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Author Topic: I know I'm at Risk  (Read 1789 times)

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Offline Crazydecisionmaker29

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I know I'm at Risk
« on: May 28, 2008, 04:30:46 PM »
I was with this guy sexually that I knew when I was 22 and we hook back up after 7 years. we was together once sexual . after not talking to him for 2 weeks pior I went to the doctor the following week. I found out he gave me a std. I was cured but the doc told me to call him and let him know and i did that. I found out he haven't had a checkup in years so now i sit here worried and scared out of my mind. I cry everyday because I don't sleep around it been almost a year since I had sex before him. now I have to go get a HIV test in 3 weeks . the doctor told me to come back in 6wks but I'm going back in 8wks is that a good Ideal or should i wait until 3 or 6mths? I still communicate with him but I really don't want to because he still talk to other woman after I TOLD HIM what he gave me and he goes on like it never happened. I don't even think he got check out. However I don't care I just Hope my HIV test come back NEGATIVE so i can go kn with my life and try not to make that mistake again.

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #1 on: May 28, 2008, 04:36:23 PM »
Before jumping to the worst conclusions please clarify what you actually did with this fellow sexually. The only thing you would have to be concerned about is if you had unprotected anal intercourse. So please tell us what actually happened so that we can make an evaluation of the situation.
Andy Velez

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #2 on: May 28, 2008, 05:04:42 PM »
Crazy,

I'm going to add unprotected vaginal intercourse to what Andy said above as I believe you are a woman.

The earliest you should test (if you have had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse) is at six weeks, as the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by then. A six week negative MUST be confirmed at the three month point.

The window period is three months and there is no need for a six month test.

Please read and abide by our posting guidelines, found in the Welcome Thread, which you're supposed to read before posting. I deleted the post you left in the Just Tested Poz section of these forums. Please do not post in the forums meant for confirmed positive people again. Thank you for your cooperation.

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« Last Edit: May 28, 2008, 05:07:04 PM by Ann »
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Offline Crazydecisionmaker29

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #3 on: May 28, 2008, 10:47:55 PM »
I apologize, I did not read the guidelines I just posted because I just really needed someone to talk to. However, thank you for reconizing I'm a girl I didn't specifie that so I'm at the wrong. Also Thanks for your reply, I will go to the doc in three weeks just to make sure.  so you are certain that it takes 6wks or I should just wait until 3mths.
Crazy,

I'm going to add unprotected vaginal intercourse to what Andy said above as I believe you are a woman.

The earliest you should test (if you have had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse) is at six weeks, as the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by then. A six week negative MUST be confirmed at the three month point.

The window period is three months and there is no need for a six month test.

Please read and abide by our posting guidelines, found in the Welcome Thread, which you're supposed to read before posting. I deleted the post you left in the Just Tested Poz section of these forums. Please do not post in the forums meant for confirmed positive people again. Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann


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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #4 on: May 28, 2008, 10:51:23 PM »
Ann said:

The earliest you should test (if you have had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse) is at six weeks, as the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by then. A six week negative MUST be confirmed at the three month point.

The window period is three months and there is no need for a six month test.


Which seems pretty clear to me. You can test at 6 weeks but should that result be negative then it will have be confirmed at 3 months. The window period is 3 months.

MtD

Offline Crazydecisionmaker29

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #5 on: May 28, 2008, 10:55:02 PM »
First I would like to thank you for your reply and then tell you I'm a woman. I had vaginal intercourse and oral sex with the guy. now I'm worried out of my mind I don't know when to take the test or should I even get tested and just go on like it never happened. What should I do? [quote author=Andy Velez link=topic=21133.msg270819#msg270819 date=1212006983]
Before jumping to the worst conclusions please clarify what you actually did with this fellow sexually. The only thing you would have to be concerned about is if you had unprotected anal intercourse. So please tell us what actually happened so that we can make an evaluation of the situation.
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #6 on: May 28, 2008, 10:56:02 PM »
I know you're a woman. Was the vaginal intercourse protected or not?

MtD

Offline Crazydecisionmaker29

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #7 on: May 29, 2008, 09:31:57 AM »
Yes it was unprotected
I know you're a woman. Was the vaginal intercourse protected or not?

MtD

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Re: I know I'm at Risk
« Reply #8 on: May 29, 2008, 10:17:01 AM »
Crazy,

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Please do not automatically assume that because he gave you an STI, that he also gave you hiv. As I said above, the other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv. You will have to test to find out what your hiv status is and six week is the earliest you should test. A six week negative is unlikely to change, but MUST be confirmed at the three month point.

Please learn from this experience and make sure your partner is wearing a condom before penetration occurs. There are also female condom you might like to look into. They give YOU the control over condom usage. Click on this link to learn more: female controled methods

Good luck with the testing.

Ann
« Last Edit: May 29, 2008, 10:18:54 AM by Ann »
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