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Offline Winiroo

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Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« on: February 20, 2008, 02:41:42 PM »
2008 Dating Thread History:

Part XIX: Whatever Your Heart Desires
http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19011.0

Part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18828.0

Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18596.0

Part XVI: Go On That Date, Sleep In Late, Make It A Great 2008!
http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18329.0



Spring will be here soon for some of us. I'm looking forward to sunshine and shedding some of my layers.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2008, 02:51:02 PM »
Spring has not even thought about springing over here, I look out the window and see nothing but snow. I can't wait for it to get warm so I can bust out of these jeans and break out the dukes.... ;)
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2008, 04:39:44 PM »
Yes that little taste we had Monday was such a tease...I believe it was 65 degrees...I cant wait until its warm..
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2008, 06:30:11 PM »
Alas, spring here is still about two months away.  And Queen, I don't know about me wearing 'dukes.'  I could wear 'long and bulkies.' :D  Just don't have the good figure I used to. 

OK, so Omar was killed?  Wow.  Well, I think I saw that coming.  I have not watched it yet.  I'm waiting until Sunday when my brother is over.  He always comes over on Sunday nights to watch 'The Wire' and brings donuts.  It's like the Sunday night pig-out.

About my sexual identity-I must admit the LTR I had with Shelly was really nice.  I only wish I wouldn't have listened to my second ex-husband and taken him back and kicked her out.  What a mistake that was, in more ways than one.  No Queen, I don't have a good record with the guys.  I have a bad picker I guess.  I think Liz and I might get together again in the near future.  She's such an attractive, sweet woman.  I'm not going to worry about coming out to my family.  My brother knows and he's totally cool with it. 

OK Queen, get your ass up here so we can check into the hospital by me. :D  People do get to go out on cigarette breaks.  The last time I was in there, I was on a diabetic diet also.  Even when I went to the cafeteria, there was one lady who worked there who wouldn't let me have any sweets.  She was a bitch about it though and always had a scowl on her face.  But people can bring someone up something sweet, as long as it's pre-packaged.  You know, nothing open. 

I have pm'd Ann about locking the other thread.  So hopefully when she's on again, she'll lock 'er up.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2008, 07:15:05 PM »
I'm ready for spring.  Right now we have snow with forecast of more snow then turning to ice then back to snow and snow and snow.  I'm sick of snow.  I woke up at 2am with a sore throat and an earache.  Hubby had clients so I couldn't take meds until he got home just before 6pm.  Everything tastes like metal which sucks.  My kidneys are kiling me, so they're filtering out something.  I'll take a nice long hot shower soon and snuggle into my bed.  I did manage to finish the laundry and make dinner.  Now I'm wiped out.

Mini had her DEXA and blood work (just CBC) yesterday.  It was really neat and she did really well.  I wish it lasted longer.  Something about seeing her lay STILL and SILENT :P.  The whole test only lasted about 2 minutes.  I called her PID on the way home and left a message for her to call with the results.  I left another one today.  I'll call again tomorrow.

That's all going on here.  Gotta get the kiddies their "treat" before bed. 

Have a good one, ladies.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2008, 09:35:00 PM »
Hello Ladies,
I can't wait for spring either.  I am so sick of being stuck in the house.

Ha, ha Betty - I have a bad picker, too.  I tell people I missed the line that they handed the bullshit meters out in.  The kids are 4 now.  My mother just recently let me upload some photos of when the kiddos were in the hospital.  My computer had crashed and I thought I had lost everything but she came through for me :).  I am not sure what diabetic food is but when I was in the hospital after having the kids, I had ordered a hamburg and they sent me up an onion sandwich with a piece of lettuce. YUM.  Maybe your unhappiness to do with school has to do with the time of year?  It seems you have come to far and worked to hard to give up now.  Even if you do end up doing counseling part time you will be helping someone or many and that in itself will be worth all your effort.  Just think energizer bunny and keep going and going and going ;D  As far as your love life- do you.  It will be thier loss not yours. I am a white girl from a small town and I have dated black men since high school.  The big thing with my family is that I have bi-racial children out of wedlock. GASP...the horror.  Hello-2008! My aunts and uncles pretty much stopped talking to me after I had the trip  lets.  Perfect strangers did more for me and the kids than my family did(not including my mother,she was a savior) and I think that is thier loss.  I have zero tolerance for people and thier judgements cuz when it gets down to it no one is perfect, your sister included, she's got something in her closet, you just haven't found out what it is yet.

Winiroo- How's it going down there any new additions yet?

I went to my ID Doc today.  He changed my meds to Atripla.  I start tonight. :o  My numbers were good except for the cholestrol which he said was from the Norvir so we are going to try this one out.  I got to my appt. at 9:45 and didn't get out until 11:45 and walked right smack  dab into my next door neighbors kids.  Thankfully, the door to his office says " Travel Clinic" and not "Infectious Disease"  What's up with that?  Does everyone else's ID doc have travel clinics too?  Everytime I see someone coming out I think to myself "  I hope he/she is a lucky mofo and just going somewhere!"  My 12 o'clock therapist appt got canceled till next week, she had a family emergency.  Oh, well.

Did you guys check out the eclipse?
Hope everyone is doing well!

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2008, 09:36:32 PM »
Nope no news yet.

I didn't even know there was an eclipse.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2008, 10:48:49 PM »
Snow, Mini's PID is in the "regular" peds dept of a major university hospital.  Most of the specialty clinics are "traveling" clinics.  There are no signs on the doors telling what rooms are being used for what reason - just a chart in the nurse's station where kids are weighed and measured.  Most regular peds patients have no idea about the specialty clinics that are going on, sometimes, right next door to them.  The bad side of that is that different docs hold "clinic' only on certain days.  Example: Mini's lipid doc is only in on Tues. and PID on Fri.  She has to have blood work for both, so we have everything drawn on Tues then have to make another 130 mile round trip on Friday.  This past visit, our PID came in on Tues. to see Mini so we didn't have to go back 3 days later. Maybe that's what is meant by "travel" clinic.

Anyway, just took my 2nd dose of meds and waiting for it to kick in so I can lay down and still breathe.  Most counties here have at least a 2hr delay tomorrow.  Some were closed today.  The ones that started out sent kids home early.  Oh, well, doesn't affect us any.  Just means that our roads won't be cleared.  Getting down to 12F toinight.  Yee-haw  :-\.

Everyone snuggle down and keep warm.  Betty, get your slippers back from Poppy (who's still on our fridge) and put them on.
 :-* :-* and goodnight!

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #9 on: February 20, 2008, 10:55:15 PM »
Min~  Hope you get some rest  :)

OMG, I had to get on here and post about the eclipse.  Snow, glad someone else noticed it, lol!  ;)   Its a total lunar eclipse, we won't have another until 2010.  Being the "Moon" girl and all, I have been looking forward to tonight.  And tomorrow is the full moon. No wonder everyone drove with their heads up their collective asses during this morning's commute!   :P

I have gone outside three times onto the landing to look up at the eastern sky.  That's Saturn to the left there, looks like a really bright star.  The moon looks orange/red!

I'm also very happy because Iceman flew from Baltimore at 9pm up to Rochester, NY for business.  He called a little while ago and landed just fine.  He comes back Saturday morning in the next round of ice crap that we'll be getting.  :(

The pilot on his plane said it was pitch black up in the sky cause the moonlight was getting blocked out.  The eclipse started at 10pm.  Now get out there and look, its amazing!  I LOVE stuff like this.

"Moonlight"  :D
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #10 on: February 20, 2008, 11:04:21 PM »
Hey ladies-

I saw a little of the lunar eclipse.  I'd never seen one before.  Pretty amazing.

Mum, you were supposed to shower and go to bed hours ago. :D  I have new slippers and threw the ones Poppy had her paw in out.  They just got too dingy.

Anyway, nothing to report.  Queen, I hope you're alright.  Do you have any space heaters?  I was just thinking about that.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #11 on: February 20, 2008, 11:11:07 PM »
Betty-Hang in there. You are too close to the end to quit and you will regret it. You can do!!!!

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #12 on: February 20, 2008, 11:28:26 PM »
Yeah, Betty, I know.  But, I was laying down and my meds quit working so i couldn't breathe.  My next dose was due in about 30mins, and that was 1 1/2hrs ago.  I'm STILL waiting for it to kick in so I can lay down and still breathe.  I feel like crap!  This stuff isn't working worth a flip >:( and I can't take anything until 2am.  At this rate, I'll be in bed by 3 and up at 5.  GRRRRRRRRRRR! 

Missed the eclipse.  It's too dark and cloudy here.  I really wanted to see it, too.  Oh, well, I'm planning on still being here in 2010.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #13 on: February 20, 2008, 11:44:28 PM »
Hi Ladies

Nothing new to report, I am just happy American Idol has started. 

Winn= No worries about the starting the thread before me and you never need to apologize.

Talk to you guys soon.


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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #14 on: February 20, 2008, 11:48:23 PM »
Okay
I've been reading some of the other dating threads and i finally figured out it's not all about just dating. which I'm not doing and haven't and won't for a while.  Not after losing my husband earlier this month.  I just wished the men at my church would get that through their heads.  I guess with my husband passing they think I'm available. NOT. One even asked to take me to dinner and the little old church ladies are starting to bring their available sons and nephews in to meet me.  I'm about to have them put it in the Church bulletin that I'm not ready to get back in the swing of things and find another man. I still love my husband very much.

Yes  I am so ready for spring. can't stand for it to be colder than 70 degrees. I like it hot what can i say.

Moon - I did manage to catch the eclipse with my 3 daughters it was cool , we all had a great time watching it. I'm assuming that you know the next one is 12-20-2010 marked the calender. :)

Today  was a busy one for me, I'm still trying to run mine and my husband's business that we started almost 2 yrs ago. with the help from my brother-in-law.  and the storm we had on sunday helped out. People want those dead trees down now in fear that they will fall on their house next time around.

I'm hanging in there, My health is good if i could just get through this losing weight thing.  I think it's stress related. My numbers are great.

I want to say thanks to all the ladies that have made me feel welcomed and part of the family.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #15 on: February 21, 2008, 12:00:53 AM »
Uh, I saw someone mention an eclipse, I think it was Philly. But I missed it. My son came to visit so I was wrapped up in him. Once he left, I started watching Flavor of Love. Now I am into this documentary called "Trantasia" in which the cable guide says, "contestants take part in a transsexual beauty pageant" but it is more than that, it shows how they feel about themselves, some had operations done, etc. All I know is that I need just one to show me how to do my make up because theirs is flawless. I would love to see shows like that. But I am loving this documentary. It's a must see...I gotta go, I'm going to finish watching it....
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #16 on: February 21, 2008, 07:43:38 AM »
Hello ladies. I tried to see the eclipse last night but the clouds were too thick so I went to bed.                                                             Win, love your new picture and read your Bio. It was very moving.              Not much going on here. I didn't do anything with my hair. I looked at those washout dyes but couldn't find a color I liked. So maybe next week.  Tendai, I realize how fortunate I am to have easy to take care of hair. I have seen the stuff some of my  friends have to go through and let me tell you, It makes me grateful.  I will be getting a haircut soon. Just not sure when.                                                                  Paulette, hope you are well. Don't let anyone push you into dating before you are ready. You need time to heal and recover from your loss. Hope you are well.                                                                     Working a double shift today. No big deal but will not be home until 11 tonight. Mom or dad will get Robert off the bus since there is not time between shifts to come home.                                          Okay, I have a dilemma. My oldest son's father is calling me to update me on my son's status. I feel like he wants to get with me but there is so much history and hurt feelings on my part that I am not sure if it is a good idea. That family has put my family through hell over the past 15 years. I also think my parents would put me out if they found out I was seeing him again.  But I am sooooo lonely that it is tempting. Let me know what ya'll think.                  I will check in tonight when I get home. Later, Cristy                             Betty, only 10 more weeks. You can do it, I know you can.  just hang in there and make sure you take lots of me time. I will be rooting for you. Cristy
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #17 on: February 21, 2008, 09:03:38 AM »
Morning ladies:

Paulette, I am so glad you've joined us here.  We're a great group of gals and of course, you're welcome to talk about anything. 

Queen, that new show you're watching sounds really interesting.  I might have to check it out. Is it on demand?  Or something on one of the channels?   

Cristy,  I just have to say, do not get back with this man.  He sounds like a real ass-hole.  And why would time make any difference?  Don't get with someone just because you're lonely.  Believe me, you'll regret it.  I speak from experience, of course.  Every time I got back with an ex because of loneliness, it turned out to be a disaster. 

