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Dan J.

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I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« on: March 03, 2008, 01:24:32 PM »
Life sucks at the moment. Herman & I are no longer "together". I question if we ever really were. He is a good friend & I'm glad we had what time we did have, but all that is over now.

More bad news

I am being kicked off TennCare & Medicare refuses to pay for my hospital bill from my scrotum fiasco in November-December.  That bill is over $80,000.00. I am loosing QMB that covers my Medicare Part B premiums & helps with doctor visit co-pays etc. Now that I have to adjust my monthly budget & have to pay the $86.00 a month for my Part B insurance . Now I don't have the $ to pay for my drug co-pays when I get my refills every month. SSDI only goes so far, but the way things are going I am probably going to loose that too.

I have been trying to find a part time job to make up the difference, but I am not having any luck. I reopened my Vocational Rehab case in March of 2006. I am still waiting...  I am almost at the point of going up to that woman's office and going off on her. I call her multiple times a week & I always get her voice mail.

As each day goes by and a new obstacle presents itself I feel myself becoming more and more disconnected with the world around me.

Sorry for the down post, but I had to get this out somewhere...

I will go back into my hole now.

Dan
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2008, 03:18:53 PM »
You are not alone I do have days i feel like its one problem after the other but at the end of the day life goes on and things get better with time.  Just take a day at a time things will be fine.
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2008, 03:48:39 PM »
Oh dear Dan, why are you being kicked off TennCare?  And why is Medicare refusing to pay your hospital bill?  That doesn't make sense.  It sounds like you need to contact someone at your ASO who can make sense of it.  My thoughts are with you, sweetie.
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2008, 06:13:28 PM »
I am being kicked off TennCare and loosing QMB because I live with my parents and they refuse to provide information on how much they pay for utilities, phone, groceries etc...

They also refused to provide that information with my local ASO, so I am no longer a client of West TN Legal Services.

Medicare has refused to pay all of my hospital bills for most of last year.

I've decided to stop meds, get sick, & go into hospice. I have already discussed my decision with my hiv doc. He isn't happy about what I am going to do, but it's my choice.

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2008, 06:18:14 PM »
You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Please don't lose hope...
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2008, 06:28:24 PM »
Dan,

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.   My heart goes out to you, honey.   

Keeping you in my prayers.....

Hugs,

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2008, 07:59:46 PM »
Dear Dan...You have been in a bad way before, life has certainly shown its ups and downs to you in living color, no doubt about that.

But don't give up, plug away...Can't you talk to your parents about divulging this simple info, is there some reason for their not wanting to provide it?

Go to the ASO in person (don't just call) and sit there calmly but firmly (don't lose your temper but don't lose your perseverance either) and get answers and results.

Good luck Dan, hang in there, and keep us posted.

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2008, 08:38:09 PM »
Dan, I understand you're in a very bad place, but please, please don't stop fighting.  There's got to be an answer to this.  I'm keeping you in my thoughts, definitely. :-*
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2008, 09:04:33 PM »
Dan---

I am sorry to hear that you are going through such hell at this time. Different scenario but I have been there and no how it is to feel like there is no hope. I am sorry to hear that you and Hermie have split up, I know you are hurting about that but at least you are still friends and no bad feelings. I wish I could take that hurt away.

Please don't stop taking your meds and try to live just one day at a time. I am worried about you..
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2008, 09:55:50 PM »
Dan your post has put such a burden on my heart for you.  I'm sorry that things aren't going well for you right now.  I wish, like Queen, that i could take away all the bad stuff.  I wish I could say something that will make it all better. Just know that our prayers and thoughts are with you.  Please don't stop you meds.  There has to be a way...there just has to be.

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #10 on: March 03, 2008, 10:05:07 PM »
Dan,

Im so sorry you are going through this. I hope your parents give them all the info so you can continue with your benefits. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #11 on: March 03, 2008, 11:03:22 PM »
Hey Dan, this got me really worried... :-[

The last time we chat you sounded really cheerful and upbeat.. and that wasn't so long ago, 2 months?

Of course your doctor wouldn't allow that sort of talks about letting yourself to get sick. Is the problem more complicated than it sounds (i.e. your parents refused to provide some seemingly easy information like utility bills)?

I really hope you could find a way out of this soon!

