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Author Topic: Where are all the POZ straight men at???  (Read 29478 times)

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Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #100 on: May 17, 2008, 03:44:35 PM »
my x roommate was notorious for getting fucking wasted and inventing new piss spots. i woke up one morning and found him pissing in his closet. i had to literally take him by the dick and guide him to the bathroom. also, one of his friends stayed the night after a long evening of drinking. we woke in the morning because the alarm clock was going crazy, turns out homeboy was pissing on it. ahh, drunk straight men.

at my job some guys piss in bottles and leave them in their vehicles. we all understand and are cautious of apple juice!

but ladies, back to the beef. where are all the straight poz men (faults and all)? i see some in my support groups and some on pozmatch.com. they are a pretty reclusive species. maybe we can create a map with hotspots. or we can start documenting their habits so we can locate them better! haha, thats comedy..."the elusive poz straight man is often found wandering around dennys late thursday & friday nights complaning of hunger pains while trying to buy budlight..."
or "often mistaken for the straight poz man, his bi counterpart plays the clever decoy, luriing many hot poz mamas to the bedroom."
« Last Edit: May 17, 2008, 05:05:11 PM by next2u »
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
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mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline Winiroo

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #101 on: May 17, 2008, 03:58:59 PM »
LOL too funny

You know I never had any trouble meeting pos straight men. The only trouble I ever had was finding quality hetero men who where not already taken or did not live 3000 miles away.

Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #102 on: May 17, 2008, 05:20:17 PM »
damn, just using the query function on poz personals i got over 100 poz straight & bi men within a hundred mile radius of me. they are out there. now, im not saying they are all matches, but maybe if we exhaust the available resources, develop a network (girl gossip!), and put it out there, hopefully we can get a 10% return . now, understand that i live within 100 miles of los angeles and i live in the largest county in the us, i know those results are not realistic for everyone. but a girl can move, i have an open room in my apt : )

nah, but on a real note, its hard finding a mate. and even if we were to date 10 men, only 3 or less would probably be compatible or desirable (the same is true vice versa). but lets rip on the men a bit more. the photos were weird, like the all had on ties. weird men hiding behind ties and pseudo-professionalism. beware.

has anyone had any luck from poz personals or pozmatch.com? ive meet 2 guys from poz personals and im talking to a guy who is on poz personals & pozmatch. i haven't been to the popular poz breakfasts out in la (there is one every saturday for the homos) but im sure that can lead to a plethora of other adventures.
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #103 on: May 17, 2008, 07:26:22 PM »
I had an ad on Poz Personals but after talking to someone on there who was running a scam, I shut my ad down. And when I was actively checking, there was never any man close to where I live and I think some of them were incarcerated. There was one guy that I was really vibing and developed feelings for but he died last year. I found this out from his gf who claimed that he was hooking up with lots of women and not telling his status. I knew his status because of where his ad was but not sure if I believe the hooking up part.

And the only men I have seen in my town that are poz is my gay friends. I guess I am the only hetero poz woman in the city cause I have not heard of anyone else.
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Offline BT65

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #104 on: May 17, 2008, 08:18:25 PM »
I'm not even going to comment about how I feel about poz "straight" men right now.  I think probably a good majority of them were infected taking it up the rear.
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline pink_beauty

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #105 on: May 17, 2008, 08:43:20 PM »
I met a poz straight man from one of the websites and it went nowhere. I am now talking to another one, but we haven't met yet. I have gotten the scammers, too on the websites. I haven't been to any of the support groups offered near me yet, but I am sure there are more than then same handful of guys that are on the websites.
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #106 on: May 17, 2008, 08:48:56 PM »
where are all the straight poz men (faults and all)? i see some in my support groups and some on pozmatch.com. they are a pretty reclusive species.

In my experience poz straight men are generally to be found giving sloppy blow jobs to truckers at rest stops.

MtD

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #107 on: May 17, 2008, 09:35:39 PM »
where are all the straight poz men (faults and all)? i see some in my support groups and some on pozmatch.com. they are a pretty reclusive species.

In my experience poz straight men are generally to be found giving sloppy blow jobs to truckers at rest stops.

