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Author Topic: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain  (Read 33642 times)

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Offline Winiroo

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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #50 on: June 01, 2008, 04:57:17 PM »
On my birthday I spent the day finishing up cleaning, spackling and painting Aaron's old apartment. So we could turn the keys back in Friday.
That evening Billy took me out to eat at an italian resturant. The table across from us had a large group of people I'm sure where several generations of the same family. They where taking pictures of each other and I was enjoying smiling and making faces in the background of their photos untill they noticed me doing it and promptly put their camera away and proceeded to ignore me.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #51 on: June 01, 2008, 05:01:13 PM »
Winni, that is SO something I would do...lol!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #52 on: June 01, 2008, 07:05:45 PM »
Evening ladies,

Nothing exciting today.  I e-mailed my doctor to see if he will see my Native American friend.  Where my doctor is, if someone isn't employed and has no insurance, it's $10/visit I believe.  I told the doctor I would pay it.  I just don't know if they're seeing any new patients.  I hope something works out.  This guy really needs some help and it pisses me off that the government would even get involved in taking away a card-carrying Native's, well, card (in this country, all Native Americans have to carry i.d. proving that they are Native Americans, which is lunacy).  They're the only race that has to do that.  Isn't that crazy, the first people who were ever here have to carry i.d. cards stating their race.  I knew about this law years ago, though.  It's absolutely insane.

Queen, I'm glad you're not stressed out over your trip.  I hope you get some good answers.  I'll really be thinking about you.

Drag, that bbq sounds great.  It sounds like you had a wonderful time. I'm really glad.

Mum, doncha love government agencies.  Just keep plugging away.

Wendy, that sounds hilarious what you did.  I'm glad you had a nice time anyway.

OK, you ladies behave yourselves.  I'll be back tomorrow a.m.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #53 on: June 01, 2008, 07:25:14 PM »
A lady friend here gave me a couple of photos from our children's camping trip from 1994. I dont have a bunch of photos of my youngest son so anytime someone gives me one it is so special.
I thought I would share with ya'll the picture of me. It was December 1994. I had maybe 3 tcells and was at the most 115 lbs.
I'm at least 40 lbs heaviernow. I wouldn't want to be that thin again but somewhere inbetween would be ok.
Look at my wrists and the bones in my hand and my jaw bone! LOL

My hair looked pretty good...



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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #54 on: June 02, 2008, 12:07:49 PM »
Wow, no one posted anything since last night. You ladies must be busy. Nothing eventful today, just came back in from getting lab work done..ie..cd/vl...This is to see if my last cd4 was on point at being 705. I also went and picked up xrays for tomorrow's trip to see the specialist in Pittsburgh. They are on disc and wondering if I can look at them on my computer. I am assuming I can so I may look at them later, thought I have no idea what I would be looking for.

Usually by the time I log on here, Betty, Dragonette and a few others would have posted, wonder what's going on. I will check back later.
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #55 on: June 02, 2008, 12:20:47 PM »
Afternoon ladies,

Hey Wendy, I remember the "big hair" days.  Yeah, you were awful thin.  Hey, I have a question for you.  I have a scanner on my printer.  My brother's gf was over here Friday and showed me how to scan pictures.  But, when I scan them they go into some "document" thing and are the size of an avatar.  How can I scan pictures and put them somewhere where I can post them on this place?  I tried to open the "document" file on here, but other than putting it in an avatar, I can't do it.  Any suggestions?  I can always have my brother's gf come back over, but I'm not sure when she'd be able to do that. 

Queen, so, you're ready for the big trip tomorrow?  I'll be thinking about you and wishing the best.  You already know that.  I hope for good results on your vl and CD4 count.  Have you told your doctor about stopping the Atripla?  Are you still not taking it?  If you don't want to take that, you might want to talk with your doctor about going on something else.  It's not a good idea to stop HIV meds once you've been on them.  Everyone I know (including myself) who's done that have always ended up in almost disaster.  Please take care of yourself.

I got my mammogram done this morning.  They're really not as bad as some people say.  The tech did an extra view on my right breast because of me having a lump biopsied there last year. I don't expect any problems.  When I got my pap smear, the doctor who examined my breasts then didn't say anything about feeling any lumps. 

My doctor said he'd see my Native American friend (Alex).  So, I'm waiting for Alex to call.  At my doc's office, if someone doesn't have any income or job, they usually charge $10, I think.  I told the doctor I would pay for his first visit.  Now, don't think I'm going to start taking care of him financially.  That ain't happenin'.  I've taken care of too many men in my life and I refuse to do it again.  But, everybody needs help now and then.

I hope you ladies are having a nice afternoon.  I'll be back later.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #56 on: June 02, 2008, 03:15:04 PM »
Hey everyone...

Queen: Nothing eventful really goin on///oh i forgot..baby daddy called and said he wants the kids for the summer n school year....at this point im so not in the mood for his drama..so i was like watever...u need to request all of their paperwork...he doesnt really want that he just wants to start a fight..so i didnt even argue with him...i dont even care anymore...he tried to say something slick ..thats how i know he wanna argue..n i just nixed it off...he gonna call me from his sis fone..he such a loser...So looks like i will be having my summer after all....i knew that anyway cus regardless...he is too stubborn to LET someone say what he can or can not do with someone or something he considers his..i.e his kids...He will be begging for them to come back come summers end..or he will make up some excuse....

Besides that, im cool...waiting for some money cus im a lil behind on some things but nothing to stress about..they cant have what i aint got so thats that...
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #57 on: June 02, 2008, 04:46:07 PM »
Nothing really going on today.  I've made some plans about #4's birthday party and started on my endless lists of the things I need to pack / buy for our trip.

 Hubby is about to get swatted.  He asked what I plan to feed the kids for supper.  I told them they could eat whatever.  He gave me a stupid look and said, "you mean you'd let them eat cereal or sandwiches?"  What the heck is wrong with that??  Hubby said, "but you usually cook supper."  Again, I say, SO!  I usually cook 3 meals a day and today I cooked 2 - so sue me for goodness sake! >:(  I don't see anyone starving in this house.  Good grief he can get on my nerves. 

