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Author Topic: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair  (Read 4120 times)

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Offline AndyArrow

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To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« on: April 18, 2008, 01:11:41 AM »
Here's the story:

I started going gray when I was 14 years old.  This lovely gene I got from my mother who at 40 was completely gray.  At least she would have been if she didn't dye her hair.  I wasn't too upset about going gray at 14 since my cousin, who I did not like, started going gray at 12.  Naturally, I was happy that I had outlasted him by 2yrs.

My hair is brown with reddish highlights ... except all the red is turning gray.  Oh, to be 11 again!  So, here's the big vanity question do I keep it au naturel or visit Miss Clairol.

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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #1 on: April 18, 2008, 01:16:36 AM »
Matty the Damned sez "If you have to ask, you should take to the dye pot."

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Offline aztecan

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #2 on: April 18, 2008, 02:04:14 AM »
There is no such thing as natural beauty. (My apologies to Steel Magnolias.)

If I were to let my hair grow out, I'm sure it would be mostly grey at this point. at least, what's left of it.

I would probably look like a beige bowling ball in a grey grass skirt. Not this boy.

So, the hair on the head is carefully shaved daily. The beard is as natural as Cher is. ::)

I think of it this way. If it makes me feel better about myself, I'm going to do it. So, Andy, do what makes you feel good about yourself. In other words, Dye baby, dye!  ;)

HUGS,

Mark

P.S. Wait until you start contemplating dying your pubic hair!
 :o
« Last Edit: April 18, 2008, 02:06:47 AM by aztecan »
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Offline AndyArrow

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #3 on: April 18, 2008, 02:29:15 AM »
P.S. Wait until you start contemplating dying your pubic hair!
 :o

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Offline Oceanbeach

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #4 on: April 18, 2008, 02:30:05 AM »
Unlike Mark, I have no apologies to Steel Magnolias.  I have natural beauty and it takes a lot of effort to get there.  I have had every hair color there is and accidentally made up a few of my own.  If you don't like the finished color, you can cover it up with something else.  ;D  Have the best day
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Offline rondrond

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #5 on: April 18, 2008, 02:58:32 AM »
Unlike Mark, I have no apologies to Steel Magnolias.  I have natural beauty and it takes a lot of effort to get there.  I have had every hair color there is and accidentally made up a few of my own.  If you don't like the finished color, you can cover it up with something else.  ;D  Have the best day
Michael
 


Been there and done all that too. Accidentally turned my hair parakeet green, Nothing would cover it until a black girlfriend of mine recommended Flame Red. It worked, the green/red turned brown, though she liked the green and wanted to know my secret  ;D
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Offline Roie

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #6 on: April 18, 2008, 02:59:38 AM »
  If you don't like the finished color, you can cover it up with something else.  ;D  Have the best day

 


... or you could just wait for it to wash/grow out eventually.

Dye definitely if you want a change and want something different, Why ever not?
« Last Edit: April 18, 2008, 03:02:11 AM by Roie »
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Offline mjmel

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #7 on: April 18, 2008, 04:49:38 AM »
I happen to like gray, especially when it's a silvery gray on sides and also like salt and pepper look too. I also like redheads, blonds, black hair and brown hair.
You must do whatever blows your skirt up.
Dye it, then.

Mike

Offline fearless

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #8 on: April 18, 2008, 07:13:09 AM »
The red in my hair and beard has gone gray. I've never bothered to dye it though. But, if your thinking about it there's no harm in giving it a try. As Roie said it will grow/wash out relatively quickly.

Now, what colour were you thinking?
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Offline thunter34

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #9 on: April 18, 2008, 07:34:02 AM »
I happen to like gray, especially when it's a silvery gray on sides and also like salt and pepper look too. I also like redheads, blonds, black hair and brown hair.
You must do whatever blows your skirt up.
Dye it, then.

Mike

That's my position, too.  More salt than pepper on my chin these days, and the occasional gray in the chest hairs.  So far, the mop up top is holding out.  I don't mind gray, though.  Kinda like it.  Of course, this opinion subject to change once it's on my own head.
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Offline Dachshund

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #10 on: April 18, 2008, 08:02:34 AM »
More importantly. If one dyes should one disclose?

Offline BT65

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #11 on: April 18, 2008, 08:06:09 AM »
I dye (bleach) my hair once a month religiously. 

If you do color it, and you don't like the color, like Michael said, you can get another one.  I wouldn't do it with the stuff I use, as it's professional bleach; if I immediately put another color on it, my hair would probably fall out. 

