons( soon to be mine), so I can have my own space finally, before I go nuts.  I got all the popcorn off the ceiling last night -only 5 more rooms to go :'( Maybe my arms will be toned at least, when I am finished.

I will catch up with you all later....everyone take care

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« Reply #68 on: July 15, 2008, 06:03:30 PM »
Evening ladies,

Jamie, I really need energy today.  I just now finally did the dishes for the 1st time today.  Ugh.

Snow, good luck with all that scraping.  Doesn't sound like a lot of fun.

I haven't done squat today.  Well, except make brownies that are just fab.  I slept almost the whole day away.  I just haven't been feeling like myself lately.  I've been dragging around, barely able to stay awake at times etc.  My blood sugars have been fine, I don't feel sick (cold, etc.), I just can't figure this out!  But it's damn frustrating!  I hate it when something's going on with my body that I can't figure out. 

Anyway, I hope you ladies are having a good day.  I may be back later, or tomorrow in the a.m. 
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #69 on: July 15, 2008, 06:41:51 PM »
I know I wasn't feeling too good today either, been feeling sick to my stomach. The drama with the landlord continues, I read a letter that my ASO sent my landlord where he stated that he would give me 30 days as well as being partially paid for this month. The five day notice is simply a scare tactic and this asshole gave the realtor a negative reference which made them not give us the house. I am fucking pissed about that. Tomorrow I have to go to the Section 8 office and get the new list for apartments. The list I have is rather disappointing because they are second floor or in bad neighborhoods. I am hoping the new list will be better.

We are going to get a truck tomorrow and start moving. I talked to legal services and they told me since he presented the 5 day notice that the lease is null and void. So, I have somewhere to temperarily go til I find a place.

Someone asked about my son, well, he got all the charges dropped but one. He had 14. The most he may get is 11 to 23 months in the county. He got off easy for the seriousness of his crime. I have to write him another letter soon.

I still have not finished my hair yet but I am getting there. It's really been too hot to do it during the day and I feel crummy today so I am not even sure if I am going to bother with it or I might because we are going to be moving tomorrow, not sure yet.

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« Reply #70 on: July 15, 2008, 07:08:43 PM »
My entire body is aching and my head is pounding and I missed my nap.  Need I say more?  LOL...I got the truck tire repaired at Sam's.  The 15 minute job took over an hour.  I was so not happy.  Then I came home and sanded the boys' room from 10am until just after 3pm.  We just need to sand off the where the old owners had 12-inch border all the way around. Then, we'll get everything dusted, vaccuum, put the furniture back, and paint.  What a pain in the butt!

I'm so tired, I already forgot what everyone wrote..sorry.

Queen, if you have no where to move to, where are you moving?
Betty, sorry you're not feeling well.  Just rest up and get better, hun.
Snow, I'm so feeling you, hun.  With every inch of my aching body, I feel you.

A lady on Jeopardy just said while she was visiting her sister, she had a headache.  Her sister gave her an "old" prescription, then gave her the rest to take home.  It wasn't until after arriving home that the lady realized the prescription was for her sister's CAT. 

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« Reply #71 on: July 15, 2008, 08:28:19 PM »
Viv - I didn't really say what happened with my son. I just kinda sprang the court info on you gals LOL

Court worked out ok for him today. He wound up having to spend 1525.00 to get himself out of trouble. He has 6 month deferred adjudication with probation, a 5 week mandatory drug class, drug testing and 24 hours volunteer service and whatever the monthly fees are for going to probation.
Long story short. He got caught with 7 lithium pills in his pocket after someone called the police to his old apartment complaining of the smell of marijuana. They didn't have anymore pot, they had smoked it all, so there was no charge for that. The charge was possesion of a dangerous drug.

He's fine. He's pissed he had to spend so much money because that ate a huge hole in his safety net. Now he only has enough money to carry him through August. After that he wont have enough in the bank to pay his bills.

He needs to learn how to lay low better if he is going to be messing around. Pills aren't his thing he was just trying it and happened to get caught. He does love his weed though. Too bad he isn't always smart about it.
That kid needs to learn how to not rock the boat and that sometimes its better to keep his mouth shut.

My baby, Mr. hot shot trouble finder.



