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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« on: May 16, 2008, 01:43:09 PM »
I think I have to toot my own horn here..lol...I like the name of the new thread, it rhymes and I think we ladies have some things we need to get off our chests. I know I sure as hell do. Still no stimulus check and still no word from the liver doctor on where to go. Now I have to go back to my previous game plan of waiting for Section 8 so I can look for another place and getting this car legal so I can get back and forth to these other specialists. There is not much else I can do for my son at the moment so I need to get my mind back on track.

Not much else going on with me today. Have a good weekend ladies...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #1 on: May 16, 2008, 02:31:09 PM »
Queen, I love the new title.  I'm about ready to call someone in government and tell them to shove the whole stimulus idea up their ass.  I refiled Wednesday (well, that's when I sent it out in the mail), so I don't even know if I'll be getting one or not.  I hope by Tuesday, when your case manager comes to see you, they will have called you about seeing the specialist.  It all sounds so frustrating.  My bff has a punching bag in her basement that she uses all the time.  I think we could use one.

Yes, I could roar right now, truly.  I went to Kroger's and looked at the milk  1/2 a gallon was like $2.79 or $2.99 (can't remember which).  It's ridiculous.  So, I'm not getting one today, needless to say.  I know what I said about the food pantry in the last thread probably sounded like whining.  But damn, off-brand chili that has no beans in it (and other stuff like that)?  Sometimes I think they think poor people will eat anything.

I don't know when the person who gave me herpes will read the pm I sent him; I don't know how he'll react.  I really don't care.  But he is, as someone told me, very passive/agressive, so he'll probably start some off-the-wall thread about something he thinks up in his head to make people feel sorry for him.  He loves to have people stroke his ego.  I just want to kick his ass, so bad.  I would post more, but then he would probably be identifiable, and I don't want to risk getting t.o'd.  But what you said Queen, I know where to vent. 

Well, nothing else to report.  I'm going to lay down for awhile.  I'll be back later.
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #2 on: May 16, 2008, 03:03:58 PM »
I love the new title.

Can't write now - just wanted to say that - Im only now home (21.00) and about to eat

GRRR!
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #3 on: May 16, 2008, 05:09:30 PM »
I called the freaking IRS 800 number and got hung up on after their spiel of we have no information crap. At least my rent rebate was done but I won't be getting that til July. Funny, I mailed them at the same time and my rebate was done on May 6th. So here I sit, broke and stuck like Chuck.

Betty-- You know who should man the hell up and take responsibility for his actions. I know there is nothing he can do but he could at least apologize and beg your forgiveness regardless of the fact no condom was used. He knew what he was walking around with, if you know what I mean. To some I may sound like a hypocrite because I don't disclose and have had sex but at least I used a freaking condom and knew enough to know that the risk was low. Ugh. And I swear if he starts a thread on some bs consider me getting a time out because I will read his ass the riot act!!!!!

Dragonette---No more stinky fruit....*LOL*
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #4 on: May 16, 2008, 07:00:49 PM »
I am back!

I didnt go anywhere, Nothing wonderful like that noooo

My computer crashed. Several hundred dollars later we got the old girl running again.

It will take forever for me to get caught up with the posts I've missed.

Glad to be back.

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #5 on: May 16, 2008, 07:02:52 PM »
Welcome Back Wini. I thought you were doing the campout thing with Comp and Humm. So what happened? You pick up a virus that made you crash? I need your video expertise when you catch up on the reading.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #6 on: May 16, 2008, 07:07:16 PM »
Naa my harddrive just decided it didnt want to live anymore. No clue why.

Comp and Humm canceled that camp out. I've had so much going on here with the kids and work I dont know if I would have had time for it anyway. I usually get to see them a few times a year at least with other social outings so thats ok.  Video expertise? I dont know if I am an expert or anything but I'm willing to help if you let me know what the problem is.

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #7 on: May 16, 2008, 07:12:53 PM »
Aww, hate to hear that they had cancelled the campout. I always wanted to go to one but it was never financially possible. Not really having a problem but bought a dual cam that does video. Am wondering how I can record the video to do what yours does at the bottom. I would like to get some video of the kitties to use as an avy if possible. Teach me ole wise on---Queen of Video.... :D
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

The Royal Blog

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #8 on: May 16, 2008, 07:55:58 PM »
I had to google for the links because I lost all my links when the computer crashed. I found most of them but there is one I really like but cant remember.

What I do is take several photos and use one of the online animators and make several photos into an animation.
Sometimes I play with the individual photos like this recent one I added horns and a mustache and fire but its all from tinkering with them online.

the sites I could remember are:

http://gifsun.org/
http://www.gifninja.com/CreateAGif.aspx
http://www.lunapic.com/editor/?action=help
http://imator.com/
http://picasion.com/

and to edit photos
http://photobucket.com/?special_track=nav_logo
http://www.gifworks.com/image_editor.html


Have fun playing







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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #9 on: May 16, 2008, 08:22:10 PM »
Welcome back Wendy.  Sorry you didn't get to go on the campout and that your computer crashed.  If mine ever does, I'm just screwed. 

Queen, you and I are both broke.  I know it sucks.  I'm going to have to quit smoking in the next couple days, if I expect to keep eating.  Luckily though I have patches, so it shouldn't be too bad.  It's funny to be so broke, I can't even smoke (hey, that rhymes).  My gay bff just e-mailed me tonight saying how he went to Wal-Mart and spent $100.  It's been eons since I've been able to spend that kind of money in a grocery store.  I can't even remember the last time.  Thank heavens someone else knows how I feel.  I guess we can keep bitching on.  It helps.  And oh, I sent a copy of the pm I sent that person to one of the goderators, just in case.  I don't think you're a hypocrite.  You use condoms.  We didn't because of him being poz.  But I agree, he could have at least told me about the herps.  Fucker.

Well, I haven't had an eventful day at all.  I did go to the library to return the two books I finished.  And I got a few movies for the weekend.  One of them is that sorta new vampire movie, 30 Days of Night I think it's called.  I hope it's good.  I love a good vampire movie.  Have a good evening ladies.
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #10 on: May 16, 2008, 10:01:12 PM »
Thank you Betty. I enjoyed 30 days of night. I love scary movies.

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #11 on: May 17, 2008, 03:42:53 AM »
Hi to all

I suppose my thing to get off my chest is the difficulty I have with the format of the dating thread - which leads me to post less than I want to ..
i will try to explain - please understand it is just the way it is for me right now with the format of here - not personal at all

So I have to apologise again for not coming in the women's forum - well the situation is I do want to and I do read it as often as I can - so I guess now I lurk :)

But the reason I do not post is I can not get in here every day as I have other commitments and when I do have computer time I have to use it to do my job on the PNI ORG UK forum I founded.........................

..................so by the time I get into here, things have moved on so much on the dating threads and I just can not keep up with what everyone is doing - the time difference does not help either as I can wake up in the morning to find 20 posts have been made since I last read the dating thread!!!!

Then I feel that it is rude to post without mentioning most people - especially as many are kind enough to mention me even though I have not been around for long - and then I sort of give up because to do such a post the only way I would be able to and address most topics and issues and people in it would be to have this writing/input window open in one browser window, the dating thread in another, go from one to the other and spend more time than I can on it -

Just thought I would explain also that although I am a prolific writer at times I am dyslexic - so bad that unless I checked, altered and spell checked every post I make several times before I send it - then no one would be able to understand what I have put so writing a post takes me and inordinately length of time anyhow.

So I do find the format of the dating thread difficult -

I would personally prefer, like on our PNI forum,  separate threads for different topics, where anyone can join into that topic regardless of who started it and it is not seen as highjacking if you join in on someones else's topic, not just to support them  because you too can realted to the issue or the topic of that thread reminds you of an issue of yours.


