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Offline thunter34

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I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« on: February 27, 2008, 05:28:13 PM »
I gotta say I'm not too keen on this current policy of letting the "neggies" or "unknowns" (or rather, as the case increasingly seems to be, the "nah nah - I'm not saying and you can't make me" bunch).  There's already a policy in place regarding the Worried Wells confining to AMI, but there's a big loophole that some folks  (often with dubious intentions) are using to skirt around this.  Increasingly, we're seeing posts crop up in OT, Nutrition, Research & on and on. 

So what's my problem with this?  Well...it feels kinda invasive, to be honest. This site is theoretically supposed to be primarily a place by and for us - The HIV Positive.  There's already been a forum established where people who "are here for loved ones" can post...the Someone I Care About Has HIV forum.  I'm seriously struggling over this because I hate to come off totally exclusionary; however, it really seems that a certain unscrupulous few seem bent on abusing the leeway afforded to them.  We routinely open up about some of the most intimate aspects of our lives on here, and many of us go well above and beyond in that arena in the interest of perhaps furthering an air of empowerment and destigmatization amongst our peers.  How do I say this?  I guess I would say that allowing folks to just post all over the place and willfully skirt discussion of their own HIV status comes off as invasive in the same way as some of the women might feel about men posting in their forum, or perhaps the members posting in the LTS forum.

Given the intensely personal nature of a site such as this, I'm wondering what the perception of others is here. 

DISCUSS.


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« Last Edit: February 27, 2008, 05:33:37 PM by thunter34 »
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #1 on: February 27, 2008, 05:33:00 PM »
Jeez-us christ. ::)

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #2 on: February 27, 2008, 05:35:53 PM »
Jeez-us christ. ::)

Case in point.  This is a serious topic I've just tabled for the other HIV+ people of this forum, and the very first post is this.  Thank you for stepping in to illustrate exactly what I'm attempting to communicate.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #3 on: February 27, 2008, 05:38:54 PM »
Xenophobia is a fear or contempt of that which is foreign or unknown, especially of strangers or foreign people.

[1] It comes from the Greek words ξένος (xenos), meaning "foreigner," "stranger," and φόβος (phobos), meaning "fear."

The term is typically used to describe fear or dislike of foreigners or in general of people different from one's self.

As with all phobias, a xenophobic person is aware of the fear, and therefore has to believe at some level that the target is in fact

a foreigner. This arguably separates xenophobia from racism and ordinary prejudice in that someone of a different race does not

necessarily have to be of a different nationality. In various contexts, the terms "xenophobia" and "racism" seem to be used

interchangeably, though they have wholly different meanings (xenophobia being based on place of birth, racism being based on

ancestry). For example: to dislike a black person from France because they are French is xenophobic, but to dislike them because

they are black is racist.

For xenophobia there are two main objects of the phobia. The first is a population group present within a society that is not

considered part of that society. Often they are recent immigrants, but xenophobia may be directed against a group which has

been present for centuries. This form of xenophobia can elicit or facilitate hostile and violent reactions, such as mass expulsion

of immigrants, or in the worst case, genocide.

The second form of xenophobia is primarily cultural, and the objects of the phobia are cultural elements which are considered

alien. All cultures are subject to external influences, but cultural xenophobia is often narrowly directed, for instance at foreign

loan words in a national language. It rarely leads to aggression against individual persons, but can result in political campaigns

for cultural or linguistic purification. Isolationism, a general aversion of foreign affairs, is not accurately described as xenophobia.

Additionally, in the world of science fiction, xenophobia may refer to a fear or hatred of extraterrestrial cultures or beings.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #4 on: February 27, 2008, 05:41:19 PM »
I'd say it's most people's assumption that such posters are confined to "Someone I Know" or "Am I Infected" and that generally they don't know that's not the case. I have to add that, until lately, this was not a huge issue for me but lately I'm feeling less inclined to feel "safe" -- and if there's no safety zone here on a poz forum then what is the purpose?  That's ultimately the goal, isn't it?

Let's think in real life situations.  If this was an actual HIV support group running you would not probably encounter this situation.  At least I have not in the four HIV support groups I've attended over the course of 15 years.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #5 on: February 27, 2008, 05:42:33 PM »
Tic, you are spamming my thread and utterly underlining the point I am making.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #6 on: February 27, 2008, 05:43:54 PM »
Safety zone: DENIED
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #7 on: February 27, 2008, 05:48:36 PM »
Tic, you are spamming my thread and utterly underlining the point I am making.





thanks for reverting from you original avatar and quote that you started this thread with in a n obvious attempt to continue a witch hunt.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #8 on: February 27, 2008, 05:54:33 PM »
To start on this subject, the number one thing I would consider, a stop to objectifying assuming.
Typically it gets persons off on the wrong foot.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #9 on: February 27, 2008, 05:58:38 PM »


thanks for reverting from you original avatar and quote that you started this thread with in a n obvious attempt to continue a witch hunt.

Yes, dear.  You are indeed correct.  This situation reminds me very much of similar situations.  The avatar was promptly removed in the interest of not appearing to single out any one particular poster.  You, of course, swooped in on it immediately and have been working ever so diligently since to derail it. 

And my goodness, you certainly are quite adept at moving around these forums for someone so new. 

Why....one might almost think you've been here before.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #10 on: February 27, 2008, 06:09:50 PM »
i do think you are quite RIGHT, Tim.

NOW i am wondering TicTicBang who you might be, you have not wanted to admit to your status down at Nutrition, now , you are here !!

Your writing style remind me of someone who use the name of Suntropic or something;
everytime , hecame here, it is like the 'circle' had came to town !! WITH ONE  purpose to shoot down 'anything' that 'move' .

i shall wait for your next move, oh , don't worry , sweetheart, i do have time and patience !!

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #11 on: February 27, 2008, 06:10:13 PM »
nope never had an account on these board before.
Assuming again.
Forum boards are not much different from one another.
And I frequent many, and am much loved.
Thanks for you concern, but posting a thread about a supplement shouldn't cause  alarm.
Yes, dear.  You are indeed correct.  This situation reminds me very much of similar situations.  The avatar was promptly removed in the interest of not appearing to single out any one particular poster.  You, of course, swooped in on it immediately and have been working ever so diligently since to derail it. 

