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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Moving Up then Out....
« on: August 24, 2007, 11:08:22 PM »
Just thought I would put this out there. I will be moving soon from where I am now to a bigger place but has also brought on a room mate. Not a stranger but an older woman that I am friends with. Been friends for awhile too but knows from experience that living with young hens can cause problems and drama. And with how rent is here and be on disability, it is hard to survive. Well that is not the point of this thread. I guess I am rambling, forgive me. After my son graduates high school, I would like to pick up and make a new beginning somewhere other than PA.
I am not fond of big cities but would like to be some place small but not someplace with the population of 100, you know what I mean. Looking for some place warm and somewhat easy on the pocket. Opinions, suggestions or thoughts appreciated.....

(who really needs to feel at home somewhere) :(
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Offline Basquo

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2007, 11:43:51 PM »
I saw Cindy's post about you not wanting to freeze your ass off LOL! Have you thought about Tennesee, or perhaps even Texas?  I think everyone if possible should live within four hours or so of a major body of water, be it sea or lake. It always makes for interesting weather, meaning variations in storm patterns from one side of town to the other. It's fun to tell friends it's sunny when they are five miles away and are getting pounded by a storm.

I personally don't want a roommate unless I'm partnered with them, although I wouldn't turn out a friend who's in a tight place for a few months.  Hell at one point my friend was pregnant and abused by her boyfriend, and I was walking around my one-bedroom flat thinking "Okay, the crib goes here, and the changing table goes here" but that situation changed so I am still here by myself.  If you're okay living with your son, and your roommate is okay with your style, you should do fine.  You may have to make some sacrifices regarding your tastes or preferences, but if you are comfortable with the person it is well worth the savings in expenses.


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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2007, 11:47:01 PM »
Queen,

did I read somewhere that you don't like to freeze your ass off? That means anything over the 42nd parallel is a no-no ?

Milker.

/edited to add: just saw Basquo's post. Looks like we agree that we need to find a warm place for Queen's butt :D /
mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
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oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
feb 19 09: cd4 398 (24%) vl 430 getting there!
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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2007, 11:53:44 PM »
I keep telling Queen to go to NC.  Cost of living is great from what I hear, you're near the ocean and the mountains......and the Hen Party Girls!  ;)  Oh and Jeromy is down that way, too!  ;)  ooooh and a few others I can think of.......
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2007, 11:57:05 PM »
NC is nice on the coast, but for ADAP it's about the worst state Cindy.
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #5 on: August 25, 2007, 12:00:18 AM »
NC is nice on the coast, but for ADAP it's about the worst state Cindy.

Thanks for posting that, Philly, cause I am trying to help my big sis out here.  To everyone reading here........

1)  Is it tough to "restart" ADAP and the like in a new state?
2)  Where ARE the best states as far as financial support?  Any good stories?  Bad stories?

Queen Hen needs the peeps to chirp up tonight!   :D
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #6 on: August 25, 2007, 12:02:59 AM »
NC has hot gay rednecks tho.

Milker.
mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
jul 07: cd4 403 (26%) vl 99241
oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
feb 19 09: cd4 398 (24%) vl 430 getting there!
apr 23 09: cd4 604 (29%) vl 50 woohoo :D :D
jul 30 09: cd4 512 (29%) vl undetectable :D :D
may 27 10: cd4 655 (32%) vl undetectable :D :D

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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #7 on: August 25, 2007, 12:04:21 AM »
Of course, I would prefer it to be just me and my son, nothing against my friend because she really is a good person. But being that neither her nor I can make it on our own it would seem to be the thing to do. No problems with drugs because she only smokes weed and we usually smoke together anyhow. And we have more than a few things in common and I know I could learn from her because she has been around. I don't mean that in a bad way, what I mean is she use to ride with the Hell's Angels back in the day....knows how to make her own weapons including battle axes as well as make glass bongs and is also a mechanic. Ok, there is plenty to learn there.

I lived in Tennessee a few years back and you definitely need a car there. I was in Nashville then. Now when I think of Texas, I think of the saying of how everything is big there. I definitely don't like the cold even though I am an Earth sign and a January baby. Any place that drops snow is a no no, I would like the coldest to be in the 50's. I could  accept a nice clean beach but will not do any swimming. I'm not up for being shark bait or any other kind of bait. I'm also looking for a place where my SSDI would stay the same or get a raise, that would be nice. Indeed.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2007, 12:07:00 AM »
NC has hot gay rednecks tho.

