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Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« on: February 25, 2008, 11:27:03 PM »
I googled the Roman Numerals, I hope I got it right  :-\  I am sorry there is no way I can put in the old threads, just ask Minismom, she had to help with adding a pic.  I am CLUELESS.

Hope this March brings everyone MUCH, love and happiness, strength and courage, love and friendship, health and wellness.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #1 on: February 26, 2008, 12:45:29 AM »
Snow---

You did good with the title and roman numerals. Cindy will prolly stop in and add all the previous threads. I think the white boys and the song you are referring to is The House of Pain and they had a cut called Jump Around. Yep, being a DJ, I knew all the songs from back in the day, not really up on it as much now. I still listen to some stuff now but not as much as I use to. MC Lyte is my girl, so many songs I liked by her especially Roughneck, Keep on Keeping on with Xscape, Come On with Billie Lawrence, Lyte as a Rock, Cold Rock a Party, Georgie Porgie and I could go on. And I loved DMX's Get at Me, Dawg, Big Pun's Don't Wanna Be a Player, Mystikal's Here We Go, Shake Ur Ass, Still Smokin' (funny song about weed) and The Man's Right Here. Who got on my last nerve was Master P and that damn Uuuuuh sound he would make that sounded like he was constipated.

Betty--- I hope you do go to the convention, it sounds like you need a change of pace. And I would think if your friend is willing to get you there she may not expect anything back in return. I still say check out episode 59 before you leave. *sniffs* I'm a little sad cause someone else gets killed, not going to say who but will say you were right about McNulty.

Well, Kevin called back. I guess he had a rough week last week. He got abused by some patients as in bit and spit on. Did his taxes and owes Uncle Sam 5 g's. I guess I wouldn't want to talk to anyone either. It just seems like when I was willing to cut my losses, he decides to call. He wanted me to come over again and spend the night. And again, I declined, I explained to him anything after 11 pm is considered a booty call to me though he swears he wasn't trying to get no booty but talk. Uh huh, right. I told him we need to talk more so he can get to know me better and vice versa. Still not giving up no ass and still not ready to disclose yet.

I'm ready to march in, chew bubble gum, kick some ass and take names.... ;)
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #3 on: February 26, 2008, 07:48:56 AM »
Hello Ladies.       Great thread title, Snow. I need some stress relief and would gladly be kicking a lot of ass, If it wouldn't land me in jail.   Speaking of jail, my 18 yo called last night around 11. I accepted the call, I will just give my dad the money for it. He is facing 5 to 10 years. All I could ask him was "What were you thinking". He still doesn't want to hear it so he can just deal with it.                                                   I had a good day yesterday. Went to Greensboro and got 2 pair of jeans, sneakers for Robert and some really cute boots for me. The jeans are really baggy, I might have to take them back and get a 14 instead of a 16.   The boots were on sale for $10.99 so I got them. Black, 3 and a half inch heels and they can be worn like slouch ankle boots or folded to wear with skirts, I guess .    I also went to the pet store and they had a really calm Rose haired Chilean Tarantula. I wanted it so bad but can't see spending $60 on spider and cage, then being told to get it out of the house. My mom killed my last one cause he kept escaping. His name was Houdini cause he could get out of anything you put him in. She kept waking me up to catch him. Finally I wasn't home and she squashed him.  >:(    Oh well, not everyone likes Spiders.              I visited my cousin. Her 5 YO just got out of the hospital. She has Epilepsy and has bad seizures. I hope she grows out of them.   And she has a 8 month old, too. So cute                                               Working a double today so need to get some housework done  Take care and ML try to stay cool. Later Ladies. Cristy

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #4 on: February 26, 2008, 08:56:26 AM »
Morning ladies:

Snow, good job on the new thread.  I'm alright with the Roman numerals, until they get to 29.  I have no clue what comes after that.  Hey, don't feel bad about not knowing how to do things like putting in the previous threads, pictures etc.  I don't know how to post old pictures.  I have a couple I wanted to put here, but I don't have a clue.  I have a scanner, but someone told me if I scanned the pictures, they would have to be sent as 'an attachment.' ???

Queen, I did see 'The Wire.'  I watched it last night.  Yes, I'm upset that Snoop was killed.  She took it like a trooper, that's the only saving grace to that.  I knew McNulty was going to get busted.  I couldn't see it going on for much longer.  It was getting way too shadey and out of control.  I can't believe there's only one episode left.  That will definitely be one show I'll miss.  Maybe even more than 'The Sopranos.'  I personally liked the way 'The Sopranos' ended.  I was shocked at first, but thought, you know, that's the way it's supposed to be. 

I think I will take my bff up on her offer of paying for the convention.  I haven't been to one to stay at a hotel since '95.  They always have a lot of good stuff at conventions.  Lots of new people to meet, workshops about recovery, 24 hour meetings etc.  So there's always something to do.  My gay bff is dropping off a cooler tomorrow, so I can take my food and won't have to scramble on eating.  There will be five of us ladies sharing a room and I know the other 3.  One of them is my first sponsor.  One tough, kick-ass lady.  And the other 2 I've known for years.  I think I need to get away for a weekend. 

We got a bunch of snow last night.  About 5 inches.  And it's supposed to snow all week up 'til Saturday.  I'm so ready for it all to be gone!  I'm with you Queen, I'm ready to take prisoners! ;)  OK ladies, I'm sure I'll check in later-
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2008, 11:20:33 AM »
Cristy- i like spiders, I use to have  black widow in a cage hanging on the front porch, people thought i was crazy for it, I think Spiders are so cool.   I even have a Black Widow tattoo on my back.

Snow-  Great Title ;)

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Me i think I'm getting a stomach bug or something. so I'll check in later.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #6 on: February 26, 2008, 11:26:37 AM »
Hey ladies...Yes its messed up Snoop is out...but lil Mike is sexy (there i go again on my young boy shit) but so what..he is legal..lol..Shoot Snoop could get it to0  ;)...What is wrong wit me im such a horndog...Anyways i couldnt wait for yall to start talking about it..I didnt want to ruin it for anyone..eventho we are prolly ruinin it for others who dont have or watch on Demand..Sorry Friends...Anyway McNulty is a loon anyways..cant wait till midnight Monday am so i can watch the last one..and then ill watch all the reruns..just in case i missed something..hopefully they will invent something else as catchy and edgy as the Wire and the Sopranos..I even missed Sex n the City for a while..cant wait to see what else they have for us..

Well im sure ready for this damn cold weather to cease..My kids go see their daddy and stay the whole summer..he wanted them to stay the year but we talked and disagreed on beating my kids with belt Im like WTF..i cant tell him how to discipline our kids but he is telling me that he is gonna let his girl discipline them and he couldnt respect the fact that i dont even hit my kids let a lone with a belt and tht i didnt want anyone else doin it either...so now they just gonna go for the summer and i need to have their address n phone number (prev i wasnt allowed bcus he was afraid of me tellin his girl about his status since he wont)  so if my son calls and tell me anything out of pocket I am goin straight down there to get my babies..but he thinks im being a BITCH and jsut wants to control him...i say FUCk him..i have a man and aint thinkin about his ass no more...
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #7 on: February 26, 2008, 01:53:08 PM »
Cristy, I am sorry to hear about your son.  We just gotta let our kids do whatever they're going to do.  Not being able to control others and all that.

Wishful, don't feel bad about being a 'horndog.'  I think we all are feeling a little of that lately.  Hell, it's winter; in the summer, we get to see more flesh.  I think we're all ready for the summer. 

Paulette, good to hear from you.  I am curious as to what you're going to do about your brother-in-law.  In case you missed it in our last thread, I think the ladies all have a general consensus-fire his ass. 

OK, does anyone know who sang the song 'Go On Girl' from the movie Colors? If anyone does, please do tell.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #8 on: February 26, 2008, 02:07:29 PM »
Christy-- Sorry to hear your son is about to do a 5-10 bid. By no means think you are at fault. Maybe he will get his act together while sitting there, you can only hope.

Betty-- I was sadden by Snoop's demise but she went out like a gangster. But I was glad Mike pieced it all together. I just thought it was wrong they were going to kill him because he was asking questions in regards to having to kill people. The one I feel bad for is Dookie and where he got dropped off at. I hope you have a nice time at the convention. I would have to hear the song you are talking about, if I heard it, I could probably tell you who it is.

I don't have anything to report either. Meeting up with Kevin a little later so I need to hurry up and jump in the shower. I check back in after a few ticks.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #9 on: February 26, 2008, 02:14:28 PM »
Meeting up with Kevin a little later so I need to hurry up and jump in the shower. I check back in after a few ticks.

Now dear, you know we're going to want all the lusty details! ;)
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #10 on: February 26, 2008, 02:39:01 PM »
Betty: according to Google: Roxanne Shante sang G on girl....

What yall think about what i wrote regarding baby daddy n the gf beating my kids with a belt??? i dont wanna be unreasonable...
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #11 on: February 26, 2008, 02:45:16 PM »
.hat yall think about what i wrote regarding baby daddy n the gf beating my kids with a belt??? i dont wanna be unreasonable...

I myself, would tell the broom-riding bitch to back the fuck off, but that's me.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #12 on: February 26, 2008, 02:48:12 PM »
Betty: he wont let me have any contact with her....im talkin bout my baby daddy now..not my mans baby mom..lolo
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #13 on: February 26, 2008, 03:10:35 PM »
Betty: he wont let me have any contact with her....im talkin bout my baby daddy now..not my mans baby mom..lolo

I know who you were talking about.  That's right, I forgot he won't let you have contact with her.  Well then, I would just tell him to tell her that.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #14 on: February 26, 2008, 03:15:00 PM »
I did..but he thinks its about control...he is a very anal person..and i kinda resent that he gives me such a hard time at all, i feel he should feel privledged that i even talk to him..may not be the right way to think about it but i do...besides i do want my summer break..But i dont want to have to worry about my kids well being...but then he counters that with im their father, i would kill someone if they hurt my kids...yeah the same kids he abandoned for another woman...i dunno... :(
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #15 on: February 26, 2008, 03:56:55 PM »
We have a baby!


She was 6 lbs 9 ounces. Looks like her daddy. Her name is Haley.

I cant remember who asked but Billy is real happy.

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« Reply #16 on: February 26, 2008, 04:06:03 PM »
Congrats Wini!!! You deserve it..Doesnt it feel wonderful??..Damn im teary for you...
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #17 on: February 26, 2008, 04:15:39 PM »
Its awesome. All the benefit of having a baby with none of the responsibility. LOL

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« Reply #18 on: February 26, 2008, 04:55:51 PM »
Its awesome. All the benefit of having a baby with none of the responsibility. LOL

That's what having grandkids is all about.  Congratulations Wendy.  Beautiful baby, btw.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #19 on: February 26, 2008, 06:07:31 PM »
Win- What a beautiful baby!  That is great picture of the both of you.  Congratulations to everyone!  I love baby feet!!!  Oh, I just started putting one of those facial masks on my problem areas daily and it seems to be drying them up. :)

Wishful-  That is hard because I know you want to have sometime for yourself but then you have to worry about how your kids are getting treated.  My son goes to his fathers every other weekend, for some vacation time during the school year and the summer.   I know whenever he gets back he will be hyper, needy and act out a lot. If there was no court orders involved I wouldn't let my son go at all.  My son is 9 and I just added him to my cell phone plan so he calls me all the time now when he is at his fathers and usually ends up coming home early.  It is a tough call and I would go with your gut.  If you feel like this women is a skank and not stable enough to give your kids the care they deserve, keep them home.  I hate when they come with that "I'm thier father, bullshit"  In my case, i think sperm donors, if they want to get treated like a father, they have to act like one first.  As far as the belt goes, there is no way in hell I would let anyone come at my kid with a belt, if he doesn't want to talk about it like adults-  Press charges on her ass.  I hate to go there but the other option is you kicking her ass and ending up in jail yourself.  I am the least confrontational person you will ever meet but I will go toe to toe in a heart beat if someone is hurting one my kids.   Try to put yourself in your childs position and think how it would affect you.
  I don't know what is wrong with me these days, I could careless if I got some booty or not. :)

Queen- That's it ,House of Pain, now I remember.  Thanks :)  Hope you have a good time with Kevin tonight.  Whatever happened with the heat situation?

Betty- I am glad you can go to your convention, it will be good to get away and see your friends and meet new faces.

Moon- I hope things were cooler at work for you today.  I went for a walk around 10 and froze my ass off and was trying to send you some "cold vibes"  :) ha, ha  I much rather be cold than hot too, I can put clothes on to get warm ,but I can only take so much off to cool down....unfortunately walking around butt naked is not an option.

