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Hi i'm posting this because i'm extremely frightened at the moment. it looks as though theres much to be taught within these boards so hopefully you will all hear out my situation and help me with some honest advice. i'm not looking for anything sugar coated.i just want it straight.

here are the details of MY situation.

#1 - with a woman of unknown hiv status last night. received oral sex with no condom, i'm a male btw.
prior to the oral sex we engaged in some rough vigorous making out. this make out session probably damaged our lips and would in turn expose my penis to blood in the womans mouth. why i did not think of this before letting her go down on me i don't know. i feel like a fool.

as she was performing oral on me it was also quite rough and may have torn my foreskin slightly as she used her hand at the same time. this in turn would expose blood in her mouth to an open wound on my penis as well as the urethra.

up until now i had never considered getting oral sex from a woman to be a risk. maybe because i was told that it wasn't possible or maybe because i had never thought of it.

#2 - as we were engaging in foreplay the woman was sucking on my fingers and at one point bit down on one. her teeth caused a break in the skin which bled. this was right above the nail. the wound was not deep. just a surface wound but it would still expose her saliva which may have contained blood to my bloodstream.

ok so those are my two main worries. essentially small cuts in her mouth letting her blood come in contact with my penis that was treated very roughly and with possibly torn foreskin AND the bite on my finger.

i hope all this is clear. please let me know if i haven't made proper sense.

so as the forum says, am i infected? thanks alot.


Nothing you describe was a risk for hiv infection. Saliva is not infectious - in fact it contains over a dozen different proteins and enzmes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Please read the Welcome Thread and follow the link to the Transmission lesson so you can better understand what is and isn't a risk.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do NOT need to test over this incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


hi ann i have most definitely NEVER had sex unprotected. just oral sex. and this has never dawned on me aside form now because of the rough nature of the kissing. surely i figured that there would be cuts in her mouth from this. my teeth hit against her lips and this may have caused damage and bleeding.

is this still not a risk even with some of her blood touching the bite/my penis with tears?


No, there's still no risk no matter what sort of what-iffs you can come up with. Neither kissing nor getting blown are risks for hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected through kissing or getting sucked and you won't be the first. Really, you won't.

Make sure you always use condoms for intercourse and you'll be just fine where hiv is concerned. Make sure you're using them properly by reading the links in my signature line. The first one has videos! ::)


hi ann i'll go review the information you've suggested

so even if there may have been some blood in her mouth or on her teeth as she bit my finger i should not worry? is it not enough blood?

oh and something else i got an email notification of a message somebody sent me here that says to go give blood because they test it for diseases? i don't know how to check these messages. but in the email it shows the message content. what's this about? how can i check my messages?


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