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Offline 404error

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Passive aggressive behaviour
« on: October 15, 2007, 06:41:08 PM »
I can't think of anything that irritates me more than passive aggressive behaviour.  I'm not sure if it's me but it seems as though I'm meeting far too many people with this problem.  I've had at least one passive agressive roommate at a time for the past four years.  I've been working for people where I've either been micromanaged by someone with serious passive aggresive behaviour problems, or for the owner themselves who chooses to get out their frustrations with passive aggresive behaviour.   This sort of approach almost never leads to resolution of the hurt sides frustrations.  I just don't get why people can't be more direct.  Is it really that hard to speak your mind and let someone know where they stand as opposed to playing irritating games that give you a moment of victory while deep down inside you know you're still losing the war?  It usually ends up that these people let things build and build until they just lash out in a manner that is not at all in proportion to the immediate problem at hand.  It almost feels as though this "epidemic" should be rivalling obesity in terms of how widespread it's become...  Booo to the passive aggresive!
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #1 on: October 15, 2007, 07:31:35 PM »
I don't have a problem with speaking my mind if you haven't noticed. It saves time and cuts to the chase. It actually irritates me when people have to bs around everything instead of just saying what is on their mind..
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Offline 404error

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #2 on: October 15, 2007, 07:33:26 PM »
No Queen, you definitely don't fit into this category.  I agree, I just don't see why people can't get to the point instead of tip toe-ing around it...
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Offline milker

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #3 on: October 15, 2007, 10:16:37 PM »
fuck you

whoo! I said it ! :)

Milker (who is a passive aggressive)
mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
jul 07: cd4 403 (26%) vl 99241
oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Offline 404error

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #4 on: October 15, 2007, 10:40:10 PM »
see.  wasn't that liberating?  :)
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Offline milker

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2007, 10:51:22 PM »
see.  wasn't that liberating?  :)
no I used lowercase
mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
jul 07: cd4 403 (26%) vl 99241
oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
feb 19 09: cd4 398 (24%) vl 430 getting there!
apr 23 09: cd4 604 (29%) vl 50 woohoo :D :D
jul 30 09: cd4 512 (29%) vl undetectable :D :D
may 27 10: cd4 655 (32%) vl undetectable :D :D

Now accepting applications from blowjob ninjasô

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #6 on: October 15, 2007, 11:01:06 PM »
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline manchesteruk

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #7 on: October 16, 2007, 04:35:58 AM »
I live with two people who display a lot of passive aggressive behavior.  It normally results in as Philly posted above someone leaving a note rather than speaking directly about it to the other person.  It does get quite frustrating I still love them though and wouldn't want to live with anyone else!
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Offline J.R.E.

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #8 on: October 16, 2007, 07:59:56 AM »
I can't think of anything that irritates me more than passive aggressive behaviour. 


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Offline Iggy

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #9 on: October 16, 2007, 09:44:15 AM »
hmmmm....One might say this very thread is an exercise in that.  ;)

Offline David_CA

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #10 on: October 16, 2007, 10:56:36 AM »
For those who are interested...http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive_agressive.  I see lots of behavior from others in the list of examples.  I don't see any of my behaviors listed, though!    :D
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Offline Mouse

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #11 on: October 16, 2007, 11:40:22 AM »
That Wikipedia list pretty much describes like, every human being... like, ever. In life.

Oh god. D: I just made an excuse. I must be passive-aggressive.



Actually, I can be. I don't mind it so much. My ex is really passive-aggressive and it still sort of irritates me, but I've learned that if I confront him about an issue he normally picks it up and confronts me straight-forward back - he just needs someone to start the conversation. It's like the ONLY way we ever work through anything with our friendship. For me to call him out and bitch at him and then he feels free to do the same. And then later we hug and make up. Teenagers are impossible.

Offline fearless

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2007, 01:07:18 AM »
I just responded to a work email in a rather aggressive manner, pointing out all of my organisations prior committments to a certain individual. Then ensued a number of emails back and forth. I received a final email inviting me to a meeting to resolve the issue. I quickly refused, stating that I really didn't care what happened and that it was no concern of mine.

I don't know if that makes me passive/aggressive, aggessive/passive or what!!!

But, I do know one thing, and that is that I was damn RIGHT, like I always am.  ;D
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Passive aggressive behaviour
« Reply #13 on: October 17, 2007, 01:26:28 AM »
email is passive aggressive by nature
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