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Sorry, I couldn't think of anything else. 

Anyway, good evening ladies.  I saw it was time that the old dating thread get locked down.  I'll be pm'ing Ann to do that for us. 

Cin, I think it's great that Iceman came over to your neighborhood just to say "hi."  Wow, he must really like you girl! 

Anyway, tonight was my Ethics class.  I think I did pretty good on the exam.  Nothing unexpected, so that was good.  We have a good class.  There's only like 8 students, so that makes it a lot more enjoyable.  I don't and never did like big classes.  I really don't have anything else new to report.  I hope we can keep this thread going.  It just doesn't seem like a lot of women check in much anymore.  Why is that?
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2008, 10:20:29 PM »
Hey all! Still no word on Queen huh? Has she ever done anything like this before? Strange. Well not much to report here. I thought that I would go ahead and share some "stories" from school when they come up. I am sure I will have plenty in the future. I do have one autistic boy and there are many humorous situations with him.  :) I have a real interesting group this year. I say that with love... ;) Today I gave them a quiz in social studies and they were able to use their study guides that they completed for homework. Well one of my boys came up to and asked if he had to answer one of the questions. I asked him why wouldn't he have to answer it and his reason was because he did not do his homework. Hello! He actually thought I would just say, "Sure. You don't have to answer the question. I'll let it go." Some of these kids... :)

I hope everyone will stay warm!!!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2008, 02:56:52 AM »
Hie guys, i hope Queen shows up soon.  maybe she's gone off somewhere rural or something where theres no internet and stuff?

vivyt - the funniest answer i have ever heard from a kid was from this kid next door.  my sister had been giving them a quiz on Bible studies and asked "Why was Jesus crucified". 
The kid answered "Rape". i didnt know what to say to her i was laughing so hard.
And over here we're mostly trying to stay dry. the damn rain just wont stop. and it always rains when i forget my umbrella and get my hair done.

Drag - u're right there is no rush.  Apparently there are other things we need to sort out first. Like whether we are compatible after all. He was asking me about all my previous boyfriends and relationships. Demanded that i tell him. He sad something like "U need a strong person who will be able to handle you, maybe i'm not strong enough"
Being unused to deep emotional conversations i almost went on the defensive, but i bit my tongue and we managed to sort it out.  Apparently he cant understand it when i get quiet when i'm with him. said i might be thinking of other men and comparing him or i might be havng bad thoughts about our relationship or be tired of his company. I said i'll be hungry and tired and i'm not very talkative whne i'm like that coz i'll be feeling a bit unwell and he said "u ought to take better care of yourself and your diet especially with your condition". Began lecturing me.  OK OK. Geez i'm not used to someone being on my case like this. Might end up messing the whole thing up.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #3 on: January 25, 2008, 05:52:32 AM »
Hi ladies,

Another day without Queen... I'm hoping that my "down low" hypothesis is correct, she's just cautious about logging on elsewhere. Then again, she has a roomie, I assume they use the same internet connection, in this case wouldn't the roomie take care of getting reconnected? I don't know what to think, this is very worrying.

Betty, don't worry about the thread winding down, that is the nature of the internet, kind of ebb and flow. I sometimes think it would be better for the forum if we had different threads instead of these megathreads. Like the Dating and Beehive. What happens all sorts of issues get scrambles together and there is almost no chance to address everybody. Know what I mean? Then again the megathreads are like a telenovela. I don't know.

I'm a little sick, I didn't go to the party after all, but my BF did, and he had to wear a suit, looked great on him, though I don't like those stiff shoulders that men's suits have. I dedicated Z.Z. Top's "Sharp dressed man" to him. Grrr.

Wishful, I told you once but will say again, am so glad things have worked out for you. You see, there was no need to run off to Florida after all  ;). I don't know nothing about reversing the anti-birth surgery (sorry dunno English word for it either). But I wish you luck, if that's what you want.

Tendai, I am a little concerned that your guy is the controlling type, but I don't want to judge him too harshly b/c it's just the beginning and people say strange things when they're insecure. The question is whether or not he can get over it, cos you can explain once, twice, but if a guy i consistently over jealous, that's scary... but then again nobody's perfect and extreme situations bring out the extreme in people. I know cos I come from a place where things are crazy at times and that makes the people there, well, crazy. Compared to the Dutch or other Euros that is. Of course Israel is a peaceful paradise compared to Zim at the mo... what can I say... lots of relationships begin with groans and grunts, it's not always smooth sailing at the beginning, the process of getting closer and trusting someone who was after all a stranger a while ago.

So anyway just "proceed with caution" as they say. Of course, every time I am quiet, my BF knows I am thinking about other men, goes without saying, there is nothing I like more than being next to him [esp. lying in bed post-orgasmically] and recalling all the bad and worse previous relations. What else is there to think about really? ;D.

Viv, I also used to teach, working in Asia. The kids there were so good though, but even there is such a difference btw boys & girls, even when I taught 3 year olds, the boys were so much wilder compared to the girls. Surely they have no testosterone at that age? Must be a social thing. At least you get them when they are still funny even when they're naughty, I always said I never want to teach kids aged 12 or up... until they become university students. I was certainly a horror from 13-20.

Cindy, that is supercute of Ice, but then he is a super guy...

Just want to wish everyone a nice weekend, Sun, Confused [who really hasn't checked in in ages], Sara, Camms (how are things?), Wendy, Afraid (hope things are better for you), Cristy (how was the date??), NY if she's still reading. Sorry if I forgot anyone. Lots of love. Hope we hear from Queen soon. It's about bloody time.





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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2008, 09:23:51 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Viv, the stories you must have.  Kids can come up with some of the cutest and most original things.  Thanks for sharing that.

Tendai, I don't know what to say about your guy.   My first husband was extremely controlling.  Didn't really do any lecturing.  I've never been in a relationship with a man who lectures.  I would probably go ballistic if someone I was in a relationship with felt like they needed to counsel me.  But, like Drag said, it's early.  Maybe it needs some time.

Drag, I luv ZZ Top.  I saw them in concert in the early 90's back when Notre Dame used to have concerts there.  They were fabulous.  Put on a really good show.  I'm also wondering how all those ladies are doing.  I just can't remember everyone's name. 

This morning it is -6 here.  But by Sunday it's supposed to be 38.  The weather sure has been a lot different than it was at this time last year. 
Yesterday I started another period.  That makes three this month.  Monday I'm going to the gyn, so hopefully something I'll get some answers then, or at least a clue.  Anyway, I hope all you ladies have a good one-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2008, 03:11:28 PM »
Hi GFs~

Trying to have a relaxing afternoon here and making the best of it.  Yep, see what time it is?  I SHOULD be at work, but they dismissed us today at noon, yesterday at 1:30pm and Wednesday they asked who wanted to leave early.  The company lost a federal contact and work is slow?!?  :o

I am pissed, but like I said trying to make the best of it.  I make the same pay I did on unemployment, the only difference is that the taxes are taken out.  I am making about 80% of what I need to be and this is all on a very tight budget.  I re-did my resume today and I am going to start applying for jobs again.  I see my "current position" all over the internet, but its advertised at 60-90 day contract! :o  I hope that isn't the case for me, but you KNOW how wonderful my recruiter was, with her head jammed up her ass.  OH well, wish me luck.  I have debt, but thank goodness I have credit.  It could be much worse.

Iceman was giving me a back massage last night and I asked what time he had to leave.  I didn't want to fall asleep and not visit with him.  He smiled and said he wasn't leaving.  :D  He is the most wonderful man, and I was absolutely thrilled when he appeared out of nowhere yesterday afternoon!  Tonight is support group night and then Cheech and I are off to Iceman's house for a comfy evening together!  Tomorrow night we are going to Little Sis' house to play Guitar Heroes and have Chinese food. 

Hopefully my vertigo won't act up, speaking of which.....My nerve test did NOT show any signs of damage.  They thought perhaps it would pinpoint an area near the neck due to my accidents.  Nothing.  Nada.  So, at least my nerves are ok, actually that's VERY good considering I have been diabetic since 1981. 

One interesting thing I have found....I feel more balanced and stronger the day after a massage.  My neck always has spasms in it, sometimes I can feel them, but usually I can't.  So I am going to really try to overdose on pampering this poor neck.  It has meant, and will continue to mean, lifestyle changes for me.  Its very frustrating, but where there's a will, there's a way.  For example, I am not going to go work 25 miles down the road, which would be a 90-minute drive each way.  It would cut back on my sleep, I would be stressed in traffic and I would be driving on the highway at high speeds, which really makes me feel uneasy these days.  So, as far as lifestyles, I will continue to work close to home and take less pay for it, rather than driving closer to DC for a higher wage.  It all comes down to peace of mind and well-being.  Also, I need to get to bed sooner and quit fighting off exhaustion, it just wreaks havoc with these sore neck muscles.

Iceman has been very supportive, and I don't like to ask for much, but at least he is there for me.  I am very fortunate.

Drag, I'm glad to hear the presentation is done with, I know you were a little nervous.  Btw, I am taking alprazolam, similar to lorazepam, to help me chill and to get to sleep at night.  Wonder drugs, for sure!  I take very low doses and not every day.  Its a new thing for me.  I have always had the pills around but never really relied on them before to help much.

BT, its great to hear that your class only has eight students!  Its more like a "club" than a class that way, isn't it?  Let us know when you get your test grade back!  Cold as shit up there, huh?  Its supposed to be a balmy 48 degrees with RAIN this Tuesday.  I want snow, damit, lol!

Tendai, sounds like your guy is a bit of a control type, but he also may be insecure, too.  Especially since he said he may not be strong enough for you.  Its encouraging to read that you communicated some.  You owe it to him to tell him how you're feeling when you have those quiet times, cause as we know, guys don't pick up on a damn thing unless its right in front of their face.  Or on ESPN.  LOL

Viv, I liked your story about the student not thinking he would have to answer that question, lol.  Kids rationalize in the funniest ways, don't they?  I can't wait to hear who makes who a Valentine for the upcoming holiday, lol!  Aren't they 5th graders?  Or are they younger?  Hee-hee!

As far as Queen goes, the Mods have all of her info from me and a few others.  I think we won't see her until next month, until after she gets a check and pays a bill.  I really hope that's the case.  I was glad to read that Em was printing out the thread (the other one) and mailing it to her. 

I'll try to check in over the weekend, but being with Iceman and there being a full moon, it may be wild and crazy!  LOL  Did you know that Cynthia means "Goddess of the Moon," hence my screen name?

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2008, 06:52:50 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Cin, goddess of the moon, eh?  Well, being that you are nocturnal, I guess that fits.  I hear you about doing what brings peace of mind.  I'm glad you're going to take your health into consideration.  Do you have muscle spasms in your neck that could be causing your problem?  I have one that never goes away at the base of my neck in my right shoulder.  Sometimes it can be quite painful.  I used to get my bones adjusted, until one time when the doc was adjusting my back and I got a sharp pain up the side of one of my legs. :o  That put an end to that.  But, I was just thinking maybe that could be causing your problems.  I'm glad that your nerve conduction studies were normal.  That's really great, especially if you were on any of the drugs of the early 90's for HIV.

OK ladies, girls, we need more communication here.  I do wonder about people when they're not here.  Wishful, for example, has not been around.  I think like Cin said about Queen, she will probably be back with us next month.  Hopefully anyway.  If she's not, we're going to have to send out the army.  Camms has also not been on here lately.  Drag, I'm glad you're checking back in, even with your sore wrist.  Thanks for your spirit! :-*   Anyone I have forgotten to mention, you all are in my thoughts.  Please let us know how you're doing.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2008, 09:35:13 AM »
OK, where is everybody?
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2008, 11:15:06 AM »
Not much happening. I am going to a wedding reception tonight. A colleague of mine is getting married. I hope I can stay dry. We have had so much rain this week. I can't stand it. Another storm is supposed to come in this weekend. The worst is when it rains during the week. The kids have to stay inside and they get all pent up. Kind of like caged animals. I hope you all are doing well.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #9 on: January 26, 2008, 11:39:25 AM »
Its a lazy Saturday morning at Iceman's house.  He made me watch The Grudge with him last night, lol.  He likes spooking me with these suspenseful movies!  Its shower time for me and my neck and back are sore.  I hate going through the PROCESS of trying to get out of the house.  Guys have it so easy. 

We are doing a little shopping today and then meeting our friends tonight.  I can't wait to see if they really have Iron Maiden tunes on that Guitar Heroes game thing, lol!

Shit!  Almost forgot!  My favorite recruiter in Maryland called last night.  Turns out a job that she tried to get me to interview for in August has become available again.  The person they sent there couldn't get her debits and credits straight.  I have an interview Tuesday.  Its a HAUL from my house but they have flexible scheduling, so maybe I could work 930am to 6pm or something and miss the traffic.  They also give you free lunch everyday.

Its weird that this came up last night, esp after in my last post I said I had to make lifestyle changes and stay close to home.  I am really nervous about going for this, ONLY because of the commute distance from home.  I need to look on the bright side, though.  Its direct hire which means benefits soon, and its right outside of DC, so chances are there are plenty of new ID docs to choose from down there.  This company pays your entire health premium for their HMO plan, but I need a PPO to stay on my insulin pump.  The pay is only $3K more than what I make now, so if they want me, they will have to go higher.  The last girl quit cause she couldn't get the hang of bookkeeping, whereas that's all I've taught myself for the past 8 years.  Its an AP position, right down in the heart of the area I grew up in when I was about 5 years old.

Yeah, I'm the debits and credits queen, here.  I am SO nervous to be going down the road, I don't want to get exhausted.  Dammit, tell me to go for it and wish me luck!

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2008, 05:01:01 PM »
Hello ladies. It's date night and I am going. I will give details later. I can tell you we are going out to eat at a place with a live band(top 40)  and a dance floor.                                                                           ML, if this other job is what you feel like doing, then go for it. I hope it works out well for you.                 I see still no Queen. I hope she checks in soon.                                                                                        I worked today, lunch, so do not plan on staying out too late. My little Robert had a playdate at my supervisor's house. She asked me to cover the shift and offered to babysit so everyone was happy.   Talk you later. Time for me to start getting ready. hope everyone is well. Wish me luck.   Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #11 on: January 26, 2008, 05:02:25 PM »
Hey ladies:

Just having a lay-around day.  

Cristy-date night!  Good luck, have fun and be sure to tell us all about it tomorrow! ;)

Viv, I imagine the kids get pretty crazy having to stay indoors.  It's been really cold here and we have quite a bit of snow.  A friend of mine who called me on her cell on her way home from work today said she saw a motorcycle out.  That's just crazy.  The roads are all snowy.  

Cin, I can't tell you to take the job.  You know if you want it or not.  I try not to tell people exactly what to do.  I just don't feel right doing that, as I think everyone should choose for themselves.  Remember what you said in your old post, though, about not wanting to give up peace of mind.  Anyway, have fun tonight at your friend's house.  

Other than that, I haven't done anything except brush my teeth, eat and do the dishes.  Really, just haven't felt like it.  I don't know if that's cause I'm losing so much blood or not.  Have a good one-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #12 on: January 26, 2008, 05:26:14 PM »
Cristy, best of luck on your date tonight.  I always love going to see bands.  Iceman and I went to see a band on our first date....  ;)

This job sounds really, really good for me, and I forgot to mention that I have an interview scheduled for Tuesday at 2pm.  The only thing spooking me is the long drive time from home, but I 'll never know until I try.

Iceman and I are heading to Little Sis' to rock out and have Chinese food.  Yum!

See you ladies tomorrow!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #13 on: January 26, 2008, 10:31:38 PM »
OK, I'm going to bed soon. :D 

Cin, I hope you have fun at your friend's house tonight.  Jam on that guitar! 

Cristy, I'm anxiously awaiting to hear how your date went.  ::singing One Enchanted Evening::   I can't wait!

I talked to a member here (bear60) on the phone for a little while tonight. And I talked to another friend.  Monday I'm seeing the gynecologist, so hopefully he can figure out what's going on with my body, why I'm now getting a period almost every week.  Other than that, I didn't study today.  Guess I got something to do tomorrow.  I need to go to church also.  I haven't been there in three weeks.  I go to a really cool church.  The pastor is a lesbian and has been with her current partner for like almost 20 years.  The church does a lot of social justice things, like getting involved with domestic abuse organizations, etc.  It's really different from any church I have ever attended.  So, maybe tomorrow I'll be awake enough to make it there.  I have a hard time anymore trying to force myself to get up early.  I've been on this schedule of staying up kind of late and then not getting out of bed until like 9:00 in the morning.  I might wake up a little earlier, like around 6:30, but I just can't drag my ass out of bed.  Oh well, most of the time I don't have anywhere to go in the morning anyway.  But I'm really going to try to make it to church tomorrow.  So, have a good night ladies!
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« Reply #14 on: January 27, 2008, 08:59:57 AM »
Hello ladies. Real quickly cause we are time limited on the computer. Date went well. I will probably go again. We danced and ate good food. Nice night out but I was home by 11. I did give him a goodnight kiss.  I will update a little further later. Hope everyone is okay.  Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #15 on: January 27, 2008, 10:31:55 AM »
Hi ladies,

All's quiet on the Eastern front, east of you all that is... I got my period, so am not pregnant. I was both relieved and disappointed at once. My BF said this is all the reason to keep trying... he is at work, and I spent the day skyping with my brother & his wife, and w/ a friend back home. I am horrible at keeping in touch with people, and I do want to meet some now when I get back for a while. I have been avoiding my family and friends, did it happen to you guys too when you were diagnosed? whoever doesn't know, I usually don't have the energy for.

Betty, I don't know how you handle all those periods, no wonder you have no energy, with the cold and the incessant bleeding, one period a month is draining enough for me. Hope you & your doc solve this problem asap! Hope you enjoy church. it's important to keep all these little routines, but I am awful at that. am thinking of quitting my gym subsrciprtion b/c I don't go regularly enough and it's so expensive, 70 Euro (about 100$) a month.

That is my single biggest fiexed expense each month, save for the bills, but those I share with BF so it amounts to about the same.

Cristy, am so glad you had a good time and waiting to hear more!

Cindy, hope you and Ice have a cozy Sunday, am sure you are. I don't know what to tell you bout the job, like Betty said, on one hand, it seems lucrative, on the other, you've been having all those neck & balance problems and this communte can worsen that. I don't know really, depends mostly on the time you can come in and leave and the state of the roads. Does Ice live any closer to the new workplace, maybe you can move in with him and sublet your house? dunno if you want that though.

Viv, enjoy the wedding, haven't been to one in ages, I usually avoid them back home, and here in the Netherlands, have never been invited. Have fun!

Wishing all our readers a great Sunday... 8)


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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #16 on: January 27, 2008, 01:47:55 PM »
Good afternoon ladies,

Well, I didn't even get up until 9:45 this morning, so I didn't go to church.  I finished watching Godfather II last night, which didn't get over until midnight, then I read for awhile.  Church starts at 10:00, so there's no way I would have made it.  Then a friend of mine called at 10:30 and we talked until noon.  So basically, I just got done taking a shower, taking out the trash etc.  And it's almost 2:00 here!  Wow, I'm really kind of lagging behind.  I have to read some of my ethics book today.  I just have to.  It's so easy for me to get distracted. 