Big hugs baby... Shaun
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #12 on: March 03, 2008, 11:30:09 PM »
Terrible news.  My heart goes out to you.  But I don't understand...why is Medicare refusing to pay???
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #13 on: March 03, 2008, 11:30:22 PM »
Said a prayer for you. Y'know, sometimes to me it seems what's 10 x more stressful than the meds themselves is the question of "How am I going to get my meds without complete bankruptcy?" It's like a catch 22. I feel for you big time. I can only imagine that so many others suffer in silence, for example people without computers. Hopefully the new president can make much needed changes to our country. {{{Hug}}}

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #14 on: March 03, 2008, 11:31:08 PM »
Dan-
I am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time and you and Herman parted ways.  Do you have any friends and family that do not live in TN,that you could go live with?  I might be wrong in thinking this, but aren't some states easier to get health insurance through so that you could stay on your meds.  Do what you have to take care of yourself.  I hated to do it but I HAD to file bankruptcy last year, I am on disability too and was killing myself trying to pay all my bills.  It's time to come out of your hole and talk to as many people as you can, as my grandfather used to say, "There is more than one way to skin a cat"  Get as many ideas as you can, so you can work through this.  Please try to stay strong!  My best to you.
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #15 on: March 04, 2008, 12:00:20 AM »
wow Dan, sorry to hear about your latest troubles. I hope you can find a way out of this. Maybe a call to your congressman/senator/someone?
I can't imagine why a state like Tenn, or the fed gov't would consider an adult mans parents income/expenses in any way, just because he lives in their home.  If you lived with a roomate, they check their finances as well??

I wish you the best
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #16 on: March 04, 2008, 01:11:55 AM »
I question if we ever really were


I don't understand this comment??? All of those trips, all of those stories....WTF?
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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #17 on: March 04, 2008, 01:12:02 AM »
Dan sorry to hear about you and Herman. You better take those meds or I will have too make a special trip down to see you! :o

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #18 on: March 04, 2008, 03:35:15 AM »
Dan
i hope you rethink this, i don't have the meds problem. But i am going thru the other.
It will make you want to give up, but you can work through this.
The red tape with the state can be worked out.
The broken heart, hell when i come up with the answer ill let you know.
I am thinking of you  buddy.
praying for you also.

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #19 on: March 04, 2008, 12:47:33 PM »
Dan, I'm sorry to hear about your news... I'm not sure how Tn works for people on ssdi and all but, I'll check with friends to see what you can do... but, please do not give up! John

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #20 on: March 04, 2008, 01:22:47 PM »
I can't imagine why a state like Tenn, or the fed gov't would consider an adult mans parents income/expenses in any way, just because he lives in their home.  If you lived with a roomate, they check their finances as well??

Hi Paul. In agency lingo it's called "in-kind services" or something like that. It's a flawed and cold and pass-the-buck premise which doesn't ask that maybe just maybe a gay son that lives with his parents might have a volatile relationship with them. As if to say "Well if you live together then you must be the Waltons or the Partridge family." Ha, what a crock. Let's say I help a lady carry a baby carriage up a flight of steps- well, it doesn't mean I'm going to buy her a box of baby formula and daipers too. Um, not the best analogy but you get the point.

To Dan: I would just say you have an extremely volatile relationship with your folks and they've made their decision not to disclose their personal info and further persistance on your part will result in you getting thrown out of the house. Sometimes you have to spice it up a little.

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« Reply #21 on: March 04, 2008, 02:29:20 PM »
I don't have much experience with Medicare other than what I've read and heard, but I hope thingsworks out and get you toe  abetter place. The bureacracy and BS that goes with these systems is an outrage.

Wishing you well...

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« Reply #22 on: March 04, 2008, 02:30:48 PM »
Herman & I are on good terms with one another. We didn't have a falling out or anything. We both realized that there is no way that I can afford to go live there on what little $ I get from SSDI every month. & He can't come live in the U.S.A. I had to move on with my own life here in the U.S. He will always be an important person to me & I will always love him. He knows that.

My parents will not give me the info I need to fill out all these forms completely and correctly. I am NOT going to ask them again. Me asking for the info causes arguments. I have gone through this with them every year since I became disabled in 2003 this year they absolutely refuse to divulge that info.

I'm tired of fighting with them over everything & I really mean everything.  It has gotten to the point that during the day when they are at work I stay home until they off . As soon as they are home ,I leave.  & I don't come back until they are in bed for the night. If they are off for the day, I am gone all day.

I have an hiv doc appointment today at 1:40 PM. I don't want to go and here him bitch at me. He doesn't live with this disease inside his body, I do.

If I have to live the rest of my life broke with nothing to do everyday then I would rather be dead.

