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Author Topic: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!  (Read 1470 times)

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HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« on: April 14, 2008, 04:01:36 AM »
Man,  I've never been so scared in my life!  In Sept and Oct 2007, I decided to let my curiosity get the best of me.  I guess I can now consider myself as bisexual.  I'm 35 years old, and will be 36 in Aug of this year.  Until Sept/Oct 2007, I've only had sex with women.  Most of the times it was protected sex, a lot of the times, it was unprotected sex.  In my lifetime, I've had sex with about 50 women.  About 15 of them, I actually dated and knew them personally, the other 35 were one night stands or hookers.  Well, in Sept/Oct 2007 while my girlfriend was away on travel, I'd met 2 different guys on two different occasions.  I received unprotected oral sex from both of them, and I performed protected anal sex on both of them.  I also kissed one of them.  Since then, something about my body is totally different.  (BTW, in the past, I'm never sick.  A common cold was hard for me to catch.)  During the 3rd week of October, my mouth became very dry and I noticed my tongue has a white coat on it.  Also, the roof of my mouth now has white spots.  I had a few canker sores in my mouth.  There are white spots on different areas of my body.  I now have night sweats some nights.  My stool is very light in color.  In Nov 2007, I had flu like symptoms.   My body became very week.  My arms, legs, and torso area has all thinned out quite a bit.  There is a burning sensation in the back of my leg behind my right knee and also right below my naval.  Two small sores appeared below my navel, but the are now both healed.  A lymph node in my right arm pit is swollen.  There is also a burning sensation on my right shoulder blade.  I now have acne.  I now have to wake up every night out of my sleep to have a very small bowel move.  Now, somedays it seems as if I struggle to breathe, and I sometime have a slight pain in my lungs.  I have tested for HIV-1 in Oct 2007, Dec 2007, Jan 2008, and Feb 2008.  They all came back as negative.  It's now passed my 6 month mark since possible exposure, should I test again?  Can anyone tell me what's wrong with me?  I haven't had sex in 5 months, and I also stopped drinking (cold turkey) since all of this happened.  I desperately need them both, but I first need to find out what's wrong with me.  My doctor thinks I'm going crazy, so he scheduled me with an appointment with a mental health specialist.  (That was a waste of time!!)  Could I be infected, but it's still dormant in my system?  I hear this could last for 10 years.  I don't know if I can continue to live my life in my current situation.  Somebody, please help me!!  I forgot to mentioned about the many sleepless nights I have..........

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Re: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« Reply #1 on: April 14, 2008, 05:58:59 AM »
Tony,

You do not need further testing. NOTHING you did with the two men put you at risk for hiv infection so essentially you were only testing for your previous incidents of unprotected intercourse.

You ARE hiv negative. A test at three months is conclusive.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

As for your symptoms, keep working with your doctor to find out what, if anything, is wrong. You might want to think about getting another mental health referral. Just because you didn't like one therapist doesn't mean there isn't one out there from whom you could benefit.

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Re: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« Reply #2 on: April 15, 2008, 03:47:55 AM »
Thanks Ann for the rapid response.  I'm still having many symptoms, and they are affecting me in the worst way.  Doctors don't have answer for any of them. My life has come to a complete halt since my incident back in Sept/Oct 2007.  I ran across this article from the, "the body" website, and it kinda makes me nervous. 

When Should I Get Tested?
If you become infected with HIV, it usually takes between three weeks and two months for your immune system to produce antibodies to HIV. If you think you were exposed to HIV, you should wait for two months before being tested. You can also test right away and then again after two or three months. During this "window period" an antibody test may give a negative result, but you can transmit the virus to others if you are infected.
About 5% of people take longer than two months to produce antibodies. There is one documented case of a person exposed to HIV and hepatitis C at the same time. Antibodies to HIV were not detected until one year after exposure. Testing at 3 and 6 months after possible exposure will detect almost all HIV infections. However, there are no guarantees as to when an individual will produce enough antibodies to be detected by an HIV test. If you have any unexplained symptoms, talk with your health care provider and consider re-testing for HIV.

What's your thoughts on this?  Inputs from all are welcomed!!

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Re: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« Reply #3 on: April 15, 2008, 04:24:40 AM »
tony,

As I told you yesterday, you were only testing for the incidents of unprotected vaginal intercourse as that was your only risk. You have tested far outside the window period and you are conclusively hiv negative.

The only people who MIGHT take a little longer than three months to seroconvert and test positive are those who are on chemotherapy for cancer, anti-rejection drugs following organ transplant, or people who have been injecting street drugs, every day, for YEARS.

The cases involving delayed seroconversion in the presence of hep C happened to people who had been injecting street drugs every day for years.

It sounds like it's time for you to find another doctor and/or try the therapy route again with a different therapist. Extreme stress and worry can cause all sorts of physical problems.

You ARE hiv negative. You have ruled hiv out of the equation - without doubt. This is an hiv website and as such, there is nothing more we can do for you here. You do NOT have hiv.

Ann
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Re: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« Reply #4 on: April 19, 2008, 02:05:40 PM »
Thanks Ann for sharing your knowledge.  Because I'm still having so many symptoms still, I've decided to get tested one last time one day next week just so I can have a piece of mind.  I'll let you know what happens.  I'm still so scared.  It's almost I like I don't want to really know the results because of what the results might be.  Keep me in your prayers!

tony

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Re: HELP!!! I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START!
« Reply #5 on: May 02, 2008, 02:49:25 AM »
HELP!!!!!!!  I'm still having so many symptoms.  I haven't gone back to see the doctor yet, wanting to believe that my 3 month test was conclusive, but there is something wrong here.  Should I take a p24 test this time?  In the past, I've only been taking antibody test in the past and after 4 months, I continued to test negative.  I made an appointment today for May 6th.  This will be the 7 month mark after possible exposure.  This time I've found a new doctor.  Maybe he'll have answers to at least some of my questions.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed.......   

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« Reply #6 on: May 02, 2008, 04:05:54 AM »
Tony,

You do not need further testing. You also do not need a p24 test - they are only any use in the first few weeks of infection.

Whatever is causing your symptoms is not hiv. You do not have hiv. Keep working with the doctor to find out what the real cause of your problems is - it is NOT hiv.

You will not be allowed to use this forum to continually question your negative status. If you cannot bring yourself to believe your negative test results, then perhaps it's time you sought out the help of a therapist. We cannot help you with that here.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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