MtD
Damn, is that where they're at. No wonder I can't get no head. The one I was seeing was giving me all the head I wanted except for the head I really wanted.
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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Offline rondrond

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #108 on: May 17, 2008, 10:20:34 PM »
I would go into more details on some of my sexcapades, but I don't want to hijack this thread// :D
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Offline Ann

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #109 on: May 18, 2008, 04:40:24 AM »
I'm not even going to comment about how I feel about poz "straight" men right now.  I think probably a good majority of them were infected taking it up the rear.

where are all the straight poz men (faults and all)? i see some in my support groups and some on pozmatch.com. they are a pretty reclusive species.

In my experience poz straight men are generally to be found giving sloppy blow jobs to truckers at rest stops.

MtD

Jeeze, is it any wonder why poz straight guys tend to hide from society? Yeah, some of them may have been having MSM on the sly, but plenty of them don't.

Do I have to remind people that while transmission from a woman to a man is more difficult to accomplish, it's NOT impossible?

Grow up and leave the judgements about how people got infected out of it. It's just not fair and this isn't the appropriate place to throw this crap around. I don't want to see this again.

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Offline chm02

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #110 on: May 18, 2008, 06:28:48 AM »
I agree with Ann. Those comments are not only inappropriate, but they reflect a persistant myth that being the penetrator during sexual intercourse is somehow safe. I've heard this even from people who really should know better. I know that's how I got infected, and although it might not be statistically the most common way, statistics don't do a bit of good once you are infected.
« Last Edit: May 18, 2008, 06:31:29 AM by chm02 »

Offline emeraldize

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #111 on: May 18, 2008, 07:57:02 AM »
Jeeze, is it any wonder why poz straight guys tend to hide from society? Yeah, some of them may have been having MSM on the sly, but plenty of them don't.

Do I have to remind people that while transmission from a woman to a man is more difficult to accomplish, it's NOT impossible?

Grow up and leave the judgements about how people got infected out of it. It's just not fair and this isn't the appropriate place to throw this crap around.
I don't want to see this again.

Ann


Thank you for posting this. And, being mindful as to commentary about " how people got infected" should be a broad brush approach to include how the poster decides to deal with it and what kinds of specific assistance or counsel a poster seeks through the forum.

Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #112 on: May 18, 2008, 12:47:25 PM »
oh-Oh, someone got chastised! i see bitterness and admonishing...

i think you are all right. its horrible to perpetuate these myths that are stigmatizing straight men. its also unfortunate that MEN & WOMEN are cheating on their partners or are unable to live lives closer to their core identities. with that said, i believe (no facts or stats, just my 50 cents) that the majority of straight men, especially straight men outside of the us, receive the disease from unsafe heterosexual sex. once again, don't bash my opinion. i know there are probably plenty of men on the dl everywhere, but i don't think we should generalize hiv to msm sex just because we are the most visible poz group here in the us (and the easiest mode of sexual transmission too).

1 of the straight guys in my group got it intravenously. the other 2 got if from their female partners. the lone female in my group (we adopted her, it's so great, she's the only woman out of a group of 20-30 men in our male support group) got if from her husband who was having unprotected msm sex. i know i got it because i needed something from another person, i was lonely and wanted a partner and was willing to bend the rules for this 1 (2, 3) right guy.
 
anyhow, has anyone found where they are hiding? if they are scared of people thinking whatever about them oh well, they can join the group. it is not a fear they share alone. it's horrible none the less, but im sure plenty of us are still struggling with new facets of our identities gifted to us by hiv. when i was hospitalized 10 days ago the nurse asked me if i got hiv through drug use. i wanted to hit her. i don't want to tell people at my work cause i don't want them thinking im diseased or that i habitually make poor decisions. i still struggle with being a victim of my hiv too. anyhow, those are some of my fears. i know they are irrational but they are tacitly perpetuated in our society and its hard to divest myself of things that have been bolstered or inculcated by the masses.

uggh, now back to the search for more dick, or love. if i find single straight poz men ill tell them where to cum or come.

midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #113 on: May 18, 2008, 01:02:01 PM »
on a lighter note,  louis01 from poz personals is hot : ). so is moredimoi, isosmoov, and Antonio makes me want to grow a vagina. not to mention all the others! no lectures on being superficial or the other things a person brings to the table : )
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #114 on: May 18, 2008, 01:38:11 PM »
See now, next2, I reactivated my account and was searching and didn't find jack, not one who was close to me or interesting.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #115 on: May 18, 2008, 02:52:39 PM »
sorry about that qt. move to cali! its warm and there is no snow is so cal!!! hmm, i guess we will have to continue brainstorming. damnit, i sooo feel at fault for unreasonabley raising expectations : )~

im sure the ladies can forgive me. hmm, i know, ill post some pics of hot men!!! umm, what can i say, i like to cover all my food groups : )!






midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline emeraldize

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #116 on: May 18, 2008, 05:08:27 PM »
Dang!! That's sure is some photogenic hijackin' of a thread.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #117 on: May 18, 2008, 05:42:21 PM »
But a good hijacking at that.
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #118 on: May 18, 2008, 06:07:37 PM »
Forget the celeb pix -- I found a real man!

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #119 on: May 18, 2008, 07:20:21 PM »
only one of those guys is a celeb! the rest are just random internet eye candy.

so, my booty called has flaked. internet men can suck : (
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #120 on: May 19, 2008, 01:29:12 AM »
Hell, I don't mind a picture hijack at all. The celebrity pic is the second one of Tyson. I would do the oriental guy, he is hot. And Philly is that one of your boy toys?
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #121 on: May 19, 2008, 04:50:55 AM »
Well, actually, inline photo hijacks are frowned upon in the Living forum. You're supposed to use the attachment thingy if you want to post photos in this forum - for the benefit of dial-up users. Photo hijack all you like in OT, but not here, please.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #122 on: May 19, 2008, 09:39:08 AM »
I would go into more details on some of my sexcapades, but I don't want to hijack this thread// :D

Hijack away...this thread was hijacked within minutes of me starting it...lol....I loved the conversations goin on in it..thats y i bumped it...

i wish my son would pee in something other that the toilet and me find it in his room...thats just lazy..lol...but i must admit he has a pretty good aim for a 6 yrold...he almost never lifts the seat up and i havent sat in pee that many times... ;D

I stil havent met any Poz straight men in person..only the one that infected me....i mean i am sure i have seem some like at the docs n stuff but actually up close n personal ...nada...not that im looking anymore anyways...im very happy with my neg yungin.......*being hit by a flashback of this weekend...DAyumm Boyee!*..oh sorry i likes to daydream bout some good luvin.....
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #123 on: May 19, 2008, 10:12:33 AM »
wishful, I see you live in New Jersey.  The Phildadelphia-NJ-NYC corridor by far has the highest IV transmission rate statistics of anywhere in the US so I'd assume there's a healthy sprinkling of straight men in there.  As far as how to practically locate them, I'm of no help.  But assuredly they're there somewhere.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #124 on: May 19, 2008, 11:56:10 AM »
Another is that one's girlfriend or wife might be less prepared to deal with the development than a gay man's partner.


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taken in the context that i am :o, i think you're right.... i'm gay, not partnered, but have views and experiences that would equate to (after all, i AM) a man......  i'd be willing to help if i could....
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #125 on: May 19, 2008, 12:00:04 PM »
"often mistaken for the straight poz man, his bi counterpart plays the clever decoy, luriing many hot poz mamas to the bedroom."
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if only i were to be so lucky.... a straight man at my beckon call?  ::)
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #126 on: May 19, 2008, 12:19:47 PM »
Philly: the men I do see at the docs are way older than myself...with the exception of one guy that i know from school (who by the way was infected via hetero sex)....i think many are unaware of their statuses and/ or  are in denial...like my infector....and those aware dont want the risk of anyone finding out..our town is really small...we only have 2 places that treat HIV (that i know of even), one is the local clinic that people go to for everything and alot already assume if u go there and its not to take your child for shots that u are going bcus your pos, and the other place (where i go), only older people go there it seems...
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #127 on: May 19, 2008, 12:37:04 PM »
Hell, I don't even see them at my ASO when I go there for clinic. And the one I did see was someone I knew who was bi that I had an encounter with which WASN'T worth remembering. I think the only reason we hooked up was because we were curious about each other. And we only have 2 places too, the ASO and the Health Dept. My ASO even tried to have a support group and no one showed up.*sighs*
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #128 on: May 19, 2008, 12:44:02 PM »
My ASO even tried to have a support group and no one showed up.*sighs*

That happens with teh gays too.  I go monthly to a group, but our first year or so it was bumpy with some months where only the moderator and I were there, and we just ate pizza and shot the breeze.  I kept going just to help him out as I didn't want him feeling like he was pulling all the weight.  Now we're up to about 8 people each month, sometimes more.