When I think about it he really isn't much different than I was when I was a kid. Except I didn't get caught when I was screwing around and being an idiot. But I am more clever and I never got caught. He is more confident than I was and of course he is a boy but that's about it.
But then again by the time I was his age I had him so he has me beat at that. And I was less than a year older than he is now when I was infected with HIV. He knows a shit load more than I did at his age about HIV so I'm fairly certain he will beat me there too.
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« Reply #72 on: July 15, 2008, 08:43:47 PM »
Queen, check the local paper also for section 8 places.  They always have some that are not on the list at Housing.  Good luck.  I'm glad you have a place to go temporarily until you find a new place.  About the neuropathy.......I've had it for years.  I take 2400mgs a day of Neurontin (broken down to 800mgs 3 x a day) and I've had no bad side effects at all.  It might be something for you to think about if it gets troublesome.

Mum, I hope you rest up woman!  That sounds like way too much work to me for one day.  Just make sure tomorrow you take time to nap.

Wendy, I'm glad your son didn't get thrown in the pokey.  He wanted to experiment with Lithium?  Ugh.  I can think of much better pills to experiment with. ;)  (of course, I'm kidding, I would never recommend it to anyone).  My daughter smokes pot once in awhile also.  But, it hasn't affected her job or anything.  She knows if she gets caught, she's pretty much on her own.  When she got busted for stealing my car when she was a juvenile, I didn't bail her out then.  I think me not getting her out of trouble has made her independent like she is.  Kids need to learn, don't they?  Your son sounds pretty educated about HIV though, and that's great.  When I was young and doing foolish things, I got pulled over a few times by the coppers.  But, since I was (read: was) young and pretty, I always got out of being arrested (for a sexual favor, pigs).  Anyway, glad your son doesn't have to spend time in jail.  Using marijuana is really a victimless crime and should be legalized, IMO.

I slept most of the day.  I'm guessing I just have some kind of bug.  I made some brownies today, but that's as domestic as it got.  I hope you ladies have a good night.
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« Reply #73 on: July 15, 2008, 10:13:37 PM »
Wendy, I'm so sorry, but I'm confused.  Maybe it's the lack of sleep and maybe it's my brain being too lazy to think of the answer.  You have 1 son and that 1 son doesn't have any children.  And you have no other children.  BUT, you have a grand-daughter.  I'm so horribly confused.

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« Reply #74 on: July 15, 2008, 10:31:43 PM »
Hi Ladies! Welcome Tatenda nothing much here, went to the doctor and find out my colesterol is through the roof !!! scared the shit out of me so now I have to take "LIPITOR". hoping i don't have side effects. Just anothermed to add to my list, i stop counting i take over 12 meds a day. Well the doc news came right after i had just had lunch, bacon and egg sanwhich with plenty of mayo! LOL so he told me to satay away from the eeggaand change my diet, this sucks but i know i must do it.

Queen, I am so happy you son got less time and some of the cahrges dropped. I hope u find the right house .
Winn- that pic of your son looks like you with a beard! he looks exactly like you!!!
Moms- you need your own dam reality show!!!!! all the work you do for your family, lwts call it" supermom"
Wishful - you hang in there, iknow how you feel, i live alone and sometimes i think i'm going crazy!!
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« Reply #75 on: July 15, 2008, 10:37:27 PM »
Hi Ladies! Welcome Tatenda!!! nothing much here, went to the doctor and find out my cholesterol is through the roof !!! scared the shit out of me so now I have to take "LIPITOR". hoping i don't have side effects. Just anothermed to add to my list, i stop counting i take over 12 meds a day. Well the doc news came right after i had just had lunch, bacon and egg sandwich with plenty of mayo! LOL so he told me to stay away from the eggs change my diet, this sucks but i know i must do it. Tired as usual and having lazy days with this heat, but thank god i'm not that crazy ,I knew something was wrong with me even though they say there are no symptoms. I have been lite headed and offbalance and having pain in my head! At least i know what it is now.

Queen, I am so happy you son got less time and some of the charges dropped. I hope u find the right house .
Winn- that pic of your son looks like you with a beard! he looks exactly like you!!!
Moms- you need your own dam reality show!!!!! all the work you do for your family, lets call it" supermom"
Wishful - you hang in there, i know how you feel, i live alone and sometimes i think i'm going crazy!!
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« Reply #76 on: July 15, 2008, 10:38:05 PM »
Wendy, I'm so sorry, but I'm confused.  Maybe it's the lack of sleep and maybe it's my brain being too lazy to think of the answer.  You have 1 son and that 1 son doesn't have any children.  And you have no other children.  BUT, you have a grand-daughter.  I'm so horribly confused.

