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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« on: December 09, 2007, 10:33:04 PM »
OK, so I figured with some of us being stressed, some of us smoking the good green, some of us shopping till we drop, some of us eating entirely too much.....well, we're all DAZED during our holidays!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to the best GFs in the World!

Big hug to all of you tonight!!

((((((((((((Dating Thread GFs))))))))))))

 ;D

For new readers, here's our "Dating Threads" history....
Part I:       http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=12526.0
Part II:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=13850.0
Part III:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=14375.0
Part IV:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=14848.0
Part V:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15148.0
Part VI:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
Part VII:    http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15951.0
Part VIII:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16271.0
Part IX:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16637.0
Part X:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16913.0
Part XI:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17115.0
Part XII:    http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17324.0

~ Cindy
« Last Edit: December 10, 2007, 06:10:57 PM by MOONLIGHT1114 »
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #1 on: December 09, 2007, 10:47:24 PM »
Totall fitting title Cin. I am totally dazed, trying to figure out how to or if I can give my kiddo the Christmas she is accustomed to. I know some kids will have nothing but mine doesn't know what "nothing" is like. I would hate to see disappointment on her face Christmas morning. Thanks for the fuse comment in the last thread. If I was short fused I would probably try to kill him. He really knows how to work a nerve but I do think I need to figure out a way to make his leash a little shorter. He could cross state lines with this one. LOL
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #2 on: December 09, 2007, 11:10:38 PM »
Oh hell yeah, I have been in a green daze for the past few days... ;) I was in a daze about Rico but I have snapped out of it. I wouldn't say I have given him another chance just that I have changed my perception about things. And since he has hurt my feelings, I guess you can say I have hardened my heart towards him but at the same time he is serving my purpose... ;) I am glad you started another thread because I really didn't have any clue on what to call the next one.....I am off to roll another doobie and go run my bath water. I need to have a Calgon moment... ;D
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #3 on: December 10, 2007, 07:56:08 AM »
Great title, ML.   I did not take what you said about my brother as rude. I feel the exact same way but must keep myself and Robert safe so we will go to my cousins if he comes back here.         Lots to do today. Library, bank and I treated myself to a CD, I just have to go pick it up.   Robert finally went back to school after a week out. Love him but I love to send him to school as well. He loves it also. Everyday, he begs to go(even on Sat and Sun). Shoutout to our teachers, all teachers.    Anyway, queen check the Dragon thread, I left you a message.    Love ya'll, talk to you later.   Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #4 on: December 10, 2007, 08:19:34 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cin, luv the title of this thread!  It is very fitting.  Yes, I've been on Truvada before and I'm resistant to it now.  I was on that and Lexiva for a couple years, and got resistant to both of them.  I'll be calling my doc's office shortly to see when I can get in.  It sounds like your new job is at least tolerable.  I'm glad your first job back into the working world is going well. 

Cristy, yes, you must keep yourself and Robert safe.  What grade is he in?  It seems like when kids are in the early grades they just luv school; and then when they get older they loathe it.  I remember when I was in high school, I did everything I could to get out of going to school every day.  Oh, how I hated it.  That's probably why I quit when I was 16 (which is the legal age to quit).  I did finish up in adult ed. and graduated in the same year I would have if I would've stayed in high school.  Anyway, I'm glad Robert likes school. 

Queen, it sounds like you're handling this thing with Rico good.  Wasn't he trying to get back with his ex?  I think I read that in your blog.  What ever happened with that?  I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him, but that's just me.  When I have a trust issue with someone, it's very hard for me to maintain a relationship with them.  Take care of yourself, girl.

Drag, I do hope the doctor figures out what's wrong with your wrists.  If it's carpal tunnel, do you think you'll have the surgery for that?  When do you have the scan for your feet again?  Good luck with all that. 

I wonder how NY is doing with the baby.  I hope she checks in soon so we know what happened.  I hope she has pics also.  I love babies!  You know, I hear Cin talk about her HIV support group.  They have one in my town also.  It meets on Thursday night.  I wasn't able to go to it because of having class on that night.  But I think during my winter break I will go to it.  I have three weeks off of school, so that will give me something constructive to do with myself.  I guess there's a good turn-out, also, which is great. 

I'll be calling my doc's office shortly.  Wish me luck with getting new meds and hopefully the doc can clear up the rash on my feet and give me Zostrix or something to get rid of this darn cold sore.  Other than that, it's been freezing rain here the last couple nights, which I hate.  It takes me 1/2 hour to clean off my car when I go out, because there's like 1/4 inch of ice all over it and the side roads are like skating rinks.  It's supposed to be freezing rain tonight also.  I would rather have snow. But, I don't control the weather.  I hope all you ladies have a good day-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #5 on: December 10, 2007, 12:39:59 PM »
Oh Betty, You are very observant.....He has been trying to get back with his ex even though he is trying to tell me that was before he met me. I have caught him in a few lies and that is why my heart is hardened towards him now. He is serving my purpose by my keeping it strictly sexual and safe. Is it selfish on my part, maybe it is but he caused it to be this way with his lying and games. So, let the games begin!!!!!! That may sound cold to some but he brought it on himself and I don't feel bad in the least. I am a Capricorn, look up my traits. We are known to have vindictive streaks when someone has mistreated us.

I have been wondering about NY too. I hope everything is ok with her. Maybe she will be coming home today. I am keeping my fingers crossed. Christy, I will check out the Dragons thread and your message. I got my World of Warcraft game today in the mail, my present to myself. No more trial playing even though the trial hasn't expired yet. I will probably be getting into that a little later and play for a few hours til WWE Raw comes on at 8. I do take breaks from time to time so more than likely, I will be checking back here later on sometime. Have a good day, ladies...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline Blessed1974

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #6 on: December 10, 2007, 01:57:09 PM »
Hello Ladies :)

So this is where everyone is at  :o I feel like an idiot.  I'm on here all the time but it never seemed like anyone else was online and I always thought the dating thread was just for dating stuff.  Okay, so now I'm playing catch-up and its going to take me a little while but at least now I know where all the happenings are, LOL

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #7 on: December 10, 2007, 05:52:31 PM »
Blessed----

Oh no, it started out as a dating thread but we pretty much chat about anything and often vent. Feel free to chime in whenever. If you are playing catch up, you will definitely be kept busy for awhile...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #8 on: December 10, 2007, 06:23:29 PM »
Hi GFs~

My first day of work was so easy.  Sure, I had to have the administrator sign me in all day long cause their computer system is messed up, but that gave me time to figure out why the volume wasn't working in Windows Media Player!   ;D  Finally, before lunch, I got my tunes going so I could rock out and peck at the same time.  I started with Sade and almost put myself to sleep, finally ended up with some Nickelback!  Iceman and I sent some text messages back and forth to keep each other company.

My sugars have been crashing, it seems to happen when I eat more and take more insulin.  All of the doses overlap each other and I end up crashing.  So, I bought lots of chocolate today just for that very purpose, lol!

Iceman is coming over tomorrow night so I need to wrap all of his gifts and get them under the tree before then.  I am beat from the low sugars, so I apologize for just writing about myself tonight.  You know I love all of you and hope that each of us is comfortable, warm and safe tonight.  One day when I win the lotto I am going to get all of the US peeps on a cruise ship, then we'll go pick up our other girls across the waters and party, ok?  Ah, wishful thinking, I just wish we all lived closer together.  I think Cam is closest to me, and then its either Queen or Cristy, followed by BT.  One day I'll meet one of you, God willing!

OK, off to make dinner before I end up like Cheech.  He's laying here snoring with his clogged doggie nose, lmao!  He was very good today and stayed out of the mud and muck (translate "his own shit") in the backyard while I was at work.  "Good doggie, Cheech!"   ;D

The pic is my brother and I in 1999.  I had just turned 30!

~ Cindy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #9 on: December 10, 2007, 08:54:32 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Well, I baked my a** off today. I made two different kinds of cookies (mincemeat and molasses) and fudge (OMG, is it ever sweet) and I have some cookie dough in the frig, because it has to chill overnight.  So tomorrow I will be baking again.  I actually rolled the molasses out and used a gingerbread man cookie cutter.  I got so frustrated because the heads kept falling off (LOL).  But, most of them came out alright.  Then I made some frosting and frosted them and put green and red sugar on them.  I might make some more of those tomorrow as well.  My mom used to make those every Christmas (except her last one :'() and it was an all-day event.  Wow, I really miss her.  Anyway, I have some more fudge to make also, but right now I don't have room in my frig!  My daughter wants me to send her some cookies and fudge to her home in Washington, which I'm going to do Wednesday. 

Queen, I don't care if you're using Rico.  Fuck it, use him.  He's using you.  So I guess it's a mutual use. :D  You know how to play it.

Blessed, good to have you on board.  I didn't post here when all these threads first started, mainly because I wasn't dating anyone.  But, like Queen said, you can post about whatever you want.  We help each other out a lot.  I just luv the women on here.  We're all very strong and we help each other stay that way.

Cin, I'm glad you got your tunes going at work!  I don't listen to Sade.  Right now I'm downloading my fav tunes from Napster.  I even got a couple songs by The Knack. :D  When I get them all downloaded, I'm going to burn them on a couple CD's.  Then I'll probably cancel my subscription to Napster.  Did you get Iceman's X-Mas presents wrapped?  I would ask you what you got him, but with him reading these now, I don't want to spoil anything.  I know it's nice, whatever you got him, since you have good taste.  Loved the pic of you and your brother, btw.  Is that the one who's in the way?  You must really miss him. 

Well, I'm going to get ready for bed.  Tomorrow I see my doc at 1:45, so hopefully he can get this rash on my feet figured out, get me some medicine for my continual cold sore, and get me on some good meds for the HIV.  I hope all you ladies have a good night.  *still waiting for the news of the new arrival*
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #10 on: December 10, 2007, 09:33:08 PM »
Blessed, glad you found us. We'll be here when you get caught up.

Queen, I totally ditto Betty....fuck him but I am not loving the male species today.

Cindy, glad work went well for you and that Cheech was a good doggie while unattended. Take care of those sugars and yourself.

There are developments in the works with hubby. We had a major fall out today. He tried to lay blame back dealing with the issues. I told him "fuck him" for blaming me and told him that he didn't have to fix the money issues that he could leave and I would fix them on my own. He will be trying to fix us now but I am so fed up and tired. I hope I can maintain my wits and let this be broken and get rid of it. It never really gets fixed anyway. It's like a bandaid over a pucture wound.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #11 on: December 10, 2007, 10:34:05 PM »
bettytacy  why are you baking so many cookies ? and where can I find you..LOL ::) ::)
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #12 on: December 10, 2007, 10:56:56 PM »
I think its fitting that BTs gingerbread cookie heads fell off, her being a "headbanger" and all, lol!   ;D  Rock on in that kitchen, my metal friend.  Wait, that should be caps, Metal Friend.  There.   ;D

I'm sorry that you're missing your mother so much, it was August 10th or so when she passed, right?  I am so sorry.  This doesn't compare AT ALL, but I have been getting upset every night cause my Casie Beagle isn't here.  I look at my beautiful Christmas tree all lit up and glowing, the lights in the LR turned off, and I am so grateful for what I have.  And then I miss my little Girlie like you wouldn't believe.  This is my first Christmas in this house without her, dating back to Christmas 1993.  Those of you who have lost a pet understand, I know.  Goodness the hurt is always right under the surface all of the time.  Good thing I'm in a cubicle at work, cause I have woken up looking very tired lately.

I still have my nose blowing and sore throat coughing thing going on from the first week of October.  Iceman has yet to hear what my real voice sounds like.  More tissues and ibuprofen for me, I suppose.  Sigh.

Oh, BT, I offered to make brownies for the family at Christmas.  Turns out the big get-together will be on Christmas Day at my aunt's, not Christmas Eve.  Iceman will be at my house Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, and will get to meet the family then and not before.  He is putting new tires on my Liberty this weekend, even said I could sleep in with Cheech at his place and he'd take the Jeep to his shop early Saturday morning to get the work done himself.  Edited to add, btw, yes, I got all of Iceman's and Cheech's presents wrapped, and stockings stuffed!  Cheech has a traditional red and white stocking, but the bottom is paw-shaped instead of boot shaped, lol!

I swear, every day this man never ceases to amaze me.  He is SO giving and so happy.  Its unbelievable.  I am still working on clones for those of you who inquired, so don't despair.  I almost feel bad posting about how fortunate I've been with Iceman cause I know some of you are having real trouble in the man department.  Funny how the GFs here with the biggest stressors in their lives actually have men in their lives, too!   ;D  i.e. Confused and Queen.  Just show them who's boss, GFs, and don't give up.  Remember how bad and messed up my summer was?  And my timeline of shit starting December of last year?  When I joined here in June I was at rock bottom, went on a rollercoaster ride over the summer with some ups and downs, but I did what I always do.

I PERSEVERED.  You can, too.  Hang in there, and let the little things roll off of you.  Its not worth it.  Its HOLIDAZE, coming at you live, so be strong and have another cookie!  :D 

Oh and BT, I think you were trying to ask if that was my Army brother in the pic above.  The answer is yes, but he is my only brother.  I am going to send him a Christmas card tomorrow overseas, I got the address from Mom tonight, and it has to go priority mail.  I hope it arrives in time!

Sleep tight!

~ Cindy
« Last Edit: December 10, 2007, 11:13:32 PM by MOONLIGHT1114 »
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #13 on: December 11, 2007, 06:51:52 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Confused, I hope you and your husband get things worked out.  Please continue to check back in here and vent when you need to.  We do care.

Yes2life, I'm making all these cookies because there are people I want to give them to.  Oh, btw, I'm located in Northcentral Indiana.  Are you close? :D

Cin, that's great Iceman is going to put those tires on your vehicle.  I need snow tires, but I can't afford them with all the other work I've had done to my car recently.  Of course, when you're on the ice, I guess it doesn't matter what kind of tires you have.  It's been icing here quite a bit lately, and we're supposed to get more freezing rain today.  Yuck!  I'd rather drive on snow than all the freezing rain crap.  I thought that was your brother in the picture.  It must hard, not having him here on the holiday.  And I've had to put pets down also, and yes, it's extremely hard to lose a pet.  I'm sorry you're missing your Casie.  But know she's looking down on you and wagging her tail. :-*  I think that's neat that you got Cheech a stocking.  I got my cat one also, about a month ago and it's filled up with stuff for her for Christmas day!  Pets are fun to buy for, because they're not materialistic and don't really care what you get them, they're going to love you anyway. 

BTW gfs, I got an "A" for a final grade in my algebra course! ;D  Still not really sure how that happened. :D  I'll know next Monday what I got in my child & adolescent psych course.  The teacher for that e-mailed everyone in the class and told us to send her our work via attachment and that we would not be having class Wednesday night.  So I am officially off school until next year!  Wow, I can't believe it.  But I'm ready to take a break from the books.   Anyway, today I go see the doctor.  So we'll see what course of treatment I'm going to be on now.  I hope he can get this rash on my feet figured out without me having to see a dermatologist.  It takes forever to get in to see one around here.  I did try using an anti-fungal cream on my feet, but it didn't help and actually seemed to inflame the rash.  Hmmmmmmm......