Anyway, support groups are for support honey, not booty calls :)
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #129 on: May 19, 2008, 02:26:36 PM »
I agree and I wouldn't be making booty calls at a support group but was just showing how much hetero men are on the DL in my neck of the woods.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #130 on: May 19, 2008, 02:37:26 PM »
Good grief LOL

I can think of at least 50 men I have met who are straight and positive. Likely more.
Y'all just need to move to Texas apparently. Either that or I have skills. LMAO

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #131 on: May 19, 2008, 02:44:04 PM »
LOL...Apparently! (We need to move)
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #132 on: May 19, 2008, 07:14:48 PM »
The ASO here has a support group every Thursday night.  I went a couple of times.  I was the only woman and the rest of the attendees were gay men.  Which is alright; like you said David, a support group is for support.  Just saying, the straight men aren't coming out in this area either.  And neither are the women.  The case managers all tell me it's the women in this area who never, ever venture to the ASO for anything like a support group.  They're way too afraid of the stigma.  And they tell me most of the poz women don't go to the ASO for services either; the case managers have to go to their houses.  I personally could care  less.  But then, it's just me.  My daughter is grown and gone.  I might feel differently if I had children living at home. 
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #133 on: May 20, 2008, 12:55:44 AM »
yeah, i hooked it with a guy from my support group. never again. but, i was able to meet people who knew people. there i found a pool of dateable men. i try not to solicit sex at my primary support group. but the secondary ones are open!!!

i need more than one type of support!!!

btw, i think ann liked the cupcake man!!!
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may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
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oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #134 on: May 20, 2008, 04:49:33 AM »


btw, i think ann liked the cupcake man!!!

The guy in the middle is a bit of alright.  ;)
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #135 on: May 20, 2008, 05:05:02 AM »
btw, i think ann liked the cupcake man!!!

cupcake? I see whipped cream topped by a cherry.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #136 on: May 20, 2008, 11:15:12 AM »
I dont go to Support meetings or go to my ASO for services...If i needed to i would tho..like when i first moved back here from Fl..i used to get cab rides and things like that from them for doc appointments..but now i drive, have decent insurance thru work, and talk to u guys here..
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #137 on: May 20, 2008, 11:37:00 AM »
I'm not sure I "get" the stigma excuse about going to an ASO.  You have to be fairly paranoid to think that people are sitting in the parking lot taking notations and pictures of people going in a building.  Plus when I think about it every ASO I've known of outside of GMHC in NYC has not been all that identifiable, generally in a building with multiple uses.

At any rate it's not a great excuse as far as support groups go -- you can always coordinate with a case manager and try to round up others that feel stigmatized and meet in a private home.  You just have to be willing to do the work.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #138 on: May 20, 2008, 02:49:50 PM »
I don't have a problem going to my ASO and like Philly said it is in a building where other community things go on. If anything I might see one other person in there when I am there. And actually have only run across one person that I knew. He could only assume what I was there for though I knew what he was there for.

My ASO has been a great help to me in plenty of ways though I wish I had a better case manager. I work with her to the best of my ability.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #139 on: May 20, 2008, 03:49:50 PM »
We are here!!!!!

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #140 on: May 20, 2008, 03:51:18 PM »
We're here!!

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #141 on: May 20, 2008, 04:35:26 PM »
We're here!!

And by looking at your name, prolly a million miles away from most of poz women.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #142 on: May 20, 2008, 04:48:28 PM »
As of 2006 the CDC reports Texas has 25,003 people living with HIV and 34,063 people diagnosed with AIDS.

Arizona has 5,793 people living with HIV and 4,929 people diagnosed with AIDS.

New Mexico has 909 people living with HIV and 1,255 people diagnosed with AIDS.

Nevada has 3,415  people living with HIV and 2,972 people diagnosed with AIDS.

You'd think some of these folks would be straight men. LOL

To check out the stats on your state you can click on the link below.
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« Reply #143 on: May 20, 2008, 06:52:04 PM »
Well, my state has almost 8,000 people (total) living with HIV/AIDS.  I probably know a handful, outside of these forums.