Cristy, I'm so glad the date went well.  And you got a kiss!  You go girl!  I'm waiting to hear more details......

Drag, I know how it is with trying to keep up routines.  It can be rather tiresome sometimes.  Like I said, I'm a very easily distracted person.  It really takes total silence for me to concentrate on a book I'm reading etc.  If there's anything else going on, that gets my attention.  I don't know what to say about you starting your period.  Maybe you're not ready yet.  Good luck with that. 

I'm sure Cin is having a good day with Ice.  And hopefully Queen will be back online soon.  I really miss her.  Anyway, I'm going to check out a few other threads and read some of my ethics book.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #17 on: January 27, 2008, 04:52:31 PM »
Hi Girls

Just wanted to check in and say hi.  Not much going on with me.  Its raining like cats and dogs here on the West Coast.   Spent most of the morning cleaning and organizing in preparation for my roommate to move in.  I did not realize how much stuff I have.  I seem to have a ton of hair products.  So I have made a vow not to buy anymore till I have used all of them up.  But I just could not see throwing them away. 

Christy glad to hear that your date went well and look forward to hearing more about it.

Betty sounds like you and I are in the same boat, its almost 2 pm here and I have not taken a shower yet.  I wanted to work out today but just not in mood,  I guess I will just chalk it up to PMS.  Maybe I will light a Duraflame and have a glass of wine. 

Drag- Well I sorry to hear you got your period, but least the good news you get to keep practicing and that is the best part. 

Tomorrow I am suppose to go on my date tomorrow, however I have not heard from him today yet.  I will keep you guys posted. 

bye for now.


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« Reply #18 on: January 27, 2008, 06:27:27 PM »
Good afternoon!
Sun: Where are you at on the West Coast? I live in Orange County and the rain today is CRAZY!

The wedding reception last night was nice. The person who got married is a colleague at work. He is Chinese and his wife is Thai (not sure on spelling). It was definitely different. It started at 6:00 but food did begin to be served until after 8:00. There were about 7 courses served. Lots of seafood. The bride had 3 different outfits, the regular American style of wedding dress, a Chinese style and then a Thai. I was very tired by the time the night was over. And of course it was raining when we got out. I hope it dries up quick...I can't stand it... :)

As far as today goes I haven't got much done. I went to the market and that is it. I still need to do the rest of my lesson plans and do some grading.

This morning my ex came over. I don't know if I have mentioned it before but this is the person who infected me. We have been involved off and on for 13 years. We have a lot of history together. I am pretty sure I did not elaborate on that before but I will now. We got involved when I was 20. He had a girlfriend and a child. We were friends at first but then it became more. He was my first and the only one I have been with. When I was 22 I got pregnant. My father did not handle it well and neither did "Mr.Wonderful" (my ex). Long story short I was still in school and was in no position to support myself and a child so I decided to place the baby with a family through adoption. It was open so I met the parents and am still in contact with them and her. At the time is was the best thing I could do for her. There...

That was our big connection. We have always had an intense attraction and just cannot seem to stay apart yet we can't get together. To top it off we don't really talk about our feelings. We just ignore the HUGE pink elephant in the room. Today we talked about some stuff and he said he has always loved me and always will but that doesn't help me. Ugh!!! Such a mess and yet I can't say no...

OK...I am done going on and on. Stay warm everyone!

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« Reply #19 on: January 27, 2008, 07:35:26 PM »
Hello again ladies:

Well, I was going to wait until tomorrow morning to post, but after reading Viv's post...........

Girl, I was like that with my first husband.  He wasn't with anyone when we met, but we had a very tumultous relationship.  I got pregnant when I was 17 1/2.  And Oscar and I had an on-again off-again relationship.  But if we ever saw each other (when we were broke up) out somewhere, we were instantly magneted back to each other.  I don't really know what to tell you.  You know what you can handle.  If it's causing you distress, then stop it. ;)

Sun, I'm anxious to find out how your date goes!

OK, I wonder where Wishful, Camms and all the rest are.  Hopefully we'll here from Her Majesty within the week or next.  I'm getting ready to watch 'The Wire' and have the annual Sunday night pig-out with my brother (who is also diabetic, but not Insulin-dependent like me). ;D  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #20 on: January 27, 2008, 08:03:21 PM »
I'm here. I just don't have anything special to say.
have a nice evening ladies.

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« Reply #21 on: January 27, 2008, 08:11:19 PM »
Hi GFs~

I had a wonderful weekend with Iceman, its just so quiet after he's gone.  I miss him already.  I ate way too much tonight and actually feel sick, so this will be short.  

Drag~ I think I had read a few posts ago that you and your BF were going to try for a baby, but I didn't realize it had already started!  Did you switch meds or anything?  What was the outcome of everything with your doc?

Cristy~  So glad to hear the date went well and that you are hopeful for the next!  See, that's how it should be.  Just get out there and TRY.  It can never hurt!

Viv~  Its so dry here on the east coast.  They keep forecasting snow in Maryland and we don't ever get it.  Sounds like you're having mixed feelings about your guy, but you owe it to yourself to date.  Especially if he's been the only one.  You owe it to yourself before time passes you by. :)

Sun~  I have been chucking things in the trash lately.  LOL  I used to hold on to everything and then lose track of what I had.  You'll be amazed at how much money you'll save by using the hair stuff you have at home.  OK, so today I threw out most of the stuff in my spice rack.  I haven't used the shit in over twelve years for the most part, so what was I saving it for?  A Betty Crocker moment?   :D

BT~  I pigged out on some trail mix and drank a ton of water a little while ago.  I am so bloated that I feel sick, lol!  I have to stop doing this.  My A1C is 7.3 and thats not good at all.

In response to what Drag said about me interviewing for this new job.....I am agreeing a lot with what you PMed me about the other week.  You said the new job may have caused my symptoms with vertigo and a bad neck.  Well, like I said it was all there before, but sitting still in a chair all day and only getting up 4 or 5 times hasn't helped.  If I am in an office where my work isn't timed, then I can relax a little and move around some. I think thats the root of my problem now, staying planted in my seat for most of the day and stiffening up the neck and back.

So, tomorrow I will figure out something to tell my boss.  I guess I'll say I have a follow-up docs appt on Tuesday and thats why I'm leaving early.  I hope the interview goes OK.  They are very anxious to hire someone, but I ain't cheap.  LOL

OK, so this post wasn't really that short, was it?  Win, you posted while I did.  Hi there, GF.  :)

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« Reply #22 on: January 28, 2008, 07:44:50 AM »
Wow. There has been a lot going on lately.                                   Viv, I think that you did the best possible thing for you and your child. Glad you posted about that. I don't know personally but think you are very brave. And you still get to have contact. Cool. About the ex. I used to have one of those, we were together on and off since 1991 but he won't use condoms so we are permanently OFF. The sex was great but everything else sucked so I'm kinda glad it's off.                         Betty, hope you had a good pigout. I had mac and cheese for dinner but I was craving cheese so that hit the spot.                              The date went well. we went to a restaurant with a live band and I had oysters and shrimp. It was cold by the time we sat down to eat cause we were dancing. He called yesterday and we will be going out again.   He is 20 years older than me and he seems to be bothered by that. I'm not but I would have a problem if he were 20 years younger.                             Ml, are you a packrat, too. I have a hard time throwing stuff away but am making progress in that area.      Not much going on today, Going to the library, to pick up my schedule for the next 2 weeks and go to DSS. Robert and I have Medicade and we supposed to get re certified but the lady has dropped the ball and I am pissed. My paperwork was supposed to be in by DEC 23, I turned it in the 17Th and when I talked to her last week, she says she'll get to it, meanwhile she will bridge it over. Fuck, my medicine costs $1500.00 per month. Guess if it was her medicine she would be all over it. Sorry for the rant, I am just angry about this.        Anyway off to get ready. Hope everyone has a great day.  Cristy

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« Reply #23 on: January 28, 2008, 09:18:45 AM »
hie ladies
sounds like interesting weekends here.
cristy - gald your date went well.  u say he's 20 years older? at least he's mature u know. i've toyed with the idea of going out with a much older guy but eish the generation gap would be too wide. we'd have nothing much in common. but its great u're okay with that. young guys can be a problem i've noticed, even guys my age ::)

vivyt - follow your instincts. i almost "got back" with the guy who i think infected me but as time went on i just couldnt. for one thing he's in another country and i dont do long distance relationships.  anyway, i wish u the best with him if u decide to date him again.

Cindy - good to see u and Iceman still going stronger than ever. u sure u cant make a clone of him?
and good luck with the interview!

Betty - if u lived here, people would advise you to see a prophet or witchdoctor coz such periods would be the work of "juju". Honest, i heard of this woman whose periods wouldnt stop day after day until she went to a witchdoctor and he reversed the "juju" someone had put on her. Of course she had gone to doctors and stuff and they all found her to be "normal".
i hope your gyno  figures out whats wrong and can fix it.

Drag - if at first u dont succeed try try try again ;D and again ;D

i took the boyfriend to my uncles house to see my mom.  it went ok. he had beer with my uncle. my mom is so-o-o shy they hardly exchanged 10 words. it went well.  problem is i had to use my money to buy groceries and stuff that are expected when a prospective goes to the prospective in-laws coz some guy who was supposed to give him money didnt show up.  It didnt bother me at first coz i know he'll pay me back, but then i got to thinking that should we get married or anything he might not be able to take care of me and a baby if we should ever have one.  almost had a fight about it coz i told him i wanted to wait and take things slow before we do things we'l both regret. said i wanted us to get to know each other well enought and get to a point where we dont have silly arguments about 'why are u so quiet'. i think we've spent wa-aaay too much time together. he's acting like the worlds going to end like next month or something he's in such a rush. Its probably insecurities and the control freak in him, but i wont be pushed into something i'm not 100% ready for. Guess i'll have to give us more time and more space so we dont smother each other and get sick of each others company.




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« Reply #24 on: January 28, 2008, 10:12:35 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cin, you know the pros and cons of this prospective job.  Maybe you should make a list, compare, and then decide what to do.  You know, as far as packratting, I used to do that.  In fact, last week I just cleaned out under my bed and threw out two trashbags full of stuff, mostly old magazines I thought I'd need like forever I guess.  It always feels good though, once I go through things and throw out what I absolutely know I don't need anymore.

Cristy, I know how frustrating having to depend on the system is.  I'm still waiting for my big $9 in food stamps to get restored to my card.  My caseworker has been dragging her feet on this since December (and now it's the end of January).  I mean, I know $9 isn't a lot of money to buy food with, but it's a couple gallons of milk.   And then when I call her, she's very rude.  I don't know why people who take public service jobs think they have a right to be rude to people. 

Tendai, good for you for sticking to your guns with your bf and being cautious about jumping into marriage.  I just love it when I hear about women, especially younger women, being true to themselves.   You know, I used to hang around Native American (Indian) people here and once I had a spirit taken out of me by a medicine man.  I believe in that sort of thing. 

Well, today is the visit to the gynecologist's.  So, hopefully by late this afternoon I should have some direction to go as far as getting this constant bleeding stopped.  I'll be sure to let you ladies know what's going on.  Other than that, not much else happening here.  The sunny day of yesterday turned into the grey day of today. :-\  I just hate winter! 
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« Reply #25 on: January 28, 2008, 07:40:50 PM »
OK, I went to the gynecologist's office today.  I had to assume the position (we all know which one I'm speaking of).  He took a biopsy of the uterine wall to rule out cancer.  This is just something routine they do when a woman is having continual cycling.  He is going to start me on Depo-Provera next week which will stop my periods.  Yay!  So, that's all I have to report for now.
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« Reply #26 on: January 28, 2008, 08:19:14 PM »
OMG, BT, I had the SAME procedure done last May, MUCH different than a cervical, and I thought a truck was running me over!  I was ready to pass out, lol.  I have never had kids and I have a tilted uterus, so the GYN had trouble with the first "go."  OMG it was the longest five minutes of my life, tunnel vision and everything!

And you make it sound as easy as making microwave popcorn!  :D  Props to you, girl, I hope you'll be "right" soon!

Tendai~  I found that with my dating in 2007, my two fave guys were 48 and 53 years old.  I was 37 most of last year.  Jay was the 48yo that I was crazy about in June and July, and there was one other guy I dated a few times.  HE had the prob with the age difference, but had a career in criminalistics and criminal psychology, so we had plenty of fascinating conversations.  I did date another older guy, but he thought he was just so cool with me on his arm that it turned me off, lol.  He also wanted me to meet his kids after the first date too.  He was LOADED with money and I turned him down.  :D  Money ain't everything, but you know, he was OK with my poz status.  That was cool, but he wasn't for me.   I agree with BT, good for you for saying "slow down" to your guy!  See if he's strong enough to slow down, tells a lot about character and self-control.  :)

Cristy~ I'm not too much of a packrat, lol, but if I threw out things I didn't need, my house would be empty.  I have learned, esp over the past year, that items and material things aren't everything.  I am going to clean out the underwear and sock drawers next!  LOL  So glad to hear you were dancing and having a great time on your date!   :-*  I went to DSS over the summer and they couldn't help me because my bills weren't past due yet, but I was below the poverty level while on unemployment.  You should see my credit card balance now, dammit.  I hope you get things straightened out with the bimbo who dropped the ball.  Keep on her, keep calling every other day and drive her nuts.  LOL

Time to iron my dress pants (yuck, I hate wearing them) for my interview tomorrow.  I have put together a chic outfit, very professional.  I have taupe pants with a pale pink blouse, and a chocolate blazer.  I really want to wear my brown high-heeled boots, but I fear I may tip over!  LOL  I might go for it, my black dress shoes look so frumpy.  LOL  :D

I miss Iceman tonight.  Sigh.

Queen, come home, lol!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #27 on: January 29, 2008, 06:24:24 AM »
OMG, BT, I had the SAME procedure done last May, MUCH different than a cervical, and I thought a truck was running me over!  I was ready to pass out, lol.  I have never had kids and I have a tilted uterus, so the GYN had trouble with the first "go."  OMG it was the longest five minutes of my life, tunnel vision and everything!

Jesus Christ, I am almost passing out here just reading this, I don't even like a PAP smear... damn it doesn't get any easier does it?! One thing I have noticed on any procedure whether getting by blood drawn or a PAP or dental hygene, SO MUCH depends on the professional. Some of them are really good and do things smoothly and painlessly, others, well, hell, even a hairdresser can rip out half your hair during a blowdry, so think how sensitive the people that do potentially painful things have to be. And these are exactly the people that we have absolutely no choice in seeing and we don't get to pick. Ouch.

Betty, you are one tough mama...

I am ok here, but wrist is not. Tendai, time will tell... you know what in the first months with my BF I had moments when I was cursing him and swearing to leave too. That's b/c of every little thing looks like a huge warning sign. Not that being oblivious is the best way, but mostly we try to detenct warning signs and give them all kind of tests, it's hard to know what something really signifies and what is just the weight that we attach to it. Know what I mean? But I understand the concern when involving money b/c the money situation where you're at is so crucial, and the last thing you need is someone trying to freeload off ya, and I imagine people are often desperate enough to try this sort of thing. Keep looking out for numero uno (yourself), girl.

Speaking of looking out, Viv, I am worried about you... you seem to want to break out of this cycle, or at least part of you does. I suppose there is a sense of responsibility keeping you in it as well, I know that is what made me drag bad relationships in the past. I have this one friend, she is married with kids for over a decade and still dragging an unfinished love afair with this married man she was with before her husband. Such is the power of not being able to let go. but what do you want in your life? don't you think you deserve better? what do you want your life story to be like in 20 years time? I know we have no control over many things, but we can at least try for the things we want. don't think I am judging you, though I must say I feel a resentment towards him. But the past in the past, whatever reasons made you hook up with this man, are they still valid? are you still the same person? I hope you can do whatever it is that makes you happy. If I thought that staying in this relationship was what did, I would say go for it, I mean what can happen that hasn't already happened? But isn't in time to envision another future for yourself?

Cristy, sounds like a great date. Good on ya! Hope the next one will be as good or more.

About age differences, well, I'd rather date someone my age or a little older, just as I'd rather date someone with a good job, lots of $$$, super handsome, and from a country where I'd like to live, but that is just a list, reality's much more complicated than any list of requirements, age is a given, and if you find someone who does it for you and he isn't the preferred age or wage or weight or whatever, I would never let that get in the way... it's different when people are online dating and setting criteria for who them wanna meet, when you actually do meet someone, all these things matter a lot less, I think...

Cindy, looks like you are really set on trying this job, I wish you all the luck. Your current one is kind of a dead end, so I figure it won't hurt to try. You got it right we have started "operation fertilization", no luck so far, maybe b/c as Betty commented, I am not ready or rather have mixed feelings b/c I do in fact want that very much but we haven't the ideal conditions (to say the least). BF currently unemployed and me on a temp contract, no social benefits (such as maternity leave), no premanent place to live, my apat's unsuitable for a baby, and no car... yup I don't think I missed out anything that we don't have actually. But thing is we might not have these things even in a year or two. I don't know, that's not how I thought it should be but then neither is anything else.

I gotta go ladies, lots of love for now


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« Reply #28 on: January 29, 2008, 09:26:57 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cin, when you mention your high-heeled boots, it makes me wonder how tall you are.  I'm 5'9" (I've actually shrunk an inch) and I always wanted to be shorter when I was younger so I could wear high heels.  So, since I never learned how to walk correctly in them when I was younger and I try to wear them now, the results are disasterous.  Anyway, good luck on the interview today and please let us know how it goes.  Thinking about you, gf.

Drag, you know, when I had my daughter my circumstances weren't the most ideal.  You do whatever you feel right with.

Other than that, I stayed up late last night after I thought I would get to bed early.   I watched the State of the Union address, talked to a friend until 11:30, then did some reading.  So I didn't get up today until 8:30.  It's a grey day here and rainy.  And tonight we have a winter storm warning, because the temp is supposed to drop and it's supposed to snow a lot. 

Well, hopefully by this time next week our Queen will be back with us.  Have a good one ladies-
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« Reply #29 on: January 29, 2008, 11:59:55 AM »
Hi Everyone!

Hope everyone is having a good day!  I dropped the kids off at school and I am going to try to clean up the house, see if I can get in touch with someone at the local ASO.  I want to watch the latest episode of the Wire...so there is nothing exciting planned here.  I love to be outdoors but it is too cold here now, I take the dogs out and that is about it.

Cindy- Your outfit sounds great for your interview.  I am sure you will do great!  Maybe you will luck out if you get the job and find someone who works there that lives near you and you can ride share or something.

Betty- I feel you on the high heels.  I am 5'9 too and can't walk in them either.  I don't know how people wear them all the time. 

How do you all do so well remembering who wrote what :)

When I was in college I had to go the local doc and get a pap done.  He kept trying over and over to put the large one in, I kept telling him"It's too big, It's too big"  Your fine, just relax, lay back.  I was in so much pain!  He finally listened to me and tried a smaller one and said "Oh, I apologize."  What a jerk!  This reminds me I am way overdue in getting a pap smear.  I have a long history of pre-cancerous cells and I have had more biopsys than I care to remember.  That was one thing I told myself I would do when I got the kids in school, make an appt with the OB.  It is so hard to find a good doc. that is good with poz people.  I had one in back in 92 0r 93, that tried to convince me that I needed a hysterectomy, I shouldn't have kids, when she found out I was poz.