This is how we get over the difficulty on forums of if an individual starts a thread it being considered rude or highjacking to join in in a conversational way - we simply have the rule that NO thread can be considered your own except in a section called 'your Dairy/Journal' Every other thread on any topic women are free to join into in a conversational way and completely highjack it with their own issues if needed.

 But I know that on most forums it is etiquette that if you start a topic it is your thread and to use it in a 'conversational ' way and turn it to your own concerns, is highjacking .

So at first because I find the format of the dating thread difficult I have tried to start threads here of my own that I had hoped would lead to discussion e.g about drinking and HVP , but I guess because on here if you start a thread it is your own?

So  they ended up not as a general discussion I hoped for  where others brought in their experiences or opinions, but as my 'issue' thread . That was not really what I intended and if I tried to keep them going or had started lots of other threads it would look like I was trying to hog attention on here out of proportion to others.

And to deal with that - i.e to have a place we can have a conversation on here and not just a load of threads started by individuals on their issues - you have evolved the dating thread!!!

I understand that this is how it has evolved and it suits most ..............so would not try to change anything in an established forum

  • I hope you understand what I mean? - This is not a complaint to you or saying that I am not willing to try to adjust and to learn how to relate on here...
    I was just trying to explain that because I founded a support forum that works another way, and because I have not really used any other forum and my internet time up to finding I had HIV has been almost exclusively on that forum

    I just wanted to explain that I am finding the different way of doing things i.e having a conversation and using the the dating thread to do this - difficult........so this leads me to post much less than I want to



Well having explained - I want to be here and talk  here to all you lovely women so ...................

From now on - I have decided to write it as it comes and if I fail to mention anyone or anyones situation - just believe it is not out of disrespect or not caring, I can only keep in my head a couple of issues at a time, and address a couple of posts at a time.

Veritee XXXX
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« Reply #12 on: May 17, 2008, 04:44:22 AM »
Queen - you said 'Still no stimulus check and still no word from the liver doctor on where to go'

What is a stimulus check and why do they do it?

I ask because as I have mentioned before my HIV consultant was very worried about my liver - it seems if you read my blog, unnecessarily so, as my liver function tests have gone back to normal and my scan showed a completely normal liver!!
I think they worry because I am always totally honest about what I drink and that I worry if I drink anything at all and soemtimes - when I drink nothign but when I first went to the clinic I was drinkign more than usualy because I was usiang it to get through finding out I was HIV , my husband being in hospital and my not getting treated for HIV then so felt in Limbo - I do not drink like this at al now I am on treatment!!

In a way my problem with alcohol is not that I drink a lot more than most social drinkers but because I had an alcoholic dad I worry because now I drink at all...................
And present myself always and to everyone as a problem drinker - yet I have no idea if I am???? most who know me do not think I am at all, and my husband does not think I am either and he known me best and what I drink. But because I was teetotal up to 8 years ago but started to enjoy a dink then,  since then I have worried that I drink and that I may be like my dad!!! So I present to any doctor as if I am alcoholic and they take that and than reinforce my worry

Oh well - gone on about meand my issues again - sorry

Just wondered Queen what this test was ? and if I should have it to be sure about my liver?

Also what is: IRS 800 number - I have no idea what that is either? Is it to do with benefits/money?

I just wondered?

Winiroo - sorry about your computer, I had that last year. I build and repair all my computers ( did a PC technicians qualification years ago) so it does not cost me that much as I only pay for the bits not the labour. But it is time consuming when a PC bites the dust- as usually as well as changing the hardware you have to back up your data, reinstall and reconfigure it and it is that which takes the time. And I have been weeks without a working PC before.

Living in a very rural place I see my computer as my 'window to the world' and hate being without it with the curtains closed even for a day :)

Bettytacy - so sorry about the herpies. Personally I would give him hell, as much hell as you can! Do not let him get round to doing a subversive thread on here just attack first. As someone else said I am sure he knew what he had. You can not have genital herpies without knowing!! and you especially can not have an active outbreak where you can pass it on without knowing. He deserves whatever you can give him. I would join in if I knew who he was!!!

Tendai   - did you get your undies? i ask as you know I have a friend from Zimbabwe who is living here in the UK only about 3 miles from me  - who I met through HIV as she has it too - and she is going to Zimbabwe in November for a visit and goes to the capital often where I believe you work.
So as your post is so unreliable I asked her if in principle she would be willing to get a package to you if you needed?

You probably do not want me to do this ???-

but she is perfectly willing if you live or work somewhere she can get to, to bring a package of undies or anything else you really need to you in November when she is visiting - if you did not want to you do not have to meet her she could just post it through the door of your work or home - that is as long as it is not to far for her when she visits the capital.
 
She also said that if it is not convenient for her to deliver it she has friends who travel thoughout Zimbabwe and she could probably get someone to deliver it - so if you do need anything and can wait till November both her and me would be really happy to buy it and put it in a package for you and she will try to get it to you - just PM or email me me if you want to take it up,

My Biggest Rant

As this thread is for women to ROAR - great idea.
My ROAR is that I do not believe that HIV should be treated in a GU clinic as it is in the rural part of the UK I live

it is not so in every part of the UK - in London hospitals for instance there are separate departments/units for HIV that also provide complimentary medicines etc and are a much nicer environment than we have here in Cornwall

A GU clinic is basically a STD clinic - and it makes me just soooooooooo mad that I have to go their for HIV treatment.

Yes I accept that for most in the UK HIV is sexually transmitted, and as I got it off my husband it was for me too.

But my problem is not this - it is that the clinic is geered up entirely for those with a 'curable' STD, who will be 'in and out' very quickly and will probably not have to go there again unless they have unprotected sex again. It is also a physically terrible building , a 'prefab' well past its sell by date - tucked away so it is not seen at the back of the hospital and has facilities that are completely substandard and should have been long replaced - most STD clinics in the UK are like this!!!!!! due to the stigma I guess?

So the GU clinic is just not geered up or conducive for HIV patients who will have to go regularly to that clinic for the rest of their lives.

And on a personal level

If theses HIV meds so give me a 'near normal' lifespan, I rellay do not want to be siting in that GU clinic every few weeks or months as an old lady of over 60 to my 80s, with a load of young and younger people with short turn STDs - as apart form the HIV clients most of those who use a HIV clinic are young people, men and women  - who have made a 'mistake ' contracted curable STDs and are there briefly for an exam and a  course of antibiotics !!!!!!!!!

I am only 5 years off 60 anyway and at my age I already stand out in that very small and very cramped waiting room - I find it degrading and undignified .......not that older people do not get STDs but believe me I would not, as I know very well how to protect myself and if I did not have my husband I doubt I would bother with sex anyway, certainly not with the bother of a new person.......................so I just would not be in a STD clinic at my age if it was not for this HIV!!!!

and also resent that I have to endure such bad facilities and have to go to a STD/GU clinic for my treatment because everyone else their will be cured very soon and back to their normal lives and sexual activity, but for me I could have another 20 years of going to that awful clinic!!!

They do in fact have a chance of geting enough money to build a new one within the next 10 years - this will help if the building is better it will be nicer to go there -  but HIV will STILL be treated in a GU/STD Clinic by STD doctors, it is this I most object to

As HIV is for life, and it has life changing implications - I just do not think a GU/STD clinic is where this should be addressed anyway

And indeed it is not  - addressed!!! Because none of my consultants are HIV specialist trained in the first place - some may now do only HIV, but they were all trained for STD work - HIV patients do get the good medication available here in the UK from that clinic as we do from all, but what I do not get is any holistic treatment that takes into any consideration how HIV affects me as a person, my relationships, my life and how it will affect the rest of my life...........yes I probably expect too much, btu if you do nto expect and stive to get - you will never have!!