Paulette- I hope you are feeling better and you are getting things worked out with your business.

Cristy- OMG! Spiders freak me out.  It makes me woozy just thinking about them, if I knew one was in my house loose, Holy shit :) I would take all the kids and leave.  Those things are HUGE.  Sorry to hear about your son, boys will be boys and you can only do so much, hopefully he will learn from his mistakes.  My older sons father spent most of his adult life in jail and I hope and pray my son doesn't follow in his footsteps.

Ann- Thanks for putting those threads up :)

I finally got to meet with the therapist today.  She seems really nice.  She just took my history and we are going to start meeting once a week.  There is also a support group that meets in the same building that meets on Wed and Fridays, that I will try to start going to.  I have a GYN appt. tomorrow morning..ick, ick, ick( great, 2 days in a row, I have to tell someone my status :)  ) and then I have to go meet with my sons teacher(one of the 4 yr olds) and a psychologist to see if he has some developmental issues.  Should be interesting?

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #20 on: February 26, 2008, 06:57:10 PM »
Oh, Granny Win - Congrats hun!  She's a really pretty baby.  Was she a c-section?  She doesn't have that "just born" look to her.  How is mommy doing?  Gotta go buy out the pink section ;D

Wishful: I wish I could lend some advice, hun.  How old are the kids?  Are they old enough to call you and let you know if things get out of control?  What does the visitation order say about you knowing where they are and having a contact number?  Seems to me that would be necessary information if nothing else, in case of an emergency.

Queen: be sure to let us know how well Kevin made up for going MIA.  Make him sweat and beg for forgivness :P

BT: I thought that was really sweet of you to offer Lucas a place to crash and an ear to bend. 

Nothing to report here.  I'll check in later.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #21 on: February 26, 2008, 07:36:52 PM »
Queen: be sure to let us know how well Kevin made up for going MIA.  Make him sweat and beg for forgivness :P

Mum

Mum, I knew you had a nasty side to you. ;)

 
BT: I thought that was really sweet of you to offer Lucas a place to crash and an ear to bend. 

Nothing to report here.  I'll check in later.

Mum

Mum, I'd do it for anyone I click with on these forums. 

Snow, I'm so glad you're being proactive with things, seeing a therapist, going to a support group.  That's really great.  Good luck at the gyn's.  I never look forward to those appointments.

Well, my social psychology class is over-done-history.  Thank God.  Only one more class (Ethics) and this period is over.  I'm leaning heavily toward dropping the next eight week classes.  And taking the summer off.  Not sure what I'll do, but I'm sure I'll find something to get myself into. 

Wish, thanks for letting me know about the artist of 'Go on Girl.'  Unfortunately, when I went to download the song on Napster, she didn't do it the way it was in Colors.  So I deleted it. 

OK ladies, I'll check in later or tomorrow.  *waiting to hear about our Queen's date with Kevin*
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #22 on: February 26, 2008, 10:25:28 PM »
Hi GFs~

Not much to post tonight, I guess that's a first for me, lol. 

Win, congrats on having a new baby with none of the responsibility, lol!  Haley is a beautiful name.

Betty~  I had to laugh when you said you didn't know what Roman Numerals came after 29, LMAO.  When we get to thread 30, its all YOU, GF......."XXX"   ;D

I was cooler at work today, I called the maintenance guy as soon as I got in, and YES, the unit WAS broken.  He messed with it and all was COOL in ten minutes!   ;)

I love this song, too, pretty good for whitebread, huh?  I cans till "jump" to it in heels, it moves my ass EVERY time, lol.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZZZADbubu0Y

And for BT, not sure if this is it, they are playin' the "It Takes Two" line, but maybe this is your song........?

http://youtube.com/watch?v=94pooA6kHKo

Ann, thanks for posting the links.  Copy and paste, GFs, copy and paste..... ::)

More this weekend, its an Iceman-Free weekend, he has his kids.   :-\

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #23 on: February 27, 2008, 12:29:13 AM »
Well Ladies----

If you smoke cigs or the green--light one up, if you're the popcorn type---make a bowl, need a glass of wine to unwind--- Go Ahead---I'll wait.....*hums a little tune*...*looks at clock*.....Ready?

Stick a fork in my Royal ass, I'm done and done with Kevin. Yep, you read it right. But if you want the 411, you're gonna have to go read my blog.. ;D You know how I hate to repeat myself. I was so done that I had my son come pick me up.* You wanna read the blog now, don't ya?* I stomped up my steps(at least that is what my roomie tells me) and I rolled 2 doobies and commenced to bitching to my roomie about it. After I was done, she brought me a shot of tequila. Slammed that and got on my cell to my bff and ran it down to her. She was like me and couldn't believe it. And she doesn't even know all the details that I put in my blog... ;) Ok, I'm done with the shameless plugs about my blog but in comparison to what I wrote there, she got the short version. My roomie got the blow by blow. And as you ladies know, I was trying to do the right thing this go around and not have undisclosed sex. I just can't win for losing even when I try to go about it in what is suppose to be considered the right way... ::)

Grams Wini--- Cute little bundle of joy. I bet Billy is quite the proud Poppa. Did the mother take one of those after delivery pics? Call me sadistic but I love to look at those and put my own captions to them.

Snow--- The heat situation is still pretty much up in the air. No one wants to help including my ASO unless I have a termination notice. I have no choice but to wait on one which means the gas company will not get paid. It's sad I have to go that route to get help but nothing else I can do.

Wishful--- I don't think your kid's father's gf should be beating your kids with no belt, period. They are not her kids to be correcting, not to say she should let them run over her but if it has to come down to punishment then their father should be the one handing it out. Maybe I'm old school on that but even with using a belt, I would be leery, they call that child abuse these days. Back in the day, it was considered an ass whipping.

Betty--- Sorry, no lusty details and more like drama..Definitely not what everyone including myself was expecting...
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #24 on: February 27, 2008, 07:52:04 AM »
Alright Queen. I am going to read your  blog now.   You did exactly the right thing. Next he wouldn't be hearing you when you said NO.                             Win, Congratulations on that beautiful baby.                               Wishful, love your new avatar. It fits the way I feel a lot. I am with queen. If your children need to be disciplined, then the father should do it. The girlfriend has no business hitting your children with a belt.  She can make them listen with out beating them, I'm sure.                       Betty, it was really nice what you did for Lucas. But we all know there is a sweet heart under that no nonsense exterior.                              Paulette, I have always loved Spiders. I used to play with Golden Writing spiders when I was a child. I had a brown towel and I would sit on the towel and let it crawl from hand to hand. I wanted the one I saw Monday but just couldn't justify the expense. Mom wouldn't really kill it unless it kept getting loose.              Not much going on here. Tired from yesterday(11 hour Shift basically) and my right hip hurts. Hope I get today off, need to do laundry and vacuum and put up all the clothes I dragged out.      Hope everyone has a great day.  Later Cristy

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #25 on: February 27, 2008, 08:01:19 AM »
Morning ladies:

Queen, of course I read your blog before responding.  Wow.  I hate it when people think they're entitled to some pussy because they did this or that.  If that were the case (someone I was seeing wanted to buy me) I would want a new house, car etc.-all paid off and in my name.   He's not even worth your time & I for one am glad you got the hell outa there.  Glad you did what you had to do.  And that the whole thing didn't go any further (emotionally).  He's not deserving of you, my dear.   I'm also sorry to hear you have to wait on a disconnect notice before anyone will do anything.  These things are what keeps people poor.  How are we ever supposed to get ahead?  I feel you.  Right now I have like $1.67 in my account at the bank.  Thank heavens we get paid soon.

I've decided to drop one class (Microeconomics) for the next 8 week session.  If I dropped both classes it would royally screw up my financial aid.  So, as soon as the university's offices open, I'm requesting that a drop slip be mailed to me so I can fill it out and mail it back.  Last night's class was extremely hard to even go to.  The guy who taught it, when I was leaving said "Betty, I wish you a lot of success.  You're a bright lady."  I felt like telling him to lick the bottom of my boot, but I didn't.  We got screwed on that class, with them getting rid of the teacher we had had for all previous psychology classes.  The new dean ended up teaching it and he was a little arrogant.  Oh well.  

Not much else planned for today.  I'm hoping the weekend trip to Indy will clear some stuff out of my head.  I don't feel like going, but I know that mentally it will be good for me.  My gay bff is dropping off a cooler this evening, so I can stock it with food to take.  That way I won't have to worry about going without food.  We all know how to survive don't we.  

Cristy, you posted the same time I tried to.  I hope you're alright.  Sounds like you might be a little overwhelmed lately.  Hang in there. 

I'll check back in later. 
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #26 on: February 27, 2008, 08:25:17 AM »
Queen - sorry Kevin turned out to be a jerk. oh well better now than later when u've invested emotions and stuff. bet u he be calling and calling u to apologise.  i think he got issues. i wonder what he would have done if u'd thrown him off and said "listen you jerk i have HIV!". i thought jerks who thought if they bought u food or whatever they'd be entitled to some ass was a local phenomenon. guess its universal after all.  >:(

Christy - a SPIDER for a pet? and Paulette - a black widow? oh jeez i got goosebumps just thinking of it. my first instinct when i see a spider is to kill it. except for the daddy-long-legs type which are harmless but annoying still. and i swear to heaven i will never understand people who have snakes for pets :o, those evil demonic creatures which belong in hell with the devil. And sorry about your son. I saw this episode of this show called Lockdown Raw - not pretty.

wish - i believe a little discipline will never go amiss. spare the rod spoil the child and all that. although i think personally  i'd prefer not to have the GF doing the disciplining.  if anyone's to do it then it should be the parent. You do whats best for your kids girl. I wouldnt want some woman from gosh knows where beating on my kids if i had any. I'd have her ass.

Betty - i hope u have an enjoyable time at the convention. a little time off wont do any harm will it?

Win - congrats on the baby Grans!

my guy i havent seen him since Friday when he said he was going out town. turns out he didnt go after all. said the people there didnt phone to confirm that they should come. whatever. i'm wondering how i can wiggle out of this . ignoring him wont work coz  he'll phone me like he did last night complaining about my silence. then he calls at around 10.30pm. 'can i come and see u?' told him no. what, he planning to walk all the way from wherever he was to my place. Ha! ::)
so anyway  i called him today, thought i'd give him one last try and see if theres any difference. so i'm coming down with the flu, scratchy throat and all so i asked him if he wanted to do anything together today and he said 'we do what u want' and i said the only thing i feel like doing is going home to sleep and he says 'fine i'll take u home and then go back to my place".  As if. i can forsee him trying to coax his way inside and spending the night saying he's looking after me. Like i need a nurse. ::) And what place is that that he wont let me see?
any suggestions how i can break it off without drama? text him?

i'm listening to T-pain's Buy U a drank, is that voice of his computerised? i like his style of singing/rap  whatever they call it.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #27 on: February 27, 2008, 08:33:13 AM »
Good Morning Everyone!

Win: Congratulations! You're a grandma!!!! How fun!
Queen: I read your blog. I too think you did the right thing. I am so insecure about myself that I probably would have stuck around and would be calling him. Good for you. It will be interesting to see if he gets the hint...
Sun: I hope you had a good time on your date!  :)
Betty: Where are you going? I probably missed a piece of information...LOL
CJC: Spiders? As pets? I stick to my dog  ;)  (or was that someone else?)
Wishful: I would be so angry! How old are your kids?
Moon: It sounds like you are really taking to this new job. Do you like it or is too early to telll?

I am trying to keep up with everyone. If I missed something I am sorry...I have report cards due on Monday and I hate it! Every year I tell myself I am going to get so organized and be ready ahead of time and yet each trimester I am working up to the last minute...gotta get it together...LOL!

That's all for now. Talk to you all soon!

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #28 on: February 27, 2008, 08:35:33 AM »
i thought jerks who thought if they bought u food or whatever they'd be entitled to some ass was a local phenomenon. guess its universal after all.  >:(
any suggestions how i can break it off without drama? text him?
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Have you just flat-out told him you didn't want to see him anymore?  If not, tell him, be a bitch about it, and if continues to bother you, change your #.  We do what we gotta do.

Viv, good to hear from you.  The more I hear from you, the more I'm glad I never decided to be a teacher.  I'm sure it's got its rewards though.

Edited:  Well, that was a major fuck-up (the posting above).  Tendai, jerkism is all over the place. 
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« Reply #29 on: February 27, 2008, 10:09:28 AM »
Win- Congrats. on being a granny

Wish- No, I dont think your being unreasonable. I wouldn't want another B#!^% hitting my children. Discipline is one thing, but hitting is a whole nother. I can whip my kids, but can't no one eles.