And my goodness, you certainly are quite adept at moving around these forums for someone so new. 

Why....one might almost think you've been here before.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #12 on: February 27, 2008, 06:11:10 PM »
OMG you guys, queens whatever are quite the characters.

i do think you are quite RIGHT, Tim.

NOW i am wondering TicTicBang who you might be, you have not wanted to admit to your status down at Nutrition, now , you are here !!

Your writing style remind me of someone who use the name of Suntropic or something;
everytime , hecame here, it is like the 'circle' had came to town !! WITH ONE  purpose to shoot down 'anything' that 'move' .

i shall wait for your next move, oh , don't worry , sweetheart, i do have time and patience !!

Wd

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #13 on: February 27, 2008, 06:11:54 PM »
To start on this subject, the number one thing I would consider, a stop to objectifying assuming.
Typically it gets persons off on the wrong foot.

Not quite sure what "objectifying assuming" is, other than poorly constructed english.

Typically, what gets a person off on the wrong foot here is such an obvious attempt to be subversive.  It creates an air of suspicion and mistrust.  

Look:  I am attempting to table a reasonable discussion here about something that I feel is a legitimate issue.  I am NOT interested in participating in any flamewars or "witch hunts" with you.  As said before, this thread is not about YOU.  It is a discussion of the issue in a broader sense among my peers.  I'm stepping away from discussion with you because I have no intention of allowing you to get me dragged down or to invalidate this thread.  I will reserve my replies to my peers...the upfront ones.  You, of course, can freely post here - as is your right.  However, it would be one small step toward showing some form of class and respect if you would bow out and let us discuss it.  

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« Last Edit: February 27, 2008, 06:13:53 PM by thunter34 »
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #14 on: February 27, 2008, 06:15:21 PM »
Well I'm one of those neggies. When I first came here there weren't all these different forums like Someone I care about, positive women, Long-term, and I just tested poz. Since I was married to a poz guy who had no interest of learning anything about HIV, I posted any questions, concerns, and if i needed to vent I did it in the Living With. Everyone was so nice, kind, and caring. I truly don't know how I would have made it without the help of everyone here.

If I have a question about hubby i do post it in the someone I care about. Just seems like not many read that so I don't get as much information as I did before when it wasn't here. I only post replies in the Living with and those are mostly birthday threads or if someone is ill and the hospital. I don't post in the positive women because I'm not positive, but if I want to say something to someone about a thread I will pm them.

I'm sorry you aren't feeling as safe here.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #15 on: February 27, 2008, 06:22:33 PM »
Why would someone who is not HIV+, or very close to someone who is HIV+, want to hang out in AIDSmeds forums?

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #16 on: February 27, 2008, 06:25:52 PM »
Teresa Dear,

There is no need for you to feel that way as you came here with a pure heart , to share and help;  we will certainly feel safe in your presence.

david's remarks were not meant for  you.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #17 on: February 27, 2008, 06:28:41 PM »
Well I'm one of those neggies. When I first came here there weren't all these different forums like Someone I care about, positive women, Long-term, and I just tested poz. Since I was married to a poz guy who had no interest of learning anything about HIV, I posted any questions, concerns, and if i needed to vent I did it in the Living With. Everyone was so nice, kind, and caring. I truly don't know how I would have made it without the help of everyone here.

If I have a question about hubby i do post it in the someone I care about. Just seems like not many read that so I don't get as much information as I did before when it wasn't here. I only post replies in the Living with and those are mostly birthday threads or if someone is ill and the hospital. I don't post in the positive women because I'm not positive, but if I want to say something to someone about a thread I will pm them.

I'm sorry you aren't feeling as safe here.

Hugs
Teresa

And see...there again:  Teresa.  A fine example to me of someone that I'm happy to share the forums with.  

Listen, I'm tabling this for discussion of the broader issue of forum boundaries and how safe do people feel.  I have nothing but good things to say of you, Teresa.  

And you raise a good point about traffic and volume of responses in Someone vs. Living With.

Though it has started roughly, I'm hoping this thread might veer back into a civil and honest discourse.

And I appreciate your contribution to this thread.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #18 on: February 27, 2008, 06:30:04 PM »
OMG you guys, queens whatever are quite the characters.


interesting comment

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #19 on: February 27, 2008, 06:31:29 PM »
In respect to Teresa's post, I think this portion of the OP bears repeating.

I'm seriously struggling over this because I hate to come off totally exclusionary; however, it really seems that a certain unscrupulous few seem bent on abusing the leeway afforded to them. 
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #20 on: February 27, 2008, 06:32:59 PM »
Back to the original question...


I honestly had not thought too much about the status of those who where posting on the site. I understand and validate your concern. It seems very legitimate to me.

To be honest I was naive enough to think that the vast majority of posters where people who where either HIV positive or very close to someone who was. It never occured to me that someone out there who is not positive or in some relation to someone who is would want to spend time on a site for persons with HIV.

Makes no sense to me.
I wouldn't want to spend time on a forum devoted to the love of pig intestines or amature toe poppers or ebola virus aficionados.

If I where to ask a question about a HIV related problem I was having how would I know if the persons responding to my post where people responding with the intent to help not hinder?

I guess the only reasons I can think of for a person who would linger on a site that has nothing to do with their life is either they get a kick out of being a pain in someones ass or they have a strange, possibly sick attraction to the subject.


I donno...


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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #21 on: February 27, 2008, 06:35:17 PM »


I guess the only reasons I can think of for a person who would linger on a site that has nothing to do with their life is either they get a kick out of being a pain in someones ass or they have a strange, possibly sick attraction to the subject.


Oh, I can think of reasons.  All it takes is one HIV-positive person to do someone wrong (for whatever reason) and if the other person is mentally stunted they can easily take this out on all positive people -- especially on the internet.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #22 on: February 27, 2008, 06:37:06 PM »
So if I went on a murderous rampage it would be your fault too ? LOL

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #23 on: February 27, 2008, 06:38:49 PM »
Jeez-us christ. ::)

OMG you guys, queens whatever are quite the characters.


