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Author Topic: Is it too morbid...  (Read 3358 times)

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Offline 404error

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Is it too morbid...
« on: October 26, 2007, 06:07:06 PM »
I celebrate my HIV birthday.  I've made it the day I was diagnosed which was February 10th.  I don't celebrate out of happiness to have contracted the disease, more out of respect for what it has done and is capable of.  I guess celebrating is the wrong word, more like paying respect to.  Does anyone else do this, mark the day they were diagnosed on an annual basis?
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Offline srmn98

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2007, 06:12:12 PM »
I had my first "birthday" earlier this month. It had quite an impact on me -- emotionally I had a lot of anxiety and grief. At the same time, I know the day marked the first year in many where I have been forced by this virus to look at my life honestly and make the appropriate changes to continue with a good life. (whatever that means !)  So yes, I definitely recognize the day.

Offline 404error

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #2 on: October 26, 2007, 06:15:25 PM »
I went out for dinner with some of my friends earlier this year.  I wanted to do something nice for myself that day (and I'll continue on with that) and to be able to reflect on my life.  I guess I do that often enough but for some reason I feel like I should make time in my day to ensure I do that every February 10th...
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Offline keyite

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #3 on: October 26, 2007, 06:25:11 PM »
I think it's hard not to. My first anniversary was last month and in the days leading up to it it was playing on my mind quite a lot. A bit of sadness, when I think about that first month. It was pure hell. But also a realisation that I've come a long way since then and that it has made me stronger and prompted some positive and long overdue changes in my life.

I don't think I'll ever be celebrating it as such, or even particularly marking it, but I think it's inevitable that it causes you to look back and take stock.

Dan J.

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #4 on: October 26, 2007, 07:19:37 PM »
I was diagnosed on May 20th, 1986. I can say that I have done anything "special" on this day through the years. I'm usually too depressed on the 20th to go out & do anything. This year I stayed in bed all day & will probably do the same next year.

Dan

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #5 on: October 26, 2007, 07:33:19 PM »
OK, upallnight, I don't get it.  If you were diagnosed Feb. 10th, what are you talking about having an anniversary of the date when it's October 26th?  Did I miss something?
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline Dachshund

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #6 on: October 26, 2007, 07:35:31 PM »
Back in the day I use to go out and get jiggy with my virus. Now we just stay in and rent a movie.


p.s. am i missing something or are you "celebrating" a little early?

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #7 on: October 26, 2007, 07:43:44 PM »
I guess he wants to plan a big shindig! :D

Offline 404error

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #8 on: October 26, 2007, 08:48:52 PM »
I get pretty baked, pretty often, so this was only a random thought that ran through my mind at the time of posting.  Nearly everything I write online comes to me that way.  I'm stoned, something comes to mind and I type it out.  I haven't even finalized plans for tonight, there's no way I'm planning for February.
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Offline Oceanbeach

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #9 on: October 26, 2007, 08:50:50 PM »
I don't actually celebrate or even pay respect to but, I am aware of those dates every year.  If we were on the Jeopardy set and Alex Trebec said,"June 26, 1996", I would punch my button and say, "What is the date Michael Sonomabeach found out he had AIDS?"  If we were spinning Wheel of Fortune and Vanna White turned the letters CH_ I S_MAS 1994,  I would tell Pat Sajak, "Michael Sonomabeach has HIV", the answer would be wrong but the date correct so, another contestant would win the prize while all I got was a "lovely parting gift"  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Have the best day
Michael
(who has spent entirely too much time on the game show circuit)
« Last Edit: October 26, 2007, 09:19:15 PM by Sonomabeach »

Offline emeraldize

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #10 on: October 26, 2007, 10:34:04 PM »
The thought has never crossed my mind to celebrate the day I exited and re-entered my body through my eyeballs after the tester uttered the word " ...positive." I can think of a hundred plus things to celebrate, but that would not be among them.

Offline aztecan

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #11 on: October 26, 2007, 11:12:04 PM »
I don't remember the exact day any more.

I know it was in July 1985.

I just remember the doc coming into the room, telling me I was positive, that I had about two years before I croaked and that I should start getting things in order, then he left the room.

But, the actual date escapes me.

So, I celebrate for an entire month - not that I am a possie, but that the damn doctor who gave me the news was dead wrong about when I would shuffle off this mortal coil.

Funny part is, I outlived the doc too.  :o

HUGS,

Mark
"May your life preach more loudly than your lips."
~ William Ellery Channing (Unitarian Minister)

Offline anniebc

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #12 on: October 26, 2007, 11:13:49 PM »
I remember the day I was diagnosed, 5th April 2002, but the only reason I celebrate is because my beautiful Border collie Annie who was born on that day.

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Offline seekay70

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #13 on: October 27, 2007, 12:19:05 AM »
The day that I recieved my diagnosis, I was celebrating my 8th wedding anniversary.. What a present to recieve.  I am now going through a divorce and would rather forget that day.  I have had no adverse effects from this disease, I consider myself lucky in that aspect.I look at it as another of lifes challenges, I was raised in foster care...my bio father died when I was 15 years old and my bio mother whom I have seen one time in 30 years does not believe that I am her daughter,....it is all of these things that have made me the person that I am today and I will keep trudging on down the road trying to avoid any more potholes...lol

Sherry

Offline BT65

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Re: Is it too morbid...
« Reply #14 on: October 27, 2007, 08:01:57 AM »
I remember the date.  It was Feb. 12, 1989.  The only reason I remember it is because it was three days before my first husband died.  Of course I remember that date.

Sherry, I would encourage you to join us females in the "Positive Women's" thread.  Love to hear more from you. Sounds like you've been through a lot.
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

 


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