I hope all you ladies have a wonderful day.  I'll check back in after the doc's.
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #14 on: December 11, 2007, 07:56:40 AM »
Hey girls -

Happy Hanakah to all of you.  I've been super busy at work and getting my house together for christmas.
I have really huge dilemma and really need your brilliant expertise.
A few weeks ago I went to my 20th year anniversary.  I kept wondering about one particular guy.  Get this, he was my childhood crush.  Kissed me in the closet in 3rd grade, and kissed me when I dropped all of my books etc.  I was, for a child, really crazy for this guy. We did everything together.After 5th grade he moved away.  I wrote and wrote to him, but never received any of my mail.  So I  was really hoping in  7th or 8th grade he would be attending that school. But he lived in another district, which I found out......long story,.....but I knew that he would be in my high school. 

So the first time I went up to him (I was kind of geeky) and said "omg, how are Spencer" and he smiled and said good oh good to see you... later Cams.  Needless to say I was really devastated.  But it was as though that door closed.  He went on to be the school scholar, captain of the wrestling team and gymnastics team.  I went into the artsy end of things so we really never really saw much of one another.  I fell in love and he fell in love blah blah blah.

In the past few years, I always wondered what became of him, was he an  engineer for NASA?

Well at the reunion, who do you think the first person who comes up to me and almost for the whole night we made this connection, like as if we children again.  We exchanged email addresses and met up one night.  It was better than I would have ever imagined.  I got home at 4am on a work night ouch.  But when I was with him (he's going through a divorce, like myself, and its past that two year mark) I asked him if he was dating anyone and said yes.  I then asked< do you love her and he replied no, its not like that.   

That night, I broke up with a guy I was seeing, regardless of not knowing what was to come.  I just wanted a clean cut before anything did happen.  Yesterday I get an text message from Spencer saying that he just broke it off with the girl he was dating and his heart is all mine.  I almost started to cry.  I just couldn't believe this is happening.  I have date with him Thursday night.  BUT I AM FREAKING!  WHen do I disclose.  I am so nervous.  I was thinking the date after next.  AND what do I say????? Oh girls please help.

hugs Cammie
« Last Edit: December 11, 2007, 08:06:45 AM by camille07 »

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #15 on: December 11, 2007, 12:20:23 PM »
Hi Girls

I have been lurking and so busy not to much time to write.  But I have at least been keeping up with all of you.  But today I had to write to Cammie, I guess from Kami to another.

Cam-  From my past experiences with the recent Latin Lover I think you should wait till you get to know him. You may not feel that you like him after all.  I know its easy to get wrapped up in the excited feeling that someone is interested in you (which I am sure he is) but you may not be interested in him after you get to know him so why give all of your self to him so to speak until you find out about him.  Like my friend has told me when I have dated negatives let the guy fall hard for you so when you do tell him it does not come as so much as a shock and he will be so inammered with you that it may just not matter.  That's my opinion it worked with the Latin Lover we are just not together for other reasons.  But we did have a nice conversation yesterday, even it was through text messages.  Well, good luck, if anything I think that you should just follow your heart and yo will know when the right time is.  Remember in love you just have to hold your fire a little and see what happens, and maybe the key in love and war is balance.  (quote from Samantha Who)

Happy Holidays I will try to write more soon.

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« Reply #16 on: December 11, 2007, 01:59:40 PM »
Ooooooh Camille!!!!! Good to see you and what a story. About the disclosure issue which I am going through myself, is a tough one. You need to read the last dating thread to catch up on that. I agree with what Sunseeker said 150 percent but others may tell you different. The bottom line is the decision is really yours no matter what any of us say.

Betty, Congrats on the A---You deserve it for all the hard work, no doubt. That's alot of baking you're doing, wished you lived closer to me.. ;D I read your other post too about me and Rico. I guess that is the way I am looking at it----but then he wants to tell me he loves me which I am not taking seriously at all. I keep telling him not to say things he doesn't mean. The drama still flows between him, the ex and now my gf. I am staying out of it. He is struggling but I refuse to help because I felt my help was not appreciated before. That is about it. He's suppose to stop over today but I really don't care if he does or doesn't at this point.

Cindy--- I wouldn't consider Rico being in my life in the way that Iceman is in yours. At this point, it has become just sexual for me because I refuse to let my heart get involved anymore. And I have now come to the conclusion even though he says he loves me, his heart is really still with the ex. If she ever gives him another chance, he will be gone and I have come to accept this. If another man was to come into my life then Rico would be gone just as fast but since I don't see that happening....It has become purely physical for me.

I need to be getting ready for my dentist appointment. Ugh, I haven't been to the dentist in years but never has had any tooth problems either. I look at dentists like the one Steve Martin portrayed in Little Shop of Horrors since I had to endure getting teeth pulled and wearing braces during my teens. I will keep you posted on that when I get back......See Ya....
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #17 on: December 11, 2007, 04:20:38 PM »
Hi ladies. Sorry I havent posted lately, I've been kinda down. i did have my baby. A little boy. I would love to share my pics with you all but to protect my privacy I will not post them openly on the forums. If you'd like to see him PM me and I will respond with a link to a page full of his pics. I'm just checking in quickly to say hello and I hope everyone is doing well. I'm a bit overwhelmed with the end of the semester, new baby and messy home. I'm attempting to get things in order over here and once I get myself back on track i will get back to reading and posting. I hope everyone is well. I'll be back soon :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #18 on: December 11, 2007, 04:30:21 PM »
Hey girls!! How is everyone??...i had a good weekend..nah it was great...my roni (since he is 7 years younger) bought me flowers and a cake and a card up to my job..then we did dinner and went shoppin for me some clothes...where has this dude been all my life...??..its scary tho cus the closer i get to him the more prone i feel to disclosing but then that just scares me even more...i guess ill know when the time is right...but i have th etendancy to blurt shit out like its nothing and that may be what i do but i want to be sensitive to his feelings ...UUUGGGHHH i hate even talkin about..i just wanna ignore it!!!..Dammit....ok there all vents out...
ANywho...i really enjoyed my 31st..

Queen: Sometimes its so much easier for us to follow our hearts, but the heart doesnt always know best..you are smart and beautiful and funny as shit, you aint gotta settle for a damn thing no matter what...Just always remember that and keep your head up Always...

Cin: You seem so happy and exuberant. Everytime i read one of your posts , im smiling from ear to ear...nice pic..how old are u in the avatar pic?..u dont look almost 40...Damn we some fine chicks around HEEERRRR...

You guys are all great and special ..i really want us to all get together and spend a day with each other ..but thats just my social butterfly ass wanting to go places see things meet people mingle..blah blah blah etc. etc...ok chicks gotta go..Until tomorrow ladies


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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #19 on: December 11, 2007, 05:05:49 PM »
Um, not sure what I am suppose to be happy about, Wishful. You got me stumped there. I'm back from the dentist, looking like a freaking wet rat cause the damn cab took so long that I ended up walking home... >:( Not a bad visit to the dentist. He recommends that I get my back wisdom teeth pulled but said it is not mandatory since they are not giving me problems. No cavities.... ;D  Pretty good for someone who hasn't seen a dentist since her teens. I have to get my teeth cleaned but I have to get a clean bill of health from my ID doc in order to get that done...
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #20 on: December 11, 2007, 07:03:41 PM »
Hi All,

Camille -- that's such a cool story ..... I got all excited just reading it !  :) 

So for now .... I hope you have an amazing first date with Spencer -- and that it is lots of fun and excitment getting know him all over again. I don't think you have to plan right now that you will disclose to him the date after next ... unless it just helps you to have a plan. See how date # 1 goes .... and if it is fun and you want to move to date # 2 .... see how you feel and if you're ready.  Like queen said, there is a lot written about disclosure in the last thread .... I wrote a post about my ethics with disclosure and others put in their opinions as well. But I think sunseeker is right in telling you to follow your heart and that you will know the right time.

Also remember that you need to evaluate this guy as a potential partner without filling in the gaps ... it takes awhile to get to know somebody and that is OK. I think sometimes I used to feel that if somebody would just accept me with HIV, that acceptance would be enough ... it would prove that he was a good guy. But I have learned that a guy's acceptance of me is one step in the right direction, but I still need to figure out who the guy is too, you know ?

Bottom line is ...  disclosure is scarey but important for all of us .... and we are all here to support you through it.

I'm learning more and more that there are amazing people in this world who DO accept others as whole packages .... 

Good luck and keep us posted. :)  It's exciting and a romantic story !!!

Ny girl --- congrats on your new baby boy !!!

Hello to everybody else .... Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa ....  Hope I didn't leave anybody out. ;)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #21 on: December 11, 2007, 07:58:58 PM »
Thanks girls for the responses it means so much.

Well I had date #1 last thursday and he's broken up with the girl he was seeing and I did the same.  Date #2 is this thursday.   I have feelings for this man like I haven't experienced in a long time.  I'm so preoccupied that I'm doing that wacky stuff like making coffee and forgetting the pot.  Putting socks in the fridge.  I mean this is insane.  And he feels the same way.  When we're together which will be the 3rd time technically, it seems like the rest of the world fades away.  I ask for your prayers that he will understand and accept as I am.  Thank you, I will keep you posted.

Thanks Em and hello to the rest Cin, Queenie, cristy, Bt, confused, drag, tendai, ubotts, sun and anyone else who is the glue of this forum.

Vaya con dios,

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #22 on: December 11, 2007, 08:47:41 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Cam!  Long time, no hear!  I'm so happy for you.  I agree with Sun about waiting until you really know someone to disclose.  That way, the guy likes you for you, your personality etc.  Good luck with that and now, keep us posted!

NY CONGRATULATIONS!  We were so concerned about what was happening earlier.  We knew you had the baby, just didn't hear anything from you.  How was labor and delivery?  What is his name?  I will be pm'ing you so I can see his adorable pics! 

Queen, congrats on the dentist visit.  Myself, I have dentures.  My teeth rotted out at an early age.  I always used to hate going to the dentist.  I had several root canals done when I was a kid and I didn't like the teeth cleanings either. 

Wishful and SRMN, good to hear from you ladies.  Keep posting and join in with us!

As for myself, I went to my doctor today.  He said the rash on my feet is just from my new shoes, that it's no big deal, and I can keep wearing the shoes (thank God, they're Sketchers and I would hate to not wear them).  Of course, I'm not wearing them often now because of the snow outside.  For the cold sore, he gave me Valtrex and cultured it to see if it is indeed herpes.  As for the HIV meds, he is going to do a phenotype, which will take a couple weeks to get back.  So after that I will know which medications he will put me on.  He said one of them will most likely be Isentress, the newest one that the FDA approved.  So that was that.  Tomorrow I'm going to the lab to get the phenotype done. 

I made another batch of fudge today and some more cookies.  Nothing much else.  I hope all you ladies have a good evening-
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« Reply #23 on: December 11, 2007, 09:13:10 PM »
He said the rash on my feet is just from my new shoes,

This the best medical news I've heard in a looooooooonnnnnnnnnng time.

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« Reply #24 on: December 11, 2007, 11:38:11 PM »
Hello all! I am counting down to the winter break... :) :D

Cindy: What exactly is your job?
Queen: Just be sure to guard your heart...
Ny: CONGRATUALATIONS!!
Betty: When you were talking about your gingerbread cookies you mentioned something about molasses. I know there is some in the recipe but it sounded like these were only molasses. I am curious...or did I misunderstand?

I wish I had more to say...talk to you later

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #25 on: December 12, 2007, 05:52:19 AM »
OMG I want to reply to everyone, but please bear with me as I didn't get much sleep last night!   ;D  Iceman just left!  ;)    Really quick though....

Cam!~  The girls are right about waiting until you feel right about Spencer, things is, you feel right, right NOW, don't you, meaning you want things to progress with him.  I know the rush of emotions and even though I never put my socks in the fridge (LOL) I can tell where you're coming from.

The two of you have a soft, fuzzy foundation of familiarity from your youth, and that's a wonderful start, but keep in mind that people can and do change.  Protect yourself a little, but hope that this guy trusts you.  When I disclosed to Jay and to Iceman this year, they were so mature and open about discussing it.  You see where Jay is now *poof*, but you also know that I am happier than ever with Iceman.  You never know what the result of disclosure will be, at least that's how I feel, people can surprise you in a good way or in a bad way.  Its for that very reason that I cut to the chase after a few dates, if I feel I want things to progress with a guy.  Also, by then I usually am going ga-ga over him, like I was for Iceman, and the next logical thing to do is to disclose so we can further things along.  OK, I think I just posted the same idea 2x in that last sentence, but I am sick and have had no sleep!   :D

Long story short, you have to just DO IT.  Wait for a few more dates if you can, I think you're anxious enough and certainly attracted enough to this guy to disclose NOW, but we all know the emotions and fear of possible rejection creep up too. 

I wish you the best!  Enjoy your roller coaster ride, I hope it continues for a long time!  Its amazing that you both have a clean slate for each other.  That right there says something about the guy.  You mean something to him.  Good luck, sweetie.

NY~  I'm so glad to hear about your new son!  Congrats a thousand times over!  I wish we were all near by so we could help you get the house in order and let you get some rest!  You can post during your 2am feedings now GF!  Baby in one hand and keyboard under the other, lol! 

Wishful~  Thanks for the compliment on my pic.  It was taken last Feb. 2007, I was 37 then, just turned 38 in November.  There's a copy of it in the October issue of POZ. ;)
Sure glad Iceman came along, cause being the spotlight didn't amount to shit.  The poz men are under rocks!  LOL

More tonight, have to go get ready for work!

Love you all Queen, BT, DRAG, Cristy, Sun, confused, tendai, Viv, Em, Sara, hope I didn't foget anyone, I'm not done with my Diet Coke yet, lol......all of us deserve the best!

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #26 on: December 12, 2007, 06:19:06 AM »
Love you all Queen, BT, Cristy, Sun, confused, tendai, Viv, Em, Sara,

er, yes u did  ;D. dont worry i am not taking it personal. i know its hard to keep up with everyone esp with work and love and no sleep goin on.

anyway im here but not posting much... got checked for pn & carpal tunnel today, no symptoms of both, which is good. but i still have rsi - repeated stress injury. all you gamers and typists want to be careful, cos that takes years to develop, but when it does the shit really hits the fan.

NY - CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I am so happy all is well and you have one more fluffy chick under your wings. Please PM with the link, when you have time. dont stress over school, dont they know yove just given birth, cant they cut you some slack, extend deadlines or smt? they should!

speaking of school Betty, whoohooo an A! doesnt get much better than that!! now you can really kick back and enjoy some free time in the hols.
glad about ur feet too. i hope you can get on your new regimen getting those #s down again asap.
 
Queen, i'll echo someone else who wrote look out for your heart. i dont know what else to say, we have not "clinically proven" yet that Rico is in love with his ex, but it's a rocky secenario. look out for yourself girl...

Cammie, so nice to hear from you again with such exciting news. wow romantic movie flashback... it sounds sooo good. i can see why youre scared. even without hiv, when things like that happen, its like whoa... i think you are sensitive enough to find the right moment as you guys get reaquinatted and closer. i wish there was a protocol for that. there should be! if we lived in a more normal world there would be that time right after the first kiss when people would habitually have the hiv/std talk. in fact many people do. admittedly at least within the hetero community no one expects their partners to come up with "oh yeah, I'm hiv+". isn't it funny how in these conversations everyone is always "clean"? you are a charming lady, seriously, so he should be able to accept that. just remeber that, you have a lot to offer to someone. i will be keeping my fingers crossed!!!


Cristy, i'm sorry u're so stressed about your brother, its not fair. im glad though you have a plan b thought up in case he shows up again. whats wrong with him? you dont have to share if it makes you feel uncomfortable, i was just wondering. hope he doesnt come back!!

