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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #100 on: February 05, 2008, 03:17:26 AM »
Uh, ok.  Maybe you should start your own thread about hijacking. 
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #101 on: February 05, 2008, 01:12:00 PM »
Uh, ok.  Maybe you should start your own thread about hijacking. 

Agreed.  The OP asked about people's experiences.  The responses were more within the scope of the question than this tangent about highjacking.
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #102 on: February 05, 2008, 02:41:10 PM »
John2038

what is your definition of love anyways? That may clear up some confusion of what you are asking.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #103 on: February 05, 2008, 05:03:20 PM »
Just my thoughts and a brief hijack if you will....But if the original poster is not offended by what others are saying whether it went off topic then why should anyone else be offended? I actually misunderstood what John's original question was and then was persuaded to add my own 2 cents from someone else's post who was actually answering John's question.

As I have said before, some posts may have come across as being jaded but it is that person's experience nonetheless. Why knock a person for how they feel by calling them names? That in itself came across as being childish to me. And if someone is criticizing John for whatever reason, John is a big boy and I am sure, can take of himself. And if it would've gotten out of hand, one of the mods would have stepped in. This is a forum which means they are plenty of personalities here. Some meld together and some clash but when it comes to someone needing support, we all come together and to me, that is what matter most.
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #104 on: February 05, 2008, 06:41:51 PM »
John2038

what is your definition of love anyways? That may clear up some confusion of what you are asking.

Shark

1- Personal stories about love (++/+-)
2- HIV disclosure
experience, recommendations

might summarize what matter the most for me now, and what I highly would like to discuss in this thread.
It's a very important subject for me, and I hops for many others as well, especially the newly infected I guess.
Thank you for asking.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #105 on: February 05, 2008, 06:51:10 PM »
1- Personal stories about love (++/+-)
2- HIV disclosure
experience, recommendations

might summarize what matter the most for me now, and what I highly would like to discuss in this thread.
It's a very important subject for me, and I hops for many others as well, especially the newly infected I guess.
Thank you for asking.

That didn't answer his question: what is your definition of love anyways?

John2038

what is your definition of love anyways? That may clear up some confusion of what you are asking.

Shark
« Last Edit: February 05, 2008, 06:52:51 PM by philly267 »
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #106 on: February 05, 2008, 06:54:41 PM »
Dee-Lite lyrics come to mind

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #107 on: February 05, 2008, 07:04:22 PM »
love

for me to say I loved someone is someone who

I watched slowly and painfully waste away to a skeleton, watch him go nearly blind, have to drive him to kidney dialysis 3 days a week, monitor his IVs, try to feed him without him throwing up, cleaning up gallons of vomit when he did, change his diaper every 30 minutes, then have to finally change his bedding every 2 hours, clean his bed sores, give him injections, stay up all night wiping his sweaty body down, maybe sleep 2 hours a night, while trying to still keep my job, watch being intubated and the last words we got to say is I love you, watch him continue to waste away, hold him inyour arms while he left this planet, and then look at his lifeless body before I pushed the button for his cremation, and still say I LOVE YOU!    all the other stuff is fluff

thats just my opinion

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #108 on: February 05, 2008, 07:13:09 PM »
That didn't answer his question: what is your definition of love anyways?

I can't be good answering such question.
The only thing I can say about it is that when you miss it, you know that it exist.
Cause of the pain and the vaccum it cause.
For the buzz words:
Feeling, complicity, friendship, joy, projects, sharing, caring, smiling, etc
Being together or missing each others. Belongs to each others.
Making a life together. Loving.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #109 on: February 05, 2008, 09:04:26 PM »
le sigh
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #110 on: February 05, 2008, 09:06:58 PM »
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #112 on: February 05, 2008, 09:48:40 PM »
Don't try John.  You can't beat my youtube link.  Ever.
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #113 on: February 05, 2008, 10:02:11 PM »
How about that philly267 ?  ;)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYpupK9cIfc
At the end of this video, you will understand a meaning of love.

And this is what you do when you love
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMH0bHeiRNg

Sorry for this diversion.
Never mind. Just say love is there, everywhere. We are there. That what count the most.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #114 on: February 05, 2008, 10:22:07 PM »

 Avoid acting like a POZ with no powers, no dreams and no hopes.


That's an, um, interesting choice of words.

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« Reply #115 on: February 05, 2008, 10:32:33 PM »
I agree basquo

not feeling the "love" here

 >:(
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #116 on: February 05, 2008, 10:49:34 PM »
Never mind. Just say love is there, everywhere. We are there. That what count the most.