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« Reply #30 on: February 27, 2008, 11:34:26 AM »
Thanks everyone for your input..the kids are 5 (6  next month) and 3 (4 next month)..and i jsut had to do some investigating on my own since he wants to be a  prick..i search his ss number and found out where they live..and FORTUNATELY the phone number listed on the report ws HERS not his..so i gave lil miss Wanna be my baby's mama a call and let her know very politely that i dont want her hitting my kids..that was it..very plan and simple and respectful even..but baby daddy called later that night wanting to know why i called her blah blah...im like i want to make sure she thinks 2x next time she picks up a belt to my kids..also to let him know muthafucka if i really wanna know where u are and all your information...I will find out..and i DID...

He was shook..he was like how did u find her info..i was like u know im resourceful..he got mad and said aarrgghh give my son the fone....Not to mention he hasnt called in over a week and it took me calling the girl for him to call his kids...suck an ASS is what i say...

He is scared shitless now cus he thinks im gonna be callin her and tell her about his status and how we still mess around when he comes here...but i have no plans on doin any of taht..im happy in my relationship and how he treats her and vs versa is their business....
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #31 on: February 27, 2008, 11:58:47 AM »
See, I'm more of a cad than that.  I'd let him buy me whatever he wants.  You want to pay my bills, go right ahead.  You want to fill my fridge, take me out on the town, buy me a new summer wardrobe, be my guest.  Far be it from me to throw a silly thing like pride into the mix.  As far as gettin' in my pants - SORRY!  You feel jipped, call Judge Judy.  You assume the terms, you assume the debt.  But, that's just me.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #32 on: February 27, 2008, 12:03:02 PM »
Wow, mum, you're quite the randy one. 

As far as the other situation, it's what I always say-we do what we gotta do.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #33 on: February 27, 2008, 01:10:43 PM »
Hey Ladies----

I appreciate what you all had to say but what I thought was funny was how no one commented on his infection and him not even bringing it up. All this before he even thought he was going to get some ass. I just get the impression if things wouldn't have went down the way they did, he still would not have mentioned it. I thought that was weird considering I heard the conversation. Something I did not mention was him asking me if I knew how to use a credit card. I thought that was funny as hell and told him he must really think I am ghetto and ignorant not to know how to use a credit card. Which made me think, he must think I wasn't paying any attention to the conversation about his infection. Or maybe that I was too ignorant or ghetto to catch on. I guess I was expecting some feedback on that considering how we had all talked about disclosure. And he never once mentioned the use of a condom. At least when I didn't disclose, I was still being responsible which is more than I can say for him.

Wishful-- So, once you tracked her down and told her how you felt about her using a belt with your kids, how did it go? And I thought you said you still be tipping with the ex when he comes into town, this is still happening even though you got your young buck? Not judging you but am wondering since you did beat the young buck's ex upside the head and the young buck caught a few blows when you thought something was going on there. Girlie, are you having your cake and eating it too? :D

Mum--- I am sure I could've gotten him to do things like that for me but I have never been the gold digging type. I guess I just am independent and I don't want anyone holding over my head what they did for me. If you do something for me, it's because you want to and I shouldn't owe anything unless things were discussed to be paid back.

Betty--- I have 4 bucks in my one account and one cent in the other. I never seem to be able to save. I had opened the second account, hoping to put away money to get my car fixed or get a new one but then something happens where I got to dip into it. I think I am going to talk to my ID doc and see if it is ok for me to work, at least something part time. I can't make it on disability and trying to live off of one check from month to month. At this point, I don't care if I am a cashier somewhere. I just need some extra money. I think if anything he will prolly want me to have a job where I am not on my feet a lot.

I know some are prolly wondering what is going on with therapy. I have given up on it. I have called and called and am just tired of not getting a call back. I will see if the ID doc can prescribe the Celexa for me if not then fuck it. I did just leave a message with my clinic nurse Leah explaining what is going on. Maybe she can reach these people since it seems I can't. I'll keep you posted. I guess that is about it for me....
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #34 on: February 27, 2008, 01:29:52 PM »
Queen: hey girl...When my ex bought the kids backin sept, was the last time we "tipped", and i started getting serious about Yungin since then , so no more tippin with him...I only got her vm, so i didnt actually talk to her but baby daddy confirmed that she got the message when he called me back all pissy...

As for Mr. Kev..he prolly thought u didnt hear him talkin bout his prblem. I dunno what kinda person he take u for but you are right bout kickin dat ass to da curb..Something is fishy about him..are u sure he doesnt know about your status?..Is it possible someone coulve told him?..i dunno jsut dont feel right in my guts...lol..

Shoot as for giving up the goods cus dude is givin up the green, PHEWEY...within knowing young buck a whole 2-3 weeks ..he gave me 2 g to buy my car..he hadnt even smelled no poon poon yet...I say get a YOUNG BOI!!
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #35 on: February 27, 2008, 02:08:16 PM »
Wishful---

Damn, he gave you 2 g's to get a car, must be nice. My last ex was younger than me and all we would do was argue about who was gonna play the playstation. I had helped him get a job with the City but he quit because someone had told him I was cheating on him. He worked 3rd shift and cheating was the last thing on my mind. Since him, I have sworn off of young bucks. The ones over here want to be drug dealers and the last thing I need is for the police to be running up in my crib.

As far as I know, Kevin had no clue about my status. If he did, he never mentioned it. I was wondering if he could find out since he works at a hospital where my docs work at but I don't go to the hospital for any kind of treatment. And if he did know, you would think he would be open to talking about his infection or at least say, well before we engage in anything, a condom is a must. Nope, he was willing to raw dog me w/o question but I wasn't having it. I am just glad I didn't do anything with him.
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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« Reply #36 on: February 27, 2008, 02:30:12 PM »
Yes he is a really genuinely good dude...he doesnt act 24 at all...but yeah , i dont know where he came from but I aint letting him go back..no matter how hard baby mama fights...

That convo Kev was having coulda been just a set up for u to open up to him about u..then trying to sleep with you w/o any mentions of protection may have been his weird way of sayin hey its cool...without really having the conversation with you. Men are weird and that wouldnt surprise me..Im always suspicious...thats my nature...But im usually if not 100% right , very close to something...but who knows...i just gotta feelin bout him...n if he does work at the hospital ..he prob has access to whose poz n whose not...like a department of health data base...
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« Reply #37 on: February 27, 2008, 03:06:02 PM »
Wish- Good for you, for seeking out that info and calling GF up.  Wouldn't you have loved to be a fly on the wall when they both found out about that message? I am a mother hear me roar :)  Maybe I need to go the young buck route...hhhmmm.

Queen- Sorry ,things aren't working out as far as finding a therapist.  Try not to get frustrated and keep trying, being able to talk out loud helps a lot. IMO. Especially if you can find one that is a good listener. Sounds like Kevin just speaks a whole different language us females just don't understand.  He's traveling down a one way street.  It makes you feel like you are dealing with a 4 yr old when you have a conversation and then the next day its like it never happened.   That makes me batty and happens more than I like to admit and not with my 4 yr olds.  :-\ I am so glad your son was around to come and pick you up. 

Betty- That was a good idea to cut that class, that should help a little at least.  I hope you have a safe trip to the convention when you go.

I'm all messed up...my day was going so good and then BAMN :)  This disease is a catch 22 because it is so misunderstood.  I want people to know and then I don't.  Hard to figure out, sometimes.

Got to go pick up the lovebugs.
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« Reply #38 on: February 27, 2008, 03:37:55 PM »
Hey Ladies
 
Win- what a beautiful baby girl!!!

Ten- spiders are God's creatures too. They are good for our planet, by killing other harmful insects. And tell that guy that you can see his future and you're not in it. Goodbye it's as simple as that.

And for all who are curiouse my BIL  gave me the money off the job that was done, and  I'm hoping it won't happen again.  so that's good for now.

Wish- i wouldn't want some other B***H spanking my kids, so your not over reacting.

All is okay, today is my daughters 18th b-day. Man they grow up so quick.
got church tonight so I'll check in later. 

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« Reply #39 on: February 27, 2008, 04:15:41 PM »
Hi Girls

Just wanted to say hi.  Queen- Well, I am glad that you did not disclose to Kevin.  What a jerk he turned out to be.  Now when it comes to the whole disclosure thing it makes me really want to wait before I tell the next guy I get involved with.  Even though I have this date tonight it just reaffirms that its good to wait.  I know that I would tell someone before I slept with him, but not before we have dated a while.  They will always show their true colors sooner than later.  Shame on him for not telling you his medical condition especially if you could get what he has.  I must says my mind is buzzing and am nosey and want to know what he had.  I know its wrong and I would not want someone spreading my business, but it still makes me want to know. 

Paulette-  Good to see you are back.  I hope that this is a good source of comfort for you while you are dealing with a difficult time.

Wish-  I need to take lessons for you.  I am always the one helping the guy out.  Not by giving them money but always being at their beckon call and always being so nice, then I get screwed up in the long run.  Maybe I need a younger a guy.

OK well, off to take a nap or at least I hope so.


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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #40 on: February 27, 2008, 04:37:52 PM »
Sun---

I am glad I did not disclose to him either but it also makes me feel that I am not wrong or bad for not disclosing from the beginning. And confirms that even though I am not disclosing, I am at least being responsible and safe which is more than I can say for the last 2 guys I have dated. I want to be able to disclose but not until the right person comes along. But at this point, I think I am just done with neg guys and will try to hope for a poz one to come along. Realistically in my neck of the woods, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Wishful-- I couldn't fathom why someone would make up a situation to get me to disclose. If that was the case, I would rather he just be direct and ask me. Or at least speak on hiv or something. When he was at my house, I never left my meds where he could see them and not sure if he even knew my last name. He never asked and honestly, I didn't know his til last night when I had his credit card and put gas in his car. Bottom line was he was just moving too fast, too soon and was expecting too much. He made me feel like a trick or something and that turned me off. I may be a bit ghetto but I am still very much a lady and as you know I consider myself a Queen... ;)
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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« Reply #41 on: February 27, 2008, 05:25:20 PM »
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« Reply #42 on: February 27, 2008, 06:09:44 PM »
Thanks for all the congrats.

Mum – Nope she was born the normal way. Her hat is hiding the pointy head LOL
Mom is ok. Sore from the epidural and episiotomy but otherwise she is ok.

Queen – I took some pics while she was in labor. But she had a oxygen mask on and I have some after shots but it was several hours after. She’s had time to get some of her color back LOL
I just took a quick peek at the photos I have and she looks wonderful even without makeup. But then again she is only 19 and she always looks pretty.
The photo of me after I gave birth I had absolutely no color in my face aside from the dark circles under my eyes. But then again I was hemorrhaging too.


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« Reply #43 on: February 27, 2008, 06:23:20 PM »
Evening ladies-

Netta, welcome to this site, and to our women's forum chat-room.  :)  I read your intro in the long-term survivor's forum.  I've been diagnosed since 1989.  I've seen many of the things you talked about that were around during the very early days.  We ladies here are a very good group.  We support each other, offer advice, ask questions etc.  I have two grandchildren, so I know what it's like to feel like a miracle.  I was given a year at the most to live when diagnosed.  Three days after I was diagnosed, my first husband died.  I was in a treatment center, but they did let me attend the viewing/funeral.  Things have come a long way, and so have we.  Very glad to make your acquaintance.  Please feel free to talk about anything here.  So exciting to have a new woman among us!

Queen, my mind is always suspicious of everything.  I think that people who work at a hospital would probably have access to information off databases that we don't.  If he were to find out your last name, looked it up in some database and found out, well that makes me like him even less.  Not because he didn't care about protecting himself.  Because I hate people who think "the person gets what they deserve" (sex wise, being treated like a whore).  I'm not implying anything, please don't read it like that.  I've just encoutered those kind of people too many times throughout my life.  Even members of my own family feel like I got what I deserved.   Do you get what I'm saying?  A lot of people who know my background will automatically imply things that just aren't true.  Like I said, don't read anything into what I'm saying that's not meant to be there.  Some guys just think that way, is all I'm saying.  Which makes me want to do wicked things to this strange man (Kevin).  I've known you, read your posts, for quite awhile now and have nothing but respect for you.  So fuck him, is all I can say, with donkey dicks in every crevice of his body.  My two pennies.

Good luck on finding a job.  It's so hard to try to make it without money, believe me I know.  I always try to put something aside also; and do pretty good until towards the end of the month. 

Paulette, happy birthday to your daughter.  Kids do grow up fast.  My daughter is going to be 24 this year.  I'm so grateful she's not repeated many of my mistakes.  And if you're o.k. on the brother-in-law thing, well, alright.  You gotta feel right with yourself; that's the most important thing.

