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Author Topic: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !  (Read 6585 times)

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Offline nhadep

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PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« on: September 12, 2007, 06:21:09 AM »
Dear Experts,

Last night, I was involved in an stupid incident. I invited a girl to come to my room. She offered the vaginal intercourse, but I refused, I allowed her to give me the handjob.
 
She performed for minutes but I could not ejaculate, and I told her to do it more violently, she did it so vigorously that I felf the pain in my penis. But I could not ejaculate and I told her to stop!
 
When I got home and took the shower, I realised that: My penis had some scratchs, abrasions... They are some bloodseepage, I think I have these abrasions before the incident, and they were burning and itchy....
 
I am afraid that if the girl has open wound on her fingers, so, as she was doing handjob. Her wounds would get direct contact to the abrasions of the shaft of my penis. And if she was poz, she could transmiss HIV to me...
 
Dear Experts, Is this circumstance a risk of HIV infection? I have read the LESSON, but I think my story is quite complicated. Could you rate my risk? I am very scared....Especially, my penis is keeping burning...
 
Thanks alot, EXPERTS,
 
NHADEP
« Last Edit: September 12, 2007, 06:23:33 AM by nhadep »

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2007, 06:31:59 AM »
Nha,

HIV is not transmitted by handjob. You do not need to test as a result of this this encounter. I know you've read our lessons, but I would encourage you to review the Welcome Thread once again.

You should know that symptoms are not a reliable indicator of HIV infection. If you are experiencing a burning sensation or any other problems with your penis I would encourage to consult your doctor.

Once again you do not need to be concerned about HIV as a result of this encounter.

MtD

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2007, 07:31:01 AM »
Dear Matty,

Thanks for your reply, it is appreciated!

But I think you did not understand me, the burning sensation I have told you means that I have abrasions before receiving the handjob. It makes me more worried because during the handjob, my wound have direct contact to the bleeding wound of the girl...I have not mentioned the symptoms...And iit happen lastnight only...

I have read alot of topics here,but I need more advise....

Could you assess the risk for me? What about  other opinions from many Experts in this forum ?IF that girl have open wound like me, AM i infected?

IS  this circumstance a risk of HIV infection?

Thanks alot, Experts,




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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2007, 07:35:12 AM »
Nha,

I do understand and the abrasions on the shaft of your penis make no difference. You can't get HIV from a handjob.

HIV is transmitted inside the body, not through abrasions on your skin. You don't have HIV.

MtD

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #4 on: September 12, 2007, 07:42:55 AM »
Dear EXPERTS,

What is the second opinion? Blowjob is not a risk of HIV infection even if the girl has bleeding wound and I have some bleeding abrasions, AM I right?

Help me, I need your sage opinions!
« Last Edit: September 12, 2007, 07:44:41 AM by nhadep »

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #5 on: September 12, 2007, 07:44:46 AM »
Like Matty has advised you. You were never at risk.

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #6 on: September 12, 2007, 07:49:29 AM »
Nha,

Neither getting a handjob or a blowjob are risks for hiv infection. If they were, we'd tell you.

Hiv is a very fragile virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse.

Saliva is not infectious. It also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you DO NOT NEED TO TEST over this handjob/blowjob incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #7 on: September 12, 2007, 07:50:09 AM »
Thanks RAPID,

Since this is the 1st time I have been here, SO I am very confused!

Could you( or someone eslse) explain to me why I were not at risk? like ANN said, if there is no penetration, no risk of HIV?
I need to go to school now! I will go back in next house!

Thanks alot!

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #8 on: September 12, 2007, 07:58:40 AM »
If you read the lesson on transmission you'll get all the basics. There's a link to it in the Welcome thread which opens this section.

Essentially HIV is a fragile virus which needs a welcoming environment in which to be transmitted. Intercourse, whether vaginal or anal, provides such an environment. Handjobs and blowjobs do not. Even when you have nicks, bruises or whatever on your johnson a handjob just doesn't offer the means for it to happen. And in the entire history of the epidemic no guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected from getting a blowjob. So it's safe to say you won't make history by becomng the first.

