Main Forums > Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors


(1/2) > >>

I feel really crap at the moment. Have just reached 216lbs, bigger than I was even when 9 months gone. YES I know its the meds,lifestyle and some blood sugar problems but its got me so depressed its beginning to rule my life. I know it shouldnt, my bf still thinks I'm sexy, (almost makes it worse because my libido is ZERO), and I've fought worse with the virus these last why cant I deal with this?
I'm a tall girl at 6'2, but however much I'm reassured, I just see a fat lump when I look in the mirror. Yes, having HIV has rocked my self belief/worth, and yes, can intellectualise it all, but just dont know where this is all coming from. I've tried talking to a mental health professional, but I seem to have all the answers...maybe not the right question? I'm an intelligent woman, who has managed just about to at least live side to side with HIV and just snarl at it occasionally...this makes me feel so TRAPPED...I cant get away from my own body after all! Saying that, the virus doesnt make me feel the same, (which makes me feel guilty/messed up/wrongly proritised)
Just needed to get that off my chest,and if anyones got any ideas......


You mention your intimate partner and your body, but nothing about two things I believe make a world of difference with our self-image and overall attitudes:  physical activity and social engagement.  Since soon after accepting my status almost ten years ago, I have kept up a regular exercise routine and a variety of community activities as part of my efforts to feel positive about my body and to elevate my mood.  I highly recommend a variety of regular exercise for HIVers as both physical stimulus and a natural means of affecting an "up" brain chemistry, while being working towards common goals with other people will focus your mind on something other than self-critique, build new friendships, and give you yet more things to feel good about in the long run.


The pathetic thing is I KNOW this advice works (thanks so much) but its a vicious circle ..feel fat, stay home, go out, take quickest route back. I'm helpless, in thrall. Have found out today I'm diabetic (MOSTLY down to meds), which explains a bit, but think if I'm honest I've got more and more insular and lazy and use the virus as an excuse...know its not right, will sort my head out eventually, but just SO sick of the 'value added extras' this thing throws at me. I guess what I'm saying is that I've just had ENOUGH  right now. Not suicidal, just drained of everry ounce of resistance


Mark is right. What about a daily brisk walk for a mile with a friend? or an hiv+ person maybe?

Milker (who loves tigger because she was his first PM and she rocks :D)

/edited to add: sorry I just realized I posted in LTS, didn't see it last night sorry/

Please note extract from "Rules".

"We are not excluding anyone from participating here, but we do ask that you be mindful of the special needs for which this particular Forum has been established."

That said,

Tigger, as you have so rightly said,, you do have all the answers, and yes I belive that you are asking the correct questions,, but the answers you get to those questins will fluctuate with your mood at the time of asking. Maybe you are asking a pretty straight forward question to which you do have the simple correct answer, but it may just be that your mind is slightly clouded with other stuff you have going on that is not directly related to the question asked.

You know I will always be here for you hun to chat for england at what ever un-godly time it is,,I think it does us both good, and as you know my thoughts may not be what yo want to hear,, but you know tah tey are said with a passion that I truely believe.

As I have said before babes,, yo just need to take a step back and focus on one issue at a time,, but as we both know , you have so much going on,, thats not always easy to do,, so just take it slowly babes, one day at a time,, one issue at a time, and together (you, me and ALL of your other great mates of here) we will get through this.

A poem for a bloody good friend.

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only talk to you and comfort you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only care for you and be your friend.

Catch you soon babes,,



[0] Message Index

[#] Next page

Go to full version