Mum (who promises to think better tomorrow - after a good night's sleep)
LMAO The grand daughter is Billy's son's daughter.
If you count him I have 3 sons. One 18 year old. My youngest who passed away in 1997 and a 20 year old I got five years ago and did not ever have in my custody.

Netta - LOL I know he used to be my mini me but now he is a big hairy guy who looks an awful lot like his mom.

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« Reply #77 on: July 15, 2008, 10:43:03 PM »
Dam Win- I thought you were playing tricks with the cameras!!! LMAO, u could never deny him being your son!

OH SHIT Excuses MY post posted 2 times my bad!
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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #78 on: July 15, 2008, 11:55:50 PM »
I should have my behind in the bed since I got to move some things tomorrow. But I am just not tired at the moment. Still over here swooning over my neighbor and we are just becoming neighborly. Wini, glad your son didn't have to do any jail time. Basically doing a drive by, want to play some Warcraft before bed.
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« Reply #79 on: July 16, 2008, 07:01:14 AM »
I am in so much pain from my back up over my shoulders and all the way down my arms to the end of my little pinky finger.  I need to drink some milk and pop some Advil - about 1/2 a bottle should do it.  One of these days I'm going to realize that I'm A: not young, and B: still not young.  I only have the nasty 12 in. boarder on 2 of the walls to sand off then I can start painting. 

Oh, and let me explain this room.  First, this room is 27ft long by 18ft wide.  It's the biggest room in the house - twice the size of my livingroom.  When we moved in, it was the previous owner's master bedroom.  One of the long walls was covered in wallpaper that had roses the size of dinner plates all over it.  The other walls had a 12 in. border with smaller flowers.  I walked in and it made me dizzy.  So, rather than take it down, we did what the "experts" told us and sealed it, primed it, and put 2 coats of paint.  A couple of years later, after our 3rd sone was born, we moved us out and the boys in, so we repainted it - 2 more coats.  Now,  7 yrs later, the sealed wallpaper that was never supposed to peel, peeled off and made the room look awful!  So, we had to stip through layers of paint and sealer, and sand the wall down to the original paneling.  Like I said, big ol' pain in the butt!!

So, that's my agenda for today.  That, and the laundry.  I'm hoping to buy the paint today so we can start painting the room tonight.  With both of us painting, we should be able to knock it out in a couple of days (which means it'll take us 6mths..lol).  Tomorrow is little bit's appointments with the eye specialist and the audiologist to get fitted for her hearing aide.  My mom is watching the other kids so we'll sneak off early for a quick breakfast at Ihop.

Winn, LOL, I figured it out about 3 this morning. 
Netta, if I had a reality show, no one would believe it was true. :P  I watched 1 episode of that "John and Kate" and it totally pissed me off.

Well, my sweeties, the crew's awake and ready for breakfast.  If I have any feeling left in my arms, I'll check in later.

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« Reply #80 on: July 16, 2008, 08:13:38 AM »
Morning ladies,

Netta, I take Lipitor also-been on it for about a year.  It brought my cholesterol down right away.  So it works really well.  I have had no side effects from it.  You sound like me with all those pills.  I take about 12 or 13 in the morning (plus I take noon, evening and pm meds) plus Insulin.  I don't think I'd be normal if one day I never had to take any more (pills).

Wendy, your son does look like you.  You two could be twins.  It's really uncanny.

Mum, good luck with that room.  The most I've ever done to walls is to wash them.  Which I really should do again here, but I'm just not motivated to do it.  My excuse?  The same as yours-I'm not young anymore. 

I'm feeling a bit better today. I don't have much to do except go to the store to get a few things.  I'm missing Drag lately; a few others also. 

Registration for school starts July 28th.  I do it online.  I'm anxious to see what classes they'll be offering.  I'm going to go full-time.  If they have the classes offered at this campus that I need, it's only going to be one more (school) year and I'll be done.  Yippee!  If they don't offer everything I need, well, it'll probably just take me another 1/2 year.  Either way, I'm getting closer and I'm very happy about it.  My daughter tells me I need to go on and get my master's.  I just told her I'm not even thinking about that right now; I've been in school long enough for awhile.  It really requires more brain power of me than it seemed to when I was younger.  But, it's all worth it.