Confused, sorry youve been so stressed with the husband. hope things work out. something's gotta give...

Everyone else, sara, viv, tendai, sunseeker, wendy, wishful - hope i didnt forget anyone either - hope its all good.

Group hug!  :D

oh yeah just remembered that forgot to update about me & the bf... things are good, i mean we are not having kids or getting married, but things are pretty good. we will be booking tickets for home (mine) later on, so it will be 2 weeks in spain in dec-jan, 2 weeks in IL in feb, and 2 weeks in spain again for semana santa (holy week) in march. my parents will be coming in march as well so it will not just be meet the fockers but meet the fockers 2 with the inlaws. and our parents are more diffent than those in the movie, they dont even have language in common! but i'll worry about it later.

oh yeah Cin im glad youll be doing the family thing after all, youre dad's right btw you are a grumpy old thing. dont think we are fooled by the blonde and the smile ;)
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #27 on: December 12, 2007, 08:30:17 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Viv, the coookies I made are molasses.  I made some more yesterday.  I used a gingerbread man cookie cutter, maybe that's where you got the idea that they were gingerbread.  Even though they have ginger in them, they are molasses.

Cin, I'm glad you're still posting.  I know it's hard trying to keep up with this when you're working and have a life.  When I had that job for that short time, I posted in the morning like you do.  So you will be spending Christmas with your family?  Are you taking Iceman along?

I wonder how everyone else is doing.  OH!  I saw NY's baby.  OMG!  He is sooooo adorable!  Anyone who hasn't seen him yet, should get the link from NY and take a peek.  He is too cute.  And so much hair!

NY, my daughter had a lot of hair also when she was born.  Her father was Mexican, so she had tons of dark hair like you new boy does!  Isn't that wonderful, though?

I hope all of you ladies have a nice day.  Wish we could all get together like on New Year's Eve or something to have a great big party!  Sounds like fun to me.
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« Reply #28 on: December 12, 2007, 09:33:40 AM »
Queen:  I think i was in the wrong thread but u said somthing about people not posting or somthing...i dont know how to get the quote and reply sorry..But i meant what i said before i asked u if u were happy now.. :-\

Anyways NY baby is the BOMB!!..he is extra cute n cuddly..looks like he is 2 months, no wrinkles or pinkness...like most newborns...i miss that....
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #29 on: December 12, 2007, 01:32:00 PM »
I am still coughing up a lung over here. Have made calls to both ID and primary doctors but has gotten nothing but their damn answering machines or voice mail. I know I am not their only patient but damn, a call back would be nice.... >:( I just don't want this cough to end up being something else and I am trying to stay on top of it.

I don't know what to say about Rico. Not sure if I mentioned this in a previous post but now he wants to try to move forward with me. Now I am at the point that I don't know if I should take him seriously since he has been chasing after the ex like he has. The last time he came over he tried to explain his reasons, saying that they had been together for 8 years (4 0f them married). I just feel that is a long time to be chasing after someone who says they don't want you. Makes me wonder if the ex was stringing him along some of the way. I can't help but question his sincerity because I know now that my friend is now mad at him and am wondering if he is only turning to me because he has no one else.

Ny-- I do want to see pics of the baby, so PM me the link, please. Sorry, you are feeling so overwhelmed. I hope things get back in place for you soon.

Confused---- When you get tired of the bs, you will know and there will not be anything your hubby can say to try to fix things. I know how you are feeling, I have been there.

Dragonette--- Glad your tests came back negative. I am a gamer but I don't play everyday but when I do play, I play for hours. I'm glad things are going well with you and the bf. You better get rested up, seems like you will be doing a lot of traveling.

I am still feeling tired and kinda crappy. It's prolly from getting caught in the rain yesterday, I think I am going back to sleep....
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
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4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #30 on: December 12, 2007, 04:43:48 PM »
Thanks for the comments about the baby.  Labor went VERY fast but it was very intense and more painful then my others. They say that happens with fast labors. I had the baby out in an hour and a half. Didnt have to be induce because I went into labor on my own. Of course the baby is on AZT and being watched by a ped ID doctor. I'm a bit nervous but I was told that things look very good for him. His risk of exposure is low. My water never broke, they broke it for me right before he came out and I had no tears or cuts so the baby wasn't exposed to my fluids. This is all great news and I feel like I def had an angel with me in that delivery room. What are chances of my water never breaking or not having one tear? I'm grateful for the way things went, now I just pray my son is Neg.

Thank you ladies for all your support through this, It means so much to me to have other women to talk to. On that note, I'm off to manage the chaos of my household, I'll be back to read, catch up and post more later

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #31 on: December 12, 2007, 05:35:15 PM »
Hi GFs~

OMG I think I am Queen's evil twin.  I started snorting and snotting and coughing and getting congested BAD yesterday.  I didn't even get caught in the rain, Queen, I just got let loose into Cubicle World on Monday this week.  Anytime the air comes on, everyone coughs and sneezes and wheezes.  Clean the F'n filters already, its an HMO building for goodness sake, lmao! *snort*  I am starting to lose my voice again this afternoon, and Aunt Flo arrived too, about 5 days early.  Iceman is coming over tonight, I'll have to be my creative self. ;)

NY~ That's so good to hear about no cuts or tears to put your son at risk!  Wow, you did have angels in that delivery room, girl!  Its nice to see you posting.  PM me the link to the pic when you get a chance, or would someone else send it to me?  Thanks!
I don't know what to say about Rico. Not sure if I mentioned this in a previous post but now he wants to try to move forward with me. Now I am at the point that I don't know if I should take him seriously since he has been chasing after the ex like he has. The last time he came over he tried to explain his reasons, saying that they had been together for 8 years (4 0f them married). I just feel that is a long time to be chasing after someone who says they don't want you. Makes me wonder if the ex was stringing him along some of the way. I can't help but question his sincerity because I know now that my friend is now mad at him and am wondering if he is only turning to me because he has no one else.
Queen, you should tell Rico just that.  Unless you really just want to have him for the bedroom, you have to tell him the deal and how its pissed you off.  Just by you still talking to him, he thinks he has a chance.  Maybe just tell him you want to keep it casual, and no more of this "I love you" shit.  Before you know it, he might become a leg-humper with benefits, but hey, that might not be all that bad.  ;D

BT~ Congrats on the "A" in algebra!  That's awesome!  Your teacher sounded like she was really cool, that can make it or break it with a passing grade sometimes.  Yes, I am having Iceman at my place Christmas Eve, wake up here Christmas morning and then Christmas Day we'll drive 20 miles to my aunt's house.  There will be about 25 of us there, mostly my Dad's cousins, all in their 50s.  My dad is 1 of 3 siblings and he has 4 cousins, so it makes for a big fun group!  I have to work the day after Christmas but I think I can convince Iceman to stay at my place Christmas night.  I'm so run down this evening that he is coming back to my place, when I was supposed to go to his. 

I think it all comes down to prep time in the morning.  He has very short hair, shaved close, and I have to wash mine 2x and condition, then blowdry.  It takes forever!  So, he can be out the door in less than 10 minutes in the morning, it makes me sick that I have to do all this work to look presentable!   ::)

Drag~  I didn't forget you this time, sorry sweetie.  I inserted your name in BOLD in my last post, lol!  It sounds like you will be doing a lot of traveling soon!  How exciting!  I am laughing at your reference to Meet the Fockers, lmao!  I'm happy to hear that your wrists and feet are OK.  I tell you, with these damn computers, its going to catch up with all of us someday, ouch!  Glad to hear that you and your man are doing well, too!  :-*

Viv~ I work for a healthcare company doing data entry.  basically all of the claims come in and get scanned and I go through and recode any scanning errors.  Yep, I just peck like a chicken all day long, using mostly my right hand on the numbers keys.  I do really well, since I've been a bookkeeper for the past 7 years.  I have even, just this past week at this new job, been able to type on the numbers keys without looking, just by touch.  I know, I'm a big numbers nerd, but I think its pretty cool.  I don't have to answer phones or anything, just put on my headphones and rock out in cubicle world while I peck.  *BAWK!*   :D

Wishful~ I'll have to see where your "social butterfly ass" lives after I finish this post!   :D LOL  I have all of my info in my profile, but some people choose not to share it.  I'd love to have a get together with my Gfs, too!

OK, call me "confused me" but are Confused Me and srmn BOTH Saras?  I think so, but I can't get back into any of Confused's posts while I'm in here!  Regardless, I hope you are both well tonight!

Cam~ Tomorrow is another date!  What are you and Spencer going to do?  You know, when I joined the Forums in June it was because I wanted advice on how to disclose to Jay.  I told myself to enjoy my dates and not dwell on the HIV the entire evening.  It was early enough on where we weren't intimate and there was no need for disclosure.  ALLOW yourself to have fun and put the virus in the back of your mind for at least a few more nights out with Spencer.  You'll obsess when you get back home, I know I did, but you have your sisters here to turn to!  I'm so excited for you!

OK, I just spoke with Iceman and he said he was only coming over for dinner tonight.  Then I suggested he stay home.  We joked, wondering HOW we would possibly make it to Friday before seeing each other again, lol.  I am losing my voice, he has laundry to do, I need some sleep (which I never get when he's here, lol), so we are taking a hiatus tonight.  I get to catch up on my shows.

Now if I could just figure out when PPP (my Polly Prissy Pants recruiter) is going to pay me, I'll be OK.  I don't know if she is holding the first check or not.  I have money so I'm OK, but I have asked her via phone and email 3x about my first paydate.  Her brain is especially "selective."  Crazy mo-fo, lol!   ::)

OK, off to pamper myself this evening, I might be on here again later, but as usual, I had to go do a big-ass (_l_) (<-----ass) post again, lol!

Have a good evening everyone, Sun and Cristy and Tendai, too, and BT be careful with that ice!  Maryland gets it this weekend!  :o

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #32 on: December 12, 2007, 05:42:59 PM »
Cin- actually we have a date tonight for dinner after his christmas party and then we have a date for tomorrow nite too.  I asked him since this was such last minute was a swapping the nights.....and he said he just really wanted to see me tonight for dinner and the boardwalk.  Tomorrow is still up in the air as far as where he wants to take me.  I've known this guy for almost 27 years, and it blows my mind that I am going out on these beautiful dates with him.

I have chosen the time to disclose....it will be tomorrow.....and for tonight I say adieu.

wish me well girls

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« Reply #33 on: December 12, 2007, 05:43:49 PM »
Cin- actually we have a date tonight for dinner after his christmas party and then we have a date for tomorrow nite too.  I asked him since this was such last minute were we swapping the nights?.....and he said he just really wanted to see me tonight for dinner and the boardwalk.  Tomorrow is still up in the air as far as where he wants to take me.  I've known this guy for almost 27 years, and it blows my mind that I am going out on these beautiful dates with him.

I have chosen the time to disclose....it will be tomorrow.....and for tonight I say adieu.

wish me well girls

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« Reply #34 on: December 12, 2007, 05:45:12 PM »
OMG Cam, best of luck to you tomorrow night with the disclosure, GF!  You must be anxious cause you quoted yourself and posted 2x, lol!

You know I'm just kidding with you!  Ain't love grand, esp when your stomach jumps and you put your socks in the fridge?   :D
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« Reply #35 on: December 12, 2007, 05:45:35 PM »
SEE I'M SO NOT THINKING!!!!! :o ;) :)

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« Reply #36 on: December 12, 2007, 05:46:34 PM »
Go back to post #33 and just put a smiley in there or something, your choice! 

How do you feel tonight?  Pick the smiley!  LOL   :P
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« Reply #37 on: December 12, 2007, 09:59:22 PM »
Hello Ladies. Hope everyone is doing well. I have just been working a lot. Tried to get some Christmas shopping done tonight but Walmart just doesn't have much I want to buy Robert. I think we will go to Kmart Saturday.                                                                                  Ny, congratulations on your baby boy. I sent you a PM cause I would love to see pictures.                                                                             Cammie, Glad you reconnected with a old friend. Hope all goes well for you.                                                                                                    Queen, Handle your business but make sure you protect you. You are a treasure and deserve to be treated as such.                                    Betty, Congratulations on your A. Your cookies sound good.  I have been gathering my supplies and will soon start baking myself.     Oh, Robert is 4 and in Pre-K. Right now he still loves it. My school experience is similar to yours, quit at 16, GED at 18 , I hated it after a while.Glad to hear your feet are okay and hope all the other medical stuff works out to your benefit.                                               ML, enjoy your evening of pampering.                                               Sun, glad to hear from you. Good advice on getting to know someone.                                                                                   Drag, Glad things are going well with the BF. You deserve to be treated well, like all of us. Thanks for asking about my brother, I guess the most delicate way to put it is, He likes me too much and I can't deal.  That the worst thing but he's also bipolar, doesn't take his meds correctly and does way too much dope. I smoke weed but have enough control to choose food or stuff we need over the weed, It's a luxury, not a necessity. Not looking for sympathy, just stating fact..                                                               Vivyt, Have to give props to our school teachers. Know you are looking forward to that winter break..                                                  Anyway ladies, if I forgot anyone I apologize. Love to you all.  Cristy

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« Reply #38 on: December 12, 2007, 10:09:48 PM »
Good Evening Ladies-----

Just popping in for a few lines. I am in a bit of a mood this evening. So you may witness a bit of an attitude in my post. But I can say Rico didn't cause me to be in a mood but something else....I have been complaining about this cough now for awhile. Now my primary doctor doesn't want to give me anything else til he can see me. I have an appointment tomorrow but I won't be able to make it. I have no transportation. Yeah, I know I could jump on the bus but I really don't want to do that. I am sick enough as it is and I was already caught in the rain after coming from the dentist the other day. The buses are never on time and having to wait out in the cold, I fear will make it worse. Not to mention the odors that I have come across when riding the bus which makes me only feel worse and want to have to hurl. I guess I will be left with trying to ride it out or worse case scenario, I will have to make a trip to the ER. I was afraid something like this was going to end up happening once I lost the use of my car.

To make things even worse, my left hearing aid has given out on me. I noticed this while having a conversation on the phone with Rico. At first I thought it was a few things like either I had lost my hearing in my left ear or my battery was dead. After trying a few things I discovered it was not either of them but my hearing had died. I found my warranty card for my hearing aids but found out it had expired in September. I called the 800 number on the card and left a message but it said it may take 2 days before I even hear anything back from anyone. Just freaking great. I was part of a program called Hear Now by the Starkey Foundation so I decided to look up their website. A link to contact them only had a mailing address, no type of email. I will try my best to put in a call to my case manager at my ASO but this is going to be challenge in itself just trying to hear what she will have to say.

And my thoughts about this "Beehive" thread...These are my thoughts and I am not trying to sway anyone in any type of way. I did look at the opening post of what it is suppose to be about and who created it. I will not be contributing to it. My reasons being is that I feel that is what I do in this thread is vent about HIV, dating and so on. I don't need to do it anywhere else other than my blog and honestly it would be too time consuming trying to keep up with all 3. I also feel that the other thread and it's statements made were kicking dirt on this thread, at least to me, as saying what we post here doesn't hold any substance or is trivial. I'm sorry but I take offense to that. Instead of posting my thoughts in that thread and be accused of baiting, I posted them here. I am sure the creators of the other thread will still be lurking in here so they can see why I will not be participating. Best of luck to them..... :-*

I am off....Rico will be coming over to nurse me soon. I will keep you all posted...
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« Reply #39 on: December 13, 2007, 12:05:46 AM »
What is the "Beehive" thread?

