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Offline Ryu

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My Story...........
« on: March 10, 2008, 10:38:50 AM »
Hey guys. This is a very nice forum which helps pepole to learn more about STDs. I just want to tell what happened to me. Sorry for my bad English.
Almost 4 weeks ago my friend (I am not gay) - just a friend :D - finished school and we went out for party and of course we had a few drinks like vodka and tequilla and so on. Unfortunately the feeling of being horny won against my conscience and we went to a brothel where my friend and I had sex with a prostitute. I went into a room with an african prostitute where we had sex but we used condoms. Before starting sex with her she gave me a blowjob (excuse me very much for using such words....I just dont know synonyms for them) but I had also a condom over my penis. At the end I could not ejaculate so she put the condom away and gave me a handjob till I came. And now I am feeling so bad. How could I say to her to put the condom away and give me a handjob without condom. she put some gel on my penis or massage oil which she also had used for her vagina. The gel or oil was in a tube. And now i am so scared that I am freaking out. I am making up symptoms, touching my lymph nodes every hour and so on. I am just scared that there were a lot of viruses on her hands or maybe viruses in that gel coz before she gave me a handjob she put the gel on her hand and rubbed in her vaginal area......so she had maybe vaginal fluid on her hands during she gave me a handjob. I have read in different other forums that the risk is zero but I just wanted to tell you guys about my fear and I hope that you guys answer. I know that my conscience is playing with me, my conscience is tricking me because after being drunk you know what you have done and many men feel ashamed when the go to a prostitute.........
Anyway I hope you guys read my story and answer.
Regards
Ryu from Germany

Offline RapidRod

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #1 on: March 10, 2008, 10:42:22 AM »
Nice story, but you did not have a risk.

Offline Ryu

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #2 on: March 10, 2008, 11:30:26 AM »
sounds good  :D

Offline Morgan

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #3 on: March 10, 2008, 11:40:05 AM »
No risk for hiv infection.
Morgan Landers

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #4 on: March 10, 2008, 03:45:05 PM »
Nothing you did during this incident put you at risk for HIV transmission. With or without a condom on getting a blowjob is not a risk for transmission. No one's ever been infected that way and you won't make history by becoming the first. Nor is being masturbated a risk.

As long as you always wear a condom for vaginal or anal intercourse you will be well protected as far as HIV is concerned.

The red flag in what you have reported is that you did it during a time when you were drinking excessively. That's dangerous because it can affect your ability to follow safer sex guidelines.So that is to be avoided in the future. As long as you always use condoms the HIV status of your partners is irrelevant. 
Andy Velez

Offline Ryu

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #5 on: March 12, 2008, 11:13:53 AM »
Thank you guys for your information. It helps people alot

Offline Ryu

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #6 on: March 12, 2008, 03:38:10 PM »
hey guys I just have something to ask you.......
before she put the condom away she gave me a handjob with the condom. i could not come so therefore she put it away. but before starting to give me a handjob we had sex and there must be vaginal fluid on the condom and giving someone a handjob with a condom and put it then away means that there was vaginal fluid on her hand? but does this matter?
plz guys reply

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #7 on: March 12, 2008, 03:47:49 PM »
Ryu,

No, it doesn't matter. What you describe still isn't a risk. Keep using those condoms and you won't have one in future either.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do NOT need testing over this specific incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Offline Ryu

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #8 on: March 12, 2008, 03:55:26 PM »
hello ann i am always using condoms. even when i was at that specific time drunk  a condom was a must for me. but i dont know why i fool said to give me a handjob without condom, although i had one on my penis she put it away and gave me one without condom coz i could no ejaculate. andy velez was right. the red flag was that i was too drunk......and that is very dangerous. i heard that the virus is very fragile when it comes to a contact with oxygen. is that right?

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« Reply #9 on: March 12, 2008, 04:10:10 PM »
Ryu,

You didn't have a risk! Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection, and you can bet that there are times when a bit of vaginal fluid gets on them. This does not constitute a risk as you were protected by the condom. There's really nothing more to add.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Ryu

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« Reply #10 on: March 12, 2008, 04:20:18 PM »
thats right an but i think you misunterstood me. look.......she gave me a handjob when i had my condom on but before that we had sex. so there msut be vaginal fluid on the condom and when she gives me a handjob the fluid contacts with her hand. after i could not ejaculate she put the condom away. but she didnt wash her hands and so the fluid was on her hand. that is my question? so do you thjink there was a risk?

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« Reply #11 on: March 12, 2008, 04:24:57 PM »
Ryu,

I understood you completely. We see this exact same handjob/vaginal fluid/condom/intercourse question here all the time. I know what you mean. Now, do YOU know what I mean and understand when I say you did NOT have a risk?

Keep going on about this no-risk incident and you'll end up with a time out.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Ryu

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #12 on: March 13, 2008, 05:25:47 PM »
ok thanks for your answers

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #13 on: March 19, 2008, 05:50:27 PM »
Anon, only those who are authorized to answer questions here should be doing so. However well intentioned you are not authorized so please don't do it again.

Thanks for your cooperation.
Andy Velez

Offline anonymous2076

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #14 on: March 19, 2008, 05:51:43 PM »
Got it andy

Offline anniebc

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« Reply #15 on: March 19, 2008, 05:52:08 PM »
amonymous

I have already asked you once not to post replies in other peoples threads in this forum..so I ask you to read this again.

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Please stick to your own thread from now on...I'm deleting your post.

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Offline anonymous2076

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Re: My Story...........
« Reply #16 on: March 19, 2008, 05:53:37 PM »
Ryu i dont think you have anything to worry about.

Offline anonymous2076

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« Reply #17 on: March 19, 2008, 05:55:58 PM »
I guess ill take some time to read the rules before i post anything else

Offline Andy Velez

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« Reply #18 on: March 19, 2008, 06:03:46 PM »
Thanks. We appreciate that.
Andy Velez

 


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