OK, on a funny note.  Last Thursday was #5's last T-ball game.  He hit the ball and took off for 1st base.  A little girl, Ashton, was playing 1st base for the opposing team.  She procedes to step in front of the base and throw open her arms.  As #5 got close to her, she grabbed him in the biggest bear hug!  One of her team mates threw the ball to her. It landed about 2 inches from the base.  Ashton's coach came over to get her to let go of #5.  So, she hugged him, too.  Then, so did our #5.  And, not to be left out, #5 ran off 1st base to go hug HIS coach who was standing in the field.  Ashton followed him and hugged #5's coach, too.  THEN, they both ran the bases hugging everyone..including the umpire!  When they were done, they assumed their positions: Ashton playing 1st, and #5 ready to run to 2nd base.  Once Ashton had confirmed that #5 was ready to get on with the game, she picked up the ball and threw it back to the umpire who set it up on the "T" for the next batter.  Everyone watching was laughing...and many were even hugging! ;D

And, so in the spirit of Ashton and our #5 - TONS of continuous hugs to all of you!
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #58 on: June 02, 2008, 06:12:43 PM »

 How can I scan pictures and put them somewhere where I can post them on this place? 

I go to www.photobucket.com and upload my photos onto their page then copy the link they give for the IMG code.
Its better than attaching the photo on here by clicking that addition options thing below where you type in my opinion because if later I change my mind and dont want people to see my picture I can just delete it from photobucket.

I hope that made sense...


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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #59 on: June 02, 2008, 06:19:57 PM »
I still don't understand about the picture, but I suppose I'll get it.  I don't see where the addition options thing is.  Am I blind or is it hard to find?

Anyway, I haven't heard from Alex.  So, if he doesn't call, well, I guess he won't get to see the doctor.  Oh well.  Nothing else going on.  Mum, I love that story about #5.  Kids are so great.  I miss my grandkids, especially my granddaughter.  I'll probably call her sometime this week and see if she wants to do something this weekend. 

OH! Eureka.  I see the addictional options.  I thought it was before I posted.  OK, I'll have to experiment later and see what I can do.  I hope everyone's having a good evening. 
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #60 on: June 02, 2008, 11:35:20 PM »
Nothing going here either. I went and had my lab work done today and the damn place was packed. It usually never is and then I happen to get the new girl. What usually takes 15 minutes ended up being over an hour. But at least it is out the way. The colonoscopy got pushed back til August 1st, I guess the specialist had something important to do which was cool with me cause I am so not looking forward to it at all.

Tomorrow is the day and I am going to make the most of it and try to have some fun along the way. I am going to take my cam so I will be posting pictures of Pittsburgh and stuff. But due to paying my friend for the gas to get there, I had to go into my cable bill money so you guys may not see me for a few months. But my health is more important without a doubt. I am going to be going bat crazy without cable or the internet. I do have some games I can play offline and I can only imagine how my email will be when I get back. I'll call the cable company tomorrow to find out when it will be cut off. And until then, I will try to post as much as possible. If any of you ladies have cell phones that have text messaging you can always send me a text. Just pm or email me for my number if any of you want it.

Betty, Does Alex know you were going to pay for the first visit? If so and you still haven't heard from him then not much else you can do.

Mum, cute story about the kids and the hugs. That was such and "AWWWWW" moment. Now hubby knows his behind ain't helpless. My bf complains about the same thing and says there are some days when she is just tired of cooking. And she cooks for my godson who is 19 and her bf who is grown.

Wishful, Girl you did the right thing. No worries.

I am going to try to go to bed early since I have to be ready to go around 10:30 am. Wish me luck and will keep you all posted....Good Night
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #61 on: June 03, 2008, 03:02:18 AM »
Good luck Queen, have a fun safe trip! I hope your cable doesn't get cut off, at least not for long.

Betty how are your knees? how about calling alex and telling him - it would be silly if he missed the appt for being a man  :P

Wini, you look very very frail in that photo.

Wishful, are you talking about the same creep who emailed your collegues?

Mom, I can't beleive you cook 3 times a day!

I am still here, just working. the weather has been stunning, which allowed a lot of very beautiful people to take a lot of clothes off. I'd join them, but... anyway nothing eventful in the last days

hugs to everyone,
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #62 on: June 03, 2008, 06:55:05 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, you have a really good attitude about going today.  Try to have as much fun as you can.  I hope something can be worked out with the cable company.  I don't have a cell phone, or I would ask you for your number.  I'm looking forward to hearing what happens!

Wendy, when my brother's gf set the whatever up for me to scan pictures, the picture settings are small (the size that fits on avatar).  I don't know how to make them any bigger.  And when I went to photobucket, it uploads (if that's what you call it) off of the document thing on the computer, so I don't see what the difference is between using that or using the document thing straight from the computer.  Anyway, I don't know how to change the size of the pictures I scan.  I'm just going to have to call her and have her come back over and show me some more stuff I guess. 

Drag, people taking their clothes off, aye?  I'll wear tank tops, but I won't wear shorts.  My legs are awful.  Thin, boney etc. 

Wish, I'm glad to see you posting.  We miss you when you don't. 

Alex called last night.  He's going to make the appointment with my doctor.  He gave me the phone number to another old Native American friend of mine, whose name is John.  Actually John used to do healing ceremonies on me and called down a medicine man one time from the UP in Michigan, who took a water spirit out of me.  John is very involved in the local tribe here (which is Pokagon).  I talked to John for quite awhile and will probably go visit him Saturday morning.  Then, another Native friend of mine called, named Joe.  He was a very good friend to me before, then he moved out of state.  Alex had talked to Joe and gave Joe my phone number (which was alright with me of course).  So, I had some good talks yesterday. 

Today I have to take a shower in a little bit, wait for my landlord to pick up the rent, pay some bills and do a little grocery shopping (and get some gas-yuck).  I want to get this all done by noon so I can eat lunch before going into the ASO this afternoon.  I hope you ladies have a good day; Queen, I'll be waiting on pins and needles to hear about how your visit went.  Take care of yourself!  And all you other ladies too.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #63 on: June 03, 2008, 08:59:19 AM »
Drag: Yes im talking about El CReepo...lol...im gonna get my summer but im gonna prolly end up driving down there to pick them up at the end.....but i need and deserve a break...noone EVEr comes to get my kids.. ;D ;D

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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #64 on: June 03, 2008, 01:46:15 PM »
Wini, you look very very frail in that photo.

I was

Wendy, when my brother's gf set the whatever up for me to scan pictures, the picture settings are small (the size that fits on avatar).  I don't know how to make them any bigger.  And when I went to photobucket, it uploads (if that's what you call it) off of the document thing on the computer, so I don't see what the difference is between using that or using the document thing straight from the computer.  Anyway, I don't know how to change the size of the pictures I scan.  I'm just going to have to call her and have her come back over and show me some more stuff I guess. 

