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Offline jon98

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be brutally honest very scared
« on: February 06, 2008, 05:37:59 AM »
i have been on here years ago but again i have made a huge mistake,i was very drunk the other night and had a very breif encounter with a girl from village i live in,to be blunt we did oral both ways,again very ebarrassing i was semi hard at best and penetrated her for 15 seconds at most as i went soft almost imediately,she wasnt event shall we say wet,i need to know what the risk is i have taken,im sorry for being crude in my description,and yes this was all unprotected,i hate myself so much,im  in uk

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2008, 05:48:55 AM »
we did oral both ways,again very ebarrassing i was semi hard at best and penetrated her for 15 seconds at most as i went soft almost imediately

Drunk eh?

So let me get this clear. She sucked your dick, you ate her pussy, then you tried to fuck her. You got your todger in but you couldn't keep it up?

Is that it?

MtD


Offline jon98

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #2 on: February 06, 2008, 05:54:18 AM »
yes thats exactly it and im petrified

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #3 on: February 06, 2008, 06:04:12 AM »
Okie dokie.

You've had unprotected vaginal intercourse and that is indeed a risk for HIV transmission. But, it's a very, very low risk. HIV is a fragile virus which is difficult to transmit, especially from female to male. So you do need to test at 12 weeks from the date of this encounter but the odds are overwhelmingly in your favour. I expect that you will test negative for HIV.

HIV is, however, not the only thing you need to be worried about. STDs such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea are much more prevalent and transmissible than HIV and so you would be wise to have a full STD screen done. A full STD screen will include, but is not limited to, an HIV antibody test.

You can make the arrangements for this at your nearest GUM clinic.

You would be wise to remember that mixing booze and casual shagging is not a good idea. Not only can it lead to silly things like unprotected fucking, it will leave you with a reputation as being a dud in bed. You'll find that you perform much better (and more safely) when you're not bladdered.

At this point it is both my honour and my obligation to direct your attention to our Welcome Thread where you can follow the links to our Lessons to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.

MtD

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #4 on: February 06, 2008, 06:07:14 AM »
I should add that the oral sex you had is not a risk for HIV transmission. Not her blowing you, nor you munching on her minge.

MtD

Offline jon98

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #5 on: February 06, 2008, 09:42:13 AM »
thanks for replying,does anybody else have an opinion as i thought unprotected sex is a high risk

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #6 on: February 06, 2008, 10:05:34 AM »
Unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse are THE high risk factors sexually for HIV transmission.

But, with having said that for several reasons your situation does not fall into the high risk category. HIV is a fragile virus that is significantly harder to accomplish from female to male. Penetration was apparently very brief in this single event. It is unlikely your penis reached up into the cervical area, which is where contact with the fluids most likely to contain HIV are present.

Taking all of that into consideration the likelihood of transmission, if the woman was even HIV+, I would still expect you to test negative.

You do need to learn from this experience. Low risk is not the same as no risk. You can as much intercourse as you like with as many partners regardless of their HIV status. BUT, you must wear a condom everytime. No exceptions. Then you're covered, literally and figuratively as far as HIV is concerned.

 
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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #7 on: February 08, 2008, 03:46:58 AM »
do you think i need to test from this experience?

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #8 on: February 08, 2008, 07:17:06 AM »
jon,

Matty already suggested you test in three month's time. Anyone who is sexually active should be getting a routine sexual health check-up at least once a year anyway, so consider it your annual check-up. Don't forget to test for all the other STIs as they are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv.

I fully expect you to test negative, but the only way to accurately know your hiv status is through testing.

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #9 on: February 12, 2008, 05:34:58 AM »
i meant to add that i get mild thrush every now and then think its more of an irritation after sex,morning after incident i had i couple of itchy red marks with tiny white/yellow hweds on which cleared in a day or 2,at time of incident i wasnt aware of any soreness or open wound,does this increase my risk?please ansa

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #10 on: February 12, 2008, 06:17:25 AM »
sorry another question,is it true lets say someone gets infected with hiv now but doesnt seroconvert for 4 weeks does that mean that if they slept with another person in a weeks time (if they hadnt yet converted )that they wouldnt pose a risk to the other person cause they are not yet pos?

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #11 on: February 12, 2008, 08:31:28 AM »
No that doesn't mean that at all. You're infections whether antibodies are detectable or not.

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #12 on: February 12, 2008, 08:48:14 AM »
ok,could you answer my ? above that please

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #13 on: February 12, 2008, 09:41:13 AM »
No, those skin irritations wouldn't have made you more vulnerable to transmission. Totally irrelevant.
Andy Velez

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #14 on: February 13, 2008, 09:02:27 AM »
i have read a couple of threads on condom breakage where people have had unprotected sex for a short time,in these ann says she hasnt heard of a transmission through condom breakage so risk is extremely low but not no risk,would i be right in thinking that my exposure was on the same risk scale as this?

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #15 on: February 13, 2008, 11:33:27 AM »
jon,

Yes, that's correct, but you still need to test at the appropriate time.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #16 on: February 14, 2008, 06:13:54 AM »
thanks for your advise,i really cant get this out of my head,honestly what are the chances of me being pos

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Re: be brutally honest very scared
« Reply #17 on: February 14, 2008, 06:51:48 AM »
jon,

You've got more chance of winning the lottery by buying one and only one ticket in your life.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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