So every time I go there I am 'besides myself' with anger - that yet again I have HAD no CHOICE but to go for my treatment in that degrading place!

it is of course degrading for all to go to a STD clinic that is so substandard - but at least if you have another STD and not HIV, you only have to go their a couple of times - for me it is for life and it makes me mad that where I have to go is Crap!!

ROAR Over

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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #13 on: May 17, 2008, 05:10:06 AM »
From now on - I have decided to write it as it comes and if I fail to mention anyone or anyones situation - just believe it is not out of disrespect or not caring, I can only keep in my head a couple of issues at a time, and address a couple of posts at a time.

but surely that's the case for most of us? I only address the last 5-10 posts, whatever I remembered, it has to be a bit random b/c there are many posters on here. next time they might be others posting and I address them and ignore the others for a bit. don't worry too much about that V

Betty how's the pain? any better? no money is a good as motivation to quit as any, lemonade out of lemons and all that. don't get me wrong being flat broke is no joke to me. but I hope at least there will be a good outcome for you re the smoking.

Win glad to see u, I was a bit concerned to be honest but since others have mentioned a trip I just assumed so.

I'm going to Amsterdam soon to meet a bunch of poz women, most of whom are from Africa, BF is coming along cos there will be other men too. Its back to 15 degrees and rain here. we will spend most of the day on trains - about 7 hours return! its at those times that I curse not having a car. Queen one day we have to get you (and Cristy and anyone who enjoys a smoke) to AMS, not that its not lovely even when you dont smoke but put it that way back when I did it was like finding paradise for me.

I had something on my mind the last day besides the molluscom (which is spreading like wildfire), and that is that my ex is dying. I used to have a BF in Thailand, who is also HIV. Both of us were poz at the time but we didn't know it, HIV is quite pervalent there so it was just a strange coincidence, I was extremely careful with him - I never had any kind of contact with his semen - so I know he didn't infect me, even though it would be easy to pin on him b/c he is the only poz person I know I had sex with, but also as the signs of my infection were there before we met, and I did have unprotected sex, I just dont know any of my unproctected partners to be poz.

Anyway he is dying now, been in and out of hospital over the last 2 years, he is dying from cancer not AIDS, b/c his HIV is treated, that is subsidized there but nothing to do with cancer is, he has a large tumor in his gut, it was diagnosed but he can't afford anything to treat it, it needs to be surgically removed, biopsied, and probably he needs chemo as well. I can't help him b/c even though its way cheaper there, it is out of my financial league. I helped him before with hospital bills but that's something different. He is employed and his employer is understanding, but basically what I am now praying for is that he will die peacefully and not in a tortured endless way. Even though he is an ex, we parted on good terms, and that makes me very sad.

so yeah (sigh).

Ive been hesitant to talk about it cos everyone here has their troubles and I know Queen has her scare so I didnt want to bring up cancer, but it's been weighing on my heart in the last weeks. it also made me realize yet again how fortunate I am to be able to get treated. it gives me a fighting chance, which he doesnt have. corresponding with him is so sad on one hand, and on another I admire his philosophy and strength. I guess that comes with age too eh, things just get more serious, about births and deaths not fun and games.

love you ladies, thanks for lending an ear, sorry it was so heavy this time
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« Reply #14 on: May 17, 2008, 08:25:54 AM »
Good morning Ladies.                       Queen, love the thread title. I don't think you are a hypocrite,you used a condom so....Win, sorry your computer crashed. If our crashed, I would just be without a computer. I can't afford to replace it but my dad probably would.                                                             Betty, sorry about being broke and the sucky food that is offered at food pantries.I think that is so fucked up about the herpes. He should have told you and let you decide. Sorry fucker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!                                                 Veritee, reply to who you can remember. Nobody replies to everyone  but as far as the layout, it is what it is.                                              Dragonette, I researched the molloscum and I was wrong. I did not have that at 14, I think I just had warts. Hope you have a great time in Amsterdam.  As far as the ex, I think it's normal to be concerned.                                                                                                    I have a really nasty cough. I CAN"T smoke cause it makes me cough too  hard. I have a doctor's appointment Monday and a whole list of stuff to talk to him about. If I can just get through work tonight, I will be okay. Anybody I missed, Have a great day. Cristy
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« Reply #15 on: May 17, 2008, 08:50:43 AM »
Morning ladies,

Veritee, usually what I do when posting here is to look at the "topic summary" that's right underneath where I'm posting, so I can remember everything everyone has said, as it's right there.    I don't blame you for not wanting to go to an STD clinic to get treated.  I know how I would feel-probably that people would be thinking, "wow, she sure comes here an awful lot."  You know what I mean.   The IRS here in the US are the "tax people," government employees that Americans send their tax information to.  The stimulus payment is something our awful president thought up to try to stimulate the economy.  It means most people will get free money from the government-it's a one-time thing, and how much someone gets depends.  It's turning into a cluster-fuck.  I'm glad you're posting here again.  Oh, the reason Queen needs to have a scan is because the doctors have found a couple "spots" on her liver.  I'm not trying to speak for her.  She can explain it better than I can.

Drag, the pain is gone, as is the initial outbreak.  I'm really sorry about your ex.  Of course you feel bad.  I think that's normal.  I hope he doesn't have an agonizing death either.  Do they have an organization similar to the Hospice we have here?  They may be able to help when the time comes for that.

Cristy, you're still having problems with that cold?  Do you think it's time to go see a doctor? You don't want it turning into something that will take a long time to treat.  How's Robert's arm? 

Well, as I told Drag, the initial outbreak is over.  I sent copies of the pm I sent the guy to Ann and Jan, just as a precaution in case he were to start anything.  I don't think he will; he doesn't have the balls to.  As someone told me, he's very passive-agressive.   Anyway, I'm glad the initial outbreak is over.  I thought my doctor was going to put me on a constant dose of Acyclovir as a suppresive therapy, but he e-mailed me Thursday night and told me he's going to put me on Valtrex. 

Today I'm going to color my roots and do laundry.  I'll probably watch a couple of the movies I got from the library.  I started to watch one last night (Bowling for Columbine), but of course I fell asleep.  That should keep me busy anyway.  I hope you ladies have a good day.  I'll be back later.
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« Reply #16 on: May 17, 2008, 09:19:42 AM »
Betty, both Robert and I have doctor's appointments on Monday. Robert's arm is healing nicely but I am on the lookout for any new spots that would indicate Staph infection. So far it's just that one spot and it was a poison ivy spot to begin with. I think he just scratched it until it got infected. Thanks for asking.   Later, ladies.    Cristy

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« Reply #17 on: May 17, 2008, 12:51:25 PM »
Well, I didn't do any of what I had planned.  Instead, I was looking at the IRS website.  I found out that what I should have done when I refiled was to file an ammended return.  Instead, I filed one of the 1040's that came with the stimulus information package I got in the mail a couple months ago.  So, I printed out one of the ammended forms.  It's horribly confusing.  And now that the tax deadline has come and gone, there's no more free tax preparer places.  I filled it out the best I can, but I'm sure it's not right.  I'll tell you all, I'm about to give up on the whole fucking stimulus thing.  It just depresses me every time I think about it. 

So, I've done nothing.  I will probably watch "Bowling for Columbine" in a few minutes.  The forums are kind of boring today.  I guess everybody's busy. 
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« Reply #18 on: May 17, 2008, 12:54:47 PM »
Afternoon Ladies---

Nothing going on with me, going to try to finish my hair today. Um, let's see..There is no penalty for not responding to everyone's comments. Hell, there are times when I do not comment on what anyone says and just talks about me. Don't feel you have to stop posting and lurk because of that, Veritee. As for my liver, Betty pretty much covered it, I have a lesion whatever that is. At the moment, I don't know anymore than that.And Dragonette, you shouldn't have held back what you wanted to say because of what I am going through.