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« Reply #40 on: December 13, 2007, 12:11:17 AM »
Figured it out... ;D

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« Reply #41 on: December 13, 2007, 02:25:12 AM »
nyGIRL CONGRATS ON THE NEW FAMILY MEMBER

ok so the date went way out of this world.  I think my flags have been raised....
 I cannot express to you guys how I feel about this man.....omg!  It is unreal..this isn't just a silly lusty crush....we are really meant to be together.....I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this but the true telller is my Thursday nite date when I disclose...and so basically these are just a one sided love affair.

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« Reply #42 on: December 13, 2007, 06:40:08 AM »
Good morning ladies:

OK Cin and Queen, you guys feel better! 

Queen, do you know anyone who could give you a ride to the doc's sometime?  What about your case manager at your ASO?  They're supposed to do that kind of stuff.  I don't blame you for not wanting to wait on the bus in the cold.  That would surely only make you feel worse.

Cin, we were supposed to get hit with an ice storm Monday, but the temp stayed up there, so it was only rain.  Be careful when you guys get the ice storm!  We did have freezing rain last Saturday night and it took so long to get my car cleaned off Sunday because there was 1/4 inch of solid ice on it all the way around.  I'd rather have snow than ice!  Nothing can help a car in that stuff.  How did the pampering go, btw?

Cristy, your brother sounds like a menace.  I hope your parents don't allow him to come back so you don't have to uproot you and Robert.  Especially right now at Christmas.  Wow, you couldn't find anything at Wal-Mart?  Were they sold out of stuff?

Viv, hey, I know you're ready for a break!  Kudos to you for the work you do.

NY, I'm glad the labor/delivery went so fast for you.  I know how intense those pains can be.  When I was in labor with my daughter I was begging them for drugs, but they wouldn't give me any. Of course, I was in labor for 38 hours and they were afraid that meds might slow things down (slower than they were going).  I'm also glad you didn't experience any tearing.  Your baby is sooo cute!  Thanks for sharing his pictures!

OK Cam, I am so glad you have found someone.  I'm remembering you today, especially for the disclosure thing.  I'm hoping for the best.  Please let us know how it goes!

Other than that ladies, I went out to eat with a friend last night to a really good Mexican restaurant.  I have been craving Mexican food lately.  I don't know if that's why I've been dreaming about my first husband or not (yes, he was Mexican), but I have been dreaming about him quite a bit lately.  I wonder sometimes if he sends me messages from "beyond the grave."  Some people believe in that.  I don't know, I'm skeptical at best.    I went to the library yesterday to get a couple books to read, and got a couple movies.  One of them is "The Passion of the Christ," which I never did see.  I understand it's tragic, but I want to see it. 

I don't know about that Beehive thread.  I read it quickly last night and decided, like Queen, I already post about my life and all it entails in this thread.  Why should there be another one?  But, I also wish people there wonderful luck!  I hope all you ladies have a great day-
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« Reply #43 on: December 13, 2007, 07:27:19 AM »
Good Morning

I'm surprised. Starting a new thread is no cause for such commentary. No negative comments were made toward this thread nor any other for that matter. It's simply a different type of thread. Or perhaps better put, it's just a thread.

It's issues-oriented or at least that's our intent. To read Sara's thoughtful introductory post and come to a conclusion that the Dating thread had dirt kicked upon is erroneous thinking or speed reading.

The Dating thread has liveliness and daily reporting of dating, family events, academic pursuits, journaling in a way. It's very social and concerned about what's going on in members' personal lives. And, that is a great thing!

When Sara and I volleyed a few PMs we discovered we wanted to discuss activism, discuss disclosure, discuss aspects of HIV that affect all of us in a different type of format.

Why is that seen as threatening or negative? It's about choice. Like most anything, this site or another or both; one car or no car or bike; vegan or carnivor. Variety is still the spice of life. We hope that the UK gals and those whom all of us have yet to meet chime in on activists' issues/events, drug trials, legal issues and more.

The thread has the potential for being creative and collaborative in how to live expressively and comfortably with HIV, but just as important, moving beyond to help others.

It's the holiday season...you could view Beehive as just another thread to open up. There have been and will be others along the way deserving of an open mind.

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« Reply #44 on: December 13, 2007, 07:53:05 AM »
Okay ladies. As to this Beehive thread. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I do not think it was meant as a putdown to the dating thread. This coming from the person who originally started the thread. But it has evolved into much more than a dating thread. I enjoy the posts immensely. But none of us are much into activism and maybe we can learn something from the Beehive. I read Sara's post and was touched in many ways.. Give it a chance ladies. I think it will cover other aspects  that we don't as much here. IMHO.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Betty,exactly , he is a menace and I will leave so fast if he comes back, it'll make his head spin.       So weird. Not much at Walmart that I wanted to buy my Robert. I got him a Firetruck flashlight, 35mm  camera, a Tonka watch. It'll last about 3 minutes and a fake call phone. All those are his favorite things but not much else good. We are going to do the dreaded trip into town this weekend to look for more stuff. Also, I will take him to the Dollar Store so he can buy gifts with the money he has earned. He is a great helper so we give him a dollar here and there. He has  $14.00 right now and very proud of that.                                                                   Hope everyone is well. Thanks for the link , NY, he is beautiful.  Later, Cristy  Edited For clarity           
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« Reply #45 on: December 13, 2007, 10:48:43 AM »
This is not a competition. I thought the dating thread was more to talk about our "love lives". THe Beehive is a totally different thread to me anyways. I posted there things i hadnt posted here. But everyone is entitled to their opinions. One should read the WHOLE introduction tho before judging so impulsively.

Im definitely in a holidaze: Bf is feeling some kinda way bcus this will be his first xmas not living with his son..A part of me wants him to go back as i feel like im wrecking a home and at least if he goes now before i am in love then it wont be some hard. I dunno...he says he doesnt want to go back to her but that is where his son is , He told me he wishes i was his sons mom and things would be so much easier. I dunno what to do, i want to be sensitive and compassionate to his feelings tho, im just not good with that. I am a hard person at times, a very black and white person but i dont want him to be hurt by what  say so i dont say anything..Any suggestions??
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« Reply #46 on: December 13, 2007, 10:53:52 AM »
Cindy: im in NJ but i love to travel...if we could make like one trip once a year for everyone to get together that would be cool...a Forum meet n greet so to speak. i  know a few of you guys are at least on the east coast...I guess everyone who wants to participate can organize something together..I would love that!
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« Reply #47 on: December 13, 2007, 11:23:10 AM »
Hi Everybody,

I only have a minute -- but wanted to respond:

Queen -- the new thread is not intended to compete wtih this dating thread. I plan on participating in both for different reasons. In no way did my words attempt to kick dirt on this thread- --  I enjoy the dating thread, I intend to continue participating in it,  and that's all, really. It really shouldn't be any sort of competition. And I hope you take care of yourself with your cough... that maybe you can find a ride to the doctor, etc. Keep us informed.

Camille -- good luck tonight, I've been thinking about you ....  and will be waiting anxiously to hear how it goes. Good luck !!  :)

I want to write more but I have to run ...  so Hello to everybody and more later,

Sara








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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #48 on: December 13, 2007, 05:51:11 PM »
I am losing my voice, I can't taste and I can't smell, ugh!

Good luck tonight Cam!  You'll have the answers you are seeking after you disclose, I feel.  Right after you tell a guy about your status, you can usually come to one conclusion or another.  I hope Spencer is supportive of you and doesn't pull a 180 on you!

Off to find chicken noodle.....   :-\

Edited to add: Cam, you posted in Thread 11, GF!  You still putting socks in the fridge?

GFs, Cam's date has been postponed, she posted it in another thread.  Crap now we have to wait about the news a little longer!  Hang in there girl!
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« Reply #49 on: December 13, 2007, 07:36:21 PM »
I didn't get to go to the doctor's appointment but the doctor's office did give me a call. He told me to stop taking the Dapsone that my ID doctor prescribed. He thinks that may be the reason for the cough but wants me to get some blood drawn tomorrow. He also prescribed some cough medicine and azithromycin, I hope it works...

As for the Beehive thread, I did read it and do not feel that I missed anything. I still stick by what I said but wish you ladies luck with it. I do have an open mind but I can also read between the lines as well. Some of the things that is going to be talked about there has been discussed in this thread already. So to me, it is like beating a dead horse, the only thing different about it I can tell is that there will probably be more talk about activism or whatever. Like I said Good Luck with that....... :-X  ::)
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« Reply #50 on: December 13, 2007, 08:07:52 PM »
Congratulations on your son NY I would love to see his picture. What did you name him?

Queen I like your attitude with Rico. You sound empowered. That's awesome.

Sorry your not feeling well Cindy.

Hope you had a nice Hanukkah Cammie. Good luck with the new guy.

I started with the Christmas goodies today. I made white chocolate dipped pretzels. Next I'll make fudge. Then I'll do cookies and maybe some other easily packaged goodies.
I give my family a gift basket or bag of sweets for Christmas gifts every year. It started out as a gift I could afford to give and now its tradition with the added benefit that I can afford to give it. I only buy presents for children and my sweetheart.
Now that me and Billy's kids are all over the age of 18 its getting more difficult to think of things to get them that I can afford to give. My son is ok with whatever I give him. Billy's son isn't very close to me. He is one of those guys who is stand offish. So he is hard to get close to. I think I have a decent relationship with his girlfriend. She's pregnant. Billy and I where her guardians for a while before she turned 18. She was in the foster system. I'm not worried too much about it. I just don't know what to do for everyone.
I know it will turn out fine. I'm kinda moody right now. Hormones.... Not bitchy feeling more like fragile.

Its hard to keep up with all the post before I decide I have something to say. I hope I didnt leave anyone out.
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« Reply #51 on: December 13, 2007, 09:35:18 PM »
Thanks for the get well wishes, Win.  Did you know my married name was FUDGE from October 1994 to November 1999?  My husband died of AIDS in August 1996.

I just saw that you were making fudge, so I have to be a smart-ass and make a comment.  I ate some E.L. Fudge cookies tonight, too, lol!   ;D

Its OK to feel fragile, Win, its Christmas and I feel vulnerable myself.  The holidays do that to me, stir up emotions and stuff.

Queen, I am trying to get you on IM but no one's home, lol!  I hope you're feeling better soon.  Yeah, sometimes those medicines just make you cough even more to get the stuff outta your chest.  I started on Sudafed PE  Cough and Cold (white box with orange letters) tonight and I feel better already!  I still sound like Jabba the Hut, but at least I can get some words out now without squeaking!   :D
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« Reply #52 on: December 13, 2007, 11:17:25 PM »
Hi Girls

This will be short and will give you all of the updates this weekend.  With working 12 hour shift and typing all day its hard for me to come home and post, my hands and wrists need a break. 

MOON- SORRY I MISSED YOUR BDAY   HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Well I am sorry to hear that Cam's date was a no go.  I am sure she must be upset that she did not get to see him and the build that we put ourselves through about disclosing.  My LatinLover seems to be back in the picture, but he says just as friends right now.  We are going out Saturday night so we will see how that goes.  I will elaborate more later. 

I am off to PM NY so I can see a picture of the baby and wish her some well wishes.

Talk to you guys Sun or Monday

Hope you are well.

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« Reply #53 on: December 14, 2007, 05:32:37 AM »
Hi Cristy, I'm going to send you a pm soon, hope you have a peaceful weekend with not too much work and lots of tips.

and to all of you... Queen hope your cough gets better. Cammie!!! big hugs & succes! [as the Dutch say for good luck]. Happy end of Hannukah, didn't know you were Jewish. And NY - que hijo tanguapissimo, muchos besos a ti y a tus ninos! espero que tengas bastante denscanso.   

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« Reply #54 on: December 14, 2007, 07:55:10 AM »
Good morning ladies:Cin, Queen, I do hope you ladies are feeling better soon!  Cin, this seems to have been going on for quite a long time.  Are you sure it's just allergies?  And Queen, I hope the new meds work for you. 
 Cristy, I hope you find the presents you're looking for for Robert.  I stay away from the mall this time of year.  Hell, I stay away from the mall any time of the year!  I just don't like crowds and people tend to be so rude. 

NY, I hope you're feeling well.  How is the little guy?

Wini, I hope you're doing better.  The holidays are a lot to handle for some people.

Well, I went to the HIV support group last night.  There was only one other female there, and she only stayed about 1/2 an hour because she had to go to work.  So after that, I was the only female.  I guess the ladies in this town are all too paranoid to go to the ASO for fear of stigmatization. Really too bad.  I don't worry about that kind of stuff.  I never did.  I never went through a period of being "scared."  I have a very strong family, though.  I'm more of an outspoken person if someone rattles my cage.  Anyway, it was a good time.  I saw a couple people I knew.  I won't be going next Thursday, because my church is having a Blue Christmas program for people who have lost someone close in the last year and since I lost my mum, I think it would be a good idea to go to it.  And I think one of my classes next semester is going to be on Thursday night, so I won't be able to go when the semester starts back up.  Le sigh.

Other than that, not much going on.  I hope all you ladies have a good day-
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« Reply #55 on: December 14, 2007, 08:06:23 AM »
Hello, ladies. Hope everyone is well.  I am okay, just tired. We had 100 people last night but I am off tonight. Yah!!!!                                            Queen, I hope you get to feeling better. I also hope you find a way to the doctor. It sucks when your car is broken or you don't have one.I remember you said you sold the Caprice but didn't you get a Buick after that? But it needed fixing?                                                               Dragonette, looking forward to your pm.                                              Looks like lots of us make tasty treats to give away during the holiday season. I do cookies, pretzels and candy's.  I am going to try crushing peppermint and mixing it with the white chocolate this year to see how it tastes. I might also dip my Chocolate chip cookies in Chocolate. Of course, I will make a small test batch for the house and if it passes, then I will make a large batch for giving                                                 Cammie, sorry about your date, when did you reschedule for?                  ML, hope you feel better.                                      SS, hope Saturday with LL goes well.   Anybody I missed. Hope you have a great weekend.   Cristy

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« Reply #56 on: December 14, 2007, 08:46:07 AM »
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« Reply #57 on: December 14, 2007, 11:08:25 AM »
Date was post poned until tonight.  Dinner and movie.  I suppose I disclosed after dinner.   I am so freaked. 
Oh, and thanks for the Hanukkah wishes, but I'm not jewish.  I was throwing that out there for any of you girls who might be :)

I will keep you posted.

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« Reply #58 on: December 14, 2007, 02:44:06 PM »
I am in a bit of a mood again. This time my landlord is the cause. He shows up at 10 am banging on my door. I didn't hear anything since I had my hearing aid out, the one that still works cause I was sleep. My roomie heard him but I am pissed because for one when she came to the door, he wasn't there but then he comes back and let's himself in!!!! My roomie wakes me up and he goes on to tell me that the inspector is here to check the smoke alarms....I am not a pleasant person when being woke out of my sleep!!! I go on to shout that we are suppose to be given a 48 hour notice on things like that and not just let yourselves in. After my bitching, all they check is one fucking smoke alarm, I was livid. Honestly, I am still pissed about that. I don't like my privacy invaded which is how I felt.