Nothing exciting going on today.  My therapist will be here this afternoon.  I usually clean the apartment on Thursdays.  If I do anything, I'll just clean the bathroom and mop the kitchen floor and vacuum.  Then I have school tonight.  It's only 9 degrees out this morning.  If I didn't have school tonight, I wouldn't go out at all.  Nothing else to report.  I'll check back in later-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #18 on: February 21, 2008, 11:00:17 AM »
I just wanted to add- don't try to have a one-night fling with someone from a past relationship.  That doesn't work either.  Too many old feelings involved that are impossible to keep separate from the sex.  Not implying anyone's doing this, just sayin'.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #19 on: February 21, 2008, 12:25:57 PM »
I always say... An ex is an ex for a reason.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #20 on: February 21, 2008, 12:57:48 PM »
Hmmm... I'm not so sure about the blanket ban on exes. I'm back with an ex now and things couldn't be better.

We first got together fourteen years ago this past December and had an on/off/on/off relationship (partly because he worked in Africa) for around six years, then very little contact for (just over) eight years. I think we both grew up quite a bit during those eight years - I suppose being diagnosed with hiv has something to do with it. Today our relationship is stronger and - importantly - more honest than it ever was years ago.

People can and do change for the better. The trick is knowing if a positive change really has taken place. Foxtrot Charlie never once said "I've changed" (as some exes will say) but he has. The proof is in his actions and he has no need to tell me. I've changed too. I'm much more self-assured, independent and self-sufficient than I was pre-diagnosis. I think in the past I depended too much on him making me happy whereas now I know that ultimately, I'm the only person who can make me happy. Now that I have a core of self-happiness, being with Charlie adds to it, but before I had that core, no man could ever fill the void. Does that make sense to any of you women?

I think the years and hiv have knocked the rough/sharp edges off both of us and we're pretty much a perfect fit now. We're for keeps this time.

By the way, tomorrow's my D-Day anniversary. Whoopee! I'm going to celebrate with a pint or two (or four or six) of Guinness. ;D

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #21 on: February 21, 2008, 01:25:48 PM »
I'm going too jump right on in with both feet because there isn't jack to report over here. As you know, I like to look at things from all sides. So, Christy....I have to agree with Ann to a point that people do change, I mean if we ourselves can change, why not someone else? Shit happens!!! On the other hand, if this man has put you through hell then you should definitely be on guard. It would seem you have a lot more to lose than he does if you try to make a go of it and it blows up in your face. You got to weigh the pros and the cons of it all. First of all, what is your gut telling you? I know too well how being alone can cloud one's judgment too. If you do want to give this man the benefit of the doubt then I would suggest keeping the lines of communication going but would also advise to take things at a snail's pace. One thing I have learned is if a person HAS NOT changed, it doesn't take long for their true colors to show.

Betty--- Sorry to give away the death of Omar, I thought you watched it. Transtasia was on the Starz channel, I forget which one, there is about 4 of them. I truly hope you hang in there with school but can understand you feeling burnt out. Can you take a break? I want to go back to school. I was going online but then I lost my hearing. I explained what was going on with the school but they dumped me anyway. Back then I was going to be forensic expert. But if I go back to school, I want to go for computers. I want to learn how to fix them as in taking them apart and some web design. But I have too much going on right now to be focused on school.

When the roomie gets back, it's off to the laundry mat to get some laundry done. We have procrastinated til we both are out of clean clothes. I did find something clean to go out in but everything else is dirty. Still have not heard anything from Kevin. Life goes on...
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #22 on: February 21, 2008, 02:13:20 PM »
Afternoon ladies-

The advice I gave Christy was based on two things:  1) she said this man put her/her family through hell.  2) she would "get with him" because she's lonely.  If someone has already put one through hell, why take another chance.  And if the only reason is loneliness, well, I just don't think that's the right way to go. 

I got back with ex's because of loneliness and the end result was never good.  I know people change-believe me, I know.  But in the above situation, I would observe how someone's really living before jumping back in. 

Ann, I knew there was a reason we haven't seen much of you lately. ;)  I'm glad things are working out.  Happy (for lack of better wording) anniversary tomorrow.  How long does this make?  I just had one a little over a week ago-19 years.  Many, many more to come. 

Queen, that's alright about Omar.  I figured he was going to get axed.   I don't get Starz.  It sure sounds like an interesting series, though.

After tonight, one more week of the classes I have now.  So, in all actuality, there's 11 more weeks until summer break.  My voc rehab counselor e-mailed me saying they have funding for the summer.  But I'm not going to go.  A year and a half striaght through is enough for me.  Sometimes I feel like dropping out.  I don't know if I will ever do anything with the degree.  I just don't see working a regular job.  I have strange schedules-sometimes up early, sometimes up late.  But, I'm really not a person to not finish something I start (or in this case, restarted).  So, we'll see.  It's just a day-by-day thing right now. 

Liz called me earlier when I was cleaning and wanted directions to my apartment.  She's been here before, but it's a little tricky and she doesn't want to get lost.  I wonder what she wants to come over for.  Not that I mind at all.  She's a good conversationalist, besides being very pretty to look at. 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #23 on: February 21, 2008, 03:19:50 PM »
OK ladies-

I have been really, really down lately.  I have an extremely frustrating financial situation (Queen, I know you can relate there).   It seems like I always 'just barely make it.'  With only getting $10/month food stamps, it usually gets down to 'should I get gas so I can get to..... or should I get a 1/2 gallon of milk.' 

Today has been an especially hard 'grief day' for me.  Most of you know my mum died last August.  I was extremely close to my mum, admittedly the closest of the siblings.  And I miss her-terribly.  I used to talk to her 2-3 x a day; we used to do 'Wheel of Fortune' and 'Jeopardy' over the phone the nights I wasn't in school.   I was one of her primary care-givers the final months of her life.  And it was easy to do.  She never complained, was open to everyone, was compassionate, and held her dignity the best she could right up to her last breath.  I'm extremely pissed off right now.  I just want to go outside, shake my fist at the sky and scream 'Is there really a god?'

Also, I haven't been feeling all that well lately.  Just started a new med (Kaletra) about a week ago.  My viral load was pretty high last test (214,000), and I've had quite a few fevers and upper respiratory problems.  But, HIV wise, I've lived through much, much worse.  So I know that it's something I can handle. 

Some days I just want something to take it away, immediately.  Of course, I do have a conscience now, and I know I would probably over-indulge.  That would lead to disaster.  My last trip down drug-lane was not something I would want to re-live.  And I'm not guaranteed I would make it back from another one.  However, it doesn't stop the thoughts from entering my head. 

OK, done ranting.  Sorry.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #24 on: February 21, 2008, 04:26:39 PM »
Hello Ladies :)

I know I haven't been on in a while but I just wanted to stick my head in to let you all know that I had the baby.  After an entirely long labor for me compared to my other children my lil' man was born on 2-12-08 at 9:06am.  He was an even 8lbs and 28 in long.  Unfortunately I had to have a c-section because I got stuck at 5 cm and was not progressing at all.  Currently, all is well just trying to recover and get back to my old self.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #25 on: February 21, 2008, 04:46:47 PM »
Congratulations Momma. Boy you sure had a tall baby.  :)
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #26 on: February 21, 2008, 04:49:03 PM »
Betty, I agree, I'd also advise Cristy to go forward with a heaping helping of caution. I just wanted to mention that not ALL exes are ones to not get back together with. I wouldn't ever consider getting back with any of my other exes, including the most recent.

Cristy, hun, if he's still an asshole, then loneliness isn't a good enough reason to get back with him. He'll only hurt you again. You're worth more than that.

Tomorrow is my seventh D-Day anniversary, although with hindsight, I know I seroconverted in mid-May of 1997, so I've got nearly eleven years positive. I'm probably looking at going on meds sometime in the next few months (should have results from Feb 5th's draw tomorrow) but I'm not worried. I've had a good med-free run of it and I'm not about to complain. I'm thinking of trying Truvada and Reyataz (boosted with Norvir) because I don't want to do Sustiva if I can help it.

Just to jog your memories, in September my counts were 525, 27% and they'd dropped to 299, 22% by December. My counts have always been up and down but I've never had such a drastic drop before, aside from the time I had shingles. Wasn't anything wrong with me before/during the December blood draw. We did another blood draw on February 5th and I will hopefully have those results tomorrow. I'm not very optimistic about them because I've been drenching the bed with nightsweats the past two nights. I've had mild nightsweats before, but never the heavy-duty ones where it looks like you pissed the bed. And no, I wasn't in my own bed. ::) He wasn't fazed - one of the benefits of being with someone who is also poz.

Congrats Blessed! Hope your C-section heals up quickly so you can enjoy the new arrival.

 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #27 on: February 21, 2008, 06:09:35 PM »
Hmm, I thought my advice to Christy covered all bases. You know if she chooses to deal with the guy? Weighing the pros and cons, take it slow, the alone factor, what she has to lose, if the man's change is sincere? No one knows the deal exclusively but her. I have to agree with the other ladies too, I never had things work out when trying to patch up with the ex. But it doesn't mean it can't happen. Christy, I hope we didn't make things more confusing for you. You know we love you unconditionally and want what's best for you.

Ok, now Betty, you're making me worried over there. Did you talk to your therapist today? I know what you mean about missing your Mom. Tomorrow is the anniversary of my Dad's passing, it will be 4 years and I miss him terribly. I miss getting together on holidays, we didn't really celebrate the holiday but each other's company. I was just talking to my roomie about him and how he was the one who taught his then 35 year old daughter how to drive. What can I say, I was a late bloomer...*LOL*

About the food stamps, I don't understand that because I get $162 in stamps. I have heard of people before saying they only got $10 and I don't see how they think anyone can live off of that. I struggle with trying to make my stamps stretch and I don't go to food banks.

I am wondering why your doc started you on Kaletra. I thought that med was known for it's bad side effects or has it gotten better? I may be getting it confused with something else. I know you are under a lot of stress but please be strong. I don't want you to go down drug alley again. Did you ever get your messenger up and running yet? If not, can you? If you need to talk you can always IM me. I'm usually online all the time even if it says I am not, I often lurk or go under invisible.

I need to get ready to go do laundry, my roomie keeps walking in the room so I guess that is a hint. But it must be done. I will check back on you, Betty when I get done. You did say Liz was coming over right? You guys are close, no? Have you talked to her? I just want you to talk to someone. Now I am worried, it's my turn anyway... ;)
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #28 on: February 21, 2008, 06:36:41 PM »
Evening ladies-

Well, I didn't go to class tonight.  The professor e-mailed everyone and let us know that the class tonight is going to be spent watching 'An Inconvenient Truth' with some discussion.  He gave us the option of whether we went or not.  I've seen the movie.  And opted not to go.

Blessed, congratulations!  What an adorable baby.

Queen, thanks for the concern.  Girl, you didn't drive until you were 35?!  Wow.  My mum taught me how to drive back in like '78.  And it was on a car that was a stick shift and the shifter was on the steering wheel!  Does anyone remember those awful cars?  It was a blue Maverick (ugh).  I'm feeling a bit better now.  Ya know, I don't understand why my doc started me on Kaletra either.  It's well known for its effect on cholesterol (for which I'm on a medication) and effects on blood sugars.  So, I'm trying to carefully monitor those.  I'll give it until I have my first set of labs post starting it, which will be in about 3 weeks.   About the drug thing...... it can get really tempting to want to have things 'feel better' instantly.  It's not like I have the $ for it, but of course I know how to get ahold of something.  I usually call my sponsor and probably will later.  I think I have the yahoo IM thing installed, but not sure how to use it.  And when I installed it, I got a new toolbar.  That was strange.  Did that happen to you?    And yeah, I miss my mum terribly.  And I understand it can take a year before feelings get under control.  I still talk to her.  I believe she hears me. 
I haven't called Liz back yet.   I probably will in a couple hours.  Hopefully something might blossom there.  If it's meant to, of course.