Snow, having HIV definitely has its ups and downs.  I hope you're feeling better.

Sun, thanks for checking in.  Things seem o.k. with you.

Well, my gay bff came by tonight and dropped off a cooler for me to use to take food in to the convention.  I'm looking forward to it.  We talked for a bit.  He's so fun to be around.  He's about my age and we just cackle like a couple of queens (no pun intended, your Majesty).  That was pretty much the highlight of my day.  That and watching a video on xtube this morning. ;)I might check back in later.  Have a good one ladies-
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« Reply #44 on: February 27, 2008, 07:23:54 PM »
Hey Wendy, how does one take photos and post them?  I have a couple and I haven't a clue.  I have a scanner (printer/copier), but a friend of mine told me that if I wanted to use that, I'd have to send a pic as an attachment? ???
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« Reply #45 on: February 27, 2008, 07:29:24 PM »
I go to http://photobucket.com/ upload my picture and copy and paste the IMG code into my post.

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« Reply #46 on: February 27, 2008, 08:57:35 PM »
Netta-- Welcome to the Forums and the hen house better known as the dating thread. Don't let the title fool you, we talk about anything over here. Nothing is taboo especially with me around... :D We're a strong, tight nit group here who have gone through a lot of shit. I'm sure you will fit in just fine.

Betty--- If he did find out my status through some database, I would think he would've spoken up about it. I wouldn't have appreciated it but I would've considered well, he knows and is still around. But I'm done thinking about it, he is kicked to the curb anyway. We didn't have sex so I did not endanger him in any way even though being in the medical field and if he did find out through a database about me, he still wanted to raw dog me which makes no sense to me. It shows a major lack of responsibility on his part to me.

After I told my son what happened last night he was pissed. He wanted to whip Kevin's ass for the lack of respect but I told him there was no need because I handled it. In my son's eyes he considered Kevin's actions were like treating me like a trick. My son has my temper so it took the ride home to calm him down. Though he does have Kevin's address since he picked me up from there but I think he will let it go because I asked him to.

No one in my family has ever said I deserved being poz or at least not to my face. But it irritates me because they act like I am this sickly frail person. I am in better health than 2 of my older sibs. Or because I have lost my hearing like I am helpless, uh, I do wear hearing aids. And when they were broke, I did feel helpless but only because if I was around any of them they never spoke loud enough for me to hear them. So, in some ways it was a blessing because I would act like I was following their conversations while my mind would be somewhere else... ;) Or it kept them from calling.

A friend of mine told me about this one place that helps train women for work including helping them get a car so I think I am going to look into that. I could use some training and it will get me out of the house. Who knows maybe I can eventually get off of disability. That would be nice even if only for a little while. And if I make it into this program, YOU will be my inspiration.
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« Reply #47 on: February 27, 2008, 09:13:05 PM »
Queen~  Sorry about Kevin.  It sucks that he had to be an ass, and that he wouldn't even take you home when you asked repeatedly.  I'm so glad your son was able to get you out of there safely, and back home.

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« Reply #48 on: February 27, 2008, 09:50:04 PM »
Welcome Netta!  :) :) :)

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« Reply #49 on: February 27, 2008, 09:57:38 PM »
Hell with the toads when can I get a Prince....Maybe not this one but a Prince anyways...

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« Reply #50 on: February 27, 2008, 10:17:42 PM »
Evening ladies:

Wendy, I am clueless on such things.  I'll probably ask my brother's gf, who worked on the Geek Squad, to just come over and show me.  I bought the computer, damn it, I want to use it!

Queen, sweet of you to say about me being your inspiration.  Now don't think that too much; I'm known for falling off my cloud at times.  I'm sure you'll do fine.  You're a strong woman, and can handle yourself well. 

Well, I talked to my bff tonight and now I'm a little excited about going to Indy this weekend.  I think it might be the ticket.  Nothing else to really report.  Life goes on, and on we go........
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« Reply #51 on: February 27, 2008, 10:31:05 PM »
Damn it, Betty. If I say you are my inspiration then that's what you are. I could care less about you falling off your cloud, I will just push your ass back up on it. Now go back to your cloud and be my inspiration this minute... ;D I'm glad you are looking forward to your trip and can't wait to hear about it when you get back...
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« Reply #52 on: February 27, 2008, 10:34:10 PM »
Betty, don't be fooled!  Queen is just trying to butter you up with one hand while she's doing Timitation with the other (and who knows what to poor Sharkie) :P

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« Reply #53 on: February 27, 2008, 10:41:27 PM »
Don't worry mum.  I've got my hands in on the pot also. ;)  Queen and I know how to share and share alike. 

Thanks for the good words, Queen and Mum.  Being real is the only way to be.
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« Reply #54 on: February 27, 2008, 11:08:37 PM »
Betty, don't be fooled!  Queen is just trying to butter you up with one hand while she's doing Timitation with the other (and who knows what to poor Sharkie) :P

Now what gives you that impression? *EG*. I don't need my hands for Thunter Bunny, all he has to do is bend over and spread 'em... ;) Ooooh, did I say that? As for Sharkie, I'm all for him working out my kinks... ;)
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« Reply #55 on: February 27, 2008, 11:12:02 PM »
Love your avvy Queen. Damn, now you got me thinking I need to change mine. :-\
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« Reply #56 on: February 28, 2008, 02:00:57 AM »
My son had stopped over for a late night visit. He asks me had I heard from Kevin and then my cell rings, it's Kevin. He wanted to answer my phone but I just ignored the call. If he had anything to say why in the hell would he wait til after 1 in the morning to call me? It really doesn't matter because there is nothing he could say that would make me want to date him again. And if it was anything I needed to know, he could've left a message. I think he was just calling to see if I am still pissed or if I was going to answer my phone. Now that I think about it, I did leave a cd in his car but I don't even want it back. I can make another one.

I forgot to mention that I got the latest gas bill. As usual, it doesn't seem like I am making any type of progress in getting it down. Last month, a program covered the so called budget plan. But even with that and the latest usage, the bill looks to be over a grand now. This is nuts. When it gets warmer, I am so out of this place.

Nothing scheduled for tomorrow so I guess I will pull a late nighter and try to sleep in. Everytime I say that something happens and I am up early.

Edited to add: Kevin just called back again and it is after 2 am, WTF? This time he decided to leave a message saying some shit I couldn't understand and then to say he doesn't like what I am accusing him of. What? And of course, he mentioned the cd which he says he plans on returning. I think he's going to try to show up today and give some weak ass explanation. I am not trying to hear it.
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« Reply #57 on: February 28, 2008, 05:50:35 AM »
Morning ladies:

I haven't a clue as to why I'm up at such an ungodly hour.  I was up until after midnight last night.  I'm sure I'll nap sometime today. 

Queen, what does Kevin mean, he's not liking what you're accusing him of?  Is someone you've talked about it to talking to him?  I just don't know what else he could be talking about.  Didn't you say you talked it over with a couple people there?  Hmmmm........... 

I feel pretty blurry right now.  I might even go back to sleep before the morning's over.  I don't know what to attribute it to.  Since being on the Kaletra, my sugar's been pretty fucked up, which is a common occurence with that med.  I only ate one time yesterday (1/2 cup of soup, 1/2 sandwich) and my sugar ran around 329.  And that was four hours after eating!  Next week I go for my first set of labs being on the Kaletra, so will see if it's making any difference. 

Check back in a little later.  Have a good one ladies-
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« Reply #58 on: February 28, 2008, 12:44:39 PM »
WHERE ARE MY GIRLS?!  (Yes, I'm shouting) ;)

Queen, I thought you'd jump in by now.  Where are you girl? You've got me a little concerned.

I'm just waiting for my therapist.  He should be here any minute.  Other than that, I have my final 'ethics' class tonight.  So, no homework for the weekend!  And it couldn't have been timed better so I won't have to worry about that when I'm in Indy.  I hope this day goes by as fast as possible and tomorrow gets here.  My bff and I will be leaving tomorrow about 1:00.  Don't want to rush it, running around frantically in the morning.  Also want to beat rush-hour traffic, especially in the little towns between here and Indy.  Indy is a couple- 2 1/2 hours away from here, so the timing should be perfect.  For the first time in months, I'm actually looking forward to something.  I'm going to indulge in the 24 hour meetings, maybe meeting some new people, hearing some good speakers etc.  They usually have formal dinners at these conventions, but I've never gone to one.  The tickets are usually around $50, people get all dressed up etc.  Not really my scene at an NA convetion.  Now don't get me wrong, I can dress up, attend formal events etc.  Just not my thing right now.  They always have a dance also.  Doubt I'll be going to that either.  With my knees, I'd probably fall down and re-injure them.  I did used to be quite the dancer, though.  Could always boogie to the 'Electric Slide,' doing Charlie-Brown, walking it up etc.  I know, I know that's old news.  I'm in awe of the dances the people do now. 

OK ladies, I'm waiting! ;D
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« Reply #59 on: February 28, 2008, 01:39:50 PM »
Thank all for the warm welcome,i really need this place. I have to respond to this dating thing.I  am 50 (3-15-58), will be in a few weeks.I really want to tell you I have had a big life change! I'n not stressed any more about work or kids, I dont work anymore and I retired from being a foster parent. After years of taking care  of others being in an abusive marriage,being divorced for 5 years, and being braninwashed that my life was over,no body wants to date me, and that i was gonna burn in hell if I had sex out of marriage (lol) ,I have finally come into my own.Turning 50 is great! because I am enjoying my life again !And i don't care what anyone thinks! not my family or the church! I am partyin a little and drinking apple martinis . i dont have a relationship yet , but I am dating, and its not that bad ladies, i have had 3 dates( movies dinner the works) with two  men,one poz and the other not.The one who is not poz I really like. I also have disclosed my status to him one after some heavy petting lol and he took it well, so I thought,bu tthe next day he exspress he was paronoid, that he could get the virus from saliva, so I calmly told he no, chances were nill but to talk to a doctor if he felt like.By then I thought this relationship is doomed! I told him we didn't have to talk or see each other again,if he felt uncomfortable, but he is still going strong. He said he like me a lot, a wants to continue dating, Ladies i have a date with him tonite, dinner and movie. I don't plan to even kiss him on the cheek ! so lets see what happens!! The 2nd guy who Is poz is very nice also ,but we don't have a lot in common,I am a party animal and he is a couch potatoe! I have a dear friend who just turned 50 and met another lady friend who is 53, these ladies are professional women whom are not poz, and they have embrassed me with love and support, we do lot of things togehter , like shop , eat out and go to the beach and party, so I am happy to have  my 2 buddies in my life,no matter what.
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« Reply #60 on: February 28, 2008, 01:46:51 PM »
Hi Betty-
Geez! You were up real early!   Did you get to take a nap?  I think I am going to go take one myself before I have to pick up the kids.  I was reading the posts earlier but I had to leave real quick to go pick something up and then I went grocery shopping, they were having a buy 1 get 2 sale, got to love the sales.  I hope you were able to eat more today and I hope your sugar is doing better.
My sons doc called today and I have to take him in the morning to find out the results of his lab work.  I hate having to wait for that stuff, it is so nerve wracking.  Then hopefully I can make it to the first support group for 10:30 and then go volunteer for that lady I help out.
Your weekend sounds like it is going to be great and I hope you have a wonderful time.  Have a safe trip !
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« Reply #61 on: February 28, 2008, 01:55:48 PM »
Netta, That is great. I am glad things  have turned around for you.  I have been around the abusive relationship block and it is a hard nut to crack.  Silly rabbits just don't have a clue how strong a women can be .
 I have never had a apple martini but they sound yummy.
I hope you have a great time on your date tomorrow, the guy seems pretty cool and I am glad your disclosure went well.
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« Reply #62 on: February 28, 2008, 03:21:11 PM »
Alright, here I am. I got up close to 1. Actually Queen Nefertiti had gotten me up around 8 am so I had deposited her little ass in the kitty jail. She is in heat and the boy cats are at her. She doesn't meow loud but she does what we call the booty dance and the boy cats are on her. After putting her in the cage, I passed back out.

As I said Kevin started calling me at 1 am and when I got up there was a message from him as late as 3 am. I am so glad I turned my phone off. Now he is trying to apologize after leaving the first message saying he doesn't appreciate what I am accusing him off. What am I accusing him of? Just wanting some ass and not even trying to get to know me. Now his messages are saying how much he misses me. Yeah, whatever. Betty, the only person I have talked to about the situation are my roomie and my bff who set me up with him. He hasn't talked to either of them. He has blown his chance and I am just turned off. I don't want to be bothered anymore. But I am finding out he is lying about things too. He tried to tell me that I am the only one he has been intimate with but found out from my bff that the woman he was seeing before me, he had gotten pregnant. She had an abortion but he doesn't know that I know any of this. That tells me he is a liar. And to be lying this early on is just messed up and makes me feel that he can't be trusted. Not to worry, I am fine and not affected by any of this mess. I am just so glad that I didn't have sex with him for numerous reasons now and not just the disclosure issue.