This thread is for bitching, ranting, screaming or whatever it is that has you pissed off, upset or whatever. Or even if you don't have anything you want to bitch about maybe you want to ROAR because something good has happened. The point is to share your thoughts.

I am out of here, got to get back to my hair while I feel like doing it. Have a good day everyone.
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« Reply #19 on: May 17, 2008, 01:47:45 PM »
My sweet fellow TBs, all the love I can muster goes out from my heart to each and every one of you this fine Saturday / Sunday (for those on the other side of the ocean).  Our dance concert is tonight and I am nothing but exhausted.  I'm not cut out for endless late nights and unearthly early mornings.  The electric company decided to schedule a power outtage for this morning from 8am - 10am.  Not sure what brilliant idiot thought that Saturday morning was a SMART time to cut people's power, but I'm sure some of us would like to thank him personally - with our hands grasped tightly around his neck!  Where we live, when the power goes out, we have NOTHING - including water.  We have well water and the pump, of course, is electric.  So, no electricity means we can't cook, can't get phone calls, can't wash hands, brush teeth, or flush the toilet.  Hubby got up at 6:30 and cooked us all biscuits, bacon, and eggs.  We had to wake the kids up so they could eat and get washed up before the power went out.  There was a book fair at our church starting at 10:30, so if we didn't get washed up before..well..just...ew!  Also, the last time we had a scheduled 2-hr outtage, it turned into 6 1/2 hours!  Thankfully, it went out at 8:10 and was back on by 9:50.  Good job brilliant idiot!

My mom has been watching the 3 kids who don't dance this week while Hubby, #5, #1, Mini, and I have been in rehersals.  I called about 9:30 last night to tell her we're on our way home.  She sounded really funny and I thought something had happened to the kids.  But, she had just gotten off the phone with my dad.  Thier dog, Kandi, whom they had for 14 1/2 years had just died.  She jumped up on the couch next to my dad, then stopped breathing.  When he realized that her breathing was getting shallow, he just petted her and let her go.  He wrapped her in a blanket and laid her on the in the guest room.  They burried her this morning at sunrise next to their dog CoCo who died just after Christmas 2006.  She wasn't sick and had just been to the vet on Wed.  She'd been having breathing episodes and was going for an x-ray on Monday to check for congestive heart failure.  I'm just glad that dad was home and mom didnt' have to walk in and find Kandi dead by herself.  We haven't told the kids yet.  We'll tell them after the concert.  Mom wanted to do it, but didn't think she could, so i told her that we would tell them tomorrow before church.  We'll just tell them she was old and her heart gave out.  We DON'T want to tell them she died in her sleep - our Aspie babies would NEVER sleep, or get scared if anyone in the house fell asleep.  They understand "old" and "death" go together.  They don't need any details.

Betty: am I reading this right?  You got herpes from someone on the forum??  Not sure how I missed that one.  I didn't know you'd met anyone from this board, except, oh yeah, yikes!  I hope the meds are helping and you're doing better.

Cristy: I'm glad Robert's arm is doing better and isn't infected.  Poor lilttle man.  Let us know what the doc says on Monday.

I called Quick Care yesterday to get an antiviral and steroids called in for my poor lungs. I had to leave a message and they said they'd call back in 24hrs.  Well, suprise, suprise, 28hrs later I haven't heard a word!  Charge me $131 because I was there too long, but don't call me back with a prescription for something that will may make me better!  I can't believe I'm saying this, but I hope I get rejected soon so I can go see a real doctor.

Every one of you make today the best day possible!  I'll talk to you all if not tomorrow, then on Monday. Much love!
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« Reply #20 on: May 17, 2008, 01:54:19 PM »
Oh, I forgot to tell you all how my last labs came out.

My tcells are up to 139 from 122 and I am still undetectable.
I'm ok with those numbers. I wish the tcells where going up faster. Guess I'm not bouncing back as quickly as I did when I was younger. LOL
I'm tired often but other than that I am mostly ok.

I got my stimulus check. Bought a couple of shirts and a couple of things for the baby for when she is at our house. I put the rest in the bank to cover my movie rentals and for emergency money just incase I need to use my ATM card.

I found my son a new apartment yesterday. He will be moving out of the ghetto and closer to my house. I am so pleased with what I found I could just dance a jig. Its a one bedroom with 720 square feet with washer and dryer connections a fireplace and a private balcony for 595.00 a month plus utilities.

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« Reply #21 on: May 17, 2008, 06:12:36 PM »
hi ladies

am back from Ams, it was great. we just went back and from the house where the meeting was to the station, walking, but we didnt see anything apart from that.

i showed Snow's chain and everyone was wow, it's really pretty.

there were lots of beautiful children & babies there, all so well behaved, it was amazing. some of them are sadly HIV infected. there was also a woman who stays in a chronic hospital for HIV+, she is on some oxygen machine as her lungs only work very partially, she needs to be on it for life. they found her on the street in a coma when she stopped breathing - that's how she was diagnosed. she's such a lovely lady.

Betty, I have finally figured out what the stimulus is. i thought it was a tax return previously. what a headache. I hope it works out with the new forms.  Bowling for Columbine is a hard movie to watch. we have Sicko here but I am scared to watch it - dont want to get too upset. we have our share of Sicko stories here on the forums so its not like Im completely oblivious.

Cristy glad Robert's arm is on the mend.

Queen I hope the stimulus works soon for you too - and for everyone else who could really use it.

Veritee I'd hate to go to an STD clinic, even though HIV is sexually trasmitted, it doesn't affect the genitals, it's a completely different type of disease. so I don't see the logic of treating it with STDs.

Wini congrats on your new numbers. what was the reason the dropped? did you go on a med holiday? and about your son's new place, his current one sounded like such a dump. sounds great - can you find me a place, the market here is awful.

Mom sorry about Kandi the dog. at least she didn't suffer, we had to euthenize ours... its always so sad. how dumb and dumber about the medical service. How is Mini's brain fog? I hope better, she really is on some strong meds.

that's it from me tonight - feeling better, esp after sharing about my ex. at the moment I did, I felt unburdened, it really does help. so thank you :-*
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« Reply #22 on: May 17, 2008, 08:13:46 PM »
Evening ladies,

Queen, what are you doing to your hair?  Are you still taking out the braids?

Mum, that power outage sounds like a disaster.  I'm so sorry to hear about your parents' dog.  It sounds like she died in peace, which is always a good thing, but it doesn't ever seem to lessen the hurt.  You all have my condolences.  It's probably going to be very hard to tell the kiddos.  Good luck.  And yes, how I got the herps was from someone on these boards.  I really can't (or don't want) to say who, less I would get banned.

Wendy, congrats on your numbers going up.  It seems that when numbers dip below 200 it takes forever for them to come back up.  Your son's new apartment sounds wonderful.  When will he be moving in?

Drag, what exactly was Ams?  A getaway for HIV+ people?  I like things like that.  We used to have an organization that had things like Christmas parties for poz people.  There's none of that now.  The feds have cut so much money from ASO's, it's ridiculous. 

I slept for about 3 hours today.  I'm not as upset as I was earlier.  I just wish the whole stimulus thing was better prepared, thought through.  But, what can I do.  I might go to the local IRS office and see if they can figure out the whole mess with my situation.  That's what they're there for, right? 

I'll probably do my hair tomorrow and do the laundry Monday.  Tomorrow afternoon is an NA sisterhood gathering.  I'm looking forward to that.  There are some strong women, just as there are here. :)  All you ladies have a good night.
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« Reply #23 on: May 17, 2008, 09:35:27 PM »
Wendy-congrats on the numbers going up, they will continue to go up :)

Mum-sorry to hear about your parent's dog. At least it sounds like a peaceful death. Sounds like your are terribly busy this weekend, but it sounds like fun too!

Betty-sorry to hear you got herpes. that's terrible, but with meds, there shouldn't be a problem.