I say go for it; but don't disclose.
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Offline Dachshund

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #12 on: April 18, 2008, 08:30:24 AM »
In many states it's illegal not to divulge that you've had a dye job. Or is it a blow job?

Offline dgr20002

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #13 on: April 18, 2008, 08:32:49 AM »
Whatever you do colorwise make sure the eyebrows match  :o

Offline Peter6836

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #14 on: April 18, 2008, 08:57:12 AM »
Andy,
Looking at your picture I would say your handsome no matter what the color of your hair. Keeping that in mind,,,,, My hair has been every color under the sun like many others. There was even a time I kept it white, trying to mimic grey. Your under 50, so I would say dye,,,dye,,,dye. At 53 I have stopped and let the natural thing take over.
Peter
PS> I would suggest a professional hair dresser, stay away from the all over drab one color, grocery store dye job, you deserve better.

Offline David_CA

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #15 on: April 18, 2008, 09:03:06 AM »
P.S. Wait until you start contemplating dying your pubic hair!
 :o

Whatever you do colorwise make sure the eyebrows match  :o

And a snatch to match, too.
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Offline bear60

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #16 on: April 18, 2008, 09:37:07 AM »
Hi
I would have to agree with Peter on this one....."> I would suggest a professional hair dresser, stay away from the all over drab one color, grocery store dye job, you deserve better."
................
Friend of mine had the worst color job and everyone was too polite to tell him they thought it looked bad.
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Offline rondrond

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #17 on: April 18, 2008, 10:03:16 AM »
Hi
I would have to agree with Peter on this one....."> I would suggest a professional hair dresser, stay away from the all over drab one color, grocery store dye job, you deserve better."
................
Friend of mine had the worst color job and everyone was too polite to tell him they thought it looked bad.

ROFL  When I accidentally (note: all these exotic colors on my head, were always the product of an accident) Tweety Bird Yellow with Orange highlights....I think I was going for something called Ravishing Blonde, well, that didn't happen. Fortunately, it was close to Halloween and I just passed it off as "I'm working on a costume". I was a supervisor in an Americna Airlines call center at the time, and all 40 of my employees hit the floor and disappeared the day I thought "it doesn't look that bad". 8)...I had to wear a hat for the rest of the day for any work to get done on the floor as they could not seem to leave me alone....
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1994-2001
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Offline AlanBama

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #18 on: April 18, 2008, 11:41:15 AM »
Lord, when I was a young queen I had my hair just about every color; one time burgundy with strawberry highlights....my Dad about had a stroke.   I'm sure it's one of the reasons I am bald today!

They have this new dye for men, my friend D. and I were looking at it last night at Wal-Mart...he bought some.   It is Just for Men (I think) and you can "choose" how much grey you wish to cover....it has a little comb that you comb the color through the parts you want to darken.

My natural hair is dark brown, almost black.   When I had hair (and I wore fake hair for 12 years) and when I have colored my facial hair, I learned to go a little lighter....if I buy "dark brown" it comes out looking "waitress black".
For the most part, I think if your face looks your true age, and you are over 50, if you color your hair 'dark', it looks ridiculous.   Younger than that -- I'd say it all depends on your preference.

Maybe it's just me being an old coot, but I genuinely LOVE silver hair.   Especially on dark haired men, with the temples just going silver....(sort of George Clooney-like).   Let us know what you decide! (and hopefully post a pic)

hugs,
Alan
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Offline rondrond

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #19 on: April 18, 2008, 12:15:04 PM »
Coloring my hair has always made me feel 'pretty'. and lifts my spirits sometimes when I am down. it's just those dang roots....
"I may not be exactly where I want to be, but I sure as Hell am not where I was"
Wynnona Judd

Diagnosed/HIV
1993
AZT
Norvir
1994-2001
Crixivan/Epivir/Zerit
No Meds for 7 Years

04jul07/DVT-right leg/Bi Lateral PE's     
16oct08/DVT-left leg
Sept '09  6 blood clots in left arm
Coumadin 5mgs
                                     
Atenolol/50mg/2x
Hydrochlorth 25mg/1x
Gemfibrozil/300mgs/2X
Symbicort
Proventil Inhaler
Potassium
Rhinocort


*APR 08~Viramune/Truvada
March08  CD4 330 23% VL 452.000 
*Jan09 Med change~Epzicom/Viramune

Aug09   CD4 523 23%  VL<48
Diagnosed: COPD
Dec 2013: CD4 645 45% VL 49
Med Change: Viramune/Epivir/Ziagen/Isentress

Offline Oceanbeach

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #20 on: April 18, 2008, 05:22:05 PM »
Whatever you do colorwise make sure the eyebrows match  :o

Be very careful with color around the eyes  ;D  Have the best day
Michael

Offline AndyArrow

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #21 on: April 18, 2008, 05:38:26 PM »
Wow ... I never expected to get so many responses.  I've been toying with the idea of several years.  Most of my hair is still a lovely (if only I think so) color brown.  Those pesky temples though are GRAY.