Betty--- I am glad you are looking forward to your trip and don't have to worry about doing school work when you get back. You can enjoy yourself. Have some fun, girl.

Netta-- Good to hear from you and glad things are going so well for you. Dating 2 men, huh. I am catching hell just trying to find one. I hear 50 is the new 40... ;)

Nothing else going on with me. I think I am going to go into a gaming coma. I will check back later....
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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« Reply #63 on: February 28, 2008, 03:32:25 PM »
*heaves a sigh of relief*

I thought maybe I was going to be a loner today.  So glad everyone's chimed in.

Netta, go girl!  I haven't dated in a long time.  The last relationship I was in, well, the guy pushed me down a flight of stairs.  So, that ended.  My first husband was an extremely abusive alcoholic.  He died 3 days after I tested +.  My second husband I met in N.A. (Narcotics Anonymous) and he went back to mainlining and wiped out my bank account.  I haven't had a very good picker with men.  I do get some occasionally.(very occasionally).  I am a self-proclaimed lesbian, but that's just mainly when it comes to relationships.  I had a LTR with a woman and it was good.  I just listened to my 2nd ex and that ruined that.  We just pick ourselves up and dust off.....  Good luck on your date tonight.  Now when you feel more comfortable here, you know we'll want some details. ;)  I have a couple very close friends.  It's always good to have.

Snow, good luck on getting your son's lab results.  What are these for? 

Queen, are you sure it's the cat who's in heat? :D (referring to Sharkie and Timmy).  I'm glad you're not dealing with Kevin anymore. You deserve way better than that. 

Well, nothing to report.  I'm going to school in a couple hours.  If I wasn't diabetic and in recovery, I would definitely celebrate with a few drinks.  Oh well, I can dream.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #64 on: February 28, 2008, 04:57:30 PM »
Hi Girls

Just wanted to say hi.  My date with the negative man went well last night.  I really liked him alot.  He brought me flowers.  He remembered me telling him that I like tulips so that is what he brought me.  I was floored in a good way.  He has asked me out but not sure when that is going to happen.  I am just going to try and take my time, but there is some stress on my level about the disclosure part.  I kept my self awake last night thinking of how to tell him if it gets to that point.  Which I am still not sure of what to say or how to bring it up.  I guess I will know when the time is right.  He said some very key things to me last night about relationships and we think a lot along those same lines.  I just keep thinking positively (no pun intended) that when I do tell him he will be ok with it.  I am just struggling with the fact on how to tell him so it does not seem like a big deal.  I would love any suggestions from you girls on how I might or should bring this up and what should I say.

Netta- Glad to see you are enjoying life.  I love apple martini's and have been drinking espresso martini's  you should give those a try.

Queen-  Kevin has his head up his has, I can't wait to hear what his excuse his and what he thinks you are accusing him off.  It sounds like its an excuse to me so you will talk to him.

OK well back to work I go, decided the coast was clear without to many coworkers around where I could write now.  I will check back in later. 

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« Reply #65 on: February 28, 2008, 05:24:19 PM »
Hi girls,

Just dropping in today. I'm usually a lurker.

Netta- its great that you are living life to the fullest.

Queen - Men think we are crazy. Im like Madea. I can ask you a question in April and come back in November and ask you the same question to see if I get the same answer. (LOL) My per peeve is a man that lies. It seems as if they are trying to get over on you

Sun- Its great that your dat went well

I myself dont have to worry with the dating issues right yet. I am with my b/f who is positive also. We are think about getting married lat spring, early fall


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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #66 on: February 28, 2008, 06:41:08 PM »
I still have not made it to my gaming coma yet. I been busy downloading smiley's. Thanks to Winiroo and Iggy. I have to try to find one for every occassion. You ain't never lied, Betty, I think I am in a bit of heat, I am just not doing the booty dance like Queen Nefertiti over here. I was going so strong in Sharkie's thread, I thought I was going to bust a nut...*LOL* I am going to miss you while you are gone but have noticed Sharkie is doing a disappearing act too. Now what is really going on? And he talking about brushing up his oral technique, uh huh..

I am still waiting to see a therapist but hopefully can find one somewhere other than the people I was trying to get with. It depends on my insurance and hoping to find one closer to my house so if I have to walk, I can just pop the cd player on my ears and roll out. I think I have been just a bit too inactive, my thighs are killing me like I have been doing bench presses. I can't wait for it to get a bit warmer so I can do some walking.

Nothing else for me to chime in about...

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« Reply #67 on: February 28, 2008, 08:33:57 PM »
Evening ladies:

Yes, this grading session is over!  Thank heaven, the Great Spirit, whoever. 

Queen, I know what you mean about being in heat.  I'm gonna have to find  some, maybe in Indy this weekend.  I will miss you also, but will certainly fill you in on the details.  The convention is being held in a Marriot, so trying to find a place won't be a problem.  *slaps self*     Hey, don't give up on trying to get a therapist.  I had a really good talk with mine today.  Having a good therapist has helped me many times.    Oh, about Sharkie.  I know he said he had to work today.  Maybe we're giving him too much dirty talk.  You know, some people can be all talk.  I guess we'll see......

Keepingfaith, congratulations on the bf situation.  If you get married, you're going to have to post pictures.  What a happy occasion that would be!

Nothing really going on.  I packed earlier, except for makeup etc.  So I'm all set to go.  Of course, I'll check in tomorrow morning.  Now, when I'm gone, you ladies behave yourselves. ;)

I'd like to learn how to post those images that you're doing Queen.  Maybe sometime over the weekend or something, you could pm me and tell me how to do it.  I think they're way cool.  OK, have a good one ladies........
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« Reply #68 on: February 28, 2008, 11:12:55 PM »
Keepingfaith- I second the congrats on getting married.  I am happy for you! 

Betty- WOW! Your convention came at a great time, now you can really enjoy yourself. If anyone need to behave, I think it might be you :)
My son had labwork done because over vacation he kept throwing up and complaining of back pain and he had a that blood in his urine b4 vacation so I think they just wanted to make sure.  I wish they could have told me over the phone, I hate waiting for this kind of stuff.
Sun- Glad to hear your date went well. Unfortunately, I don't have any disclosure help for you, I am trying to figure that out myself these days, the best thing is to follow your gut...I guess.
Queen- Glad you are over Kevin.  Your son sounds like a great kid/young man.  My son said something to me in the car on the way home today.  He goes " Mom, I see people checking you out and giving you looks" and I am thinking he is talking about at his school because kids in the past have commented on him being black and my being white.  He's like no, like checking you up and down and looking at your butt- He goes and, I don't like it, it was just so cute how he said it.  My little protector, already.
Hope everyone has a good night!
I am hoping to be able to get some sleep tonight.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #69 on: February 29, 2008, 02:41:16 AM »
I am finally done with my gaming coma and thought I would check in before I go to bed. I have to dog sit tomorrow. This ought to be entertaining, the other cats are use to Boo but Queen Nefertiti hasn't laid eyes on him yet. But then the other cats are bigger than the dog too so maybe that is why they don't really pay him any attention.

Kevin called a few more times but I just ignored him. You would think he would get the hint. Nothing planned for tomorrow, just the same shit. Hopefully, I will get a call back from Sue who is the Supervisor of the Case Managers at my ASO. After telling my clinic nurse, Leah how frustrated I was with my current case manager, she passed it on to Sue. But her reason for talking to Sue was hoping she could find me a therapist since the place I was trying to get with has not returned my calls. I am hoping I can get a therapist at the hospital which is close by my house so I can walk and not have to worry about transportation. I'll keep you posted on those developments.

Keepingfaith- Congrats on the upcoming wedding. I love happy endings or should I say beginnings?

Betty- If you do get some booty, let out a few screams for me... :D Now what images are you talking about? When you get back we can talk more in detail and I'll show you whatever it is you're talking about.

Hasn't it been a few days since we heard from Cindy? I hope she is alright. I thought she said she is not feeling too good but also not going to be with Ice this weekend. And about posting more since she is going to be alone, hmm, maybe she is just waiting.

Well, I am going to check out the other threads. I see there is only 3 other people online other than me, members that is. I guess that is a sign to take my ass to bed....Night to one and all... :-*
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« Reply #70 on: February 29, 2008, 07:01:59 AM »
Morning ladies:

Snow, that's cute what your son said.  My daughter was like that also, and still is a bit.  She always used to be my character judge when it came to guys/women.  Actually she got along quite well with Shelly (the woman I had the relationship with).  She's always telling me "ma, find a lady.  You do better with them."  Our kids just want to see us happy and being treated right.  About your son's lab work, I remember you talking about the physical stuff going on with your son.  Well, please let us know what you find out. 

Queen, oh, if I get laid, I'll let out some screams for all of us. ;)  I hope you get a therapist at that hospital you're talking about.  It'd be convenient, so you wouldn't have to worry about getting a ride.  I read in another thread where you used to keep a journal, but because of trust issues don't anymore.  I agree with what Philly told you about doing one on your laptop.  I believe it's an excellent form of therapy.  Please keep us updated.  Oh, those images I was talking about are those emoticons. 

Yes, it's very unusual that Cindy hasn't posted on here.  She did say she was feeling sick.  Maybe she'll post this weekend. 

Ok ladies, I'm off to check out a few more threads, then get my ass ready.  Have a good one, and behave!  I don't want to have to kick some ass when I get back! ;)
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« Reply #71 on: February 29, 2008, 08:03:46 AM »
Have a good trip and lots of fun Betty!

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« Reply #72 on: February 29, 2008, 08:38:57 AM »
Good morning Ladies,

Betty: have a great trip

Snow: I hope everything is fine with your son


We got a puppy yesteday. She is so cute. I will post pics of her soon. Her name is Hope Ciara. My son and b/f named her. What a name for a dog. (LOL)

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« Reply #73 on: February 29, 2008, 01:42:59 PM »
Hey Ladies---

Keepingfaith--- I think that is a cute name for the puppy. My kitties names are Lucifer Damien and Nefertiti Cleopatra, it fits them, one being a demon and the other a queen. ;)

Betty--- Do you have a digicam? Would love to see some pics but the most important thing is to have fun.

I do hope Cindy is doing alright. As I mentioned before, I am now dog sitting Boo, the cats don't seem to mind except for Nefertiti who is giving looks of WTF? Boo loves the cats but growled at Lucifer for being on his blanket. And Lucifer looked at him as if to say, "You can have your stinky dog blanket, I sleep on beds!"...It was funny, maybe I'll sneak a picture of Boo and post it later. At the moment, my roomie is entertaining Boo.