Drag-your trip sounds like fun! I know they are doing the cruise for poz people in the fall, and I would love to go, but I have no money :(

I am now on my fourth day of atripla and I think things are going well. The only thing that I really have noticed is that my appetite has been suppressed. I haven't finish a full meal, nor have I done my usual snacking since before I started. I am very much ok with that because I thought it was going to make me gain weight, I would much rather it help me lose weight!!
Other than working, not much is going on with me right now. Hope you all have a lovely evening!
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« Reply #24 on: May 17, 2008, 09:46:11 PM »
Aaron moves into his new place this Friday. We paid for him to move in early so we could get the dumpy apartment back into the same condition it was when he moved in. Don't know if I can but we are going to try.
He has a small hole in the wall where someone stumbled and hit the flimsy sheetrock. That wall has been spackled over before so covering another hole wont even be noticeable.
His carpet has had water leaked on it from the crappy a/c unit and of course they have used the floor to flick their cigarette ashes and what ever else him and his friends where smoking. Plus he spilled ink on it. So I doubt it will do much good but we will try to make it look decent. I want to bug bomb the place before moving his crap out of it. I hope that it will help keep his new place from being infested.

Texas has pretty good prices for housing compaired to alot of other states. But I got really lucky with this find. Apparently the complex rarely has an opening.

My numbers where low because I decided not to take meds for a couple of years. It was stupid. I wont do it again.
I had done it once before in the late 90's with no change in my tcells but this time I wasn't so lucky.

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« Reply #25 on: May 17, 2008, 09:51:48 PM »
Betty---I did some sew in. I think I did it right this time because I got complimented on it shortly after I finished it when I went to the store. I was thinking I would take some pictures of myself later on tonight since I have a cam now. The stimulus thing is only stimulating my frustration, I blogged about it. Then earlier today I blogged some more but more on a comedic kind of entry on cultures, blacks and whites. I figured I have done a lot of whining and moaning lately. I guess you will have to read it and form your own opinion but I warn you, I did smoke a joint before I wrote it.... ;D

Dragonette--I'm glad you enjoyed yourself at your group thing. And I wish I could sample some of the good green that is over there. I would probably have the munchies for days and scouting some booty. ;)

Pink---Glad you are handling the Atripla well. I don't think it affects my appetite one way or the other. I just know when I smoke the good green, I raid the fridge.

Wini---Thanks for the links. I am going to check them out. Congrats on your numbers too. Glad your son has moved to a better crib and closer to you.

My right calf and foot has been aching for the past few days. I'm not sure if it is the rain or my diabetes. One minute it aches so bad I have to rub then the next it goes numb. Eh, it's always something.
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« Reply #26 on: May 17, 2008, 10:18:51 PM »
LOL Does that mean we should light a bowl before reading it?

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« Reply #27 on: May 17, 2008, 11:41:09 PM »
LOL Does that mean we should light a bowl before reading it?

I will leave that up to the individual.... ;D
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« Reply #28 on: May 18, 2008, 02:55:27 AM »
Ok, I was bored and decided to play with my camera. Then I got bold or maybe it was the good green and decided to post my pic. Don't talk about me too bad, I know I look like I am ready to whip somebody's ass. What can I say, I never claimed to be photogenic. Here is another pic I was fooling around with.

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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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« Reply #29 on: May 18, 2008, 08:20:53 AM »
Morning ladies,

Queen, I love your pics.  I don't think you look angry.  I have a webcam but have no idea how to install it.  I'm going to have my brother's gf come over sometime and show me how to do that and use the scanner on my printer.  She's the computer geek.  Watch your foot aching though.  Does it tingle and have like sharp pains?

Pink, I'm glad your meds are working out for you. 

Wendy, good luck cleaning up the apartment.  That's not a job I would like.

Well, I'm feeling better this morning.  After I eat breakfast I'm going to do my roots.  I suppose I will go get some milk.  When I stopped by the store Friday, I looked at the price of milk and just got disgusted.  Then this afternoon I'll be going to that get-together with other ladies from NA.  That's always good.  There are a lot of personalities there, though, but we all get along.  Tonight my brother will be coming over so we can continue watching 'The Wire.'  I think we're almost done with season 1.  (he gets the DVDs).  I never did watch it from that far back.  It's very good though and McNulty was getting into shit way back then.

You ladies have a good morning.  I hope everyone else is doing well-Camms, Cindy, Wish, and everyone else I forgot to mention!
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« Reply #30 on: May 18, 2008, 08:25:01 AM »
Drag - I am so sorry about your ex. I can feel how painful it is for you and can understand why. I know I can not help in anyway but just wanted to say I am so sorry.

I wish I could go somewhere to spend a day or two with others with HIV . Despite meeting a couple of people I have met few women and I still feel very isolated and have lots that I would want to explore face to face  - you live in Europe? is this organised by an organisation I could get involved in here in the UK? i.e what is this Ams?

Your point about the STD clinic is so apt i.e 'Veritee I'd hate to go to an STD clinic, even though HIV is sexually trasmitted, it doesn't affect the genitals, it's a completely different type of disease. so I don't see the logic of treating it with STDs.'

Up till now I had been thinking my complete anger that my treatment is at a STD clinic is about HIV not being 'curable' and affecting your whole life in so many ways - but from this discussion I now realise that this is part of it too. HIV does not affect my genitals at all - and I do not even have thrush. So when I go their everyone else is getting their genitals looked at and treated ( and it is temporary and curable too for them ) but s with HIV we have never even had our genitals looked at at all, and it is our whole body, our whole health and well being and in some cases - my husbands for instance - about whether we live or die !!................................

This is just not an illness for a STD clinic - but if I say that their NO ONE AT ALL out of the staff understands - they just seem to think that I am in denial that I got it through sex and it is sexually transmitted - they just do not get my points!!

Thanks everyone who explained about the 'stimulus' we have heard about it on the news but it was not called that, I hope it helps a bit with the finances.

Winroo - glad your numbers have gone up. Mine were about like yours before I started meds and although I did not have any opportunistic infections like my husband now I have been on the meds for a month I realise that I was actually feeling pretty crap - I have so much more energy now. For me that is understandable as if my body is having to fight so hard all the time against this virus with no help, I can not possibly have mush energy left for anything else! I am guessing that now I am having help this leaves me with more resources for other things, it definitely feels this way for me  - I hope as they go up you will feel like this

Pink Beu
- glad the meds are going OK . My combination is the same as yours but in two separate tablets - and I had the suppressed appetite for a while but it has gone back to normal nearly - still eat a little less at each meal - now I have been on them a month

Minimum - sorry your lungs are still so bad - and where do you live that you have to pay so much for an out of hours service and then they do not call  you back. what do you mean that you hope you are rejected. is this a health insurance thing and if you get rejected you get better care/ as it does not seem like you are getting good care now to me ??
I know I am sooo lucky living in the UK because all my health care is free at the point of service.

we do and have paid for it via National Insurance contributions through our wages and both Barry and I have worked a lot and paid a lot as you pay more the more you earn. But if you can not pay you still get it for free, so we never have to worry and that's great!! I am sorry it is not like this for all . it is the one very good thing about living in the UK

Its a lovely Sunday - hot for here so I am off to do some gardening

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« Reply #31 on: May 18, 2008, 09:49:37 AM »
hi ladies,

ok first off AMS is short for Amsterdam... sorry i never thought that would cause confusion... so no is not the name of the org. they are called positive women of the world but it is a very small local organization pretty much run by 2 women who do everything, its just a way for poz women specifically non-Dutch (so, foreigner, mostly immigrants and asylum seekers) to get away from the very hard conditions that most of them live in and for one afternoon just sit and relax and have a bite and a chat. it was started by a woman who was also an asylum seeker back when she was still in the center for these immigrants, she's had an awful time here but now her life is looking up. the group is completely local and grassroots with very little funding. it's not a support group as such, it's barely an organization...

perhaps there is something similar in the UK. I think that the only way to meet people locally (which I haven't been able to) is to try to organize something in the area b/c only people in big cities are lucky that way... maybe thru the hospital, by hanging up notices, or thru a branch of a bigger aso.