Ann, I've never done the Reyataz/Norvir boost, but I was on Truvada at one time.  I had literally no side effects from it.  Actually, I was on Truvada/Lexiva.  Up until I grew resistant to both, they worked really well.  I feel you on the night sweats.  I hate having to get up and change my jammees.  Hopefully when things get under control, those will go away.  That's what I'm hoping for with my new med also.  Please keep us posted on how things go. 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #29 on: February 21, 2008, 07:46:34 PM »
Hi GFs~

Paulette, its so nice to see you here.  Again, I am so sorry about your husband's passing.  PLEASE share and vent here with us.  There is a lot of humor and a lot of strength in this Forum, we'd love to hold you up as you get back on your feet.  We can also help to swat the church ladies away if they keep pushing their sons and grandsons on you!   :D

Blessed, your little one is adorable, like he knew that pic was going to be posted here!  He was looking at all of us.  Twenty-eight inches long?   :o   Holey moley, GF, THAT is a long baby!  I'm so glad you're doing ok, post when you can.  :)

Cristy, the first thing I thought to myself when reading about your ex is "go with your gut."  Then I read what you said your family would do if they found out.  I don't think its worth risking family harmony in your home, or worth risking getting the boot by your parents(if it came to that).  Think about what in the hell you and Robert would do if this ex turned your world upside down.  Sure, discuss your oldest on the phone, etc, but if the ex starts getting all mushy and leg-humpy  lol   :D  tell him you have to hang up.  Just don't tolerate that shit if he's out for one thing.  God created women for a reason, cause men don't know what the hell they are doing most of the time!   ;)

Ann, nice to see you chime in, and I'm glad that Foxtrot is the exception to the rule.  You are one lucky woman!  Please let us know how the labs turn out.  Kudos to you for making it through all of these years and putting up with this damn virus.   :)

Betty, how was your session?  I hope you vented some and are feeling a little better this evening.  The damn full moon (don't blame me, lol) makes us all a little moody.  I've been that way today, too.  More on that below.  So, you have a few more weeks of classes and then NO summer session, right?  Hang in there because you will reap the benefits.  How many credits will you have after Spring session?  Are you getting snow and ice tonight?  Its just creeping into Maryland now, and we are supposed to get 1/3 of an inch of ice tomorrow.  I am staying the hell home.  If the Fed Govt is closed, I get to stay home with pay, and I can post with you GFs all day like I used to.  I miss that!

Queen, did Kevin ever call you?  I thought the last I read yesterday or the day before was that you thought he was working cause you hadn't heard from him......I hate when guys do that.  Either you're "in" or you're "out," no pun intended....  :D  well, maybe!   ;D

Hello to Win, Sun, tendai, Mum, confused, Camms shout out GF, Afraid come back to us......I guess Drag IS on holiday.  I hope your wrists are OK, GF.  :)

Well, today is three years since my Grandmother passed.  She was my birth father's mother, and she lived to be 91.  Some of my earliest childhood memories are of times with her.  :)  Also, today is the day I drove my late husband to the hospital because he was so sick back in '96.  I remember how stressful it was.....A hospital right here in town wouldn't admit him because of his insurance and I had to drive him around the DC Capital beltway to another hospital.  I never drove so fast in all of my life.  It was truly one of the only times I thought to myself, "If a cop gets behind me, I will keep on going until we arrive."  Yes, my late husband's situation was that BAD.  That's when all of the skeletons started coming out of the closet, and I found out that he had been infected and knew it and didn't tell me.  I found out he had known since '88 and here it was, '96, I was 26, newly married and speeding to the hospital.  I put Casie (my late pup) and Cheech in the kennel and stayed with Dave at the hospital for three days, on a cot in his room.  Then chemo started a few weeks later and I was thrown straight into hell, but I was a FIGHTER.  Yes, I was. 

I was reliving all of this on my drive home from work tonight, crying and talking to Dave, telling him I would never give up this battle, and telling him he should still be here.  *sigh*  I know he knows that I'm OK.  Strangest thing, and BT may know this song, but while I was driving and crying and talking to Dave and God, a song came on the radio.  "Tears Are Falling," by KISS.  How fitting.  Shit like that happens to me all of the time.  I guess I feel that it helps to affirm my emotions at the time, so it was all good tonight.

So, Betty, you hang in there, you're allowed to grieve and be tired and have a bad day and not want to study and not want to clean and so on.......You're allowed to JUST BE.  So, take a breather just for you, and tell yourself its OK to do so.  I love you, GF.  :-*  Also, I hope Liz comes to visit, you really seem to dig her.  ;)

Time to go watch Survivor and pray for lots of ice.  I am staying home tomorrow.  :D

Also, Iceman was asked to chair an AA meeting this Saturday if his damn plane makes it back from NY in this storm.  This isn't his regular AA group, but he invited me to go after I mentioned my interest last week.  I'm a little nervous, but I can just picture him speaking to people and motivating them by sharing his story.  I know I would be proud, and I really do want to understand more about his addiction and to support him.

Kisses to all, stay warm tonight.  Big warm hug to you, Queen, bundle up!

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #30 on: February 21, 2008, 10:22:03 PM »
Well........

I had forgotten that my therapist had to be in court today (he does psych evals on people in trouble with the law).  So there was no session, unfortunately.  I talked to Liz for quite awhile tonight-over the phone.  We had a good conversation.  We even talked about sex (not with each other, at least not yet).  We talked about what we liked, disliked etc.  I am a very erotic person sexually.  Open for a lot of things.  I think most of that comes from my background with sex.  I've had a sordid one, believe me.  At one point I even did some porn for a guy.  No, it's not on the web.  It was like 24 or 25 years ago.  But, I've lived quite the life and know what turns me on (and off).  OK, enough about that subject.

No Cin, I'm not going to take classes this summer.  I'm looking forward to it ending.  I have to do a final 5-7 typed APA format paper for my ethics class.  Haven't even started on it yet.  I'll try to knock it out this weekend.  I hope you get the day off tomorrow.

Other than that ladies, nothing else to report.  I watched part of the dem. debate tonight.  All I can say is 'Go Barack!'  Later-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #31 on: February 21, 2008, 10:26:08 PM »
Win, you apparently have a very eager "stalker."  He has managed to post in three women's threads, but Betty and I have been reporting him.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #32 on: February 21, 2008, 11:20:18 PM »
Ladies, ya'll are the best. I received a lot of good advice and have come to the conclusion that I will talk to him about my oldest son and stick to that. If eventually I  see that there are some changes, then I might reconsider. Thank you all for your responses to that.                                     Betty, so you are talking to Liz. I hope that it works out and ya'll become a happy couple.                                          I am like you, I know exactly what I like and what I don't, through much experience.                           Sorry to hear you are really missing your mom and hope that eases.                      Blessed, what a lovely little man. Glad that he is here and hope you are recovering well .   It's been a long day ladies and I will post more tomorrow.  Good night.   Cristy                 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #33 on: February 21, 2008, 11:50:49 PM »
I am glad I got the laundry done and there was no one at the laundry mat. About 4 people and my neighbor works there so we were talking to him which made things go fast. We didn't even bother with a cab, we just hiked it around the corner. As soon as we got back and things put away, I made a beeline right for the shower.

I have been feeling chilled since the shower. Sorry to hear some of you ladies are in a funk. I am surprised that I am not but maybe the Celexa is kicking in finally. I think I have been on it about a month now. I am glad that you had your sponsor and Liz to lean on, Betty. And know you are not alone when it comes to speaking to your Mom, I find myself doing that with my Dad. I believe they hear us too.

Christy, I am glad you are keeping the lines of communication open with the ex even if it is just talking about your oldest son. I believe you will get your answer of if he has changed or not. Just sit back and watch.

Since Betty brought up sexual preferences and likes. Believe it or not, I am still out on that. I haven't done a whole lot sexually as far as positions or toys. I haven't found a man that I can open myself up to like that. I guess I am old fashioned. I feel if I am going to be a freak or do freaky things, I want it to be with someone I am going to be with for awhile not just a fuck buddy.

Sorry, I missed saying it earlier but congrats on the baby boy, Blessed. All my kids were c-sections and I have 3. My daughter who is the oldest was born breach and then when it came to my sons, I was told my birth canal was too narrow or something. I forget, that was 17 years ago and I have been fixed since then anyways. ;)

What? Wini has a stalker? Where? What posts? Quickdraw Ann must've gotten to the posts before I could see them...Damn Ann, you take away all my fun, woman... ;D I'm off to look over other threads before I become engrossed in my games.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #34 on: February 22, 2008, 07:42:05 AM »
Blessed - CONGRATULATIONS ON THE LITTLE ONE!
He is tall isnt he. Tall people here are sometimes nicknamed "Rangwani"  (Long One).

Queen i envy u on the laundry at least u're done with it now. I have 3 weeks of clothes to wash and nothing in my wardrobe. everytime i want to wash my clothes there'l be no water.  i dont know why these so-and-so at the water authority cut off water on weekends, when are people who go to work supposed to do their laundry then if not on the weekend. its like they want us to wash at 5am beofre we go to work  or at 8pm when we get back from work. really annoying >:(

Christy - i also agree that u go with your gut. u know him better and if he has changed for the better then i guess it would be alright. i'd only get back with an ex if we broke up for silly reasons like distance or something like that. someone who made me miserable i wouldnt even consider it. it'd be kinda like eating my vomit. sorry that sounds gross doesnt it?  once bitten twice shy and all that. just be careful hey?

Betty - u do need a break i think.  take some time out and let your hair hang out. Whats the saying i forget. let your hair come down? ???. I'm glad Liz is there 4 u.

Paulette - hi.  good to see u going on with life. and yes dont be pressured into a relationship u're not ready for.   u know we almost have the same name.

Cindy - and pray for lots of ice.   do mean ice ice or "ice"  ;D. Betty's and your stories never cease to amaze me, all the stuff u went thru and all.  Talk about girl power.

Ann -- "happy" anniversary. i can only hope i can go as liong as u have without having to go on meds. my last CD4 count on 1 Feb was 425 up from 325 in June 07. phew. i hope.

Things are slowing right down with my boyfriend.  He wont let me see where he stays and was becoming used to coming to my place. so i was really uncomfortable with him being there and said that my landlord doesnt allow it. i thought that would push him into letting me come to his place but nope. We just meet in town and stand about or go for a movie like a couple of teenagers. He doesnt even have a car for us to neck in! :P The way things are going i dont really see much hope for us :-\




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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #35 on: February 22, 2008, 08:21:27 AM »

He wont let me see where he stays and was becoming used to coming to my place.


Tendai, hun, for me that is a red flag that has
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written all over it!!!!  ???  >:(  :-\  :-[  ::)  :o   :P  >:(  >:(

I finally got the phone call with my results. My absolute climbed back up by nearly 200 to 489 (from 299) but my percent dropped another three points to 19% (from 22%). My VL is still nice and low at 13,700. I'm not at all pleased about the dropping percentage, but it's still a healthy number. ~shrug~

While I was on the phone with the clinic, I cancelled my March 18th appointment and rescheduled for April 29th. They probably wouldn't have done more bloods in March, but they will in April so I'll wait until then and refuse to panic in the meantime. I still have a feeling I'll be on the meds before the year is out, but at least it looks like I'll have time to go back on the Champix and quit smoking and stop taking the Champix again before I have to think about dealing with any initial side effects HAART may bring.

I didn't have nightsweats last night, so that's something else I'll worry about when and if it happens again.

Queen, I did get rid of whatshisface's posts, but not until a couple hours after you posted about not being able to find them. You weren't missing anything! ;)

Betty, good luck with Liz. She sounds like a winner! If you ever want to talk about staying off the smack, you know where to find me. Been there, done that. Been off it for around 22-23 years now. So long I don't keep track anymore... I just know I haven't had any since before I was pregnant with my daughter and she'll be 21 at the end of April. The day after my next blood draw, in fact.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #36 on: February 22, 2008, 08:46:49 AM »
Morning ladies:

Tendai, I agree with Ann 100%.  If a guy doesn't want you to know where he lives, then there's something he doesn't want you to see-and that's usually a wife.  I would insist on it and demand a reason for not seeing it if I were you.  You certainly don't want to get screwed over.

Ann, it's been years since I've done any dope (the IV kind anyway).  I did have many tumultuous years with other kinds, though.  Sometimes I think being diabetic is a good thing for me; it keeps me away from the booze, which I've always over-indulged in also.  Nothing like that has ever been at a 'pretty-safe' level with me. 

I need to do laundry as well.  I'm hoping I will get it done tomorrow.  Today I have to go to my father's.  I am not looking forward to that  I really just want to lay around in jammee's all day.  My dad's 80th birthday is next month.  I already know what I'm going to get him-Fannie May chocolates.  That's his favorite. 

Other than that, nothing to report.  I hope everyone has a good day (or night depending on where you live).  Check back in later-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #37 on: February 22, 2008, 09:49:06 AM »
Tendai~  HE IS HIDING SOMETHING.  No more going to "stand around in town."  Tell him you're busy and make him WORK if he wants your attention.  Men like that PISS me off.  Don't teach him how to treat you, GF......You make me laugh.  I was thinking the same thing as I posted "I pray for lots of ice."  :D  You know I got my man on the brain.  I hope he can fly home safe tomorrow morning, but he is in upstate NY.