We're suppose to get hit with another 1-3 inches of snow but then Monday it is suppose to be in the 50's with rain. This is some crazy weather we're having. I haven't heard back from Sue yet. Nothing else planned so I guess I'll go into another gaming coma. Chat later.....
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #74 on: February 29, 2008, 02:20:31 PM »
Yes this weather is bonkers...but im not going to complain about any warm weather thats for sure...Hey, i got asked permission to use some of my comments from my DWI thread, in the magazine...KEEEEWWWLLL...(thats how my son says it in the most screeching tone you can think of)..I dunno where he comes up with some of faces and noises...lol..i cant do photo bucket from here but im gonna post some pics of my babies soon...
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« Reply #75 on: February 29, 2008, 06:33:42 PM »
HI LADIES, OKAY,
 I NEGLECTED TO MENTION, I WAS VISITING MY BEST FRIEND IN VIRGINIA BEACH, FOR HE 50TH BDAY PARTY, THATS WHY IVE BEEN HAVING FUN, I AM GOING HOME NEXT WEEK TO MY LONELY APARTMENT IN GEORGIA, SEE I HAVEN'T DATED IN YEARS, NOR LESS  A VACATION, BOTH MEN I MET HERE IN VA. MY BEST FRIEND WANTS ME TO MOVE HERE, I DON'T KNOW IF I COULD LEAVE MY GRAND BABIES AND DAUGHTER. I LIVE ALONE BUT THEY HAVE BEEN MY LIFE. OF COURSE I NEED TO GET A LIFE! MY DATE LAST NITE WAS FINE, ONLY HAD A CHANCE TO GO TO DINNER,BECAUSE HE HAD A REPORT DO FOR WORK.THIS GUY IS NOT POZ . I RELLY LIKE HIM A LOTAND HE LIKES ME,WE HAVE CHEMISTRY,HE TURNS ME ON. OF COURSE I PACKED MY EMERGENCY KIT JUST IN CASE- CONDOMS , KY AND A LITTLE WARMING JELLY LOL. KY IS FOR MY DRIED OUT VJAY JAY, SINCE HYSTERECTOMY LOL. WELL  WE HAD ITALIAN AND HE CONFESSED HE IS GOING THROUGH A ROUGH DIVORCE,AND THATS WHY HE WAS STRESSED AND OVER REACTED OVER THE SALIVA SITUATION THE LAST DATE. HE ASSURED ME AFTER HIS DIVORCE IN APRIL HE WANTE TO "START OVER"( WHATEVER THAT MEANS) FROM THE BEGINING WITH ME. HE SAID HE WOULD BE HAPPY IF I MOVED HERE, THANKED ME FOR THE GOOD TIMES,( DANCING AND DATING).OK SO WHY DO I FEEL STRANGE??? LIKE IT WOULD NEVER WORK CAUSE HE IS NEGETIVE AND MIGHT NOT WANT TO USE CONDOMS ALL THE TIME,? ETC ETC? IVE JUST STARTED DATING SO I WILL BE TAKING THINGS SLOW AND CONTINUE TO DATE POZ MEN ALSO. I HAVE MET A LOT OF THEM ONLINE, I FEEL LIKE A KID IN A CANDY STORE!1OF COURSE U MUST BE CAREFUL AND WEED OUT THE NUTS!
SUNSEEKER;I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE, I GOT DRUNK THE NIGHT I TOLD MY FRIEND I WAS POZ, BUT I WORRIED  FROM THE THE MOMENT I MET
  HIM.!!!!
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« Reply #76 on: February 29, 2008, 08:37:34 PM »
Welcome to Netta and Latrice. Glad you ladies joined the party. Great bunch of people here.                                                                     Hope Betty is having the best time and getting her Groove on. I could use some of that.                                                                            Not much going on here. I got my hair cut, modified page but it looks better since all the split ends are gone.  I might get a curling iron for the ends. Just wanted to check in. Later Cristy

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #77 on: February 29, 2008, 09:39:04 PM »
I'm alive, just exhausted from a couple of long days.

More this weekend, I'll be home without my Iceman, shit.  LOL  I miss him when we're not together.

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« Reply #78 on: March 01, 2008, 10:00:26 AM »
Good Morning!

I am checking in but I can't really post. I HAVE to finish my report cards and my lesson plans. There is a lot of action going on LOL!

Once I get out from under my avalanche of paperwork I will post more.

Netta: You go girl!
Queen: Sounds like you have a full house!
Betty: Enjoy  your convention...get lucky... ;)
Keeping: Congratulations

If I forgot anyone else I am sorry...Now I need to get back to work- No rest for the wicked... ;D

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« Reply #79 on: March 01, 2008, 11:07:33 AM »
Hi everyone!
Hope everyone is doing well!  I am stuck in the house with kids, we are having snowfall here, we got probably 5 to 6 already  :'(  I am going to find a craft to do to keep everyone occupied.  My older sons Pinewood Derby got cancelled so we don't have to go anywhere.  He just got a Chris Brown CD and everyone is dancing so at least I have some entertainment, I'm sure they will get tired soon. 
I made it to my first support group yesterday, it seems to be a great bunch of people and I look forward to going back again.
Queen- I have a full house too.  I have 2 pits and 2 ankle biters, right now.  Thankfully, everyone gets along good.  My Mom will be here tomorrow to get her dog, the female pit.  A cat adopted us when we first moved here.  He had a such sweet disposition and was great with the kids but he passed the winter before last.  If it was up to me we wouldn't have any dogs, my plate is full already.  My SO brought them all home and that's about all he has done  :-[  Glad you have Sue advocating for you now, that should help.

Viv-  Good Luck wading through all that paperwork, you must feel good when you get it all done.

Netta- I would be careful about picking up and moving, I know it must be nice to find someone you are interested in but seeing you just met him, see how you guys can handle a long distance relationship first.  You don't want to leave the love and support of your daughter and grandbabies for someone who doesn't deserve you. LOL..weeding out the nuts is putting it nicely unfortunately the one and only thing they want is a NUT.

cjc- I sported a page for a long time, I love that cut.  Doesn't it feel great to get your haircut.

Moon- Sorry to hear you will be without Iceman this weekend but I'm glad to hear that you alive :)

keeping- That is a cute name, what kind is she?  Don't forget to hide your shoes :)

Calgon, take me away  :'(

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #80 on: March 01, 2008, 11:28:47 AM »
Morning Ladies----

Yep, the house has been full for sure. Those who knows us know we love our cats, if we had a whole house, we'd end up having more. We have talked about it before. The cats are like our babies. We consider Boo as a frequent visitor or he shall be. His owner goes out of town a lot and Boo seems to take to only me and my roomie. Other people he snaps at. He should be leaving in about an hour. But I have noticed most of the cats have stayed out of my room except for Lucifer. But Lucifer has known Boo longer than the other cats. I am ready for a nap though, taking Boo out for potty breaks has interrupted my sleeping schedule.

Other than pay a few bills, I guess I will be lazy most of the day. Go back into a gaming mode and just chill. I cooked dinner last night so it will be left overs. I hope Betty is enjoying her trip. Cindy, I know you're missing Ice but we are missing you so I can't wait for you to update us. Netta, not sure how long you have known this guy but I agree with Snow and you should see how things go before planning a move. There are a lot of things to consider besides just the guy, ya know. I could tell you some horror stories about moving and a guy doing a complete 360 once I was in his town.

I'm going to peep the other threads and try to catch me a nap. I'll check in later.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #81 on: March 01, 2008, 02:51:16 PM »
Queen - I take it Boo is a dog. For a blond second I was trying to figure out why you'd take a cat out to pee. 

Ohhh poor Snow - I hate to tell ya this but its sunny and 71 degrees here. Cruel huh?

The weather changes every 5 minutes so who knows LOL


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« Reply #82 on: March 01, 2008, 10:29:53 PM »
Nothing to really update here, made it through the end of the month chaos at work beautifully.  I had some labs done and the doc wants to treat me like a lab rat bec of "low iron."  I am going to exercise my right to say "no" and just start taking Fe supplements in the meantime.

Low iron could very well be the reason for my fatigue and dizziness that I have been experiencing over the past 5+ years or so....but it could be the Sustiva, it could be the bad neck...... :(

Yes, Boo is a dog.  :D
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« Reply #83 on: March 01, 2008, 11:37:17 PM »
Just breezing through for a moment. I just got done taking a nice hot steamy bath. I think I stayed in there til my skin almost shriveled up. I had my cd player on listening to some Prince. Yeah, Winiroo, Boo is a dog, I forgot to post a pic of him. Next time he comes over I will. After Boo left, I went back to sleep for a few more hours. Once I got motivated, we decided to just chilll and veg out today. We had pizza, ordered some beer and watched a few hours of NCIS since USA had a marathon of it today. I called my bff and talked to her for a few then I turned my phone off. It shall remain off for the rest of the night. Kevin called again today. I think I am going to have to get my number changed. It's going to be a pain because I am going to have to give out the number again.

Nothing special going on. Going to pull an all nighter going into gamer mode. I'll talk to you guys later...
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5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #84 on: March 01, 2008, 11:44:03 PM »
. We had pizza, ordered some beer and watched a few hours of NCIS since USA had a marathon of it today.
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You can order beer?.....that is kind a cool, I 've never heard of that before.

Moon-  Don't blame you with saying No to the lab rat, you can only get stuck so much.  I hope the Fe helps.  That is a nice pic of you and Cheech.

I gotta go to bed.  My Mom wants to take the kids to Vermont tomorrow to go for a sleigh ride.  Which reminds me I have to make sure the camera is charged.

Everyone have a good one.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #85 on: March 02, 2008, 05:55:20 AM »
Yes, it's early and I've been up for a while.  I managed to get 3 decent night's sleep in row which is what I usually get in a month.  But, looks like those days are over yet again.  I'm exhausted and may try to get back to bed for a few (minutes).  I've not been posting here, or anywhere really, for a while.  Going through some crap that seems to be over now.  Either that, or I've gotten so used to it that it's not bothering me as much. 

We should see some sun today and I think that'll help some, too.  I'm tired of seeing gray skies and white ground.  Couple that with no sleep, restless kids, a perpetuating something that's been holding on since October, and a mid-life crisis, and that's me.  Not the prettiest of sights.

Anyway, I'm getting over it, under it, through it, beyond it, whatever, and feeling pretty good now. 

Snow: does your avitar say "fried dick 75 dollars"? 
Queen: only 1 more day and your sex toys will be back home. ;)  Hang in there!
Moon: another great picture of you!

See you ladies later.  One more quick trip through the forums, then I'm going to try and get some more sleep.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #86 on: March 02, 2008, 07:24:16 AM »
Morning
Mum-I'm right there with you with getting 3 nights of good sleep, somethings always seems to happen.  I hope that you are feeling better.  Yes, it does says "fried dick".  I'm thinking it is supposed to be fried duck, just a misspelling that made me laugh especially since it was on a business.
I wish I could go back to bed now, the dogs were antsy to go outside this morning, it is supposed to be in the 40's today and even the 50's tomorrow, that will feel like summer :).  I stayed up late making some chili for my Dad to take home today and I have to run to the grocery store this morning to get stuff to bring lunch with us today.
Win- I know you are loving the weather down there, 71, I would be in shorts.  How's the baby and Amber doing?  Is this Billys first grandchild?  My Dad is so goofy with my kids :)  I am very Thankful for him, he was one of the positive male role models they have.

I hope everyone has a great day!
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #87 on: March 02, 2008, 10:34:51 AM »
Morning
 
Win- I know you are loving the weather down there, 71, I would be in shorts.  How's the baby and Amber doing?  Is this Billys first grandchild? 

They are both peachy. And yes this is Billy's first grand child.
Amber will likely come over today and do laundry. She usually does on Sundays.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #88 on: March 02, 2008, 02:47:10 PM »
Snow~  You said I could only "get stuck" so much.  Well, I'm diabetic as well and don't mind the 10 vials they draw every 3 mos for labs, but......My doc wants to do an upper and lower GI to check for internal bleeding, some kind of gastric thing which he thinks may be the reason for my low iron. 

 :o  This certainly gives "stuck" a whole new meaning.   :o

I would have to be put under anesthesia, or maybe not fully under in case they need to ask me anything during the procedure?!?!?!?  ???  Is that while the scope is down my throat or up my *** !  See where I'm going with this?

I have never been put under anesthesia, its very complicated being diabetic and fasting, let alone being under while my sugars may be going nuts from not eating. The sugars have been all over the place my entire life, so I avoid anesthesia like the plague.

Did I mention that my doc didn't ask ONE THING about my diet?  He just thinks I am "bleeding somewhere" internally.  This is very tough as this doc has never let me down (he has been my primary for 10 years).  I am going to take the iron pills and eat my spinach salads, see what happens with my labs in April.  The doc also wants me to return to the neuro doc I saw last May for my dizziness.  That doc didn't find anything after 4 MRIs, an xray of my C-spine and a partridge in a pear tree.  My PMP also wants me to go to a GI doctor to find this mysterious "bleeding."  My monthly cycles are light, so its not that.  If I was bleeding internally anywhere from my esophagus to my ass, the proof would be in the pudding, and I am FINE.  PMP also wants me to wear a 24-hour heart monitor for the dizziness as well.  Oh and he also wants a "sample" from me, as in like when you take your dog to the vet.

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Leave me alone and stop looking for something to be wrong just bec I am poz!  My PMP even admitted he didn't know much about HIV.

I did some research last night on WebMD and other women with fibromyalgia feel like they are going to faint sometimes.  One had a doc who said her neck muscles were so tight that it was cutting off the oxygen supply to her brain, hence the passing out.  Remember last January at my data entry job when I almost passed out, had low blood pressure and all?  My neck muscles were incredibly fatigued.

My new insurance kicks in this week and I am going to go see my chiropractor, whom I haven't seen since last June.  I have been getting the neck massages every week, though, since June.  I may need to have a longer session. ;D

Damn if I'm getting an anal probe without putting up a fight.   >:(  I have enough "shit" to worry about, tyvm.

(OK, done venting....)

Any of you have probs with low iron or anemia?  Is it a side effect of Sustiva/Truvada (Atripla)?  ANYONE who has any feedback, it would be greatly appreciated, but I think its the injured neck, and the low iron is just low iron.  They say you're more prone to it if you have thyroid probs and drink lots of caffeinated drinks.  That's me!