To make matters even worse, I take my left hearing aid up to the ENT office and Ed, the guy who fitted them for me, comes and talks to me. He is going to put my hearing aid in some machine that I guess gets the wax or moisture out of them, it takes about 6 hours. If that doesn't work then I am pretty much shit out of luck because my warranty expired and the program that paid for them will only help every 5 years...I thought my one insurance would cover it but I am not sure yet, I have to give them a call.

But that is pretty much my day in a nutshell....... >:(

Modified to add: Just got off the phone with my insurance. They will pay up to $1500 on hearing aids but I don't think they will pay to repair the one I have so I may end up getting a new one if it isn't more than $1500. I left Ed a message letting them know what they said so now I am waiting on him to call back.
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« Reply #59 on: December 14, 2007, 05:05:15 PM »
Hi GFs~

Queen, I recall you saying you have partial hearing, so are sounds quiet and muffled without the hearing aids?  Just curious.  I can't imagine relying on something like that every day and then not having one work.  I know how I feel when I lose a contact lens and can't see.  We become so dependent on things like that to get us through our day to day.

I am still coughing and garbling and blowing my nose, but my voice is better today, just really husky instead of disappearing altogether.

I got my first paycheck, and its only a little more than my unemployment was, but this is with the taxes taken out this time, at least.  I don't know how I am going to make ends meet.  I plan on doing a budget this weekend to take a good look at things.  Thank God for MADAP, I just wish they covered my test strips too!

Wishful~  As far as your BF (and Rico, too, for Queen)....Guys who are wishy washy and keep going back and forth to another woman, or who are wrapped around the mother of their child's finger, drive me insane.  I have NEVER tolerated guys who have their heart stuck somewhere else and can't "man up."  I understand that your BF has a child involved, but there are zillions of couples who are divorced and make things work in the child's favor.  IMO, you should tell him to make sure that his child is still a big part of his life by putting him/her FIRST, but also, your BF needs to do things to make himself happy as well.  Its just a new lifestyle that he will have to get used to.

Now don't YOU go feeling like you broke up a household, cause you didn't.  As far as I know, you aren't the reason he split with the mother of his child, but even if you were, it takes two to tango.  Comprendez?  Yeah, I'm a hard ass when it comes to doing the right thing.  There are certain rules I play by and what it all comes down to is RESPECT.  If you don't respect me, then you give me no choice but to leave your ass, no matter how broken my heart feels.  And if you are the reason for my heartache, then its on YOUR conscience, not mine.  I am pretty resilient, I must say.  And if you can't make up your damn mind and do the right thing, then in my opinion you aren't strong enough to be with me.  I have a difficult time with weak people.  No whiners for me, buck up, I say!

I am going to group tonight and then to Iceman's for the weekend.  Its supposed to be cloudy here tomorrow so Iceman will put the new tires on my Liberty at his employee price.  This will be just in time for the crap that's supposed to blow in here Sunday.  Maybe it won't be so bad.

OK, Cam, get your socks outta the fridge and microwave them.  Its almost date time!  Best of luck tonight with this, be as confident as you can, it works wonders!  Whenever I downplayed the virus while disclosing the other guy seemed to handle it better.  I know, easier said than done!

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #60 on: December 14, 2007, 09:41:26 PM »
Wishful - from what I read there isn't much you can do aside from listening to him. He sounds like he misses being closer to his child. Support him spending as much time as he can with his kid. Be careful you don't get your heart broke with this guy. He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.

Cindy - I read that Fudge thing in the fruitcake post. Funny. That name must have been a pain in the ass with all the snickers and jokes that come with it. Either that or a continual source of entertainment.

Queen - I hope you can get a working hearing aid soon. God it must be frustrating for you.

Cammie - I'm not Jewish either but my boyfriends surrogate mother and my boss is.  ;D

Thanks for the well wishes ladies. I'm menstrual right now so I'm more emotional than usual. Plus I've had some worse than usual days here lately. Personal stuff. But its getting better. I hate to complain this emotional crap is so not like me. I hate it when girls act like I am right now. LOL So instead of stuffing my feelings I shared it with you gals. What little I did share.
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« Reply #61 on: December 15, 2007, 12:07:24 AM »
Hi All --

It's the weekend, yeah !!! :)

Wishful -- thought I'd respond to your earlier post --

My boyfriend has a son with his ex-wife, so maybe I have a little perspective.

Just because your boyfriend misses his son does not mean he wants his ex back in his life. My boyfriend misses his son ALL of the time -- especially if it is not his weekend or it is a holiday. It is confusing as a girlfriend sometimes - but try to listen to what he has to say .... it is very possible that he has no desire to go back to his ex, he just misses his son and wishes his son was with the two of you. I think it is natural for him to miss his son and this is something you can work through .. just try not to think that because he misses it his son, it means you are not enough. It is NOT the case -- it's a separate issue, ok ? It is a GOOD sign that he misses his son ... and he can love you plenty while he still might always miss his son when he is not around.

Let us know ...

Hello to everybody !

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« Reply #62 on: December 15, 2007, 06:10:58 AM »
Good morning ladies:

OK, I am anxiously awaiting to hear Cammie's news about the disclosure thing!  Hey girl, what happened?

Queen, I sure hope you get a workable hearing aid soon.  It must really be frustrating to not be able to hear clearly. 

Wishful, I feel the same way Cin does about your bf.  I really don't have much else to say right now.  Maybe more later when you tell us how things are going.

Anyway, not much going on today.  I'm going out to eat with a friend of mine later and going to an NA meeting.  Still waiting on the phenotype test.  Oh, the Valtrex the doc prescribed for my cold sore did nothing.  So, back to the drawing board.  I'll call the doc Monday and see what he suggests now.  Maybe it's not the herpes type (what other type of cold sore is there though? ???). 

Oh, and Cin, welcome to the world of budgeting on a shoe string!  I know how you feel, gf.  I don't have a mortgage or car payment, but I have to budget out $765 a month.  And you know what?  You know the raise that people on SS make every year?  Well, next year, my raise isn't even $20!  I'll only be getting $783!  What a joke.  But anything is better than nothing I guess.

OK, I hope all you ladies have a good day!
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« Reply #63 on: December 15, 2007, 07:57:58 AM »
Good Morning girls...........

First off I never ever was so scared in my life. I've disclosed to the moms and pops, the ex, but this was totallly different. We went for dinner (where he told me he loved me omg)  and when got to his apartment I  said do you have anything to drink....cause I'm thinking we'll need it.  We get beer and its time to disclose.

thanks em for the thoughts on the  intro

I said needed to share something and it was huge....long story short I told him, he accepted, he still loves, and boy thank you God, life is GOOD.
And then I got the massage of my life  and life got even sweeter.

Thank so much everyone for your encouraging words I am forever grateful.

Wishful = I live in jersey so if want to hook up, don't feel like we left u in the cold.  As you might know, so of us pop in and out so quickly its hard to get all the posts.

and heck, I 'm lucky if I find the right post......there are so many of this dating thread.

Vaya con dios

Love to you all

hugs,

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« Reply #64 on: December 15, 2007, 08:13:19 AM »
I'm so glad I came back on!  Wow, Cam!  This is fantastic news!
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« Reply #65 on: December 15, 2007, 08:55:05 AM »
Hello ladies.      Wishful, I didn't respond cause I didn't know what to say. Some of the more eloquent ladies gave you better replies than I could. Best of luck to you with that situation.                                         Cammie, Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!   Glad the disclosure went so well. Wishing you lots of happiness.                                                    Robert and I went to the Dollar Tree last night and to Libby Hill's . All his shopping is done and most of mine. Just gotta get to work on the goodies.   I will start Monday I can give them out Friday at work..      lots to do. Hope everyone is well. Cristy

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« Reply #66 on: December 15, 2007, 09:07:22 AM »
Hi ladies

Cam, amazing news!!!!!! I am so happy for ya!!!

Queen, Cin how's the sneeze and the cough? i am not feeling 100% myself, last night was freezing, usually I sleep as God intended but I really had to cover up. work up at 1100 would have been later but the alarm for my drugs rang. i am sorry about your hearing aid Queen. I think 1500 should be enough to cover a new one no I have no idea how much they are. Life so so complicated...

I just put the BF on the train, I'll see him in Spain 6 days from now. and they will be a very full 6 days, tons of things to do, at work and in general. i dont wanna stress. i have the hospital too, havent heard my cd4 and vuiral load in ages, not since the resistance drama. and also will get the resistance test results.

other exciting stuff like the mouth hygenist etc...

wishful, I agree with what Sara said, sorry for overlooking you before. i always have to choose btw popping in for a quick read or doing in thoroughly just every few days, so i guessn i missed you. i never dated a dad but i spose its part of the package. however, there is a line drawn btw being a good dad and being still in the past... hard to say where it is really, gotta know the person.

Cindy, i guess this job will be a filler for you, after all your overqualified. you wont stay there forever, but for now you will budget. that's tough... you can get some tips from Betty I think. Not having a car saves me tons of money, but it is not an option everywhere. I doubt I'd be living at home without a car.

hope everyone has a fun weekend lined up. Mine will be quiet but busy. sounds like we have some hardworking women here - Cristy, Wendy... for me just maintanence (cleaning etc) is a lot. it hasnt always been like that. but since diagnosis i am more and more slow and tired.

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« Reply #67 on: December 15, 2007, 10:01:50 AM »
Good Morning GFs~

First of all, CONGRATS TO CAM!!!!  I am so happy that the disclosure went well.  Spencer sounds like a very mature, supportive guy, who trusts you and who is crazy about you!  I am thrilled that everything went well last night and that you also got a great massage, too!  I know that helped you to relax after the tension leading to the disclosure.  OOOh!  And he said he loved you?  OMG, you have a good one girl, enjoy him, enjoy him, ENJOY HIM!  Now whatcha gonna get him for Christmas?  You with a bow on yourself?  LOL   ;D

;D      WOO-HOO FOR CAM AND SPENCER!       :D       WOO-HOO FOR CAM AND SPENCER!       :-*

I am sitting in Iceman's kitchen ripping CDs onto his laptop for him.  He was out the door and down the road at 9am to go put tires on my Liberty.  I can't believe how good he is to me.  Iceman and his ways remind me of a line from one of my favorite songs, "Sweetest Taboo" by Sade.  "Everyday is Christmas, and every night is New Year's Eve......"  I tell you, that's how its been for the two of us.  Yesterday was 6 weeks since our first date. 

http://youtube.com/watch?v=eBjBn_wDBbw


I am still blowing my congested nose but the cough is a little better.  It kinda comes and goes, so I think its allergies for sure.  At least Iceman won't catch a cold from me, lol!  ;)

Drag~  I hope you get to take things at your pace today so you can get back to 100% before your travels!  I can't wait to hear how meeting the " 'Rents" goes!  It should be a great time for you!  Just make sure to sit whenever you can, and drink lotsa water.  Sometimes I get so run down just from being on my feet all day, without even really exerting myself much.  Maybe its the fibromyalgia in my neck and back.  Thanks for saying I'm overqualified for my job, Drag.  You are so right.  I have a college degree and I have managed businesses before on the administrative side, and here I am pecking at a healthcare company.  What's really nice is not having to interact with the public right now.  I can just zone out and take it easy, while still being productive, so that's a good thing!

Cindy - I read that Fudge thing in the fruitcake post. Funny. That name must have been a pain in the ass with all the snickers and jokes that come with it. Either that or a continual source of entertainment.

Win~  Yeah being "Fudge" WAS a "pain in the ass" along with all of the "snickers."  OK, mind is in the gutter today, but who gives a shit?   :o  ;D  LOL

I hope you get back to feeling like your normal self again soon, Win.  You can be emotional here anytime, venting will turn you into a heavyweight before you know it!

Shout out to Queen, how are things with the hearing and Rico, GF?  Check in when you get your ass up!

Hello to Cristy and Sara and the "Guest" Early Birds reading here!  You girls should create a screen name and join us.  You can still remain totally anonymous.  The humor and support here is great for the soul!  Hello to all of the other Dating Threads girls who are out shopping or just stirring on this cozy Saturday!   :-*

Two hundred more CDs to go.......lol!  Have a great weekend girls!

~ Cindy

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« Reply #68 on: December 15, 2007, 10:42:35 AM »
Congratulations Cam!!! :) :) :) :)

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« Reply #69 on: December 15, 2007, 11:18:32 AM »
Ah, but my mood has changed somewhat from the post above.  Well, not really changed, but there's something I left out.  I have what I feel are two significant anniversaries in the next week.  One is today, 12/15, and the other is 12/22.  I'll post about 12/22 as the date draws nearer.

Today is the day Doofus showed up at my door on a Friday night last year, 60 miles south of the new home he was building for us.  I had no idea that he had gotten an HIV test done after seeing his doctor for a sprained ankle right after Thanksgiving. 

http://youtube.com/watch?v=FXv5UsSLIiA

The HIV test had come back "inconclusive" and had sent Doofus reeling into a tailspin of paranoia and doubt about our future together, despite the two of us having been a couple for 2-1/2 years.  "Inconclusive" to me means that some dumbass at the lab handled your specimen wrong.  Nevermind that Doofus and I had sex as often as you filed taxes, translate "quarterly," as we were extremely busy working on our log home in the mountains of Pennsylvania.  Doofus was convinced that the HIV bug was destined to crawl out of me and underneath the condom, its sole purpose only to get him and infect him.

Oh, puh-LEASE.

So, Doofus was very upset that night, we talked, he went to counseling on his own and had a series of rapid tests done over the next two weeks.  Paranoia is a deep destroyah......you know?  So, it was December 15, 2006 that all of my starry-eyed plans for the future seemed to dim a little as the uncertainty set in.  How long would Doofus need to go to counseling before he felt better about all of this?  How hard should I try to convince him, educate him further that we were safe, that I had kept HIM safe from seroconverting?  How many more frikkin rapid tests was he going to get?   >:(

I decided not to be a leg-humper and when he came over to "talk" again on December 29th, two weeks later, it was over.  You have heard me say before that if a man isn't there 100% for me, why bother to hold on to him (i.e. leg-hump)?

I had no idea that almost a year later, after a summer full of self-doubt, unemployment and health concerns, that a man would come into my life and sweep me off of my feet.  I knew "I" could love again, I just didn't know if anyone would ever love ME again, unconditionally giving to me what I knew for certain I could give to them.

And then Iceman found me.  I can't put into words how overwhelmingly wonderful this relationship has been for us.  I see it as the beginning of a long journey with this man.

Oh, and Doofus?  He tested negative over and over again, met a white trash redneck on eHarmony and married her three weeks later in March of this year.   ::) 

"Good luck with that," I say.   :P

(You know after going deep with this post, I had to throw in some of my twisted humor for good measure.   ;) )
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« Reply #70 on: December 15, 2007, 02:36:26 PM »
Afternoon One and All----

Wishful--- I have been keeping up with your post and the responses to it. It can be difficult being with someone who has kids with another, I go through that with Rico. And his ex uses the kid like he is a pawn in some game which really pisses me off because I know how much Rico wants to spend time with his son. Even though I am not in a relationship with Rico, I try to encourage him about his son. Give him some legal advice because I have been where he is, now whether he reacts to what I've told him is on him. Rico was going through some drama about his son just last night. I'm rambling a bit, what I am saying is try to be patient with your man in regards to that and supportive if you can. When you are dealing with anyone who has kids when you accept them, you have to accept the kids or the situation. I don't mind playing second fiddle to Rico's kid or the situation but I refuse to play second to the ex. I just stay out the situation and usually when Rico needs to vent, he comes to me. If you need to talk away from the thread, feel free to PM.