Well ladies, you all have a good morning.  I'll be back later.
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« Reply #81 on: July 16, 2008, 08:28:53 AM »
Good morning ladies. Welcome to Tatenda.          Not much going on here.      Queen, glad most of your son's charges got dropped. That must be a huge relief.    Sorry about your asshole landlord. Maybe the next one will be better.                     Wendy, glad your son didn't get put in jail but that seems like a lot of stuff for some Lithium. My brother takes Lithium for bipolar, I didn't know you could get high off it.  Maybe he will learn his lesson or at least be more careful .                   Betty, hope you feel better . Enjoy those brownies, they sound good.                     Mum, damn you are a hard working woman. Hope you get some rest before your arms fall off. My arms ache sometimes but that is only when we have been really busy at work.                                             Netta, hope you get your cholesterol under control.    Love  the names. Jamie and Andrea are pretty names. I used to tell people my name was Jacqueline but they caught on when they heard my mom calling me Cristy.                                                                      Anyway, SSDD, nothing new. A trip to walmart is in order, mustn't run out of Mountain Dew. TTYL ladies. Cristy      Betty, you posted while I was trying to. Hope you get the classes you want.

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« Reply #82 on: July 16, 2008, 10:44:55 AM »
Good morning!

Mum- I know what you mean about that show "John and Kate +8". I have seen it and it seems to me that they have a lot of $$$$$ and a lot of help. It does appear to be unrealistic. They were even on Oprah. Money sure makes things much easier. When I bought my first condo I thought I could save money, really my parents money  :), by painting the rooms. Yeah, I was over it the first hour and we hired someone to do the rest. When it's all done you deserve a nice rest.

Wendy-I will say it too, you son definitely looks like you

Betty-I agree when it comes to school. Just take it one day at a time. When I went with my sister it made me miss the whole school thing. I don't miss doing the work and test but I truly enjoy learning.

Queen-I'll be thinking about you today when you are moving.

Christy-Nice to hear from you

Ok, well I started my period in the middle of the night....Hallelujah!! ;D Of course I have an appointment at the gynecologist this morning which there really is no need for now but I am going to go in anyway. I want to get back on the pill. I was on it for almost 4 years just to regulate my periods and I am tired of trying to keep count and want to have it all back on track. I not the birth control aspect of it is diminished due to the Atripla but I am hoping the regulating part of it still works.  My doctor is very nice. Before I was diagnosed she was helping me out with all the problems I was having in that general area. I had a lot of skin/rash issues and she recommended many things. The irony of the whole situation of being sick was that none of the doctors even thought of testing my for HIV because of my history, or really lack there of. It makes me think that everyone, when there are issues should be tested right away. Anyways...I have never been so happy about having a period. My coughing is getting worse and now I am having major sinus issues...major headaches. It so bad that when I bend down my head feels like it is going to explode. I have been living on Tylenol sinus..ugh! My ID doctor comes back today and I am hoping to get an appointment to get some medicine. Well that's all for now. Mr. Wonderful has not come to get his watch yet but I've given him my schedule this week. He made a comment about having sex and I told him no, it's not like that anymore. He did not respond. This is via email. Because I have always given in he is trying but I am sticking to my guns.... :) Send your strength.... :)

Well I guess I should get in the shower....oh I have a funny story about gynecologists...I don't remember where I read it but I still remember it. A women was running late for her appointment and when she realized how late she was she did not have time to shower so she grabbed a wash cloth that was laying on the bathroom sink and did a "quick cleaning". When she went in and the pelvic exam the doctor made a comment about (this isn't exact because I can't quite remember) "it" being so fancy....well, what happened was that the ladies daughter had been doing something with glitter and had it in the wash cloth so when she "cleaned" with the washcloth the glitter transferred over. So she was all "dressed up" Isn't that funny! I would have been laughing so hard in the doctor's office. I doubt he had ever seen anything like that! Now that I think of it, I think I read it in the Reader's Digest.... :D

Talk to you all later!
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« Reply #83 on: July 16, 2008, 12:48:10 PM »
Cristy, good to hear from you.  How's it going with the new guy?  2nd date yet?

Andrea, YAY!  I know you're relieved.  I was going to suggest maybe the gynecologist could give you something for your sinus/lung problems.  You really should get that taken care of.  Regarding Mr. Wonderful, stick to your guns.  Don't screw the bastard.  Just give him his watch, put your hand on your hip and point to the door.  Well, anyways, sending srength your way, gf. 
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« Reply #84 on: July 16, 2008, 01:05:57 PM »
Wendy, glad your son didn't get put in jail but that seems like a lot of stuff for some Lithium. My brother takes Lithium for bipolar, I didn't know you could get high off it.  Maybe he will learn his lesson or at least be more careful . 