I'm suspending your account until this can be discussed with the other moderators.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #24 on: February 27, 2008, 06:48:05 PM »
Temporary thread Amtrak:  Winnie, you look MARVELOUS in your latest avatar.

OK.

Resume.

Seriously...this is a tricky issue.  For one, just as with the Positive Women's Forum, it's somewhat illusory to think of it as a "private" space for women since anything posted is freely viewable on the whole of the web.  That said, there is some merit to the notion of having a reserved space for discussion solely among one's peers.  Whatever it takes to promote as much of an honest, free flowing dialogue as possible.  

What I'm hearing from some (and feeling on occasion myself) is a diminished sense of this on the forums as a whole, and I'm not quite sure what (if anything) can or should be done about that.  Is it a situation where posting policies might need to be reevaluated?  Would that really help?  Is it really so much an imposition brought by difference in HIV status, or is it more to do with a sense of invasion brought on by the perceived abuse of this freedom by a certain few?
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #25 on: February 27, 2008, 07:06:57 PM »
Well Timmy, that is one of the reasons why I don't post often about physical things that happen to me.  I don't want information with someone who doesn't have first-hand experience.  I also don't like the idea of having non-HIV+ people doling into threads where those of us with HIV are. 

It's the same in my going to NA meetings.  There are some meetings that are open-where anyone can attend.  Then there are closed meetings-open only to addicts.  I would feel extremely unsafe putting out details that I wouldn't think someone would respond to with genuine interest of heart. 

I don't know what's going to be done about this-if anything.  I'm not going to say much else.  I guess I've gone a tad overboard already today.   I know I would feel much safer if the discussion was felt to be genuine, rather than fishing for something, putting out useless information, etc. 

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #26 on: February 27, 2008, 07:26:12 PM »
Temporary thread Amtrak:  Winnie, you look MARVELOUS in your latest avatar.



Thank you, we try...On occasion.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #27 on: February 27, 2008, 08:20:07 PM »
I'm sorry to hear you have a little bone. And why are you picking at it?


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« Reply #28 on: February 27, 2008, 08:34:19 PM »
Ok, small hijack.  Sharkie, poor timitation has to pick his own bone because Betty and Queen have abandon him.

Back on track:

Wow, I'm not sure what to say.  I'm negative and have never pretended otherwise.  And, I do post in a lot of different forums. I was only trying to get information to help my jr. pozzie and, in turn, found friends. Honestly, I've never thought about it being an issue.  Maybe I need to rethink things.  When I first started posting, I did PM Ann or Jan, sorry, I can't remember which, and asked where I could and couldn't go.  I was told and have stuck to it (except for posting in the women's forum - shame on me!).  I certainly never meant to upset anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. 

I do understand where you are coming from, hun.  There are folks that go lurking and posting (and PM-ing) where they shouldn't.  But, from what I've noticed, the moderators have done a good job herding them back to their proper places.

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« Reply #29 on: February 27, 2008, 08:35:13 PM »
We have quite a few well-loved and well-respected hiv negative members of these forums who are welcome to post where they want.

I for one, do not think it unreasonable to expect hiv negative members to declare their reasons for being here. Many have perfectly good reason. Blathering on about privacy issues doesn't cut it with me either. Respect is the order of the day and we have many members who achieve this aim.

However, if you have doubts about a member, please don't start calling them out in a thread yourself. That's one of the reasons why these forums have moderators. It's our job to do that, not yours.

Eh. I just had to get that off my chest. It is what it is.

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« Reply #30 on: February 27, 2008, 08:39:24 PM »
I need to clarify what I meant by "privacy issues"... I was speaking of when member declines to reveal their hiv status.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #31 on: February 27, 2008, 08:53:12 PM »
I gotta say I'm not too keen on this current policy of letting the "neggies" or "unknowns" (or rather, as the case increasingly seems to be, the "nah nah - I'm not saying and you can't make me" bunch).  . . .So what's my problem with this?  Well...it feels kinda invasive, to be honest. . .
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We have quite a few well-loved and well-respected hiv negative members of these forums who are welcome to post where they want.


Going back to the original post, I wonder if the issue us really about negative people posting, or about people who are unknown to the group posting? As a relatively recent poster myself I have to say this feels a bit personally endangering to say -- one of the problems is that we new folks feel we get to know you old timers because we read the forums before we joined -- but you don't know us from Adam. 

But if it is really about unknown people rather than negative people posting it seems like that could be addressed by having a discussion on how to make an entrance, and maybe by adding a discussion of etiquette for joining (introduce yourself in a thread, etc. . .) to the registration process, or barring that, adding it to a welcome thread.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #32 on: February 27, 2008, 08:54:45 PM »
I have run into this situation as well, Timtation.  What has happened with me is that a so-called "pozzie" aka "oh, I'm waiting for results" started PMing me a while backl.  I basically ignored the person, but often wondered why they didn't EVER tell us what was going on with labs, status, etc.

Its after they withheld this info (that we all tend to share so freely here) that I became a little concerned, and somewhat irritated.  I don't answer those PMs anymore, but I also haven't received one in a little while.

I guess the only thing we can really do is just take Ann's advice and report anyone who becomes a problem.

I wanted you to know that you're not alone, I feel ya.  Usually it just comes down to someone being disrespectful to others in the threads, but I won't mention any names.  ;D  Those people have enough baggage of their own to deal with, lol.  :)

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #33 on: February 27, 2008, 09:06:40 PM »
I know what they say about assuming- but I think Minismom and Teresa , for example, can assume they are welcome in the different forums of this site.  They deal with HIV and its issues or non-issues on a daily basis and can benefit and provide support for whatever is being discussed. I see what Thunter is saying as far as the people who are negative and have no positive associations.  I am relatively new here but I thought like Win why would you be here, if you weren't positive or living with someone who is?
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #34 on: February 27, 2008, 09:10:16 PM »
.
Going back to the original post, I wonder if the issue us really about negative people posting, or about people who are unknown to the group posting? As a relatively recent poster myself I have to say this feels a bit personally endangering to say -- one of the problems is that we new folks feel we get to know you old timers because we read the forums before we joined -- but you don't know us from Adam. 