Someone is channeling Eldon

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #117 on: February 05, 2008, 11:02:48 PM »
lollerz
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #118 on: February 06, 2008, 02:13:08 AM »
I agree basquo

not feeling the "love" here

 >:(
Shark

I have to agree with you there. I think this thread has lost it's purpose. It has now turned into the battle of youtube links. Hopefully John was able to get some type of advice by those who did answer his question. I am done with this thread, it is blowing my high... ;D *walks out and shuts the door*
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #119 on: February 06, 2008, 04:00:58 AM »
It would be great to be in a long term relationship again. But like some of the others have mentioned I find it very difficult. The poz issue definitely puts a damper on things. But I see that some have still found love despite being poz. So I will keep hope alive  :)

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« Reply #120 on: February 06, 2008, 09:49:15 AM »
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« Last Edit: February 06, 2008, 12:07:03 PM by John2038 »

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #121 on: February 06, 2008, 10:31:42 AM »
Before I step out of here and never come back Mr Penniless Sitar Player

I am assuming that there are some cultural differences going on here,   but.....

I don't think you realize that you have insulted many of us with your words.


I'm outta here.....


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« Reply #122 on: February 06, 2008, 11:18:14 AM »
Sorry to those who feel offended by such thread.
Anywhere else you will feel better then
« Last Edit: February 06, 2008, 12:11:18 PM by John2038 »

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« Reply #123 on: February 06, 2008, 12:30:20 PM »
what?
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #124 on: February 06, 2008, 12:38:58 PM »
If this thread keeps going in the direction it has, it's going to end up being locked and don't be surprised if a few people get time outs as well.

I'm warning the majority (but not all) of posters in this thread. If you have nothing constructive to add, open and read some other thread. Cool your jets, everyone!

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #125 on: February 06, 2008, 03:30:09 PM »
I thought about defining love then I got inspired to look up definitions and quotes.

I know I am off track but it could be a good thing so please humor meÖ


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Love is a deep, tender, stronger than words would describe feeling of affection, care and concern toward a person

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:5-7

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

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« Reply #126 on: February 06, 2008, 03:33:39 PM »
AIDS isn't for sissies.

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« Reply #127 on: February 06, 2008, 03:58:57 PM »
Glad to see people celebrating love, in a way or another.  :) :-*
No matter that this is not directly related to personal stories or to the question of the disclosure, because they are just the next step.

I was until then wondering if "love" was in the POZ dictionary.

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Privacy And Disclosure of HIV in Interpersonal Relationships: A Sourcebook
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« Reply #128 on: February 06, 2008, 04:26:25 PM »
Quote
I was till then wondering if "love" was in the POZ dictionary.

Of course it is... Who doesn't want to be loved and love in return? A world without love isn't much of a world.

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« Reply #129 on: February 06, 2008, 10:23:30 PM »
I for one won't give up on Love. I couldn't imagine ever wanting to.  :-*

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« Reply #130 on: February 07, 2008, 10:05:53 AM »
   
I look to insist, but is there among you people who have take the risks to meet a HIV-negative person, and who have announced their illness ?

And if so, was this going well? If not, was it because the disclosure came too early, too late?
What does your partner says about your disclosure?

A bit like someone who start with HAART, and who is concerned about the side effects.
And if a majority of stories end badly, better stay between HIV-positive could be my conclusion.

I try to evaluate this risk, because disclosing my status to the person I'm thinking to is not a small affairs.
It might work, but if it fails, it will be the first person in my environment to know.
So before acting, better ask around here no?

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« Reply #131 on: February 07, 2008, 10:29:35 AM »
   
What does your partner says about your disclosure?


My ex said disclosure was super important to him. After we met we were intimate with protection a few days later. I told him I was HIV negative - he insisted on a new test because I was going by a year-old result.  The new test came back poz and I disclosed 2 days later when he asked me over the phone. We were a serodiscordant couple for a little over 3 years.

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« Reply #132 on: February 07, 2008, 10:43:12 AM »
If not too private, how long have you been together serodiscordant.
Have you broke-up for a status related reason ?

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« Reply #133 on: February 07, 2008, 11:03:25 AM »
John, you keep asking the same questions -- I'm not sure what answer you want.  Can someone HIV+ meet a negative person in a spontaneous manner and announce at some point, perhaps after a couple sexual encounters with this person where a condom was used, that they are in fact HIV+?  Sure, that's what I did with my last partner -- he was fine with it.  In fact, he stated that he always assumed that 50% of the guys he met were infected so he was always prepared for it, whether tricking or looking for a relationship.  He did not bat an eye really, though he did inquire as to how well I was doing in treatment, etc.  I cruised him exiting a subway station and we were together for 3 years -- isn't that romantic, in a cheap and sordid manner?