Queen I like your pic and the writing underneath, made me laugh.

Pink - good luck with the meds and glad so far so good. i wish i was on something to supress my apetite (not too much though).

Betty glad youre not in pain anymore.

Thanks to all of you about the kind words re my ex. today I was also crying b/c my parents cat has died (very stupidly and painfully as a result of a series of vet errors during a routine tooth cleaning)... did I say PMS? not that i compare my ex to the cat, I am sad b/c my parents are sad and also for the cat. I know my ex is much worse but I am sad for both things. he is suffering and I can't help him. my parents are sad and I cant help them and they were helpless to help the cat even though they tried and spend a lot of money. What can you do?

Im kind of tired and run down blah so I will be short and send out greetings to everyone else - Snow, Win, Keeping, Cristy, Tendai, Wishful, Camms, Viv, Netta, Mom, Cindy, and all the regulars and irregular posters here. hope for a good week, for all of us.

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« Reply #32 on: May 18, 2008, 10:58:04 AM »
Good Morning Ladies. I am just enjoying a lazy Sunday morning. Everyone else has gone to church but I very rarely  go so am sitting here playing on the internet. I feel a little better today, not coughing so bad. I even managed to smoke a joint this morning so that made me happy.                                                                                      Queen, read your blog, love your picture here. Your camera takes good pictures.                                                                                  Pink Beauty, I have been on atripla for a while now and have found my appetite to go back and forth. Some days I have to force myself to eat and some days I eat everything I can get. I have gone from a size 18 to a size 14 but I am happy with that. The nurse at my doctor's office suggested Ensure to make sure I get the nutrients I need. I also take prenatals and they help.                                                                   Betty, the price of food here is ridiculous, just like gas. Everything is becoming more expensive but you get smaller portions and our foodstamps got cut to $100 per month.         Glad you are feeling better, hope you have a great time at the NA sisterhood meeting .    Win, glad you found your son a better place. And closer is better , too.    Your numbers sounded kinda low to me until I read that you had taken a 2 year holiday so actually they are not that bad.           Veritee , I agree that HIV is more than just an STD, It affects our hole body, mind and soul . I go to an infectious disease clinic. You have to be referred to go  there. Maybe you could find a specialist in your are.  Hope you get lots done in your garden. We are waiting for the peas to start producing.                                                          Dragonette, glad you got to go meet with the other poz women. Hope the PMS eases soon. That is one thing I don't miss at all!!!!!   Get some rest. Everybody else, hope you have a great day.                  Later, Cristy

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« Reply #33 on: May 18, 2008, 12:09:33 PM »
The lowest my tcells have been was 3 somewhere around 1994. I bounced back up to 600 or something only to fuck it all up again messing with drug holidays.

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« Reply #34 on: May 18, 2008, 01:45:19 PM »
OK, I just wanted to clear something up.

If you all remember, about 3 or 4 months ago, I screwed a guy at an NA convetion.  The man I had the one-time fling with had no visible signs of anything, and we used a condom.  He also informed me he has Hep C, and though I don't know of a single case of Hep C transmission via hetero sex, the reason I'm saying this is because we both laid out our cards. 

When I was thinking about this yesterday, I felt myself going into a conundrum.  So, I e-mailed my doctor and asked him "could it have been possible that I got herpes from the guy I screwed one time at an NA convention 3-4 months ago that I used a condom with?"  His answer was "the chance that you got herpes from the man you had the one-time fling with, using a condom, is about 1/2%.  The chances you got it from the guy you were having sex with every other weekend (without a condom) is 99 1/2%." 

The reason I'm saying this is because I think I mentioned the infector was the only person I'd slept with in 4 years.  I remembered yesterday that this was not true.  So, I'm just keeping myself honest.  Have a good afternoon ladies.
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« Reply #35 on: May 18, 2008, 01:59:58 PM »
Afternoon Ladies---

I wouldn't hold it against you, Betty. I actually forgot about the guy at the convention and it doesn't matter since you KNOW who did it. I am just chilling and am surprised that I am even up considering I didn't go to bed til almost 6 this morning. I was just having a bit of fun with the kittens and the camera. I am still trying to figure it out and it's hard trying to take a pic of yourself even if it has a time. Finding the right angle posed a problem or it could've been that I was high... ;) ;D

As for my feet, it just started but I am considering calling my doctor tomorrow, the primary and the clinic nurse of my ID doc. It seems to be getting worse to the point my toes are hurting and I find myself constantly rubbing my feet. I didn't check my sugar yesterday at all and was munching heavily, nothing sweet but things like shrimp.

I really hate being broke and have stopped looking in my account for my stimulus check. Though I could use it now, one of my hearing aid batteries just died on me and I don't have any more. I know the other one will soon be going out. Good thing I have captioning on my tv, myy roomie is going to have to talk loud today.. :D

It's a wrap for now. I will check back in later...
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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« Reply #36 on: May 18, 2008, 02:23:00 PM »
Hey Everyone-
My oldest son and I just got back today from a camping trip with the cub scouts. The first night was miserable and rainy and I slept in my car and last night was nice enough to sleep in the tent, a little cold but bearable.  He had a lot of fun so that is all that matters.

I haven't gotten my stimulus payment yet either.  At first I thought I was supposed to get it around the 9th, then the 16th but I haven't gotten anything.  I had actually got a shut off notice for my electric because we have electric heat and the bill is outrageous in the winter.  My case manager was going to see about getting me emergency money but couldn't do it until I had a payment plan set up.  But I couldn't set up a payment plan until half of the bill was paid(about $550).  The shut off was for the 17th and I thought I would be able to pay it by then with my stimulus check but obviously that didn't work.  Finally, Friday my SO came up with some of the money and I called to make a payment plan.  Do you know this heifer actually told me I was going to have to pay over $1000 for my electric for the next 6 months?  I said my total bill is $1100 total, yes but I calculated what electricity you are estimated to use, would you like me to calculate it without?  DUH.....if I can't pay $1000 for a couple months of service, what makes you think I can come up with it every month?  I was so frustrated last week I thought I was going to stroke.


Uggh!  I got a call from my sons father this weekend.  I thought it was my mother because of the area code and someone came on the line and said someone wants to talk to you. He wanted me send him some pics of my son and give him my address so he could write him, nope sorry, not happening.  He thinks he is only going to get 2 months, I hope he is wrong.
Drag- Sorry to hear about your ex and your Moms cat.  Sounds like you had a nice get together with the ladies.

Betty-  Sorry to hear about your outbreak.  I got that back in the day when I got HIV, hurts like a bitch.  Sorry that guy didn't have the balls to tell you about it.  I totally hear you on the food bank food, I had gotten a box that had a frozen meat something in it.  It was oval shaped and had the white plastic wrap around it, when it was cooked half of it looked like turkey and the other half was dark brown, i have no idea what the hell it was, it totally grossed me out.


Queen- I like your pics.

Win- Good luck cleaning up the apartment, your son is very lucky, you do so much for him.

Mum and cjc- I hope you both are feeling better and Mum I hope the recital went well.

Sorry if I missed anyone.

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« Reply #37 on: May 18, 2008, 04:56:17 PM »
Just checking in after cleaning up the house basically by myself once again. I swear it get frustrating and wanting to move doesn't make it any better. Snow, I can relate to how you feel with your electric bill, I go through the same thing with the gas company. I hope your ASO can help you out. Mine could only make one payment for me since I am on their rental assistance program and I am still a month behind on my payment plan. But it is getting warmer and using less gas so I hope I can get it caught up. I do not plan to stay another winter here. And the arrival of stimulus checks is a joke at best. I am glad I didn't plan on paying my bills with it. I have a plan for it.