I'm not sure his intent was to get high off of it. Around the same time he got caught with the lithium he was trying to get mental health treatment on his own.
He is at that age where everything is just so dramatic. Also its the age where you want to be treated like an adult but still have the comforts of being a kid. Its a real difficult time in most peoples lives. Plus when your family members die its normal to feel depressed about it. I wish more people would understand that and stop trying to medicate it all away.
If some friend of his or "expert" convinces him that all the feelings he is experiencing is not normal of course he is going to believe them. His brain isn't finished developing and he is smoking pot on a regular basis. I'm sure that doesn't help things.

I get the same thing. Most doctors try putting me on antidepressants. I'm just not open to it anymore. I don't like the way they make me feel when I take them. I am totally functional and yes I occasionally am sad but given my life experiences I feel its completely appropriate.

I don't believe Aaron has any mental issues. I think he is a growing boy with typical problems for his age. He chooses on occasion not to use self control but I've known him all his life and I know that's not a lack of ability its his not giving a damn.
Given all the things he has seen and been through I think he handles himself pretty well.

Now if he could just stay out of trouble.  ;D




There are differences in our faces. He has a more masculine look. His brow ridge "the part of your forehead across your eyebrows" is more pronounced than mine. His nose is also more masculine. Kind of a mix between my nose and a Roman nose.
Example of a Roman nose
He has likely had his nose broken before. I have never been punched in the face. LOL
His eyes are slightly less bulbous and more even in size and slightly different in color. And his ears are totally different.
If I where to make changes to myself I would choose some of his features. They are slight but I like his looks.
Of course they would have to be feminised. I don't want to look like a guy. LOL

Andrea - I don't know if I should congratulate you getting your period or not. LOL I hate being on my period.
I'm glad you don't have to worry about it anymore.
Maybe you should mail him his watch. That would make a statement. LOL
Glitter LOL I've gotten comments about my shaving but I've never tried glitter.

Cristy - I was a walmart earlier and had to leave their electricity went out. Fortunately I got to buy my milk and cereal. They had one register that was still kinda working. It rejected my card 3 times before allowing the transaction. I still got to go back because I only have one can of Mountain Dew left. I have diet in the cabinet but its just not as good as the sugared.

Betty - I hope you get to feeling better.


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« Reply #85 on: July 16, 2008, 04:07:38 PM »
I not the birth control aspect of it is diminished due to the Atripla but I am hoping the regulating part of it still works. 

Viv - Does the Atripla not work with birth control? I am on the Implanon implant. I have been on it since April. I have not been feeling to sexual so I haven't been humping a lot. I hope the birth control is working and not just good planning. ((((((((Strength))))))))  for fighting of the ex.

Betty- I hope all the classes you need are offered. I have 8 more classes and I should graduate next may. I got into with my finicial aid advisor. I was due a refund this month and he told me that I wasn't. Gladly he just looked at his computer wrong and I get an disbursement on the 22nd of this month. So Hopefully I should get it the end of the month or the first part of next month. I really need it because my baby is getting ready to start back school.

CJC- Nice to see you drop in.

Mum- I applaude you again. You are such a strong woman.

Wish- Are the children going to come home before school starts. I forgot to tell you, you are a cutie. I love your pics.

To all my other ladies "Love You"

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #86 on: July 16, 2008, 05:43:18 PM »
Keeping-I think it is specifically birth control pills and Atripla where the problem occurs. I don't know about implants. I read about on either this site or "The Body"

Well the doctor's visit went well. I did not have a pelvic exam because of my period but the doctor gave me the lowest dose possible of birth control. I am going to try it for 2 months and see how it goes and then get a prescription. When I told her about the HIV she seemed surprised but was very sympathetic. She wanted to know who I was seeing and how things were going. I also have to go in for my pap which is past due. She did mention that I am going to have to be very regular with that because I am more to susceptible to problems because of my compromised immune system. So that was all good.

I have mentioned about me wanting to find another ID doc, I have an appointment but is not until August. Anyways...I called my current dr. last week and was told by the service that they were gone until today. I called this morning at about 9:15am and was told to call back in about 10 minutes. Just a little extra info...In California we are not allowed to use cell phones while driving unless they are hands free so I had to wait till I got to my gyno. to call again. So,went I got there I called and again the service answered and I asked to leave a message. They said that the office just wants us to call back and not leave a message, Ok, fine. I go have my visit and about 45 minutes later I call again and wouldn't you know it, I got the service AGAIN! I told them this is the 3rd time I've called and the lady asked for my name and put me on hold. I waited a few minutes and then just hung up. I am soooo pissed! This is part of why I want a new doctor. It is soooo hard to get a hold of anyone there. Everytime I call I get the service. I can count on one hand the number of times someone at the office has answered. All I want is to get my blood work done and a prescription for this congestion. What a pain in the but!