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« Reply #23 on: March 04, 2008, 02:46:30 PM »
Dear Dan
I am so glad you came back to respond to all the people who care about you! Talking about your problems is a start.
I am thinking of you!!!
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« Reply #24 on: March 04, 2008, 08:26:10 PM »
Dan, I hope you can find a resolution to this.  Don't give up.  Thinking of you........
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« Reply #25 on: March 04, 2008, 10:06:15 PM »
I will go back into my hole now.

Like hell, you will.

Dan,

While I admit sadness that you and Herman could not make it work, I know as you already said it is more about practical reasons than personal.

As far as what is going on in regards to finances - I have no practical advice, but you know you have friends here and we care.

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« Reply #26 on: March 05, 2008, 06:53:33 AM »
Dan, what about getting your meds from the drug companies.  They usually offer assistance like that.  I wouldn't worry about the hospital bill.  I've had several unpaid medical bills in the past; they know how to write things off.
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« Reply #27 on: March 05, 2008, 08:34:33 AM »
Dan
I'm still trying to figure out what information your parents wont give up so that you can't fill out the forms. My guess is income.
I dont remember that Kurt had to have anything from his parents when he filed....why is it necessary to have your parents involved?  My guess again: you live with them. or what?
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« Reply #28 on: March 05, 2008, 11:43:05 AM »
Dan
I'm still trying to figure out what information your parents wont give up so that you can't fill out the forms. My guess is income.
I dont remember that Kurt had to have anything from his parents when he filed....why is it necessary to have your parents involved?  My guess again: you live with them. or what?
Joel

Yes Joel, Dan stated earlier that he lives with them.
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« Reply #29 on: March 06, 2008, 04:03:57 PM »
I had my meeting with my DHS worker. Since my parents did not provide th e information that they required I lost my QMB assistance for the Medicare Part B premium. I will now have to find someway to pay the 96.00 a month premium. That seriously cuts into the copays for my prescriptions. I don't know where I am going to find a way to pay for both. My med co pays are 44.60 s month.

I am pissed off to say the least.  Once I run out of my "stockpile" of current meds I will be in serious trouble to be able to afford both. So, when I run out of the meds I have there won't be anymore refills.

My case worker told me that living at home hurts me as far as assistance goes and strongly encouraged me to try and move out on my own. I can't afford to pay rent/ utilities and maintain a car payment. I am looking into selling the car & trying to find something cheaper to drive. Where I live you have to have a car or you walk everywhere, I quess I'll be hoofin' it if I want to go anywhere.

I've been off meds a week and can already feel the effects it is having on my health. Nght sweats, headaches and just feeling tired all the time. I am prepared for the outcome.

It's' been nice knowing all of you,

Dan
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« Reply #30 on: March 06, 2008, 04:14:58 PM »
I had my meeting with my DHS worker. Since my parents did not provide th e information that they required I lost my QMB assistance for the Medicare Part B premium. I will now have to find someway to pay the 96.00 a month premium. That seriously cuts into the copays for my prescriptions. I don't know where I am going to find a way to pay for both. My med co pays are 44.60 s month.

I am pissed off to say the least.  Once I run out of my "stockpile" of current meds I will be in serious trouble to be able to afford both. So, when I run out of the meds I have there won't be anymore refills.

You're on disability, right?  I dunno about TN, but here in GA you can still collect that in full even if you earn up to about $12k a year (I think).  You were working from home before and having trouble with all that and payments and stuff...has anything happened on the work front since then?  I recognize that HIV / AIDS can throw a serious wrecking ball to anyone's "career" track...I know this personally.  But I wouldn't think it would be that difficult to find some form of PT work that could drum up $96 a month or less, right?  Heck, spring is almost here.  You can mow a lawn or two and manage that much.  It sucks,  but what can ya do?  To forego simply doing a little something to come up with that shortage of funds in favor of just saying, "Fuck it all.  I'll just stop taking my pills and DIE!  That'll learn everybody a thing or two!" is just lame. 
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« Reply #31 on: March 06, 2008, 04:19:14 PM »
PS:  Still don't understand what your folks' issue is/was with providing that needed information.  Is it possible they were trying to give you a hard "push" to get you going on something?  I say this because I know how depression operates and it can shut you down big time.  Sometimes the only thing that can pry you out of its grip is the force of dire necessity.
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« Reply #32 on: March 06, 2008, 04:23:28 PM »
Timmy,

I don't work from home for the law firm anymore. I look for something everday, have put in countless job applications from everything fom retail to office positions. I don't hear anything from any of them. My hope is to find something soon, but I am becoming very disappointed that no one seems to want to hire someone part time.

