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« on: May 11, 2008, 05:06:57 PM »
I have been fully faithful for 25 years to my wife ,no affairs or other but one year ago I meet this older lady out of town at a bar . We went t my hotel room she rubbed her vagina anginst my penis no penitration I was drinking . Might have been some vaginal fluid I am sure . The she mastrated me with here hand after she put it in her vagina and she liked her fingers. Her panties were on just dropped .We also did some open mouth kissing pretty intense  I am worried sick I just developed some gland swelling and sinus congestion ear pain am I at risk of having hiv . I just need some piece of mind can you offer some help Thanks

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« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2008, 06:26:47 PM »
Mike,

Mutual masturbation is not a risk for hiv infection, even if she had vaginal fluids on her hand. Rubbing genitals together without penetration, known as frottage, is also not a risk for hiv infection. Neither is kissing.

In short, nothing you did - or was done to you - put you at risk for hiv infection.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: help
« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2008, 06:13:34 PM »
I have recently developed a cold sinus no fever but swollen lymph nodes in my arm pits and groin really worried do I have hiv I have been to strip clubs a couple of times got nude table dances do I need tested I am usually healthy

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« Reply #3 on: May 19, 2008, 07:07:35 PM »
Mike you do not need to test. HIV is not transmitted via nude table dances in strip joints.

Sinus problems are very common and affect the healthy and ill alike. They are not related to HIV infection. If you feel ill see your doctor.

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« Reply #4 on: May 19, 2008, 09:46:00 PM »
Mike, it doesn't matter what your mind is incorrectly seizing upon as something to worry about. There was absolutely no risk whatsoever for HIV transmission during the incident you're concerned about. As Matty has advised you, see your doctor if symptoms persist. They have NOTHING to do with HIV. It's just your mind putting everything together ALL WRONG.

Really.

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Re: help
« Reply #5 on: May 24, 2008, 02:39:32 PM »
Last time I will ask I know I am beatindg a dead horse but I am worried sick I was given table dance and she rubbed vagina againt my crotch w/ out panties Then put here bresy in my face Shee also fingered now I have pain in testicles and groin lymph area some night sweats no fever , some swelling in arm pits had a cold sinus congestion and feeling a little better started gettin general feeling bad after 3 weeks after exposyre , Please steer me right do I need hiv tested I am worried sick

Ps thanks for allthe imput your guys do do you take donations Plese lets put this to rest I know I worry alot but the symptoms are odd and  feel lousy Thanks

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« Reply #6 on: May 24, 2008, 03:02:48 PM »
Mike,

You've already been told that this type of activity is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Unless you've been having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse or sharing needles with these women, you've not been at risk. Got it?

You don't need to test over this no-risk situation. If going to strip-joints while married gives you these feelings of guilt, maybe you should seek counseling about it. We cannot help you with that here.

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« Reply #7 on: May 24, 2008, 04:10:50 PM »
I guess you are right ii do have guilt the feeling and illness groin pain are real I have not had sex with anyone but my wife. I guess I just dont understand my symptoms they are odd Thanks for awnsering my questions I guess its a hard disease to get from the comments not passed on easily i have learned something Thank you

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« Reply #8 on: May 24, 2008, 07:40:41 PM »
You're just a dawg like a lot of us guys here. But lugging around guilt and anxiety is not a love tribute to your wife. It's poisonous in a relationship. You did what you did. It's just a part of your history now. See it, accept that, take a breath and move on with your life.

You don't have any problem with HIV. If your symptoms persist just discuss them with your doctor. This is absolutely NOT an HIV situation.

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« Reply #9 on: May 27, 2008, 04:58:44 PM »
Guys
           Still feeling ill no fever pain in groin achy hips just feel not myself I know you said I didnt have a risk do symptoms come and go one day feel ok 2 days later achy. I am going to see doctor tomorrow are there any home test for hiv to put my mind to rest Thanks

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« Reply #10 on: May 27, 2008, 05:47:29 PM »
No, ARS do not happen one day off and one day on. They show up they are going to for a week or two and are gone. But you're not having ARS because you weren't at risk.

Discuss them with your doctor. As we have unequivocally and repeatedly told you, this is NOT an HIV situation and testing is NOT necessary. Period.

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« Reply #11 on: May 30, 2008, 04:40:43 PM »
1 more question 10 months after the 1 st encounter the frottage incident i gave blood I wasnt even thinking about hiv would they have notified me if I was positive last time I will bother you Thanks

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« Reply #12 on: May 30, 2008, 04:42:24 PM »
Yes. When you donate blood the Blood Bank will test all the samples it receives. Obviously they notify people who have tested positive and often arrange for formal clinical testing.

MtD

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« Reply #13 on: May 31, 2008, 11:45:35 AM »
Tested neg at 5 weeks after nude lap dance I know i am no risk from the dance i jst want to be done w/ this thanks for support i guess if everyone could get it from lap dnaces everyone would be infected Thanks

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« Reply #14 on: May 31, 2008, 12:56:14 PM »
Stop "guessing" and worrying. You have no cause for concern about HIV.

Give it up and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #15 on: May 31, 2008, 06:54:29 PM »
If my symptoms were hiv I would test positive just one last dumb question Thanks

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« Reply #16 on: May 31, 2008, 08:00:46 PM »
If my symptoms were hiv I would test positive just one last dumb question Thanks

Your question is not so much dumb as incomprehensible. Perhaps you can rephrase it.

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« Reply #17 on: May 31, 2008, 08:28:08 PM »
so since i tested negative i am negative

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« Reply #18 on: May 31, 2008, 08:38:44 PM »
Yes. You are HIV negative.