Ann, congrats on the good numbers.  I wouldn't worry too much about the percentage.  I have been on HIV meds since 1995 and know nothing different.  Diabetes got me ready for that.  You'll be just fine when the time comes.

Leg-Humper sounds like an old friend of Win's with a miniscule amount of posts.  I don't know if he read my PMs cause he didn't reply, prob doesn't know how to.  Jan was treating him gently since he is new here.  Ann, thanks for cleaning up the threads, they are historical, lol!  :)

BT, glad to hear you spoke with Liz.  Does she live that far away from you?  Nothing better than a hot rendez-vous during cold weather, n'est ce pas?  ;)

Queen, you mentioned sex and then talk more about the laundry.   :D  WHAT is going on with Kevin?  Is he MIA?  Have you called him?

Cristy, glad you are taking most of our advice and not going for the horizontal bop with the ex.  You know its not worth it.  Hell, I'd have us all pitch in and send you a toy before I'd let you go back to that guy, esp from how you said your family would react -- not good.  Get out there and date, you had opportunities, I know you did.  I know its difficult just with being shy, nevermind the disclosure issue.  After I got back into dating, I reached a point where I really tried not to think about the virus at first and what the outcome with a certain guy would be.  I felt I owed it to myself to have a choice in who I wanted to date and to actually have a good time while out.  If and when I found someone I deemed worthy, then I would start thinking about disclosure.  I know, easier said than done, but you owe it to yourself to have fun.  What happened to the guy you went out dancing with a few weeks back?  ;)

I am going to try to head out and crawl in my Jeep a little later and go to Ice's house.  He has a big TV and its cozy there.  That way I can see him tomorrow as soon as he gets home.  I obviously didn't go to work today.  All of the schools are closed, there is ice everywhere, but I think if I go slow, I will be OK.  Just waiting for the temp to rise a little, but the highways look good right now.  People are zipping along.....

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #38 on: February 22, 2008, 09:49:48 AM »
Hi Camms, I see you peeping.......How are you?   :)

There's Paulette, too!  Hang in there, you're in my prayers.  I know these new days are tough ones.   :-*
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #39 on: February 22, 2008, 10:10:24 AM »
Morning girls-

Tendai- I have to agree with Ann, sounds like he is in another relationship at home.  What kind of reason has he given you regarding his need to stay at your place?

Ann-  Glad your cd numbers climbed despite the drop in the %.  My d-day was this past Tuesday the 19th.  I had a nice Merlot, though I would have welcomed the guiness.  Spencer and I cooked an amazing dinner and I think laughed all night at stupid jokes.  It's amazing to look back at your life, for me two years, and how awful it all seemed.  Fast forward, I'm happier now then I've ever been. 

Betty- Sorry to read you haven't been feeling well.  You really have perservered through your habits, losses and physical pain.  I think you're one tough cookie...(I sound like my grandmother) eh hem.  Having a friend like Liz is quite advantageous, how ever the relationship evolves.

Queen-  What's the newest on Kevin?  It seems the hottest topic is laundry with everyone. 
Laundry is such a drag.  I've been there where I had to go to the Mat many times in my life.  But regardless, it's one of those things that will never end.  I have a unit in my house and I still hate it.  It's not the washing and folding part that gets to me....its putting them away.  Why put them away if I'm just gonna take them out.  (I know, if i didn't my room  would look like a teenage girl with an ocd clutter issue)

Hope everyone is warm and cozy where ever you may be. It's snowing for the first time here in Jersey and the office is closed.  I am, in the office....long story.

Hugs to you all, cin, christy, drag, win and anyone else I may have forgotten.

Addition:   I was writing this as you posted Cin LOL :D  Its funny that we both addressed Queen with kevin and laundry.  Ok Queen, what's up with that?


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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #40 on: February 22, 2008, 10:19:19 AM »
Goodmorning Ladies
I'm still in dis belief that i slept almost 12 full hours with out any bad dreams about my late husband. Which i can say has never happend before; since the whole thing started back in Jan when my husband was dx: with liver cancer.

Tendai - that's cool i didn't know our names are almost the same. Yeah I agree with the other ladies here; if you haven't seen his place He's hiding something.

Ann- Great to hear your numbers are getting better. And thanks for all the work you do here in the forums.

Blessed- congrats on your littleone He is beautiful. And Born a day before my great niece if i might add.

Thanks again for making me feel so welcomed.
I'll check back in with you all later.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #41 on: February 22, 2008, 10:51:59 AM »
Hie Paulette - congrats on the good nights sleep. maybe it means you are starting to heal.

Guys my bf\s excuse is that he doesnt pay rent where he stays or something like that.  no first he said it was becoz of some women who lived there who was "causing problems so he was staying with his sister until she kicked him out. now apparently hes staying with frenz. i wont let him in my place i told him my mum is visiting so he cant insist or sulk or throw a tantrum. i just dont get this guy. he sounded so together on the phone, and im less than impressed with the reality of him.  he cant even afford to buy me a takeaway. most of the time i pick up the bill and buy food and all. then he expects to come to sleep at my place.  i dont think so. ::). im in an internet cafe while he goes and sorts out some \deal\ with some guy.  i said i\d rather not join him as i was tired. then this guy phones. u remember the guy whos married to his \maid\? he calls me said lets get together i miss u.  i said u\re married and he flatly denied it! i see him almost everyday with his wife and little son on his lap going to work. does he think im so stupid? honestly hes got some nerve dont u think? >:(

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #42 on: February 22, 2008, 10:55:40 AM »
Tendai, what the hell is going on?  You buy this guy food and he doesn't pay at all?

I hear Em in here.....You are teaching him how to treat you.

I am so sorry, GF, but I believe you are being played.  You need someone more worthy in your life.   >:(
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #43 on: February 22, 2008, 11:01:55 AM »
i starting to think so too but i dont want to come out like i\m materialistic? he sings the love is all that matters song so many times. but i dont really buy it...

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #44 on: February 22, 2008, 11:26:54 AM »
Morning everyone-
I am exhausted!  I started Atripla the night before last and I don't feel like I have actually slept at all yet.  That is my only complaint other than I just feel wierd not a bad wierd but just wierd. I am not sure if it is because I still have some leftover cold from last week or what.  I haven't gotten my appetite back yet either.

 It started snowing this morning and we are supposed to get 10 inches so I kept the trip  lets home.  My older son came home from his fathers yesterday so I got to spend some one on one time with him, that was nice.  We got some free tickets to the Globe Trotters and went last night, the seats were awful but the kids enjoyed it.

Hi Paulette-  Glad to hear you had some good rest and that your business will be picking up.  I was actually a tree climber in my former life :).  I love to do that kind of work and be outdoors working with my hands and getting free exercise.

Moon- That is nice that you get to take the day off from work and relax.  I hope Ice makes it back safe and sound too.  Do you ever watch John Edwards Crossing Over?  He has said that kind of thing you mentioned with the song is your loved one letting you know they are there.

Betty-  Sorry to hear that you haven't been feeling well and have been down in the dumps.  As far as money goes, is there anything you can do under the table?  I had gotten a ton of help from strangers when I first had the trip  lets and was alone and I wanted to give back. I recently started volunteering to yard work kind of stuff for elderly, etc and I met someone who liked me and wanted me to do more around her house and she pays me cash.  Its not much but it helps.  I usually just go over her house do some ironing, take her to appts.  Sorry to hear about your Mum passing.  That would be nice if things did work out with you and Liz.  I hope things get better soon.  

Oh, I do remember the cars with the shifts like that.  My father is a car buff and is working on a 40 something, has a 50 something ford.  I can never remember years, makes or models.  I had a 65 Ford pickup with the flip up hood.

Tendai- I have to agree with everyone else and say that your BF is hiding "something"  but I think you already knew that since you said you didn't think it would last.

Blessed-Congratulations on your beautiful son!  What an angel!  Did you have heartburn?  I had tons of heartburn and they all told me it was because he had a lot of hair on his head.  Old Wives tale, I guess.  I hope that you have some help and are getting the rest you need.  Don't forget to take care of yourself and don't worry about the cleaning :)

Queen- My daughter was breech too and she had to have the Pavlic harness for her hips for months after she was born and still goes once a year to get her hips checked.  Did your daughter have any hip issues?  My pet peeve about laundry is matching socks.  I admit I usually just go and buy more because I get so frustrated trying to find matching socks.

Ann- I am glad your numbers are better too.  That is definately one of the nice things of being someone with that is poz they understand "things" :)  I have to second Paulette on Thanking you and all the moderators on the forum, you guys all do an awesome job, especially with the "Am I Infected" -you must all have a lot of patience.

Cjc- Iam glad you decided just to keep it about your son, that will probably be the best for you in the long run.  You will find someone when you least expect it.

I think I have been trying to type for like 2 hours, it has been a revolving door of kids or me getting up to do something.  Hopefully we can all lay down and take a nap today but that is highly unlikely :)

Hope everyone has a great day! Hi to Sun, Camm, Wish and everyone else :)

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #45 on: February 22, 2008, 01:24:21 PM »
Thanks to everyone for the congrats.  I see I made a mistake on his length though.  He was only 18 inches and his name is Jordan.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #46 on: February 22, 2008, 01:33:26 PM »
Hey Ladies----

I see fresh snow outside and from the weather, we're suppose to get 1-3 more inches, no ice here. I am just glad to have the laundry done. I love the way my comforter smells after washing it...I feel like I am in one of those laundry commercials.. ;D

I guess Kevin is MIA, I haven't heard from him in a week. For some reason my ghetto cell phone company won't allow me to call him because even if he is local, his cell phone tower is based out of Pittsburgh so it is considered a long distance call, WTF? But Kevin knows all this. I was wondering and I am not sure about this, but maybe since he is a nurse, he pulled up my medical records some way? But then I doubt it because even though my doctors work at the same hospital he does, I haven't been there since I gave birth to my youngest son. I usually go to a different hospital if I need to go to the ER or anything. I thought our date last Friday went w/o a hitch. I talked to my bff and told her maybe he is playing the field but she doesn't seem to think so. She says it could be something else, hell if I know what that could be. He is very computer illiterate so it's not like he found this site and put 2+2 together. All in all, I am taking it in stride. If he calls himself just ending it without saying anything, I would consider that a bitch move but I'm not stressing it.

It is good to see so many replies today. It gives me something to say or otherwise this post would've been mighty short... ;D I am glad to see that romance still lives in regards to Cindy and Camms. Hey does your men have any brothers who wouldn't mind a sista? J/K. I dunno maybe the Goddess is telling me that other things in my life need to be in order before a man enters it. But I don't see why, I am such a vibrant thing and really has no baggage, well no more than most people. Tendai, girlllllll...I must scream what the others is saying about your dude, HE IS HIDING SOMETHING And if you are paying for all the meals, dude sounds like a SCRUB.

Well my son has stopped over so I will get back later....
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #47 on: February 22, 2008, 01:38:05 PM »
i starting to think so too but i dont want to come out like i\m materialistic? he sings the love is all that matters song so many times. but i dont really buy it...

Love, shmove.  He is a player, plain and simple.  And he's playing you.  And the more you do everything for him, the more he's going to let you (know what I mean).  You need to dump this idiot. I certainly wouldn't be paying for everything.  Puhleeze.  Get rid of him and move on.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #48 on: February 22, 2008, 02:49:42 PM »
Ok, I am back. I agree with Betty, you need to ditch dude, Tendai. He can sing love is in the air all he wants to. Which brings me to a saying that my Mama use to say," Nothing slides off a wet ass but a crab". Translate it to mean what you want but you should not have to foot the bill for everything.

Snow, No, my daughter didn't have any problems with her hips after being born breach. The doctors just irritated the hell out of me then because I was telling them she was breach all along but since she was my first child, they figured I didn't know what the hell I was talking about.

Ann, I am glad your numbers have gotten better. For some reason, I am still feeling tired, I may just take a nap. Nothing planned for tonight other than watching Smackdown. I'll be back later.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #49 on: February 22, 2008, 03:53:36 PM »
i starting to think so too but i dont want to come out like i\m materialistic? he sings the love is all that matters song so many times. but i dont really buy it...