I'm not sure how to make them scan bigger without being there. The difference with posting via photobucket is that later on you can come back and modify the message by deleting the picture in photo bucket. Ithink if you upload it straight into AIDSmeds you only have a limited time to modify pictures.


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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #65 on: June 03, 2008, 08:24:48 PM »
I finally made it back. The trip was frustrating because we got lost and couldn't find the damn place even with the directions they mailed me. We found one part of UPMC which is hella big and asked one of the nurses for directions, found the place with no problem.

I get there 30 minutes late for the appointment but the doctor saw me anyway which I was grateful for because if they would've told me I had to reschedule, I would've had a heart attack on the spot. After doing the usual, found out I have a temp of 100 though I feel fine. I will check it later on, right now I just want to fall over because I am so tired. But I figured I would post before I try to wind down some. When I saw the specialist, he asked me why I was there. I told him about the lesion the other specialist saw and how he ordered the MRI, never told me what he saw but referred me to him. He seemed not to understand why I was referred to him. He assured me that it wasn't cancer but could be the beginning stages of liver disease but doesn't want to say for sure until he gets the blood work back.

What I feel is played by the local specialist. If the one in Pittsburgh saw there was no reason for concern then why the hell did the local specialist want me to go to Pittsburgh in the first place? Yeah, bitching bu happy everything is alright. So back on the Atripla I go tonight and will continue to take it now that I know it could be my hiv med or the other meds. I guess the specialist in Pittsburgh was use to seeing this and told me not to worry so I am not. My next appointment back in Pittsburgh is on August 5th.

I am tired as hell so not sure if I will check back later, if not then I will be back tomorrow. But tomorrow is focused purely on rest and some relaxation. I am turning my phone off, matter of fact, I have my extended away message on now and it's going to stay on til Thursday. Nothing I can do about the cable getting shut off, it was important for me to get to Pittsburgh today so it wasn't like I blew the money for the bill. Sacrifices had to be made and as much as I love my cable and internet, I will have to do without til I can get it caught back up.
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #66 on: June 04, 2008, 03:13:53 AM »
I am sorry that your trip was so frustrating Queen- but glad it is not cancer - at least you know this?

I doubt if I can help as I am new to HIV

but it was because the HIV meds I am on - which are the same as Atripla but in two tablets - can damage your liver in susceptible people that they made such a fuss about my liver when I was honest and said I drink alcohol regularly ...

And this is why I was given scans and was referred to a liver specialist and why they will monitor me all the time I am on this combination of HIV meds.

In fact for me I was found to have NOTHING AT ALL wrong with my liver!!! And in fact an ordinary ultra sound can apparently tell as much or more about the state of your liver as a MRI.

I was referred to both but the Ultra sound told them more and what it told them is that I have a perfectly normal liver :)

However as I said - because the HIV meds we are both on, can cause liver damage this may not be for a few years down the line I am told - so I will have to be monitored regularly al the time I am on thses meds.

But I am appalled that you have had to go through all this and all that travelling just to be monitored. For me on the National Health Service in the UK, to get an ultra sound or an MRI scan or to see a liver specialist, I only have to go to my nearest bigger hospital which is only 20 miles away!!!

And I can have this monitoring as regularly as I like or need - my next routine check up on my liver is in 4 months!!

I know that in the US the system is different - that your health care is not state run and you have to have insurance...........but I thought that if you did have insurance the treatment you would get would be as good - or better - than ours?

Well that's what all the American TV programs about hospitals in the US we seem to be forced to watch on our TVs seem to suggest ( i.e that your health care is better than the UKs)

But from what you say has happened to you, and Betty with her knees recently, it does not seem like it is at all to me.

As I get regular access and within easy traveling distance to any doctor or consultant I want. Even if they do not think it is necessary I only have to ask and insist, and I can see, within reason, any specialist I feel I want to see and none of it paid for at the point of service by me

As it is paid for through National Insurance contributions that all of us pay by deductions from our wages all the time you work.

But even if you have NEVER worked or paid anything you still get exactly the same access to treatment. As those that pay and do not use it much subsidise treatment for those who never pay for.

The UK health service is criticised a lot here - and I do believe/know  we do have fewer choices of medications, therapies  than might be available in countries without a state system as the state National Health system controls what medications, therapies they offer as a limited choice.................if a med or therapy is not on the list - you can not get it and many with cancer are very upset and campaigning about this as they do not have the choice in cancer treatment than they may have elsewhere

But from what I read on this forum I do not think I will criticises the NHS here as much.
As what you had to go through just to get a simple specialist opinion would NEVER happen here!!

And I am so sorry it has happened to you.

But as I said I am so glad that you have found out it is not cancer

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« Reply #67 on: June 04, 2008, 04:45:34 AM »
hi ladies

shyguy gave me a fright the other day. he was walkingme into town after work and he wanted to go to this embassy to drop off a letter so i told him where it was, right. so we start talking about something else and all of a suddn he goes "Hey are you positive?"
I was speechless with shock, thinking, "WTF? why's he asking, did he hear something , did i hint at it too well. WHY IS HE ASKING!!" so im just looking at him and he repeats "Are you positive" and i keep staring at him like an idiot.  Then he goes "are you sure thats where the embassy is?"
i just started laughing like a fool.  Poor guy was baffled and was asking 'so why are u laughing at me' and i was like 'no im laughing at myself, i'll explain one day'
I was so unprepared for such a question and of course i thought he was referring to HIV status and i was so not ready to go into that discussion in the middle of the street. But i guess i'll hav eto tell him sooner rather than later coz im really starting to like him.

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« Reply #68 on: June 04, 2008, 06:15:39 AM »
Oh how funny Tendai

I think I would have thought Shyguy was asking if I was HIV positive too and so I can understand you thinking that!! But it was funny when I read it :D

It sounds like you two are getting along OK??  and so I do hope it goes alright, if and when, you do feel you have to tell him about your HIV.

Saw Mugabe on an in depth news channel today because he attended a world conference on the world food crisis -

 and it was about 'how dare he go to a conference about food when a lot of his country is starving due to his actions??

' but no one booed or challenged him him while he made a speech - no one at all challenged him, not even the UK or African states - why??