Cindy--- Funny, you mention Sade and that song. I was just listening to that song last night. I was going to mak e it a ringtone on my phone but settled for Vanity 6- Drive Me Wild. I also like Sade's Is it a crime..And why are you still concerned about Doofus? Girl, you got Iceman, drop that anniversary and celebrate the new one you have made..Look up Tony, Toni, Tone (spelled just like that) and listen to their song Anniversary. I love that song, not sure if it is on YouTube.

Now to Camille--- Great news indeed. I am very happy for you, gf. So in between those dates and massages, you better start posting more, woman!!!! You are long overdue for some happiness. All I can say is Work it girl!!!

It is very frustrating trying to hear with one hearing aid. I usually have to position myself to the right if anyone speaking to me so I can piece together what they are saying. Same thing goes for the phone unless someone is text messaging me. I didn't hear back from Ed (the guy working on my hearing aid), I guess I will hear something back on Monday.

Rico has plans for today but I am suppose to see him later on tonight. With things going the way they have for him, not sure if tonight is a definite or not. Honestly, I am not even concerned about it. If he shows up great, if he doesn't that's ok too. My attitude towards him has been kind of like whatever.

The cough has gotten a bit better. I mainly just cough up stuff when I first wake up. I am still taking the azithromycin which I think is helping. I take the cough syrup at night before I go to bed. I have a bit of a tummy ache today but that is from the munchies of last night.... ;) I guess I will just be taking it easy today...
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #71 on: December 15, 2007, 09:01:10 PM »
Queen and BT~

Are you girls getting any snow or ice out there yet?
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #72 on: December 15, 2007, 11:34:28 PM »
Girl, we got hit with a few inches from what I can see from looking out the window. Her Majesty has all she needs and did not have to venture out in that crap. I did catch a chill when I check for the mail today. Rico was suppose to have come over and made the attempt by riding his bike. He busted his ass (still laughing about that even though it's not funny.. ;D) and decided to stay home. I could've paid for him a cab to come over but decided he's still in the dog house with me thus no favors here. Plus it will give him the opportunity to miss me. Ain't I just the Royal Bitch..... ;D
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« Reply #73 on: December 16, 2007, 09:18:29 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cin, we got hit! (snow wise)  We have about 10 inches out there right now and the lake effect snow has just started!  Ugh!  I suppose after I eat breakfast I will be out shoveling my way through what I can.  OK, I'm sorry, but I don't remember the whole story on "Doofus."  But anyway, I'm glad it's just a memory now and not a current reality.  I'm glad you have Iceman.  Did he get the tires put on your Liberty? I need snow tires, but I can't afford them what with putting all the money I just did into my car.  So I guess I'll just have to get around with the tires I have on the old Crown Vic' right now.  Hey, have you been baking any goodies yet?

Queen, I don't blame you for being the way you are to Rico.  Why not?  I wouldn't pay for a cab. You know, when I was seeing my first husband, before we got married, he used to hitch-hike from the town he lived in to where I was to see me.  Even in the snow! (I know, it sounds like the old story, "we used to walk through snow...").  But it's true.  He lived in a town about 15 miles west of where I lived, so every Sunday he would hitch-hike (regardless of the weather) to my parents' house to see me.  Wow.  I guess he did love me, even though he used to be physically abusive.  The only time he would get physically abusive though was when he was drunk.  But now I'm drifting off into another story, so I'll stop. Hey, did you get a lot of snow?

Drag, take it easy on yourself before you have to go trecking off to Spain. Have you ever been there before?  I would love to go sometime. Hell, I'd just like to go somewhere that's in the United States on a vacation.  Seriously, I've always wanted to go to Spain.  And Greece.  I'd love to see all the ancient ruins.  When are you going to get your CD4s and viral load?  Please let us know what your numbers are, if you feel comfortable doing that.

Yesterday I went to Big Lots and got some socks and Payless Shoes and got some dress boots.  And they were on sale for $24!  I'm so used to paying Goodwill prices.  I don't understand paying over $50 for a pair of shoes/boots.  But that's just me.  I guess if I had the money to spend like that, I surely would.  But I've gotten some good deals at Goodwill before.  I just got a pair of Docker shoes there Thursday for $4.50.  A lot of good they'll do me now though, with all the snow we've got.

Cristy, do you get snow where you live?  I hope you're taking care of yourself, girl!  Don't work too hard!  I'm glad you're checking in here regularly again. 

Anyway, ladies, that's all for now.  I'm off to eat a little breakfast and shovel! :P
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #74 on: December 16, 2007, 10:39:04 AM »
I get the reminiscing about Doofus. I have my own Doofus. Totally different story of course.
For me once I love a guy I'll always love him, in a way. I don't want to be with my Doofus but I still love him and think of him on occasion. His idiocy makes me laugh at him sometimes and other times it makes me shake my head with shame for him.
I wish him well but I'm glad I'm not with him because even though I love him I deserve better.

I'm working on collecting Christmas songs for a CD to burn. I might burn a few for family but I don't know if I will or not yet.
I made 5 pounds of fudge yesterday. I plan on packaging it today. Not sure what I'll make next. Maybe I'll look online for ideas of other goodies that package easily and have a decent shelf life.
 
Ya'll have any ideas aside from cookies? yes I said ya'll...I'm southern LOL

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« Reply #75 on: December 16, 2007, 11:14:00 AM »
Hello ladies.                                        Betty, no snow here but a good bit of rain. The temperature will drop below freezing tonight so whatever water is left will freeze. We really need the rain cause there is a statewide burning ban.  We had luminaries at work but had to stop using them because of the ban.                                   I am taking good care of myself, the only thing I'm probably not getting enough of is sleep but when Robert gets up at 5am every morning , that makes for less sleep time. He does go to bed at 7 so I get a couple hours to myself unless I am working. I work a holiday tea this evening but it'll only be about 4 hours so I'll be home by 8.                                 Wendy, you could make chocolate covered pretzels, mini pretzels, candy coating, parchment paper and you can top them with sprinkles or crushed peppermint or stuff like that.       I also make solid chocolate candies, but you have to have molds . i wanted to make chocolate dipped strawberries but they don't travel well or last long.                                                                                            Hope everyone else is well. i will check back later. Cristy

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #76 on: December 16, 2007, 01:57:35 PM »
Afternoon All----

The snow has disappeared here again but doesn't doubt that it's cold as shit out there. It seems like it has been raining here too. I honestly think we may have a mild winter here but then winter isn't officially here yet either. I'm still in the bed with my laptop and peeking over at the tv watching Pulp Fiction. Glad it's not my turn for the store run today, it's the roomies.... :D The cough is just about gone now. I just cough a bit in the morning when I get up. I didn't take the cough medicine at all last night so I know that the antibiotics is working, thank the Goddess.

Sundays are lazy days for me. There is usually not much in the way of house cleaning to do around here since me and the roomie pretty much stay on top of that during the week. I think the Cowboys play today around 4, I'll be checking that game out. I may play a bit of Warcraft today and just chill. Once the munchies kick in, I'll prolly go make a salad.

I think we all have had our own Doofus at one point or another in our lives. They appeared in our lives for a reason even if we are not sure why. Maybe just so we'd be aware of what a Doofus can be like and avoid another one at all costs.... ;D Who the hell knows really... ;D Have a good day, ladies....
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #77 on: December 17, 2007, 08:21:11 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Oh, I have had plenty of doofus'.   Yes, I think we've all had our share.

Cristy!  One of your dragons has hatched!  It's really cute!  You sound like you'll be busy for awhile with all that candy making. 

Queen, it looks like you've got another egg to hatch.  So did it ever snow there yesterday?  We really got it here.  And with all the blowing and drifting, a lot of the roads are icey, very icey.  I hate driving on ice.  I'd rather drive on just snow.  Anyway, I think maybe someone went down my alley with a plow.  I hope so as I have to go out today to get a few things at the store. 

Cin, where are you at?  Oh, you're probably at work right now.  How was your weekend?

Wendy-5 LBS OF FUDGE?!  Wow, that's a lot of fudge.  I wish I could give you a really good recipe for some kind of candy, but I just make fudge and cookies.  Cristy sounds like she's got a few good tricks up her sleeve.

Well, like I was saying above, we got clobbered with snow yesterday.  I did go out once to 7-11 to get a Sunday paper, but then on the way back into my parking space I got stuck!  I had to rock the car to get unstuck.  I hope I'm not repeating a story I've already told.  Anyway, my brother, who lives here now, but did live in Alaska when attending the U of A there, said people in Indiana are just chicken-shits, that we should try driving in Alaska for awhile.  Hello!  I don't want to even visit Alaska! (Well, I wouldn't turn down a free trip there or anything).  I couldn't handle the times when it would be dark for 20 hrs a day or light for 20 hrs.  That would just drive me insane!  But, some people love it there.  I'm not really a wintery person.  If I had the money, I'd probably move to California or Arizona.  I have a sister who lives in Arizona and she said she misses the change of seasons.  Of course, if she wants to see snow, she just drives a couple hours up into the mountains.  That would be ideal for me, not having to live in the snow, but being able to see it if I wanted to.  Well ladies, have a great day-
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« Reply #78 on: December 17, 2007, 08:37:22 AM »
Good morning everyone! Only 3 more days and I am on Winter Break... ;D I love this break. It is just the right amount of days off and then I am ready to go back and see the kids. Of course the hardest time are the days just before vacation. They are excited too and it is difficult to keep them "together".

All this candy and cookie making! I am starting mine this week. I am going to attempt to make fudge for the first time this year...wish me luck!

All this weather you guys are having! I can't say that I can relate. Today is supposed to be 65 and I think that is COLD! We definitely do not get the seasons here in Southern California. :) Stay warm wherever you are... :) :)

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #79 on: December 17, 2007, 09:09:42 AM »
bloody hell!! just wrote a huge post and it all went down the drain, dammit!!

hope you're all well. i wish i remebered to save it, i always do, but Murphy's law, the one time you forget!


will try some other time, must get back to work now

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #80 on: December 17, 2007, 11:56:30 AM »
Morning Ladies----

Yep, it finally did come down, there's snow everywhere. I hate winter too, Betty. Funny considering that I am a Capricorn and considered an Earth sign. I don't like being cold, I am one of those people that likes to be lukewarm, not too hot but not too cold. You don't get many days like that. My thing is why can't winter go just as fast as summer seems to? Just when you get to enjoying the summer, it's gone but winter seems to linger like a Bible Thumper who hangs around your door.... ;D

I don't have much planned today. I am going to cook a pork roast. I took it out of the freezer last night to thaw. I'll probably start prepping that around 2 and let it sit to marinate in some Arbor Mist til around 4 then cook it. Rico is suppose to come over today. He only said it because I was talking trash to him yesterday. I was actually joking with him about being out in this mess yesterday since he mentioned he walked over to his ex mother in laws house. Not sure if he went over there to see his kid or not. But he has been seeing his kid lately even after the ex left him a vm saying he couldn't see him anymore. So, I am not sure if the egoing to have to cut this short and get ready. I'll post a little later on.... Have a good day ladies...x in laws are letting him see his or if the ex is playing games again.

I am a bit worried about Rico. I think he is an alcoholic. No, he doesn't drink all the time, only on his days off which is twice a week. I have teased him about this but he insists he is not because he doesn't drink all day every day. Still, the first thing he talks about is needing a beer but when he drinks, he doesn't get sloppy drunk. Hey, I know I am a pothead, no denials there and I usually twist a doobie up every morning upon waking.... :D He just called me. He just got out of work and on his way over. I guess I am going to have to cut this short and get ready. I'll post more later. Have a good day, ladies...
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #81 on: December 17, 2007, 06:22:39 PM »
Cristy - That was one of the first things I made. I used pretzel rods and white chocolate and sprinkled them with red and green sugar.

Viv - Good luck with the fudge. Let us know if it came out ok.

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« Reply #82 on: December 17, 2007, 07:06:30 PM »
Good evening ladies:

Queen, my first husband used to say "I'm not an alcoholic.  Alcoholics drink every day."  That's just a myth (that alcoholics drink every day).  It really depends on what happens when someone drinks.  Like if they lose control, have blackouts, can't control their consumption, things like that.  I didn't drink every day, but when I did drink, I drank a hell of a lot.  I never stopped until I puked or passed out.  I had several blackouts during my heyday.  Really, times I don't remember where I was, how I got where I was, who the person was I woke up next to etc.  Of course, for many years, drugs played a large part of that.  (Not pot-I quit that a long time before I quit the drinking because it made me extremely paranoid).   I used coke until I blew out a couple of my heart valves from shooting up too much (when I was 16) and then switched to heroin for awhile (my reasoning was that downers would be good for my heart).  Anyway, I'm prattling on....  I hope your evening with Rico goes well.  Stay warm, girl!  It's freezing here also and I don't like it one bit!

Viv, good luck with the final days of school and trying to keep the kids together!  Do you have much planned for the winter break?

Anyway, today was pretty uneventful.  I went to a couple grocery stores.  Nothing exciting.  I talked to my daughter for a few minutes.  I had mailed her a package with cookies and fudge in it and she called to tell me that she got it.  She was pretty excited.  I'm glad.  I miss her and wish she lived closer! :-\  (I live in Indiana, she lives in Washington).  She came home when my mum passed and probably won't be able to come home again until next year.  There are so many years of her life that I wasn't mentally present for because of the drug fog.  But she's well adjusted and doing rather well for herself.  She knows how much I love her and how sorry I am for not "being there" for a portion of her life.  Today is what counts anyway. 

I hope all you ladies have a good evening-
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« Reply #83 on: December 17, 2007, 08:06:37 PM »
Hi GFs~

Maryland didn't get shit in the way of ice or snow, like they said we would.  We got torrential rain Saturday night and then high winds Sunday which dried everything up.  I thought my roof was going to blow off last night.

I went to Iceman's Friday night, took Cheech and stayed until Sunday night.  Iceman got up early Saturday morning and went to his office to put my tires on.  Four were reserved and a new girl there let one of em go to another customer, lol!  So, Iceman sent a guy to another store to get one and all was done.  I have cool new tires and Iceman saved me about $150 on them plus the cost of labor!  Woo-hoo!  :D

Iceman and I hung out at his place Saturday, made BLTs and soup for lunch, just had a cozy day inside, waiting for the snow storm that "wasn't."  I took about 300 CDs to his place and uploaded them onto his computer so that he could get them onto his iPod.  I almost got through all of them, but it took forever!

Sunday was movie day, football and upload more CDs day.  Iceman says he likes to be a homebody just like me.  Oh and I made brownies, too.  Yum!  Um, yes, we ate all of them this weekend!   ;D

I am getting very excited for Christmas!  I can't believe I have a 4-day weekend coming up.  Iceman will get to meet my parents and extended family on Christmas Day, so it should be a good time. 