Go with what your GUT is telling you!  I'm serious..... :-*

Snow, I think mediums and people like John Edwards are neat.  I never watched his show cause I think its on a cable channel I don't get.  Also, I love music A TON and find so much meaning in it.  You should check out the thread (in Off-Topic, I believe) "Lyric Picks and Songs that Matter."  You could get lost in there.  Timtation (screen name thunter34) dedicated "Flying High Again" by Ozzy to me a week or so ago bec I was happy as a clam with my new job and my man.  :D 

Queen, Iceman just has an older married sister, otherwise we'd ship you in and set you up with his "brother," 'cept he doesn't have one.  That sucks about Kevin.  Do you think he's not calling you cause you're not calling him?  I mean, I know you can't call him on the ghetto cell phone of yours, but still, sometimes guys will get distracted if the girl doesn't call.  That's why I always pick the phone up and butt my lipo ass into whatever is going on.  Do you have a house phone as well?  Get an AT&T calling card at WalMart.  Its pretty cheap and you could call from your house phone.  You don't seem to be too phased by all of this, though.  What gives?  You're more excited about your laundry girl, and that's not right.  You're right about being a great catch aka "vibrant thing", so get out there and catch something for yourself, too.  Before we know it, you'll be climbing the walls if you're not dating.  Work it, GF.....   ;D

OK, I see that Blessed's little man is 18 inches long.  I was wondering "how in the hell...." when I read 28 inches.  Either way, he is adorable!

I am so excited!  I am posting this from Iceman's house.  He has a 12-pack of Diet Coke in the fridge, tons of snacks and best of all, he called and said to go turn on the gas fireplace.  He had been having trouble with it when he first moved here, but I went and flicked the switch on the wall earlier.   Ahhhhhhhhhh.......got a pillow to put on the floor and backed up to that fireplace like a kitty cat, warmed my back up and I was OUT.  Took a nap for about an hour.  I didn't get any sleep last night cause I was up late and then up again early, watching this ice storm move in. 

So, now I am watching All My Children on Iceman's huge TV.  He recorded it for me.  Next, I'll play Guitar Hero.  Cheech is here and we're chillin' out.  I needed today to just relax.  Oh, thank you, God, I am happy today!  :)

Singing "Beautiful Day" along with Win's link in the first post, lol.  Cheech thinks I'm nuts now. ::)

Here's a link for you, Betty.  Show us what you got, GF!   :-*  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtPk5IUbdH0

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #50 on: February 22, 2008, 05:01:31 PM »
Evening ladies:

Well Queen, at least you don't have very much invested into a relationship with Kevin if he backs out.  I think it's very un-manly not to call you.  Maybe he was just out after one thing.  But I don't know, I don't know him. 

Cin, thanks for that link.  Boy, that really took me back. 

I really don't have much to say right now.  I'm exhausted and I need to lay down.  I've been trying to take a nap, but I only sleep for like 15 minutes at a time.  So I'm just going to check out a few other threads and maybe stay off for the rest of the night.  Later ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #51 on: February 22, 2008, 07:22:22 PM »
Hey Queen
Spencer only has sisters and my sister got a partner  ( who I consider my sister in law or sister even) who's a african american who also loves the green, though I don't think she has any boys in the family....but she knows a lot of poz guys of all sizes and colors.   I still think we should have an eastern seaboard "getting to know you" as I mentioned before.   I think there are a lot of lonely people that could easily meet up....or maybe come up with a really moderated website that is strictly HIV without the crazies.  I don't know. You're probably picking out the fabric softener? ;)

Cin-  I know the you tube was for betty, but I was laughing my ass off (yes I spelled it out).....I always sing that when we go I'm with friends.

Betty-  How is the rest of your day going? 
This is for you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3zrOTFqtAlg
It's animated the video, obviously not the true video but it's sinead o' connor with the Edge of u2 and the title is Heroine.

Now this is for the rest of you girls.....just listen to the lyrics and interpret as you wish....but i think you all are brave...Also great guitar riffs LOL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8zHbS4QOPoA

BTW-  I will be posting regularly, maybe that's a good thing or bad but you're stuck with me girls.   Just worked for a laptop....a website for a laptop. 

so where are you all tonight?

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #52 on: February 22, 2008, 07:30:20 PM »
Went shopping today.  I felt like crap but hubby wanted to go, so we went.  Penny's was having an awesome sale!!  Got the kids' winter clothes for next year.  I spent $53 and saved $172!!  Not too bad, I guess.  But, it wore me out pretty bad so made PB&J for dinner.  Kids didn't care..lol. Rented them a movie that was pretty low budget and boring, but they liked it and it gave me time to rest with my feet up.  But, now it's over and I've gotten get them in bed - yes, at 7:30 :o

Nothing else really happened today.  We rented "American Gangster" for after the booglets are sleeping.  I hope it's as good as the commercials tout it to be.  I'll let you know.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #53 on: February 22, 2008, 09:11:21 PM »
I made dinner. Not bad. pork baby back ribs, pinto beans <toot toot> and mac n cheese
Right now I'm just checking in with replys on the site. I'll go back in the living room in a bit and watch some tv with Billy.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #54 on: February 22, 2008, 09:12:21 PM »
Hello ladies! Not much to say...just checking in! There sure is a lot going on. I will check back in later.... :)

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #55 on: February 22, 2008, 09:29:44 PM »
Hey Ladies----

I really don't know what the deal is with Kevin. And honestly, I don't care too much and am not going to go through hoops trying to figure out why he hasn't called. His fingers isn't broke and he knew how to call me before. Maybe it is like Betty said and he was after one thing. I promised myself I wasn't going into it for the sex or rush things. Maybe he wasn't feeling me on that despite the foreplay, maybe he wanted more but at this point I am just not willing to give it. Since I have issues with disclosure, I was trying to go about it the right way and not rush into sex. Get to know him first and give him the choice when I was ready to disclose but if he can't go a month without some ass then I wasn't the right one for him. I told my bff that I would give him one more week which would be next Friday. If I don't hear from him by then, oh well. I will stick to my guns but I think I will switch up and strictly look for a poz man. That will cancel out the issue about disclosure and it will truly be about getting to know a person. Not to worry, I am not depressed in the least and I can go back to pornos and my vibrator. Hmm, I better make sure I have some batteries... :D

Nothing planned for tonight. My roomie went grocery shopping for me so I am waiting for her to get done cooking some shrimp. I am watching Smackdown as I write this(recording it too). I will prolly burn another cd for my roomie. I think I am going to hang late tonight and sleep in tomorrow.
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #56 on: February 22, 2008, 09:44:25 PM »
Finding a good pos man that isnt already taken or gay aint easy. Good luck sweetie.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #57 on: February 22, 2008, 10:36:30 PM »
Listen to me, finding a good man when I was in my early 20's was rough. I was married for a portion of my 30s.   It's always tough dating before that, I was so particular. . I''m kidding, but not kidding fight club.    There must be a group (no pretending) that you can join.  MY dog park, i swear, got me to meet so many people.   If you told me that 10 years ago I would be friends with a dog park i WOULD have disputed the whole thing...or wow you didn't listen to my bands (public enemy, de la soul, the pixies)

The court (Metaphorically) has many issues dating; it's complicated and its not.   The one thing i have to say which is chiche "God Save The Queen"
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #58 on: February 22, 2008, 10:50:32 PM »
Here is a picture of my puppy I talked about before. This is the Westie who passed away in October.



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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #59 on: February 22, 2008, 10:52:06 PM »
I am new to including photo attachtments so bear with me. I have other pictures of my other one but they are not on the computer. I will get one to show you all.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #60 on: February 22, 2008, 10:53:03 PM »
 :(The loss of a dog is damage to the soul.....sorry

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #61 on: February 22, 2008, 10:55:50 PM »
Wini--- Girl, I know how hard it is to find a poz man especially over here. There are hidden like I am. I have been saying I am going to find one since Christy started this thread. Yep, it's Deja Vu cause I am saying it again. I have given up on neg men and the disclosure issue is too much of a fence for me to be trying to do a balancing act on anymore. I don't need the stress and sure I would like a good stiff one up in me but I will make due with my toy til the right one comes along. I went 3 years the last time so it's not like it is going to kill me.

Camm- Uh, You need to come visit my quaint little town. There isn't jack going on here. I'm not into the bars so I don't go there. Lately they have been shutting them down for one reason or another. And it is winter and I may be a January baby but I hate the cold. Summer is my time of the year and when I am most active. I plan on getting out then for sure. Even if I have to take my laptop into Mcdonalds which I see has gone Wi-Fi now. I'm not the Starbuck's type of person. Uh, can you see me in there with the college kids...*LOL*
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #62 on: February 22, 2008, 11:06:14 PM »
good lord if you saw my bars you would shudder to think

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #63 on: February 23, 2008, 08:06:34 AM »
I don't know what I'd do if I had to go back to the dating scene.  I wasn't so good at when i before and got married when i was 20.  Now, at 35 with 6 kids, I don't even think I'd try.  Kudos to all of you are putting yourselves out there.  You have WAY more courage than i ever could.

Blessed: congrats on Jordan's birth!  Look at all that hair! 

Hubby's making breakfast: bacon, eggs, biscuits..YUM!!  #3 and #5 are signing up to play coach's pitch and t-ball today.  I'm still not feeling up to par.  Feels like things are starting to break up, but with more snow today, lungs'll fill up again in no time.

That's it.  Nothing much to report.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #64 on: February 23, 2008, 09:16:11 AM »
Hi GFs~

I checked online and Iceman's plane landed, so he should be calling soon.  I played Guitar Hero for 5 hours last night.  My big thing now is trying not to miss a note, lol.  There are a dozen songs where I miss maybe 2 to 5 notes, its cool, lol.

OK, guess I should comment on the dating issue here, since I have dated and dated and dated until I was blue in the face.  I joined Match.com and Yahoo Personals many times, never even looking at the poz sites until last year.  I feel that I have gone through what many of you fear -- the disclosure thing -- and I have gone through it many times.  I know this is a huge issue for all of us, but I wanted to share, all the same, even though I am in a relationship now.

I guess I never questioned whether or not I would disclose.  My husband didn't give me a choice, so being the Scorpio that I am, I was determined to "tell the truth" when it came to dating.  My husband passed in August '96 and a mutual friend of ours was grieving with me.  He and I had gone to HS together for a few years, and he knew my husband from way back in elementary school, before I was around.  He and I started hanging out and watching live bands together, running into each other at the same local hangout, just like we did before, except my husband wasn't around now, of course.  One night, the friend asked if I would go to dinner with him.  We had our first date in late Nov. '96, only three months after my husband had died.

Can you imagine the emotions that I felt racing through my body and mind?  I was grieving my husband's death, oh GOD, was I grieving, but here was someone reaching out to hold me up, who wanted to spend time with me.  We started becoming wildly attracted to each other and I knew what I had to do.  Our first date was around Thanksgiving, and by Dec. 10, 1996 or so, my first disclosure EVER was staring me in the face.  I was diagnosed in Dec. 93 and hadn't told ANYONE yet, not even family.  No one even knew what my husband had really died from except for my in-laws who had just buried their son.

So, one evening the "BF to be" told me he was falling in love with me and I knew what I had to do.  We hadn't had sex yet, it had only been about three weeks since all of this had started.  I was scared to death because I went to HS with this guy, and my town TALKS.  This is the town where my HS is, where my parents still live, but I had moved up the road since HS, not far, though.

I disclosed and started shedding tears.  I knew I risked rejection, I knew I risked everyone in town knowing if this guy told even one person who would spread this private info.  The BF accepted me and we dated for about three more months.  We had a lot of fun, and for me it was nice to have someone to talk to.  Did he ever tell anyone in my hometown?  I don't know, but I seem to think that over the years word got back via speculation over my husband's sudden death.  And now since my ex best friend opened her mouth a few years back, I am sure everyone has known since 2002.  (Ha, I still look better than any of them, the bitches.... :D ) Funny, I let this guy go because he wasn't responsible with financial issues and drinking.  He was going through a rough patch and needed to pick himself up.  I helped as best as I could, but it wasn't for me to do, a new widow, with problems of her own.  Still, we had a great time while it lasted.

I'll type the next part of my Dating History in my next post.  I guess I want my main point to be this......You have to come out of your shell and toughen up.  You have to learn over the years that you can live with this virus and that you still have choices.  I never "hid" from disclosing, rather I withdrew from being as social as I could have been with GFs.  But I always had dates, I always had rejection, but most of it was from someone new that I had just met, so it wasn't as bad.  My heart wasn't "fully invested" with most of these guys at that point.  It got easier to deal with cause I knew it wasn't me, it was them, not knowing enough about the virus.  Mentally, I became very strong, I think a lot of you know that about me from my posts here.  I also believed that "this was the way it was supposed to be."  If a man turned tail and didn't call me anymore, then he was too weak for me anyway.  If a guy really cared about you, wouldn't he at least have some questions regarding your health and well-being? 