But if it is really about unknown people rather than negative people posting it seems like that could be addressed by having a discussion on how to make an entrance, and maybe by adding a discussion of etiquette for joining (introduce yourself in a thread, etc. . .) to the registration process, or barring that, adding it to a welcome thread.

My take on it is that it is the people of unknown STATUS who tend to rankle. When a new person comes in and says "hey, I was diagnosed in XXXX and here I am" - everyone can relate to one extent or another. It's when people turn up and start posting without revealing if they're neg or poz that tends to bring out the wary-radar in established members - especially when they seem to be HIDING their status.

This IS a forum primarily for people who live with hiv on a daily basis, whether they are hiv positive themselves or if they have a loved one who is hiv positive. People who don't fit this criteria come off as people who might be here for the side-show guffaws. That's how I feel about it anyway. Just because I'm a moderator here doesn't mean I don't have feelings too.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #35 on: February 27, 2008, 09:42:48 PM »
Thunter Bunny--

I can definitely feel where you are coming from. But like you and the others, I have no issue with Theresa or Mum, I feel like they are the exception to the rule. As for others who are neg, well, I never look much into it other than maybe they are trying to educate themselves on HIV and what better place to come than here?

I agree with you on the part about them starting threads that may make no sense or their question has been answered and they insist on finding another way to ask the same damn question. That really irritates me to no end and where I say that, the moderators have the patience of saints. Being the smart ass that I know I can be, there is no telling what I would say.

On the being safe on what to share, well, since I am blogging, anyone can what I share so it is up to me to be selective on what I choose to discuss. I know being here maybe you feel you shouldn't have to be selective but then like someone said, it is open to the world web but then sometimes you just come across some asses.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #36 on: February 27, 2008, 09:52:06 PM »
Well, I have to say a tremendous THANK YOU to everyone who has posted in this thread since my last post.  You have brought it around to what I was trying to get at so, so much better than I was doing.  Cuz see...there's another one:  Mum.  I love Mum and completely embrace her posting and taking full advantage of everything these boards have to offer.  And knowing her background, I would absolutely support her use of these forums. 

I said earlier this was a tricky thread to initiate.  Boy howdy.  I'm afraid some have been unintentionally caught up in the wheels of it.  To those, I whole heartedly apologize if this thread has made you feel unwelcome.  (Namely Mum and Teresa, but I imagine others will surely come to light.)  I do not apologize for the thread on the whole, however, because I think it's pretty clear I wasn't alone in this perspective & there really was something to be thought over and discussed.  I think the true area of unease centers, as has now been better clarified, more on those who are not forthcoming with their status or what draws them here. 

So to everyone who has posted just above, I offer thanks.

Except to Sharkie...who is evil and must be destroyed.   ;)

I'm sorry to hear you have a little bone. And why are you picking at it?
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #37 on: February 27, 2008, 10:02:56 PM »
(Namely Mum and Teresa, but I imagine others will surely come to light.)

Nadine... and I'm sure there's others.

Except to Sharkie...who is evil and must be destroyed.   ;)

Um, nope. No way. He's the bi-pretzel fantasy-god of some of us here. Don't you dare harm a hair on his head! :P

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #38 on: February 27, 2008, 10:04:44 PM »
Now when you gonna let me live out my Thunter Bunny fantasy? See you come back and still ignore me. Now it's time for an avatar switch.... ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #39 on: February 27, 2008, 10:06:39 PM »

So to everyone who has posted just above, I offer thanks.

Except to Sharkie...who is evil and must be destroyed.   ;)


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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #40 on: February 27, 2008, 10:10:10 PM »
Now when you gonna let me live out my Thunter Bunny fantasy? See you come back and still ignore me. Now it's time for an avatar switch.... ;)


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« Reply #41 on: February 27, 2008, 10:11:09 PM »
OMG.  Project Runway is on.  Be back later.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #42 on: February 27, 2008, 10:25:28 PM »
Well, I got to start with something sweet, Thunter Bunny. I could be the Girl Scout from Hell and you the neighbor I'm trying to sell my cookies to. Damn, work with me, man. But then I got left hanging in a thread for Project Runway...*pouts and sighs*...See, it moments like this when I need Sharkie. *carefully puts out some Sharkie Treats*
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #43 on: February 27, 2008, 10:32:06 PM »
Oh, by all means, Mum and Nadine don't offend at all (and of course, Teresa...probably others not coming to mind).  I guess it's those who come on here for unknown reasons I tend to be leary of.  People who don't disclose their own reason for being here. 

Queen, it looks like we've got some work to do! ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #44 on: February 27, 2008, 10:45:11 PM »
Came in strickly to hijack for a brief moment.  Betty, congrats on over 3000 posts ;D :-*


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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #45 on: February 27, 2008, 10:49:11 PM »
Ok, small hijack.  Sharkie, poor timitation has to pick his own bone because Betty and Queen have abandon him.

Back on track:

Wow, I'm not sure what to say.  I'm negative and have never pretended otherwise.  And, I do post in a lot of different forums. I was only trying to get information to help my jr. pozzie and, in turn, found friends. Honestly, I've never thought about it being an issue.  Maybe I need to rethink things.  When I first started posting, I did PM Ann or Jan, sorry, I can't remember which, and asked where I could and couldn't go.  I was told and have stuck to it (except for posting in the women's forum - shame on me!).  I certainly never meant to upset anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. 

I do understand where you are coming from, hun.  There are folks that go lurking and posting (and PM-ing) where they shouldn't.  But, from what I've noticed, the moderators have done a good job herding them back to their proper places.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #46 on: February 27, 2008, 10:56:04 PM »
Oh, by all means, Mum and Nadine don't offend at all (and of course, Teresa...probably others not coming to mind).  I guess it's those who come on here for unknown reasons I tend to be leary of.  People who don't disclose their own reason for being here. 


I agree--"unknown reasons" raises red flags for me--as does immediate over-familiarity--or posting binges right out of the gate--or bringing up highly controversial topics at every turn. 