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« Reply #33 on: March 06, 2008, 04:36:56 PM »
Timmy,

I don't work from home for the law firm anymore. I look for something everday, have put in countless job applications from everything fom retail to office positions. I don't hear anything from any of them. My hope is to find something soon, but I am becoming very disappointed that no one seems to want to hire someone part time.

Which is why you may have to initiate a Plan B.  Print up a flyer or two and offer up some mowing or something.  You like cars - how about car washing?  Anything like that on a Saturday may be enough to keep the ball rolling. 

And look:  I'm not saying this to be mean to you or anything, but I gotta say...

When I consider people like Christine who we've lost and now Kate who is valiantly struggling to stay with us, it's more than a little offensive to listen to somebody respond to "hurdles" like this that pale in comparison with "I'll just give up and die."

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Re: I couldn't think of a "snappy title" for this thread...
« Reply #34 on: March 06, 2008, 04:50:17 PM »
I am not asking to be coddled. Just stating what I am having to deal with at this time. You have to have a lawn mower to mow a yard & I don't have one, nor can afford to go out and buy one.

Sorry if I offened you.


Won't post anymore because I don't want to upset anyone.

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Dan

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« Reply #35 on: March 06, 2008, 05:04:53 PM »
I am not asking to be coddled. Just stating what I am having to deal with at this time. You have to have a lawn mower to mow a yard & I don't have one, nor can afford to go out and buy one.

Sorry if I offened you.


Won't post anymore because I don't want to upset anyone.

Bye,

Dan

*sigh*  Drama.  Look...post away.  Whatever my feelings are the subject, I am a Big Boy and can handle it and move on.  I'm just trying to give you a little shake, Dan.  You don't have a lawn mower?  Don't your parents have one?  I'm hard pressed to believe they wouldn't let you use one in the name of drumming up some money to afford medical needs.  I mean, they do support you otherwise...letting you live there and all, so they can't be all that unsympathetic to your needs.

Unless, of course, they don't have a lawnmower and have their lawn taken care of by a service.  In which case, you must live in some pretty decent digs there with them.  Most people who can afford such services live in pretty nice houses.  Is that the case with you?  Do they have one, or do they get their lawn done through a service themselves?

In any case, you side-stepped my other option:  Washing cars.  You don't need anything for that but some rags and some washing stuff.  And that is not out of your reach, Dan.

And this "I'll not post anymore...goodbye" crap is just another way of saying:

"Never mind....just forget it....I'll run off and die now.  Don't think about me.  It doesn't matter."

It's more of that pity mess, Dan.  And I'm not going to let you get away with it.  I'm not doing you wrong, I'm doing you a favor.
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« Reply #36 on: March 06, 2008, 05:12:58 PM »
I know what your trying to do and I appreciate it. Sorry, for bing on the pity pot at the moment. A solution will be present itself somehow, someway.

We have a very, very old lawn mower. Hopefully my Dad will by a new one sometime this summer. Maybe he will let me use it. It's kind of cold to wash cars at the moment, so I will need to wait until the weather is a little warmer.

I really appreciate your input.

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« Reply #37 on: March 06, 2008, 05:32:04 PM »
A solution will be present itself somehow, someway.


There we go.

 :)

By all means, continue with your thread here...just try to direct it from that perspective as best you can.


I know depression, kiddo.  We had this discussion in SF.  And I know how it can leap on things like this instantly and try to drag you down into all out surrender mode.  There ain't nothing I said above that didn't come from personal experience.

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« Reply #38 on: March 06, 2008, 06:07:38 PM »
Dan, what about getting in touch with the drug companies about the patient assistance programs, where you would probably qualify for free meds from them?

Look, I've suffered from the 'I want to die' thing.  But I found out, if I try hard enough, things work out.  Of course, I have to try. 

Good luck to you.
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« Reply #39 on: March 07, 2008, 08:52:41 AM »
I find it difficult to understand why your parents would.....by denying you necessary information....prevent you from getting medications that you need to survive.
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« Reply #40 on: March 07, 2008, 10:46:03 AM »
My first thought was exactly what Timberly touched on -- they want him to move to his own place.  Not sure if this is truly the case, but it was my first thought.
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« Reply #41 on: March 07, 2008, 11:07:44 AM »
Dan

I remember one day in SF you, Herman and I were walking down Powell St, back to the hotel.  Some car turned in front of us, just as we were stepping off the curb.  Instead of flipping them off (which would have been my natural reaction), you started telling us all about the car: the make, the model, the year,  engine specs etc.  Everything.  I was so impressed. 