Take Jay, from last summer for example.  He was scared by the virus, but is/was mature enough to still respect me, and WAS mature enough to admit his fears openly.  He gave me the chance to educate him, to speak up and to let him make the choice.  I had no control over him, I didn't want to be a leg-humper when he decided being in a relationship would be too much.  That's when I found out that he just wanted to have a good time.  And that's OK, he was getting out of a 20+ year marriage, and hell, he deserved a breather.  He just felt that if we were to take it to the next level and be intimate, that he would have to more committed.

Does that make sense?  In the end he respected me by being honest, and I know if I run into him at the mall or a restaurant, I could introduce Iceman to him and all would be well.  It takes a mature man to give us women what we want.  I think a lot of you will find that out as you get older.  BTW, Jay is 49 and Iceman is 45, I am 38.  I think that's where the difference has been for me, dating the ones that are a little bit older.

OK, my own little saga will continue next time.  I really hope it helps to inspire those of you who are struggling with disclosure and dating.  I have been through A LOT, over many years, and it wasn't easy.  Just be determined and set your sights HIGH (no, not THAT kinda high, Queen :D), but you get my drift here.

Glad I could help this morning, this session is free of charge!   :D

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #65 on: February 23, 2008, 09:37:17 AM »
Morning ladies:

Viv, I'm so sorry about your dog.  I've had to put a few pets down over the years, and it's always devastating.  Thanks for that picture.  What a cute little dog.

Alright, about the whole dating thing.......

Maybe I feel like I do because I'm an old, jaded woman.  I really could care less about the whole disclosure issue.  I try to look at things like that from two-sides.  If I was neg, dating someone who was poz and he/she didn't disclose to me, well, it probably wouldn't make a difference.  Of course, I'm very liberal and open-minded about such things.  I spent my teen-age years and a lot of my 20's at the doctor's office with some new STD.  Even got a couple of them from my first husband.  Oh well.  That was on me for not protecting myself.

About meeting people.  I know we can all get lonely.  I've always seen sex as a little different from luv.  I personally  wouldn't have to be 'in love' to have sex with someone.  And like Queen says, we all know how to pleasure ourselves.  Nothing wrong with that.  I can talk very openly about such matters to people.  I have a (very) few close friends.  And I talk about HIV stuff with them openly.  But I'm like that.  I don't do internet dating sites.  I want to actually see the person, and one's never guaranteed that over the webs; even if they have a picture up, who knows if it's really that person or not.  And even though I'm a liberal and open-minded, I don't necessarily trust what someone puts on profiles on the net.  I've communicated on pozpersonals a couple times.  Nothing romantic though.  I've never let it go there.  Just made a couple friends who I communicate with sometimes. 

Let me add, I'm also pretty happy with being by myself.  At this point I don't know if I'd want to invest my extra energy into a relationship.  Sometimes they can be a lot of work.  I realize we're all at different stages in our lives.  Some people feel that a good relationship makes them complete.  I'm not one of those people.  I'm not downing relationships either; far from it.  I think we should all do what makes us happy. 

Where to meet people?  Who knows.  I just know that I'm not about to change for anyone-not anyone.  So, whoever wants to get it on with me, has to accept all my sick humor, extreme open-mindedness etc.

OK, I've said my peace.  I'll check back in later.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #66 on: February 23, 2008, 11:39:04 AM »
Good Morning Ladies

Viv- sorry about your pup, he looks adorable. I have a pound puppy; well she's not a puppy anymore, she'll be 8yrs this Sept 15. Her name is Maggie May.

Yesterday My marked two weeks since my husband's passing, and it was rough. I went to 3 AA meetings just to keep me busy. I'm  almost four years sober and i don't want to screw that up. 

Betty- i agree I'm pretty happy just being with me at the time being. besides how much alone time can i get with three daughters. But it's nice. I've always been married and now i think  I'll just be with me.
However i do miss adult conversation. but I get plenty of that from my Meetings. So it balances out.

Mum- you got a good man if he's cooking breakfast. I know how tiring the ball thing can be I have three daughters and they are all playing ball this spring. practice starts tomorrow. ::)

I have a major problem, My husband and i owned our own business and since his death _his brother has been working for me, but come to find out he is stealing jobs and doing them and not telling me , so there for I'm losing out on that money, and I've got to find a way to approach him on this issue with out it blowing up in my face.  I know my husband would be pissed off and would fire him. Any suggestions?

But besides all that. everything is good. I hope all you have a great day and I'll check in later.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #67 on: February 23, 2008, 11:52:06 AM »
Paulette-
Sorry to hear your brother in law is doing that to you, that is the last thing you need right now.  My suggestion to you would be to tell him straight out that you know what he is doing behind your back and that if he will not under any circumstances be covered by your insurance.  I  know you mentioned trees in a previous post, I am not sure if it is climbing, all take downs, whatever- there are too many things that could happen that you don't want your business named tied to.  If he wonders how you find out say someone left you a message regarding an additional job to one that he did behind your back- something like that.  Good Luck!  If you don't mind me asking, what state are you in?
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #68 on: February 23, 2008, 04:11:02 PM »
I know my husband would be pissed off and would fire him. Any suggestions?


Paulette, that's exactly what you need to do. Fire his ass. He's stealing from you.

I don't give a rat's ass who knows I'm positive. At least I know, which is a lot more than most can say about their status. Foxtrot Charlie was pretty much outed by our local media and wagging tongues in the pub. When we started seeing each other again, the people who only thought they knew about me or guessed had their suspicions confirmed. If they have a problem with it, it's THEIR problem, not mine. I'm happier than I've been in years and the rest can go stuff themselves. They don't pay my bills.... I do.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #69 on: February 23, 2008, 05:39:39 PM »
Paulette - the advice you've gotten so far sounds pretty good to me. I'd certainly let him know you are aware he is taking jobs from the company and working on the side to do them. Its up to you if you want to fire him or give him a warning. Your company certainly should not be liable if he has an accident that's for sure. Sorry your husbands brother is being a tool.

As for dating.... I never dated anyone who wasn't positive after my husband Michael died. I talked to quite a few men online and the majority of the ones I was interested in seemed to live at least 300 miles away. I dated some men locally with only a couple who where remotely promising. I met Billy through my hetero social group. He's older than the men I normally dated. He is 13 years my senior. But he is youthful and I have really enjoyed his company and companionship. Its the best relationship I have ever been in.

I went out socially before I began dating but I never met anyone who I was really interested in. There where plenty of boys around but they where just fun to hang out with. I never told any of them I was HIV positive. It just didn't seem necessary. I think if I'd not been positive I would have likely did more than dance with a few fella's but being positive made me more conservative with my behavior.
I didn't have the guts to tell anyone I was hiv positive and risk being rejected. But in my case its a good thing because in hindsight those boys where just too young for me. They wouldn't be able to give me the committed mature relationship I want.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #70 on: February 23, 2008, 05:47:18 PM »
I've been honest about Mini's HIV.  When we brought her home from the hospital, the only people who knew were us and my parents.  We didnt' want to say anything to the people at church or our friends for 2 reasons: #1: if she ended up being negative, we'd have to go back and explain it them, and #2: I felt that if people "fell in love" with her then finding out she was positive wouldn't change that.  Naive, but it was all I had to hang on to at the time.  Now, we don't make it a PSA everytime she walks into a room, but if someone asks, we tell them.  Most are genuinly suprised.  So far, so good.  

Our biggest reason is to show other people that pozzies aren't scary, mean, threatening, ugly, deviant people.  They are normal people who "happen" to have HIV.  We didn't want Mini growing up thinking that she had some dreaded hateful "thing" in her that dominated and dictated who she is.  So, we don't keep "it" or her in a closet.

Paulette: if hubby wants anything other than cereal, he better be cooking it ;D  This is the 1st year we've played Spring ball. I'm not looking forward to it.   Seems like all we do is run run run and I'm not a good runner.  No sooner does ball end then football for our oldest starts.  That's practise 4 days / week and games every Saturday for 10wks.  Some of the games are outta state so loading up the crew and dragging them all over doesn't make for very happy bunch.

I need to finish up dinner before I have a full out coup on my hands.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #71 on: February 23, 2008, 07:17:50 PM »
Hi GFs~

Paulette, I am a hard ass and agree with Ann about firing the brother-in-law.  He would be getting just what he deserved.  On the other hand, perhaps you need him, or would it be easy to hire others in his place?  I would fire him.  He is being unfair to you, very unfair, taking advantage of you.  At least write his ass up for the record.

Win, you are echoing a lot of what I posted earlier today about disclosure.  You are dating someone who is older, is mature, and probably has more life experiences to share with you.  I'm glad you know what I mean, older guys aren't so bad.  Iceman is hyper and bouncing off the walls all of the time!  I don't know where he gets the energy!

Speaking of energy, I have skipped the AA meeting that Iceman is chairing.  I have become VERY tired tonight, can barely keep my eyes open.  A few people had intestinal flu at the office this past week, and said they slept and slept.  I feel fine except for being tired.  My body doesn't even ache.  Maybe I just need my rest.  So, I am at Iceman's while he is out at his meeting, being the speaker dude and all.  I am so proud of him.  We talked about this and we both agreed that we would rather have me attend his regular group where he's been going for years.  That way I can meet people he knows.  He'll be back in an hour or so, I will try to make us some dinner and not do a header into the oven.

Mum~  I don't know how you do it with all of those kids.  I think you have it down to a science by now!  :)  What big hearts you and hubby have!

Viv~  Sorry about your puppy, I'm assuming you just put him down, or has it been awhile?  I put Casie down in April, I can't believe Cheech and I have carried on 9 months without her.  :(  I know I'll see her again, though.  I just have to be patient.  Hang in there.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #72 on: February 23, 2008, 09:10:19 PM »
Snow - I live in Georgia. And he is covered under the company ins.  We are a full tree removal service.  I go to the tax accountant and the Probate Lawyer Next week, so maybe they will help me figure the right way to handle this, I can't fire him, a good climber is hard to find. However I did ask him about it and he said that he had a check for me so Maybe he's not trying to pull one over or maybe he knows he caught.  I told him i didn't have a problem Selling My company, because my husband wouldn't like what was going on.  And really i just don't want to deal with it. It's too painfull, I'm use to having my husband around helping with.

Thank all of you for your support and suggestions.

Moon- i hope your not getting that nasty flu bug going around. Have some soup and get some rest.
Mum- i think what you two are doing for Mini is one of the most unselfish things anyone could do. Mini is truly blessed to have loving parents as you.

I'm with Ann I don't care who knows my status, I'm not ashamed of what i have. But I've never had to face rejection either for being positive. Because my late husband knew my status, but was able to look beyond the HIV to see me for who i am and not what i had,  Now mind you he was 18 years my senior. ( But momma always said it was better to be and old man's darling than a young man slave.)  And i can say my husband treated me better than the other 3 did.

Not much going on Today it's cold and blah outside. Went shopping with my 17 year old for her birthday on Feb. 27th Man they grow up so quickly. Ladies I hope ya'll are having a great Saturday Night and that all is well.
Paulette
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #73 on: February 23, 2008, 09:34:52 PM »
My little Mabel (the Westie) died in October. I never mentioned it before because I was still "getting to know" you all. She was almost 4. She had a seizure one night and died in my bed. It was very traumatic. She had just started some medication that my other dog had been on many times before. I did not have an autopsy done and I wish I would've. I think it was a reaction to the medication because she was totally healthy. It took a while for myself and my other dog, Vivian to adjust. I totally related to the sadness you felt about your dog, Cindy. Now sometimes I worry about Vivian up and dying. Sigh...I am much better now but sometimes I see one of Mabel's little toys and get sad. I want to attach another picture of Vivian and I am still trying to figure out how to get to my computer...LOL in case you haven't figured it out I am not very "techy"

Going out tonight with an old friend. It started raining here again and I hate it. It sucks for the Oscar's tomorrow because it is still supposed to rain.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #74 on: February 24, 2008, 12:20:19 AM »
Just popping in right quick to say, I have been reading posts and just not saying much. Nothing going on at the moment to report. I was up around 8ish( and I mean am not pm) cleaning the house. I think was possessed by my sister's ocd or something.. ;D Later on today, I will be mopping the kitchen and bathroom floors. Seems like all I have been doing is cleaning and sleeping, not sure what that is about. In between the cleaning, I watch a bit of tv and play my game. At the moment, I am giving my hand a rest from playing the games but I am bored shitless because there isn't anything on tv. I'll prolly be on the sidelines til I have something worth reporting or commenting in the other forums. Just know that I am around... :-*
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #75 on: February 24, 2008, 05:24:44 AM »
Yes, my sisters, the clock does not lie.  It's just after 5am and I've been up for a while.  #5 had an accident in his bed.  Sweet thing stripped his sheets, put them in the hamper, changed his clothes, then crawled into bed with us.  AWWWWW! Except he likes to sleep all over the place and his feet were like ice and the noise he makes when he sucks his thumb drives me batty.  So, i couldn't breathe anyway and had to pee, so now I'm up trying to get all this crap to drain.  I'll be ready to go back to bed just about the time everyone gets up.  I'll end up taking a nap this afternoon.