It's not that difficult to spot someone who has been here before under a different moniker, in spite of their pleas of innocence.  The members of these forums have uncovered them on many occasions, and they've been right far more than they've been wrong.


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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #47 on: February 27, 2008, 10:57:42 PM »
I agree--"unknown reasons" raises red flags for me--as does immediate over-familiarity--or posting binges right out of the gate--or bringing up highly controversial topics at every turn. 

It's not that difficult to spot someone who has been here before under a different moniker, in spite of their pleas of innocence.  The members of these forums have uncovered them on many occasions, and they've been right far more than they've been wrong.



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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #48 on: February 27, 2008, 11:51:59 PM »
*carefully puts out some Sharkie Treats*

I'm barely out the door and she's already getting chummy with Sharkie again. 

Hmmm...I see how this game is played.  I gotta keep my ladies happy or they're gonna roam.

Hell, I don't blame you.  I can't bend like that. 
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #49 on: February 28, 2008, 12:23:53 AM »
I agree--"unknown reasons" raises red flags for me--as does immediate over-familiarity--or posting binges right out of the gate--or bringing up highly controversial topics at every turn. 

It's not that difficult to spot someone who has been here before under a different moniker, in spite of their pleas of innocence.  The members of these forums have uncovered them on many occasions, and they've been right far more than they've been wrong.



Amen to that brother. I see no reason why someone can't be politely asked their status. Usually all it takes is a "why don't you introduce yourself." Refusing to answer is just one big fat red flag. Believe me we can't be fooled.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #50 on: February 28, 2008, 12:32:04 AM »
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And you can fool some of the people all of the time

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #51 on: February 28, 2008, 12:33:55 AM »
Well, I got to start with something sweet, Thunter Bunny. I could be the Girl Scout from Hell and you the neighbor I'm trying to sell my cookies to. Damn, work with me, man. But then I got left hanging in a thread for Project Runway...*pouts and sighs*...See, it moments like this when I need Sharkie. *carefully puts out some Sharkie Treats*

Tasty treats, mmmmm frosting tooo

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #52 on: February 28, 2008, 12:43:40 AM »
I'm barely out the door and she's already getting chummy with Sharkie again. 

Hmmm...I see how this game is played.  I gotta keep my ladies happy or they're gonna roam.

Hell, I don't blame you.  I can't bend like that. 

Well, who left me for Project Runway, huh? And I put out Sharkie Treats cuz I was testing my culinary skill since I watch Iron Chef America... ;) And now you are just figuring out you got to keep the ladies happy? Sheesh, I have been pining after you since who knows how long or did you think you could keep teasing me? I need servicing, damn it. As long as you can bend over, it's allllllllll goooooooood.... ;) You may not be able to bend like Sharkie but I am sure you have some hidden talent that I don't know about... ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #53 on: February 28, 2008, 12:45:15 AM »
Tasty treats, mmmmm frosting tooo

Just wait til you get to the cream filled center.... ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #54 on: February 28, 2008, 12:54:28 AM »
Just wait til you get to the cream filled center.... ;)

Maybe I should share some with Timmy

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #55 on: February 28, 2008, 01:05:41 AM »
I don't think Thunter Bunny wants no parts of my sugar walls....Oh, that means more for you.... ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #56 on: February 28, 2008, 06:18:10 AM »
I see no reason why someone can't be politely asked their status. Usually all it takes is a "why don't you introduce yourself." Refusing to answer is just one big fat red flag. Believe me we can't be fooled.

I agree that one should be able to be asked (however politely) whether they're HIV+ or not.  I don't like it when someone comes flogging in here, and throws advice around like they're old hands, when they're not.  And then won't even state their reason for being here in the first place. 
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #57 on: February 28, 2008, 07:04:12 AM »
Amen to that brother. I see no reason why someone can't be politely asked their status. Usually all it takes is a "why don't you introduce yourself." Refusing to answer is just one big fat red flag. Believe me we can't be fooled.

Agreed. There's no harm in asking ONCE, politely. When that person ignores the question, it doesn't mean it's open season to start badgering that person or for others to pile in also asking the question.

If you think red flags are being raised and the person is a sock or a troll, don't antagonise them. DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS! Pass your suspicions on to the moderators and GIVE US SOME TIME TO ACT ON IT!!!

Please keep in mind that we will always give the benefit of doubt when there is no hard evidence supporting members' suspicions. However, if the person truly is a sock/troll, they will eventually give us enough rope and they WILL be dealt with.

It's so much easier to deal with these types if no one is rising to the bait. We hate it when we end up having to also warn or TO members in good standing because they took it upon themselves to wrangle with a sock/troll. REMEMBER THAT, PLEASE!

I said it earlier in this thread and I'll say it again. It's the job of the moderators to deal with this kind of stuff, not ordinary members.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #58 on: February 28, 2008, 07:11:36 AM »
* salutes Ann *    ;)
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #59 on: February 28, 2008, 07:56:40 AM »
Tim,

Good topic.  I think there are some people who are here to gawk, or stir the pot, rather than constructively participate and contribute.  In that respect, it's no different than most other places on the Internet.  I think most of us know some of the more subtle signals, such as lack of disclosure of status, lack of an introduction, being vague about background or intent.  It is often not just one sign, but rather a pattern of them, which sometimes can establish itself rather quickly.  Fortunately, we have Goderators who are astute about these things, and are willing to take action to weed out these trolls.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #60 on: February 28, 2008, 08:05:29 AM »
Tim, I'm glad you brought this subject up for discussion. It's one that has been on my mind for some time. 'nuf said for the moment.
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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #61 on: February 28, 2008, 09:24:16 AM »
Amen to that brother. I see no reason why someone can't be politely asked their status. Usually all it takes is a "why don't you introduce yourself." Refusing to answer is just one big fat red flag. Believe me we can't be fooled.

I hve done so on some occasions.

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #62 on: February 28, 2008, 09:45:21 AM »
I'm glad Tim brought this up.

For my own part, my issue with some who are neg and post in certain sections is in regards to their intentions. As others have already stated, it is the ones with the dubious intentions that show themselves sooner or later.