Milker.

Wonders if they have hot bi sexual men?

(who has been told I should be a dominatrix) And must admit, am curious.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #9 on: August 25, 2007, 12:08:11 AM »
Wonders if they have hot bi sexual men?

(who has been told I should be a dominatrix) And must admit, am curious.

I know a few that are north and south of there...... ;)
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #10 on: August 25, 2007, 12:09:37 AM »
I know a few that are north and south of there...... ;)

Now why does that not surprise me.... ;D
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Offline ademas

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #11 on: August 25, 2007, 12:09:53 AM »
(Does SSDI take into account where you live?)

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #12 on: August 25, 2007, 12:10:28 AM »
(Does SSDI take into account where you live?)


Honestly, I heard it did but am not for sure...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Offline AlanBama

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #13 on: August 25, 2007, 12:13:30 AM »
Honey, if you're looking for WARMTH, Alabama might be good....it has been 107 and 108 this week....haven't seen snow here since the 90's....

but you'd definitely need a vehicle here, mass transit is sadly lacking in most places.

love to have you near me, though!  :-*
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Offline Basquo

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #14 on: August 25, 2007, 12:14:17 AM »
I know I could learn from her because she has been around. I don't mean that in a bad way, what I mean is she use to ride with the Hell's Angels back in the day....knows how to make her own weapons including battle axes as well as make glass bongs and is also a mechanic.

Okay, then, well, if she knows how to make bongs and battle axes, then hell, what can I say?  She sounds like my kind of roommate!

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #15 on: August 25, 2007, 12:16:44 AM »
Okay, then, well, if she knows how to make bongs and battle axes, then hell, what can I say?  She sounds like my kind of roommate!

Yeah, she is cool as hell. I just love her and am very protective of her...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #16 on: August 25, 2007, 12:17:58 AM »
....it has been 107 and 108 this week....


ugh.
I can do a little cold better than I can deal with that kind of heat...
lordy.

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #17 on: August 25, 2007, 12:20:28 AM »
Honey, if you're looking for WARMTH, Alabama might be good....it has been 107 and 108 this week....haven't seen snow here since the 90's....

but you'd definitely need a vehicle here, mass transit is sadly lacking in most places.

love to have you near me, though!  :-*

Now that is a bit too hot, I could take the lower 90's but over a 100. I been then passed out somewhere. And I would have to start over with a car too.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #18 on: August 25, 2007, 12:21:37 AM »
Wonders if they have hot bi sexual men?

(who has been told I should be a dominatrix) And must admit, am curious.
I've seen interesting videos. I vote for the Carolinas. Cindy seems have seen those videos too :D

Milker.
mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
jul 07: cd4 403 (26%) vl 99241
oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
feb 19 09: cd4 398 (24%) vl 430 getting there!
apr 23 09: cd4 604 (29%) vl 50 woohoo :D :D
jul 30 09: cd4 512 (29%) vl undetectable :D :D
may 27 10: cd4 655 (32%) vl undetectable :D :D

Now accepting applications from blowjob ninjasô

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #19 on: August 25, 2007, 12:23:02 AM »
Thanks for posting that, Philly, cause I am trying to help my big sis out here.  To everyone reading here........

1)  Is it tough to "restart" ADAP and the like in a new state?
2)  Where ARE the best states as far as financial support?  Any good stories?  Bad stories?

Queen Hen needs the peeps to chirp up tonight!   :D


1) no, if you qualify where you are moving (i.e. the income level) you simply re-apply for ADAP.  Keep in mind this is entirely separate from SSDI which is simply a matter of letting Social Security know your new address.  Your benefits all stay the same.

2) check this for ADAP qualifications per state:

http://www.statehealthfacts.org/comparemaptable.jsp?cat=11&ind=543

I know Queen isn't on ADAP but she's mentioned numerous times that her lab numbers are close to having her start so she obviously needs to know this info.