That's it for now :)  Everyone take care!
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« Reply #30 on: January 29, 2008, 12:53:07 PM »
Leaving in 10 minutes for the 2pm interview!  I am 5' 5-1/2" barefoot, but people guess I am taller, I think its my long hair or something.  I am going to wear my black "flat" shoes with a short wedge heel.  I am dizzy girl today and my neck was actually in SPASMS at the computer today while working.  Drag was right.  It feels so good to get up and move!

Welcome, snowangel!  Have you posted in "By way on introduction" in the Women's Forum?  All of our histories are in there.

More soon!  Thank goodness its massage night tonight! :D

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #31 on: January 29, 2008, 09:27:28 PM »
Hello all! Well this morning I barely left my house in time. I just could not find anything to wear. Nothing fit, what I wanted was dirty, I felt fat...on and on. Ever had one of those days? Of course not I have clothes all over my bed.... :D

Well as far as my ex goes I am trying to break away. I have been talking about with my therapist which helps. I am trying to get it in my mind that I deserve better. What can I say? I am a work in progress. I am off to pick up my prescription...talk to you later!

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« Reply #32 on: January 29, 2008, 09:36:41 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Cin, I'm waiting to hear the news about your job interview!  I hope it went well.

Viv, I do have those days where I just can't decide what to wear.  Some days I stay in my jammees.

Class went well tonight.  On the way home, though, it was sleeting pretty hard and very windy.  The temp today was 49, tonight it's in the teens.  We're under a winter storm warning.  More grey days ahead. :-\  I hope all you ladies are having a good evening.
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« Reply #33 on: January 29, 2008, 11:08:26 PM »
OMG I KICKED ASS AT THE INTERVIEW!!!!!!!!!!

My recruiter said they would have made me an offer today if it weren't for the formality of meeting with a higher-up at the company.  I am SO excited!  I was interviewing in THE most expensive zip code in the area, yes, an affluent DC suburb where everyone is VERY wealthy.  Get this.....they wanted to be honest at the end of the interview and said I appeared "over-qualified," and they were afraid that if I got the job it wouldn't be long before I moved on.  I convinced them otherwise.  :D   What was I telling myself all summer long?  Good resume, good personality and everyone knows I won't work for beans. 

So, tomorrow I go back for interview #2!  When I walked into this very luxurious suite today in a nice office building, what do I see?  Almost everyone dressed in jeans!  Casual dress code!  OMG!  What a surprise!  And all of the FREE Diet Coke I can drink, and free snacks, and catered luch EVERY day.  Its so busy down in that area, that getting out to lunch just to pick something up would be a rush and still take an hour.  So they eat in the office, compliments of the boss.  I would also start accruing leave as soon as I was hired too, about a day a month or so....the list goes on, SO MANY wonderful benefits.  These are things that no employer does at the workplace anymore, everyone is so damn tight these days, lol!

OMG, I am STOKED!

Um, so I'm not going into my current job tomorrow, and believe me, my sore neck needs the rest.  My massuese couldn't believe how dense my neck muscles were tonight.  I guess I'll go in Thursday morning and resign, makes me sad to do it.  I would have been one of those loyal employees if it weren't for the neck spasms and a less than 40-hour workweek last week.  I can't remember if I even mentioned the hours thing.  They sent us all home after half days of work last Thursday and Friday, and ironically my recruiter called Friday afternoon.  I suppose the planets aligned at that very moment, lol!

I can wear jeans, I can wear jeans!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  :D

OK, I'll shut up now, lol.  I went to Iceman's after my massage and he fed me dinner, soup salad and sushi.  Yummy and low-carb.  He bought Guitar Heroes last night so we rocked out for about three hours until I was bug-eyed.  I left at 10pm.  BT, you may have heard this newer song, its maybe two years old, called "My Curse" by Killswitch Engage?  OMG it was a Bonus Download on Guitar Heroes and Iceman and I got it!  I rocked out, even played "One" by Metallica, too.  ;)

I need to go lay down before my head falls off of this poor neck.  Wish me luck with #2 tomorrow, I'm pretty much "in" but don't want to jinx myself.  These ladies interviewing me asked why I didn't interview last August when they were hiring, lol.  I said I was holding out for a position like theirs closer to home, but never found it.  Oh one more thing, this is NOT a temp position, its direct hire, permanent placement.  OMG!

I need to calm down so that I can get some rest!  Pray they make me a great offer as far as salary goes.......

Viv, best of luck with the therapy.  You ARE worth it, keep remembering that, ok?

I think everyone is hibernating and won't be out until the Groundhog sees his shadow or something, lol!  "Phil, oh Phil, do you know where our ladies are.............?"   :D

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #34 on: January 30, 2008, 07:28:15 AM »
blessed should be having her baby now isnt she. or she's already had it? didnt she say around the 28th?

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #35 on: January 30, 2008, 09:20:39 AM »
Good morning ladies:

It's only 1 degrees here this morning!  And all the schools are closed because of all the snow/ice we got last night.  Wow, what a change from yesterday at this time.  And we're supposed to get another snow storm tomorrow night-6-10 inches of snow!  This is so different than it was from last winter.  And my caseworker called today and told me there was something wrong with my bank statement I sent her and she needs a new one.  This will delay my food stamps even more.  And Monday she told me the stamps would be on my card by today!  This makes me very angry.  What do they think people are supposed to do for food while they're fucking around?!  Not that I got a lot anyway, I'm only supposed to be getting $10/month.  But still, that would buy the basic things.  Oh, I am livid right now!

Cin, I'm so glad that the interview went so well yesterday.  Good luck today!  Let us know how things go.  I'm not familiar with that song you were talking about.  I'm just getting back into adult alternative music.  I was a classic rock junkie for many years.

I'm not sure when blessed is having her baby.  She's due now? 

OK ladies, I'm off to continue my temper tantrum! ;)  Have a good one-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #36 on: January 30, 2008, 02:23:42 PM »
Hey ladies, just checking in to say HEy, Good luck with your interview Cin, im sure you'll nail it...what will you be doing??

Betty did u get that bleeding thing fugured out at the docs?..sorry if u said n i didnt see it...Im thinking about goin on that bc pill that reduces your period to 4 per year and also shortens length of time...but i have to read about the side effects..im sick of having my period!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Nothing new goin on, just working and chilling...thinking about going to culinary schoool...i just need a career that is fulfilling and interesting..my JOB is none of that....but i love cooking..i need to do something..i thinkim nearing that midlife cris age...UUGGHHHH>>>>>> :o
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« Reply #37 on: January 30, 2008, 03:39:45 PM »
Wishful, I went to see the gynecologist and he's putting me on the Depo shots.  I'll begin those next week.  Oh, one of my friend's sons is going to go to culinary school starting next month.  Check in here more often!  How's things going with the bf?
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #38 on: January 30, 2008, 04:41:06 PM »
Hi GFs~

I GOT THE JOB!!  :D  I GOT THE JOB!!  :D  I GOT THE JOB!!  :D
I wasn't out of the interview more than a half hour when my recruiter called and made an offer.  They went $3K higher than they wanted to, which was at the lower end of what I wanted, but there are so many good benefits!  They've already asked if I can go to happy hour Friday, lol.  I have group every Friday, and I get SO exhausted anyway.  Also, its the first day of the smoking ban here, I wonder if they remember that?  I don't smoke, but they do.  And I haven't had a drink in 2 years because of my insulin pump.  I am going to say I already have plans.

I am still a little nervous about the commute because my neck is so sore these days, but steady as she goes.  I'll adapt and be better soon.  I will be doing Bookkeeping and crunching numbers.  I love math and accounting, but I know its not for everyone. 

I couldn't even sleep in today.  I had to call in to work at 630am and tell them I wasn't coming in, and I planned on going back to sleep until 9am or so.  I remembered that the power company was shutting down power between 9am and 2pm to do work, so I had to shower and BLOW-DRY my hair before 9am, or else I'd be screwed.  So, that's what I did, and the power was out from 930am until 1230pm.  I mopped the kitchen floor, balanced my checkbook, called my GYN office to dispute a balance I had......I got a few things done.

BT~  That sucks about the food stamps.  You should ask your case worker if you can borrow $10 from her to tide you over.  I love being a smart-ass like that, lol!  Hopefully, you've calmed down a little, you're a trooper, I know it!  Here's the link to "My Curse" by Killswitch Engage.  And beware GFs, if you aren't a Metalhead you will think BT and I are a couple of freaks, lol!  But I love a great guitar shredding.......Enjoy, BT!  I can't figure out if that's you or me in the video, lol!  :D  (Ooooooh, girl, check out her boots at the end when she's laying down, lol!)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=iPW9AbRMwFU

Tendai, I thought the same thing about Blessed last week, her avatar said "8-1/2 months and counting" so its got to be right about now.

Wishful, you are only 31 GF, its not a mid-life crisis, its life.  Roll with it and keep your chin up.  Good luck with the new contraceptives if you choose to go on them.  I think they are called "Seasonale."


Drag, Cam, Cristy, QUEEN, confused, sun, win........where are you girls?

Stay warm!

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« Reply #39 on: January 30, 2008, 07:00:25 PM »
Cin, you go girl!  I'm so glad you got the job you wanted!  Do you remember when you were kind of down and I told you that you had good Karma?  See?!  I will look at the link later though; I'm listening to downloaded music right now.  Some old Ted Nugent's on right now; and although I disagree with his stance politically etc., I do love his music. 

Yes, Cin and I like metal.  I like all kinds of music.  I like some old school stuff, and really luv the blues.  I can also be found sometimes listening to classical.  I used to play the piano and I loved to play 'Fur Elise.' 

Not much else to report.  It's only 11 degrees here (and dropping).  I went to a food bank today and got some brownie mix.  So at least I have chocolate.(Yes, I got brownie mix at the food pantry).  So I'm set for tonight.  Have a good one-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #40 on: January 30, 2008, 08:25:19 PM »
Hi Girls

Good news, I got my lab results back and everything looks good, I am still undetectable and my CD4's are nearing 800.  So now I maybe able to sleep tonight.  I have been really stressed out and have to say that after reading some of these post in some of the other threads and it freaked me out to hear that other people were not doing as well as I wished they were.  I am also glad to hear about the new study that was posted on the front of this site.  The study about being undetectable and on meds its less likely to be transmitted.  So that is good news, now we just have to get this information out to the public so everyone will know and maybe people will not be so afraid to be with people that are positive.

Well, I have not had my date with that guy yet.  We will call him Cop #3.  Cope #3 has been sick and I had not heard from him in a day in a half.  So finally today I left him a message that I was getting worried.   He sent me a text back and said that he was still sick and got some bad news from his doctor.  When I asked if he wanted to talk he never texted me back, so now I am starting to get worried.

Today I had lunch with my friend and we were talking about my man situation or lack of situation in finding a guy that will worship me and treat me the way I should be treated.  After we went to lunch went to Costco to make an exchange and this guy who helped was very nice and I thanked him for helping me, then he said since he helped me that I had to go to dinner with him.  He then handed me his business card and said to give him a call and the he was Mr. Excitement.  Well, I told him that he better be Mr. Excitement if he wanted to hang out with me.  So when I got in the parking lot I called and left him a message saying that I am a little old fashion and if he would like to go out he could call me and here was my number.  So if he calls cool, and if not good boost to the ego. 

[GOOD LUCK WITH THE NEW JOB CINDY][/move]

Cindy- Good news about the job.  Sorry to hear about your neck and back problems.  I have horrible neck problems myself.  I just ordered these things on Amazon called Magic Balls, no they are not the magic balls that the Latin Lover or Iceman have but they are for your neck and back.  My massage therapist and my chiropractor told me about them.  So they should be here to more, they are suppose to relief the stress and hit your pressure points.  I will let you know if they work. 

Betty- Stay warm, that is damn cold where ever you are at.  I won't complain about it being in the 40's   here in California.

Vivyt- Sorry for the delay in answering your questions I live near San Francisco, but closer to Monterey.  We are really not that far away, about 5 hours by car.  If you are ever up for a road trip we can meet half way and meet at some nice spa and pamper ourself.

Wishful- Wow culinary school, I always thought if I got out of law enforcement I would love to open a bakery.  I love to cook and bake.  I would like to take some classes and get in tune with my cake decorating skills.  Where are you thinking of going to school?  Not sure where you live, but San Francisco has an excellent culinary school.   

Well, good to be back posting, I have had horrible PMS and have been stressing about my results so I am glad everything is shaping up.




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« Reply #41 on: January 30, 2008, 08:26:55 PM »
Ok sorry tried to get that damn marquee thing to work when I was trying to tell Cindy congrats on the new job.  Can anyone tell me how this works.  please

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« Reply #42 on: January 30, 2008, 09:18:20 PM »
Congratulations Moonlight on your new job.  Hope that it works out well for you. I think I would like the catered lunch part.                        Betty, chocolate is our friend. Try to stay warm and bake those brownies ,  yum.                                                                               SS, your numbers sound really great. Hope the guy calls you. Going out is fun.                      Wishful, cooking school sounds like fun. I  would love to be a pastry chef but would  have to test everything for quality.      Not much going on here. I will not be going on a second date with my local guy and I told the one from SC that I had lost interest. So no potential dates. I would love to go out more but am trying to make friends with a couple girls at work so we could have playdates for the kids and maybe ladies night out sometime for the Mommies.   Not much interested in dating but want some people to hang out with. There are always my books if I need to escape.                 Just wanted to check in. Hope everyone is happy, warm and safe. Later, Cristy                                                                                             

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #43 on: January 30, 2008, 09:27:57 PM »
I just ordered these things on Amazon called Magic Balls, no they are not the magic balls that the Latin Lover or Iceman have but they are for your neck and back. 

OMG, I had a good BELLOWing laugh when I read about the magic balls, oh yes, my man HAS them..... ;)

Watch out for Mr. Excitement, he's sounds a little fishy......get that taser ready, GF!   :o

Cristy, GF!  No dates?  OK, I'll let you off easy this time......but I DO admire your wanting to be social with the Mommies.  :)

BT, now you have me wanting brownies!  Goodness, can you FedEx me some?   :P

Have to go to bed so I can go in and resign tomorrow.  Not looking forward to it, but Iceman says not to feel bad.  They sent me home two days last week with no notice, so wtf, right?  I am so damn sentimental......I'll probably cry tomorrow, lol.

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #44 on: January 31, 2008, 07:06:23 AM »
Good morning ladies-
Yeah, I'm up way too early.  But I had a very disturbing dream that woke me up & I couldn't get back to sleep.

Sun, that dude you met at the store sounds like a slickster to me.  My brother has a name for those type of guys-flim-flammers.  Just be careful.  Of course, you're in law enforcement, so you can probably get your hands on some pretty good defense tools should need be.  What do you do exactly again?

Cristy, no more dates with the guy?  May I ask why?  I'm not judging you.  I'm glad you want to have a social life with the mums. 

Cin, I would fed-ex you some brownies, but they're almot all gone. :o  Well, a friend came over last night so I guess I can blame part of it on her, even though she only ate one.  I love chocolate and the whole trip to the food pantry was worth it just to get that mix! 

Tonight in my Ethics class we're going to be discussing 'abortion' & 'euthenasia.'  I have a very decided stance on both.  I believe in a woman's right to choose & I believe that people should die with dignity.  I know it's a very grey area and people who aren't in the middle can be pretty crazy about it sometimes.  Hopefully things won't get too heated.  Alright ladies, have a good one.  I'm sure I'll be checking in again today.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #45 on: January 31, 2008, 08:40:17 AM »
Ladies,

It's awfully windy and dark here, I have to leave for the dentist soon and am hardly working. Not fun to be on a bike in this weather!

Cindy - CONGRATULATIONS!!!! isn't it amazing how things work out!!! I knew you wouldn't stay in your current job for long. I am so happy for you.

I am tense over work issues, but don't want to get into it now. Fuckit.

Cristy, sad to hear things didn't work out for you. Is it because of disclosure? hope you're not too disappointed.

Wishful, nice to see you around.

Sun, "Mr. Excitement" huh? That's kind of funny, depending on whether he was seriously smooth or just jokingly smooth, hard to say really. It's so hard to know upfront.

Abortion and euthensia are both widely accepted here (Holland). It is the GP that performs euthenasia actually, and it is a common thing.
I can't say I liked having an abortion when I had it, but it is an important right, it's "hot" in the States always, but here nobody debates over it anymore. Even in Spain which is strongly influenced by the church or in Israel, which doesn't really seperate religion and government, you can easily get an abortion paid for by the state health system. There is a little red tape but in reality, no one is refused an abortion if they want it. It's still illegal in Portugal, Ireland and some Eastern European countries I believe, though might be wrong.

To me, debating abortion is like debating women's right to vote - it seems undebatable, you know what I mean?
I am not necessarily for abortion as in what I would recommend to a friend, but for the right for it. I think any woman's who's had one, knows how serious a descision that is. It's not something that is done lightly.

Hope you ladies have a great day, wherever you are.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #46 on: January 31, 2008, 02:14:32 PM »
Snowangel, how rude of me: welcome to the forums!

You must excuse my bad manners, I usually write from work when I am all over the place.

Hope to hear more from you.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #47 on: January 31, 2008, 02:27:07 PM »
Sorry I wasnt paying attention to the names again. Welcome to AIDSmeds Snow.

I like wearing heels if they dont hurt my feet. Because I feel like a giant and can look over most peoples heads. LOL
I'd rather walk everywhere in house shoes though.  ;D

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #48 on: January 31, 2008, 06:46:11 PM »
Hi all. I have been popping in and reading. I just don't have a lot to add. I've been hoping to see a post from Queen. I'm guessing no one has heard from her still. Hopefully she'll be around soon. Congratulations on the job Cindy. I'm looking myself so I know how glad you are to be done looking. I hope everyone has a great day.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #49 on: January 31, 2008, 08:55:40 PM »
Hi GFs~

Man oh man, is Queen going to have a lot to read when she returns!  LOL  Any day now, GF..........

I went into work at 7am today and expected my boss to arrive at 730am.  My friend from training who happened to get a spot next to me in cubicle world was out today.  She is the only one who knew I was going on an interview.  I didn't see her yesterday or today, so I didn't get to say goodbye.  I left her a note with my cell # though.  I'll miss her.

Anyway, I kept walking clear across cubicle world to go speak with my boss, 3x in a half hour, and she came in late, lol.  I was so nervous, but I went up with a big smile on my face and said, "I've been offered a permanent position and I need to resign."  She is the coolest, she was happy for me, and with us temps, I know she sees people come and go all of the time.  We talked for about 15 minutes and then I went and made my rounds to say good-bye to a few friends I had made.  They were very surprised that I was leaving.  As in leaving right now.  I worked for an hour today and packed up my things and left.

I went shopping at Target and called my local recruiter and my new boss, saying I would take them up on the offer to start Monday instead of tomorrow.  We are supposed to get a bunch of ice and crap tonight and tomorrow morning, and I want a few days rest.  My neck is enjoying the relaxation.

By 1045am today, Cheech and I were at Iceman's house, we arrived while he was away at work.  I got to play Guitar Hero on his gargantuan TV and watched my soap (AMC), just chilled out and enjoyed the quiet.  Ahhhhhh.