Maybe I can understand why the UK minister did not as most of the speech was saying it was totally the UK/ex Commonwealths fault - and other ex colonial powers - that Zimbabwe is now in the  state it is at present and it has nothing to do with his policies etc -

but totally to do with our present policies towards Africa, aid and what we did in the past!!!

What do you think honestly?? can you tell us or would that not be advisable for you to say??

 - i.e does Zims current position have anything to do with the UK? past or present

- I do understand enough about our 'colonial' history to understand that the 'British empire' onwards,  would have had long reaching effects and it could be a factor and I am happy to hear that it has , as I would just like to understand and plainly I do not, understand what Mugabe means -- or what his reasoning is!!

I listened to his speech in full and I just could not see how this could be affecting what is happening in Zim now?

Nor how the food aid Britain sends to many countries including African countries could actually be making everything worse - which is what he said in essence????

So I understand that the UK minister may have thought that to challenge that speech, as the UK does have a lot to answer for in the past - would not be appropriate and make things worse - so he he did not!!!!

But I am shocked that no one else challenged him either i.e other African powers or ex commonwealth countries.

As to me what Mugabe was saying was so plainly crap!!!

As how can the UK or  any other country be to blame for what is happening in Zim now? - it has to be entirely the total mess this man has made in recent years

But why does no one challenge him when he speaks such total rubbish?  - I can understand why people living in Zimbabwe do not - it most be very scary to even think of doing so?

But why not even politicians and prime ministers etc from other countries who have nothing to fear from Mugabe - do not challenge him

What has this man got that keeps everyone quiet ?

The more I hear of this situation the less I understand ??

Sorry to go on about Zim - I have a friend from there living near me here - and it is so puzzling to me what she has told me - and you -  and interesting too as it was always an interest of mine the history of the so called 'commonwealth' and what we as Britain's were responsible for - as I grew up in the 50s when the commonwealth still existed and have always been interested in oppression and Africa and Asia and our responsibility in this as a nation

I hope you are still managing OK living there

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« Reply #69 on: June 04, 2008, 06:58:06 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, I'm sorry your trip was so frustrating.  Now, are you saying the speciailist you just saw yesterday didn't understand why you were referred to him?  That would piss me off.  I hope your bloodwork comes back alright.  Did you take some pictures?

Veritee, we have cutting edge technology here, but the sad thing is that not everyone has access to it.  If one's not employed, or has no insurance, they're basically screwed.  A lot of these people just wait until an emergency happens and end up in the local emergency room.  It's pitiful really.  With as much money as they charge here for treatment, meds etc. it seems like it would pay for everyone.  I don't know what is going to happen with the elections in November, but hopefully if the democrat gets in there, things will change.  There are way too many people in this country who have no access to healthcare, can't get any meds, and die needlessly.

Tendai, have you thought about telling Shyguy?  You know when the time is right, I know that.  Good luck if you like him.

Today I'm going to do laundry.  I told Alex last week I'd do his, so I'll have some extra to do.  No, we're not involved sexually or romantically.  We've been good friends since the early 90's, that's all.  He spent the night last night and we watched baseball and talked for quite awhile.  I'll be taking him with me Saturday morning when I go see the Native American guy who used to do healing ceremonies on me (John).  It should be a good Saturday morning.  John told me a few things when I talked with him on the phone a couple days ago that I found interesting.  I'll talk about them later.  I know some people might find a few things he told me about when he used to do the ceremonies on me a bit surreal. 

Other than that, nothing else going on. I hope you ladies have a good day.  I'll probably be back later.
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« Reply #70 on: June 04, 2008, 11:03:31 AM »
hi ladies

Queen I am glad that you don't have cancer!!! even though that doc should not have wasted your time, but maybe he was afraid to diagnose? I dont really get it. There're ways of sending results for consultation without sending the patient with them too nowadays as well... oh well, anyway good news, actually great news.

Betty I am looking forward to your reports on runiting with old friends. I always had a thing for native americans, though I have never actually met one, but I like the look. I do have authentic dream catchers in my room, authentic cos they were bought from real native americans but who knows, maybe made in China. It can't hurt can it...

Tendai I think something similar happened to me once when  my heart skipped a beat, not with the word positive though. It is funny...

Mom how are those old lungs  :P. funny story with the hugger. its so sweet when they are so inoccent, which takes me to Viv "I can make it hard, I don't know how"  ;D. I would think that all kids know everything from online porn now, but luckily not all...

I know I am responding in delay to some of you - I am sorry for posting little, I have been tired as hell lately. keep wanting to post but too tired. I think its stress from work cos all I wanna do is sleep

so greetings to everyone - hugs from me for now
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« Reply #71 on: June 04, 2008, 11:59:04 AM »
Drag- I know how you feel, I have been exhausted lately too.  I am not sure why, since I don't have a job?

Ten- That is a funny story, you must have been stunned!  I think I posted this before but around the time I first found out, I used to work with a bunch of guys and they would come in and out of my office.  Well, one day this one guy goes "Hey--"Snow"  How do you spell Hiv?  I paused and said H-I-V and then he goes " Are you positive?"  and then starts laughing and walked away.  Wicked funny joke....NOT!


Betty- That is nice you are helping your friend out.  I would be interested to hear your stories, I used to love going to the pow wow's they held where I grew up.  I love the music with the drum beats and the chanting.

Mum- That must have been so adorable to see with everyone hugging.


Sorry if I missed anyone.  My mind is a mess right now, tomorrow is one of the court dates, I hope everything goes well(for me, not him :)  ) tomorrow.  Take care everyone.

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« Reply #72 on: June 04, 2008, 12:09:18 PM »
Good morning everyone.

Very funny Tendai. I'm sure I would have responded the same way.

Sounds frustrating Queen but it seems like you are on the right track. If the other bozo doc doesnt think he is good enough to treat you. Hell I dont know. I just hope it all works out for you.

I blew my lid yesterday. The manager of the old apartment complex called my house looking for my son. I talked to him instead because my kid doesnt live here. That sorry son of a bitch wants to charge us 147.00 plus keep the security deposit. He said to buy paint and replace the carpet. Well he has to paint anyway before he gets a new tenant and the carpet has mold under it from where their shitty a/c unit leaked all over it. That ass wipe isnt getting shit from us.

Ahhh I'm going to drop it. Even typing about it makes my blood boil. I busted my ass cleaning that place up and now I wish I had left it looking like shit.