We watched "Michael Clayton" last night.  It wasn't bad - kinda slow and not much action, but it had a good story line.  I guess that's the equavalent of saying, "he's got a great personality" ;)  Tonight, we're watching "Rendition".  I did get to finish "American Gangster".  It was a really good movie.  I wish I had time to watch it again before we have to turn it back in, but it's due on Monday :(

Other than that, my life is pretty boring.  Oh, Paulette, I did want to say that, if I were you, I'd talk to your bil and see what he has to say.  THEN fire him!  We own our business, also,and I can't imagine the betrayal of someone, especially a family member, stealing from us. 

Queen: I've been in one of those cleaning frenzies, too.  Not sure what's up with that. 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #76 on: February 24, 2008, 11:05:29 AM »
Good Morning all!

Queen I wish I could get one of those cleaning whirlwind...I really need to...LOL! I am surrounded by paperwork.
Well last night I went out to dinner with an old friend. It was nice to reconnect. I ran into her and her mother this summer just when I was starting to come back from pneumonia and wasn't looking emaciated. She asked about me  being sick and I just told her what I tell everyone...had pneumonia and reacted badly to the medicine. I did not tell her about my status and I am not sure when I will. I know we have talked about disclosure to guys but what about friends? None of my friends know and I am afraid to tell them. I thought maybe I could tell my partner teacher at school, we have been working together for 7 years, but she made a comment that changed my mind. I was telling her how much weight I had lost and how terrible I looked. I told her how my mom didn't want me to go anywhere and she (the teacher) said, "Yeah, you wouldn't want people to think you were dying from AIDS." Well that is exactly what was happening. Once she said that I knew I could never say anything. So I guess what I am saying is that it is just as difficult to disclose to friends as well. How long did take you to tell people other then your family?

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #77 on: February 24, 2008, 11:25:35 AM »
Speaking of being up at ungodly hours. Ugh, I woke up at 8am for no reason. I rolled a doobie and played one of my games for a minute trying to go back to sleep. I felt like I was in some type of twillight sleep. So, I just now crawled out of bed to get a glass of Pepsi and my roomie comes out bright eyed and bushy tailed talking about breakfast. I said what are you cooking? She said I thought you were....HA HA HA HA HA, not likely. I feel like one of the zombies in the movies I love so much. I'm back in bed and watching Purple Rain, I recorded it last night. I think I am going to burn the soundtrack later so I can have something to listen to when I mop the floors later.

I swear I need to buy the Purple Rain dvd....*sings Take Me With You*....Peace Ladies, will be back later...May U Live 2 see the Dawn...

Edited to add some Purple Trivia---- When Prince first formed Vanity 6 (the girl group), he was going to name Vanity, Vagina because she was considered the female equivalent to him..Hmmm, I know we got vaginas but I don't think I would've appreciated being called a pussy....*LOL*..
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #78 on: February 24, 2008, 05:12:46 PM »
I feel like crap
I look like crap
But, thanks to Bath and Body
I smell damn good

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #79 on: February 24, 2008, 05:14:13 PM »
Hello ladies. Not much going on here, just enjoying a day off work. Actually I have tomorrow off as well. I am going shopping in Greensboro.                                                                   Viv, I have only told one person , other than family, my status and that was still very hard. It would depend on how much you can trust that person, especially someone that you work with. I do admit I am kinda mistrustful of people but they have proven again and again , that I need to be.                                                           Paulette, that is a difficult situation you have. If you can replace him, then fire him.  Basically he is stealing from you and taking advantage. Not right. Hop[e you can work it out.                                               Betty, I find dating very difficult. I did decide not to mess with my oldest son's father.      Is Liz the same girl you were dating before or a new lady?      Whichever, I hope you will be happy.                      Not much going on, just relaxing. Later, Ladies.     Cristy                                 

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #80 on: February 24, 2008, 06:11:07 PM »
Hey ladies-

Paulette, fire his ass!  He's stealing from you and you don't know what he's doing on the jobs he takes.  You don't want your good name being drug through the mud. 

Mum, I totally feel ya on the 'I look like crap, I feel like crap...'   Yes, the shower I had today was my only saving grace.

Cin, I hope you don't get sick.

Cristy, I understand it might be difficult to disclose in a job-situation.  Especially if you've ever heard an off-the-wall comment about HIV and you need to keep your job.  I don't have that problem right now and I just flat out tell the people in my classes, but that's a different situation. 

Queen, I don't know if you read my reply earlier on (actually I think it was a little while ago now) that I think I did download the yahoo IM, but I have no idea how to use it.  And after I did I got a new toolbar.  Did this happen to you?  Oh, I love Purple Rain.  Did you record it on a DVD?  I got a new DVD player 2 Christmas's ago and I never checked out whether you can record with one or not.  Hell, I don't even know how to burn a disc off the music I download on my computer.  And my computer will do it; I just don't know how to do those kinds of things.   I liked Prince ever since his first lp came out with him on the cover shirtless.  Do you remember his hair back then? 

OK ladies, I had a really good weekend.  A friend of mine came in from out-of-town, and let's just say everything went really, really good.  Nuf said.  Well, that person left about 2:00 this afternoon, and then I went to an NA sponsor/sponsee lunch.  It was all good.   People seem to respect us all when we go out somewhere.  I guess they know better than to mess with the NA sisterhood. ;D   I'm off to check out the rest of the threads.  Tonight my brother comes over for 'The Wire.'  I haven't breathed a word of anything to him.  Have a good one ladies.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #81 on: February 24, 2008, 06:36:22 PM »
Hi GFs~

Just had dinner at Iceman's, we have been a couple of hermits all weekend.  Let's just say it was a very warm morning, didn't get breakfast until 1230pm.   :P  I don't feel sick with a bug or anything, but have been sleeping a lot, maybe its just because we've been on the couch all day.  Maybe I need to refuel from being blasted into my new job and kicking ass.

More later on.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #82 on: February 24, 2008, 09:41:22 PM »
Hi everyone,
I can't believe the weekend is already over.  I hate that ABC's Extreme Home Makeover wasn't on tonight because of the awards, that is one show I look forward to.  We went and met my parents for lunch and picked up my mothers dog so we can "dogsit".  My parents got divorced back in 91 and my father recently left his wife and he and my mother have started talking again so it is really strange to see them back together.  They aren't together together they are just talking, I guess.  I then took my older son ice skating. It was his first time and my first time in like 10-15 years, I am going to be in so much pain tomorrow.  He did really good though but he picks all that kind of stuff up really quick.  I just took the dogs out to the bathroom and it is beautiful night out with tons of stars in the sky.

If the relationship I am in doesn't last, there is no in hell I am getting into another one.  I am SO done.

I disclosed to one male friend that I used to work with and he took it well, he kind of had an idea for some reason, I think because I had to go by him to go to the bathroom, the one million times I went.  It went OK but then it didn't because then he wanted a relationship with me even though he was married.  Not a good scene.

I sure wish I had a relative in Georgia and they were the winner of the 200 million mega million drawing.  That would be so sweet. :)

Mini- I hope you are feeling better.

Moon- sounds like you had a nice restful weekend :) Glad to hear Iceman made it home safe and sound.  I have a John Edwards book I just read that was pretty good, if you want me to snail mail it to you.  It's the Crossing Over one. 

Betty- Glad you had a good weekend, sounds like it was just what you needed.

Viv- Your doggy was so cute, I am so sorry to hear she passed away.

Paulette-See if your BIL wants to buy you out, so you don't have deal with the BS.  You are right, good climbers are hard to find.  That type of business is too dangerous to have someone working for you whose head is not 100% in the game(your game).  It took just one time for the ground man to walk toward the chipper with my line tangled in his load and me in the tree, for me to give my notice.  He was a good one for throwing his chainsaw around in fits of anger, so it was time anyway.  I wish you the best in whatever you figure out, hopefully you can get some sound advice this week from your attorney.

cjc- Hope you have lot of fun shopping tomorrow.  Shopping can be very theraputic  ;D

Camille- I used to like PE and De la too.  I crashed my truck  into a tree in an ice storm while I was playing 911 is a joke  :'(  It was very sad.  I used have a big crush on Big Daddy Kane.

I see a lot of us are in our 30's.  Does anyone else have problem with breakouts or acne?  I had acne when i was in high school and it has reared it's ugly head again.  I have been under a lot of stress lately so that maybe why but I was just wondering if anyone else has any problems.

Hope everyone has a good night!

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #83 on: February 24, 2008, 10:18:48 PM »
I have a zit that's going away on my chin, but its due to too many Valentine's day chocolates and Girl Scout cookies over the past two weeks.

Oh, about twenty people are playing Mega Millions at our office.  Yes, I heard that someone in Georgia hit the jackpot.

Our office won $3.   ;)

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #84 on: February 24, 2008, 10:21:43 PM »
Snow - I rarely had any skin problems when I was a teen. The last few years and especially this last year I've consistantly had at the very least one zit somewhere on my Tzone. My chin, nose and forehead. I couldnt tell you how many I have right this minute but its a bunch.
Most of it I can easily cover if I wear makeup but I hardly ever wear any unless I'm going out or expecting my picture to be taken.

Billy and I took Amber (expectant mommy of the grandbaby) out to lunch today. She is at the hospital right now having her labor induced. I have no clue how long it will take for her to have the baby. I know she is certainly ready to have the baby out of her. LOL

I'll post more when I know more.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #85 on: February 25, 2008, 09:29:21 AM »
Morning ladies:

Yesterday it was sunny out, today it's back to being grey.  I guess that wouldn't be so bad if it weren't so damn cold.  I have got to do laundry today.  I've been putting it off long enough.  I did get my ethics paper done at like 1:00 a.m.   Today I have to study for an exam in my social psych class.  Not something I even want to do.  But, I need to quit fretting about it and just do it. 

Queen, I saw 'The Wire' last night and I must say I'm surprised about how Omar was killed.  I didn't even recognize who that kid was that shot him.  And it looks like some shit's going to hit the fan in the newest episode.  There's  only two episodes left, I can't believe it.  Hey, if you didn't yet, read my last entry here.  I said a couple things about yahoo IM. 

Snow, I had problems with breakouts when I was a teen.  I've not had them in my adult years (oh, I'm 42).  However, I just started the Depo shot and I understand it can cause problems with such.  I hear you on the relationships things.  I'm not in one myself, but they are tons of work.  I'm not knocking relationships for those of us who are in one.  What I'm saying is that they're too much for me.  At least right now in my life.  I don't want to have to worry about another person either (how they're feeling, will they like this etc.).  I hope yours works out, if that's what you want.

Wendy, I'm anxiously awaiting to hear about your daughter-in-law.  It can't be far off now. 

OK ladies, I'm off to check out the threads.  I'll check back in later-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #86 on: February 25, 2008, 03:02:43 PM »
Hey Ladies----

Not much still to report. Kevin called today but I didn't even answer the phone. I guess I just felt some type of way that he waited a week to call me. You would think he would've left a message but he didn't. And now all of a sudden his fingers work, huh, go figure. An explanation would've been nice.

Betty-- You don't have to have the Yahoo tool bar when you download the messenger. I thought there was an option that you could've chosen to not download it. I believe you have Vista on your computer, right? Just click on the Start button. If you don't want it still, you can go into your Control Panel and click on the add/remove programs, it'll show a list of everything on your computer, highlight the Yahoo tool bar and click remove. It will not affect how your messenger works. Sorry for not answering that earlier for you.

The young buck who took Omar out was one of the kids on a previous episode who commented on how he didn't see why everyone was scared of Omar and called him gimpy as hell. I thought Marlo put him up to killing Omar but he didn't, the young buck did it to make a rep for himself and pretty much saved Marlo the $250,000 hit he put on Omar. Damn only 2 episodes left, I'm going to be lost now til The Tudors come on Showtime on March 30.