Iceman came home at 4pm with about 20 colossal shrimp from the store and we peeled and ate them in record time.  Yum!  We made linguine for dinner and have been watching the Caps game (NHL).  Iceman has invited me to a game next Friday night -- he got free tix through work from a former Capital player!

So, I had a half day last Tues and went in for my first interview, I was off yesterday and went in for my second interview and got the job.  I worked for an hour this morning, off Friday through Sunday.

Life is good.  Oh, and Saturday, Groundhog Day, is Cheech's 14th birthday (yaaaaaaaaaay!  :D, and also three months for Iceman and I.  He keeps asking me how he got so lucky, and I ask him the same thing in return.  Sweet.   :)

Have a good night, all...........BT stay safe in that crap that is falling out your way!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #50 on: January 31, 2008, 09:32:39 PM »
Good evening ladies-

In class tonight we didn't get to the abortion issue.  On the other (euthenasia) we all basically agreed with the relativism arguement-it depends on the situation.  Anyway, we're supposed to get up to 14 inches of snow by late tomorrow morning.  Man, I am so sick of winter. 

I think we'll be hearing from Queen sometime next week.  I'm looking forward to having her around again-it's been too long!

Cin, I'm glad your life seems to be finally settling in.  Good for you! :-*  Happy birthday to Cheech, although I have no idea when groundhog day is.

I really don't have a lot to say tonight ladies.  Have a good one.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #51 on: January 31, 2008, 09:44:10 PM »
Hi everyone,
Thanks for the warm welcome!  I found an introduce yourself in one of the other threads, am I supposed to post something there too.  I think I almost have this figured out.

Do you think me saying trip     lets like this, it would show up if someone were to do a search?  I hope not?

I think I mentioned I finally got the trip   lets in daycare in the morning before they go to PK.  Which is great BUT my one complaint is that in order for us to get to the school we have to walk the equivalent of 2 football fields(sometimes 3 if I can't find a parking spot) and it is freaking cold here right now.  They already haven't been feeling that well, so I have to carry at least one of them so by the time I get to the school ,I am exhausted.  They are already complaining because I am supposed to be there by 9 and I usually get in the door at like 5 minutes past.  Today I couldn't find a parking spot on the school side of the street so I had to walk across the street with everyone.  AND it is not in a good area of town so I feel like a walking target with a neon sign on my head that says "ROB ME, I am easy target".  I am grateful they are finally in an all day program but I get so stressed in the morning trying to get them in the door  safely ,I hope it will be worth it the long run.  Thats my bitch for the day...thanks for letting me vent :)


Win- I hated it when I was little but I like being taller than everyone now.  I love me some sneakers :)  I am lucky I have small feet and I can buy them in the kids section.

Drag- I hope things get better at work for you!

Sun- Heard anything on cop #3?  How do you like your job?  I always wanted to be a cop or a detective.

Betty- Your brownies sounded delicious!  I am lucky if I get 2 when I make them.  :)  I hope they legalize euthanasia in the states.  Both my parents are adamant about not wanting to be on life support  and they want me to shoot them if they lose their minds.  Not gonna happen, sorry :(.

Wish- Good luck if you decide to go with cooking school, it will just make it twice as nice if it is something you enjoy.

Hope everyone had a great day and a wonderful night!

Take care,
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #52 on: February 01, 2008, 12:45:03 AM »
Hey all! Welcome Snowangel!

Cindy-Congratulations on your new job!

Betty-Did you hear something about Queen?

I have kind of a cute story from my classroom. For those of you who don't know I teach 5th grade. I have an autistic student in my class who is high functioning and VERY bright. He really has trouble socially and doesn't do much of anything in class. He is a lot of work but I enjoy having him in class. It takes him a long time to get anything out and sometimes I wonder if he is "getting" some of what I say. Well the other day he said something that was so funny. When my kids act like they are in a hurry to leave or look at the clock I always ask them if they have a "hot date" to get ready for. They respond..."ewwwwwwwwwwww!!" Well on Tuesday my autistic boy went for the door before it was time to go and I asked him if he had a hot date and he said "Of course not." Fastforward to yesterday...we were cleaning up and getting ready to go out to P.E. and he thought we were leaving and took his backpack to the back door. I said, "Raymond, we're not leaving yet." and he said, "I have a hot date!" and smiled. It was sooo funny! Everyone laughed. He definitely showed he has a sense of humor and is really listening and understanding what is going on. Anyways....just something cute.

Have a nice evening ladies

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #53 on: February 01, 2008, 07:51:49 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Well, we got hit.  There's already like 8 inches of snow outside and it's not supposed to let up until after 7:00 tonight.  With the windchill it's 9 outside.  And pretty soon I'm going to have to go out and shovel.  Oh, to have a slave to do all my work for me.......

Snow, glad you found us here.  Yes, if you'd like you can put your story in our intro thread.  I really don't think anyone would "discover" who you are by you putting in trip lets.  I myself was trying to figure out what you were talking about.  That daycare kind of sounds like a hassle.  You have to walk two football fields to get them in the door even when you do find a parking space?  You have more energy than I do. 

Viv, I loved the story about your autistic student!  Kids say some of the cutest things!

I myself believe in euthenasia, in almost all circumstances.  I think maybe the diagnosis would have to be 100% terminal.  My mum had a living will.  She was not given any nutrition/fluids to keep her alive.  We kept her very comfortable and she died peacefully.  When I had my power-of-attorney and will drawn up, in '94 when my doctor called Hospice in for me, the place that did them is Catholic (Notre Dame legal aid) so they wouldn't do a living will.  I should get one done.  I think it's important. 

Anyway, I'm going to read today.  I have two papers to knock out this weekend.  I hope I can get my brain working.  I think it kind of goes along with the weather and right now it's in a deep freeze.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #54 on: February 01, 2008, 03:14:23 PM »
Hey, there ladies-----

Your girl is back, though a bit tired at the moment. I need toothpicks to hold my eyelids open. But before I catch a nap, I wanted to thank everyone for their concern. I really appreciate the love. I have been answering pms, ims, and threads. The reason no one has heard from me was because I had a meltdown and checked myself into the hospital for depression. I was there for about a week. After getting out, I still was not myself and wanted to just get my bearings. I am feeling better but honestly still not at 100 percent. I have started depression meds and something to help me sleep at night. My mind races so much about things. And yes, I am still smoking the good green. Funny, while in the hospital I got asked the drug question. My response, no but I smoke weed.... :D Do you want to talk to a drug counselor? No, just help dealing with this depression, thank you very much...

I know some wondered why my roomie did not jump on the internet. For one, she is very computer illiterate and does not know her way around the internet much less a computer. She also respected my wishes and did not tell anyone where I was who came around and asked for me. I love her for that because she knows that I am a very private person and I wanted to be the one to divulge any info on where I have been. No one here really knows what happened to me except for a few select people. I did not even inform my son because I did not want him to worry. Just know that I am doing better and will soon be getting with my own personal therapist. Poor thing, whoever that will be, because they will be working hard for their money dealing with me... ;D

It is good to see that the thread was still going strong in my absence. There is quite a bit for me to catch up on and will take the time to try to respond over the weekend to what I will come across. Give me a few to play catch up. But for now, I just wanted to check in and let you all know that I am back. I love you all..
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #55 on: February 01, 2008, 03:20:31 PM »
Cues Trumpets....... All Hail The Return Of the Queen!!!!!!!!                      So glad that you are back. There were quite a few people worried about you. We love you.  Sorry that you had to go to the hospital but glad you got some help. Hope things will get better.      Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #56 on: February 01, 2008, 03:53:52 PM »
Glad you made it back Queen.

Snow - I've got size 8 1/2 feet. Seems like all the cute shoes are under size 7 and the 8 1/2 section is usually picked clean of anything that isn't butt ugly or useless to me by the time I decide to buy a pair. I occasionally get lucky.

Now for my bitch of the day... Since I so rarely bitch online LOL
I went to the clinic today for my regular appointment they give you an appointment the week following having your labs done. I clearly recall them telling me today at 1:00. I got there and the lady says nooo, its next week at 1:30.
I know I don't have that much HIV in my brain today. I know someone changed the appointment and didn't tell me.
I didn't make a fuss. I just told her my observation and let her know I knew it wasn't her fault and to have a nice day.

I figured since I was there I'd try to get my birthcontrol filled so the trip wouldn't be a waste of time. Nope! too early. Come back Monday the nice pharmacist says.
Ok, I think well last time I was here the financial department had an issue with TDH <Texas Department of Health> apparently the doctors did not issue a paper stating what medications I was on so they didn't want to cover the cost of my meds. So I thought I would go to their department and see if I could resolve that issue.
Wrong!
I went in there and the lady told me I haven't been there since 2005 and all the paper work I had given to them in November and December of 2007 was missing so I'd have to fill out a new application and provide them with documentation showing proof of income and residence.
After talking to her for a while she found a note in the computer file stating I'd been dumped from the system pending income verification.

<Heavy sigh>

I appreciate the medical care I receive but my goodness they sure do make it hard to keep on top of things when they screw up and blame it on me. Fortunately they still show me as being on Ryan White so I can still get meds. They will likely try to bill me for any doctors visits until I can get them to enter me into the system correctly and not "dump" my records.

Whats a girl to do?

Laugh I guess - makes it harder to cry LOL

Seriously I'm in a good mood. This junk in dealing with a county hospital clinic is nothing new to me. Its a pain in the ass and subpar sometimes but I'm used to it.

Have a nice weekend ladies,

Wendy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #57 on: February 01, 2008, 06:50:02 PM »
Ugh!!!! I still have not gotten a nap in and I feel like a freaking zombie who is also high as shit... ;) Instead of saying gimme brains, I am saying gimme more good green and some sleep...sleeeeeeeep....LMAO. Yeah, despite it all, I still have my sense of humor. I feel like I have missed so much not being around, maybe that is why I haven't gone to sleep yet. Best believe I am taking my high yellow ass to sleep early tonight and will take my trazadone still too.

I remember someone mentioning that their A1C is 7....That isn't good at all. They took mine while in the hospital and mine was 5.9. I hated the meals while there because they had me on that dreaded diabetic diet which meant the food tasted like crap. But when I was going to sleep at night and they would come in to check my sugars, they were dropping very low. A few times it was like 58 which was the lowest and other times somewhere in the 60's. This had never happened to me before which I let them know but since I have been back home, it has not dropped no where near that low. But I am eating better than I was there and back to drinking my Pepsi. One time they wanted to give me 2 units of insulin but I wouldn't let them since I knew my sugar was getting low at night. I felt that would prolly put my body into an insulin coma.

As for the romance part of my life, Rico got kicked to the curb before I went into the hospital. Good riddance. There is someone else interested in me but at the moment, I just don't have the energy to be really interested, if that makes any sense. From what I have heard about him, he seems to be a nice guy. And he's a white man. Yep, I'll try a different flavor, thank you very much. But at this point and fresh out the hospital, I am moving at a snail's pace. The disclosure thing is still an issue for me, got to put my feelers out but maybe things will be a little different considering that he is in the medical field. Maybe this one will be more open. I am not jumping the gun since we haven't even met yet. Just been playing phone tag. But I have decided that if this is to take a more physical turn, I will disclose before losing my clothes. So, yes, I have learned from the last experience and due to my fragile state about now, I don't want to carry around the guilt of not disclosing. But at this point, I am not putting the cart before the horse.

I have been braiding my hair all week so when finished maybe I will take some new pics. I might even post a few, who knows? I hope you ladies are doing well and please know that I have missed my "sisters". Have a good weekend.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #58 on: February 01, 2008, 07:00:06 PM »
Hey Queen

Welcome back! Im glad to hear from you!! I had some intuition it might be more than a disconnected line, call it a 6th sense... I been there myself, depression, and all that. I am really glad to see you back. Sometimes we need a crisis to get things to get better, like growing pains.

Its almost 1 am here, just wanna say hi.

Wendy, I just had the idea, we should start a "bitch of the day" thread. there is always something to bitch about, at least in my neck of the woods. I admire your attitude, always better to laugh than cry, I try to do that, don't always succeed. You have nerves of steel, it seems.

Confused, how are you? haven't seen you in a while.
 Cin, next week you will be eating that catered food in the office suit, wearing jeans!
Cristy, "there are always books" is one of the consoling things I tell myself, I just love books, I should be reading more b/c thats what I love most.
Betty, good luck with your papers, I gotta work this weekend too cos flying home next week.
Viv, cute kid, it's nice that he can communicate like that, it must be so satisfying for you to see kids blossom like this.
Tendai, sorry I didnt reply but I really hope youre having a nice weekend, no pressure.
Snow, trip lets?!!! I somehow missed that. I mean I knew you had 4 but didnt know 3 where together. wow, OMG!! that's amazing. Im scared just thinking of one. I'd love to know more on how you manage it, and
Wishful too, but in fact I dont know how you ladies find time to post at all. In your free time ladies, whenever...
signing off now, love to all.



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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #59 on: February 01, 2008, 07:22:03 PM »
THE QUEEN IS BACK!
Girl, we really missed you on here!  I missed your sense of humor and your "getting right to the point" attitude.  I need someone like that in my life.  I've been hospitalized for depression before.  Good for you for recognizing it and doing something.  I remember when I would just wallow around, feeling like dying, but at the same time not wanting to kill myself.  I'm gald you're back.  I've taken Trazadone before.  It's a good sleep medication, and works better if you eat something with it. 

Wendy, I know about those government agencies!  They are pains in the ass.  But, what can one do.  I'm just glad you could keep your sense of humor.

Drag, I hope you can get some rest this weekend.  Don't get yourself too wore down!

OK Cin, where are you?  IM'ing Queen?  I haven't installed that IM thing yet.  One of my friends said not to, because yahoo would "take over my computer."

Ok, my neighbor's (the ones in the middle apartment) smoke alarm is going off and it's driving me crazy!  I don't know if anyone is home or not.  I think I hear someone.  I'll wait for a few minutes, and if it doesn't go off, I'll go knock on their door, then call the landlord if no one answers.  Always something.

My best gay friend took me out to eat at a Chinese restaurant.  They used to have good food, but the quality this time left a lot to be desired.  Oh well, I had good company.  No, great company.  It was one of those "bitch about people we don't like" kind of dinner.  Which is what I needed at the time.

Well, the girl in the front apartment was outside (I just went to bang on the neighbor's door) and she said she's frying chicken. So I guess that irritating noise will be going off for awhile.  (They're not home where the alarm is going off)  OH, it's starting to shut off.  Thank God.  Other than that, nothing happening here.   Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #60 on: February 01, 2008, 08:24:58 PM »
It is good to be back, Betty. I have not heard from Cindy yet on Yahoo. Not sure what you're friend meant by Yahoo taking over your computer. I have been using it for awhile and if you download the messenger you don't have to necessarily download the add ons, it gives you the option not to. The only thing aggravating about Yahoo Messenger is that it will sometimes slow you up if you play computer games. Give it a try, if you don't like it, you can always uninstall it. I would love to chat with you away from here. Me and my smart ass humor is back, that is why I still have not finished braiding my hair and kinda resembles a rooster right about now... ;D

Dragonette, Yes, things have been looking a bit up since getting out from the hospital. I have even been talking with my oldest sister who suffers from depression too. So, we have been sharing....
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #61 on: February 01, 2008, 08:46:39 PM »
Queen, you need to come and show me how to do Mini's hair.  I'm at a loss! 

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #62 on: February 01, 2008, 09:01:20 PM »
Queen and Her Green, Back on the Scene!!    ;D     ;D
OMG GF, I am so glad you're OK.  I will be starting a new job Monday, have been loafing around these past few days taking it easy.

I am so sorry you had crap to deal with.  I wonder if the Atripla is making your mind race?  I get like that, hell I AM like that, all of the time, but I try to roll with it.  Taking Xanax before bed helps me to fall asleep, though.

I'll give you the weekend to recoup and catch up.  I look forward to reading your blog for the update.  We can chat on IM as well sometime when you're ready, too.

What's the latest with your hearing aids, btw?

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #63 on: February 01, 2008, 09:20:59 PM »
Welcome back Queen! I am glad to hear that you are doing ok and getting whatever help you need. I totally understand that depression thing. The summer of 2006 I hit it pretty low. That was before I was diagnosed and was just starting to really get sick. Hang in there!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #64 on: February 01, 2008, 10:31:44 PM »
Welcome Back, Queen!  I'm Snow.  Hope you are feeling better!

Win-  I think you are right, I am a 7 1/2 and there is never any left, ever, especially the cute ones.  We have a JC Penney outlet up here and they are having a sale now that the clearance items are 1/2 off.  I found the cutest pair of size 5 heels and they would have been $1.50.  Leather.  I was bummed.  Right in my price range :)  Speaking of making appts, one of the trip  lets has eye glasses and his doc sends out reminder cards.  I had in up in the visor and noticed it the morning of the appt.  So we went over right on time, got in line, couldn't find his name.  It turns out they had resent out last years cards for January so I got the day and time right but I was off a year.  Oh well, I tried.  

Viv- Your student sounds so adorable!  Hope your staying well this time of year, I know around here everyone sends there kids to school sick and it drives me nuts.  We get rid of one cold and get another.

Drag- I manage by doing whatever definately needs to get done and not worrying about the other shit :)  My house is a mess, I take a shower every other day. Bribery is a beautiful thing, it sounds bad but it works.
I love to read too, especially all the crime novels, takes me away, makes me think my life isn't so bad sometimes.


Betty- We are getting lots of rain here, I am sure it will be nice and slippery in the morning.  Hope your reading goes well.  I do not have that concentration anymore to read factual stuff and actually have a clue of what I read later, maybe if it something I am really, really interested in.

Someone from the local Aids Foundation finally called me back today.  They don't have any support groups but they give financial support so she is sending me an application.  She also gave some contact info so that I could look into getting a case manager.  With finding this website and getting the info today, I finally see a light at the end of the tunnel.  Almost.


I hope everyone has a great night!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #65 on: February 02, 2008, 12:09:46 AM »
Hey, what happened to Afraid? Did I miss something? Last I recall she dumped her boyfriend and changed her number. I just thought of her and wondered what had happen.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #66 on: February 02, 2008, 01:30:20 AM »
Ugh, I have still not been to sleep. I was going to try to blog tonight to explain things a bit better but I am just plain exhausted. I will work on it tomorrow sometime. Well, I see a new face...Snow, how the hell are you? I haven't peeped your intro or anything so I am winging it. Welcome to the forums. Speaking of local ASO case managers, I plan on getting a new one. I left a message for the Supervisor because I felt she could've done a better job of helping me get my hearing aids replaced. My old case manager would've taken me and he worked more than 2 days a week. The gas was always reimbursed, so it wasn't like she would've been taking a loss.