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« Reply #73 on: June 04, 2008, 12:47:53 PM »
Ahhh I'm going to drop it. Even typing about it makes my blood boil. I busted my ass cleaning that place up and now I wish I had left it looking like shit.

do you still have the key?  ;)
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« Reply #74 on: June 04, 2008, 01:57:46 PM »
Afternoon ladies:

You know, I've been wondering where in the hell CRISTY is??  Girl, if you're lurking, please let us know how you and Robert are doing.

Drag, I hope you are able to get some rest.  It's not fun walking around and trying to function being zombified.

Snow, I hope the court date works out in your favor.  You sure don't need the crazy SB in your life.

Wendy, I would have read that man for filth.  WTF does he mean wanting to charge money for things that are his fault?  That would definitely make me a little homicidal (or at least wanting to do a battery on his ass). 

Saturday morning (I think I have already posted about this) is when I'm going to see the Native American (John) that used to do healing ceremonies on me.  I would post about exactly what he did, but that wouldn't be cool.  They were healing ceremonies, though, that took some spirits out of me.  And when he called the Medicine Man (Kishko) down from the UP, well, he took a spirit out of me that John couldn't.  It was all pretty wild, and a lot of people wouldn't believe it.  But, I know what happened. 

Today I did Alex's laundry for him.  He's gone for the day though; which is kind of nice, because now I have my apartment to myself for a couple days.  He left with one of his friends and they're going to try to find work like mowing yards etc.  There's nothing between me and Alex but friendship.  I've known him since the early 90's from NA (Narcotics Anonymous).  See, in my daily life, I just try to help out someone who needs it.  I know when I've needed help, people have helped me.  So, I try to reciprocate.  All in all, if I'm alright with myself at the end of the day, that's what counts.  I don't know if that makes any sense.  Oh well. 

I hope you ladies are having a nice afternoon.  I'll be back later.
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« Reply #75 on: June 04, 2008, 02:36:19 PM »
Afternoon Ladies--

I have finally gotten up. And am actually in a great mood. I called my clinic to find out what my viral load and cd4 were from Monday when I had blood taken. I thought for sure with all the hopscotching I have been doing with meds that it would be low but it actually went up. It went from 705 to 775 in just a month, remember ID doc thought the last draw in May was a blip, that's why I had it redone. And I am still undetectable. Last night I went back on the Atripla after getting the news from the specialist in Pittsburgh. I am thinking if I would've stayed on it, it could have possibly gone higher but I am not complaining. My percentage stayed steady at 26.

Since I was gone yesterday, I have to get out and pay my bills today. But I feel rested both my body and mind, I think last night was the best sleep I had gotten in a long while. And with the news about my cd4, I am on cloud 9.

Betty-- Glad you got ahold of Alex. And I definitely believe what you said about the ceremonies. I wish I could see one. I am sure we have Native Americans here but I have only seen one and that was some years ago. I think they are sexy as hell especially when they don't cut their hair. That is such a turn on. No time to be getting that kind of fever... ;) I did snap a few shots while I was there. I have to look at them and see how they turned out.

Tendai--- Ooooh, your posting on ShyGuy has turned into a soap opera to me, not belittling you but it has my interest. And him asking if you're positive is like having one of those cliff hangers that breaks and goes into a commercial. But I am staying tuned in... :D

Wendy-- Take his ass to court. Did you take pics of the place before you cleaned it? Or let him take you to court or your son rather. Pictures speak volumes ya know. I watch too many judge shows.... :D

Veritee--- I don't know why they sent me to Pittsburgh but this specialist seems more competent than the local one.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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« Reply #76 on: June 04, 2008, 04:09:36 PM »
I should have taken pictures. But noooo I thought the guy would be decent.
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« Reply #77 on: June 04, 2008, 07:17:06 PM »
Hubby called DHHR again today to see about the boys' CHIPs and my insurance.  The ever so happy secretary said that she remembers Hubby bringing down the paperwork in person and told the DHHR lady that we were concerned about getting another letter saying that we hadn't sent in all the necessary paperwork.  She also assured us, in her ever so sweet voice, that the Lady hasn't had time to put it into the computer yet, but she would get to it soon.  EXCUSE ME!!??!!  She hasn't had WHAT???  TIME???  It's been 3 freakin' weeks and that's not enough TIME to put the information into the computer???  I mean how hard can it possible be to hit a few buttons for crying out loud!  Thank goodness that the boys hadn't needed to go to the ER for some emergency.  Maybe THEN she would've found the time.  And would someone PLEASE explain to me the definition of SOON!!  What the hell is "soon"?  In MY book, "soon" would be BEFORE 3 WEEKS!  But, then again, that's just me..an impatient, know nothing, non-government worker..who is about to say "screw it", grab my book and a couple bottled waters, and wait for Miss Soon As I Feel Like It to get back to her office. >:( 

I've said it before: quick to take and slow to give.

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« Reply #78 on: June 04, 2008, 08:04:18 PM »
Mum (who sits next to Winni in the "too pissed to think straight" section, with a very mean look on my face)

LMAO Thanks I needed that!


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« Reply #79 on: June 04, 2008, 08:08:02 PM »
Before I forget I found a site online with Texas tenants rights laws. I'm crossing my fingers Mr. I'm An Asswipe Slum Lord screws up.
He has 13 days from the time Aaron turned in the keys to mail us a itemised list of charges and to let us know they will be keeping the security deposit or they can be sued for 100 bucks plus three times the deposit.

I'm not counting on it but it sure would be funny.


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« Reply #80 on: June 04, 2008, 09:37:07 PM »
Hubby called DHHR again today to see about the boys' CHIPs and my insurance.  The ever so happy secretary said that she remembers Hubby bringing down the paperwork in person and told the DHHR lady that we were concerned about getting another letter saying that we hadn't sent in all the necessary paperwork.  She also assured us, in her ever so sweet voice, that the Lady hasn't had time to put it into the computer yet, but she would get to it soon.  EXCUSE ME!!??!!  She hasn't had WHAT???  TIME???  who is about to say "screw it", grab my book and a couple bottled waters, and wait for Miss Soon As I Feel Like It to get back to her office. >:( 
Mum (who sits next to Winni in the "too pissed to think straight" section, with a very mean look on my face)

They only do things on "their" time and never wants to do anything then unless the other shoe drops. But then they don't understand when someone shows up at their office and goes "postal" on their asses. It's not happening to them so why should they care or else they act like it is coming out of their pockets. And when you're done in Wini's section, you could always come to my section, "The say one more thing and I am going to fuck you up" section.....LOL

Before I forget I found a site online with Texas tenants rights laws. I'm crossing my fingers Mr. I'm An Asswipe Slum Lord screws up.
He has 13 days from the time Aaron turned in the keys to mail us a itemised list of charges and to let us know they will be keeping the security deposit or they can be sued for 100 bucks plus three times the deposit.
I'm not counting on it but it sure would be funny.

