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Offline peterhelms

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question.
« on: June 09, 2008, 04:24:44 PM »
Today i was giving oral sex to my positive boyfriend ( he never cums on my mouth).
We were in a akward position and for 2 minutes during oral sex his penis kept rubbing the inside of my cheek instead    of  going straight down.
So i need to ask the question,  is there a way that my  cheek could bleed  from his penis rubbing it and i could get infected from his pre cum or if if there was blood on the inside of my cheek i would have noticed it?
Thanks for the advice.

Offline thunter34

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Re: question.
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2008, 05:33:13 PM »
Peter,

As someone who has been around this site for over a year and a half, I have to wonder just how much time you have taken to read the Lessons section on here (let alone the answers to wild scenarios like this that crop up in AMI all of time).  If you are going to be that afriad of each and every little contact you have with this boy, are you sure you really wanna go through life together?  I have to wonder because this is all a little extreme, ya know?  "My penis rubbed him wrong in the bath tub"...."His penis rubbed my cheek instead of my tonsils".    It just seems like you would have gotten a bit more savvy about real world HIV risks in this length of time. 
« Last Edit: June 09, 2008, 05:36:22 PM by thunter34 »
AIDS isn't for sissies.

Offline peterhelms

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Re: question.
« Reply #2 on: June 09, 2008, 05:42:49 PM »
yes i have been round the block , but i honestly ask these qyuestions because i want to know the answers,,and you didnt answer it.

Offline thunter34

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Re: question.
« Reply #3 on: June 09, 2008, 05:46:22 PM »
Peter,

You have a poz BF, so that qualifies you to post in this forum I suppose...however, to my mind you are behaving like the classic Worried Well.  That, to me, means:

Don't send me PM requests asking me to address these questions of yours.  Keep it in the threads.  Thanks.

I don't care that you live in small town, USA...you have been a part of this site for at least a year and a half and ought to know better than this nonsense by now.  Read the Lessons section like everybody else.  

And consider what I said previously.  If you are that bent out of shape over every petty point of contact with this guy, you're probably not in the right relationship, kid.

And stop using this forum like your own private AM I INFECTED forum.

I'm reporting this thread, btw.  I'll let the mods decide how they wish to address this situation with you.
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Offline Dachshund

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Re: question.
« Reply #4 on: June 09, 2008, 05:49:57 PM »
I'm afraid from reading you're posting history this question will just lead to another and another and another. As has been suggested to you before by Matty and others and for the sake of your emotional well being and your relationship you really need to get some counseling to deal with your fears.

HIV is a fragile virus and as Ann told you is only transmitted inside the body.
« Last Edit: June 09, 2008, 05:53:06 PM by Dachshund »

Offline peterhelms

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Re: question.
« Reply #5 on: June 09, 2008, 06:00:06 PM »
i think is unfortunate that people like me that come fto the forum for a yes or no anser,  i end up feeling threatened.How hard is to answer..no you were not a risk or yes you were at risk?

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Re: question.
« Reply #6 on: June 09, 2008, 06:09:07 PM »
...And the answer Peter is, no, you were not at risk.

The real issue again and again is not the specifics of the incidents you ask about but the anxiety you are carrying with you about your bf being HIV+ and your fears about becoming infected. The slight differences in the various activities you bring up all come down to the same thing: no risk.

As I have said to you before, I think you and perhaps your bf with you, need to talk with a counselor or other professional about the adjustments necessary to deal with your fears and perhaps some that he has as well. It seems to me that these concerns can't help but have a negative effect on your life together. Many, many thousands of sero-discordant couples including some here on the site have good lives in every way with their partners. But it doesn't happen magically. Like every relationship that requires work.
Andy Velez

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: question.
« Reply #7 on: June 09, 2008, 06:30:19 PM »
Peter, I have just deleted this same question from your long-running thread in AM I INFECTED. Which I have already answered. We're just not going to indulge this kind of behavior on your part.

You can't repeat the same question in another section in hopes that you're going to get some better/magical and/or perfectly comforting answer or whatever it is that you're searching for.

Peter, I'm going to warn you. You're awfully close to getting a time out. You need some professional help and it's not about the non-risk of becoming infected by having your bf's cock rubbing against the inside of your check. Really.
Andy Velez

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Re: question.
« Reply #8 on: June 09, 2008, 06:58:53 PM »
Peter,

You must have posted your question twice in the Am I forum (probably because you messed up the formatting in one) and I answered it after Andy deleted one of them - but I'll repeat it here. (Saw the Am I forum question first...)

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=5606.msg273550#msg273550

This isn't any different to the other oral sex questions you've asked. Unless his penis has talons, he's not going to damage the inside of your cheek.

I can't help but make the observation that your relationship must be pretty toxic for your partner. I know for myself, I couldn't deal with having a negative partner who was so paranoid and afraid of me. Perhaps some couples counseling is in order, instead of running to us every time you have sex.

Do you need a time out to encourage you into counseling?


Actually, if you continue to use this forum in the way that you have been, perhaps a permanent ban is in order.

Ann
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