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Offline bear60

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Bad News Good News
« on: October 30, 2007, 10:37:02 AM »
I just got the phone call that my Mom died this morning. On a better note:  Kurt seems to be doing well and is coming home from the hospital today following his "manipulation" of the knee.  He is scheduled for some serious physical therapy in the next few days.

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Offline komnaes

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2007, 10:43:20 AM »
Bear dear, my condolences to you and your family.

I hope the therapy would work out beautifully with Kurt.

Please accept a big cyberhug, Shaun
Aug 07 Diagnosed
Oct 07 CD4=446(19%) Feb 08 CD4=421(19%)
Jun 08 CD4=325(22%) Jul 08 CD4=301(18%)
Sep 08 CD4=257/VL=75,000 Oct 08 CD4=347(16%)
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Feb 09 CD4=233(15%)/VL=13,000
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Offline emeraldize

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2007, 10:44:56 AM »
Bear

Very sorry to read of your great loss.

My condolences to you and your loved ones.

Em

Offline Iggy

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2007, 10:49:29 AM »
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mom.  You have been carrying a lot lately.

I am glad to Kurt is due home as I think you need each other right now.

My sincere condolences.

Offline Florida69

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2007, 10:54:45 AM »
Joel, I am so sorry to hear about your mom.  My thoughts and prayers are with you..  D
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2007, 10:59:11 AM »
Geez Joel, how much can one person endure?  Seriously.  I'm so sorry to hear of your mother's passing, but happy to hear that thus far Kurt's doing (somewhat) OK though we know he still has a lot in front of him.
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Offline northernguy

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2007, 11:02:40 AM »
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, take care.
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Offline PeteNYNJ

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2007, 11:07:16 AM »
Bear

This post actually made me gasp.  I am so sorry to hear about your mom. 

PM me if you need to talk

Pete

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #8 on: October 30, 2007, 11:42:25 AM »
{{{{{{BEAR}}}}}}
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Offline pozniceguy

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #9 on: October 30, 2007, 11:43:55 AM »
Joel   it seems that this type of bad news just keeps on coming.....so sorry about your Mom....and hope Kurt is doing better....I know there will be many challenges ahead in Rehab....
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #10 on: October 30, 2007, 11:45:49 AM »
(((((Joel)))))

Sorry to hear about your mom - please accept my condolences.

But it's good to hear Kurt is improving.

Ann
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Offline frenchpat

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #11 on: October 30, 2007, 11:49:08 AM »
Whishing you all the strength and courage you need in these difficult moments.

You and Kurt are in my thoughts

Pat
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #12 on: October 30, 2007, 12:27:26 PM »
Sorry to hear about your mom Joel. I hope your heart can take all of this. I am keeping you, and Kurt in my thoughts.
Blessings on you friend.
{{{Joel}}}
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #13 on: October 30, 2007, 12:45:33 PM »
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. You have my condolences. They say bad things happen in 3's as I recall you were going through a few other things too. I hope for brighter days for you. Glad things are good with Kurt, see it's the beginning of brighter already.....*hugs*
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Offline franfrog

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #14 on: October 30, 2007, 01:14:39 PM »
Joel
I am so sorry to hear about your mom.  I send you (((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))
Glad to see Kurt is coming home!
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #15 on: October 30, 2007, 02:29:06 PM »
Joel, you have been having a very rough time lately.....so sorry to hear about your Mom.

Hope Kurt continues to improve, and his knee function can be fully restored.

hugs,

Alan
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« Reply #16 on: October 30, 2007, 02:48:58 PM »
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Offline bear60

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #17 on: October 30, 2007, 03:23:08 PM »
Thank you all so much for the thoughts.  My Mom had a long and very productive life.  She was 96. The last few years she had not been well either physically or mentally and I am so glad she is at peace.  Its still not easy to loose your MOM.
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #18 on: October 30, 2007, 03:30:56 PM »
Joel,

I'm very sorry to hear about your mom's passing.

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Offline John2038

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #19 on: October 30, 2007, 03:42:36 PM »
My condolences to you and your family.

My heart and thoughts with you.

Sorry for what happen :(

Take care buddy.

John

Offline DanielMark

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #20 on: October 30, 2007, 03:58:51 PM »
My condolences to you, Bear.