On a separate note...I keep making all kinds of typos on here and I think it is because the font is so small. I even do spell check but some of the words are spelled ok but they are just the wrong words...how annoying.... :)

Also...I know my posts have been rather long...I guess I just have a lot more to say or maybe I just ramble on and on...LOL

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #87 on: July 16, 2008, 05:47:59 PM »
Wasn't as long as mine and I can read you fine.  ;)

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« Reply #88 on: July 16, 2008, 08:50:52 PM »
Evening ladies,

Wendy, my daughter is the same in respect to wanting to be an adult and child at the same time.  I know your son has differences, but you two could be twins, truly.  I don't know about antidepressants either; I think I should probably be on one.  I function so much better when I am (Zoloft works well).  You've been through a lot and so has your son.  I think taking antidepressants is a very personal choice between doctor/patient. 

Keeping, there is a university here (Indiana University at South Bend) that has the most screwed up financial aid office I've ever seen.  The whole place is screwy.  I go to a private university, which costs a little more.  But I always look forward to those refunds from the school!  They're great, ain't they.

Andrea, do you have a primary care doctor who can prescribe you something for your cold?  That sounds extremely frustrating.  I e-mail my doctor about things and usually get a response in a couple hours. 

Well, today I did a whole lot of nothing.  I went to the store to get a few things.  Then I made (Shake & Bake) ranch pork chops, cornbread dressing, and green beans for dinner.  I'm still full and I ate at 2:30. 

I've also been back on Chantix for three days.  I'm going to give it another go and hopefully it will work.  Today I've only smoked about five cigarettes.  It's not the money part that bothers me-smoking rollies saves bunches.  It's the health part.  With both parents dying in relation to cigarettes, my chances of living a long, healthy life smoking ain't too great.  I also did some pilates this morning.  They totally kicked my ass.  Tomorrow maybe I'll exercise again.

That's about all I have to report.  I hope you ladies have a good night.
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« Reply #89 on: July 16, 2008, 10:02:31 PM »
I know plenty of folks who just plain do not function with out psych meds. Or at the very least are moody as hell if they forget a dose or two. LOL

My issue with the meds is trying to bury the pain of the loss of a loved one with a pill.
It aggravates me that I cant seem to express my emotions to a doctor without them wanting to medicate me. But I suppose if I thought about it from their perspective they are there to fix problems and a general medical doctor is usually going to look for a scientific way to solve those kind of problems.

I have a girlfriend who had a stillborn baby. I've dealt with the loss of my son much longer than she has hers. I've told her the pain of loosing your baby never leaves you. You just get more used to it as time passes.
I'd very much like to see what my son would look like now. He looked a lot like me too. But not as much as Aaron. Maybe some day I'll find a age enhancing thingy where I can upload a photo of him and see what he would look like. That would be neat.  :)

Have I shown ya'll a photo of my baby Justin?

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« Reply #90 on: July 16, 2008, 11:58:57 PM »
Good evening my sweetie peeties!  Yes, I know what time it is.  I'm waiting for the meds to kick in so I can breathe.  I'm happy to announce that the room is FINISHED!!  Tomorrow after #6's appointments, we'll buy the paint and get 'er done so the boys can move back into their room by Saturday night.  So, next week we move on to the school room / office.  Then, and only then, can we celebrate the fact that my summer "to do" list ACTUALLY got done while it was still summer!!!  YEAH ME! :P

Next week is Vacation Bible School at our church from 6:15 - 8:00.  Hubby and I help on Monday night and then teach on Thursday.  Last year, we just about burned down the building..lol..how am I gonna top that this year??  Then, 4wks from today (Wed.), Mini and I leave for Mexico.  I'm a nervous wreck.

Andrea, my doll, you go right ahead and rant all you want with as many words as you need.  We're all women here and it is all good. 

I can't remember who made the comments about John and Kate, but you were SO on the money!  That's exactly the way I feel about them.  What they are showing isn't their reality, at least not the way it was before they were given the house, the car, the gifts, the trips, the nanny, the hair plugs, the tummy tuck, the person who irons their clothes, and the person who folds their clothes, etc.  Not to mention that lady is truly mean and nasty to her husband (and everyone else).