Alas, I think you've stated that you're straight so I don't know how a similar situation would play out for you.  What, in fact, are you doing in terms of finding this elusive love life on your own?
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« Reply #134 on: February 07, 2008, 11:22:53 AM »
philly267
I met someone months ago (HIV-negative) willing to have a stable relationship with me.
Nothing happen till now. I haven't disclose yet, but evaluating the risk.
I may over complicate my life as I won't say yes as long as I haven't disclose.

I want to say: I'm HIV-pos. So still willing me ?

Why doing so ? Not sure. Education maybe. Born like that for sure.

Typically, while reading your answers I was thinking: your partner have accept your disclosure after. Luck ?

Reading others on this subject allows to put in the balance the pro/cons of disclosing to someone.
In my case, this someone knows my colleagues. And once you disclose, there is no turning back.
So how to evaluate this risk ? By asking. Or is there others alternatives ?
I don't want expose in details my situation. I just hope that reading the stories of others may help on when, what, how to say that.
As I said, it's probably like people asking about the side effect of a new combo.
Everybody will react differently, but we still hops to be able to come to some conclusions.
We are also looking for advises. Experience.

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« Reply #135 on: February 07, 2008, 11:56:18 AM »
Unfortunately, there are some inconvenient truths that come with testing positive. As my first ID doc told me about twenty years ago, and I quote, "HIV is going to fuck with your head."

For every anecdote of success disclosing to a potential partner, there's an anecdote of failure. No story by anyone using the forums, is in the long run going to change your reality. What would you have done if prior to testing poz someone you were seeing disclosed their status? I also caution that not everyone using the forums tells the truth. I guess it's nice to swap stories, but in the end, it's your decision to make. To me if you're already questioning whether or not someone you think you care about might blab your secret, well in my personal opinion you're not emotionally strong enough to divulge. I'm not sure and someone who knows can correct me if I'm wrong, but I think programs like AA suggest waiting a year or so before even contemplating a romance. Your insistence at answers suggests you're not ready. There are no guarantees. I've divulged and things ended up peachy. I've divulged and things ended up a disaster. If you are worried in the slightest about people revealing your "secret" then you better keep it to yourself. Because once you tell someone, whether you like it or not, the news will get out. It's just human nature. 

I strongly suggest before you do anything that you get some counseling if it's available.



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« Reply #136 on: February 07, 2008, 12:05:01 PM »
Your answer make sense to me Dachshund (first time it does).

Well well. Gotta think about it.
Thank for the input.

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« Reply #137 on: February 07, 2008, 01:08:53 PM »
John, it seems like you want someone to give you a utopian view of love with HIV.  We really need to stop beating a dead horse.
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« Reply #138 on: February 07, 2008, 01:44:00 PM »
Have you broke-up for a status related reason ?

No I broke up with him because of his "road rage" (that's anger while driving a car in case you don't know) and he likes steak and fried diner food so we could rarely eat out together.

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« Reply #139 on: February 07, 2008, 01:51:11 PM »
Bettytacy, you are lucky that the answer I was ready to post have been lost after the message:

Warning - while you were reading a new reply has been posted. You may wish to review your post.

I will not rewrite it, but I please you to stop with your arrogant style.


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« Reply #140 on: February 07, 2008, 02:56:53 PM »
John, it seems like you want someone to give you a utopian view of love with HIV.  We really need to stop beating a dead horse.

Ok, I know I said I was done commenting here but I just can't seem to help myself. John, I honestly feel that everyone who has posted has told you pretty much all they can. While you don't seem satisfied with some of the answers you see, I have to ask what answer are you looking for? Many have been able to disclose and things have worked out just peachy as Aunty D said and some who disclosed in the past such as myself, it has turned out to be sheer hell. I have had more bad experiences disclosing than good. There is no middle road here, it either goes one way or the other. It depends on the individual if they want to disclose. It also depends on the individual you disclose to on how they will take it. And as much as you seem to want to try to lash out at Betty, I think you should man up and decide what you want to do. No one can make the choice for you, dear.