I will also be moving once again, prolly in April. The gas bill is plain outrageous. I am paying more out for my gas bill than rent and cable combined. Once I move which will be not even a block from where I am, there will be another room mate, a male. Actually, it use to be where my current roomie use to live. I know the man and he is nice so there will be no problems. There is a huge attic so I will transform that into my bedroom and living room. The bills will be much easier to handle and I will have the chance to finally save some money. Both my roomies are at least 15 + years older than me and I prefer that. I feel like the ghetto Three's Company.... ;D

Cindy, Nurse Leah thinks the Atripla may have led to my depression and I have heard it can in certain people. I am now on Celexa for the depression and my ID doc thinks that I can stay on the Atripla since I have started taking it. I agree because I really don't want to go on something new and have to deal with side effects again. If I catch wind of feeling down or whatever, I know what to do.  And there is another place that is more residential and not like the hospital. I had been there when my sister fell into a deep depression but at the time, I wanted to be somewhere where I couldn't just walk out. Well, I could've at the hospital but didn't want to.

As far as my hearing aids go, I got my left one back but the right one is being repaired. My insurance finally decided to cover the repair. And my son had someone's car and took me to get it. This was like the next day after being out of the hospital. I am feeling a bit relieved about that. It has been a week since I dropped off the right one but Ed said something with the volume control was shorted out so I guess it is taking a bit longer. And I have new warranty for both hearing aids which is a year. But Ed has been a trooper about it all. I had planned on seeing him twice before I went into the hospital but couldn't make it for lack of a ride. Then I was in the hospital and could barely hear any messages from my voicemail on the hospital phones. It was funny because the day I was heading to see Ed, he had called to tell me my left one was back.

Mom, You can't braid hair? That amazes me sometimes, I don't know why. But then I know a guy who braids his sons hair, he has 3 of them and a daughter. His gf can't braid. I like doing braids actually and if I was near, I wouldn't mind doing Mini's at all. It actually takes me about a week to do my own. Depending on how you would want Mini's hair done and if she could sit for that long, I could get it done way quicker than my own. I still have to learn how to braid designs though.

I been seeing there are still some sisters missing. Has Ms. NY check in at all? I didn't notice a post by Cammie or Sunseeker and I hope Afraid is doing better too. As much as I would like to stay on chat for a bit more, I need to lay it down and fall into a deep coma. My roomie actually told me I snore. OMG, but she said I am not loud, thank the Goddess for that. I will chat with you all tomorrow sometime....I really need to finish my hair before I do though, so it may be late in the day or evening.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #67 on: February 02, 2008, 07:33:16 AM »
Good morning ladies-

Yes, I know, it's a crazy time to be up on a Saturday, or any other morning for that matter.  It's only 7:10 here.  We got a ton of snow yesterday.  14 inches.  Maybe I already posted that.(?)  Oh well.  I'm still pissed about it.  Monday it's supposed to be 43, Tuesday 40 and rain/changing to snow late Tuesday night.  I don't know what is causing this craziness with the weather, but I will be so glad when spring is here.  I feel like I need to have one of those lights that some people use who had that seasonal affective disorder. 

Queen, I was serious about eating with the Trazadone.  It makes it work quicker.  You know, if you're having trouble falling asleep with it.  I'm just so glad you're back.  I think the thing my friend was talking about was all the random stuff that yahoo pops up onto the computer (extra downloads).  I might still try it.  I'd love to chat with you also.  I'm glad you'll be moving into a more affordable place.  Where I live the utilities are included in the rent.  It's still hard to make it though living on "the system," as well you know.

Snow, I'm glad your Aids foundation is going to help you some financially.  Too bad they don't have any support groups, though.  The aso here does, but it's on a night I'm in school.  And believe me, my concentration isn't all that wonderful.  I used to be able to cram for a test the night before the actual test and recall everything.  Now, I have to study like three times a day, three days before the test to retain anything.  And it's still hard.

Well, as for living on the system-I still have not gotten my food stamps on my card yet.  I know it's only $10, but hey, every little bit helps.  My aso has a food pantry and my case manager gave me some food Thursday and a $10 food voucher to a local grocery store.  Now, my recertification took place (or supposedly took place) in December and the case worker is still dragging her feet.  It's so frustrating. 

Today I have to do some laundry and study.  I knocked out one paper yesterday, so I have one to go.  Then this evening I'm going to a meeting with my bff. I haven't been to a meeting for a few weeks and I can always tell.  I really start to get squirrely.  And, I have to dump something else.  OK, I have started smoking again.  I started like about five days ago.  For me in my case though, it's better than the alternative.  Hey, I'm a dope fiend plain and simple.  I can't just use drugs "once in awhile."  I can't just "have a few drinks."  I have to go until I can't go anymore, which probably would mean getting locked up in a crazy ward (no offense Queen.  I say that because I feel like I can, since I've been in so many of them myself.  And I think only those of us who have been there can call them that).  The last go-round with drugs, which were legal ones (prescription) landed me in a nursing home.  As a resident.  And that was about as far down as I've ever gotten.  OK, I'm baring my soul.  It wasn't pretty, believe me.  And when I finally was court-ordered into a mental ward, the withdrawal was horrible.  I was literally in bed for three days.  The first shower I had was given to me by two nurses, as I was way too out of it to do it myself.  For me, that was hitting rock bottom.  And it took awhile for my mind to clear.  Over the years (from the time I was 14) I've used various drugs.  When I was 16 I "blew out" two of my heart valves from shooting too much cola.  So I switched to heroin, my reasoning was that it couldn't hurt my heart because it's a downer (how's that for justification).  That's what landed me working as a stripper when I was 17.  So I've withdrawn from different drugs, including heroin, booze, Methadone, and the last ones being the prescription ones, which included Valium, Dextroamphetamine (at extremely high doses), Morphine, ES Vicodin and powerful sedatives.  Plus which the crazy doctor (who was a psychiatrist) who was prescribing all those things was also prescribing extremely large doses of thyroid medication and a large mixture of hormones.  So yes, coming off that was very, very hard.  Maybe I'm justifying my smoking by saying "well it's better than the alternative," but I don't feel guilty in the least.  I think I'm so open-minded because of everything I've done and been through.  I have many horror stories, from rapes/beatings, to watching junkies die in a dope house from accidental o.d.'s.  ::shudder::  OK, now I'm rambling.  I'll stop. 

Today, life is better.  Having AIDS (diagnosed as such in '94), being diabetic, having depression issues, and being a smoker, whatever that risk entails, is still better than the alternatives.  I hope all you ladies are sleeping well, especially you Queen.  I miss our girls that haven't been on here also.  Camms hasn't been on in awhile though.  NY hasn't checked in in quite awhile.  I hope she and her baby are well.  Wishful doesn't check in anymore either.  Maybe everyone's in deep freeze. :)  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #68 on: February 02, 2008, 08:14:55 AM »
Hello Ladies.  Queen, I  hope you got some sleep. I welcomed you back, with the appropriate fanfare but you must have missed it.    I am just glad you are home and okay. The Ghetto 3's Company sounds funny. Trust you to come up with something like that.                             Not much going on here. No work today but Robert and I will be taking our room apart cause he lost his favorite bible and we can't find it.                                                 Betty, we just have too much in common as far as past history. I never actually saw anyone OD but I tended to go off by myself to get high. Most people got on my nerves when I was doing crack. Most people get on my nerves anyway cause even  without drugs, they just want something from you, Present company excluded.    I tried to make a new friend a couple weeks ago and turns out all she wanted was a third for a threesome with her man. I am not the one.  I used to have a girlfriend(15 years ago) and we liked to do that but I don't know this girl well enough for her to be asking me that shit.                Somebody asked me why I am not going out with the local guy again. I had fun but he will want sex probably sooner than later and I do not want to disclose cause he is LOCAL.      I would like to have sex but not at the risk of everything I am trying to do here in this small community.    And the nice SC guy, I just lost interest.            I finally talked to my Medicaid worker and  we are approved for 6 more months.  I am so relieved. I only made $ 6,000 last year, I cannot afford $1500 per month for my Atripla.   She made a comment about me being so patient and I had to really bite my tongue cause It wouldn't have helped to say, What fucking choice do I have but to be patient, bitch?               So, Yah for Medicaid.                                                    I got my labs Thursday. CD4 at 520 and my VL is 86.  They said not to worry about the VL since it is still low but I have been undetectable for well over a year. Probably the bad sinus infection that I had when I went in.                                                                 Snow, welcome. Triplets, wow. I can keep up with my one but would be hard pressed to keep up with 4 kids.                                             Viv, that was cute, he had a hot date. Thanks for the smile.                  Wendy, sorry your clinic did that to you.  Mine has done that a couple times and I told them That it is a hour and a half drive for me and they managed to fit me in. If they wouldn't have changed my appointment then all would have been okay.             I have size 9 feet but I love heels especially boots with 3 to 4 inch heels. I've got about 5 pairs of boots and want more but will make do with what I have. The newest pair is only 4 years old. I just take them off as soon as I get home and try to keep them nice.                   Anyway, hope everyone is well. Glad you are back , Queen. Check out my new avvie, Sweet Girl all grown up.      Later. Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #69 on: February 02, 2008, 09:55:39 AM »
Queen, I can braid for the sake of braiding, but i can't do all those really cool braids.  My french braiding leaves a lot to be desired, too!  When her hair was longer (and bushier), I'd take her to the beauty school but they never understood what I wanted.  All just a bunch of fellow white girls ;). I wanted small braids that started at the scalp and continued all the way down like you see in Jamaica (but not dredlocks). 
 
Now her hair is very, very short thanks to her cutting it all off (to the scalp) last August - 2 days before her birthday party - with kiddie scissors.  The only choice we had - besides strangling her - was to shave the rest off.  There was less than a palm-full left.  It's to the point now that we have to decide whether to let it keep growing or trim it back short.  I'd love to let it grow, but in the process it would be nice if someone could braid it for us.  She's really good about sitting still and loves to have her hair done, we just can't find anyone who can do it :'(  She wants it braided with beads on the ends so she can "jingle" when she walks.  I dont think she has enough hair for that.

Hey, can you also PM me and tell me some good shampoo and conditioner to use for her.  I use cream of nature, choleserol 1x/wk, and olive oil everyday to keep it soft.  Otherwise, it's just a dry, brittle, curly mess. I know that the meds come out in her hair, too, which doesn't help. Anyone else that can help, paging Wish, please feel free to chime in.  I need help!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #70 on: February 02, 2008, 11:37:32 AM »
Morning ladies!

Queen- I hope you are getting some rest.  I just read your blog and it kind of makes me glad I have no brothers or sisters.  Sorry to hear you went through that.  I could use some braiding tips myself :) all my kids are 1/2 black.  For the boys I got the clippers down, haven't quite learned how to fade yet but I'm working on it.  As far as my daughter goes...she gets one little 3 strand brand on the top in the front and WALA! Done!  Three's Company sounds pretty fun just as long as you don't have a Mr. Roper around.  Oh yeah, I meant to ask you, is there anyway to do a blog and keep it anonymous?

Betty-   Thanks for sharing, if smoking is going to keep you away from the stuff that could hurt you even more I am all for it.  It is what it is.  Everyone has thier vices, mine just happen to be toxic men.  It is good that you can recognize what you are capable of and it sounds like you will be a great addiction counselor.  Your keeping it real and too many people, especially the ones with no life experience and think that they are  "book smart"  think everything should be black and white and easy as 1-2-3. You do you.   I am much more open minded after surviving all my shit too.  I just need to focus, figure out a game plan and get to getting.  :)  Have you ever tried reading aloud and recording yourself and then listening to it while you sleep. I wonder if that shit works?  I always seem to incorporate what is on TV in my dreams if I fall asleep when it is on.

Minismom- My 2 cents :) I used Pink moisturizer in my daughters hair.  It is in a bright pink bottle with a black top.  Just put in after shower/bath, comb thru and leave it in.  There is also a Soft and Beautiful Just for Me line that works pretty good.  Depending on where you live these can be hard to find, if you don't have any luck I will send you some. 

Thanks, cjc.  Good job biting your tongue :)  It amazes me sometimes just how clueless some people are.  I have definately learned to pick my battles.  What is an avvie?

I am going to get a shower and take the kiddos to Chuck e cheese, not my idea of fun, but I have a coupon and they need to get out of the house.

Hope everyone has a lovely day!  Snow
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #71 on: February 02, 2008, 12:00:06 PM »
I tried pink lotion, it didn't absorb very well. Also tried Just for Me. It worked pretty good, but I like the way Olive Oil smells.  It leaves her hair really shiny, too.  We need to find some sort of a style for her.  Folks keep calling her a boy - even in head to toe pink and tinkerbell shoes.  I have short hair, too, and i never get called a boy!  She's quit correcting them and just sigh really loud at them.  It's really funny!  When her hair was longer, we had it stacked up in the back and the sides came down to the bottom of her ears.  She had no bangs and it was really cute.  I loved it - then she went and scalped herself. >:( 

Not sure now if we could even braid it.  It's short and VERY tight curls.

Oh, well, I'm trying :-\

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #72 on: February 02, 2008, 12:16:00 PM »
Hi GFs~

I am here but having low blood sugars today.  Its also Cheech's 14th birthday, so we are spending quality time together!  LOL  I will post a birthday pic of him later on.  I am trying to get out the door to Kohls to buy some bras on sale.  Anyone ever try "Skinny" jeans?  It says they are tighter through the butt and thigh.  I figured with lipo they might be a good choice, since I have no ass or thighs anymore, but I wonder about this pouch?  LOL  I'll let you know how I did later on.... ;)

I will reply to everyone tonight.  Also, Queen, I was the one with the 7.3 A1C, its a never-ending battle.....  7.1, 7.0, 6.9, 6.8 and now 7.3, every draw every 3 months, with the most recent being early January.  My pump is so frustrating.  I have 8 malfunctioned ones to send back, nevermind trying to calibrate it for the right amount of insulin.  Now that I am starting a new job, that will take some adjusting, too.  :(

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #73 on: February 02, 2008, 01:03:08 PM »
Well, Morning Ladies----

So much for checking in later after completing my hair. I am still looking like a rooster over here. I will work on it sometime today. It's not like I got plans to go anywhere but I do have to have it done before Monday because I have a few appointments to attend. Since we are on the topic of hair....

Mom, Have you given thought to putting extensions in Mini's hair? It sounds to me like she has enough hair to do that. That is what I do to my own hair and just the way you want Mini's done too. Usually because I make the braids so small, I can manage the braids for months or in other words keep them in that long without them trying to turn into dreadlocks. I wouldn't suggest as long for Mini since she is mixed but at least a month. This will actually cause her hair to grow too. I also use  Organic Root Stimulator Sheen Spray on the braids, it contains olive oil and will keep Mini's hair and the braids from being dry. Snow's suggestion of using Pink Oil Moisturizer is a good idea too especially after you would take Mini's hair down and wash and dry her hair. You can put that on her hair and scalp actually. When I started braiding my own hair, it was about the length of Mini's. Now it is just past my shoulders. Being mixed myself, I hate my hair because it is ultra thin. Ugh, thanks Dad. Which is the Puerto Rican side. Why couldn't I get the nice long thick hair, huh!?! I really wish you were closer cause I would love to get into Mini's hair and I like to do beads for her too. I did a little girl's hair that way once and she loved it. Her stupid mother took it down because she must've thought I was the little girl's father's gf or something.

I finally did go to sleep but it was around 5am this morning. I got up at 11am but I feel rested and no longer look like a zombie. My sugar was at 201, not good but I had major munchies last night and went on a sugar binge. I can think of worse things to be addicted to than weed. That's why those anti-drug commercials really piss me off to no end. Why not show someone smoking crack? You know, show a house full of nice things..then show the person smoking crack..then show the nice things slowly disappearing or show a female tricking herself out to stay high. To me, what they show now is not realistic at all.

Christy, I know what you mean about people getting on your nerves. And it really is hard to find a friend these days. Sure I know a lot of people but to me they are merely associates. You have to earn the title of friend with me. I also know what you mean about disclosure in a small town. So imagine how it was for me when my sisters decided to put me out there. And in the black community folks are really ignorant about hiv and if they work in the medical field and know your status, it's part of the gossip mill. Despite them knowing they are suppose to keep it confidential. That bothers me more than anything but with people being the way they are here and considering that I look healthy, they are prolly scratching their heads. I am late getting my labs done. I was suppose to have done it last week but I wil go do it on Monday. The results will more than likely not be back in time by my appointment on Wednesday. If anything, the cd4 may be back but not the viral load. I am a little concerned because I actually missed taking them once when I had my meltdown and then the hospital goofed and missed a day. Then my routine was changed because I usually took them after midnight or close to when I was going to bed. While in the hospital I was getting them by 10 pm. I'll cross my fingers and hope for the best. My sugar was crashing like crazy while in the hospital. A few times it was down to 58 and they began feeding me glucose tabs. Hell, they tasted like candy to me, I just hate that they had to keep pricking me so often. But while there I did learn how often to check my sugar and the areas on my fingers where it is less pain ful to stick myself. And the diabetic diet sucked. I say I was crashing because they were keeping me from drinking my Pepsi... ;D Since being home my sugar hasn't been that low at all and today was actually the highest it has been. I usually range from 100-130 and that when I am not eating. When I eat maybe in the 140's. But to me, I feel good then when it drops below 100, I get jittery. I have been drinking plenty of Vitamin water also. 2 32 oz bottles equals 8 glasses of water so I am good and my tests show that my liver and kidneys are fine so I must be doing something right.

Betty, I will try taking the trazadone with food. I didn't know that. At first the pills and a few doobies, I would sleep like a baby. Last night or this morning I was so tired I didn't even take any trazadone, I just crashed. But am amazed I feel rested with only 6 hours sleep. But I will get a nap in just to equal out everything. I am just falling back into my 3rd shift routine since coming home from the hospital. When I first got home, I was in bed by midnight and up at 7am. Take a nap around 11 and be back up by 2 or 3. I think it is weird that people only get 10 bucks in stamps? How the hell can anyone eat off of that? I get $162 and I still have to try to stretch things out sometimes. I did try the food bank a few times but I just can't get up that early and now without a car, it is impossible. My ASO use to give out 25 dollar vouchers if you asked for them but now they barely give them out. They only will after you go to the food banks. My old case manager use to bribe me to my clinic appointments by giving me 2 vouchers. He was a sneaky little queen but I loved him and miss him dearly. After awhile he weaned me down to one voucher. It is because of him that I never miss an appointment with my ID doc and if he was still alive, he would be cursing me out for waiting so late to get my labs done.

Personally, I was never on the hard drugs. I would do coke back when I lived in Florida. The guy who infected me got me started on that real bad. I had experimented with crack for a minute, slipped up a few times, went into rehab, did a few AA meetings (which my Dad would be at) and just kind of walked away from it. I have tried acid back in the day when it was fun and will admit that I liked it, I never had a bad trip. I was the social barfly since I also was a DJ but was never what you would call a drunk. I did have to learn the hard way about mixing drinks and had a few nights of hurling. I learned quick too. My drink of choice was Tangueray straight and after getting a good buzz going the night would either end with me fucking or fighting. Excuse my bluntness. Until one day, I was in fight mode and beat the shit out of a girl, I thought was someone else. That was my wake up call and I stopped drinking on my own for about 2 years. When I tried to drink again, it was rather nasty tasting to me. So now I tend to drink girlie drinks like Arbor Mist or Alize. But from time to time I will drink some Corona with tequila. Only in moderation and within the confines of home, I gave up the bar scene.

Through this journey called life, I have lived the good life meaning that I came from good schools and the life of money but has also lived the life of being ghetto fabulous. And knowing what it means to have to struggle. I have lived the life of a drug dealer to the life of a drug fiend but through the ashes from the fire I have become   and always will remain a Queen.

