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Author Topic: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"  (Read 2205 times)

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Offline Peter Staley

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NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« on: November 26, 2007, 01:44:01 PM »
This fun article was in Sunday's New York Times Magazine:

In Defense of Lurking
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/25/magazine/25wwln-medium-t.html



Maybe some of our own lurkers will come out of the shadows, if only to comment on this article!

Peter

Offline allanq

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #1 on: November 26, 2007, 03:31:24 PM »
Interesting article.

I think the nature of internet forums promotes lurking. It takes a bit of courage to post. The slightest slip-up in language or a failure to convey the tone of your message can unleash a barrage of criticism and invective. When you start a thread and it dies a lonely and unnoticed death, that can also be discouraging.

The lack of auditory and visual cues that are so important in face-to-face conversations make e-mails and internet forums prone to misinterpretation. Sometimes people use emoticons to try to clarify their meaning ( ;D = "just joking"), but these symbols don't always work, and it is almost guaranteed that someone will take offense no matter how hard the writer tries to make clear his or her intent.

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Offline hartiepie

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #2 on: November 26, 2007, 07:30:38 PM »
Allan is so right on. Some posters have a way of sniping that I would rather not experience again .....

Offline newbernswiss

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #3 on: November 26, 2007, 07:43:00 PM »
Well Peter,
I'm a lurker on many conservative websites just to read what the obloquy is for the day. Most of the articles are feint, but at least I can keep up with what the other side has on their minds. As for porn sites forums their are many lurkers, many like myself just like to take a peak or two, or three...just like to pass through without being notice  ;)
« Last Edit: November 26, 2007, 07:46:14 PM by newbernswiss »

Offline mjmel

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #4 on: November 26, 2007, 08:01:10 PM »
I absolutely HATE that term. It conjures images of a perv.
But......I know I lurk, sometimes.
 ::)
Mike

Offline RapidRod

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #5 on: November 26, 2007, 08:58:02 PM »
I absolutely HATE that term. It conjures images of a perv.
But......I know I lurk, sometimes.
 ::)
Mike


I know you Mike, you are a perv.  :D Where you live they wouldn't know what a perv is anyway. They're to busy having sex with their sisters or the cows.  :D

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #6 on: November 26, 2007, 10:36:13 PM »
Maybe some of our own lurkers will come out of the shadows, if only to comment on this article!

Peter


Indeed Peter! There could be a whole brigade of Matty's the Damned out there . . . .

Heh. :)

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Offline anniebc

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #7 on: November 27, 2007, 03:14:33 AM »
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Indeed Peter! There could be a whole brigade of Matty's the Damned out there

Oh God help us if they are out there lurking.. if they start coming out of the wood work then I'll know we are truely being punished for something... ;)

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Offline Dachshund

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #8 on: November 27, 2007, 07:27:02 AM »
I've learned quite a bit about others through lurking. Why did you know our very own.....

Offline Dachshund

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #9 on: November 28, 2007, 07:40:57 AM »
Guy 1: So when I didn't hear from him, I logged back into Manhunt under a fake name and picture and chatted him up, pretending to be 25 years old.

Guy 2: And he invited the fake-you over to fuck.

Guy 1: Totally! He did! Why am I the only real person on Manhunt?

Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #10 on: November 29, 2007, 01:07:39 AM »
I noticed that the "Lipodystrophy Belly" thread in the lipo forum has over 6800 views and only 34 responses. That's a lot of lurking!

Offline 404error

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #11 on: November 29, 2007, 01:49:08 AM »
I find that views to responses aren't always the best indicator of lurkers.  Some threads aren't as interesting as their titles would have you believe, some are just there for information purposes.  Most good threads on most good boards have about a ten percent response rate.
A social critic who promotes equality...

Offline DCGUY2007

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #12 on: November 30, 2007, 03:51:26 AM »
Interesting article. I agree with Allens comments.

I have had many instances when I have posted something only to have people 'privately' contact me in agreement with what I said but not make their comments public. Sometimes this has made me frustrated. Then I realize how difficult it is to post something for fear of being disliked or that someone will be unhappy.  I have recently come across a few quotes that help me keep posting. Although sometimes I still just lurk :-)

Quotes:  "What others think about you is none of your business". "You have to believe in yourself even when it seems no one else does."
« Last Edit: November 30, 2007, 03:53:31 AM by DCGUY2007 »

Offline 404error

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #13 on: November 30, 2007, 04:00:32 AM »
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I have had many instances when I have posted something only to have people 'privately' contact me in agreement with what I said but not make their comments public.

I too have experienced this and if anything it encourages me to continue speaking my mind.
A social critic who promotes equality...

Offline DCGUY2007

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Re: NYT: "In Defense of Lurking"
« Reply #14 on: November 30, 2007, 06:34:30 AM »
Good for you "404error"  :)

 


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