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Offline lucas clay

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went to see Betty Tacy
« on: February 25, 2008, 09:53:29 AM »
Ive been in a bad place as of late, due to forces beyond my control.
Awhile ago Betty told me to drop her a dime if i needed someone to talk to, and i did.
She has become a Dear friend.
Thursday i almost did something "stoopid", Friday was a day that almost broke me.
 sat.I had to get away (run away) i was going to go up north, then i remembered Betty told me i was welcome anytime.
It was very rude of me to call and ask if i could drive over there to see her, she just told me to "come on".
Sat. i had a great time chatting and we watched concert videos i had .
sunday i lost it( must have looked like a idiot blubbering, nose running). She had some meetings sunday but told me i was welcome to make myself at home if i wanted. she just wanted to make sure i was alright to do the drive home. made me promise if i was in that bad place to call her before i did something "stoopid". no matter what time of day or night.
As i pulled away i thought she would do well to click the ignore button on the forums and change her phone number asap. when i got home i pm her to let her know i made it home . She sent a reply that she enjoyed having me , and i was welcome anytime.
I shudder to think what may have happend if i was in a hotel room all alone sunday.
Today i will go to see the social worker and have him help me to get a therapist, as i cant make it alone.

I want to thank Betty for her Kindness, her compassion and her hospitality.

                                                                              Lucas

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2008, 09:58:16 AM »
As i pulled away i thought she would do well to click the ignore button on the forums and change her phone number asap.
                                                                              Lucas


 :D    Don't worry, I haven't changed it for far worse than you, my dear.  I know how to deal with people who abuse that privilege (my #). ;)

You're most welcome.  Anytime.
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline ademas

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2008, 10:07:48 AM »
I've read Betty's posts here for some time now, and I suppose that's why I'm not in the least bit surprised that she would be there in a pinch.

I hope you're feeling better today, Lucas.

Offline Dachshund

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2008, 10:12:44 AM »
You can never go wrong with a stripper with a heart of gold.

Lucas, I'm glad you're being proactive. Best wishes.
Hal
« Last Edit: February 25, 2008, 11:38:58 AM by Dachshund »

Offline Iggy

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2008, 10:16:12 AM »
Lucas,

Sorry to know that so much is going on and bring you into a bad place, but glad that you were able to reach out.

I'm not surprised that Betty was there when needed either.  It's the impression I get of her through her posts.

Mark

Offline Snowangel

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2008, 10:22:46 AM »
Lucas,
I am sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time, I am so glad you remembered Betty's offer.  I have only been a member of this forum for a short time and I have already begun to respect and appreciate everyone here esp. Betty and the other girls.  Everyone is always supportive and helpful with a little bit of humor thrown in which has been helping me a lot (you- included).  I wish you the best, fight the good fight. :) Please take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing.
Take care,
Snow
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.

Offline Robert

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2008, 10:58:01 AM »
lucas

the forum has helped me more than a few times.  I'm glad you have Betty.  I'm glad we have Betty.  The world needs more people like her.

robt
..........

Offline structuredjen

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2008, 11:18:12 AM »
Lucas-

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough time..but so glad to hear Betty was there.  She is one awesome chick.  :)

You've extended great kindness to me in the past, and I only hope I can do the same.  If there is ever anything I can do, please let me know.  You're not too far of a drive for me.

Thinking of you - and hoping life lets up on Lucas just a bit.

Jen

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #8 on: February 25, 2008, 01:45:37 PM »
Awww, Lucus, sorry to hear you were in such a dark place. But I am glad that Betty was there for you. No doubt, she is one of the realest people on here. I just adore her. I wish I had someone close by when I had my meltdown. I think the closest one to me is Philicia and he is about 7 hours away. ^5 Betty!!!!!
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Offline lucas clay

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #9 on: February 25, 2008, 02:54:18 PM »
lucas

the forum has helped me more than a few times.  I'm glad you have Betty.  I'm glad we have Betty.  The world needs more people like her.

robt

                                         Amen
                                                  Lucas

Offline scud44

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #10 on: February 25, 2008, 03:02:06 PM »
Hi Lucas
I know what you have been going through - I had a similar situation about 15 months ago.

You did the right thing by sharing your thoughts with Betty - problems shared are problems halved.

My thoughts go with you and I hope my positive thoughts reach you

Keep smiling

Regards
Scuddles
CD4 = 110 - 30 July 2007 - 10%
VL = 139000 - 30 July 2007
CD4 = 252 - 6th August 2007
VL = 16400 - 23rd August 2007
CD4 = 240 - 23rd August 2007
VL = 400 4th Sept 2007
CD4 = 96 - 4th Sept 2007
CD4 = 120 18th Sept 2007
VL = 386000 19th Nov 2007
CD4 = 160 19th Nov 2007
CD4 = 110 10th Jan 2008
CD4 = 311 29th Jan 2008
VL = <50 29th Jan 2008
CD4 = 148 2nd April 2008
VL = 110,000 2nd April 2008
June 2010 and nothing has improved

Offline anniebc

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #11 on: February 25, 2008, 09:36:53 PM »
The world needs more people like her.