Betty- Girl, you need to download Yahoo messenger and let me walk you through setting up your webcam. It is doable and rather simple. I am sure it came with an installation disk, most do. It's not like I have anything better to do either.. ;D

I plan on cooking some steak and fries. Something quick since cleaning has made me kinda tired. I'll check back in later.
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5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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« Reply #38 on: May 18, 2008, 11:55:38 PM »
Hi! I am just checking in. Spent most of the weekend trying to stay cool. It has been SOOOOOO hot here and my air condintioner decided to stop working.... :'( Vivian (my dog) and I spent most of time at my parent's house. That's all. I skimmed through the posts. All is good for the most part. Talk to you all tomorrow!

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« Reply #39 on: May 19, 2008, 03:17:31 AM »
hi guys

hope everyonehad a good weekend.

wendy - good to see u back. at least u got aaron out of that place he was at. good luck with the cleaning, dont envy u there..

queen - i hope the doctors finds out whats wrong with your feet, it could be the diabetes..and the pictures are great. i dont know when i'll get the nerve to post mine. id u mena u sewed in your weave by yourself, i didnt think that was possible :D. u should think of doing people's hair at home or something, make a little extra cash..

drag- the molloscum is spreading? oh no, have u seen anyone about it yet? i hope its not painful.  glad u had a nice weekend meeting people and all. and sorry about the ex, hopefully he's not suffering all that much. and sorry about the cat. u're really sensitive u know that? :-*

pink - i'm glad u're tolerating the meds well

CJC -  glad Robert's arm is doing better

Veritee- thanks for the offer to send underwear. i found some finally.  theres a shop here where my little sister swear she will never be seen shopping in coz the clothes are so hideous. i managed to get some before they were finished, there were only a few left. nice comfortable cottons. i understand your anger about the STD clinic, i hope u can find somewhere better to go to.

Betty - if that scumbag starts anything in the other threads he'll certainly wish he hadnt.  at least the pain is gone now..

snow - sheesh that bill is really high, its about Zim$250billion  :o :o :o

mum -hope u're feeling better

i went to my aunts over the weekend. napoleon's moved in clothes, shoes, blankets, underwear etc. he even brought a tv, radio and dvd player and a fan from the other wife.  she wrote him this pathetic letter saying how sorry she was that she wasnt the right woman for him and how he shouldnt forget his son and how she needed his help moving to a new place and paying rent for the first month, really sad. my aunt said 'good for her, now she knows how i felt when she took him away from me'. i didnt ask her why or anything just kept quiet :-X, none of my business. she sure doesnt want anyone interfering, i was told she said' its so nice waking up with your husband and asking waht he wants for breakfast for him"  ::). we'll just leave her alone. its like drag said, 'when the dick is up the brain goes up the ass' or something

12 zimbabweans were killed in south africa in xenophobic attacks coz of rising prices etc in south africa. my older brother is there and so are three of my cousins. i have no idea how they are. i'm so worried :'(

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« Reply #40 on: May 19, 2008, 08:25:49 AM »
Morning ladies,

Snow, is that lady at the electric company serious-$1000 over the next six months?!  That doesn't sound logical to me.  I hope you can get some help with that bill.  I hope SB gets more than two months also.  That'll get him out of your hair for awhile. 

Queen, will you be able to get help replacing that battery for your hearing aid?  It seems that it wasn't that long ago that you were having trouble with your hearing aids.  Oh, I figured out why the webcam wouldn't set up the first time I tried to do it.  I opened one "help" window and my computer told me that the program that sets up the webcam isn't supported by Windows Vista, which is what I have.  It says it was made for the previous Windows programs.  So, it won't work.  I suppose I should tell my gay bff so maybe he could get his money back for it.   Now, I'm not trying to diagnose you or anything (of course, that's up to your doctor), but with the trouble you're having with your feet, I'm wondering if you're developing neuropathy.  I have it and used to have the pain that you mentioned.  It felt like severe tingling, needles and pins etc.  I take Neurontin for mine, though I am on an extremely high dose (2400 mgs a day).  Most people aren't on that high of a dose.  If it's still bothering you, I'd say get in touch with your doctor.  I sure hope section 8 comes through soon for you.  I used to be on my ASO's rental assistance programs, but I've used them up.  If it weren't for section 8, I would be in the homeless center.  I barely scrape by every month with section 8.  I know you know what I mean.

Viv, I'm sorry about your air conditioner.  I know what it's like to not have it when the temps get up there.  It's miserable.  I hope you can get it fixed soon.

Tendai, wow 12 Zimbabweans?  That must be so scarey; it would be to me.   I'm glad you were able to find underwear.   I think you're right to mind your own business concerning your aunt.  If you told her how you really feel, you'd probably risk her anger. 

Speaking of underwear, I have to do laundry today.  I'm also going to go sit at the local IRS office so they'll help me with the ammended tax return; it's very confusing.  I'm sure they'll be packed, so I anticipate a long wait.  But wait I'll do.  I know it's just $300, but hey, $300 is a lot of money to me, as I'm sure it is to all us ladies here.

Yesterday's NA sisterhood meeting went well.  We're going to have a couple upcoming things.  One is called a speak-a-thon.  That's where we get different recovery related topics and have different people speak on them for 1/2 hour that will last about 7 hours (with a break in between of course).  One of the topics that seemed to be hot we'll be using is called "talking clean, living dirty."  We're also going to host the annual Unity Picnic.  It is as it's called; meant to bring together the different ethnicities in the program.  It's always a success. 

Nothing else to report right now.  I'll be back later.  Have a good one ladies.
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« Reply #41 on: May 19, 2008, 02:23:25 PM »
Man, I swear the IRS don't know what the hell they are doing. I finally reached a person from the number Betty provided. He told me that those of us on disability are the last ones getting processed and even though the site has a date provided, those are for people who normally file taxes. So now I guess I won't be getting mine until the first or second week of June. I told the man that they should put that on the website because people(those on disability) are thinking that they will get them on the dates they see on their website.

I called the liver specialist to see what is the hold up with where I am suppose to be going. She confirmed that it would be Pittsburgh but they can't give me a date until they receive a referral from my primary doctor. The nurse said she would be calling my primary to get the referral and call me back. I probably won't be hearing anything back today since it seems like my primary doctor is never in in the afternoon. I just got off the phone with my ID clinic nurse, my vl load is still undetectable which is good though my ID doc thinks my cd4 of 705 is a mistake because I missed a week of meds.

I am feeling frustrated and just want to bang my head.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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« Reply #42 on: May 19, 2008, 02:29:22 PM »
Hello ladies. Haley <grand daughter> spent the night with us last night.
Fortunately Billy <my honey> didn't have to get up and go to work early.
I got up at 6 am and went to work then had to go get Aaron <my son> and take him to register for an exam tommorrow.

I was checking my bank records last night and noticed the bank had a service charge of 12 dollars on this months statement. So I was like WTF? I checked back several months and they have been charging me 12 dollars since October of last year.
I went to the bank and asked why. Found out that since I wasn't getting Aaron's SS check direct deposited anymore they where charging me for some stupid reason.
I told the lady I wanted my money reimbursed or I was going to cancel my account.
After talking to her manager she said they could only go back 2 months.
Well needless to say I'm pissed at the bank. I'm waiting for that 24 dollars to get into my account and I'm going to close my account.
If the bank is going to charge you something and not tell you it feels like theft to me.

I don't have an extra 96 dollars to spare on bank bullshit.
They switched me to free checking. Dumb bitch says well you wont be able to use online bill pay. I've never used online bill pay. Why the hell would I want something I don't use? Apparently I wont get free checks anymore. Which I also never used.