On a happier note, today is 4 months for Iceman and I!   (first date was 11/2/07)

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #89 on: March 02, 2008, 03:35:31 PM »
Hey Ladies----

Last night was a good night and has carried over into today. I have still left my cell off. I just don't want to be bothered, I have days like those, not about being depressed or anything. I call who I need to and everyone else can just catch me tomorrow. I am going to be running like crazy anyway. I have to go see my primary which I think is a waste since I am not sick. But since he has not seen me since September, I complied without any argument. Later on, I have to go get my depo shot which I was suppose to had gotten done last month. In between those appointments I have to pay some more bills and meet up with my son. It's going to be hectic maybe that's why I just took the weekend to myself.

I have always been anemic. Neither one of my doctors have done any probing, they usually just prescribe some iron pills and send me on my way. Do you get any iron in your diet? Ugh, my last draw my potassium was very low. If you get them to prescribe you the red iron pills, I suggest having some stool softner on hand because the pills can make you constipated. I don't take the iron pills anymore and must be doing something right in my diet because for the first time, I am not anemic or iron isn't dangerously low. But this potassium thing is new to me, my ID doc prescirbed some pills that I have to take with food. I have been taking them off and on along with eating some bananas. That reminds me, I need to get blood drawn for that, something else to do tomorrow. Cindy, why does your doc assume you are bleeding somewhere? I don't get that.

Snow--- Fried dick just doesn't sound too appealing to me....But I thought the sign was funny as hell..You can't order beer? Where you at again?

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Just wondering...Has anyone heard from Dragonette lately? You know I get paranoid when one of us drops off. I am still missing Ms. NY too. I hope they both are doing ok. I have been in a Warcraft frenzy so I am going back to it. I'll check in later...
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #90 on: March 02, 2008, 03:51:43 PM »
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Leave me alone and stop looking for something to be wrong just bec I am poz! 

Any of you have probs with low iron or anemia?  Is it a side effect of Sustiva/Truvada (Atripla)?  ANYONE who has any feedback, it would be greatly appreciated, but I think its the injured neck, and the low iron is just low iron.  They say you're more prone to it if you have thyroid probs and drink lots of caffeinated drinks.  That's me!

Sounds like your doctors been talking to mine LOL I swear mine doesn't know shit and is guessing or googling or using webmd to diagnose me or something.  ;D

I've done the down the throat bit. Wide awake and scary as hell. They didn't inform me I wouldn't be able to breathe during the procedure. It only lasted less than a minute but when you are being choked unexpectedly it freaks you out big time.
They gave me an appointment for the gastro clinic in July. Supposedly they are going to do an ultrasound. I'm sure it will take till next year to get it done LOL I wouldn't let them poke around in my ass unless the poop test came back showing blood.

I've always been anemic or borderline anemic. I cant take AZT or anything with AZT in it because it makes me severely anemic. I cant stand those iron pills Queen was talking about. They sit too hard on my stomach.

New docs generally will ask me about my thyroid and whether I have had problems with it because apparently big eyes is a sign of hyperthyroidism. But thats not a problem for me. And I live on caffiene.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #91 on: March 02, 2008, 08:50:44 PM »
Alright you bad bitches, I'm back.  I think I went through a little 'forums withdrawal' when in Indy.

I had a wonderful time and I'm in a very serene place right now.  There was 3, 248 years & 15 days worth of clean time at the convetion. (They add up all the clean time of everyone who's there).  The dude who was the main speaker got clean on Feb. 14, 1960.  So he has, yes, 40 years clean.  He talked about when he first got clean, how he was sleeping underneath people's houses, etc. in New York (the Bronx).  The police picked him up and took him to the hospital.  They had to de-louse him, he was covered with body lice from being on the streets. He talked about how when he didn't have anything to get high with how he would drain hair tonic through moldey bread, and drink the alcohol that formed.  And now he runs a recovery house with 40 years clean.

I went to a workshop entitled "Illness in Recovery."  One of the speakers was a man who tested HIV+ in 1983, before they even had AZT.  (Not from the needle, he's gay).  He had a cerebral hemorrhage and had to learn how to do everything again (talk, walk, piss etc.).  His kidneys shut down and he had to give himself dialysis.  His windpipe is partially paralyzed, so he has to be careful when he swallows anything (alright ladies, don't go there, even though I'm sure he's done his share of swallowing).  He's been clean for 13 years.  The other lady who spoke at the workshop got clean in 2000.  She has a terminal brain tumor which has caused her to lose her eyesight twice.  She also has lupus and has had 43 inches of one of her intestines removed.  She's had 18 surgeries, and is going to have #19 next month, when they will have to give her a colostomy.  The message?  You just go on and do what you gotta do.

The lady I heard today had been arrested 66 times in her addiction and now runs the women's ward of the jail she was in when she was using (drugs).  The message there, no matter what, homeless, no money etc.-one never has to use drugs again-ever.   And ladies, I haven't felt so serene in a long time.  Nothing like 700+ addicts forming a circle, having their arms around each other and just supporting each other.  Addicts of all types-black, white, hispanic, gay, straight, bikers, etc.  We all just held onto each other.  And nothing like seeing a guy with 10 days clean who's desperately clinging, willing to do anything not to go back to active addiction.  So another addict paid the guy's way for the whole convetion i.e. the cost of a hotel room, registration for the convention etc.  That's just the way these people are-they'll do anything for the still-suffering addict.

Then they had a kareoke thing.  No, I did not get up and sing.  One guy (yes a man) sang 'Like a Virgin.'  I thought, 'now that takes balls.' Anyway, there was a Native American guy who was there that I hadn't seen in about 15 years.  We went outside to chat and have a cigarette.  Ladies, this man is hot.  He's older, has semi-long hair pulled back in a pony tail, smooth face.  We were talking (we used to be extremely good friends), talked about some Indian stuff, how I (and this is true) had a medicine man from the UP in Michigan take a spirit out of me etc. etc.  He had some turned on eyes that kept looking into mine.  Glad I brought condoms. 'Nuf said.  Yes ladies, I moaned, I almost damn near screamed.  OK, yes I am a self-proclaimed lesbo, but that mainly applies to relationships.  When it comes to sex, I'm extremely open-minded. ;)  And I do have a weakness for tan-skinned men.  My first husband was 1/2 Indian (Native American), 1/2 Hispanic. 

There were four of us women in a room.  And we're all tough as nails bitches.  And we were walking together, no one fucked with us.  Nothing like the NA sisterhood.  Talk about bad bitches.

OK, I've prattled on long enough.  I'm not implying anything, not trying to say anyone here needs recovery from drugs.  No.  But it was just what I needed.  When we left Indy it was 67 degrees and sunny.  Damn, had to come back to South Bend where it's grey and cold.  Oh well.  It was definitely worth it.

Queen, girl, I know you're gonna watch 'The Wire' tomorrow aren't you.  I missed you and I hope you're doing o.k.

Cin, I had anemia in the past and took iron.  I don't know if the Truvada/Sustiva could be doing it. Never heard of that, but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen.  You take care of yourself.

Everyone else, have a wonderful evening.  Later ladies-
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #92 on: March 02, 2008, 09:39:03 PM »
Hi Girls

Nothing new to report.  Weekend is going by fast and have a training class next week so its going to eat up some of my days off that I get during the week.  My roommate is also gone for the week at another training class.  So its going to be weird to have the house to my self again.  I have gotten so use to having someone around.  But oh well I am sure that I will manage. Today I went to breakfast with some friends then my girlfriend and I came back and walked off breakfast.  I decided to run some errands and found my way to the health food store and picked up some Vitamin D since my mother is only 64 and has advanced stages of osteoporosis as well as I picked up some fish oil and green tea.  Everyone keeps telling me fish oil is good for you and green tea helps for so many different things.  So I figured what could it hurt.

Well, the guy front is going well.  The flower guy or Whitey as we will call him since he is not Latin and I have been talking everyday.  He has his son this weekend so we did not do anything this week, which is OK.  We have been talking just about everyday and today he told me that he was wondering if we could see each other for a couple  hours while his son is at school.  His words were to me that he did not want to wait until next weekend to see me.  I sure hope that he will fill the same way after I disclose to me.  Its weird, I have a different feeling about him than I have had with other men in the past.  I am not in a hurry to jump into things with him, like I was with the Latin Lover.  Is it that I maybe deep down I really like this guy and want him to get to know me before we sleep together if it gets to that point.  I guess I am hoping that if I take things slow he will see what kind of person I am and he will be OK with my status.  Like I said its just weird that I am not in a hurry to jump into things with this guy and its not because I am not interested in him.   

Well, Queen I am glad you are sticking to your guns about Kevin.  If you decide to let him back into your life you need to make him work for it.

Betty-You go girl.  I hope moaned so loud that you kept everyone awake.  I love my men dark.  When I found out that I was positive I was dating this guy and he was 1/2 Native American and 1/2 Latin.  I think we would still be together if he was not so damn jealous.  But we are still friends and boy could he cook, he was Chef.  God I miss his cooking.

Moon- I hope you get figured out what is causing your low iron.  I doubt that you are bleeding internalling.  Wouldn't you see blood in your stool?  But I am no doctor, but I will say I believe in the Chiropractor thing.  I was an officer manager for one for 10 years before I got into law enforcement.  I miss working for one, got free adjustments whenever I wanted.  My neck and shoulders never felt so good.

Winn- I don't think that I ever said congrats on your new grandchild.  Enjoy

Hi Snow I hope you are doing well.  How did your chili turn out and did your Dad like it?

Mini- I hope that your restful sleep continues.  I am having trouble keeping me eyes open now and its only 630pm in California.  And I hope that your perpetuating something that's been holding on works its self out.





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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #93 on: March 02, 2008, 09:41:18 PM »
Thank you Sun

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #94 on: March 02, 2008, 10:15:12 PM »
Thanks to all of you who gave me feedback on the iron stuff.  I am taking a pill called "Slow Fe" which digests less rapidly than traditional iron pills.  I took my first last night, and was regular today, so all is well.

Queen, you asked why the doc thought I might be bleeding internally.  Usually if iron levels are low, it could be from diet or heavy periods or a "leak" somewhere in the gastric system.  Perhaps a bleeding ulcer, gastritis, etc.  My digestion has never been a problem for me, and I agree with you Sun, I am sure I would see some evidence in the bowl if I was having probs.

Queen, why don't you shock the shit out of Kevin next time he calls and just answer?  LOL  Tell him you aren't interested and maybe he will stop his stupid games with you.  You shouldn't have to go change your number for a toad, ribbit, just tell him the deal.  Tell him to leave you alone.

Betty, sounds like you had an awesome weekend.  In more ways than one!  OMG WHO would've thought BT would be singing soprano at Indy?  LOL  At least you were prepared ;)  Way to go, SO GLAD you enjoyed yourself!

Sun, Whitey sounds great.  Its nice that he wants to see you and can't wait, lol.  I love that kinda stuff.  Isn't it nice when a man is mature enough to respect you but sweet enough to be a kid at heart, too?  GO SEE HIM!   :D

I went to Iceman's tonight to visit for a few hours.  I got to his neighborhood as he was leaving and he flashed his lights at me, he was taking his kids back home.  I just looked straight ahead and drove past him.  I could see his youngest in the back seat, just the top of a head, and it nearly killed me.  I haven't met the kids--its not time yet, but gosh I want to be a part of their lives so badly.  I will be patient.

Iceman and I went to dinner tonight, not what I expected to do.  Aunt Flo's plane is delayed and she hasn't come in for landing yet so I thought we would be going straight to the bedroom, lol. I wore a leather jacket, a long-sleeved H-D shirt and my 4-inch high heeled leather back boots.  And some tight-ass jeans.  I turned some heads on the drive through town.  It was a good feeling, but its mild here today, I think everyone was horny, lol!

Then Ice says lets go out to dinner, some guy asked if we were out riding our Harley today, lmao.  I had on the shirt and Ice had on a new leather H-D riding jacket.  I have never been on a Harley in my life, Ice just bought me the shirt this Christmas.   :D  We had a nice dinner at a Mexican restaurant, and then went home and exchanged massages in front of the fireplace.  VERY soothing.  OMG, I thought I already knew everything there was to know about this man, but we had a most DIVINE evening.

And I am actually looking forward to going to work tomorrow.  I'm just not going to have my ass probed.  Nope, nada, executive decision on that one!

Hopefully Drag is off making babies somewhere.  :D

~ Cindy
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« Reply #95 on: March 02, 2008, 11:31:54 PM »
Oh and he also wants a "sample" from me, as in like when you take your dog to the vet.
Moon-Like you don't feel bad enough already!  Have you seen the website where they actually do this for a turn on?  It is friggin nasty!!  Happy 4 mos, you guys celebrated in a nice way.  My mans idea of going out to eat is McDonalds  :-\ I hope you and your docs get everything figured out soon.