Alrighty then...  I think my meds have kicked in.  I can feel my fingers, my arms don't hurt (much), and I can breathe through my nose.  And that, ladies, is my signal that it's time for bed.  Everyone have sweet dreams and I'll catch you tomorrow afternoon.

Love and moochies!
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« Reply #91 on: July 17, 2008, 12:07:18 AM »
Wendy I totally agree with you. I think sometimes we medicate instead of feel. A couple years ago I was definitely going through depression. I had just started seeing a therapist and she brought up antidepressants. I told her I was against them because I felt as though it just numbed pain and never allowed people to deal with it. She brought up the fact that the problem with the antidepressants was that many people take them without getting therapy. She said the purpose was not to numb the pain but to allow the person to work through the issues and then eventually get weaned of. So basically in order for them to work the medication and the therapy have to go together otherwise nothing will change. She also said that for my case it would be just to get me "over the hump". I was on Lexipro for less then a year along with weekly therapy and I can honestly say it helped put aside the emotion, address the issues, and then I was able to stop and then feel the emotion. Does that make sense? Anyways...this society is always looking for the quick, feel good fix. We are a pill popping country. I mean the United States uses about 80% of all the Ritalin produced and that is primarily for children so if that doesn't say something I don't know what does. Nobody wants to feel bad but sometimes in order to get to the good feelings we have to sift through the bad. Ok enough of that....to answer your question about the picture...I don't recall seeing one.

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« Reply #92 on: July 17, 2008, 01:42:46 AM »
Hi Ladies,
              I'm new to the boards, and after Bettytacy's invitation, I thought I would stop in and introduce myself. I'm 24, and still getting used to all of the new things I have to deal with in my life due to HIV. I'm very ecstatic about having people to talk to about things that I'm dealing with, because I literally have no one else, and (as I'm sure most of you would agree) it's great to be able to vent to people who care, who are understanding, who can relate to things dealing with HIV, and everything else that life gives us good or bad. So... hello again, and I'm looking forward to being apart of these boards, and talking with you ladies.

With Hope And Love,
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« Reply #93 on: July 17, 2008, 07:37:04 AM »
Morning ladies,

Wendy, I don't remember ever seeing a picture of your little one who died.  That must have been so heartbreaking.  I know how I felt (and still feel) losing both parents in such a short timespan-I can't imagine a child. 

Mum, congratulations on finishing the room!  Wow.  I remember going to vacation Bible school when I was a kid.  I always used to look forward to it.  Fun times.   Just don't set anything on fire.  Oh, I love your new avvy.

Andrea, I agree-I think antidepressants must be combined with therapy to have success.  And you're right-this is a quick fix nation.  Everywhere.  No one wants to deal with problems, and unfortunately, we all want ours to go away right now.  Well, I don't know if that's unfortunate or not.  People just need better coping skills instead of looking to medicine all the time.

Nothing, I'm so glad you decided to join us.  I was diagnosed when I was 24 also (I'm almost 43 now).  You've got a lot of years.  Just jump in and say whatever you want to say.  We're all comfortable enough to hear anything.

Well, my therapist comes over today.  I'm working through the 12 steps with him.  Right now I'm on the ammends step-the actual doing the ammends step, not the writing them one.  I told him I verbally made ammends to my parents before they died.  He suggested writing them a letter, because I've thought of more stuff.  That is going to be very hard.  I'll have to make sure I have a box of Kleenex handy. 

Other than that, I'm going to try to go to a meeting tonight.  Hopefully I'll hear from the man in charge of the front desk of the Hope today.  If not, I'm going to get ahold of the lady who did the orientation and have her round him up.  Alright ladies, have a good morning.
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« Reply #94 on: July 17, 2008, 09:39:27 AM »
Good Morning!

Welcome Nothing! I was diagnosed 1 year ago. The ladies here are WONDERFUL and are very good listeners. They even have some good advice!  :)

Today I am getting my hair done. I have been splurging on myself and actually letting myself enjoy it. I still have not seen "Mr. Wonderfu". I pretty sure he is avoiding the situation. He probably thinks if he gives me time I will change my mind...huh....in the past that would be true, but not now.... :)

Talk to you all later!

Andrea

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« Reply #95 on: July 17, 2008, 01:16:28 PM »
Thanks Andrea you conveyed my thoughts better than I could.

