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Offline Male28yearsold

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Some thoughts about this forum
« on: May 05, 2008, 09:38:32 AM »
Hi,

this is my first post here. I found your site a few days ago and I think you are doing a fantastic job here, giving information and helping people with their fears. However, to a newcomer like me (this is the first time I've thought about possibly getting hiv) the advice you give seems so straightforward that it feels a bit diffucult to believe when in a horror state about maybe being infected. I don't doubt your professionalism in any way, but I guess it's just the controversial info that makes me and probably some other people too confused. For example you say there's no risk in getting hiv through blowjobs or rubbing genitals together (there's this f-word about this action that I can't get to my head) and at the same time a doctor may say there's a real risk of getting hiv when ever the body fluids meet. Is it really so that the medical professionals don't have enough information or are they just trying to make it sound more scary than it is to make people more careful?

Anyways, I DO highly respect what you guys do here.

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2008, 10:37:31 AM »
Male,

The word your looking for is frottage. It's a French word that basically means "to rub".

As for your question about medical professionals, I think it can be either and/or both of the reasons you mention. Far too often general practitioners don't keep up-to-date on the science of hiv transmission or hiv testing guidelines. Some also allow judgemental attitudes to influence how they talk about health issues related to sex.

Now, is there something you're worried about? Or did you just want to chat? ;)

Ann
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Offline Male28yearsold

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #2 on: May 05, 2008, 10:48:53 AM »
Oh well, those two things were what I was worried about (frottage&getting a blowjob) so you've answered them already. Mainly just wanted to thank you guys I guess..

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #3 on: May 05, 2008, 10:51:37 AM »
Male,

You're welcome. While you're here, I'll give you the standard blurb that I normally post that covers the basics, just in case you haven't come across it already...

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Male28yearsold

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2008, 02:25:39 PM »
Hi,

I've been thinking about frottage and it's risks while I'm waiting to be ready for the tests (a week to go for 3 months). If the vagina is very wet, the penis kind of "sinks" a little bit inside the vagina, although the top doesn't go in completely. How can it be so sure that there is no risk?

Thanks for patience.

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2008, 02:30:09 PM »
A vagina can be very wet without "sinking in" as you say. You need to be very clear about what you're talking about. Pressing against the vagina and rubbing (frottage) is one thing and actually inserting the head of your penis is quite another. If there seems to be any doubt about what you've done then get tested if you have inserted without protection and put a condom on when you are getting into action in the future.

Please clarify if I have missed something here.
Andy Velez

Offline Male28yearsold

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #6 on: May 14, 2008, 02:38:07 PM »
Yeah, sorry, I'm not a native speaker. What I mean with "sinking" is not penetration, I mean that when you rub penis against vagina, part of the rod (can you say that) kind of sinks to the vagina.. Hope this clears it up, difficult to explain in foreign language. Basically, it was frottage with a very wet vagina.

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Re: Some thoughts about this forum
« Reply #7 on: May 14, 2008, 06:25:58 PM »
That wasn't intercourse or anything like it. You are worrying needlessly. Really.
Andy Velez

 


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