Quantcast

Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
E-newsletters
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr MySpace
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Username:
Password:
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
September 01, 2014, 10:07:54 AM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 636794
  • Total Topics: 48335
  • Online Today: 180
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

IMPORTANT UPDATE
Posted Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ and AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all. 

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: What Are My Chances????  (Read 1821 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline MizzShantel

  • Member
  • Posts: 4
What Are My Chances????
« on: September 07, 2007, 09:02:40 AM »

Well here's my situation.....on August 27 I had a sexual encounter with a gentleman I had been dating for the first time.I took all the right precautions
and used a condom for oral, and another condom for intercourse w/ lube.Anyways during intercourse something told me that something wasn't right so I asked the guy to pull out and he was very hesitant about doing so,so I pulled him out and noticed the condom was missing on the bottom half.
I immediately checked to make sure he didn't ejaculate in me and he didn't.I really think he purposely popped a hole in the condom( trust me I have a reason to believe this).Well I went to the doctor the next day and was prescribed the morning after pill,and was tested for standard STDs.My doctor says my chances of possibly being infected with HIV was low even if there was some  precum,and said not to worry to much and to wait 3 months and be tested.

Does anybody have any input? I'm seriously scared as hell and am somewhat angry because I did everything I was suppose to do to protect myself and this idiot popped a hole in the condom which makes me wonder why....was he purposely trying to give me a disease.I know a lot of sites and experts who are familiar with the virus say that it takes more than one time to infect someone but I'm still scared.

Offline Matty the Damned

  • Member
  • Posts: 12,228
  • Ninja Please
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #1 on: September 07, 2007, 09:58:00 AM »
Shan,

Even if the bottom of the rubber was missing the fact that the top was still in place means you were protected during the sexual encounter. Thus you do not have to test as a result of this encounter.

Nevertheless, all sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least once a year. Twice is better. To arrange this, please talk to your doctor or local clinic.

MtD

Offline MizzShantel

  • Member
  • Posts: 4
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #2 on: September 07, 2007, 10:18:38 AM »
Are you sure???? I was exposed to the tip of his penis,and the condom was rolled up to the base of his penis....So what about precum???Is that enough to infect someone with HIV.

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,140
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #3 on: September 07, 2007, 10:28:28 AM »
Mizz,

From your first post, I also assumed (along with Matty) you were calling the end of the condom where the opening is the "bottom" of the condom. The "top" of the condom usually means the end where the head of the penis goes.

If the tip of his penis was exposed, you did have a risk although it is somewhat lower as he didn't cum. A lower risk is not no risk and so you do need to test.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, but a six week negative MUST be confirmed at the three month point.

I really don't expect you to end up positive over this experience but the only way to know for certain is to test.

Please read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can be certain they are being used properly. A correctly used condom rarely breaks. You might also want to check out the information on the female condom as it is a method of protection YOU have control over.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline MizzShantel

  • Member
  • Posts: 4
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #4 on: September 07, 2007, 11:43:39 AM »
Thanks for the advice,I'm just trying to chill out and kill time till I am able to test.

But one more question,if the guy I was with was thrusting deep inside me to the point
he was touching my cervix would that make my chances higher of contracting the virus....

Offline Andy Velez

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 24,613
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #5 on: September 07, 2007, 12:14:01 PM »
The level of risk wouldn't have been greater if he was reaching your cervix. The key point is that he didn't ejaculate. That significantly reduces the level or risk to you although precum is a risk, assuming he's positive -- which you don't know for sure to be so.

Given this was a single incident,that he was covered by a condom for at least a part of the time, I'd say the odds are in your favor that you're going to test negative.

During the waiting time stay productively busy. It will help to pass the time more quickly than you may imagine is possible.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

Offline MizzShantel

  • Member
  • Posts: 4
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #6 on: September 08, 2007, 12:29:55 AM »
Thanks

I'm getting to the point that I don't want to have sex at all.It's getting to a point where men don't want to use condoms and are going as far as poking holes in condoms....Where I live (which is Atlanta) there are too many men on the DL,even the Health Dept where I get tested warned me about it and said make sure you use condoms.I'm bisexual and for about two years I had a girlfriend and this was my first male experience,but anyways I go to gay clubs where theres men and women and I will have men still approaching me and asking me for my number.They have got to be joking!

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,140
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: What Are My Chances????
« Reply #7 on: September 08, 2007, 07:20:03 AM »
Mizz,

Yes, I am aware that many men do not want to use condoms. However, I am not aware of any who would go so far as to poke holes in them.

As I mentioned to you above, check out the information on the female condom. They are a little fiddly to use the first time, but if you can use a tampon, you can use this condom. I suggest you try it, as they give YOU the control over your protection.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2014 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.