I moved from NYC to Philly 2.5 years ago and had minimum problems.  Actually I'd not have had any if the case manger at my ASO had not had her husband killed by a car the week after I filled out my ADAP paperwork with her.  She departed quickly for the funeral in West Africa with the corpse in tow and neglected to hand my file over to her co-workers... so it was quite a nightmare actually for me the first month.  I had wisely secretly built up an excess supply of meds before moving though but it came REALLY close to being bad but then somehow they landed me an emergency one-month approval until the other paperwork was approved.

Anyway, I still found moving while on multiple meds enormously anxiety ridden.  If I even began to relate all of the non-HIV related drama that went on with this move you'd all be wondering how I managed not to put razor blades to my wrists.
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #20 on: August 25, 2007, 12:24:23 AM »
No Carolinas it is too hot there lately ask Lisa. Now the mountains here in Virginia can be nice this time of year.

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #21 on: August 25, 2007, 12:31:17 AM »
I've seen interesting videos. I vote for the Carolinas. Cindy seems have seen those videos too :D

Milker.

 :P

1) no, if you qualify where you are moving (i.e. the income level) you simply re-apply for ADAP.  Keep in mind this is entirely separate from SSDI which is simply a matter of letting Social Security know your new address.  Your benefits all stay the same.

I am surprised that your benefits from SSDI stay the same!  I figured cost of living would come into play there.  Queen!  You need to find a cheap-ass state!  Go down by the VA/NC border!  LOL  Fly, chickadee, FLY south!
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #22 on: August 25, 2007, 12:38:01 AM »
:P

I am surprised that your benefits from SSDI stay the same!  I figured cost of living would come into play there.  Queen!  You need to find a cheap-ass state!  Go down by the VA/NC border!  LOL  Fly, chickadee, FLY south!

No, SSDI is based on what you contributed to Social Security/Medicare while employed.  SSI might have a cost of living factor but I can't recall. 
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« Reply #23 on: August 25, 2007, 12:43:35 AM »
oops

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mid-dec: stupid ass
mid-jan: seroconversion
mid-feb: poz
mar 07: cd4 432 (35%) vl 54000
may 07: cd4 399 (28%) vl 27760
jul 07: cd4 403 (26%) vl 99241
oct 07: cd4 353 (24%) vl 29993
jan 08: cd4 332 (26%) vl 33308
mar 08: cd4 392 (23%) vl 75548
jun 08: cd4 325 (27%) vl 45880
oct 08: cd4 197 (20%) vl 154000 <== aids diagnosis
nov 2 08 start Atripla
nov 30 08: cd4 478 (23%) vl 1880 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
feb 19 09: cd4 398 (24%) vl 430 getting there!
apr 23 09: cd4 604 (29%) vl 50 woohoo :D :D
jul 30 09: cd4 512 (29%) vl undetectable :D :D
may 27 10: cd4 655 (32%) vl undetectable :D :D

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Offline asaint

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #24 on: August 25, 2007, 12:47:33 AM »
Orlando FLA rents are around $700 a month, weathers nice, a lot of public transportation.
i don't know much about addp here but Ryan white (hopwa)was going to give me 75% of my rent and electric  but I declined b/c I get enough from SSD to support myself.

Bob

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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #25 on: August 25, 2007, 12:48:47 AM »
No Carolinas it is too hot there lately ask Lisa. Now the mountains here in Virginia can be nice this time of year.


Where in VA are you?
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #26 on: August 25, 2007, 12:51:17 AM »
No, SSDI is based on what you contributed to Social Security/Medicare while employed.  SSI might have a cost of living factor but I can't recall. 

Ok, I always get the difference mixed up. What is it on the 1st of the month and what is it on the 3rd of the month? My check on the 3rd is bigger and the one on the 1st is change..
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #27 on: August 25, 2007, 01:10:14 AM »
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #28 on: August 25, 2007, 01:39:47 AM »
I know that the cost of living is pretty low in Alabama.  I lived there three times (talk about not learning my lesson the 1st time).  But the heat is bad.  Alan, I don't know how you can stand it. 
   
Where I live in Indiana, the cost of living is not real high, but it does snow.  I'm not the relocating expert, but Queen, I hope you find someplace you like.  Good luck on the roommate thing.  I don't know if I could do that.
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« Reply #29 on: August 25, 2007, 02:14:43 AM »
Come on down to NC! We need more cool people!