I have no problem feeling stigmatized.  The ASO here is the sole occupier of the building it's in.  I did a t.v. interview in the middle 90's without backlash (too bad I don't have a link ::)).  But, I knew people who have since passed on who faced horrible discrimination and bias.  This is such a conservative area, chalkful of Bible-thumping rednecks.  The people who won't come to my ASO, well, I'm not sure exactly what their greatest fear is.  I'd be interested to talk to them sometime though.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #144 on: May 20, 2008, 06:55:02 PM »
Here's a picture of a man to give Miss Tokelove something to talk about when she logs back on:

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« Reply #145 on: May 20, 2008, 07:09:04 PM »
I did 4 or 5 TV interviews in the early to mid 90's. I decided not to do anymore because the last reporter twisted my story and made my then alive, now dead husband out to be a bad guy. They took roughly an hour of tape and cut it up to make it sound like he infected me purposefully. I got so many phone calls from angry friends and relatives it was horrible. Fortunately they believed me when I told them it wasn't true.

It takes a lot of trust to be interviewed and I don't think I'll ever trust another reporter.

As far as going to the ASO. I could give two craps who sees me go in the building. My thought is what the hell are they doing there anyway? LOL
Not that I really care who knows I have HIV. The only people I know that aren't aware of my status are business related. And if it where left completely up to me I wouldn't care if they knew.
I'm not sure if my immediate neighbors know. But if they did I wouldn't care. I'm sure they wouldn't be bothered by it.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #146 on: May 21, 2008, 12:51:49 AM »
i <3 anthony gallo. thank you philly, you know how to perk things up. can you hijack a lil bit more please? i promise to return the favor.

my state has 61555 people living with aids and no stats for the HIVers. hmm, well i'm one!


yeah for desertguy.

i saw a stat today on infection possibility for vagina - penis hiv transmission w/o protection. that shit was very low, ill post the info later. it was from poz mag.
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #147 on: May 21, 2008, 01:30:06 AM »
Here's a picture of a man to give Miss Tokelove something to talk about when she logs back on:

Damn...I would love some of that. I don't know how I missed that earlier when I checked in. Now I have someone to dream about. Thanks Philicia.... :-*

My state has no number for folks who are living with hiv, funny, like Next, I am one. And in the case of living with Aids, it is 18,703.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #148 on: May 21, 2008, 01:53:01 AM »
Damn...I would love some of that. I don't know how I missed that earlier when I checked in. Now I have someone to dream about. Thanks Philicia.... :-*

My state has no number for folks who are living with hiv, funny, like Next, I am one. And in the case of living with Aids, it is 18,703.

On October 18, 2002, Pennsylvania initiated confidential name-based HIV infection reporting in all areas except Philadelphia. Code-based reporting was implemented in Philadelphia in March 2004, and the switch to name-based reporting was made in October 2005.  The one county of Philadelphia contains half of all cases for the entire state.

This shows the 2006 number at 9,537

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/surveillance/resources/reports/2006report/table16.htm
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #149 on: May 21, 2008, 02:08:58 AM »




That's me! Who stole my photo?! ;D
Aug 07 Diagnosed
Oct 07 CD4=446(19%) Feb 08 CD4=421(19%)
Jun 08 CD4=325(22%) Jul 08 CD4=301(18%)
Sep 08 CD4=257/VL=75,000 Oct 08 CD4=347(16%)
Dec 08 CD4=270(16%)
Jan 09 CD4=246(13%)/VL=10,000
Feb 09 CD4=233(15%)/VL=13,000
Started meds Sustiva/Epzicom
May 09 CD4=333(24%)/VL=650
Aug 09 CD4=346(24%)/VL=UD
Nov 09 CD4=437(26%)/VL=UD
Feb 10 CD4=471(31%)/VL=UD
June 10 CD4=517 (28%)/VL=UD
Sept 10 CD4=687 (31%)/VL=UD
Jan 11 CD4=557 (30%)/VL=UD
April 11 CD4=569 (32%)/VL=UD
Switched to Epizcom, Reyataz and Norvir
(Interrupted for 2 months with only Epizcom & Reyataz)
July 11 CD=520 (28%)/VL=UD
Oct 11 CD=771 (31%)/VL=UD(<30)
April 12 CD=609 (28%)/VL=UD(<20)
Aug 12 CD=657 (29%)/VL=UD(<20)
Dec 12 CD=532 (31%)/VL=UD(<20)
May 13 CD=567 (31%)/VL=UD(<20)
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