With your knowledge I would think a car dealer would hire you in 2 seconds.   The one thing I've noticed about car dealers is that they either hire family or people who don't know shit (actually, they're both the same, aren't they?). 

anyway, give a car dealer a shot.  What have you got to lose?

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« Reply #42 on: March 08, 2008, 08:57:17 PM »
Anyone with a reliable car that's not too bad on gas should be able to make a couple hundred bucks a week delivering pizza a few nights.
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« Reply #43 on: March 10, 2008, 12:27:47 AM »
Anyone with a reliable car that's not too bad on gas should be able to make a couple hundred bucks a week delivering pizza a few nights.

My car insurance will not allow me to deliver pizzas with the coverage that I have. Besides I wrecked my Civic in the snow storm we had Friday evening. They had to tow it away. I don't know how I am going to come up with the deducible to pay to have the car fixed. As far as I am concerned Honda Finacial Services can come pick the damn thing up.

I have enough credit on my mastercard to purchase a plane ticket to Brussels. I want to be with Herman. I miss him very, very much. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. & Damnit I am going to find a way for the two of us to LIVE together.

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« Reply #44 on: March 10, 2008, 06:40:33 AM »
What the f**k is wrong with your parents??   Refusing to provide that information is idiotic.

You should remind them every day at the dinner table that they're killing their son.
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« Reply #45 on: March 10, 2008, 07:10:33 AM »
What the f**k is wrong with your parents??   Refusing to provide that information is idiotic.

You should remind them every day at the dinner table that they're killing their son.

Wanted to to write you the same thing Dan... I don't get it. Don't they ever need your help with anything, and won't they need it more over time? And Goddamit how could they be so heartless?

Maybe you should work on that dispute, if it's possible to reverse the canbcellation of the benefits, even with someone from the ASO as mediator btw you & them? Or what if you write a guesstimation of the household costs? Are they really going to check it 1/1?

Wishing you the best Dan, I hate to think of you off meds, you were so lively (and good lookin') when I saw you in A'dam, and that was so close to your bout with the infection at the hospital. You've been thru so much and survived so well, it doesn't bear thinking that you give up b/c of a collaboration btw backward parents and an evil system. There is so much going for you...

Besides as other have pointed the costs of meds are not at the level that you should give up completely on finding a way to pay them. Hope you find the light at the end of the tunnel, however dim it is now 
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« Reply #46 on: March 10, 2008, 10:45:35 AM »
I could just about hurl.

Talk about enabling.  Jesus H. Christ on a Popsicle stick.  You can't deliver pizzas because you don't have the right insurance package?  Now I've heard everything.  An excuse for every occasion.  You don't want solutions, Dan.  You just want a pity party.  And folks here seem to be willing to give it to you in spades. 

Take that last little bit of credit, get the appropriate insurance for your car, deliver the pizzas, save some money for meds and your next trip to Belgium. 

There.  Problem solved.

(Although I'm sure the next round of "but, but, but's..." will be coming along shortly.)

It really takes the cake.  You're gonna sit here and blame your parents for everything. You're going to sit by and let them be called murderers - these people that are still pretty much taking care of your every need at 40 what?? 

Look:  we've always gotten along fine, but gross, Dan.  Just gross.

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« Reply #47 on: March 10, 2008, 10:50:27 AM »
Oh, but you see, if Dan moved to Brussels, then Herman could take care of him while he was 'dying.'
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« Reply #48 on: March 10, 2008, 10:52:42 AM »
Oh, but you see, if Dan moved to Brussels, then Herman could take care of him while he was 'dying.'

I thought that they broke up 7 days ago.  I need a neck brace for all of the whiplash.
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« Reply #49 on: March 10, 2008, 10:59:26 AM »
Oh, but you see, if Dan moved to Brussels, then Herman could take care of him while he was 'dying.'

Yes, the Herman he is "no longer with...not sure if he ever really was with" or whatever from just the other day.  Here we go again.  Roud and around and around and around.  

I mean this makes no sense at all.  You have no money to pay the deductible to get your car fixed, yet you're somehow magically going to manage to cover a trip to Belgium??  WTF?   OK - so you've got a litte bit of cash on your credit card for airfare...then what?  Airfare along ain't gonna get ya very far....unless you're expecting (as Betty says) Herman to take care of you.  

And to sit here and even propose that you will spend this last bit of credit for airfare is preposterous.  Here's a little tip:  get a cash advance on that credit card and get your damn pills or something.  Jeezus...work it out already!  This is not some insurmountable obstacle.  Stop acting like all avenues are exhausted...nothing left to do but fly off into the sunset and die.

We all know what this really is....another Oscar worthy performance.  

Enough already.
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