~ Cindy
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« Reply #84 on: December 18, 2007, 05:09:12 AM »
Happy Holidays Ladies. I have been offline a bit but wanted to touch base. I have read the post to get caught up. Sounds like a lot has been going on.  I bettys post to Queen about alcoholics. I am a member of AA and I was taught fromt he big book and my sponsor that only you have tohe power to identify yourself as an alcoholic and only you can make a change if you want to. If you might think you may have a problem with alcohol and your life has become unmanageable then you may be an ahcololic and may want to check out a few AA meetings in your area or go onlne to http://www.aagrapevine.org/ as thisis anAA meeting in print and has links to many things you may want to learn about.   Just an idea..May all of your holidays be full of Serenity, Love Good Health, Miralces and Gods Love. May we all have a miracle in 2008 and maybe they will find a cure for us all.   God Bless you all. Dawn M. Simi Valley CA
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« Reply #85 on: December 18, 2007, 05:57:27 AM »
Hey ladies,

I feel sick today, actually i didnt feel well for a few days but last night was the worst. its so cold here now, no doubt i got it cycling, although its not snowing its under zero. i was wearning 2 longsleeves ts, 2 housecoats, and covered with 2 duvets and the heating on but still was cold. my throat and head hurt too.

im going to go out shopping now, luckily there are some shop a couple minutes away. i still have to buy presents, for my BFs B-day and for his family. i am nervous from this trip, thats probabaly why I got ill.

Sounds like a cozy weekend Cindy! whoohoo

Queen, I know there are different kinds of alcoholics, there are certainly the functional ones that only get smashed on the weekends. I guess its hard to say when a drinking problem becomes alcoholis. i spose it starts when people drink to escape... have you talkd about it with R at all?
You asked me to tell you about Mike - I posted in his thread. Actually my contact with Mike so far was several PMs and a phone call. usually I read about people here in difficult sitations but don't interfere at all, but there comes a time when it is just too much... Yeah I want to thank you ladies - Betty, Cindy, Queen - for your kindness. I think he could really use it.

Betty, be careful out there in all the snow and ice. hey, at least i dont have to dig my way out of my apartment. stay warm & drive carefully pls.

Oh yeah, you asked me about spain - i have been there before, once as a tourist pretty much all over the place, then with my BF lasy new years, when i met his family, and then for work, to the same city, but didnt see them. i think a lot of my nerves is that i physically changed so much in one year. i gained about 7 kgs, mostly in my stomach, but my face looks thin and drawn. i just dont feel good about myself anymore. i dont know how much is the actual meds, and how much is my lifestyle, stress etc. i thought that if i quit smoking, even though it was just a couple a day, i'd look better, but that didnt change much. i try to eat healthy and i excercise every 2-3 days (and of course just communting by bike is some form of daily excercise). but i feel like i have aged many years in just one year. im going to get my period in spain, which is always a mess of depression, anxiety, and physical illness. add to that having to hide my poz status from the family, and being on the usual super nice put on display mod of a visitor who cant even speak the language, i am just so not ready. i have seriously toyed with the idea of cancelling, but then i would just sit here in the freezing cold for 2 weeks and feel sorry for myself.

another problem is that although i have been able to be pretty open, i dont have many friends here, mostly b/c i do withdraw and i am tired, so i hardly ever meet people socially. in short i feel trapped within myself but without the enegry to do anything about it - especially not now when i have the flu...

Last night a cat showed up here, so I left him some milk and bacon. Then I thought how many of you have a cat. But I don't dare too, b/c this is an apartment and I would have to handle his shit and I am too scared of toxoplasmosis. I will get a dog one day though, a dog and a kid...

BTW they were not able to do a resistance test, but i was still detectable. the doc said my current regime will be a temporary one, he basically stright out asked me why dont we try to get pregnant already, so i can switch. medicine wise this would be the ideal place and time, but there are so many issues. even my apartment isnt suitable for that at all. if i'm freezing here what about a baby?

today they have Christmas drinks at work but I am missing all that...

Cristy, I hope your brother keeps the hell away, you deserve a nice time with the family this Christmas.

NY, hope you got some of those deadlines postponed. I think about you every time I think about having a baby. Are you getting any help with the baby and the kds? And what is his name?

Cammie, I'm waiting for more sunny stories.

Wendy, in my pst that crashed yesterday i posted alink with recipes, but later I looked again, I think they can't compete with yours.

Sun, I hope it goes better this time around. You gotta look out for you.

Hugs to everyone, happy holidays Dawn, Tendai, Sara, Sunseeker, Blessed, Em, Confused, Viv, Wishful and anyone I forgot to mention... I'm going to buy stuff and stuff to make a soup
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« Reply #86 on: December 18, 2007, 06:32:03 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cin, sounds like you had a really nice weekend.  I wish I knew how to do everything you know how to do with a computer.  I have downloaded several songs I would like to burn onto a CD, but I haven't a clue on how to do it.  I suppose it would tell me step-by-step instructions if I went into the tutorial.  I might do that during my holiday break from school.  Love your avy by the way.  I always liked the Rudolph cartoon when I was a kid, and I still do.  I love the old Christmas cartoons.  I used to look forward to them every year.  Is Iceman ready to meet everyone? 

Drag, I sure hope your cold gets better, especially before you have to travel.  What's this about your meds?  Your doctor wants you to become pregnant so he can change the meds?  Why does he have to wait until you're pregnant to do that?  And what exactly are your numbers like?  Stay out of the cold as much as you can.  I  have a stuffy nose since I've been going out in the cold.  Of course I don't cycle to where I have to go though.  Please be careful and take care of yourself.

Serenity, good to hear from you again.  I wish you would be a regular on here.  How long have you been in recovery?

I really don't have a lot going on today.  I'm going to return some DVDs to the library and I'm going to meet the agent where I get my renter's insurance from.  I'd never had renter's insurance before, but figured with a new computer and a new t.v., I should get some.  So his office called last week, saying he likes to meet his new customers, so I'm going today to meet with him.  The place is clear on the other side of town.  Had I known they were that far away, I probably would have chosen someone closer to me. 

Tomorrow I have a phone recertification appointment with welfare about the big $9/month I get in food stamps and Medicaid.  Yes, it's that time of year again for me.  Then, after that, I'm going to my dad's to do his shopping.  And yesterday I made chili and cornbread and I'm going to take him some.  He also reminded me to bring him some fudge.  I come by my chocoholicism naturally. ;)  Anyway, I hope all you ladies have a good day-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #87 on: December 18, 2007, 08:03:06 AM »
Hello Ladies. things are well here, just getting ready for my double shift today.                                                                                             Dragonette, sorry you do not feel good. Hope you get to feeling better soon. It is very cold here, 19 degrees , but no snow or ice. And the little bit of rain we had already soaked in.      I never did get your PM, must have gotten lost in cyberspace when they were redoing the server for the forums. I am happy to report that my parents,whom we live with, said NO,NO,NO to my brother coming back so I will have a nice relaxing Christmas.    I saw your post about Mike(tnboy) but do not know what to do. I think it's really nice that you are trying to get him some help.  Hope you have a great Christmas and feel better soon.                                                                                                 Wendy , I thought about trying Pretzel sticks but I like the mini pretzels so will use those as usual. I am going to top them  with crushed peppermint and sprinkles. i haven't even started. I am off Wednesday so will start them. Wish I had some more suggestions for you but that's all I know how to do.                                                  Betty, I hear ya about the recertification. It's that time of the year for us , too. We both get Medicade and we get FS, a larger amount than you but that might be cause I have Robert. After Christmas, I think I will get a disability lawyer and get some help with that. I applied in OCT of 2005 and am waiting for a hearing.     Hope you have a good visit with your dad. I got my Chocoholism from my mom but since I gave most of the other bad stuff up, I can keep my chocolate.                                                                                     ML, glad you had a good weekend and got new tires  on your jeep. It's almost time to get tires for my escort but I will be going with used, at $20  per tire, I can get them all done. Or I might wait for my taxes and get new for the front. They will last a couple more months, I think. i will have my dad look at them for me. thanks for mentioning that.                                                                         Queen, hope you are well. How did that Pot roast turn out. I hope Rico is not an alcoholic. I 've Had a couple of those and they are hard to deal with. Just guard yourself and you will be okay. Thanks for still playing Dragons with me.                                                       Anyone I have missed, hope ya'll have a great week and A very Merry Christmas.   Cristy  ( Edited cause i used the wrong name)
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #88 on: December 18, 2007, 02:59:08 PM »
Nothing to report today. Serenity, I think you got my post twisted, I am not an alcoholic, I am a pothead. I know about AA meetings because my Father was a recovering alcoholic. I really don't think Rico has a problem like that. As I said, I was teasing him. I don't want it to develop into one. I think he drinks to relax and prolly release some stress.

My pork roast was THE BOMB!!!! I cooked it in some Arbor Mist, added some onions, peppers, garlic and it was to die for. I need to go see if some is left cause my roomie and Rico was killing it last night. I must admit I went back for seconds too... ;D Rico stayed the night and on a night he usually doesn't come on. I was kind of impressed.

Today will be all about regrouping for me. I am a bit worn out. I still haven't heard back from Ed at the ENT. I am thinking he prolly sent off for another hearing aid. I will give him another call later..I'm beat, I'll chat with you all later...
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5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #89 on: December 18, 2007, 05:54:34 PM »
Hi GFs~

I am congested and STILL blowing my nose.  This is nuts!  I finally bought some allergy medicine tonight and took some.  I want to see how drowsy it makes me - or not.  Maybe it will clear my nose up some.  I have been talking like a nerd since the first week of October.  I might have to go to the allergy doctor soon.  I can't imagine what the spring might bring!  "Thanks, Mom!"  She has allergies to beat the band!   :D

Serenity~  Its nice to see you post.  Didn't you go to Vegas to see Cirque?  I'm sorry if I have you mixed up with someone else, but if I am correct about you going there, how was the show?  I was anxious to hear about it!

Drag~  Sorry to hear you're sick, stressed and cold.  As for your "Aunt Flo" arriving when you're in Spain, take ibuprofen a few days before and keep it in your system round the clock so your cramps don't get bad.  As much as it sucks, try to lay off of the caffeine (sodas and chocolate, coffee and tea, too) so you don't get so depressed and down.  You may be able to plan ahead and not go through the usual ordeal if you give it a try.  Besides, you'll be distracted by the trip itself, so maybe it won't be so bad getting your period.

I have gained weight too, and yes, my face is still somewhat drawn.  Also, GF I think I know how old you are, so welcome!  You can "round up" with the rest of us here, lol!

Drag, if I was reading correctly, since you're showing a detectable VL, your doctor wants to switch your meds now.  And since you will be switching the doc said why not try to get pregnant now as well, meaning you could go on meds that are better to take while trying to conceive?  Did I get that right?  In other words, no Sustiva or anything that would harm the baby.....Are you ready for a child?  Maybe let things settle down some?  I recall a move and a change in jobs for your BF, right?  You still have time, don't let your doctor push you when it comes to bringing another life into this world.  I hope you feel better soon!

BT~  Cornbread and chili!  Now THERE's some fuel for you, lol!  That sounds sooooooo yummy!  How is your father doing?  You sounded like he was really bad off before, but lately you haven't mentioned much.  Please let us know how he's doing.  I know this is a rough holiday season for you, just be strong, I know you will be.

Iceman hasn't talked much about meeting the family, but I think its because he's pretty confident.  He talks to all kinds of people in his line of work, so meeting some more doesn't seem to phase him.  The group will be about 10 of us or so, instead of 25, which can be crazy sometimes!  My aunt called last night to confirm everything, no kids will be there, just me and Ice, my parents, my grandmother, my aunt and uncle, my uncle's mother, and my uncle's sister and fiance.  It should be nice!

Cristy~  I'm glad to hear that your brother won't be causing havoc at the household.  Was he planning on moving back in or just visiting for the holiday?  Somehow I think he wanted to move back in, but WILL he be allowed to visit for the holiday or are things that bad where he's concerned?  And if you girls keep posting about chocolates and candies I am going to have to go buy more.  I drool every time I read these threads now!  :D

Queen~Sounds like you are a good cook, GF.  Wish I could come to your place for dinner.  Sweet of Rico to stay the night unexpectedly.  How are things with him?  Is he still all lovey-dovey with you or has he chilled out some?  Are the two of you getting gifts for each other for Christmas?  I can't believe you haven't heard back from Ed about your hearing aid!  I would be calling that place morning noon and night!  Call tomorrow girl to get an update, so maybe you won't have to go through the weekend and Christmas without your hearing aid.  When do they expect the new one to be in?

Well, its time to go make turkey burgers for me and Cheech before this allergy med kicks in, if its going to.  I may be tipping over later, not sure.

CAMILLE WE NEED AN UPDATE!!!  LOL   :D

Everyone stay safe and warm tonight, wherever you are, and say a prayer for tnboy.  I need to go read Drag's thread on the situation and get caught up.

God Bless,

~ Cindy
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #90 on: December 18, 2007, 06:07:50 PM »
Hi Girls

Well, not to much to report around here.  I went out with the Latin Lover the other day and we had a good time.  It was a little weird at first but then things smoothed out.  He spent the night, but nothing happend.  That is OK too.  Its just good to be friends with him because we do have fun when we hang out.  I have been talking to this guy again that I met on this site two years ago.  I kind of blew him off at that time and he left me alone for a while and since Thanksgiving he has been talking to me.  At first he was calling me and texting me all day telling me how great I am and that he has not been able to stop thinking about me so that was nice and I was eating it up.  Now things have calmed down and we were suppose to go out last Saturday night but he said he had to work.  We are suppose to go out this weekend, we will see if it really happens.  He said that he has just been busy with work and for me not to run away, and things will calm down with him at work.  At this point if he does not come through this weekend I am saying audios to him.   I hope that everyone is doing well and looking forward to the holidays.  I will be looking forward to posting more since I will be on vacation till January 2nd.  Till then don't eat to much chocolate, god knows I have been eating enough for all of us.  

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #91 on: December 18, 2007, 08:26:36 PM »
Damn Cindy, those allergies must really be kicking your ass.. :-\ My roomie has been complaining about hers too and last night my nose was dry as a desert along with a sore throat. I wonder if the heat is doing it to me. I did call Ed back up and he returned my call. He said he had left a message but it must've been on the house phone which I can't use since I can't hold it up to my ear. Anyhoo, he says that my hearing aid can't be fixed that I am going to need a new one...  :-\ He goes on to tell me that the ENT there does accept my insurance for some reason but asked for their number so he could explain the situation to them. Hopefully he says that I can go somewhere else to get a new one. Just great, these are the people who have been dealing with me since I lost my hearing. I should've asked him do I need to change everything like getting my ears cleaned out etc now or is it just about servicing my hearing aid needs. He said he would get back to me....

Shortly after Ed, I get a call from my case manager from my ASO. We had been discussing Medicare Part D coverage for my meds and stuff. She tried to tell me that I had coverage through one company after I had told her that I had just started coverage with someone else. She tried to tell me it was different but then she calls today and tells me that I am smarter than her.....I would admit and say yes to most things because she hasn't really been much help to me as my case manager. I am usually telling her things instead of the other way around. I really miss my old case manager, he really was on point with things. It seems for the most part the only thing she is good at is giving me medical releases to sign.... ::)

About Rico since you asked Cindy.... :D He has been more lovey dovey, not sure what that is all about. Maybe because I was just giving off the vibe that I don't give a fuck anymore, come service me.... ;D I know that sounds bad but hey, he made it this way. The saga continues with the son----once again he is not allowed to see his son but now this is coming from his ex's sister. I do try to stay out of it but when he told me that, I had to say something. I told him that I didn't see how the sister could dictate anything since she was not the one he laid down with and made the boy. It's really crazy to me. He has a hearing sometime in January. I told him he should make this known at the hearing besides the hateful vms that the ex sends when he can't see his son. It was snowing like crazy over the weekend and the fam has cars, no one would bring his son to him, he literally had to ride his bike in that mess. And when it is bad like that and he calls to say he can't make it, they give him hell. The daughter's(which isn't his)father doesn't even come to see her and they don't even make a fuss. The only time that deadbeat shows up is when the daughter wants to see him and they go pick him up. What kind of shit is that?! Pennsylvania really sucks when it comes to child support issues or whatever.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #92 on: December 18, 2007, 08:56:49 PM »
Just a quick post for Camille and the rest of the GFs.....