Girl, count the days down and if Mr. I'm An Asswipe keeps the deposit, I'd be on his ass like grits is groceries. I love when landlords think they have all the sense. Who is thinking of a way to get my own landlord caught up. I like the guy but he sucks as a landlord. He does just enough to pass inspection but if he don't do something about these issues I am having he is going to be in some shit.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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« Reply #81 on: June 04, 2008, 09:42:39 PM »
And when you're done in Wini's section, you could always come to my section, "The say one more thing and I am going to fuck you up" section.....LOL


LOL That is too funny


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« Reply #82 on: June 04, 2008, 09:53:18 PM »
LOL That is too funny

Yeah, it is and I can laugh now but when I am going through it, I think I really do give them that look. It's amazing how quick you get an answer or the look of they are thinking of a "right" answer to give me so I don't jump on their ass. And it's even funnier when the places I go have so called security, I give them the look of, "I got enough whoop ass for you too, Barney Fife".... ;D
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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« Reply #83 on: June 05, 2008, 02:42:36 AM »
Hubby called DHHR again today to see about the boys' CHIPs and my insurance.  The ever so happy secretary said that she remembers Hubby bringing down the paperwork in person and told the DHHR lady that we were concerned about getting another letter saying that we hadn't sent in all the necessary paperwork.  She also assured us, in her ever so sweet voice, that the Lady hasn't had time to put it into the computer yet, but she would get to it soon.  EXCUSE ME!!??!!  She hasn't had WHAT???  TIME???  It's been 3 freakin' weeks and that's not enough TIME to put the information into the computer???  I mean how hard can it possible be to hit a few buttons for crying out loud!  Thank goodness that the boys hadn't needed to go to the ER for some emergency.  Maybe THEN she would've found the time.  And would someone PLEASE explain to me the definition of SOON!!  What the hell is "soon"?  In MY book, "soon" would be BEFORE 3 WEEKS!  But, then again, that's just me..an impatient, know nothing, non-government worker..who is about to say "screw it", grab my book and a couple bottled waters, and wait for Miss Soon As I Feel Like It to get back to her office. >:( 

I hate the phony sweet ones more that the impatient jaded ones; the latter get that way b/c they actually work. There is nothing that gets to me more... I hope you are going to write to her supervisor to tell her that children are not getting healthcare because it takes her 3 weeks to type a form into a computer

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« Reply #84 on: June 05, 2008, 03:32:01 AM »
I hate the phony sweet ones more that the impatient jaded ones; the latter get that way b/c they actually work. There is nothing that gets to me more... I hope you are going to write to her supervisor to tell her that children are not getting healthcare because it takes her 3 weeks to type a form into a computer

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Well, Meow to you too!!!!! *LOL*....Now retrack those claws woman....*pats a seat for Drag*....There's room for you in my "Say one more thing and I'll fuck you up" section.You sound pissed and I was just breezing through before I finally turn in and I couldn't resist saying something. Hope you have a good morning but it's Good Night for me.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #85 on: June 05, 2008, 08:57:35 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, big congratulations on your recent labs!  That's got to be a relief for you.   Yeah, Alex used to have long, black hair.  Now, it's short and grey.  But he's still pretty handsome.

Mum, heh.  I think the DHHR there is probably the same thing (organization) as the social service here.  Here in the god-fearing state of Hoosierville, our governor sold all the social service agencies to private organizations.  Which means whenever you call to talk with them, you don't know if you're talking to someone here or in the Bahamas (seriously).  It delays things (of course, not when they want something from you) and just causes much aggravation.  Also, when something like this is privatized, the employees make bonuses etc. when they can keep someone "off" the system.  So, a lot of people are getting fucked.  It's highly infuriating.  My big aggravation right now is still with the IRS.  So, I'll be taking a seat right along with you, Queen and Wendy in our respective sections.  My section is going to be called "fuck me over one more time, go ahead," for the rest, see my avatar.

Alex was over for awhile yesterday, then went back to the people's place he stays at.  OK, here's the weird thing.  I was reading a Native American book called "Seven Arrows."  When I got done reading it is when I saw Alex at the NA meeting last week, and he put me back in touch with the two other Native American friends I have (Joe and John).  I told John about it (finishing the book then seeing Alex) and he said that's the way things work.  John was the one who did the healing ceremonies on me.  Joe is another friend of mine who gave me a couple things called Kachina dolls years ago.  I'm surprised I still have them.  I had several Native American things, but this guy I was living with destroyed them.  It was like he was jealous of them.  WTF?  (Of course, this is the same guy who threw me down a flight of stairs for no reason).  I used to burn sage, sweet grass etc. until that guy got rid of them.  Oh well, live and learn I guess.

Not much going on today.  Oh!  Tuesday when I went to the ASO to do my volunteer work, the guy I talked to to start doing the volunteer work told me they had someone who was hired in through another agency who would be doing it Mon-Fri in the afternoons.  He said he thought the lady in charge of the volunteering had called me.  So, I was a little pissed.  I drove over there for no good reason.  They should have called me and told me.  It didn't seem very professional.  So, now I have to find something else to do with my summer until school starts again in the fall.  I'll be looking into doing volunteer work somewhere else.  In a couple weeks, I'll be going to a volunteer orientation at one of the local homeless shelters.  So, we'll see what happens with that.   Wish me luck.

OK, you ladies have a good day.  I'll be back later.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #86 on: June 05, 2008, 02:43:18 PM »
Believe it or not my maternal grand father was 1/2 indian.

I look nothing like them LOL




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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #87 on: June 05, 2008, 06:38:39 PM »
Betty- I would be pissesd too, that sucks big time.  What is wrong with people? All they needed to do was call you and let you know.

Win- I hope things work out with the landlord.  He is a piece of crap too.

