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Offline RapidRod

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #50 on: September 30, 2008, 06:09:26 AM »
I can see there is no hope that any forum can provide. Seek professional mental help as to why you WANT to contract HIV.

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #51 on: September 30, 2008, 06:45:48 AM »
Jade,

Amazingly, after all your paranoia over no risk situations, you go and put yourself at actual risk. You should know the drill by now. You need to test at three months for a conclusive negative result. A negative at six weeks is unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at three months.

Just because he didn't cum inside you doesn't mean he didn't precum inside you. Precum is infectious. Dipping is dangerous. (dipping = short bouts of unprotected intercourse without ejaculation)

Do not expect to use this forum to go on and on about your physical symptoms - I won't hesitate to give you a time out if you do, window period or no window period. Symptoms or even the lack of symptoms will never tell  you a thing about your hiv status and you know we don't discuss them here. If you feel unwell, see your doctor.

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Offline jadeislove

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #52 on: September 30, 2008, 07:41:42 PM »
Gosh that was brutal.. But honestly I deserve it.... I really did take ur words into thought last time.. I haven't had any sexual contact in months. And then here went a very dumb situation...



I did take a full std panel today.
And got a hiv test.. Its been 5weeks..
Since the situation.. Hoepfully all comes back neg..

Thanks ann and rapid rod..

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #53 on: September 30, 2008, 09:02:31 PM »
If you receive a negative result then you need to re-test at 13 weeks.

And I strongly urge you to get some professional counseling regarding your feelings about HIV and the impulsive behavior and excessive drinking which got you into a situation where you have put your life at risk. We can't help you with that here.
Andy Velez

Offline jadeislove

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #54 on: November 01, 2008, 04:51:14 PM »
I have a question for andy or ann??

I tested this past week its been 8 weeks since the possible exposure.. I tested on the elisa which from my understanding test for both hiv antbodies..

The test came back negative.. Should I worry that it may change.. The tester said that he always has situations where the test changes  within a week or even two...

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #55 on: November 01, 2008, 05:37:12 PM »
The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the very smallest number of those who are going to seronvert will do so within 4-6 after a real risk. With a negative at 8 weeks in hand a negative at 13 weeks is pretty much a slam dunk, that ridiculous comment from the tester notwithstanding.

You ask should you worry that it may change. Given your track record here I can't help wondering what good it would do to tell you not to worry even though I fully expect you to continue to test negative. I mean, is there any chance you'd really listen?
Andy Velez

Offline jadeislove

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #56 on: November 01, 2008, 06:47:31 PM »
Andy thanks so much for the quick response and yes I have listened .. Despite how it may seem I did indeed not want this situation again..

Right now I'm seeking help for my issues with the bottle...
I'm also learning more about hiv and the transmission I don't know really know much to say but I made a mistake and I'm trying to learn from it.

The tester is an ass .... he has lead me to believe that people have tested at 2 months and test a week later positive...
Sayin some peoples bodies wrk differently..

But thanks for clearling that up for me andy...  I really appreciate all the help...

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #57 on: November 01, 2008, 08:14:47 PM »
You're welcome. Now get on with your life and if you need counseling to do that, then do it, because it's worthwhile being able to lead a less stressful life. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline jadeislove

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #58 on: November 02, 2008, 07:24:00 PM »
Thanks andy....


I'm definetly learning... I even
Told my boyfriend that I'm not willing
To have sex without protection...

A friend of mine caught it right around the time I had that original exposure . And every since then I've been kinda obsessed with testing and things.. Yet havin someone so close to me still hasn't helped me make a better decision with sex ..
So I do think seeking help is a very wise choice

I need this before it becomes my life...

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #59 on: November 02, 2008, 08:05:06 PM »
It's good to protect your health. And like many thousands of other couples, you can have a good sex life with your bf and STILL protect your health.

It does sound like you could benefit from some conversations in a safe, professional setting about all of this.

Good luck to you.
Andy Velez

Offline Erikflounder

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #60 on: November 02, 2008, 08:08:03 PM »
Andy I would really like to talk to you via private message but dont know how to do that....would that be possible?

Offline Ann

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #61 on: November 03, 2008, 04:54:08 AM »
Erik,

You need to read the posting guidelines found in our Welcome Thread. You will have to start your own thread if you want your questions answered. This is not negotiable. Please also read this thread.

Please abide by our forum rules. Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline jadeislove

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #62 on: November 03, 2008, 11:56:32 PM »
Andy and Ann this will be my last question....  as you know august 27th was the exposure ..


Well I tested on sept 30th and that was with a western blot that came back negative.. Well three days after that impatient of waiting 2 weeks I got a elisa test and that also was neg...

And I jsut had another neg test on october 28th.. 62days past exposure..

One of the testers called me today and told me that the western blot test should of been a conclusive test because its a full blood panel ...  I thought that test was called a  viral load or somethin..
So I don't know what this tester is sayin.
Or even if he knows what the hell he's talkin about...

Can u plz explain to me the difference??
Is western blot a better test that u can get a conclusive answer with shorter time..

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: I'm scared once again
« Reply #63 on: November 04, 2008, 08:14:31 AM »
The western blot is a highly sensitive and specific test. For instance, if someone tests HIV+ with an ELISA, that is always checked with a western blot. If they test negative on the western blot, that result trumps the ELISA.

As far as I am concerned you are worrying needlessly. Really.
Andy Velez

 


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