My goatee when I grow one is strawberry blond -- looks pretty funky!  I was thinking of going with a lighter brown so the gray wouldn't show as much.  I'll have to get a color picture take some day and so everyone.

AA
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Offline thunter34

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #22 on: April 18, 2008, 05:42:51 PM »
I was quite pleased with the results of an auburn I tried once.

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #23 on: April 18, 2008, 05:50:07 PM »
Oh, to have hair to dye...

I say life is short, go crazy.

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #24 on: April 18, 2008, 06:15:36 PM »
Hey Andy,

Remember when you dye hair... The instructions say to leave it in for 20 minutes before the rinse.  You will get better results if you leave the color agent in for 40 minutes.  The crap smells really bad.  I could have a handlebar mustashe or a full beard in about 30 days but... wait until you dye facial hair with all those chemicals right under your nose...  ;D  Shaving becomes a better option.  Have the best day
Michael

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #25 on: April 18, 2008, 06:55:48 PM »
Andy, sometimes towns will have a beauty supply store that's open to the public.  I don't know what color you want, but they have coloring in there that beauticians use.  If your town has one, just go in a pick a color.  Then you'll have to get the creme developer.  The higher the number of the creme, the lighter the lift (color).  And, when you're done coloring it, wash it twice and use a deep conditioner.  When you put the deep conditioner on, comb it through so it's even.  After I bleach my hair (which I did today using a professional bleach), I leave the deep conditioner on for about 15-20 minutes.  Oh, and when you rinse the color out, use water as hot as you can stand it; that makes the hair strands grasp the color more.  Good luck and please let us know what you're going to do.
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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #26 on: April 18, 2008, 06:57:49 PM »
It's *ALL* about Sally Beauty Supply stores.
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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #27 on: April 18, 2008, 06:58:32 PM »
PS: I'm turning into Phillicia more and more each day, aren't I?
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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #28 on: April 18, 2008, 06:59:38 PM »
It's *ALL* about Sally Beauty Supply stores.

Yes!
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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #29 on: April 23, 2008, 05:10:54 AM »
Wow ... I never expected to get so many responses.  I've been toying with the idea of several years.  Most of my hair is still a lovely (if only I think so) color brown.  Those pesky temples though are GRAY.

My goatee when I grow one is strawberry blond -- looks pretty funky!  I was thinking of going with a lighter brown so the gray wouldn't show as much.  I'll have to get a color picture take some day and so everyone.

AA

I'm admiring your new avatar and I realize, I'm not seeing any gray. So I have to ask, Did you color your hair? :-X
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Wynnona Judd

Diagnosed/HIV
1993
AZT
Norvir
1994-2001
Crixivan/Epivir/Zerit
No Meds for 7 Years

04jul07/DVT-right leg/Bi Lateral PE's     
16oct08/DVT-left leg
Sept '09  6 blood clots in left arm
Coumadin 5mgs
                                     
Atenolol/50mg/2x
Hydrochlorth 25mg/1x
Gemfibrozil/300mgs/2X
Symbicort
Proventil Inhaler
Potassium
Rhinocort


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March08  CD4 330 23% VL 452.000 
*Jan09 Med change~Epzicom/Viramune

Aug09   CD4 523 23%  VL<48
Diagnosed: COPD
Dec 2013: CD4 645 45% VL 49
Med Change: Viramune/Epivir/Ziagen/Isentress

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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #30 on: April 23, 2008, 09:01:18 AM »
I'm admiring your new avatar and I realize, I'm not seeing any gray. So I have to ask, Did you color your hair? :-X

Yes, enquiring minds want to know.
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Re: To Dye or Not To Dye ... My Hair
« Reply #31 on: April 23, 2008, 10:04:06 PM »
I'm admiring your new avatar and I realize, I'm not seeing any gray. So I have to ask, Did you color your hair? :-X
A great big cuddlely thank you ... the gray isn't too visible in that picture.  It's mainly at the temples where I'm really gray.  And the avatar is me in my natural state.  No hair color yet but I'm thinking it might be something fun to try for summer.

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« Reply #32 on: April 23, 2008, 11:23:20 PM »
No hair color yet but I'm thinking it might be something fun to try for summer.



It's always fun to color the hair.  I would just do it.
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