Sun- It sounds like Whitey is a cool dude.  I hope things work out with him, the disclosure goes well and you can get your "groove" on.  I hope the training goes well this week too.  I so wish I was in CA right now.  My parents and I took the kids to VT today and some of the streets signs were barely visible because the snow was high.  As long as my father didn't have to make it , he will love the chili.  I made it spicy just for him :)  How is running going?  I am going to see if I have any mula I can send out to you?  I hate fundraising. I did March of Dimes last year and I got the $150.  OOOhh. I might have better luck this year, I can hit up the lady I volunteer/work for  ;)

Queen- I am a Masshole and we don't have beer delivery as far as we know.  I  literally live right around the corner from where the poor Dominoes pizza delivery guy got killed ,so I wouldn't deliver anything in this town either.  I wouldn't want fried dick either but wouldn't mind doing it to some of the deserving dicks in my past.  It would be bring a whole new meaning to "Fry Daddy"   :o

Betty got some booty, Betty got some booty! YeeHAH! You go girl.  I am so glad you had a great weekend and are in a serene place right now.  Those must have been some amazing and uplifting stories to listen to.  Glad you made it home safe and sound.

Win- We are getting there, its going to 50 tomorrow.  Geez, I don't know what Im gonna do. Oh, I know drive back and forth to school and...nothing.   I hope you are enjoying the new baby too, I didn't mean to leave you out when I posted earlier.

The sleigh ride was nice today.  Cold as hell but what can you do.  The horses were strong as hell.  I think they said they can pull like 10 to 12,000 pds, something crazy.

Hope everyone has good night and a good start to a new week.  I can't believe it is March already.
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« Reply #96 on: March 02, 2008, 11:52:30 PM »
Well I finished what I could and am just going to take care of the rest tomorrow. I just couldn't look at the computer anymore.

Moon- I was severely anemic right around my diagnosis last year. My ID doctor referred me to a Hematologist. He did blood and stool test. That wasn't a big deal. You just do the sample "swipe" at home. What was bad was the bone marrow test he performed. He wanted to make sure the problem wasn't the marrow. It was extremely painful. There is a description on Webmd...LOL! My mother, who can handle anything, went with me and she almost lost it. She said she had never seen anything so barbaric. If I ever have to do anything like that again I will demand they knock me out. I was very sore for a few days after too. Hopefully they won't have to do that to you. In they end they just determined it was because of the HIV and the meds.

Ok...I am off to bed. Talk to you ladies later!

Oh, Betty...You go girl!  ;)

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #97 on: March 03, 2008, 12:17:26 AM »
Just a drive by

I got another message from Kevin saying that we need to talk. I don't think so. I don't think he is saying it because there is something I need to know but just cause he wants to try to explain himself and I'm not trying to hear it. I heard it when I was there. I'm just going to get my number changed, I had been talking about doing it before he came along anyway. And my ghetto cell phone company allows you to do it for free but only after you pay your bill...LMAO, how ghetto is that.


Betty got some booty
Well, amen and hallelujah girl. I think you were overdue for some. I'm glad you got it on your terms. And an Indian, oooooh, my mind went straight to the gutter.... ;) Sharkie got some competition now. Betty got laid by the Shaman of Sexy (catch phrase I took from wrestling but it works here). You go, girl!!!! I wish I was a fly on the wall, well, not really but am buzzed at the moment. Drinking and toking so I am feeling a bit horny right about now. But I'll deal with that later. I'm also glad that you had such a good time at the convention. And you were going to pass it up...Give your friend who paid your way a big kiss from me. I am happy you had such a nice time.

Sun----LMAO@the name Whitey...No, I am done with Kevin. I guess I'll just fall back into celibacy cause it's not likely I will run into a poz man around here. I am not happy about it but I guess that is the way it is meant to be. And at this point, I am tired of trying. I gave it a whirl 3 times and all of them ended badly for one reason or another.

Snow--- Masshole? Not familiar? Massachusetts?

I am off to play some more Warcraft before bed. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow with the primary. I will keep you all posted...
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #98 on: March 03, 2008, 07:26:04 AM »
Morning ladies-

Sun, I hope this guy works out for you.  I'm sure you know from your past experiences how to take things.  Don't go falling head-over-heels before you truly know him.  My first husband was extremely jealous.  There was this one time when we were driving home, another car with guys went by and they stared at me.  My husband yelled "I'm fucking her!"  What an ass. 

Cin, you've never been on a Harley?  Why was I thinking you have?  You'll love it, trust.  They call Harley's the 'ladies choice' because they vibrate. ;)  And that's a turn-on in itself, being on a bike, not much space between your legs and the guy's ass on a bike.  Well, you get the picture.  I really hope this iron thing works for you.  Please let us know.

Snow, I don't know what Masshole means either.  It's 54 here right now, but it's supposed to be falling into the 30's by late afternoon.  I am so sick of this shit.  Hopefully things will be getting better, I mean, we are heading there anyway (to spring).

Viv, are you still working on report cards?

Queen, what the hell does Kevin 'need' to talk to you about?  If you get some flowers delivered, maybe.  You know how to handle the man.  Yes, that man (Indian in Indy) could have been termed the Shaman of Sex(y).  He's older and his hair's grey, but the way he looked with it pulled into a ponytail, and those goddamn eyes.  Sharkie is going to have to come up with something to get my attention.  Oh, are you going to watch 'The Wire' today?  I'm anxious to see what happens, especially with McNulty.   Yes, let us know what happens at your doc's today. 

I thought I'd get more sleep than what I did, but what the hell, I went to bed around 10:30 last night.  I've got another 1/2 pot of coffee brewing.  I didn't post anywhere else in these forums yet, just did a little looksey last night.  I was exhausted, but it was a good type of being tired.  Today I'm just going to pay bills, do a little grocery shopping and I guess that's about it.  My new class starts tomorrow night.  I've dropped one class, so things should be better there.  I'll check in later- *listening to Erotic City by Prince*
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #99 on: March 03, 2008, 09:09:39 AM »
Good morning Ladies

Im just just stopping in. Im at work. The sun is shining here. The weather has been 76 the last couple of days. Its great. It is supposed to rain today with large hail. Well I'll just be damned.

Betty- congrad's on getting you some. Since we found out we were positive it has not been much sex my way. We will do it like every now and then. Right now I'm horny as hell. Its just so much a Bullet, a Beaver and a Jack Rabbit can do for me. Shit I thought about sex yesterday and almost had a spasm.

Snow- What is masshole???

Just a question to everyone. I know that we are supposed to have sez with condoms "safer sex" I was just wondering would it hurt to start of with out a condom and put one on mid way or may if he pulled out. Just asking.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #100 on: March 03, 2008, 10:00:18 AM »
Morning everyone-
Masshole is a loving term  :-\ for the people or drivers from Massachusetts.

Hope everyone has a good day!

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #101 on: March 03, 2008, 11:12:56 AM »
Morning everyone-
Masshole is a loving term  :-\ for the people or drivers from Massachusetts.

Hope everyone has a good day!

Snow

LOL

Good morning everyone.  Greetings from New Jersey... ;D

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #102 on: March 03, 2008, 11:58:22 AM »
Good Morning----

It looks nice out but haven't been out in it yet. I got woken up by the noise of men doing work to the apartment next door. I got pay a few bills and go to the doctor but that's about it for me. I haven't watched the last episode of the Wire, I will do that a bit later. Betty, I got Prince in my cd player and Erotic City is the first song, I have 15 songs total.

Lucifer is in my lap demanding some love, I will get back later....
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #103 on: March 03, 2008, 03:45:28 PM »
Afternoon ladies:

Well, it's in the 30's and grey now.  I just woke up from a nap.  I was still tired from this weekend; and still am a little.  Nothing really happening today.  I paid some bills, did a little grocery shopping and got lunch at Long John Silver's, cause sometimes only Long John's fish will do. 

I have not seen the last episode of 'The Wire' yet, so anyone who has, please don't let the cat out of the bag.  I will probably watch it tonight.  Of course, I'll post when I do. 

Keepingfaith, whether you wear a condom or not is a very personal choice.  Myself, if I'm fucking someone who's poz, I don't use them.  If I'm not, I do.  I don't think there's a solid right or wrong. 

Queen, please let us know how the doctor visit goes today. 

Other than that ladies, I'm sure I'll check back in later-
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #104 on: March 03, 2008, 04:00:04 PM »
Win- We are getting there, its going to 50 tomorrow.  Geez, I don't know what Im gonna do. Oh, I know drive back and forth to school and...nothing.   I hope you are enjoying the new baby too, I didn't mean to leave you out when I posted earlier.

LOL It is 41 windy and rainy right now. The weather changes pretty quickly here sometimes.
Amber is over here with the baby right now doing their laundry.

Just a question to everyone. I know that we are supposed to have sez with condoms "safer sex" I was just wondering would it hurt to start of with out a condom and put one on mid way or may if he pulled out. Just asking.
Putting a condom on midway wouldn't stop him from getting infected. It might minimise the chance of you getting pregnant but it wouldn't do anything to stop him or you from getting an STD.

I don't always use condoms with a poz partner unless he has other STD's or he insist on it but that is my choice.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #105 on: March 03, 2008, 04:42:58 PM »
I was just asking. My b/f is poz also. I just hear so much about reinfection and other stuff like that.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #106 on: March 03, 2008, 05:09:24 PM »
There has probably only been a dozen cases of "cross-resistant" type infections from poz-to-poz via sex. Mostly, we develop our own resistance.  Especially if both your viral loads are undetectable.  Like I said, if the other person I'm fucking is poz, I don't ever use a condom.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #107 on: March 03, 2008, 05:24:51 PM »
  Like I said, if the other person I'm fucking is poz, I don't ever use a condom.
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #108 on: March 03, 2008, 07:32:17 PM »
I was just asking. My b/f is poz also. I just hear so much about reinfection and other stuff like that.

Hi Faith,

If you're both poz and monogamous, you don't need the condoms unless you're using them for birth control. My bf and I are both poz (he's the source of my virus) and we don't use them. He's on meds and undetectable, I'm not on meds. I'm not worried about reinfection (it's RARE) and neither of us is sleeping with other people (um, this time around! ::) so I'm not worried about other STIs either.

I've said it before... poz on poz rocks! ;D

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #109 on: March 03, 2008, 08:53:03 PM »
Evening ladies:

Nothing exciting to report.  Just wanted to check in.

Queen, I tried to watch 'The Wire' on demand, but it's not going to be available on there until 03/10.  So I guess we'll just have to wait until Sunday night to see the end.  Damn.  BTW, how did your doctor's appointment go today?  That was today, right?

Ann's right about poz on poz sex.  It's extremely sensual.   As well it should be.

Well ladies, I'm going to check out a few other threads and who knows, maybe check in later-
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #110 on: March 03, 2008, 08:54:41 PM »
You know, its nice to tell the truth about not using condoms with my partner without being treated like a dumb ass once I've admitted it.

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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #111 on: March 03, 2008, 09:24:20 PM »
Hey, it's time to start another thread. Who is up for the challenge? This one flew by quick to me. Nothing eventful happened today. My primary doctor cancelled on me and I rescheduled my depo shot once again. Just til tomorrow, I couldn't help it. It was so nice here today, it was 65 degrees. I threw my walkman on and walked to the store listening to Prince. I could've went across the street but chose the store 6 blocks down. I even got hit on when I walked past one of the watering holes...*LOL* Maybe it was because I had some makeup on, I had put it on for the doctor's appointment but left it on when I went to the store. Now it is rainy out and we're suppose to have more snow. I'm glad I bought myself a nice warm jacket today... ;D

I still haven't heard back from Sue but instead got a call from my case manager, Ms. Twice A Week. I now sense that she has a bit of a tude cause she is now figuring out I don't want to be bothered with her ass. What is disturbing to me is that I am being ignored for asking for another case manager when I know they just hired a new one. Her name is Michelle and I heard she does a great job. Ms. Twice A Week droned on about if I had gotten with a therapist yet. I explained the story once again to her and told her I would like to go to a therapist at the hospital close to my house if they have one. She was still talking about trying the place that I have been getting frustrated with. But she said she would find out about the hospital. But I can't help but be pissed about my request for a new case manager being ignored.

Other than that, nothing else going on. I am watching wrestling and will be going back to Warcraft shortly.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating thread: Part XXI- March right in and kick some ass
« Reply #112 on: March 03, 2008, 10:40:49 PM »
Retracted after seeing Ann's statement.....   :-\

Massachusetts asshole is what I believe the phrase refers to, because of the people up there, which I of course love!   ;D  Traveled up that way once, love the "accents" too!
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