Congrats is in order for Grams Winiroo. Was it a boy or a girl? Did someone mention Public Enemy? God, I was so into them back in the day. I loved Chuck D and Terminator X(the DJ) and I thought Flav was funny as hell even though I liked his song with them called Cold Lampin with Flav. I liked De La Soul too but especially Me, myself and I. But til this day, I still love me some Tupac but the stuff he did when he was alive not the shit they put out after he died. I have his alias Makaveli tatted on my right leg, I got it done shortly after he was killed. I have his 2 documentaries he did, 3 lighters and a chain that I had got for my bday this year from my bff. At the moment, I am listening to his song, "Are U still down" with Jon B. I made the cd yesterday along with some Digital Underground, the group he started out with. My roomie is out today so I have my walkman on my ears just bobbing around the crib. Next up is some Ludacris and Tony,Toni,Tone (winking @cindy).

I bought the walkman yesterday. I am motivated to do things when I got music on my ears. Once the snow melts, I will be doing more walking. I talked to my sister yesterday so she is going to bring me the application to the Y so I can start working out. Gotta have some buns of steel for them dukes when it gets warm... ;)

Well, I'm on my way out of here, listening to some 50 cent w/ Ludacris, "I get money". Don't I wish... ;D
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #87 on: February 25, 2008, 03:45:33 PM »
Hey ladies..
AWWW Queen you must have not watched the newest On Demand of the WIre...i wont ruin it for u but im upset...

Nothing to report here either..oh accept that i got into a fight with bf's baby mama..the  bitch was asking for it but I was totally outta character... :-[ *shame on me*.. Anyways ill be back on tomorrow..Have a wonderful night..
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #88 on: February 25, 2008, 03:55:24 PM »
Sorry to hear you got into it with the bf's baby mama. Sometimes when you try to not get involved, hood rats take it as a sign of weakness. It may have been out of character for you but sometimes you have to put your foot down, Wishful. For the most part, they usually aren't doing anything but selling wolf tickets. When dealing with men who have that issue, I like to tell them they should deal with it before I have to. There are boundaries and when the hood rats overstep it, I am there to tell them to back the fuck up and find another way to deal with their problems without stepping over the line, ya know.

I thought I got caught up on The Wire. I watched it last night and it was the same one as what is On Demand. Here it is episode 58.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #89 on: February 25, 2008, 03:58:25 PM »
Queen, the new ones come on at midnight...i usually have an insomniac attack about 2-3 am and when it happens sunday night /monday am i watch the Wire....Yes girl watch it right now!!! You can tell its the last season..I wish it wasnt

Oh yeah and baby mama was just askin for  :oit..talkin about, "tell her ...., tell her..u dont want to be with her" and she got mad when he didnt say it..and im not one to argue so i punched her upside the head so she could shut the f up...
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #90 on: February 25, 2008, 04:23:54 PM »
Queen, the new ones come on at midnight...i usually have an insomniac attack about 2-3 am and when it happens sunday night /monday am i watch the Wire....Yes girl watch it right now!!! You can tell its the last season..I wish it wasnt

Oh yeah and baby mama was just askin for  :oit..talkin about, "tell her ...., tell her..u dont want to be with her" and she got mad when he didnt say it..and im not one to argue so i punched her upside the head so she could shut the f up...

Ah, so you laid the smackdown, huh...*smiles*. So, it's drama about him being with you and not even involving their kid, don't you hate that shit.
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« Reply #91 on: February 25, 2008, 05:36:05 PM »
Evening ladies:

I did get the laundry done.  So glad that's over.  The laundermat wasn't really all that crowded.  But the girl who was working started this long, boring conversation.  I tried to keep it short & simple.  I've studied a couple times for the test I'll be taking tomorrow night.  I'm not going to stress over it.  Whatever happens happens. 

I'm thinking Wendy must be at the hospital with the new babe & mother.  I hope everything went alright. 

Queen, do you remember Prince's first album where he was shirtless?  I loved his hair on that album (still have a visual of it).  Right now I'm listening to 'Black and Blue' by Van Halen.  I just love sex songs.

Wish, sorry you had trouble with what sounds like a wretched woman.  Sometimes you just gotta put people in their place and stand up for yourself. 

Other than that, nothing else to report.  I'll probably check back in later.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #92 on: February 25, 2008, 06:04:48 PM »
Betty---

I believe the Prince cover you are talking about is from his album, "I want to be your lover". I think his hair was kind of feathered, not sure if I can find a pic of it. Let me see...

Edited to Add- Correction, it was his second album, self titled, Prince.

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« Reply #93 on: February 25, 2008, 06:16:22 PM »
 That's it!  I didn't realize it was his second album.  When I saw that I thought, 'wow, who the hell is this?  The music didn't disappoint.  Liked him then, still like him now.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #94 on: February 25, 2008, 06:26:35 PM »
LMAO@your avatar, Betty but I feel you... ;D
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #95 on: February 25, 2008, 09:03:58 PM »
Tired tonight, air didn't work right at the office, kept blowing too warm.  By 430pm I was delirious and sick to my stomach (ready to take my clothes off, too), so I left earlier than planned.  Sugar woke me last night with a cold sweat at only 40, today it was up and down and then the hot air thing just zapped me of any strength I had. 

Going to go shower and then talk to the building maintenance man to fix that shit tomorrow.  I can't work or control my sugars when my body is trying to cool down and it can't.  It was like a sauna in there, no windows to open.  I am going to be a smart-ass and take my thermometer with me tomorrow.  I am VERY sensitive to a warm office.  I get all prickly and feel like I'm gonna hurl.

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!   >:(

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #96 on: February 25, 2008, 09:24:24 PM »
Win- Mine have mostly been on my cheeks especially when I get my period.  I have started to use makeup to cover them and the bags under my eyes :) I guess it's time I figured out how to wear makeup?  Hope everything went well with Amber and the new baby.  Is Billy excited?

Betty- I love your new avatar too, that is funny!  You must be happy to get your paper done.  As far as my relationship goes I hope to be able to figure some stuff out in therapy and get his ass to go too.  If things don't change then I am just going to have to change things, if you know what  I mean.  If I am going to be talking to myself, I mights well be alone :)

Wish- I know you hate to go there but sometimes you just have to shut people up.  Nothing gets on my nerves more then someone repeating something over and over and still not making any sense. That sucks you have to deal with that shit.  Have you thought anymore about culinary school?

Queen- Wasn't the kid that got Omar the same one that stole the stash from ( Damn, I can't remember his name, his daddys in jail, he had a pony tail and then had it braided, ended up living with the ex-cop that was teaching) I can't wait to see the next one, hopefully tonight.  Maybe that is what  I need to get one of those things you can put all the songs onto and start walking again. Remember Chubster, Wrecks N' Effect, Kwame- they were all like one hit wonders :)  My memory is shot but I am going to have to do some digging.  I loved Tupac too.  OOOhhh....Too Short, his lyrics were always nasty :)

I didn't get much done today. My son threw up at school so I went and picked him up and then took him to the doc.  His back was still hurting so they x-rayed him and took some blood.  The x-rays were fine, we will find out about the labs in a couple of days. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.  The irrational part of me always thinks OH OH, I hope he didn't  make him sick someway, but I think that is always going to be in the back of head no matter how many times I tell myself not to think that way.
 I read to the kids before bed and then got some good pics of my daughter laying on my moms dog like she is a pillow.  My daughter has done that since she is little and it always makes me smile.  
Take care everyone...let's all start thinking spring-ful thoughts maybe it will come sooner :)
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #97 on: February 25, 2008, 09:45:08 PM »
Queen- Wasn't the kid that got Omar the same one that stole the stash from ( Damn, I can't remember his name, his daddys in jail, he had a pony tail and then had it braided, ended up living with the ex-cop that was teaching) I can't wait to see the next one, hopefully tonight.  Maybe that is what  I need to get one of those things you can put all the songs onto and start walking again. Remember Chubster, Wrecks N' Effect, Kwame- they were all like one hit wonders Smiley  My memory is shot but I am going to have to do some digging.  I loved Tupac too.  OOOhhh....Too Short, his lyrics were always nasty Smiley



I'm not sure about the kid stealing the stash, I must've missed that one. I watched episode 59, the latest one tonight, per the request of Wishful. All I will say is that the shit is about to hit the fan. Betty, did you watch it yet or are you waiting on your brother?

All this old skool rap is bringing back memories. Uh, the Chubster was Chubb Rock, right? I loved his song "Treat 'Em Right", Wrecks N' Effect it was "Rump Shaker" and I thought something else, and I just adored Kwame with the polka dots and his song, "Only Ewe" but I also liked "The Rhythm". And I have always liked Too Short his one song, "Bad Ways" is still my anthem!!! I also like EPMD's "Please Listen to my Demo", the one they did with LL and a whole bunch more. Do you remember 3XDope and their song, "Funky Dividends?" And how about 3rd Bass which had the Jewish white boy who could dance. I remembered they came here with Public Enemy once and P. E. got booed off the stage. I was pissed!!! Ah, so many memories, I could go on forever. I was at the height of my popularity as a female DJ back then....*sighs*
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #98 on: February 25, 2008, 10:06:15 PM »
Yup. Chubb Rock.Oh yeah...see I loved all those... I am going to have to see if I can find them.  You were a DJ?  That is cool, you are definately the one to ask about songs then I guess :)  I liked some of the old Queen Latifah and MC Lyte, too.  OOOhhh....Ladies first, ladies first.  Not that they were rappers but for some reason I just thought of the whole Mili Vanili scam...ha, ha.  They used to make me laugh dancing around in thier tights :),  God, there were some other white guys that had a couple of good songs, they used to play into the ground.  I can't remember who they were, oh, this is going to bug me. Jump around? maybe?  I don't why I am trying to remember back then I can hardly remember yesterday.
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #99 on: February 25, 2008, 10:11:29 PM »
Evening ladies:

Cin, I hope you get to feeling better.  Do you have one of those little fans you can take in and put on your desk?

Snow, I hope your son is doing better.  I don't want a relationship because of all the work they require.  I'm not dogging them.  Just sayin' it doesn't fit in with my schedule.  I hope things work for you for the good. I know they will.  You just hang tough, girlie. :)

Queen, I haven't watched the new episode of 'The Wire' yet, but I hope to tonight.  I might not be in town this weekend.  NA is having a convention in Indianapolis and my bff has offered to pay for it for me.  I haven't decided on it yet; I hate to owe people.  I bet you had a lot of fun being a DJ.  Would love to hear some stories about it.   I'm sure you have a few.  

I don't really know the groups you all are talking about.  I remember when Run-DMC first came out.  I loved their music.  I also bought the soundtrack from 'Colors' when it came out.   I loved it and wish I could remember who sang that song from the movie "Go On Girl."  If anyone knows, I'd love to see if Napster has it and download it.  

I don't really have anything new or exciting to report.  Just another night.  Have a good evening ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #100 on: February 25, 2008, 10:25:40 PM »
Hi Girls

Just wanted to say hi.  I have been lurking, but not really much to say.  I am glad that everyone is doing well.  Still have not heard from the Latin Lover and I am getting ready to erase his text messages from my phone.  I kept them around and not sure what for.  I guess that I just figured that he would pull his head out of ass and call me, but I guess not.  I have a date on Wed with this guy who is negative.  So far he seems like a winner.  He calls when he says he is going to.  I don't even know what he looks like but at this point I do not care.  He just seems like a nice guy.  Right now I am not even stressing about telling him my status.  I am just going to roll with it.  Who knows we may go out on Wed and I may never hear from him again so not going to stress about it.  I went and saw Atonement today and that was really good but sad.  Sad for me the romantic at heart. 

Talk to you guys soon.

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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #101 on: February 25, 2008, 10:30:44 PM »
Good to hear from you Sun.  I hope everything goes well with your new date.

OK, tis time to start a new thread.  I'm not up to it tonight, but if no one else jumps in, I might tomorrow or something.  Snow, how 'bout it? :)
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #102 on: February 25, 2008, 10:35:09 PM »
Hi Sun-
Nice to hear from you!   Latin Lover should now be dubbed "Latin Loser", it's his loss.  I know it sucks but you will find someone when you least expect it to sweep you off your feet :)  Hopefully, your roomie is still cookin you up some good grub and you guys are getting along.  I haven't heard of Atonement but I am glad you enjoyed it.  I only get to see things like Alvin and the Chipmunks these days  ;D  Since your a cop, do you sneak in candy or take out a loan for the treats, just wondering  ;) ;) Me. I hit the dollar store before we go or my kids get nada.  I hope you have lots of fun on Wed.
Take care,
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Re: Dating Thread - Part XX: Spring Fever
« Reply #103 on: February 25, 2008, 10:36:53 PM »
I'll bite, Betty, but I don't have a clue what comes after XX...Do you....Moon, are you here?
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The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.

 


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