I was making my sandwich for lunch tomorrow and I couldn't find the container of turkey in the fridge.  Hmmmm.  That was OK since I had just bought two new packs tonight at the grocery.  I make my sandwich, go to open a drawer and get a ziploc bag out.  There is my container of turkey in the top drawer from last night when I was packing my lunch!

DOH!   Cam, it must be love, lol!  Let's "talk turkey!"

Yes, of COURSE I threw the "found" container in the trash as I giggled to myself and thought of this thread!   ;D
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #93 on: December 18, 2007, 10:20:38 PM »
Damn Cindy, what next? Car keys will be in the fridge? I'm not hating, it's good to see you and Camille in love. I am good with lust right now..... ;) Hey, it's been 2 years, ok!!!! Maybe love will come later on down the line and not necessarily with Rico. If it was through him, he'd have to show me a helluva a lot to believe it... :o

Funny thing though, my son came to visit me today. I have told him about Rico. He teases me about him, calling him my bf which I whole heartedly deny!!!! I keep saying he is just a friend but I think it's cute that my son teases me... ;D My son seems to think I am hiding Rico from him. My son always seems to show up hours after Rico has left which I think is hilarious. He then goes on to say how it isn't right that I am having sex...Now not because I'm poz, he knows I keep condoms but because I am old.....ROFLMAO..Nonetheless, it was good to see him and hear about his adventures.

I am off to surf the other side of the forums and then play a little bit of WoW. I'll chat you ladies later.... :-*
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #94 on: December 18, 2007, 10:33:38 PM »
Queen - Old people like us dont have sex. Thats just gross. LMAO   j/k

Drag Ė hope you feel better soon. The recipes I use are ones Iíve read online or in books. I sometimes alter them but none of them are ones Iíve made up all by myself. I have a pretty good knack for baking. I donít do it often though. Looking at recipes helps give me ideas. Itís a fun thing to do on occasion. Iím sure yours where good ones. Sucks that your post crashed.

Bettytacy Ė I use Itunes to burn my cdís. Iím not sure how other people do it. If you have car insurance you might want to check if they do renters insurance too. Sometimes you can get discounts for holding more than one policy with the same company. Sounds like a pain in the ass for him to like to meet his new clients and making you go to where he is.

I baked my ass off today. My legs are tired from standing. I tried a new recipe for a citrus crackle cookie. They came out tasting good but I think they are more like cookie sized cakes. The insides are cake like. I also made something called puppy chow. It is peanut butter and chocolate chips melted together mixed with rice chex then coated with confectioners sugar. I thought it looked boring so I added MnMís. Then started on the chocolate chip with walnuts cookies. I still have a bunch of dough in the fridge. Iíll finish them tomorrow. LOL then I made spaghetti for dinner.

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #95 on: December 19, 2007, 04:37:35 AM »
Hi Ladies

feeling a bit better - hopefully the freezing cold outside wont make me sick again. i will go to work, late as usual, but i have a dental hygenist appt. great, just love all the digging...
our apartment is not heated well, and it's a mess right now b/c i do everything in one room. the last winters were mild but this one will be harsh. i cant even shower at home anymore, too cold, so i do it at the gym. since i don't work out every day, you do the math  ;D

I guess I was unclear about the pregnancy - I have already switched, I was detectable for something like 6 times in a row but not high enough for the resistance test. when he switched me, the doctr put me on meds that he considers temporary, b/c he knew we want to get pregnant, there didnt seem to be a point to switch and switch again for the pregnancy a couple months later (in the optimal scenario, that i wouldve concieved right away). now that we are having doubts, the doctor was like "get on with it". not b/c of wanting to switch me so much, but b/c i think they have a sieze the day philosphy here. i remeber when I had 200 cd4 and was a few months post diagnosis, i told him i wanted to go to thailand over the holidays and he was like yeah, sure. then i went and got the vaccinations at the public health clinic, and i ask the nurse if they vaccinate a lof of pozzies. and she said they just had one, but now he is going to die  :o, but she said it smiling, and she was like "travel while you can". But i didnt, i chickened out. maybe i will use AMG in mexico as this kind of springboard into backpacking again, but who knows, might be pregnant by then. or anything could happen. if there is one thing that characterizes my life in general and esp my life as a poz its this instability.

wow, Cindy, talk about meeting the folks. And the folks of the folks... I feel like I will be meeting a whole village in spain, but not be able to communicate with them... smile and be pretty - both seem to be getting much harder. i wish i was as cool as Ice about this. My BF is like that - no social anxiety whatsoever.

Wendy, what a baking frenzy!

Queen, tell Rico I feel his pain, come rain, hail or snow (and plenty of wind) I'm on a bike. But its nowhere near as cold here.

I must run, just realized I have 20 minutes to miss my appt.

Hugs to all, and Camille - please spill!
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #96 on: December 19, 2007, 07:06:15 AM »
Good morning ladies:

Cristy, whew!  I am so glad you won't have to uproot yourself and Robert, especially at the holidays since your parents told your brother "no."  What a relief that is. 

Cin, is it allergies?  Maybe you should see an allergist.  That might give you some relief.  Hey, don't feel embarassed about overlooking that old turkey in your fridge.  I'm sure when I used to "be in love"(way back when) I did stuff like that.  How is your job coming?  I love turkey burgers!  I have some in my freezer.   My dad is just being my dad.  He's not doing well, but he's hanging tough.  When I talked to him last night, he said he went out to get the oil changed in his car.  He doesn't carry his portable oxygen with him when he goes out because he likes to smoke in his car.  He was winded when we talked, but I'm going over there today. 

Queen, hey, you don't have to explain yourself where Rico is concerned.  You're more tolerant than I am, also, because I probably would have kicked him to the curb by now, especially if he was trying to get back with his ex.  Oh, I forgot, he's "servicing" you. :D  That's funny your son thinks you're too old to have sex.  I'm 42 though, and I hardly ever get horny.  Only once a month, right before my period. *starts humming "Let's talk about sex by salt n peppa*   It really sounds like a big hassle trying to get your hearing aid taken care of.  I hope you can get another one without so much trouble.  I wonder if your case manager at your ASO is new.  Mine is, but at least she's got the smarts to ask questions from someone who knows what they're doing.  Hang in there girl!  Oh, my nose is always dry this time of year also, I guess from the dry air.

Drag, I can't imagine peddling a bike in the rain, sleet or snow!  Damn girl, you should've been a mailperson! :D  So it's really cold in your apartment?  I couldn't handle that.  I've got to have heat.  I just know everything will be groovy once you're actually in Spain.  Just try to relax.  Will you have access to a computer while you're there?

Sun, I am anxiously waiting to hear if you go out with this guy or not this weekend.  Maybe another one of us will get bit by the luvbug.

Wendy, I've been using Napster, but I hear Itunes is really good.  I'm sure if I hit "burn CD" on Napster's website it would tell me how to do it.  I just need to buy some blank CDs or DVRs to record the songs with. 

Anyway, yes, today is my recertification for the big $9/month I get on FS and (more importantly) Medicaid.  I need that Medicaid because it pays for the Medicare premiums and when I have it, I get extra help for my Medicare Part D coverage with the meds.  Other than that, I have a spend-down of like $139/month before the Medicaid will kick in to cover anything else.  This guy I know said when he lived in Florida, they didn't have spend-downs with their Medicaid.  I wonder if other states have spend-downs like we here in Indiana do. 

Other than that, just going to see my dad to do his shopping and take him some chili, cornbread and fudge.  I've not been taking really good care of my diabetes lately with all the sweets around.  I told my doctor I would do better, after the holidays.  Still waiting on the phenotype to get back so my doc knows which HIV meds to prescribe next.  I hope all you ladies have a good day-
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #97 on: December 19, 2007, 07:47:37 AM »
Ive been to the dental hygenist, and it was ok, got a very experienced one, and really cool about HIV. she told me she will try to find me another dentist instead of that prick that i go to. apprently my teeth are not in good shap,e they are getting too thin, but everytime i asked him about it, it's like No no, everything's fine. b/c he doesn't want to do work on a poz person. idiot.

Cristy, I wrote you already I am so glad for you too about him not showing up, and let's hope he never shows up!

Betty, the more I read here about the health system in the US, the more confusing it gets. I cant make heads or tails on it. You know what it reminds me of the John Grisham book (forgot which) about the huge lawsuit against this insurance giant. How they go door to door and sell people premiums that are so sneakily phrased that when something happens, they are never insured for it. Making healthcare a private business - which has started here in Holland 2 years ago, although its still controlled b/c everyone must be covered, but they are already finding ways to get out of things and manipulate the clients and the doctors - is like trusting healthcare to a nest of snakes.

Wendy, here is the link, though probably too late for you. You can click on the different recipes to go into them. http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/christmas/essentials_kids.shtml I just sawt on TV on the Nigella Lawson show. Yeah I don't hate her anymore. I decided I loathe Jamie Oliver (dont know if you guys know who he is) far too much to bother about hating another TV chef, after I heard him say "I told Tony" [British PM Tony Blair, with whom he is persumably on a first name basis]. I'd make an exception for Gordon Ramsey, I still hate him with a vengence. Does anyone know who I'm talking about here anyway? Or should I get a life?

Sun, hope the weekend will be good. You deserve a guy just for you.

Betty, you're a great daughter bringing your dad all these treats. OMG OMG, I dont know what I will do with my parents. This fills me with dread and panic everytime I think of it.

I gotta work - it's almost 14.00 and I skipped work yesterday and I will again tomorrow. Bloody hell

Have a great day everyone
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #98 on: December 19, 2007, 09:56:20 AM »
Hie ladies

Back from my leave now. Which was ok, spent almost the entire time glued to the TV.
The few times that i ventured into town i managed to get myself soaked in the rain, i can only thank God i didnt catch my death of cold coz once i ended up wading home barefoot after my sandal broke and my new hair got ruined.

Drag - im glad u got a nice hygienist. that other dentist really is a stupid idiot.  hopefully u'll get a great one soon. but i dont know how u can stand the cold there. i would honest to God DIE if i lived in such cold temperatures. even here i'm miserable if the temperature get below 10 degrees which isnt often thank God.  And i'm so excited for you about Spain and meeting the family and all. I bet u'll have a wonderful time dont worry so much. :-* stinky ;D ;D


Queen - you go on girl. do whats best for Queen. ;)

Sun - good to hear about LL. U watch out now, that cupid fellow can be a sneaky bastard, never know when he's gonna strike....

Betty now i feel bad coz i havent seen my dad in since last christmas. i really should call him.  i mean sure he's evil sometimes but hes still my dad and u know..I mean its not like we're estranged or anything though he does disown a child about every year.  i dont know. anyway its great what u do for your dad. i wish i could do that, but its complicated. besides he lives in another town.

Cindy - sounds like Iceman's getting better everyday! Hope u feel better soon with those allergies

Cristy - glad u're set for a hassle-free Christmas. Enjoy!

Cams - i'm really happy about your new guy! Tell us more already!

nothing much is happening on my side. just been getting these weird phone calls. well theyre not exactly weird but i dont know this guy and he says he knows me from around and i have no idea who he is or how he got my number. he wont tell me.  he says he wants to see me. i dont know.  maybe he got my number from the notice i put on the door when we closed these past two weeks. its strange. of course i'm not getting my hopes up coz he really doesnt know about me, he'll be asking questions and all so it cant be someone i know from before whos trying to get back into my life. or its just someone with too much airtime in his phone and too much time on his hands ???

NY- CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BABY!!!! :) :) :)

everyone else reading hie and i hope y'all have a great day.  im going home as soon as this damn rain stops.
as my brother would say "later zater people zeeple"

« Last Edit: December 19, 2007, 10:24:44 AM by tendai »

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #99 on: December 19, 2007, 09:59:37 AM »
Hey ladies..How is everyone..i left a post here Monday about all of your comments at least i thought i did anyways..but i guess i didnt click post??..i dunno...Thanks everyone for your responses..i got some different ones but i think ill figure it out. I think ..no i know im a lil selfish when it comes to my man..just plain and simple and i never had to deal with baby momma drama before so its like new and annoying all in one. When i get annoyed i tend to say f it all together..but im trying to be patient and understanding and all dat other stuff im supposed to be....yeah wateva,,just wanna get thru xmas and make my kids happy..at least he is helping out with that.. ;D...Anyways...CONGRATS!! to Cam..that disclosure thing is hard as hell but im sooo happy it worked out well for you and i wish u and him the very best!!!!
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 To all doing all that damn baking...my address is ...sike but damn i can cook my ass off but i cant make a cake for shit...I need HELLLPPP..lol i tried to make a sweet potato pie last year...it was a freaking mess!!!!..all my cakes come out like lean wit it rock wit it...i guess i really dont have time for trial n error right now but i really want to learn how to bake..it seems simple enuff...but oh well...send me some cyber fudge or somthin..Do you all of u gals primary docs and others know ur status??..i didnt tell my primary doc..or my dentist or my eye doctors..i dont tell anyone unless i need a script then ill call my id and make sure it doesnt affect my coctail..or i get all my scripts from my id...my primary didnt even know and i had a breast reduction last year...
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #100 on: December 19, 2007, 10:38:46 AM »
hey Tendai, great to have you back! hope dr. Evil came back with a better disposition. I'll try to send you an email tomorrow before getting into the frenzy of packing and last minute shopping.

Big Hug for now,
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #101 on: December 19, 2007, 12:29:13 PM »
Hey Ladies-----

It's that time again. Someone needs to step up and start the next thread, please. Maybe we can get someone else to do it because it always seems like it's either me, Cindy, Betty that is doing it. If no one does it by tomorrow then I guess one of us will have to. I try to give it a day because I know many of you are busy with the holiday, working or whatever.

Wishful, I am the same way about baking. It is funny cause when I was little I use to bake with my Dad. I could bake then, I don't know what happened. Same thing happened to me with rollerskating, now if I get on some skates, I am busting my ass. The ladies might have missed the joke about the cake and the reference to lean wit it, rock wit it( It's a song called Lean wit, Rock wit by a rap group called Crime Mob). I was laughing my ass off on that. As for your man, he sounds pretty good to me, he's looking out for yours and his. Reminds me of Rico who takes on a daughter that is not his.

Tendai-- The person calling you and not knowing who it is, be careful with that. Might be a stalker or something.....

Nothing going on today so I guess I will chat with you ladies later....
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #102 on: December 19, 2007, 12:50:11 PM »
Got it!

Dating Thread Part XIV: Yuletide Chatter 

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17900.new#new

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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #103 on: December 19, 2007, 04:21:49 PM »
The ladies might have missed the joke about the cake and the reference

Yeah this seems to happen alot..as i dont get responses much..Its cool..i can only be me...
girl what???..i tried to roller skate this summer..it was horrible..and i could do it really well wheni was young..im gonn try it agin tho and this time not smoke the greens...i think that was the problem last time..

i am adamant about learning the baking thing..for real...as much as i like sweets..it makes not sense..lol
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Re: Dating Thread Part XIII: HOLIDAZE!!
« Reply #104 on: December 19, 2007, 04:45:17 PM »
Everyone should be posting in the new dating thread.....this one is officially closed.....
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8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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