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« Reply #30 on: August 25, 2007, 02:22:18 AM »
(See, GF, they got some hotties in NC.......let's GO!   :P )
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« Reply #31 on: August 25, 2007, 02:39:49 AM »
(See, GF, they got some hotties in NC.......let's GO!   :P )
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« Reply #32 on: August 25, 2007, 03:51:04 AM »
Will your son be with you awhile after he graduates? Look for a place where opportunity is available for him to secure job....or get into a tech school/college. If I were moving I'd choose Asheville,NC because in the month of March when we are still covered with snow here (Ohio) the flowers are blooming in NC!  A college town.....located at a major interstate
(I-40)...not too far from Smoky Mountains National Park...tourists dollars must help the local economy. Yes, it may be tough getting the ball rolling with meds supplementation programs but life is a struggle no matter where you end up if you are on SSDI. Might as well be someplace fairly warm .....not too hot......cold but not too cold in winter.
don't know though.....herbals may be scare difficult to obtain in that area.....but maybe not. Redneck mentality for sure but those pesky critters are peppered anywhere, USA.
I also favor eastern Tennessee but pockets of deep south religious mentality is cause for concern. Maybe NC is not any different but I'd sure check out the area with a trip or two to size it up beforehand.
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« Reply #33 on: August 25, 2007, 10:55:43 AM »
I'm REALLY cautioning against NC again if you are on ADAP -- the financial eligibility criteria is wildly below even a place like SC and it's more than half what Queen would experience where she currently resides.

Maybe you should consider the "Eastern Shore" area of Maryland.  I doubt many here know it very well but it has what is called a micro-climate of sorts, being that it's surrounded by water and is practically a large island (Chesapeake on one side, Atlantic on the other).  It's fairly rural (home of Perdue chicken farms!) but not far from places like Baltimore and Wilmington, DE.  For some reason the ADAP list I linked to earlier has "N/A" listed for Delaware so who knows what their ADAP qualification is).  Also if you look at a climate map you'll see that the Eastern Shore area has the same climate as a place like Asheville, NC.


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« Reply #34 on: August 25, 2007, 10:59:28 AM »
If you like a mild climate, head for Seattle.
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« Reply #35 on: August 25, 2007, 11:12:22 AM »
Just my two cents .... I have lived and visited most states in this country but when the time came to relocate for a permanent place  I chose Texas....just outside a big city   ( Dallas)  plenty of smaller towns and this is a pattern all over Texas  ( Big city surrounded by smaller towns)   weather is great   , costs are still affordable., most areas have good social services  especially near the big cities...Public transport is a little weak but it is there and is improving every year....  Take a close look you may be pleasantly surprised.....I have been here 25 years now and don't regret a day.....


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« Reply #36 on: August 25, 2007, 11:12:49 AM »
Come on down to NC! We need more cool people!
(See, GF, they got some hotties in NC.......let's GO!   :P )
                                                                                   research your options, then come to NC.     Seriously, while I would love for you to be closer for my own selfish reasons, Research your options and then decide. Love,  Cristy

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« Reply #37 on: August 25, 2007, 12:31:24 PM »
OK, I agree with philly cause you are going to need ADAP to assist with meds either now or later.
Seattle is nice. Hilly and pleasant downtown area but it rains a lot, doesn't it?
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« Reply #38 on: August 25, 2007, 12:33:42 PM »
I'm REALLY cautioning against NC again if you are on ADAP -- the financial eligibility criteria is wildly below even a place like SC and it's more than half what Queen would experience where she currently resides.

Maybe you should consider the "Eastern Shore" area of Maryland.  I doubt many here know it very well but it has what is called a micro-climate of sorts, being that it's surrounded by water and is practically a large island (Chesapeake on one side, Atlantic on the other).  It's fairly rural (home of Perdue chicken farms!) but not far from places like Baltimore and Wilmington, DE.  For some reason the ADAP list I linked to earlier has "N/A" listed for Delaware so who knows what their ADAP qualification is).  Also if you look at a climate map you'll see that the Eastern Shore area has the same climate as a place like Asheville, NC.




