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Offline expatinchina

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Doctor has me freaked out.
« on: January 30, 2008, 09:02:50 PM »
 Just before returning to the states yesterday from China for Chinese New Year, I went to the clinic where I live with a sore throat that I have had for 8 weeks. The doctor (from Spain, looked like he was fresh out of school) looked and said he could not see anything.

 After a swab for Strep and check of my ears, nose, etc, he asked about my sexual history. As I have been married for 10 years there wasn't much to tell other then nights out with the boys every now and then.

 Sometimes those nights get pretty crazy. For my own self never any sex but I have fingered, been sucked, and even licked girls as they were dancing and giving massages. The last such incident was just after returning from Thanksgiving, about 9 weeks ago.

 He took another swab of my throat and examined it under a microscope and said he did not see any bacteria such as gonorrhea. At this point I am freaking out. He then said let's do an HIV test. I nearly wet myself! He swabbed my mouth and 20 minutes later it showed negative. He said that touching and licking a vagina is low risk for HIV and other things and he wanted to rule those out.

 He then gave me a weeks worth of antibiotics and said probably nothing to worry about and hurried off to scare the crap out of somebody else I am sure.

 All I have done since retuning home is research the Internet.

 From everything said here and other websites, I have no risk, is this true?
 It looks like a test again in 3 weeks eliminates the concern; do I need to test again?
 I am nearly loosing my mind. Please tell me that I haven;t put my wife or myself at risk for HIV.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2008, 09:05:59 PM »
Oriental Expat,

Your doctor has it wrong. You absolutely cannot contract HIV from munching on pussy. Just won't happen. You don't need to test for HIV any further. Your negative results are rock-solid conclusive.

If you haven't already then might I suggest you please take the time to read our Welcome Thread and follow the links to our Lessons to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted?



Offline expatinchina

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2008, 09:21:19 PM »
Wow, that was a fast response. Do you guys work in a center where there are people waiting to answer?

The doctor at the clinic said the test was from the US (I guess, one of the few things other then basketball and Jack Daniels we export) and was conclusive at 9 weeks.

Why would a Western trained doctor lead me to believe I am at risk?

How do I stop this now constant paranoia I have had for 2 days?


Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2008, 09:39:39 PM »
Nope we don't work in a centre. We're just the best HIV site on the Web. We only do one thing (HIV) and we do it better than anyone else.

I can't explain why a western doctor would get it wrong. But lots of doctors are not as knowledgeable about HIV as they should be.

Yes, you can let your unfounded fears go. :)

Be well,


Offline expatinchina

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2008, 11:16:18 AM »
Thanks for the advice.

I have been reading around that the tests are not conclusive at 9 but 12 weeks. Is there a chance of going positive in the next 3 weeks?

I would guess the put a safety factor on these tests to take into account the fact  that people may not know when they last did something.

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #5 on: February 01, 2008, 11:42:21 AM »
In your case 9 weeks is sufficient because nothing you did put you at risk.

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure to the HIV virus. So at 13 weeks even a slower seroconverter would be covered. This is all simply information to file away. You weren't at risk so it doesn't apply to you.

Andy Velez

Offline expatinchina

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #6 on: February 05, 2008, 04:45:16 PM »
Andy thanks for the follow up.

Is the team's prognosis based an absolute fact or is it like some other websites I have come across where I have a 1 in a million chance but there is still a chance?

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Doctor has me freaked out.
« Reply #7 on: February 05, 2008, 05:55:49 PM »
When one of says "no risk" to you we mean exactly that.

I'm not willing to indulge in nit picking on your part and getting involved with your anxiety driven quest for absolute 100% categorical certified certainty, after which you will in all likelihood follow a common pattern and come back with another what if.

You were absolutely not at risk for HIV transmission in any of the activities you have cited. Period. End of story. Got it?

If guilt is what this is about, which it often the real issue when hubbies play scratch and sniff in other stalls, then you need to dump that overboard right now. Get on with your life. HIV is not your issue. 
Andy Velez


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