It sounds like you are just beginning to be sexually active. When you get around to having intercourse, just be sure to use a latex condom everytime without exception and you will essentially be covered as far as HIV is concerned. And that means using one everytime no matter what you think you know about the person you're with or how great they look or anything else. Wear a condom everytime!

And as far as the rough handjob, keep some waterbased lube handy to smooth the way. That's also the only kind of lube you should for intercourse as well.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #9 on: September 14, 2007, 06:21:20 AM »
Dear Experts,

Thanks for this forum and its very kind Moderators here. If I did not know this site, my life would be very miserable...

I have been searching this forum  for days, I understand that handjob is not a risk for the infection. But no case is similar to mine. My penis is swollen and painful. It would be bleeding when the girl was rubbing against it. So, the blood from the fingers of the girl would get directly contact to my wound...

Dear Experts, I have some questions:

1./In this forum, I notice that if the contact happened inside the body, it would create the risk, right?

2./Any contact between bleeding wound-to-bleeding wound outside the body would be impossible for HIV to transmit, right? Because during the rub, there was alot of air-flow around the wound and the air would kill off HIV right away before it could be transmit me...Am I right?

3./ HIV is not infected once it is outside the body, no matter the time required for it to be inactive?, some website said it need seconds, but I think it will die right away when it hit the air and change in pH, temperature....

I am sorry for asking many silly questions, I need your advice so that my life would be easier.

Thanks in advance,

NHADEP


« Last Edit: September 14, 2007, 09:58:33 AM by nhadep »

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #10 on: September 14, 2007, 09:24:04 AM »
Could Experts help me?

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #11 on: September 14, 2007, 09:41:04 AM »
dep,

We understood your situation the first time you told us. There is no risk for hiv in what you experienced. The details don't matter. Getting a handjob is not a risk for hiv infection.

If your penis continues to be sore, see your doctor. We cannot help you with that here.

Ann


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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #12 on: September 14, 2007, 09:48:13 AM »
Dear ANN,

Thanks alot, although the cyber cafe is emply but I am here just to see your reply...

So, one is not at risk of HIV infection from the three of questions mentioned! The virus need an air-tightened environment to be transmitable, right? Could you tell me more about what it takes for HIV to be active?

Thanks alot,

NHADEP

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #13 on: September 15, 2007, 12:03:04 AM »
Could anyone help me to understand the real world of transmission?

Thanhk in advance!

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #14 on: September 17, 2007, 06:13:11 AM »
Dear Experts,

I have been trying to forget that incident but I can not let it go! Sorry for asking you silly questions! But three of my questions mentioned above have not been answered yet, this could lead me to think that some of my concern is right for HIV transmission even if it is outside the body...

Please answer me in brief words...Do not ignore me!

Thanks a lot, EXPERTS,

NHADEP


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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #15 on: September 17, 2007, 06:27:33 AM »
dep,

Hiv is a very fragile virus. The minute it finds itself outside the body, small changes in temperature, moisture content and pH levels all quickly damage the outside covering of the virus and render it unable to infect. Not only that, but it can only attach itself to certain very specific cells, cells which are not present in the surface of the skin. The skin on your penis is no different to the skin on the rest of your body.

It's time you let this go. You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Please take note of our forum posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #16 on: October 09, 2007, 06:28:09 AM »
Dear EXPERTS,

IT was 4 weeks since the exposure, I expericenced slight sore throat, stuffiness, and sneeze. But I have no fever, swollen lymphs, rash, diarrhea...

Although that everyone here said it is no risk from getting handjob, even with bleeding involved. Could anyone tell me about the hiv_ars_symptoms? Does the symtoms develope in all cases? I have read somewhere that the ARS is described as one of the most severe flu in life?

I need your help..

PLs take time to answer my three of questions above...

NHADEP,
« Last Edit: October 09, 2007, 06:29:40 AM by nhadep »

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Re: PLease help me, receiving handjob with open wounds !
« Reply #17 on: October 09, 2007, 06:37:57 AM »
Det,

Symptoms or the lack of symptoms mean nothing.

We don't seem to be getting through to you that you have not had a risk. I've warned you about continuing to post about this NO RISK incident - and I'm giving you that time out I warned you about. Do not create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned, no questions asked.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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