SB pleaded guilty and got a year, will have to serve 6 months and will be on probation for a year after release.  Most likely he will be out in 5 months with time served.  Hopefully, he gets more time on the 10th.  I have to go to court and see if I can get a modification and a contempt of court.

Anybody watch the THS Channel- Dating Nightmares, the other day?

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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #88 on: June 05, 2008, 09:41:35 PM »
Wendy, yeah.  Usually, by the time the bloodline would have gotten to you, it wouldn't really have been that significant.  Unless of course your mother married a Native American.  They only do back to 1/4 to be able to be a card-carrying Indian.

Snow, I didn't see that show.  I hope SB gets more time also.  But, at least for now, he's put.  Good luck with everything.

Alex will be staying with me for a few days.  There's nothing sexual going on at all; we're just really good friends.  You ladies know if there was anything going on, hell, I'd be shouting. ;)  I just felt the need to help him.  People have helped me and put their necks on the line before, so I'm just trying to give back. 

Anyway, nothing else happening.  I wonder where Queen has been?  Girl, are you there?  You usually post by now.  Missing all the other ladies also-Wish, Cin, Camms (been a long time), Drag (I know you're busy), all the other ladies.  Our own Kristine (Minismum) is celebrating her 15th wedding anniversary today.  Congratulations woman!  Have a wonderful time on your vacation and I want full details when you get back!  Talk to you ladies tomorrow.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #89 on: June 06, 2008, 02:01:18 AM »
Morning Ladies--

I am just doing a drive by on my friend's computer. My cable and internet got shut off yesterday. So, that is why you haven't heard from me. The only reason you're hearing from me now is because I had some drama jump off with my gay bf and his psychotic man. Then he had the nerve to call me the N word, yeah, I lost it but I wasn't provoked to violence. I knew it was said so I would go the fuck off and fight. And I almost did, I got held back. Well I wasn't going to step on their property to whip his ass so I was trying to get him to step in the street where it would've been nothing but air and opportunity. I was willing to show him what the true definition of the N word is.

I am pissed with my landlord because he is still acting stupid and not want to do anything about these damn bugs. I have had it but can't break the lease. I have to put the complaint in writing and call code enforcement. But he is suppose to come over tomorrow to do something, not sure what cause he really needs to bomb all the apartments or tent the damn place. I just want out. Still no sign from section 8.

I just wanted to let you ladies know what happened. I will check in on occassion when I can cause my gay friend who's computer I am on said I could use it once a week to blog. So, you may see me once a week or check out  my blog if that's all I have time to get done.

I love you all and miss you very much and it's only been one day away.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #90 on: June 06, 2008, 07:12:43 AM »
Good morning, my sweet ladies!  Thanks for the shout-out, Betty.  Yesterday was just another day, except for going out to breakfast.  I got laundry done and managed to scrape together dinner.  I'm trying to cook just what we'll eat that meal.  I don't want to have to throw away what we don't eat when we leave Sunday night.

  Tonight is #4's birthday party at the park.  We're having fried chicken, potato salad, chips, and cupcakes.  She LOVES penguins, so I crocheted penguins for all the guests.  And, I found 10 white pillow cases when I was cleaning out the bathroom cabinets - no clue where they came from.  So, i traced pictures on them and bought fabric markers so the kids can color one to bring home.  My mom, for some reason, had a ton of light blue cups with penguins on them, so we're using those.  I did get a phone call from my best friend (the one with 15 kids).  Her #13 (who is 4 1/2) is in the hospital with an appendix attack.  The hospital did blood work, found her white cells were very elevated, and admitted her.  BUT, they've yet to do an ultrasound or an x-ray to make sure her appendix isn't about to burst.  Totally rediculous!

It's going to be a scorcher here - 91 for the high.  We don't normally see 90-degrees EVER, not even in the heat of the summer.  We put window units in the bedrooms yesterday, but there's no where to put one in the living room, so it gets really hot.  Still no word from DHHR.  We'll make our customary 3 phone calls today to see if the information was put in the computer.  Oh, well.  I refuse to let it get me down during my vacation.

I'll try to check in before we leave, but the computer is staying HOME next week.  I'll post some pictures next week when we get back.  Everyone behave while I'm gone.  My love and thoughts will still be with each and every one of you.

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« Reply #91 on: June 06, 2008, 07:34:16 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, that was totally disrespectful of your gay bf.  I'm afraid I wouldn't have been able to hold myself back.  Was he high?  I'll tell you, the guy that gave me herpes (you know who I'm talking about) said the N word when he was talking to me one time.  I stopped him immediately and told him I didn't want to hear that word (yes, that actually happened).  I'm so sorry that happened.   I hope your landlord gets that bug problem under control.  I would hate that.  I'm thinking of you, dear Queen.

Kristine, you're leaving Sunday night?  I hope you have a very peaceful, enjoyable time.  I'm sure you will.  Sorry about your friend's daughter.  I don't understand why they're not taking the appendix before it bursts.  That can be very dangerous, as you well know.

Today myself, Alex and Joe (another Native American) are having a cook-out. Nothing fancy.  I'm not doing the grilling, Alex is.  I have no idea really about how to grill.  I've had this little grill for 2 1/2 years and have never used it. 

It's supposed to be hot and humid today here as well.  It was yesterday.  I have a window unit air conditioner that I got from my parents' house that works very well to cool down this whole place (I live in an efficiency).  Other than that, nothing really going on.  I hope to hear from some ladies today!
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Re: Dating Thread Part XXXV- I Haven't Got Time for the Pain
« Reply #92 on: June 06, 2008, 02:21:40 PM »


Thought I'd share a picture of my Momma when she was in her early 20's and now.


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« Reply #93 on: June 06, 2008, 07:24:00 PM »
Wendy, your mother looks striking in both pictures. 

Where is everyone?
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« Reply #94 on: June 06, 2008, 07:40:52 PM »
Wendy, your mother looks striking in both pictures. 

Where is everyone?

She is a character.

Don't know. I'm home doing a bunch of nothing.  ;D


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« Reply #95 on: June 06, 2008, 08:07:42 PM »
Hello!

I was noticing on some of the dating threads that there are guys who have been told of a females +HIV status and who still didn't use a condom.  I'm just wondering if any of you who have had this happen know if those guys ever became HIV+ as a result of having sexual activity with a woman who is HIV+?  I'm dying to know. 