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Re: help
« Reply #19 on: May 31, 2008, 10:37:53 PM »
so no more testing done The stripper deal no risk last time I will post

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« Reply #20 on: June 01, 2008, 06:47:49 AM »
Mike,

If you've read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned. You have not had a risk.

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Re: help
« Reply #21 on: June 08, 2008, 03:55:00 PM »
I saw my doctor still have alot of anxiety he tested me again at six weeks Iam sure it will be neg I have to see a therapist to get over the guilt just didnt understand the whole thing when i test neg at 6 weeks i will not need any other testing i will not post again

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« Reply #22 on: June 08, 2008, 05:20:38 PM »
Mike,

You won't need further testing because you have not had a risk.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #23 on: June 09, 2008, 04:47:08 PM »
I hear you loud and clear, still worried  if she got vaginal fluids on my pants It was a nude dance she was pretty agressive  I went to bathroom and penis touched fluids would that be a risk

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« Reply #24 on: June 09, 2008, 06:39:45 PM »
Mike,

You weren't at risk. End of story.

I'm giving you that time out you were warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #25 on: July 11, 2008, 04:35:25 PM »
I tested neg at 6 and 10 weeks which i didnt need to but was scared to death ( not informed) i went to doctor he confirmed everything you guys said . If you dont have penetration you can" t get it. I do have poly myalgia but no hiv I did learn alot Thanks continue to inform others

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Re: help
« Reply #26 on: July 13, 2008, 01:49:46 PM »
no feedback

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« Reply #27 on: July 14, 2008, 09:02:19 AM »
no feedback

What's there to say, Mike? You didn't have a risk and your negative test results are no surprise to anyone.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Stripper Please anwser need to stop worrying
« Reply #28 on: February 20, 2011, 09:01:20 AM »
i recently had a stripper give me a lap dance she stuck her tounge in my mouth several times kissed and licked my face . I am scared I got some disease is it possible to get aids or possibly hepatitus. I know she sais she had a fatty liver after we talked later scared to death. I didnt know what it was
« Last Edit: February 20, 2011, 09:21:54 AM by mike3500 »

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« Reply #29 on: February 20, 2011, 10:53:27 AM »
First of all, I have merged your threads here. In the future please follow our rule and keep all of your entries in this same thread.

You have been coming here long enough to know that the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Period.

So nothing that you are worried about now has any risk whatsoever for HIV transmission. Period. We only focus on HIV here. We do advise anyone who is sexually active that they ought to at least annually have a full STD panel done. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

As far as HIV is concerned you are worrying needlessly. Cut out the drama and get on with your life. 
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« Reply #30 on: March 04, 2011, 04:29:14 PM »
I just have a hard time believing the mind can make you think you have a disease, weight loss and worry . I feel guilty , I dont want to be the first from getting kissed , You just hear many opinions so penetration is the only way!

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« Reply #31 on: March 04, 2011, 05:36:29 PM »
Fortunately doubts and fears are not facts.

And the facts of the situation clearly indicate you were not at risk for HIV. Period.

Do yourself a big favor and stop opinion-shopping. All you'll end up doing is coming up with a lot of junk to feed your worst fears and all to no good purpose. 

HIV is not your problem.
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« Reply #32 on: March 08, 2011, 03:48:38 PM »
SO EVEN IF GIRL WAS HIV POS THERE IS NO WAY YOU GET HIV FROM A FEW DEEP KISSES ? i WANT TO BE 200%  SURE JUST WORRIED SICK .

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« Reply #33 on: March 08, 2011, 04:43:54 PM »
You do not have an HIV concern from kissing.

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« Reply #34 on: March 08, 2011, 05:10:49 PM »
I hear you even if there was blood and cracked lips ?

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« Reply #35 on: March 08, 2011, 05:15:22 PM »
I am not sure if blood was invlolved didnt notice , just puzzled

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« Reply #36 on: March 08, 2011, 06:29:28 PM »
It's a fragile virus and not transmitted via kissing including when cracked/chapped lips and possible bleeding is involved.

If you come back with more of this what if worrying you are going to get a Time Out.

Get on with your life and stop this unnecessary drama.
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« Reply #37 on: March 17, 2011, 05:39:51 PM »
I am still stressed losing weight probably from worry , not questioning your stats are from hiv = and hiv - couples last time kissing regardless of the situation in a non transmission method I will seek phsclogical help if I cant let this go Thanks

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« Reply #38 on: March 17, 2011, 06:04:13 PM »
That's right. Kissing = no risk. Period.

 
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« Reply #39 on: March 17, 2011, 11:43:16 PM »
Mike,

You know what? Your questions about kissing are so unbelievably insulting that they don't even warrant an answer. Wrap your dick up when you fuck someone and that's all you need to do.

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Peace of mind
« Reply #40 on: August 05, 2012, 11:26:10 AM »
Hello
           A couple weeks ago had encounter with escort she masturbated me I had a few beers rubbed her vagina on my penis I think I would have know if there was penetration . Just paraniod Do I need tested I am married dumb stuff

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« Reply #41 on: August 05, 2012, 12:16:04 PM »
Please do not start a new thread every time you have another question or thought - regardless if you think your questions are related to each other or not. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Additional threads will be merged.

If you cannot find your thread, click on the "Show own posts" link in the left-hand column of any forum page, under your name.

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« Reply #42 on: August 05, 2012, 12:51:34 PM »
You've been coming here long enough to know as it says in the opening thread to keep all of your entries in the same thread. I've merged your latest with your old thread. This is the only thread you should be using.

And yes, you are again worrying needlessly. Only unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse are confirmed risks for HIV transmission. Cut it out with the drama and get on with your life. No risk again.
Andy Velez

 


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