There are two main areas that I have issue with the aforementioned some:

 - Those who come in for Research, college papers or opinion polls*

 - Those who try to sell their product or services such as legal, pharmaceutical or nutritionist representative.

*In the above example I don't really mind the actual items if they are cleared with the moderators and presented on face value, but there are a few times when someone comes in under false pretenses and starts playing 20 questions as if we are test subjects.

One of the things that needs to be kept in mind is that as this site continues to grow in popularity and in reach, I think we all have a responsibility to be hawkish when it comes to what is allowed to be posted unchallenged in the Research, Treatments and Nutrition areas specifically because I really don't relish someone citing some voodoo herb as a cure for AIDS based on the fact that it was stated on AIDSmeds.  While false leads and misinformation is not exclusive to neg or poz, I think the previously mentioned worry of those with dubious intentions make this the key to my own skeptical eye with certain posts.

I respect the moderators request that we let them handle such suspicions, though I do think we should be allowed to state publicly to the poster in question if we have such a suspicion and our reason - after all, we are giving them the benefit of the doubt to then explain themselves.



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« Reply #63 on: February 28, 2008, 09:54:59 AM »
I'm a neggie and am honored to fall in to a category with Mum, Nadine and Theresa. :)

I, at first, felt horrible reading the first post in this thread..but upon reading the rest, feel much better.  I do my best to be respectful, ask questions, and only add input where I think I might be helpful and knowleadgeable.

I do see Timmy's point - and often cringe when an unknown tells someone new in the " I Just Tested Poz" that they're crazy for not starting HAART immediately.  I worry about those newbies getting such difinitive answers from people with no right to make such pointed statements.

Hope I haven't offended or ever over-stepped my bounds here..and if I ever do - please let me know! I like it here. Not only do I find answers to my HIV related questions, I find support and acceptance.

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« Reply #64 on: February 28, 2008, 09:57:17 AM »

One of the things that needs to be kept in mind is that as this site continues to grow in popularity and in reach, I think we all have a responsibility to be hawkish when it comes to what is allowed to be posted unchallenged in the Research, Treatments and Nutrition areas specifically because I really don't relish someone citing some voodoo herb as a cure for AIDS based on the fact that it was stated on AIDSmeds.  While false leads and misinformation is not exclusive to neg or poz, I think the previously mentioned worry of those with dubious intentions make this the key to my own skeptical eye with certain posts.

I respect the moderators request that we let them handle such suspicions, though I do think we should be allowed to state publicly to the poster in question if we have such a suspicion and our reason - after all, we are giving them the benefit of the doubt to then explain themselves.


Agreed, to an extent. It is one thing to post ONE reply to ask a person to explain themselves (and please, always follow this up with a moderator report so we can review the post ourselves and remove it or intervene when necessary), however it is totally different when the request is repeated again and again or by several people. If they ignore one request, they're hardly going to respond to repeated and increasingly heated requests.

Please, let us handle this sort of thing. And always remember - if you want feedback on a moderator report, please say so in your report.

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« Reply #65 on: February 28, 2008, 10:03:32 AM »
Ann,

I didn't mean to imply otherwise and I agree with you.  Sorry if my wording was awkward.

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« Reply #66 on: February 28, 2008, 10:05:58 AM »
Hi Tim (and everyone):

Despite the anonymity offered by the internet, we're always going to get new members to the Forums who wish to enmesh themselves in this community and build a sense of trust before disclosing their HIV status. While many of us don't have a problem entering this (or another) forum saying, "Hi, I'm HIV positive and am looking to give/receive help or support," many do.

Longtime members of these Forums know that it's a safe place and are certainly familiar with the rules, politics and tripwires. While some new members are quick to pick up on these and waste no time endearing themselves to this community, others require a little more patience, encouragement, coaching... and sometimes warnings.

We simply can't have a black-and-white policy requiring every person who joins the Forums -- and begins participating in key "living with" sections -- to disclose their status immediately and figure out, right off the bat, the dynamics and cadence of this community. It's different when we have members of the "Am I Infected?" Forum wondering into sections where they don't belong.  But when we're dealing with new members who joing "this side" of the Forums -- and we do screen new accounts to make sure they're not duplicates -- I do think it's okay to err on the side of caution and give new members the space and time they need to disclose what they're looking for in the Forums. Questions like, "Are you positive or not," seem overly aggressive and paranoid; more gentle nudges -- perhaps a general welcome message, reiterating that the Forums are a space for HIV-positive people and their care providers (nothing's lost with a little kindness)  -- may be all that's necessary when trying to figure out a new member who hasn't disclosed his or her status or stated his or her interest in the Forums.

With all that said, we've put a ban on Tic's account -- not because he has evaded questions about his status, but because of his flame baiting with such a newly minted account. Tic, as someone who claims to "frequent many" forums and are "much loved," then you are obviously familiar with the term netiquette and the need for new members of a Forum to ender themselves to other members, especially in a Forum that is intended for people living (and sometimes struggling) with a life-threatening disease. Tic, if you'd like to discuss your participation in the Forums, please contact me directly via e-mail.

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« Reply #67 on: February 28, 2008, 10:07:45 AM »
Ann,

I didn't mean to imply otherwise and I agree with you.  Sorry if my wording was awkward.

Mark

No problem, Mark. I just wanted to clarify our position on this.

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« Reply #68 on: February 28, 2008, 10:17:12 AM »
Kidding aside Thunter

I happen to understand your frustration and I am glad you brought this subject up. Recently I have realised that I should probably be a little more cautious of what personal info I put out here on the forum.
(well maybe not everything  ;))

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« Reply #69 on: February 28, 2008, 10:33:25 AM »
Recently I have realised that I should probably be a little more cautious of what personal info I put out here on the forum.
(well maybe not everything  ;))

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« Reply #70 on: February 28, 2008, 10:55:23 AM »
I'm happy I started the this tread, but still cringing with each new beloved "neggie" that shows up saying, "What did I do wrong?"  (Jen, Nadine...the list keeps growing.) 