Before I met my husband, I did date I guy who was HIV-.  We always used condoms, but there was one time when we did not.  He did not know that I was HIV+.  I didn't worry about it too much because my viral load was almost undetectable at the time.  But, since then, I have began wondering if he's ever tested positive because of our encounter.  I'd really appreciate whatever info. you all have to share.

NOTE:  I am aware of the safe sex practices and disclosure guidelines that should be followed, so I won't need a lesson on that.  I just want to know if those who chose to, knowingly have unprotected sex with a female ever got infected due to that encounter or encounters?

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« Reply #96 on: June 06, 2008, 09:02:30 PM »
I have met many hetero positive men who say their only risk factor was unprotected sex with women.


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« Reply #97 on: June 07, 2008, 03:07:28 AM »
Well one person does not make a rule - but my husband was unfaithful - had heterosexual sex - and got HIV and unfortunately then gave it to me.

He swears he only ever was unfaithful just once! he did not know she was HIV, he did not understand the risks as he is a older man - 56 now -  and HIV did not exist when he was a single man - or not in rural UK where we live

I have known him for more than 30 years and with him for 25 so I know him very well and I tend to believe he only had sex with someone else once.............................

 even though the statistics of this make it rare that someone would get HIV from just once. But even if it was more than that once, which I do not think would have been knowing him, he would have had sex with someone other than me very rarely, and I certainly did not have the virus - I was tested when I was pregnant with my daughter 19 years ago and have never done anything that was any risk for HIV before or since

Believe me neither of us have any other risk factors at all for HIV and apart from his hetero sexual encounter outside our marriage. We have been together about 25 years and I have never had any sex with anyone else in this time - and he, that once or if this is not all the truth it would have been at most rarely......he has paid a very high price for his infidelity as he progressed to AIDs before we found out he was HIV

So I am not really sure what your question was/is?

As of course I thought it was obvious you can pass on HIV to a male through unprotected sex if you are HIV + even from one encounter

The statistics may be low but you only acquire HIV on on encounter

And while if your virus load is undetectable, it was my understanding that while the odds/statistics then are low, but it is still possible - as undetectable does not mean no virus in your vaginal fluids but just that your virus level in your blood s too low to be detected by current methods?

And you can have spikes in virus load - say if you are ill, stressed, tired etc - which will go back to undetectable and you may not know about and then you could pass it on more easily.

I now believe for the sake of those women who may come after you -  in some cases wives like me who have no idea their husband has been at risk for HIV and therefore do not have the chance to protect themselves - those of us who are HIV + it is best to use protection - or practice safer sex,  every time, even if you do not tell them you are HIV.

( I reached menopause and not knowing he had taken this risk it never occurred to me I should use a condom etc with my husband of over 20 years - but if I had of known of this risk, believe me I would have, but no one gave me the information I needed to protect myself i.e that he had had sex with someone with HIV)

I feel strongly that I doubt will ever have unprotected sex with anyone - my husband and I have even been told that even we have to use condoms now, to avoid passing resistance between us - so even if my husband dies of this before me which is not as yet unlikely, and I am single again and in new relationships........... if I am ever in another relationship or even casual sex, I will use protection to protect them, whatever my virus load.

Because even just once means I could contribute to devastate someones else's life and family as mine has been - As if male partner's do not know you are HIV, like my husband, they do not know they are taking a risk and may not suspect they have it until years down the line and they are very ill - my husband was seriously ill before we realised - so if they are single at the time it could still affect a future family years down the line.

But I guess you have to make up your own mind on this

And I am not lecturing - I am sure you know all this as you say - but you asked the question and your question provoked an emotional reaction from/in  me - in fact tears - as if only that women had told him she was HIV+ I and my family would probably not be in this situation, as I guarentee the possibility of HIV would have lost my husbands erection straight away!!! As he was in the category of being so ignorent of HIV it would have scared him silly :(

So if you ask the question you can not tell people to not to give their reaction to it.

I am not judging you, I am well aware that HIV people do have unprotected sex and that they do not always tell their partners they are HIV.

Others here have said they have and that is fine........ as I respect that it is their choice

All I am saying is I never will - and I can not pretend I do not wish others would not

But understand it is up to them

I use this forum to explore my feelings about my HIV status - which was a total and overwhelming shock and quite new....... and to get information, opinion, support and advice from those who have been here - HIV + - longer than me

and so if you ask a question like this, as my husband was infected by heterosexual sex and it has devastated not just him but me, children and the wider family, I am very close to my family and they are also devistated by my being HIV  - I am afraid it is impossible to just give you a one line answer i.e yes or no

As I am still trying to come to terms with what has happened and sort out my own feelings around safer sex, disclosure to partners etc and what my husband did combined with this woman not telling him her status did to so many people.

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« Reply #98 on: June 07, 2008, 03:52:21 AM »
my ex BF is positive and I am confident he never had sex with a man. that being said i beleive the chances of a 1 time infection esp with an undetedtable woman are immensly low.

morning ladies

i am laying low cos of work and my arm. its acting up all over again

i hope Tendai's ok, hopefully just busy with SG and being careful...

Today... i am getting my engagement ring.... finally!!! i cant wait to wear it. its amazing, i mean the idea behind it. I forgot to tell you something: Bf has found another PT so we are set at least for another year. It is nothing short of a mircale as there are very few jobs here for foreigners indeed.

Wendy ur mum is beautiful

 Mum hope you have a wonderful looooong 5 days

Snow a year isnt nearly enough but at the rate hes going there'll be more...

Betty how are you knees, you havent mentioned them lately, I guess all these old friends are taking your mind of, enjoy the bbq

my ex is going into surgery sometime soon to remove the tumor in his gut. i will keep you updated. i pray that will be enough to get rid of the cancer.

hope everyone has a wonderful weekend, greetings to Cindy, Wish, Netta, Cristy (all OK?), Queen (when's the cable back on?), Viv, Keeping, Veritee and all the long(er) time no see girls.

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« Reply #99 on: June 07, 2008, 05:02:59 AM »
Thanks drag

Sorry about your arm - but congratulations about the engagement ring and your BF job - great

I really  hope your ex's cancer is cured by this op

Re our infection - My husband as never been interested in men either - I assumed the women was only recently infected with a high virus load or as she was in South America - not on medication - but it is still possible with a low virus load.

I also so hope Tendai's OK??
As I heard things had got so much worse there - he has withdrawn all food aid!! dreadful!!

Have a great holiday Mum

Its a lovely day here in the UK - not raining for a change

And love to all I have not mentioned

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