Ok, that is my bit of sharing for today..... :-*
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #74 on: February 02, 2008, 01:41:36 PM »
wow, this thread has really accelerated... lots to read. im sitting in a freezing room b/c the heater here broke down, and its snowing, so will be short.

Minismom, I use Dark & Lovely conditioner, no am not black but have tendencies towards a Jewphro..  ;D. Its great on my hair, and consider that my hairs all white as well and I dye it. white hair's more brittle anyway.

Betty, cigarettes are not good, no doubt about that, but its the lesser of evils. You know, my dad still smokes, and he's an MD  :-\. I know cigs are what they are, but I also know a lot of smokers, incl my parents, friends, BF. Here is Europe people still smoke, in Spain and Holland you can smoke in most bars and restaurants. Kind of ironic that the number one exporter of tobacco and its products cracks down the strongest on smoking. what im trying to say is, yup smoking is no doubt bad, but lets keep it in proportion please. its not a good habit, and its better to do it less than more, but here its still a pretty normal habit, whereas i get the feeling that in the states its been reduced to something like drinking cyanide...  so dont be hard on yourself, try to do not too much of it if you smoke, thats it i guess... but please, try to go to a meeting, i think it'll do you good.

Queen the new housing situation sounds good. im glad you have the hearing aids again. looks like things are picking up from how they were before you got depressed. im happy for ya

Cristy, i get you about the disclosure. im very free here, considering, but this is the priviilage of being a foreigner, home and knowing how people over there are about HIV, or in spain even, would be a different story, thats one reason im scared, i almost never had to face being poz "in the real world". Having said that, if I liked someone, I'd hang about and investigate how open he was in general. Like a calculated risk I guess.

my wrist is getting awful again due to the cold and i have work to do, which i havent done... ill keep it short & sweet. Have a good one ladies.



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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #75 on: February 02, 2008, 01:48:08 PM »
I'm going to play some with Mini's hair tomorrow afternoon or Monday.  Cant' do it today - cuz I'm about to go on my 1st date since June / 07.  YEAH!!  Should I wet it, put stuff in it, and then try and braid it?  Whilst on my date, I'm gonna see about picking up those wee little rubber bands, too.

Oh, FYI, we don't actually know if Mini's mixed or not  :-[.  We know what the lady is, but since she named 6 different guys as possible sperm donors, each one being a different nationality, creed, and color, we'll never know. :-\  

Thanks for your help.  It is so most excellent to see you back among us!  I'm off for my shower and my date! ;D  Be good everyone - cuz I certainly won't be 8)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #76 on: February 02, 2008, 01:58:55 PM »
Mom---

You said Mini's hair is usually dry? Depending on how dry it is, maybe put some stuff on it one day, work it into her hair and scalp. Then the next day try to braid it. If you plan on trying extensions with her hair definitely wait the next day or you will catch hell trying to grip her hair. Oh wow, so you really don't have a clue to her nationality. Don't make a habit of using rubber bands too much either. They will break off her hair. Or if you have no choice but to use the rubberbands to hold the braids then don't wrap them too tight. Keep us posted on how the date goes...

LOL@jewfro....That I gotta see because I never heard of a white person using a black perm but then there is a first time for everything. I need to get back to braiding my hair but am not motivated yet.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #77 on: February 02, 2008, 02:07:51 PM »
Thanks for the advice, Dragonette. It is actually very good advice but I could tell after just one date that this guy was really oldfashioned and I wasn't willing to risk being rejected(main reason) or being outed in my community and that is mostly a rejection issue to. For someone who doesn't really like people my feelings get hurt very easily so I isolate with my family or books or ya'll. I mostly feel safe here cause ya'll seem to like me no matter what.                         Queen, I like your idea for a real;istic commercial about drug abuse. I  never spent my whole paycheck or tricked to obtain weed but I sure did for crack. It is a living death and I am glad to be done with it. I haven't done any in at least 2 years and the time before that was 6 months in between.                                                                           Snow , an avvie is Avatar. The picture of my cat is my Avatar(sp?)   As I get older I have learned to bite my tongue more but it is still hard sometimes.   Hope everyone has a good day. I will check back in later.     Cristy 

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #78 on: February 02, 2008, 03:46:19 PM »
I'm trying to get motivated to add up all of my medical expenses, massages included, for my taxes.  Just keeping this short for now, as well.  Queen, I still have to check out your Blog for the updated story.  Not sure if you posted there yet since your return.

I was snorting when I read "Jewphro" as well, yes, our Drag has some pretty blond curls!  Girl, you are too much!

Also, Queen someone else is very happy that you have returned, and just in time for his birthday, no less! 

Cheech is 14 years old today!  I have been spoiling him!  He got some gifts and we were just sitting here sharing Ritz crackers with cheese and peanut butter, lol.  Here's a few birthday pics from earlier today!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO CHEECH, MY "GROUNDHOG DOG!"   ;D   :D   ;D   :D

A very Happy Birthday to Minismon as well!  Woo-hooooooooooo!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #79 on: February 02, 2008, 04:03:01 PM »
Good afternoon ladies:

My granddaughter just left.  She was here for a couple hours while her "mom" and her brother went and got their hair cuts.  I made us some dinner (hamburger helper [lasagna] and broccoli).  She ate like a pig.  But, she is seven, so in the growing years.

Queen, is that how you keep your figure is to drink Pepsi without eating too much? Cause I sure need some tips. ;D  No, seriously, I've never tried that, but I don't feel like eating all the time and my blood sugars have a tendency to crash. (the lowest one was 30).  And I hate the feeling when they do crash.  And like you, anytime mine fall below 100, I start shaking, sweating, etc.  I don't even know what my last A1C was.  I know it wasn't good though, because my doc told me so.  Of course, that was when I quit smoking and started eating everything I could get my hands on.  Oh, about the Trazadone.  A nurse told me that years ago and I found out it worked.  It also made the med work a lot quicker.  

Cristy, usually people who get their feelings hurt really easy don't like or trust people.  I tend not to trust people; but then again, I'm very open about my past life.  I know anything anyone has to say about that, well, they can kiss my sweet ass.  I know how far I've come from where I was.  The thing I don't trust most people with are my feelings.  Very few people know how I really feel, emotions wise, know what I mean?  I've found that while emotions are the most treasured of feelings, they also seem to be the very thing that people use against each other so often.  

Drag, girl, the heat quit and it's snowing there?  I hope you've got extra blankets and a space heater!  Take care of yourself!

Mum, I hope you have a good time on the date.  You deserve to have a wonderful time.  You are a fantastic person and I wish for you many more happy bd's!

Wendy, I'm glad you keep a sense of humor.  It always makes things easier to take.  

Snow, I hope your nerves weather the chuck e cheese thing today.  I can hardly take that place if I take like my granddaughter there.  I try to get in and get out as fast as possible.

Cin, I hope you and Cheech are having a good time celebrating.  Have fun with Ice!  Jam on gf, jam on.

About the anti-drug commercials, Cristy and Queen are so right-on.  Although they do have one here about meth.  But the anti-marijuana commercials are just so malinformed.  I always used to say (about people who drink) that no one has ever killed someone driving being under the influence of pot, but thousands have gotten killed from someone being drunk and getting behind the wheel.  Oh believe me, if pot didn't make me totally neurotic, I would probably still smoke it.  I never turned a trick for a 1/4 oz.  There just wasn't the desperation to get more when I used to run out of pot like there was when I needed some smack.  I wonder why they don't make more commercials about the drugs that really cause the problems.  But like I said, I had to quit smoking quite awhle ago because I became a total flip-nut.  

Other than that, I went and did some laundry today and read a little.  I still have an exam to study for; tomorrow I'm going to write the other paper.  I hope all you ladies have a good day.

Oh, Cin, I see you posted when I tried to.  I will enjoy looking at your pic's. ;D
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #80 on: February 02, 2008, 04:07:59 PM »
This weekend is de-Iced, lol.  He has his girls, so I am trying to find other things to do -- like my taxes.  I miss Iceman SO much when he's not around.  Today is 3 months for us!
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #81 on: February 02, 2008, 05:40:53 PM »
Cindy--- Yeah, I did update my blog with what happened with me. I did that today. Give Cheech a big scratch for me. I love other people's dogs but never really wanted one of my own. I prefer my kitties. And I have totally fallen for Nefertiti and so has Lucifer, not in the humping kind of way, he is utterly loyal to my roomie's female Princess Polly (which is what I call her) but he does take to Nef (her nickname) in a brotherly type way. I think Boogie Man, the all black cat, is enamored by her. He fought Lucifer once because he thought Lucifer was trying to hurt her. Ziggy is affectionate but sneaky, always trying to creep in my room to mark and I am always chasing him with the water bottle.

Christy-- I always put a bit of money aside for my green or else I send plays to my connect and he gives me plays in return. I didn't have to spend a dime this check day... ;) I use to have a friend though who would sell her shit, her kids shit or steal shit to get weed which I thought was nuts. She stole a couple of my movies once. And I have still to replace Interview with the Vampire but did have to buy another Queen of the Damned. When I go through dry spells, it's simply what it is, dry. I do get a little cranky but sometimes I think I have so much thc built up that I can actually do good for a few days. And the 7 days in the hospital didn't affect me at all. But when I got out I got some... ;) And was blown for a good while.

Betty-- I wouldn't doubt that the Pepsi does fill me up. I usually switch between drinking that and Vitamin Water. Depending on what is around the house, I usually eat one meal a day and snack the rest of the day. Don't get it twisted, according to health standards, I should be at 135 for my height but am at 165 instead. I think I just wear the weight well except for a little bit of a tummy. Not sure if that is from having the 3 c-sections or not. I have not gained any weight since being on the depo shot either. I have been on that, I think, going on 2 years now. I love not having any periods. I am waiting on my sister to bring me an application to the Y and will eventually start working out with her. My roomie has a Tai- Chi video and we may start doing that soon.

Tomorrow is the Super Bowl. Of course, I am going with the Patriots. I can't root for the Giants since the knocked my team out of the playoffs, that would be betrayal. I will finish doing my hair and see what happens during half-time.... ;)
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #82 on: February 02, 2008, 10:06:11 PM »
Our "date" went very well.  We left about 4, went to the craft store, ate at a wonderful restaurant called Boomerang, went to the furniture store, the material store, dollar tree, the book store,and by 7:30 we were both yawning!

  Oh my gosh I'm OOOOOLLLLLLDDDDDD!  When did this happen??

 We did manage to go to Applebee's and share a walnut butter blondie.  Then, I fell asleep on the way home.  We got home before 10.  Kiddies were asleep and we're about to follow.

Happy birthday, Cheech!  Hope mommy spoiled you rotten and you got lots of really good treats!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #83 on: February 03, 2008, 12:26:39 AM »
Good evening ladies, my bff just left.  We went to an NA meeting then out for coffee.  I'm a little caffeinated up, but that's wearing off.  It was a good meeting.  I feel more centered now.

Queen, I'm glad to hear that the Depo shot didn't cause you to gain weight.  I'll be starting that Wednesday.  I still have to pick up the prescription for it from the drugstore.  The doc told me they don't keep in the office anymore, as too many vials were expiring and they were having to throw a lot of it out.  I surely do not want to gain anymore weight. 

Cin, did you get your taxes done?  I have yet to study for the exam I'll be taking Tuesday night.  I guess I better study soon, though, as it takes my brain about three days to really hold in test information. 

Mum, I'm so glad to hear you had a good date with your man.  Yes, you should make those mandatory monthly.  You deserve it.

Well, I'm going to check out a few more threads and hit the sack.   I'm starting to get really tired.  Have a good one ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #84 on: February 03, 2008, 12:44:17 AM »
Mum~  I'm glad to hear the date went well, and I didn't know Mini was adopted (or a foster child?), I thought you were her birth mother.  Sorry that I missed that somewhere along the way.  Did your date sing Happy Birthday to you?  :D

Queen and BT~  I get light-headed most of the time when I am below 100 with my blood sugars, but other times I can be as low as 50 and never even felt the low approaching.  That number is scary cause right then you know you're on the fence and about to fall off!  I get ravenously hungry when my sugar drops, I crave starch big time when I have insulin reactions.  I guess its part of the fight or flight thing....either fight your way to the fridge ASAP to graze and gorge, or take flight and leave this world.  Yikes! 

I am hoping that with a regular lunch catered at the office, I can have soup and salad every day and do better.  Of course, I could also become as big as a house, too.  Damn.

I read about what some of you posted regarding depression, drug use, drinking, etc.  I have never had to battle those demons, I have never been brave enough to try anything illegal, or to even get drunk.  I know, I know, Ms. Prude over here.  I firmly believe that seeing my mother high most of the time in the late 70s and early 80s turned me off from ever trying anything as a teenager.  Also, being diabetic at age 11, I wasn't going to throw anything else into the mix that would mess with my system.  I was too scared of what the outcome might be, and I never wanted to lose control, esp because of the diabetes itself.

So, I'm proud of all of you who have overcome the odds.  Don't be so hard on yourself.  We all know that we could be much worse off than we are, and hell, we all have our vices and bad habits, whatever they may be.

I did my tax returns tonight.  I was so nervous, thinking I would owe a ton of money since I didn't have any state tax withheld from all of that unemployment pay I received.  That unemp pay was nearly half of my income for 2007!  I really didn't make any money and I don't know how I survived!  Even with MADAP paying my $300 COBRA premium for half the year along with my prescription copays, my medical expenses were still close to $3,800!  And that's out of my pocket, just copays and everything added up!  It was mainly the chiropractor and massage therapist for my neck that cost the most.

That being said, I am happy to report that I am getting a tax return totalling close to $800!  I am SO relieved.  I was in tears when I saw the bottom line tonight.  I have to get those suckers in the mail Monday!  LOL  :D

I think I will go to bed now.  Staying up this late tonight is only going to screw up my sleep schedule for tomorrow night, and I've got a new job to commute to on Monday.  I still can't believe I went for it and got it!  And all so fast, too!  What was I thinking, lol?  I hope the work will be easy, bookkeeping usually is for me.  That would be awesome, if I could crank out the work because it's simple for me to do.  We'll see!

Now where the hell are Cams, NY, Afraid....they REALLY haven't been around in awhile.  I hope Blessed is OK, and even though Paulette doesn't post here, her story about her husband's illness breaks my heart.  I can't help but think of her constantly.  If you haven't read her thread in the Women's Forum yet, go check it out.  Very sad.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #85 on: February 03, 2008, 02:29:27 AM »
Betty-- I picked up my depo prescription on Friday but have to get the shot on Monday. My gyn seems to keep some on hand because one time the nurse had did something to the syringe and when she went to give me my shot, it squirted all over the place. She came back a second later with another shot. I have heard some people say the shot puts weight on them, I'm just glad I am not one of them. I prefer the shot to taking the pill. My bff says the depo shot didn't do anything for her, not even stop her periods. I did take your advice and took the trazadone after eating but I still don't feel sleepy. Maybe because I am on a lose dose, only 50 mg. But once I do go to sleep I sleep pretty good. When I first started taking it, I had a few nightmares, very vivid.

Mum-- Glad that your date went well. I am with Cindy, I didn't know Mini was adopted either. I would like to go to Applebee's one day. I love me some steak.

Cindy-- I agree, I know I have come a long way when it comes to drugs. That is why I really don't pay much attention when folks try to say that weed is a gateway drug. I think that is bull but then that's just my opinion. And I really don't think weed is a bad vice to have. Speaking of which, it is time for me to roll another one.. ;) But for the most part, weed really helps me to keep an appetite. And usually when I munch, it's on things like salad or nuts of some kind. Or like the night before, I go on sugar binges but that is not too often. Congratulations on the new job. And I remember when you use to stress about not working and not having a man, look at you now. You go, girl. And there is nothing wrong with not having any addictions. Personally, I wouldn't be the one to try to get someone who doesn't smoke to try it.

For the most part, most people who smoke isn't in a hurry to invite people over to smoke with them. I know I don't. I mean my roomie smokes too and sometimes we smoke together. Then there are times when we are in our rooms and smoke alone. Or if one has weed and the other one doesn't, we share or roll the other their on doobie. I hate trying to smoke a doobie or a blunt and you got like 5 or more people smoking with you. There is bound to be one who wants to nurse the blunt and mess up rotation. Smokers know the group rule....Puff, Puff, Pass.... ;)

Well, I just came in for a few. I am off to play my computer game some more.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #86 on: February 03, 2008, 07:28:09 AM »
Good very early morning, ladies!  Yes, Mini, as well as 4 other of our 6 children are adopted - only 1 biological (our #5).  We brought Mini home from the hospital at 2 days old.  Hubby and our oldest are both Honduran, so she looks like them.  Our 1 biological has blond hair and blue eyes - so much for the "dominant" gene theory :P

Ok, I'm starting to figure out how this thread works, so here goes.

Cindy - I'm scarred to death to do our taxes.  Hubby does them on lone and last year was the 1st time we OWED taxes and owed big time.  We've never made less money and what little we did make, the government wanted it back. :(  We are both self-employed which just means more and more and more taxes.  The tax software that hubby uses keeps track of how much we're going to get / owe as you go through each step.  He came running upstairs to tell me that we were going to get back some $3000 - YEAH!!!!!  Then, he did the last couple of steps and WHAMMO!  We had to cut the governemnt a check for $1800!  What the tax software failed to tell us is where we were supposed to GET the $1800.  Hubby said he did better on our quarterly estimated taxes, so we shouldn't get hit as hard this year.  What we actually make is laughable, really, especially for a family of 8.

Queen - So glad to see you back and going to meetings.  We all have our vices, past and present, that we're trying to get over (or live through).  And, like I told Doc, most days it's less about right and wrong, and more about survival. Sweetie, when you come and visit, I'll take you to Boomerangs - most excellent food and the biggest steaks I've ever seen!

Betty - I was awakened yesterday morning by the beautiful 7-voice chorus that is hubby and kids.  Last night, we were so tired (and old) that we were in bed, snoring, by 10:30.  We'll have our 5-day "date" in June.  It's our annual Christmas present from my parents.  They watch the kids for  5-7 days and give us money to sneak away.  By July, we're counting down the days until June again ;D

Does anyone know if Blessed had her baby yet?  I asked hubby when we could have another one.  He got a really horrified look on his face then started laughing.  I gave him that "look" and he felt bad - thought I was kidding.  Then he suggested we go looking for bunkbeds. 

Have a great Sunday!  I need to get the kids up and ready for church.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #87 on: February 03, 2008, 07:32:18 AM »
Good morning ladies-

Once again I find myself feeling like I have to get up early.  I don't know why that is.  I didn't shut off my light until way after midnight.  