Well from someone living in Charlotte, NC...it's not so bad, SC is much worse as far as ADAP goes...but here in NC, there is no waiting list...but the catch is you have to make below 12K a year to qualify...
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« Reply #39 on: August 25, 2007, 12:53:49 PM »
I'm just advising Queen to research all of this -- clearly none of us know her actual SSDI income amount and I really don't wish to ask.  Yes, SC has a waiting list which is of course a huge red flag, but the income qualification is better for the list.  If NC had more people qualifying it seems clear that they'd have a waiting list equally large so the argument on that front is a bit neutralized.

I'm not being anti-NC in any of this.  I have spent a lot of time in that state, as my brother and his family live outside of Raleigh, and my family also used to summer in the Outer Banks growing up.  My parents are looking to fully retire to Wilmington. 

I'd still move to New Mexico before decamping to Redneck Central though... tee hee ;)
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #40 on: August 25, 2007, 03:55:36 PM »
I can't advise you about Arkansas ADAP and etc, but can tell you about living here and climate--not that you would even consider Arkansas, LOL.

We only have about 10 weeks of actual cold weather.  Each winter is guanteed 2 snows (usually just freezing rain).  Jan and Feb are the cold months.

The summers can be hot, last week was as high as 106, but this is quite unusal for us here.  And, it's not the heat gurl, it's the humidity that makes it hot.  But it is not at all that bad.

When I first moved to Little Rock, I was renting a very nice 2 bedroom apt for $475, in a great location. 

It is the South, which means rednecks, bible belt, and blue laws.  Living in an urban area though, kind of gives you the opportunity to live anonymously.  I have yet to have any of my neighbors bother to come by and introduce themselves to me.  Which is fine, since I am sure I do not at all fall into their demographic.

Little Rock is very close to Memphis, which is a fun place to go to.

If you were to move here, I would be happy to have you, as I love my fruitflies.      :-*

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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #41 on: August 25, 2007, 08:01:26 PM »
Queen, whatever you do, get a southern accent. I will do ANYTHING for a southern accent. ANYTHING.

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Anything? Now don't tempt me like that? When I lived in Florida, I was picking up the accent and slang. Like wash house= laundry mat....
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #42 on: August 25, 2007, 08:12:35 PM »
You all have given me a lot to think about. If you don't mind having company, I may have to pay a few of you a visit. That will be a task in itself. This is not something that is happening very soon, I would say in about 2 years, so that would give me time to make a ROAD TRIP!!!!!! Oh wait. My son just came in and he wants to move before he graduates but wants to be somewhere close to a black college....Sad to say but I don't know where any black colleges is...Then again, say 2 years....
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« Reply #43 on: August 25, 2007, 08:39:29 PM »
My son just came in and he wants to move before he graduates but wants to be somewhere close to a black college....

Well, then it's settled!  Queen Akasha and son are moving to Austin, Texas! We have the requisite university, and even when it's freezing, it's always "green" somewhere in this town. I must admit, though, I don't know anything about the SSIS/SDI?ADAP issues here in Texas, but I will also admit that in 1995 I had to seek assistance and it was fairly easy to get it.  Being the state capitol, the only liberal county in the state, and having several universities and colleges here, there is an abundance of social workers who are young and eager to do their jobs. We have a great ASO, a great clinic and lots of opportunities.

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« Reply #44 on: August 25, 2007, 09:02:12 PM »
Thanks for the link, I will let my son check it out. Wondering about the assistance still being easy, that was 10 years ago. The assistance here has changed quite a bit, the purse strings got tighter.
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« Reply #45 on: August 25, 2007, 11:35:28 PM »
My Dear Queen,

I have moved so many times in my life, I don't really remember where home is/was or how to get there.  The bottom line is, "Adventure in Moving" is a marketing slogan for the UHAUL truck rental company.  I rented a truck from that company just the other day to move Ms. Seabreeze.  The smallest truck they had was $36.95 per day... Plus 86 cents per mile and when the truck was returned... There was a charge of $36.00 for 1 gallon of fuel to bring the guage back to it's original marker.  There were two movers those two days.  Myself and Marie (the landlady).  We spent the day packing and the next day moving her stuff.  No one would help and Marie is stuck with the two dogs and I am stuck with the two cats.  We are both still sick but are planning on having a dinner for two at The Inn at the Tides in Bodega bay.

