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Offline Chirino

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Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« on: September 12, 2007, 09:32:51 AM »
Hello everyone,

A few years ago at my bachelor party I had protected sexual intercourse with a stripper.  She insisted that I didnt use a condom I on the other hand told her I had a condom and I was going to use it.  The sex only lasted a few seconds because I freaked out!  I thought why would she want to have unprotected sex with someone she dosent know.  My question is since I used a condom do I need to get a test?  Also a few months ago I had sex with a condom with an escort?

Thanks

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2007, 09:56:43 AM »
Chir,

Condoms prevent hiv infection. You did the right thing and used one, so you were not at risk in either situation.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do NOT need to test over these protected incidents, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2007, 10:32:08 AM »
Thank you Ann.  I was taught that latex condoms offer some protection but not complete protection, even if used properly.  I thank you for the lessons and for your responses.


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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2007, 10:34:45 AM »
You're welcome, Chir.

I've been in a relationship for eight years with an hiv negative man. He stays hiv negative because we use condoms every time. Condoms really do prevent hiv infection, when used every time and used correctly. Make sure you read the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can be sure you're using them correctly.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #4 on: September 12, 2007, 10:41:46 AM »
Thanks Ann I think I have used them correctly the shaft and the head have always been covered and I have never had one break on me.

Thanks again

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #5 on: September 12, 2007, 11:04:39 AM »
Ann,

Would you agree that a condom was used correctly if it dosen't slip or break and if it covered the whole penis?  Sounds like a dumb question but just curious?

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #6 on: September 12, 2007, 11:09:15 AM »
You didn't mention the use of a water base lube. The lube helps to prevent breakage. Other than that you used them correctly.

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« Reply #7 on: September 12, 2007, 11:13:22 AM »
Ann,

Would you agree that a condom was used correctly if it dosen't slip or break and if it covered the whole penis?  Sounds like a dumb question but just curious?

Yes, I agree.

I also agree with Rodney that it is best to also use a water-based lube as this will help prevent breakage. Don't fret if you haven't used lube before - if the condom broke because of it you would have known about it, no doubt about that at all.

Make sure you read those condom and lube links - think of it as a refresher course.

You have not had a risk for hiv infection. Keep using those condoms and you won't in future either.

Yes, it really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #8 on: November 05, 2007, 04:56:47 PM »
quick question.  I had protected sex last night, and I also had the girl finger my ass without protection on her hands.  Is this a risk?

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #9 on: November 05, 2007, 04:58:09 PM »
No, you can't catch HIV because somebody stuck their finger up your puckerstar.

MtD

Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #10 on: November 05, 2007, 05:05:02 PM »
Matty she fingered me hard, do you think I am okay.

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #11 on: November 05, 2007, 05:06:19 PM »
Fingering, no matter how rough or deep, is not a risk for HIV transmission.  Zero risk. Period.
Andy Velez

Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #12 on: November 05, 2007, 05:12:16 PM »
Muchas Gracias!!!! Andy I have learned much from you guys.

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #13 on: November 05, 2007, 06:06:45 PM »
De nada. I'm glad you found the exchanges here to be helpful.
Andy Velez

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #14 on: December 20, 2007, 02:12:13 PM »
Hello everyone,

I have a question about the rapid oraquick test.  Do these test have controls?  I tested negative after 4 months of a possible exposure.  Could I call this a definitive negative?  I am pretty sure I did the test, I think if it would have been done incorrectly it would have come back as neither positive or negative.

Happy Holidays to all of you.

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« Reply #15 on: December 20, 2007, 02:14:26 PM »
Your result is conclusive, you don't have HIV.

MtD

Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #16 on: December 20, 2007, 02:17:05 PM »
Okay thank you.  Have a very happy holiday MTD!!

Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #17 on: December 26, 2007, 08:53:33 AM »
Hey guys, if I have protected vaginal intercourse with a female, and tested negative via an oraquick test almost a year and half which came out negative, can I put this hiv fear behind me?  I am kind of unsure if I did the test properly because I rubbed the pallet on my cheek and tougne of the test which I took over a year ago.

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #18 on: December 26, 2007, 08:59:56 AM »
It didn't matter where you rubbed it. You didn't have a risk. An oraquick test is a blood test, an oraquick advance test can be done orally.
« Last Edit: December 26, 2007, 09:01:58 AM by RapidRod »

Offline Chirino

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #19 on: December 26, 2007, 09:03:05 AM »
it was an oraquick advanced. 

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« Reply #20 on: December 26, 2007, 09:20:25 AM »
Chir,

Protected intercourse is not a risk for hiv infection. You've been told this repeatedly. You've also been told that you have tested conclusively hiv negative. The window period is only three months, not four months and not a year and a half. You don't have hiv.

If you've read the Welcome Thread like you're supposed to, you will have read the following:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned.

You do not have hiv! Keep using condoms and you will continue to avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Chirino

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Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« Reply #21 on: March 15, 2008, 08:06:47 PM »
HI guys hooked up with two chicks last night.  One was going down on another, and then she went down on me bareback.  Am I at risk because she went down on the girl and then on me?

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Re: Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« Reply #22 on: March 15, 2008, 08:11:01 PM »
Please keep all your additional thoughts, questions and comments in your original thread. This helps us to follow your story and give you the most accurate advice.

If you can't find you original thread click on the red link I've provided above. Alternatively you can click on the "show own posts" link in the left hand column of any forums page.

Your questions will not be answered until you return to your original thread.

MtD

Offline Chirino

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Re: Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« Reply #23 on: March 15, 2008, 08:17:38 PM »
Sorry MTD, i just posted under my original thread.  It dosent say new though>

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #24 on: March 15, 2008, 08:18:50 PM »
Matty please answer the above question.

Offline Matty the Damned

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« Reply #25 on: March 15, 2008, 09:01:22 PM »
No, you were not at risk from this encounter. If you'd been paying attention to what we've told you on previous occasions, you'd know that.

MtD

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Re: Very Curious about my risk?
« Reply #26 on: March 15, 2008, 10:47:00 PM »
And I am going to remind you about the warning Ann gave you. You're just scrambling around looking for problems where there isn't any. Sexually the issue is quite clear as far as HIV transmission: it's about unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. All of the other fears are in the theoretical domain and not how transmission really happens.

Now, move along and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #27 on: November 30, 2008, 04:49:22 PM »
I just got home and saw I have a certified letter waiting for me from the state of fl health dept.  I am freaking out, however I tested negative over two years ago.  Could they be contacting me now to tell me that they made a mistake?

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Re: Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« Reply #28 on: November 30, 2008, 04:53:18 PM »
Hey buddy,

It's hard to know what it might be about. It is possible that someone you were with sexually has tested positive for some STD and was requested to give names of former sexual partners.

But I'm just guessing about that.

And as long as you have tested negative then your status remains just that -- HIV negative.

Of course it's understandable that you get anxious over this mystery. Pick up the letter and find out what's up. Keep us posted.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

Offline Chirino

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« Reply #29 on: November 30, 2008, 04:58:04 PM »
Andy,

I will keep you guys posted.  Who knows what it could be, I will keep you posted.  Not scared about my HIV status, but the wife is asking me a million questions.

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Re: Blowjob after a woman goes down on another
« Reply #30 on: November 30, 2008, 08:09:25 PM »
OK. Good luck with getting it all sorted out.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

 


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