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vasky:
Hi everyone, a few weeks ago I met a great guy. It seems like this relationship has future. Last night he told me he is positive. I am trying to understand more about HIV and the lifestyle we can have together. Could you please guide me in this quest for knowledge and staying with him?

Thanks

MOONLIGHT1114:
Hi Vasky~

If you scroll to the top of the page, just under where it says "AIDS Meds.com" in the upper left, you'll see a bunch of tiny links.  They are written in small, black font.  Click on "Lessons" to get started.  There is a ton of info in there, and I am still discovering new things.  I have been poz 14 years.  If you have any specific questions, post them again in this thread, and I am sure one of the Moderators will be happy to answer directly.

I can't imagine how scary it must be, being the neg one here, as I have always been the pos one, the one with the info.  Dating was never easy for me, but I have been with a neg guy for five months now, I told him my status early on.   We are very happy and we are careful, but otherwise lead a normal, healthy relationship together.

Best of luck to you.  :)

~ Cindy

vasky:
Dear Cindy,
Thank you very much, I started reading the lessons already. I have a lot of growing up to do and learning ahead of me, I feel and think it is through information and good communication with my partner that I will get there. And yes, I am scared....trying to sort everything out. My partner is guiding me a lot through this process.

take care,

structuredjen:

--- Quote from: vasky on April 14, 2008, 06:39:07 AM ---I feel and think it is through information and good communication with my partner that I will get there. And yes, I am scared....trying to sort everything out. My partner is guiding me a lot through this process.


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Hi vasky!

Welcome!  Well you've found the best place on earth for good information on HIV.  I too am the negative one in a serodiscordant relationship.  I'm pretty new at this myself... he was diagnosed on August 2nd.

Sounds like you've already got a great start!  Open communication with your partner is so important! 

It definitely is scary isn't it?  I was terrified back in August.  Since then, I've educated myself on HIV, what it means today, available treatments, prevention, etc.  And I'll have to use that old cliche... knowleadge is power!  Through the research I've done, the open communication between my bf and myself, and of course with the support of so many people here who know exactly how it feels, I have to say my attitude has changed so much.  That fear is now a much smaller percentage than it used to be.  There are still days I'm scared, but I seem to find a way to get through it, often with a good talk with my bf, and the help of this forum. 

You'll find great people here... people in your shoes, people in your boyfriend's shoes.  Stick around.  Don't hesitate to post questions you might have. 

I look forward to hearing more from you!

I wish you the best of luck!
Jen

vasky:
Hi Jen,
Thanks for your comments, it is good to know and feel that all of you are out there and understand and know a lot and are willing to assist us in this process.

My BF told me the other day that I should share with my family that I am in a relationship with an HIV positive person, he said that they have the right to such information. I would like for my family and friends to know him well before, to understand why I love him before I share such sensitive information. I don't want them to see him just as the HIV + boyfriend, but as the fantastic person he is. I also want to be more knowledgeable before telling my family, because then I can help them understand.

I have been reading and trying to understand a little about his treatment as well and will go with him to his doctors appointment on May 2nd. I feel that will help me a lot in grasping it better.

It makes me feel so good to be able to communicate and to read in the forum.

Thank you very much,

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