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Author Topic: What do you think is most important?  (Read 3829 times)

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Offline med forum

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What do you think is most important?
« on: January 11, 2008, 01:59:09 PM »
What do you think is the single most important thing or feeling in helping those you love get through each day?
If in a serious relationship or serodiscordant relationship, what has been the single most important thing?
Is it hope,is it acceptance? is it patience, is it faith? If possible, please share some examples........

Peace and health to all of you....
Peace & health

Offline structuredjen

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #1 on: January 11, 2008, 03:38:40 PM »
it's just that - love.

that's all.

everything else... support, encouragement, patience, faith, making sure he knows I'm his biggest fan and that I believe in him...  all fall naturally under that.

Offline poz1970

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2008, 05:14:20 PM »
I don't think theres a single most important thing, personally...

For some it would be just knowing they're not alone, an occasional hug, or a warm body to snuggle up to at night :-)

my 2cents

J
"The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to  heterosexuals. That doesn`t mean that God doesn`t love heterosexuals. It`s just that they need more supervision." -- Lynn Lavne

Offline superkim24

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #3 on: January 25, 2008, 10:23:22 PM »

My take is that patience and understanding rank very high of the list of course all the other stuff mentioned are important as well but emotions can run high and people could say things in a moment that they don't really mean and it takes some time so patience

kim

Offline imjustagirl

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2008, 10:28:30 PM »
I'm with Jen - has to be love.

Without love, theres no way you can find the reasons or the strength to provide any of the other things.

There are SO many days I need to remind myself that in spite of his status, that he is still the man I love and that I promised I would always be there for him.

Is it hard to do?  You bet!  But one look at his smile and I know that he is SO worth it.

Offline Joe K

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #5 on: January 28, 2008, 11:37:07 AM »
I have to go with Love, because it can pretty well overcome everything.  There are varying degrees of love, but only love can provide the fuel to power all the other emotions.  Just think about how far you would go for someone you truly love.

Offline water duck

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #6 on: January 28, 2008, 05:51:50 PM »
1 Corinthians 13:1-8a and 13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (NIV)

Wd

Offline OneMoreGuy

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2008, 01:48:48 PM »
It's UNCONDITIONAL love.

Not just love. But unconditional love.
Psychologist, PhD
Counseling patients with HIV since Jan 1991
HIV since Dec 2005
There are three parts to any successful relationship (platonic or romantic): trust, honesty and communication

Offline Joe K

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #8 on: January 31, 2008, 10:25:30 AM »
Love is defined as unconditional love.  Anything less is not love, but some other emotion.

Offline OneMoreGuy

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Re: What do you think is most important?
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2008, 12:34:36 PM »
Hate to disagree with you on that one. And so would many of my patients.

That said, we all can give LOVE our own definition.
Psychologist, PhD
Counseling patients with HIV since Jan 1991
HIV since Dec 2005
There are three parts to any successful relationship (platonic or romantic): trust, honesty and communication

 


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