I agree Robert..so I second Lucas's AMEN to that.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through a bad time right now Lucas but I'm glad Betty was there for you.

(((hugs))))
Jan :-*
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #12 on: February 25, 2008, 09:50:18 PM »
Chiming in again cause I am worried. Are you doing ok now since you have seen Betty? I sure hope so....(((hugs))
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

The Royal Blog

Offline lucas clay

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #13 on: February 26, 2008, 02:46:21 AM »
I tried to get in to see the social worker and set up a theripest, Friday he told me he had a open slot for me Monday.  did not find out until 2:00 he was not there. W.T.F.
its was hell fighting this off yesterday, and I'm a bit better today.

NOW AS FOR YOU FORUM MEMBERS!

I'm at loss for words, all the kind replies.
pm sent with phone numbers.
Jen will drive over here if i need her.
Betty is 3 hours away.
i don't know how to thank you all.

I have 3 phone numbers tucked in my wallet, and i will have my cell with me at all times. in case i get "stoopid"
I will get help (therapist).
I will get through this, how can i not get through this.
 look at the family i have behind me. So glad i came here.
I do love you all.

                                      Thank you
                                                     Lucas

Offline scud44

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #14 on: February 26, 2008, 05:59:14 AM »
Hi again Lucas,
That is what the Forum Family is for - I have experienced the love and feelings over the past few weeks while have been in Hospital.

If I was in the States, I would fly and be with you - I know what you're going through and it can be horrendous - I will pm my email address to you and you can contact me at any time.

We're all behind you and supporting you

Big hugs from the old bald bloke down-under

Regards
Scuddles
CD4 = 110 - 30 July 2007 - 10%
VL = 139000 - 30 July 2007
CD4 = 252 - 6th August 2007
VL = 16400 - 23rd August 2007
CD4 = 240 - 23rd August 2007
VL = 400 4th Sept 2007
CD4 = 96 - 4th Sept 2007
CD4 = 120 18th Sept 2007
VL = 386000 19th Nov 2007
CD4 = 160 19th Nov 2007
CD4 = 110 10th Jan 2008
CD4 = 311 29th Jan 2008
VL = <50 29th Jan 2008
CD4 = 148 2nd April 2008
VL = 110,000 2nd April 2008
June 2010 and nothing has improved

Offline heartforyou

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #15 on: February 26, 2008, 07:18:44 AM »
Lucas,

I so understand the place you have been in.
thank you Betty for jumping...

We are all one family Lucas...

Hope you will regain faith in life

love

Herman
Diagnosed in 1987 and still kicking
Viread, Kivexa (Epzicom),Viramune once daily

Happiness is the freedom of breathing fresh air every day.

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #16 on: February 26, 2008, 10:39:33 AM »
Anytime, baby, anytime.
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline bear60

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #17 on: February 26, 2008, 11:57:59 AM »
Lucas
I'm so happy that Betty and AIDSMEDS has helped you.  It helps to know...that you are not alone.
Best Wishes
Joel aka Bear
Poz Bear Type in Philadelphia

Offline cmhjeff

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #18 on: February 27, 2008, 11:09:41 AM »
I'm glad you have a friend who could help you out of your dark place I hope things are getting a little brighter. Our number should be in that house and you can call us too.

Hugs

Jeff

Offline lucas clay

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #19 on: February 27, 2008, 08:12:35 PM »
A little update.
Yesterday i came home from work and took a shower, made lunch for work. Crawled into bed and cried myself to sleep at 7:30.I woke up crying. Went to work and called the social worker. he had a open slot for me, so off i went. all and all it helped.told me i can come in and dump on him when ever i need to.
he thinks i should see him next week even if i feel i don't need to. So i will.

Had to set up a f.m.l.a. to free up time from work for this. I told him no h.i.v. on the form.
he said how about chronic infection? I told him i told work i was going for mental distress, even better he said. I watched to make sure he didn't put down old Lucas is a "nut bag" on the form.
I did request they put old Lucas in a room for a week with a valium I.V. and maybe some sponge baths. but he was not going for that.
have to see how it goes.

               ( walking on the thin ice of a new day)
                                                            Lucas

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #20 on: February 27, 2008, 08:57:54 PM »
Aw, a mini AMG for Lucas and BT.  :D

Glad to hear that you're doing a little better Lucas, and that fellow Metal Head offered her company.

Did you guys rock out?  ;)

Take care of yourself.  Seems you already have. :-*

~ Cindy
HIV+ since '93, 1/12 - CD4 785 and undet.   WOO-HOO!!

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Re: went to see Betty Tacy
« Reply #21 on: February 27, 2008, 10:37:26 PM »
Glad you're doing better, baby.  Looking forward to hearing your guitar.
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

 


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