<shakes head>

Banks suck.

Anywho, the baby just left with her mom so I have the house to myself.
On a lighter note I played with Google earth and found a picture of my house.
Pretty fun...


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« Reply #43 on: May 19, 2008, 04:32:32 PM »
My house is on google maps and google earth - with a satellite picture on both - one very close up so you can even see my car and the horses in the field and the sheds and outbuildings - and I live in the middle of nowhere :o

We used to feel really 'safe' because we live up an unmade track and while it fairly close to the village no one would suspect anyone lived up my track.

So there was never any chance at all of us ever getting burgled/robbed for instance as no one would know the house was there and when I was totally alone in this house for months on end when my husband was at sea I never feared anything because no one but my friends would find it, so I never even used to lock my car or my house doors.

But now anyone with a PC can look at our village see that there is an isolated house up the track on the moor with no one about and zoom into an areal view of our home the outbuildings and our fields that surround it

I love the internet - and the way it enables me to communicate with people from all over the world  - but some things are not so good

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« Reply #44 on: May 19, 2008, 07:06:40 PM »
Evening ladies,

Queen, the IRS is just very, very frustrating.  I hope your ID doc gets the referral done soon, so you have something to tell your case manager.  If you bang your head, I'll come bang mine next to you.  That might win us a couple free trips to the nearest mental ward.  I have a friend who's been trying to get on disability for the past couple years and his doctor tells him it wouldn't be therapeutic for him.  He says the next time he sees her, he's banging his head in her office to see if that convinces her.  I don't know why I just told you that; just know, you're not alone.

Wendy, I would close out my account also.  It doesn't seem even legal that they could be charging you for something they didn't tell you about.  And their reasoning makes no sense.  I belong to a credit union and they're great.  I used to belong to a bank, and they were some bitches.

Veritee, there have been satellites outside for years that have been able to monitor people's houses.  It all sounds very Jetsons, I know.  Yes, the internet is good in a lot of ways, but I suppose one could find out anything they wanted about someone, which in some cases wouldn't be good.

Well, I did laundry today, came home, put it away and went to another local food bank.  The quality of the food was a little better this time.  Then I came home, ate and went to the local IRS office.  I hadn't mailed the ammended return yet; I wanted to talk to an agent.  The agent told me not to file it.  She said I should have come to them before I refiled with the second return. (like, how the fuck would I know that).  I'm not in trouble or anything.  She looked online and told me someone was assigned today to my case.  So, whatever. 

Queen, it sounds like we people on disability are being treated like 2nd class citizens, having to wait until after everyone else gets their stimulus payments.  Which sucks.  And it's unfair.  But, what can we do.  I do agree though, that the IRS's website should have something stating that about disability recipients.  I'm sure a lot of people are still waiting, not knowing.  When and if I get mine, I'm going grocery shopping.  I've been eating macaroni and cheese and hot dogs since last Wednesday.  And I'm tired of it. Grateful to be eating though.

Other than that, nothing else today.  Tomorrow afternoon I'm headed back to the ASO.  You ladies have a good evening.
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #45 on: May 19, 2008, 08:34:19 PM »
You'd think people on disability or those living below the poverty line would receive their checks first.
It certainly would make since to give money to those who truly need it before those who already have money in the bank. They'd be spending it the quickest and thats what the government wants.

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« Reply #46 on: May 19, 2008, 08:49:29 PM »
Good evening ladies. Hope everyone had a good day.  My  and  Roberts  doctors appointments went well . Dr J said Robert's arm is healing nicely and that was just the right thing to do: drain the boil. He now has had all his immunizations until he is 12. Dr J said he is right on track except he weighs 63 pounds and is 46 inches tall. He is just a stout little fellow and constantly asks for food.                                  My appointment went well. My CD4 is 570 and I am undetectable. He said I just have a cold and recommended  Robitussin for my cough. He did give me some Lunesta to help me sleep. I took one about 20 minutes ago and we will see if it helps me sleep. We went by Goodwill and I found a cute summer dress for $5 and a brown polo shirt for Robert.                                                                                                     Snow, how the hell do they expect you to pay that?  I hope SB gets more than 2 months so ya'll can have a break.     Ladies , I'm done for the night , will respond to everyone else tomorrow. Goodnight.  Cristy                                                                                   
You'd think people on disability or those living below the poverty line would receive their checks first.
It certainly would make since to give money to those who truly need it before those who already have money in the bank. They'd be spending it the quickest and thats what the government wants.
           I agree

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« Reply #47 on: May 20, 2008, 03:52:13 AM »
morning ladies,

I got my period (5 months since we started trying to get pregnant) so i was not feeling too well, today I am home b/c a friend is getting married smack in the middle of that day so i have to prepare for that, do my hair etc. it feels wierd.

Win, I have had the same with my bank. They've been chargin me 8 euro per quarter just to have my account, not telling me either. I switched from my cheaper account so I could have a credit card and a few weeks later they sent me a very fancy letter from HQ denying me that - cos I dont make enough money, hehe stinking foreigner, you're good enough to upgrade to a "professional" acount for not good enough for a credit card. I shouldve swicthed banks a long time ago but I have so many direct deposits and direct payments (everything works that way here), I am not bothered. But you know what, reading you, I AM bothered. I will do it, why the hell not? I always have to wait for the shit to really hit the fan before I do something - it took me more than 2 years to switch my idiots of a GP & dentist for example.

Betty, at least there is an IRS place to drop by, here everything is automated and if a human answeres they are completely cluless b/c they are outsourced, they know nothing about tax. So that's the stimulus check, giving citizens money so they will spend it on the economy, just brilliant. It's disgusting that they put the disability last, but not surprising.

Veritee, I hear you about the google thing, it is creepy. But you are not alone there anymore, and your area in general is very tranquil, and there are a lot of lone houses too sprinkled about.

Snow, that sucks about the gas. I hope together with SOs contribution you can pull it thru. (shakes head). they just raise the prices of basic goods further and further and then wonder why people can't pay. About SB - would it be possible to get a restraining order?

My gas bill is huge too - it was avaraged at 127 Euro per month last year but this year we were heating like crazy b/c it was so cold, and we were sharing (last year, I spent a lot of time at my BFs and showered there and at the gym), so I expect it to go up to about 200 Euro (around 350$) a month. That is for the whole year, as it is averaged there are no peak months in the bills. I will definatly never attempt living without central heating again, not only expensive but frigging cold.

But here I am complaining again when in Zimbabwe things cost way more than in Europe and the salaries are but a fraction... I read about the riots in SA Tendai, you must be so scared. Have you heard from him?
 They are around Johannesburg I dont know if your brother is there. sorry I have not been good with emails in the past days, just with work picking up and me being tired I don't find the time. I don't manage my time very well either. But at least here in the forums I can keep in touch with a few people at once. I also read that the opposition leader Tsveringai (I am sure I wrote his name wrong, from memory) is coming back for the new elections despite the fact that the gov't has send a hit squad of 18 killers after him before he left. I pray that he will not be assassinated. Let's put it that way, I pray for that and that rigging the new electios fails miserably, but if the old turd just did everyone a favor and disappeared down the drain, would be the perfect solution.

Queen, good luck with the appt. I guess you will spend your stimulus on getting there - there are a lot of things I want to say about that but all of them angry and sad but I guess I have had enough of a menstrual rant today.

Cristy, good about Robert's arm. In the pictures he doesn't look chubby. congrats on your #s.

Cindy, where are you? How are you?

Hugs to everyone, all the beautiful strong women on here
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Re: Dating Thread XXXIV: I am woman, hear me ROAR!!!!!
« Reply #48 on: May 20, 2008, 04:12:11 AM »
(((Tendai)))
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« Reply #49 on: May 20, 2008, 04:41:36 AM »
thanks Drag, i needed that :-*

 


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