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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #21 on: October 30, 2007, 05:11:52 PM »
Jesus Christ Joel, you've had a year of it.

My condolences to you and your family on the passing of your mum.

MtD

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #22 on: October 30, 2007, 05:18:47 PM »
{{{{Bear}}}}.

so sorry for your mom's passing.

with fondest thoughts.

glad things are getting better with Kurt.

hang in there buddy.

Offline manchesteruk

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #23 on: October 30, 2007, 06:29:49 PM »
Sorry to hear about your Mum Joel.  Thoughts are with you and your family. 

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Offline BirdBear718

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #24 on: October 30, 2007, 07:41:35 PM »
My sympathies to you and your family. 

Offline Basquo

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #25 on: October 30, 2007, 08:00:46 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, and you have my deepest sympathies.

Love and Hugs,
Creighton

Offline Jody

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #26 on: October 30, 2007, 08:47:13 PM »
I'm sorry to hear about your mom...Even at her age as you say it is hard, you have never spent a day of your life without her in it..
Good news though regarding Kurt. Take care and be well.

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Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #27 on: October 30, 2007, 10:00:44 PM »
Very sorry to hear about your mom. You and your partner are in my thoughts and I hope things improve.

Ford

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #28 on: October 30, 2007, 10:58:18 PM »
Bear....I am so sorry to hear about your mother :(

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #29 on: October 31, 2007, 10:48:35 AM »
Bear

My condolences over the loss of your mom. 

(((((HUG)))))

RAB

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #30 on: October 31, 2007, 11:23:20 AM »
Joel....

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  It's never easy.  My deepest sympathies.  And I'm glad Kurt it some so the two of you can lean on each other.

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #31 on: October 31, 2007, 11:49:14 AM »
Dear Bear

Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I don't know what else to say, I am so sorry to hear.

Hugs,

And get well wishes to Kurt
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #32 on: October 31, 2007, 01:16:14 PM »
sorry to hear about your mother

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #33 on: October 31, 2007, 02:47:33 PM »
Hey Joel,

You have had a string of ill tidings recently. My condolences to you and your family on your Mom's passing.

I am glad to hear though that Kurt is improving and I wish him well with the physical therapy.

(((((((BIG HUGS)))))))

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #34 on: October 31, 2007, 08:38:14 PM »
Hello Bear,

Sorry I was gone for some time.
I just read your posting...

My condolences!



take care
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #35 on: November 01, 2007, 12:35:30 PM »
I appreciate all the good thoughts. Its very reassuring to hear from all of you. I was feeling very overwealmed on Tuesday. I didnt know what to do, where to turn.  But its all getting back to normal now, with your help. My family is in North Carolina, so we will be having a Memorial Service for my Mom in Chapel Hill and interring her ashes with my Dad's at the University Methodist Church where she was active for many years.
Yesterday I had a good massage and I slept fairly well last night. 
Kurts knee really is bending now. But it's so black and blue I can hardly look at it without wincing in pain.  I have been having a lot of "sympathetic" pain with his knee for a long time.
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Offline seekay70

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #36 on: November 01, 2007, 01:52:10 PM »
Although I am still somewhat new on here I send my thoughts and paryers your way..God must have needed another angel.

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #37 on: November 01, 2007, 06:33:48 PM »
Really sorry to hear of your mom's passing.  No matter what the age or circumstance, it's always hard.

Glad to hear about Kurt coming home.

Take good care of yourself too (massage was a great idea :D )

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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #38 on: November 01, 2007, 06:54:58 PM »
Sorry to hear about your mom's passing bear.

you have always been so thoughtfull of other members on here... I hope our support can be of some consolation to you now

love
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Re: Bad News Good News
« Reply #39 on: November 01, 2007, 10:01:26 PM »
Wow Joel, I am so sorry I didn't get to this post sooner.  I'm very sorry to hear about your mom's passing.  Not sorry that she is at peace, but sorry about what you're going through losing her.  As you know, I recently lost my mum, and no, it's not easy, even though we don't want them to suffer.  PM me anytime.  I do check in here daily, even if it's just in the women's forum, so if you need to PM me, do so.  I wish you peace and healing during this difficult time sweetie-
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