NothingButSunshine

Betty - And of course anyone else who is interested. I have a short memorial video on my HIVAIDStribe profile page for Justin. I think its like 44 seconds long. I think I recall some of you have seen it before but it has pictures of my son Justin.
This link is directly to the memorial video.
http://s22.photobucket.com/albums/b324/Winiroo/?action=view&current=JustinsMovie.flv

This link is to my HIVAIDStribe webpage.
http://www.hivaidstribe.com/Winiroo

Let me know if I screwed up on the links LOL

Mum - I've watched the Jon and Kate thing a few times. They definitely have very cute children. They seem to be fortunate people and they seem to have all their needs and many of their desires taken care of. I don't know how well I would cope with that many children in the same age group. That's about all I can say. LOL

I did enjoy watching a toddler pee on the couch on The Baby Borrowers last night. I think that's the name of the show. There wasn't anything else on that I wanted to watch. I really didn't want to watch that show but of all the other options it won my attention for a little while.

I should have just fooled around with Billy. LOL that's more entertaining.

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« Reply #96 on: July 17, 2008, 01:22:26 PM »
Andrea, you should splurge on yourself.  And don't waste it on that man!

Wendy, that video made me tear up.  What a beautiful tribute. 
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« Reply #97 on: July 17, 2008, 01:24:20 PM »
Thank you Betty

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« Reply #98 on: July 17, 2008, 01:51:47 PM »
Hey ladies. Just wondering how everyone is today. I myself am absolutely stressed out, and grateful that I can come here to release.

We're in the process of moving, and I'm sure you all know how stressful that can be, and of course how expensive it can be. I'm so frustrated because when it rains it pours, we are moving and have had to spend money on a deposit for our new house, we've had to pay rent at the place we are now, and we're going to have to drop rent for the new house in a few days. On top of that one of our cars went kaput, so we've just purchased a new car because the other one was a money pit.

It broke down and we said okay its time for a new one. So we purchased a used car, and wouldn't you know that of course the new one started giving us problems and we had to see about getting it fixed, it needed a new battery, fuel pump, belt, and transmission flush and I haven't even had the car a month! So there is some of the money we've spent, not to mention all the other bills we have, gas, food, and everyday things we need that we've been spending money on. (I'm SO disgusted with gas prices)

If anything else comes up, I think I might go nuts, I can't catch a break. My husband and I are newlyweds  we're both 24, and have not attended college we just started getting with the grind right after high school and so needless to say we don't have the best paying jobs, but everyone wants all this money we don't really have...well we have it, but we just can't seem to save.

On top of that we have to get rid of our ferrets because we're not allowed to have them in this rent house, and I'm SO sad. I love my babies, but.....gosh I feel like a terrible animal mom. Also I've been trying to get things packed and do this and that to prepare for the move, but my meds haven't been agreeing with me lately, I've been getting tired and nauseous every morning after I've started taking this new regimen of meds I take 3 pills in the AM and 1 at night and the 1 at night doesn't bother me. So yeah, life, love, stress, and set-backs....gotta love it.

Thanks for the warm welcomes Betty, Vivyt, and Winiroo.

Winiroo- that graphic you posted to welcome me made my day, I was pretty upset before I came here and now I feel better. You are absolutely adorable.

Same to you both, Betty and Vivyt. Thanks for making my day better.  :D :D

Hope you ladies have a wonderful day! ;D
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« Reply #99 on: July 17, 2008, 05:45:57 PM »
Hey Ladies---

Sorry, I didn't post yesterday but was busy packing things, still have a little bit to go but just minor stuff. I am totally sore today though. And it is hot as hell outside which is not helping things. Welcome to the Forums to Sunshine before I forget to mention it.

Not sure how Atripla affects birth control, though I am on depo shots and not pills. I couldn't take my pills last night because my dumb ass packed them away and now I don't know where they are til I get over to the other place to look. I plan on staying here til they cut the gas off which won't be til next week.

Sunshine-- I know how you feel about moving which I am doing now and cars, which I have poured money into one and it is still draining the battery daily. I haven't figured out why yet but am trying to get it done so it can get inspected. I may have to take the battery up to Auto Zone and have them do a check on it. All the money I put into this car, could've been a down payment on another one.

Well, it is too hot to hang around the computer. I think I am the 99th post, someone needs to step up other than me and Betty to start another one or we will have to. I'll try to check back in later.
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« Reply #100 on: July 17, 2008, 06:42:40 PM »
I wanted to be number 100. LOL

Last time I had a problem with my battery not holding a charge it was my alternator.

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Re: Dating Thread Part 39-Let's not do the Roman anymore
« Reply #101 on: July 17, 2008, 08:27:50 PM »
I'll do it, give me a sec  :)
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