My first move since AIDS was 7 years ago last month.  I left an abusive relationship in Los Angeles for a free house in a town on Clearlake.  When living with HIV, there are many things top check out before you start looking for a new city/town.  The first is the quality of medical care in the new community.  When I left L.A., I could easily run two miles every day and 4 years later in Kelseyville, my PN was so painful, I could barely walk.  There was only 1 healthcare provider in Lake and Mendocino county which would care for people with HIV.  They billed out Medicare and Medi-Cal every month, my files were signed out by a doctor, whom I never actually met in 4 years.

The next area which needs to be reviewed is the support network.  There is a HOPWA grant in the approximate amount of $2000.00 for move-in costs.  That was in Los Angeles but, Los Angeles is a Title I EMA.  Kelseyville is in the same state but is a Title II EMA and such funding support is NOT available.  They will offer to pay a utility bill once each year IF the state budget is approved in time because in a Title I EMA federal funding goes directly to the organization offering support programs.  In Title II, federal funding goes to the state first and then to the ASO.

Sonoma County with it's Title I system of care services went to sleep on the numbers and lost everything except the jobs of the people who live HIV (by the time clock).  We (people living with HIV) lose most of our needed services but, there are still jobs for those working for the county.  You should see them in the Commission on AIDS meetings.  They could convince the casual onlooker that they really care.

If you should decide on moving to a community which is far away from your current home, healthcare network, your family and friends... Check the ASO finder on the front page of the AIDSMEDS site.  From there you can contact the ASO in your area of choice and find all of the available services.  Once you decide upon a community, the next step is locating available/affordable housing... www.craigslist.com can provide you with rental listings at no cost.  Have the best day
Michael
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Re: Moving Up then Out....
« Reply #46 on: August 26, 2007, 02:27:50 AM »
Michael~~

Finding a good doctors is a major concern to me too. There are a lot of things I am trying to weigh in on. For now I am on the list for hopwa, I'm number 11 on the hit parade, so not sure of how long a wait that will be. I got on the list thru the receptionist at the ASO because my case manager was on vacation but she called to let me know that she knew I was on the list. How nice? And that means what exactly? She was suppose to be looking into if it is ok for my room mate to be living with me, I don't see where that would be a problem because when I was on it before my nephew was living with me. But then things change and how things have been going for me lately, I am a bit pessimistic. And trust I don't like feeling this way which is stressed at the moment.
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« Reply #47 on: August 26, 2007, 06:13:24 PM »
I was put on a 2 year waiting list to get on the waithing list for HUD (Section 8 assistance) in 1996.  By the end of those 2 years and 3 housing units later... I was approved but my house did not qualify.  The local housing authority did not see the humor in a man living alone in a 3 bedroom beach house in Belmont Shores.   ;D ;D ;D.  I did not want to move again so room mates were found and I withdrew from the Section 8 program.

One of them made a statement one fine afternoon like, "I don't have to pay rent, you have AIDS and if it wasn't for me... You would be in a Hospice".  That very afternoon, I was in the ER again for fractured ribs, after being pushed down a flight of stairs.  Do we enjoy horror films?  I have lived them...  We have to be care who (if anyone) we live with.

On the upside... when choosing a new state, Medical Marijuana has been legal in California since 1996 and received more votes that President Clinton in that election.  MMJ is also legal in Washington, Oregon and Arizona.  I believe it is expected to be legalized in New Mexico.  It is kinda cool to have a plastic card on your person, issued by the State Dept of Health and registered in your county to sit back, relax and let your troubles go up in smoke.  ;D ;D ;D  Have the best day
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« Reply #48 on: August 26, 2007, 06:40:04 PM »

On the upside... when choosing a new state, Medical Marijuana has been legal in California since 1996 and received more votes that President Clinton in that election.  MMJ is also legal in Washington, Oregon and Arizona.  I believe it is expected to be legalized in New Mexico.  It is kinda cool to have a plastic card on your person, issued by the State Dept of Health and registered in your county to sit back, relax and let your troubles go up in smoke. 

I think we've now narrowed Queen's potential relocation states down to a more realistic list.
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« Reply #49 on: August 26, 2007, 07:37:40 PM »
Hey Queen-
  Section 8 can be a long wait.  When I finally got on it was when I wrote to my senator (Evan Bayh) and his office stepped in.  Then it was like instant. 
  Hey Michael, I was pushed down a flight of stairs also!  Wonder if it was the same guy.
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