When people were being a bit mean to you, I spoke up in your behalf even though I have not really read any of your previous posts. I have in fact read and reads Betty's posts everyday, I don't see where she is being mean to you by saying you are beating a dead horse cause at this point, you kind of are. Even though Betty can defend herself as can you, I think you should gleam what you can from the answers you have gotten and decide what you plan to do. The final decision is yours and yours alone.
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #141 on: February 07, 2008, 03:03:01 PM »
I have read some success stories of HIV+ people meeting and/or finding love after diagnosis either with a positive person or a negative person.  I understand it is difficult to even tell friends and family, most less tell a potential partner.  Depression and not feeling worthy of love or life, in my opinion are part of being positive.  Of course, only you can define yourself and allow yourself to be happy.   Life is what you make it, there are always choices.  I am in a relationship with someone that is negative, we found out I was positive after we dated for a few years, he is still negative thank goodness, but I tend to follow some of the great philosophies of life.  You have to love yourself in order for anyone else to love you, and another favorite as said by William Shakespeare, to thine own self be true."  The issues with our relationship are not so much him as it is me; I am terrified that I would inflict this disease upon him.  I have realized that fear is why there is such a large stigma attached to being positive, and if he isnít afraid why should I be?   Good luck to you in your quest for love.  I have a great friend whoís loves the motto love, live, laugh, not necessarily in that order.   I hope that helps. Take care. D
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Offline John2038

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #142 on: February 07, 2008, 03:22:59 PM »
Queen Akasha

Each time people start to post interesting article related to the subject of this thread, there are interferences.
Look closer to this thread. I was having an interesting discussion with some people here, until some others decided to hijack
this thread in an unpleasant and disrespectful manner.

I please you to let people express what they want/have to express.
If this thread doesn't interest you, just bypass it. I haven't open this thread to read why I should close it.

Asking for the side effect of a combo is not more useful than asking about experience about disclosure.

If as you already mention this subject doesn't interest you, please just move to another topic.
As said Dashund, there is a ignore button. So just use it.
It will allows to respect those who are contributing in a useful way to this thread.

My aim is not to keep this topic alive, just to keep it alive Ok ? Am I clear ?

I'm also not a kid, and I'm not asking for someone to tell me what I can or not ask, when or not I should stop to ask.
I was starting to have a discussion that I haven't be able to conclude.
I have keep quite till now, but this attitude start to bother me.
« Last Edit: February 07, 2008, 03:32:25 PM by John2038 »

Offline thunter34

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #143 on: February 07, 2008, 04:10:39 PM »
My aim is not to keep this topic alive, just to keep it alive Ok ? Am I clear ?



Um....not really, no. 
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Offline John2038

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #144 on: February 07, 2008, 04:33:44 PM »
THREAD IS CLOSE

Keep your certainty. Stay impolite.

Thank's for those who have contribute.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #145 on: February 07, 2008, 04:34:30 PM »
John----

Honestly, a thread can only stay alive for so long before people start repeating themselves. Another thing, if you would've stepped up awhile ago instead of being quiet as you put it then your thread wouldn't have gotten hijacked as much as it has. I think you liked the attention it has gotten even when being hijacked. While others have tried to stay on point with your topic, there isn't really much left to be said no matter how you try to reword it. Let's be real.

For the record, I know all about the ignore feature in these forums, I choose not to use it. Why? Because I don't like to miss anything whether it be a smart remark or comical drama. But even with those responses I tend to learn something from them so I rarely bypass anything. If I would've simply bypassed your comment then I would have missed your comment of....."My aim is not to keep this topic alive, just to keep it alive Ok ? Am I clear ? And I even learned something from that which is YOU MAKE NO SENSE. I will continue to monitor this thread until it is locked which will be coming, trust me. If it is not locked then at least I can have a laugh.
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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #146 on: February 07, 2008, 04:40:58 PM »
Quote
I think you liked the attention it has gotten even when being hijacked.

Ok ok ok ok ok ok ok ok


You know better than me yes ?? Ok YOU RIGHT.

Fine good, you are all the best.

Jesus. Your heart is so small, and you are so selfish. You see in the others what you are.
This is the only truth.

This thread is close.  I won't reply anymore.

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #147 on: February 07, 2008, 04:49:02 PM »
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Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline hartiepie

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #148 on: February 07, 2008, 04:58:50 PM »
I did learn a few things:

I didn't know about the IGNORE button (I guess I didn't need to?). Seems to be working.

I will never a start a thread here.

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Re: Romance.... and experience ?
« Reply #149 on: February 07, 2008, 05:05:47 PM »
John has an interesting style of writing. I am curious where he is from.


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