Eep.  I'm halfway tempted to post some kind of "please read a little ways down this thread" kind of advisory, but I'm not quite sure how to word it.   :-\

I very much appreciate the participation in this thread.  I think it's been really productive, despite a very shaky start.
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« Reply #71 on: February 28, 2008, 11:09:52 AM »
Don't worry about it Timmy - I thought I knew what you meant in your initial post and upon reading the rest of the thread, my thoughts were confirmed. Anyone who reads the entire thread will get it too-

I just thought it would be a good time to say.. "let me know if I'm ever out of line" - I'm open to certain forms of discipline.  Time-outs - not so much. Spankings?  well.. that's another story.  :)

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« Reply #72 on: February 28, 2008, 11:19:38 AM »
Back in the good ol' days we didn't seem to have this much of a problem. Most people's initial post in Living With would start with hi I'm so and so and I've been Poz for...they would immediately receive a welcome. Now it has become so static with strangers  jumping in feet first to a thread without so much as a howdy do or courtesy and manners. Fucking kids get off my lawn. ;D

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« Reply #73 on: February 28, 2008, 11:27:42 AM »
Back in the good ol' days we didn't seem to have this much of a problem. Most people's initial post in Living With would start with hi I'm so and so and I've been Poz for...they would immediately receive a welcome. Now it has become so static with strangers  jumping in feet first to a thread without so much as a howdy do or courtesy and manners. Fucking kids get off my lawn. ;D

I was such a n00b to forums (this was my first and still primary forum) that I was clue free about how to navigate it, so I never made any introduction post.  Didn't know how to navigate on here to do so.  All I could figure out at first was "reply", so I just kinda jumped in myself and started posting some responses.  Most of them just laid there flailing about and dying without anyone picking up on them.  I was so not feeling the love.  I totally understand now, of course, why that was.  People were rightly thinking, "Who is this clown all of the sudden?"  It helped that I showed my hoo ha in the porn thread. 

So readers, I guess the lesson here is:  If you're gonna be secretive about status and things like that, at least surrender the pink.

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« Reply #74 on: February 28, 2008, 11:47:54 AM »
I agree that one should be able to be asked (however politely) whether they're HIV+ or not.  I don't like it when someone comes flogging in here, and throws advice around like they're old hands, when they're not.  And then won't even state their reason for being here in the first place. 

Agreed.  Or decides to run nillywilly for MONTHS posting the most odd BS in Research News while at the same time posting in Am I Infected asking if they're cd4 count indicates that they're HIV positive.
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« Reply #75 on: February 28, 2008, 11:53:37 AM »
I was such a n00b to forums (this was my first and still primary forum) that I was clue free about how to navigate it, so I never made any introduction post.  Didn't know how to navigate on here to do so.  All I could figure out at first was "reply", so I just kinda jumped in myself and started posting some responses.  Most of them just laid there flailing about and dying without anyone picking up on them.  I was so not feeling the love.  I totally understand now, of course, why that was.  People were rightly thinking, "Who is this clown all of the sudden?"  It helped that I showed my hoo ha in the porn thread. 

So readers, I guess the lesson here is:  If you're gonna be secretive about status and things like that, at least surrender the pink.

(kidding)

Oh don't you worry we had our eye on you. Consensus was he may be a jerk but at least he is cute. We were right about one of 'em. ;D

You can get a lot of mileage by posting in the porn thread. Ain't that right Peter? :P

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« Reply #76 on: February 28, 2008, 12:30:11 PM »
It helped that I showed my hoo ha in the porn thread. 

I miss all the good stuff.
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« Reply #77 on: February 28, 2008, 12:37:25 PM »
All I remember is a shirtless pose with a "come hither" look on his face.  Was there something I missed?

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« Reply #78 on: February 28, 2008, 12:42:01 PM »
ok thunter34 if your worried about ticticbang, just google him, he's in your neck of the woods  ;D. and as for being exclusive, just google "thunter34" and you'll see just how exclusive you are ::)  the joys of the WWW

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« Reply #79 on: February 28, 2008, 12:47:00 PM »
All I remember is a shirtless pose with a "come hither" look on his face.  Was there something I missed?

... we all know he's really Gomer Pyle

Timmy, are you going to let her do that to you? 
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« Reply #80 on: February 28, 2008, 12:48:11 PM »
*giggle*
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« Reply #81 on: February 28, 2008, 12:48:17 PM »
OK, THUNTER34, and if you googled, ticticbang, guess what, his myspace page has YOU "HUNTER" as one of his friends on his friends page. HMMMMMM, the pot calling the kettle hot.

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« Reply #82 on: February 28, 2008, 12:50:16 PM »
ok thunter34 if your worried about ticticbang, just google him, he's in your neck of the woods  ;D. and as for being exclusive, just google "thunter34" and you'll see just how exclusive you are ::)  the joys of the WWW

already found...and recognized, actually.  though i have no assurance that this tictic and that one are one and the same.  plenty of times, i've tried to create a new profile username only to find it is already taken somewhere.  such could be the case here.  it's neither here nor there - tictic was/is not the real focus of this thread.  

oh, i know i'm not all that exclusive or special.  still, last check and nearly all "thunter34" googles plopped me right back here or POZ or in some other AIDS encrusted frame.  boy howdy...not a chance of putting the poz cat bag in the bag for me at this point.
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« Reply #83 on: February 28, 2008, 12:50:52 PM »
omg... thunter34=ticticbang

thus

thunter34=troll

*BUSTED*
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« Reply #84 on: February 28, 2008, 12:51:57 PM »
OK, THUNTER34, and if you googled, ticticbang, guess what, his myspace page has YOU "HUNTER" as one of his friends on his friends page. HMMMMMM, the pot calling the kettle hot.


hmmm?  i shall have to go investigate.  gads...when am i ever on MySpace?
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« Reply #85 on: February 28, 2008, 12:55:41 PM »
OK, THUNTER34, and if you googled, ticticbang, guess what, his myspace page has YOU "HUNTER" as one of his friends on his friends page. HMMMMMM, the pot calling the kettle hot.

Barbara, please.

That "Hunter" is not me. 

I'm older.  But also prettier.   ;D
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« Reply #86 on: February 28, 2008, 12:57:07 PM »
Timmy, are you going to let her do that to you? 

