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Offline nrwy1988

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Oral question
« on: August 29, 2008, 02:22:27 PM »
Hi everyone, i know this question has been asked like 9 million times but i don't know ifmy situation could be different. So i havn't had sex yet but i have given and recieved oral with five other men over the last couple  years. I've never swallowed during ejaculation, but i'm sure i have with pre cum. I'm not sure if any of the guys i've been with are pos, but if they are, what are the chances of me catching anything. I'm making myself sick over this, so if you have any advice it would be most appreciated.
Thank you.

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #1 on: August 29, 2008, 02:34:43 PM »
Hi NR,

Although we still from time to time hear of someone claiming to have become infected through giving oral, under careful scientific scrutiny those claims never seem to hold up. Your saliva has over a dozen elements which are very effective weakeners of HIV's ability to be transmitted. Longterm studies of sero-discordant couples who had lots of unprotected oral and only protected intercourse have resulted in not a single HIV negative partner becoming infected.

Common sense of course dictates that if you have newly open wounds in your mouth or poor oral care might make someone more vulnerable and thus giving oral, especially with ejaculation, should be avoided under those circumstances.

You have to decide with what level of risk you are comfortable. We also advise that anyone who is sexually active ought to have a full STD panel done regularly, at least once a year. From what you have reported I don't see any cause for concern about HIV.

Andy Velez

Offline nrwy1988

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #2 on: August 29, 2008, 02:37:29 PM »
Thank you so much andy. That helps put my mind at rest. I think i'll still get tested just to make 10000% sure, just because thats the kind of person i am. Thanks again. I truly appreciate it.

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #3 on: August 29, 2008, 04:40:01 PM »
OK, I can understand your wanting to do that to reassure yourself. Of course I expect you to test negative. I'm glad you found our exchange to be helpful.

Good luck with your test.

Andy Velez

Offline nrwy1988

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #4 on: August 29, 2008, 07:51:21 PM »
The only thing i worry about is that it's been a week since the last time i gave oral and i'm starting to get a sore throat and diarrea, could i just be imagining it or could it be related? or just coinsadance?

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #5 on: August 29, 2008, 08:02:13 PM »
We simply do not discuss symptoms on this forum. They are truly irrelevant insofar as HIV is concerned.

As Andy said, considering your essentially theoretical risk event, I fully expect you to test negative.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Oral question
« Reply #6 on: August 30, 2008, 08:41:39 AM »
Coincidence, shmoincidence. Right now you are (mis)interpreting everything through an HIV jitters mindset. None of your latest musings change what I have already said to you.

This is NOT an HIV situation.
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Re: Oral question
« Reply #7 on: August 30, 2008, 10:17:56 AM »

Although this is an hiv-specific website, I thought it might be a good idea to mention to you that while it would be unusual in the extreme for you to become infected with hiv through oral, it is quite possible to get gonorrhea in your throat. If your sore throat persists, you should have your throat swabbed for gono.

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