Cin, probably you're being diabetic at such a young age saved you from a lot of things, I don't know.  My parents didn't use drugs.  A guy I was seeing when I was 14-15 kind of got me started.  When I was growing up, my mum was very religious and I lived in a "cage" of sorts.  Very protected and all.  So, when I first tried marijuana, I thought I was in heaven.  Then when cocaine was added to the mix, I was in paradise.  I used to be a speed demon; I liked to move very fast.  Even after I quit using cola and speed, I still moved fast.  I was addicted to the whole drug scene.  The raunchier, the better.  Yes, everyone does have their vices.  I raise no objection to someone's drug addiction/alcoholism.  As long as one involves only oneself.  But, alas, the real drug addicts I knew (and know from NA) always involve other people-stealing, lying, conning, abuse of others (physical, mental) etc.  Myself included on some of those.  I'm talking about real drug addiction here.  The kind where someone has to steal to support the habit, know what I mean?  That's where the objections come in.  But as far as what someone does to their own self, whatever.  I think it's someone's right to do what they want to their own body.  And I've known people who only do cocaine on New Year's Eve and the rest of the time leave it alone.  Me, I can't do that.  And today, my life isn't what I would call a "perfect" life, but it sure is a hell of a lot better than what it used to be.  

Queen, when I was on Trazadone I was on 100 mgs of it.  I'm glad that it helps you sleep well though.  My bff has been on Depo for years.  She loves it.  I know it's progesterone and I was on the pill form of that for about 8 or 9 years.  And that stopped my periods, so I look forward to another hiatus from the dreaded bleeding.

Well, today I've got to start studying for that exam.  And I have to do a paper for my Ethics class, and some reading.  I hope I can get motivated to do all that.  Other than that, it's supposed to be sunny here today and I'm really looking forward to that.  The constant greyness leaves me with a bitter taste.  My soul needs some light once in awhile.  Have a good one ladies-

Mum, I see you posted when I went to post.  Sweetie, Queen isn't the one going to meetings; it's me.  That's alright; I know it's early.   :-*
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #88 on: February 03, 2008, 10:09:08 AM »
Hi GFs~

I am debating on what to do today.  Iceman wanted me to come over tonight to watch the Superbowl, but I have my new job to commute to, in the rain, tomorrow.  So maybe watch half of the Superbowl?  Iceman's place is about a half hour drive.  I don't know, I keep trying to plan everything so that I will have a restful sleep tonight.  Usually if I sit around all day, I can't sleep at night, so maybe I will go to his place.  Cheech would like the ride, too!

Do you GFs ever find your self making plans to do things and then start justifying why you don't need to do them, esp because you're too tired?  BT, I think you brought this up a couple of weeks ago.  Here I am, planning on finding some jeans I like, searching the web for which dept stores have them, cause Kohls was out of my size yesterday.  Also, I was checking to see when the carwash opened, I wanted to get the inside of my Liberty cleaned since I will be sitting in it forever during my commute now.

Here it is ten minutes later and I don't feel like doing anything, saving my money would be better, not getting out of the house.  I don't know.  Sometimes its just too much of a pain in the ass and too exhausting to even do the simplest things.  Sigh.

One step at a time.  Maybe I'll just go clean out the back seat of my Liberty, that's a start.  LOL  Hell, its only parked right out front.   ::)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #89 on: February 03, 2008, 10:25:25 AM »
Good Morning Ladies! Well it is raining here again and I am so over it! Although I would rather it rained on the weekend then during the week. I have some work to get to today but I really don't want to do anything. I totally know what you're talking about Cindy. Yesterday I did not even leave the house. I did catch up on my Math grades and planed part of my week so it's not like I didn't do anything right? LOL! Today I have to go to the market, do laundry, and finish my lesson planning and grading. YUCK.

I told myself yesterday that I absolutely have to start a diet today. I have put on about 40lbs since July. When I was sick I lost too much weight. I mean I looked like a skeleton. I was so thin my period stopped. Once I got my appetite back there was not stopping me and now I weigh more than I ever have and cannot stand myself. OK I am not going to go there because I keep getting depressed about it. My dad did get my sister and I a gym membership and I just have to get motivated to go consistently. I originally planned to go after work but I just get it in my head that I don't want to, but not anymore...I am going to do it!  :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #90 on: February 03, 2008, 11:59:34 AM »
Do you GFs ever find your self making plans to do things and then start justifying why you don't need to do them, esp because you're too tired?  BT, I think you brought this up a couple of weeks ago. 

Oh yes, I do it all the time.  And the thing is, I believe that my justifications make all the sense in the world.  For instance, today I was going to study for the exam, read my ethics book and write my paper.  NOW, I am going to study for the exam, read 1/2 of the chapter in the ethics book, read the other 1/2 tomorrow and then do the paper.  My reasoning?  That is just too much to cram into one day. :P  And it makes sense to me.  But in actuality, it's justification pure and simple.  Sometimes I can make myself do things by thinking about how much better I'll feel once something is done.  Of course I can argue that away also.  Justification, rationalization, honey I'm the queen.  In the end, everything works out.  I think, however, that that is divine intervention; because if it were left totally up to me, oh hell, we won't even go there. ;)

Viv, sorry to hear it's still raining.  It never did get sunny here.  And I get so unmotivated when it's grey for days on end.  What's a girl to do?
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #91 on: February 03, 2008, 12:11:10 PM »
Hey Girls

It's so nice to read this thread now. Im glad minismom joined us, and when you have time please tell more about your life, the kids, etc. It sounds very cool and I am fascinated by your family situation. I know it's no Brady Bunch, you have so much on your hands. Id love to hear how you manage. BTW I am sure someone pointed it out to you, but just in case, the previous edition of POZ magazine featured 3 poz kids from 1 family, I think you can still get it online if you go to their main site.

Cindy Im just like you & Viv, if I go thru with 1/2 my plans, Im happy.
GOOD LUCK tomorrow! Its so natural to be stressed, but in a couple days you'll ease into it. what time do you have to be in? I hope you negotiated hours that will keep you away from the heavy traffic. You don't need new jeans, you're good as you are.


Queen, I don't use the Dark n Lovely perm, just their conditioner. My hair's kinda course, and Dutch people's hair is so fine, that even their dry&damaged formulas do nothing for me. israeli hair products are stronger. I've had my hair straightened in the past, one time it took 8 hours in 2 sittings by a hairdresser.

I read your blog entry, it's very well written. No wonder you were depressed. Sometimes it's the natural reaction. I am not sure you need antdepressants to be honest, I think when things get tough some people get depressed, and if they were easier they wouldn't be. It's enough that your case manager was more receptive to pick you up when things get tough. Unfortunately she wasn't. But I think if you look around you will be able to find a supportive mini-community for yourself. I really do. Call me an optimistic fool.

Betty, I know how it is with the grayness... but generally, i dont think the weather here's as harsh as in the US. I put a radiator in the room now so it's better, we dont have central heating, something which, if I stay in North Europe, will definately be a feature in my next place!

Everything's OK here, I am working on the next edition of the international carnival of positivities (ICP) which I'm supposed to host in my blog. I ahven't written there for ages, but this was a good opportunity to come back and see how much I've written in the past. I have tons of my boring-ass work, but it's nice to do something completely unrelated. even if my arms could use a break. hey, from Thus night I'll be on a 2 week break, as I am going home.

The only thing, some bad news. A friend of mine who is poz for many years, has become resistant to everything. Her only hope is the new integrase inhibitors that just came out in the US 6 months or so ago, but they aren't here yet, though her docs are making a big effort to get them for her. She had a resistance test just a couple months back and she was fine, not resistant to anything, now resistant to everything. She's been having unprotected sex with her new poz BF, he has a very high VL and several resistancies (but not to everything). I don't know if this is what caused it, the doctors say it seems likely, but they don't know for sure, as the idea of a "super strain" has not been proved. This has been on my mind since last night when i heard it. She had so many plans, I think she still has them, but it's a devastating blow. There is more to this story than I can write here, I don't want to start identifying her.

Maybe it just happened, without any connection to him, but then how would she go from no resistence to resistence to drugs that she has never even taken (like PIs). Very strange.

Viv, today was the first time in ages that I again enjoyed the gym. I came in at 16.00 and they close at 17.00 on Sun. I think that was the key. knowing there was a time limit and not an endless "to do" list on the different machines made me much more focused. Maybe you should limit yourself to 1 hour, I'm going to try to do that and see if it works. I put on lots of weight too, I lost tons after diagnosis, though not as bad as you describe, not reallu underweight in my case, and put them back on, with a vengence.


I hope it's all good with everyone. Stay warm. Hugs,
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #92 on: February 03, 2008, 12:58:25 PM »
Hi GFs~

Well, I went out and did what I had to.  I got the Liberty washed inside and out for the first time in a year, so it looks like someone pimped my ride, lol.  :D  I also went to Sears of all places to look for these Levis I happened upon in Kohls yesterday.  I haven't worn Levis since 1980 in 6th grade when I started getting hips! 

For everyone with a BELLY, and that makes most of us, looking at our ages and meds ;) ,  try the Levis 512 Bootcut jeans.  OMG they are "Slim" fit and I never thought that was what I needed.  But with chicken legs I have been wearing what looks like parachute pants for jeans. These jeans have a tummy slimming something or other in the fabric and they hold you in!   ;D My problem has been wearing size 12 jeans to fit my gut and then they flap around my thighs and even my hips, way too baggy.  These 512's are snug with spandex all the way down, so it doesn't look like you have a load in your pants, esp if you've lost your butt to lipo like I have.

I am so glad I got these jeans, never thought I would be wearing Levis, but hey, unless someone is looking at my ass and sees what brand I am wearing, big whoop-de-doo, right?  LOL

OK, so now I have to shower, do the "real" version of my taxes to put in the mail and get Cheech and I over to Iceman's.  I didn't want to go, but being out will help me sleep better tonight.  And yes, Drag, I can arrive to work anytime between 730am and 900am.  The flexible scheduling is THE ONLY reason I took this job.  My new boss even said to wait until later to leave my house and miss all of the early traffic.  It backs up around here as early as 6am or 630am or so.  No need to get up at 5am just to sit in traffic.

Drag, I'm sorry to hear about your friend's resistance.  So many new things are coming down the pipeline, tell her to protect herself and hang in there.  She has a chance, really, she does, if she's proactive.   :-*

Oh and its going to be 65 degrees here on Tuesday?  What gives?

I'm supposed to go for another 3-month follow-up Pap this Thursday and I just got my period this morning.  That's mainly why I am so tired and don't feel like moving, but I am glad I got out.  I have to get used to the rat-race of commuting around here again, and a Sunday is a good way to start.  Only problem is, there are so many rude and/or stupid people on the road.  This woman (who was in front of me at the car wash today) went to switch lanes once we left and almost hit a guy on a motorcycle.  We were doing about 40mph and he was alert thank goodness, but I honked at her as I passed her, the stupid bitch. 

We need to renew our licenses every ten years I say, and then once you hit 60, every 5 years.  Its ridiculous.

OK, enough venting, my pomegranate tea is calling me.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #93 on: February 03, 2008, 02:22:17 PM »
Hello Ladies------

I still haven't gotten around to finishing my hair yet. I know exactly what you mean, Cindy. I have been making excuses about getting it done. Like, hell, I have been braiding this all week, I can take a break for a day or I will finish it on Sunday, I'll have all day since I will be watching the Super Bowl... ;D I will get to it in a few. Now about those jeans. They sound nice but can they hold all this junk in my trunk? :D I don't want to look like a I have a bubble butt. How much do they run? Maybe I will see about getting me a few pair. Do they have them in black?

Mom-- Betty cleared it up but I don't go to meetings. I only attended 2 and it was enough to stop me from doing what I was doing back then. I really didn't care for them much either but I know they do help others. It helped my Dad to stop drinking. Before he died, he hadn't had a drink in 30 something years but he smoked weed. I think the meetings are good to help stop whatever it is that brought you there. I am a bit confused on something though. You have a hubby but you went out on a date with another man? I think I missed something somewhere.

Dragonette---- Normally, I would agree with you about taking anti depressants but I think the reason I am staying on them for now is because I have heard something in Atripla can cause depression. I think that is what happened to me. I think the Celexa is helping to balance it out because I really don't want to stop taking the Atripla because it is working so well for me. I will be discussing this with my doctor on Wednesday when I see him. Thanks for the comments about my blog. The response I have gotten since doing it still amazes me.

I am off to browse the forums and play my game for a few before I get started on my hair again. I will check back in later.
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #94 on: February 03, 2008, 05:21:57 PM »
Queen~  Yes, they have the jeans in black, they cost a lot and weren't on sale anywhere.  They are $35 but they feel so good!  As far as your junk, not sure, lol.  I figure if you have junk and I have a belly, then we are already buying our jeans larger to get them UP, and then the pants legs are flapping in the breeze.  These are more snug with spandex through the thigh.  Just make sure you look for the 512, not any other number!

Mum went on a "DATE" with her husband.  I was confused at first, too, but then realized she had put the word in quotes, lol.

The guy that lives next door is a Giants fan.  He has all of his buddies over, they are throwing a football in the street and video taping each other.  Its going to be a kegger next door tonight, so I am glad I am going to Iceman's for a bit.  Its loud there on a regular football night, nevermind that his team is going to the Super Bowl.

They better not hit my pimped ride with that pigskin.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #95 on: February 03, 2008, 09:02:20 PM »
I'm so sorry, ladies, about the confusion.  I went on a date with my hubby.  He arranged for my parents to come over for cake and then stay with the kids so we could go out to dinner.  My parents are the only ones we leave the kids with.  There's just a whole host of dynamics to our little family - with 5 special needs kids, some med. dependent.  I just don't trust a "babysitter". 

Good grief, sorry Betty and Queen about the mix-up.  Just stick Betty in place of Queen and my statements still hold true ;)  I just figured out that I can scroll down and read other responses..lol..I'll get this figured out yet. 

Dragon: Here's my life in a nutshell.  I've been married for almost 15yrs (in June).  We have 6 children: 3 boys, 3 girls (all in only 6yrs, 9mths).  5 of our children are adopted. When our 4th was 6wks old, I found out I was 5wks pregnant with #5.  When #5 was 11 1/2mths old, we adopted #6.  Mini is #3 and our oldest daughter.  She'll be 8yrs old the end of August.  She contracted HIV in utero when her bio-lady refused to take any medication even after being told that it would save the baby.  Hubby and I had her tested on her 6wk birthday and got the call on her 8wk birthday.  Including Mini, 5 of our children have speical needs, which include: FASD, Asperger Syndrom (autism), Mental retardation (not Down's), OCD, GAD (anxiety disorder), dyslexia,dysgraphia,  apraxia (oral and motor), CP, diabetes, hearing deficeits, vision issues, depeleted barrier cells (skin), and  loads of learning disabilities.  The children are all homeschooled.  Hubby and I own a business that is worked mainly from our home.  Therefore, we are together nearly 24/7.

Queen: Hubby's entire family go to AA meeting every night.  All his brothers (4 of them) and his father are recovering alcoholics, drug addicts, and heavy gamblers.  It was rough growing up.  By the time I came into the picture, there were only 2 brothers who were still dealing with issues. I saw fist hand the stealing, lying, and cheating that went on.  One brother would get their young daughter involved in stealing money and credit cards from her mom.  It was sad to see. 

Cindy: I LOATHE football.  For a very long time we didn't have a TV.  We got one Aug. of 2006 because hubby said he was tired of missing football.   :-\  I'm just glad after tonight it'll all be over for a few months.  We live in the middle of nowhere so if someone is having a super bowl party, we have no idea ;D.  Your new job sounds like a dream, Cindy!  How many hours a week will you have to work?  How is Cheech going to take you being gone during the day?

I do believe in a "super strain" of HIV.  When Mini tested HIV+, I assumed it would be a "baby" virus (new) because she was born with it.  Her doc thought so, too, but her VL wouldn't go down under 2mil.  She was on several combos before her genotyping was done.  She has a lot of resistence.  Her doc said that it can only be concluded that the lady would take meds, stop, her virus would mutate, she'd take more meds, stop, and on and on.  Doc said that Mini had been passed a "mega virus".  Maybe that's what happened to your friend.  I don't know, but it does make sense to me.  I'm very sorry that she's having such a hard time.  I really do hope the doctors can get her the new med.

Ok, ladies, I'm off to read my book and do everything in my power NOT to hear the football game.

Mum



 

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #96 on: February 03, 2008, 10:04:50 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Drag, I'm really sorry for your friend.  I really don't know any of the medical facts about the "super-virus."  I hope she can hang in there and that maybe some of the newer meds can help her.  It's so hard to see a good friend struggle.    I don't know how you take a shower in a freezing cold room.  *shivers*

Cin, it's so hard to get motivated during the cycling time.  Kudos for getting your jeep cleaned out.  About the Levis, I wear Levis.  They're a good jean brand.  But, I probably won't be getting the 512 until a pair hits the Goodwill. ;D  I don't remember the time I paid more than $5.00 for a "new" pair of jeans.  Really not doable living on disability.  I'm glad you like them, though.  We all need to treat ourselves once in awhile.

Mum, wow, what a brood.  I don't know how you keep up with it all. 

Tonight I'm feeling really, really tired.  I studied for the upcoming test, read a chapter in my social psych book, and read 1/2 the chapter of the required reading in my ethics book.  Tomorrow (or the next day) I'll read the other 1/2 and formulate how I'm going to write the paper that's due Thursday.  It's going to be on capital punishment.  Other than that, nothing exciting going on.  I really don't get into football either, mum, so it's not on at my house. Have a good night ladies-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #97 on: February 03, 2008, 10:07:43 PM »
*Jumping up and down and screaming*... It looks like the Giants may actually pull off this win and it will be a helluva an upset for the Patriots who were undefeated all season. There is 29 seconds left in the game and I think the Patriots still have 3 timeouts. I can say that the Super Bowl was actually pretty good considering my team isn't in it. I got bored with half-time but the commercials were cute. It's after 10 and I am still not done with my hair. It's gonna be a late night...*sighs* But I don't have that much left to do. After I am done here, I will get back to it. Well, the Giants won it!!!! I think a lot of people lost some money on this game.

Mom--- It certainly seems like you have your hands full with the kids. I am glad Cindy straightened things out cause I thought you cheating on your hubby. I guess I watch too many soaps... ;D I think it great that you and your hubby adopted so many kids, you will be blessed for that if you haven't been receiving blessings already.

I am off to finish my hair. Have a good night all...
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #98 on: February 03, 2008, 10:31:31 PM »
You GFs crack me up, thanks for making me laugh.  It was Mum's BDAY on Saturday when she and Hubby went on their "date."  :D  (Did I ever mention I'm a numbers girl?)

Queen, I can't tell if you were happy or pissed about the Giants winning.  I am hoping that since you and I are in the same division, you didn't want the Giants to win!  Queen likes Dallas, I am a Redskins fan.  Mum, I actually like football, and was yelling "Go Pats" and clapping during the game!  LOL  I also got "Most School Spirit" in high school, and it sure has stayed with me!

BT, my Liberty smells like "Wild Cherry" so its aromatherapy, too!  LOL  ;)  Keep plugging along with your reading, I know its tough to do and not get distracted.

Mum, what is FASD?  I am thinking frustration-aggression something or other?  I was a PSYC major in college.  You have THE biggest heart to take all of those children in!  Wow!