I don't pay her no mind

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« Reply #87 on: February 28, 2008, 12:58:07 PM »
 ;D if you say so th,  8) I guess I need more pics of you and tictic to = bang  :o

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« Reply #88 on: February 28, 2008, 12:58:59 PM »
I don't see you yet on TicTic's friends list.  However, I *do* see the porn star that gave me ghonnorhea a decade ago.
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« Reply #89 on: February 28, 2008, 01:01:23 PM »
I don't see you yet on TicTic's friends list.  However, I *do* see the porn star that gave me ghonnorhea a decade ago.

So what's new?  Is there ever a link presented on here wherein you do not find someone with whom you've exchanged some form of social disease along with a hefty sack of coke?
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« Reply #90 on: February 28, 2008, 01:03:53 PM »
So what's new?  Is there ever a link presented on here wherein you do not find someone with whom you've exchanged some form of social disease along with a hefty sack of coke?

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« Reply #91 on: February 28, 2008, 01:04:11 PM »
Jack and I didn't do coke, but I do recall a dinner of steak au poivre and copious amounts of red wine and later hard liquor while dancing in the basement of The Monster.  And no, I didn't pay.
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« Reply #92 on: February 28, 2008, 01:05:44 PM »
Jack and I didn't do coke, but I do recall a dinner of steak au poivre and copious amounts of red wine and later hard liquor while dancing in the basement of The Monster.  And no, I didn't pay.

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« Reply #93 on: February 28, 2008, 01:08:30 PM »
you could not be any gayer if you tried

True, and you've not even heard my voice yet.
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« Reply #94 on: February 28, 2008, 01:09:10 PM »
by the way tim, that REESE guy is hot :o, what's the scoop ;)

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« Reply #95 on: February 28, 2008, 01:10:23 PM »
you could not be any gayer if you tried

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« Reply #96 on: February 28, 2008, 01:11:41 PM »
I guess it settles the "are you poz" question.

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« Reply #97 on: February 28, 2008, 01:45:26 PM »
by the way tim, that REESE guy is hot :o, what's the scoop ;)


Back off, queen.  You'll have to get in line for my baby, Reese.

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« Reply #98 on: February 28, 2008, 02:13:51 PM »
by the way tim, that REESE guy is hot :o, what's the scoop ;)

And btw...if you've found Reese, you're obviously doing a pretty good fishing expedition on me - and on to my friends.

I know it's a wide open internet, but um...the creep out meter is still rising a bit over here.
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« Reply #99 on: February 28, 2008, 03:50:10 PM »
I don't pay her no mind

Her cornbread ain't done, if ya know what I mean.

OK, but I still want to see that shirtless photo with the 'come hither' look on your face so I can decide.
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« Reply #100 on: February 28, 2008, 03:53:12 PM »
Oh, before I forget, rumor has it you do have a little bone to pick. :P

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« Reply #101 on: February 28, 2008, 03:58:19 PM »
Oh, before I forget, rumor has it you do have a little bone to pick. :P

Duly noted.  I will deal with you later.
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« Reply #102 on: February 28, 2008, 04:22:14 PM »
OK, but I still want to see that shirtless photo with the 'come hither' look on your face so I can decide.

It's my wallpaper.  I stare at it for hours everyday.





(not really...but thought I would ramp up the creep out meter just for kicks...)

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« Reply #103 on: February 28, 2008, 04:35:49 PM »
It's my wallpaper.  I stare at it for hours everyday.





(not really...but thought I would ramp up the creep out meter just for kicks...)

i see that pink line. 

Honey, my "Creep Out Meter" is in high gear today - and for more reasons than for what's in this little old thread!
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« Reply #104 on: February 28, 2008, 04:36:24 PM »
Mine also, Timmy, mine also. 
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« Reply #105 on: February 28, 2008, 04:37:50 PM »
i see that pink line. 

Honey, my "Creep Out Meter" is in high gear today - and for more reasons than for what's in this little old thread!


LOL I didnt notice the pink line.

Such an unfortunate choice of words in the subject line darlin....  :)

I Googled myself and found things I forgot about LOL

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« Reply #106 on: February 28, 2008, 04:44:24 PM »

Such an unfortunate choice of words in the subject line darlin....  :)



Maybe.  But I sure got some heavy traffic for this thread!  Guess my little bone can still draw a fair number of dogs.

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« Reply #107 on: February 28, 2008, 04:46:41 PM »
Maybe.  But I sure got some heavy traffic for this thread!  Guess my little bone can still draw a fair number of dogs.

 ;D

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« Reply #108 on: February 28, 2008, 04:56:01 PM »
Maybe.  But I sure got some heavy traffic for this thread!  Guess my little bone can still draw a fair number of dogs.

 ;D

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« Reply #109 on: February 28, 2008, 06:35:52 PM »
OK, but I still want to see that shirtless photo with the 'come hither' look on your face so I can decide.

Oh honey, you should see him in the FLESH!  :o :o :o

He is so adorable for a youngun.

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« Reply #110 on: February 29, 2008, 08:57:57 AM »
Has Timmy's bone been picked clean?

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Offline poz1970

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #111 on: February 29, 2008, 09:24:52 AM »
I know I'm poz, and my other half is neg, he has a profile here, but doesn't post often (if he has at all yet)

Dunno about any of the other new people here, but I read the forums for a few months before I worked up the courage to register.. its like when you go to a sauna for the first time (and you're not out), "omg, everyone I know is going to drive past as I go into the sauna, and know what it is"

But being online for nearly 20 years teaches me that theres alot of people out there that get enjoyment from the attention that contentious or abusive behaviour gets.

Thank god for moderated mediums, so they can be weeded out!

J
"The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to  heterosexuals. That doesn`t mean that God doesn`t love heterosexuals. It`s just that they need more supervision." -- Lynn Lavne

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #112 on: February 29, 2008, 10:45:36 AM »
Has Timmy's bone been picked clean?

Not just any bone, darling -- BUT A LITTLE BONE(R)
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline BT65

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Re: I've Got A Little Bone To Pick
« Reply #113 on: February 29, 2008, 10:47:59 AM »
*frantically picking a chicken leg bone clean*
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

 


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