OK, time to go to bed and hope that my mind doesn't race, getting ready for the big day tomorrow.  It sure was nice seeing Iceman tonight, just sitting on the couch and watching the game.  He is the greatest guy.  :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #99 on: February 03, 2008, 11:03:34 PM »
Mum-It takes a special person to not only adopt children, but to adopt what others would deem as worthless. Thank you for being such a selfless person. :) :)

Ok...I don't watch football at all but I did watch the last 4 minutes of the Superbowl. I'll admit it was kind of exciting but I still don't get it...LOL!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #100 on: February 04, 2008, 07:40:20 AM »
Hello ladies. Hope everyone had a good day yesterday.                      Ml, love your pictures of cheech and you. He looks like a good dog.             We need to get another dog but can't seem to find the right one. We had 2 deerhounds, gave them away as they were very destructive. We also got a dachshund  but she wouldn't pee outside so we gave her away, too. We will find what we need(sheltie or St. Bernard) soon.                                                                                           MM, got to give you respect for taking care of so many children. Robert has  a speech therapist,  we were told he will catch up and he is doing well. I do not understand some of the abbreviations for your children's disability's but I know ya'll are great for taking them in and giving them the love they need.                                                                   I do not like football, either but I watched the halftime and some of the commercials. Loved the lizard one. It was funny.                         Not much happening today. I had a shit day at work yesterday and I am going to look for another job.  I am sick of having all this stuff to do but nobody helps then I get fussed at cause it's not done. I just had a bad day yesterday, maybe I will feel different Tuesday.   Maybe I will get fussed at one to many times and quit. NOT!!!    I will be a good girl and find another job and give them a notice since I have been there almost 2 years. Just frustrated.                                 Dragonette, Sorry to hear about your friend. I hope the new stuff works wonders for her. I also hope you enjoy your 2 week visit.     Anyway, time to get to work. Laundry, housework, The usual Monday stuff. Take care and I'll check in tonight.      Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #101 on: February 04, 2008, 07:47:49 AM »
Hello Ladies-

Wanted to say I'm really glad you're back Queen.

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« Reply #102 on: February 04, 2008, 07:57:54 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Yeah, I know, I'm up early again.  But today there's a reason for it.  My father is in some state of distress.  My oldest sister (the self-proclaimed god of the siblings) called me a couple times about him yesterday.  He was in panic, claiming that his oxygen machine wasn't working right.  She went over and checked it out, changed the tubing and the canula, gave my dad a Xanax so he would calm the fuck down and tried to talk him into going to the hospital.  Of course he refused; he's a very stubborn old geiser.  The reason he won't go to the hospital is because he can't smoke there.  Yes, that's his reason.  Anyway, she went home and talked to his pulmonologist, who told her my pop needs to go to his office today for a check-over and also called in a script for Prednisone to reduce the inflammation in the airways.  My sister lives 10 minutes away from my dad.  My brother and I live a town away, about a 35 minute drive.  Anyway, she called me and asked if I could take my dad to the doctor today, as she claimed she couldn't miss work on a Monday.  Of course I told her I would.  So, I'm expecting her to call in a couple hours to tell me if she was successful at making an appt. and if in fact my dad would go.  My dad is so stubborn.  He'll wait to do anything until an emergency arises, refuse the right medical care, and then expects people to run to his rescue.  I know, I know. It sounds like I'm being unfair and well, an evil bitch.  That my dad is in his last days and we should do everything we can to make him comfortable and happy.  Some of you remember me going over to my parents' when my mum was in her last days.  My mum was a much different person than my dad is.  My dad never talked to me or my brother when we were growing up.  He treated my mum like she was his maid/slave.  My mum was the one who made sure my brother and I were taken care of and that we had the most enjoyable existence she could provide for us.  She was easy to take care of in her last days.  Not necessarily medically, but just that she appreciated everything we did for her and she saw how much we all cared for her (the karma thing).  My dad expects and demands that we be his whores.  I'm really getting irritated with the whole thing.  He can't really go into assisted living (noncompliance issue and financial).  The god of the siblings won't even talk about him going into a nursing home because she claims he "still has his mind."  Oh, does he?  He shits all over his house and expects us to clean it up.  When getting his groceries (and he always only needs like six or seven items because of Meals on Wheels) he always shorts my brother and I money and expects us to pick up the rest.   So, taking him to his appointment today will be done, if he gets one and commits to going, but it is done with bitterness.  Some of you are probably thinking "how can she be so cold hearted and callous?"  Well, my friends, if you had had the childhood I had (or lack of) with my father, you would understand.  My mum was a dear, sweet soul who welcomed everyone into her life, regardless of who they were, and treated everyone with the utmost dignity and compassion.  My dad was (and still is) very cruel.  Even when my mum was in her last days, my father expected her to take care of him and all his physical maladies.  Nevermind that she was in severe pain and suffering.  He's just an arrogant egoist and frankly, I'm growing weary of the whole thing.

OK, I've said my peace for this morning.  I still have to study again for the exam, read another chapter in my social psych book, read the other 1/2 of the chapter in my ethics book on capital punishment and begin to formulate a paper regarding the same.  I know, god, or the spirits, or the universe, or whatever will work it out if I do "the right thing."  I need to get over this resentment of having to cater to a man who never supported me (or my brother, who feels the same way I do) in anything.  Oh, he thinks my sisters are queens because they're financially comfortable.  Nevermind that my brother has two master's, graduated summa cum laude both times, is taken as word in the small poetry presses, and teaches at two universities.  Nevermind that I've come from the pits of hell, am now (finally) completing a bachelor's degree, and was on the president's list last semester via a 4.0 GPA.  Oh, I guess I stated I've said my peace.  Now I'm rattling on again.  Just wanted to get this off my chest to my fellow comrades without being judged as cold and calculating.  

Other than that, we got more snow last night, but today it's supposed to be in the 40's, so hopefully most of it will melt before we get the next blast on Wednesday.  I really do try not to be a cynic, and try to be totally fair in my dealings.  Sometimes I just get tired.  *sigh*  Thanks for letting me share. :-*  
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #103 on: February 04, 2008, 08:12:05 AM »
Cin: FASD = Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder.  The lady drank up a storm while she was pregnant. It destroys the brain cells as the baby is trying to develope them.  The lasting effects are worse than a wee one exposed to meth in utero, according to the genetisist.  FASD kids also have a certain "look" to them.  It leads to loads of comorbid conditions like microcephaly, MR, Asperger syndrome, learning issues and emotional issues.  Research doesn't give much hope to kids with FASD.  Funny thing is, though, that it's not listed in the DSM-IV as a medical or mental disorder so they qualify for NO help or services.  

I have degrees in socialogy/ criminalogy and philosophy, cin, not so very far from psych.

Vyv: we got our kiddies when they were babies and had no idea they were special needs.  Even when we brought home Mini, we knew she had the "potential" of HIV, but had no idea.  When we found out and called our social worker, she "ran" over to make sure we weren't changing our minds about keeping her.  We were highly insulted, but I understand her position.  

Betty: good luck with your paper.  I really admire you for going back to college to finish your degree.  I don't think I could ever do that.  Massive Kudos to you, hun.  What are you majoring in?  How much longer do you have?

Christy: Sorry to hear about your job.  I do hope you are able to find another one.  Sucks to have to carry the load of work, the majority of the responsibility, and the brunt of the bosses.  Hang in there and maybe Tuesday will be better.  We had a huge bear of a dog (chow / lab mix) that was such a sweetie dog.  Can't have another one unless it's very small, very durable, doesn't shed or have dander.  

Time to feed the booglets and get them ready to start school.  Everyone have a very wonderful day!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #104 on: February 04, 2008, 09:18:00 AM »
OK, my sister called and said my dad won't be going to the doctor today.  So that problem taken care of.  I guess he called her this morning in a state of panic because he couldn't find his remote and wanted her to go over and find it.  She told him she would stop by on her way over.  She said she suggested him to go into a facility so he could be taken care of, to which he said "no."  I said "well, then he shouldn't expect one of us to rush over there every time he gets into a crisis."  To which she replied "but he does, so I'm going to stop by on my way to work."  Well, alright, but isn't that playing right into his hand?  I sent an e-mail to my brother and am waiting for his reply about this frustrating situation.  Nuff said (for now).

Cin, I hope your new job goes well.  Let us know.

Cristy, I hate being caught in what feels like a hopeless work situation.  Good luck finding another one.  And you take care of yourself, gf.

Mum, I am finishing a bachelor's in psychology.  I have about a year to go.  I didn't know you had dual degrees.  Good for you sweetie!  You and Mini are truly a blessing to this forum.

Have a good one ladies-

Edited to add:  who's going to start the new thread? 
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #105 on: February 04, 2008, 09:34:09 AM »
Some of you are probably thinking "how can she be so cold hearted and callous?"

Not for a second, Betty.
Im at work and can't get into this right now, it plays too much on my own fears and issues. I'll just say I'm a 100% behind you. Life is a bitch sometimes but we have to make the most of it amd do our best in less than ideal circumstances.

Minismom, I was pretty aware of the details Mini's condition but I had no idea all your other kids were suffering from so many conditions. My God. You could be spending all your time on forums just consulting about all of them. And you do all this without any help. That is unbeleivable. I'd say if you had time, start a blog b/c this is one amazing story. But of course, you would never have time! I hardly have any so how in the world could someone like you?

But anyway, the bit by bit that we get is really inspiring. I have been struggling with getting pregnant (not with the conceiving, we only started. But with the idea of it). i feel that I have less than ideal circumstances on all levels. but you make me see things differently. We also want to adopt, but we know that it will be nearly impossible at this stage, for all the reasons that make having a baby challenging: lack of permanent place/country/employment, not owning our own place, and of course my being positive. I hope that maybe in some years, we will be able to adopt. My BF is also interested in adopting, when he was a kid himself close friends of his parents adopted a child who was seen as "less" because she had a harelip and some kind of mental disability (not illness, or retardation, but something in the middle, sorry I don't know the exact diagnosis). They adopted her when she was 7 or so, from an institution. So he has always grown up thinking that this was a great thing to do in life. When we were in Spain now we met her and she is married and pregnant.

We have thought about adopting a poz child (not that it's possible at this point, but in principle).  But at the same time, I can't say we are not terrified of that the baby we are trying to make now might turn out poz. I know it sounds hypocritical, but I think it's different if a child is already positive, then there is nothing that can be done about it but make the best of it. Reading some of what you went thru with Mini made me realize is a poz child is a much more complicated and difficult than a poz adult. I remember there was a trial in Israel when a couple had adopted a baby from Russia, and when they found out she was poz they wanted to send her back. How horrible. I don't know what happened in the end, I guess she was placed in a hospital, it was pre-HAART. Like you said, the social worker actually feared this would be your reaction. I can only truely admire you & your hubbie.

Speaking of hubbie, my BF said that if I get pregnant, we should get married. Not exactly a proposal, I wish it were more romantic, but it's the first time marriage looms as a realistic prospect. I'm almost afraid to think about it. Like if I think it's going to happen, it won't happen. I also somehow don't beleive that I will get pregnant, or that he will geta decent job and I will finish mine and get one too. I am not thinking negatively, but can't beleive positive things either. I'm kind of stagnated. In a way, it's easier to complain than enjoy the good things. How messed up is that?


Cammie, nice to see you. Don't be a stranger  ;)

Cind, I hope the 1st day of work is going well. I'll have a look for those jeans, but it's rare for me to find a pair that fits me, or rather, that I fit. Hope you enjoy!

Cristy, I hope work is easier next time. Waitressing is tough. But you sound good in it. Maybe you can get promoted to shift manager or something, then you'll boss people around. I never managed to get the hang of waitressing, I always got fired after a few days.

Viv, no one watched (American) football here. I didn't even know the superbowl was like the final... just figured it out from reading the forums. Pretty clueless eh?

Afraid, if you're reading this, pls check in............ hello there.

Queen, yes, the Sustiva in Atripla can work as a depressant, I think. I couldn't handle it and changed after a while, but many people, like our Cindy, just comply. I'm wondering how they work so fast on you though, I always thought it takes at least some weeks for antidepressants to take effect. But maybe that was the older generation. I have somehow missed taking them, b/c I had my biggest mental breakdown before the age of Prozac. A couple years ago, a friend of mine was raped, and got really depressed, and she says that they saved her. Ater a year, she stopped taking them and is now OK.

Have a great week all, catch you later. I am flying on Thus so will try to be discliplined with work... No, will BE disciplined with work. Adios for now

 
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #106 on: February 04, 2008, 11:20:51 AM »
Good Morning Ladies-----

I finally finished my hair about 3 am. My son stopped over last night with a female friend so that was nice. He may be moving to Memphis next month with his "adopted" brother. I am for him getting away from here and seeing more of other places. I think he will be fine but I will miss him. I have to get labs done, pick up new contacts, and get my depo shot today. It looks nice out and I am due for some fresh air.

Cindy--- Good Luck with the new job today. As for the Super Bowl, I was for the Patriots too but what an upset after having such a great season. There was no way I was for the Giants since they knocked my Cowboys out of the playoffs.

Dragonette--- I don't think I will stay on the anti depressants forever. I have another refill and may stop taking them after that. I just want to hear what my ID doc says. I am feeling better already and if the signs should appear again I think I am better equipped to handle it and I have a few people I can talk to.

Camms--- Good to hear from you and thanks for your support. Being gone like I had been and seeing all the concern when I came back really touched me. It showed me how much people care and I really didn't think I had that effect on people.

Christy--- I loved the Super Bowl commercials too. I think my fave one was when the squirrel was in the road and screaming. I also liked the Pepsi commercial with Jimmy Fallon too. I was a bit confused on the lizards, was that Ola Ray and they were doing Thriller? At least that is what I thought and it was cute.

Well I need to run. I have a few things to do before my cab gets here. I will check in later. Have a good day ladies.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #107 on: February 04, 2008, 11:22:07 AM »
Yep, Betty, dual degrees and I stay home with my babies ;D.  Honestly, YOU GO GIRL!  I'm so impressed that with everything you are going through with your health and your family that not only are you going back to college, but GIRL you have a 4.0 GPA!!!!  You need a hug, a high-five, some gold stars,a pat on the back, and a party!  At this point in my life, I wouldn't have the courage to go back to college. Seriously, you are to be admired!

Dragon: LOL about not getting a romantic proposal.  Hubby and I went to the mall to get his hair cut at Penny's.  I stopped by the jewlery counter to "look".  I found a really pretty engagement / wedding his/her set.  I tried on my rings and asked hubby what he thought about them.  He said they were "nice".  I asked if I could see his credit card.  He gave it to me, I gave it to the lady who looked at poor hubby.  He shrugged.  While sitting at a red light, he looked at me and said, "I guess I should ask you to marry me seeing as I somehow already bought the rings."  

That was in March.  In October, I handed him a wedding invitation book.  He asked what it was. I told him.  He asked what it was for.  I told him that we were getting married in June and he needed to help me pick out the invitations.  His only response was, "do you think I should call my parents and tell them, or have you already done that, too?"  LOL..we've been married almost 15years.

About adopting a baby, research is free.  When we got started, there was no big internet so everything had to be done via mail and phone calls.  You should look up different places and just take a look.  We "researched" for over 3 years before we brought home #1.  

Having an HIV+ baby was very difficult for us mainly because we had no idea what we were doing or where we were heading.  You are so much more educated than we were.  I've learned more in the 2 1/2mths I've been on this site than I did the first 7years of Mini's life. Also, we were told we'd never "have" kids.  Needless to say #5 was a HUGE suprise!  You never know when life's gonna start dealing to you from the top of the deck. ;)

OK, break time is over.  We have to get through math (uggggg!) before lunch.  Hope everyone is having a great day!

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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #108 on: February 04, 2008, 02:36:04 PM »
Good afternoon ladies:

Well, I made my daily venture out.  Went to Family Dollar and got a $2 bag of Doritos; they are one of my new addictions. ;D

Drag, I hope I didn't put anything out there that made you go through any distress.  You know I wouldn't do that, sweetness.

 Queen, of course we were concerned.  I really enjoy reading your posts.  You're straight to the point, yet compassionate at the same time.  I was sending you good energy every day, gf.

Mum, what can I say.  You are just the epitomy of what a good mother and person are.  I really enjoy reading your posts also.  They always make me smile. ;D

OK ladies, my soap is on (yes, I watch a soap).  I did study again for the exam tomorrow night and read a chapter out of one of my books.  1/2 a chapter in my other book to go, then it's paper time.  Have a good one.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #109 on: February 04, 2008, 02:56:06 PM »
Happy Monday everyone!

First of all Queen, so glad to see you back. To say you were missed is an obvious understatement.

All the talk about Mini's hair reminds me of when I used to do kiddo's. Pink Oil never did squat for hers either. It would look great for an hour at best before it would dry out again, and that was when her baby hair was still on her little head. Now that all the baby hair is gone, putting pink oil on it would be like putting water on it...does no good. When I still did her hair, I used the thick grease...I think the last was blue magic or something. I had to start taking her to people with hair styling talent. I suck. It takes me hours to do the simplest things plus I have a weird hair phobia type thing. Loose hair, especially lots of it, makes me really sick to my stomach. Her hair got so thick it just comes out in handfuls. I couldn't take it anymore.

Mum, you are a modern day saint. I have so much admiration for foster and adoptive parents but you surpass that by leaps. You're with them day in and day out with very few breaks, yet you seem upbeat in most of your posts. So many kids with so many needs and you would probably have several more....maybe as many as you could support financially. I lack patience in a major way but if kiddo was home with me all day, I would be bald and crazy. You are a hero in my book, any day.

Cindy, I just have to ask why you named your dog Cheech. I just find it so ironic. I have heard you say many times that you couldn't stand that your mom smoked but when I hear Cheech, I automatically think of Chong and big fatties. LOL

Is depression really that common with medication or is it just one or two specific ones? I don't need meds right now but if it can cause depression I most certainly don't need that. I am such a mess now. Adding something to my life that triggers depression would have me suicidal.

Betty, I totally understand how you feel about your father. I am afraid I will feel that way about mine too. I try hard to love him but he does not make it easy. Why is it most people have one parent that is wonderful and one that is hard to love and sometimes hard to even like. I would give my life for my mother but my father....he definitely can grate on a nerve or 10. I can't imagine trying to take care of him when he becomes older and unable to care for himself. Most people grow ornery with age. If he's this bad now, I don't wanna see the future.

I'm glad you are getting a refund Cindy. Do you actually do all your paperwork by hand? I used to pay a preparer but that was way back when I had no bank account and needed the quick return. For the past 3 or 4 years, I have used online programs from the IRS free file program.

I'm still waiting on a 1099 from SS. I tried to get the lady in the local office to give me the numbers off the form so I could file and get my return. She refused to give it to me saying she could only give it to my husband. What a crock. Like she would know any better that it was him when he did call. Since he is working now I will probably have to wait forever for this form to come in. He tried to call on his lunch break but they apparently close the office at that time. GRRR!!!

I'm hoping when I finally get my return I will feel a lot better. I am having to call screen. I think a new creditor is calling every day. My unemployment is finally coming regularly. Hopefully this week I can pay a bill or two. The first one went totally to a loan against my car. Not a dime left from that one. Most of my second one had to go into the bank to cover some checks. Things are starting to look better financially. I am very relieved for that.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XVII-Get Out of Bed and Wash Your Head (You Go Girl)
« Reply #110 on: February 04, 2008, 04:37:53 PM »
I'm going to lock this thread and start a new one, as I know you ladies don't like the long threads. I might not post much over here, but I do try to pay attention! ;)

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