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Author Topic: Relationship Needs To Be Over  (Read 3996 times)

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Offline atxpozguy

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Relationship Needs To Be Over
« on: June 29, 2007, 02:48:37 AM »
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It's difficult for me to have to tell my partner of 6 years it's time for him to find another place to live. How do tell a guy that I still love he must move out of my house. I have already made up my mind I am going to tell him, mainly because he is not upholding his agreed financial part of our relationship for one, I have to admit, on the amount money I receive from SSDI having to support two people is difficult, it wouldn't be if he would pay his agreed share of the utilities, which he has not be doing the last three months. >:(

Even my close friends and parents want me to kick him out, I guess I could send him a text message, but I haven't decided what to tell him. I am sure his mother is unaware that her 26 year old son, instead going the bathroom to pee, he urinates in a 3 liter empty bottle and stores them in his instead throwing them in the trash. ::)

I am enhanced poz and he claims he is negative, yet before I met him 6 years ago, he had poz boyfriend that wear no condom on him.  :o

Any suggestions, :-\
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #1 on: June 29, 2007, 03:05:03 AM »
I am sure his mother is unaware that her 26 year old son, instead going the bathroom to pee, he urinates in a 3 liter empty bottle and stores them in his instead throwing them in the trash.

Dear Enhanced Poz,

Just boot his freeloading arse into the street. He hordes his piss in a three litre bottle. It shouldn't be difficult.

MtD

Offline Bucko

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #2 on: June 29, 2007, 03:11:36 AM »
TxPozzie-

Breakups are never easy, but a firm, insistent push out the door followed by his collection of urine would seem clear and loud enough to me.

Brent
(Who has recent experience in such matters)
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Offline camille07

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #3 on: June 29, 2007, 03:56:47 PM »
It's pretty clear that you need to ditch this guy.

Perhaps you should put post-it-notes all over his collection of urine.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #4 on: June 29, 2007, 04:09:39 PM »
It's pretty clear that you need to ditch this guy.

Perhaps you should put post-it-notes all over his collection of urine.

And I'll add, set them outside with his cloths. He'll get the message.

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #5 on: June 29, 2007, 04:18:56 PM »
I used to know an odd individual who collected urine, though it was other guy's urine.  That alone should be grounds for ejection -- how long has this been going on?
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Offline egello

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #6 on: June 29, 2007, 04:26:30 PM »
how did u deal with him for the past 6 years anywasy?
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Offline dtwpuck

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #7 on: June 29, 2007, 04:56:33 PM »
Did we date the same guy?
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #8 on: June 29, 2007, 06:58:42 PM »
This 26 year old was your "houseboy" before he was your partner, yes?

MtD

Offline Carolann

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #9 on: July 01, 2007, 01:38:53 PM »
Hes sounds like a real winner. One of my clients liked to store his urine. He was later diagnosed as schiz. with doomsday syndrome. He didn\'t want anyone to steal his essences that were contained in his urine. His roommates were just glad he was not storing poo. Your guy just seems to be lazy, but how lazy can you be not to go to the bathroom in the bathroom? I don\'t know. Looks like you are doing the right thing if you go through with it. Responsibility means covering your finances, something many people now a days are forgetting. Hope you are able to boot his ass out.

Good luck,

CA

Offline StacheBC

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #10 on: July 01, 2007, 08:52:56 PM »
It doesn't sound like you just woke up one morning and changed your mind about the relationship, it sounds like something you thought through, like you have already made the decision.
Love or no love, sit him down tell him it's over in a direct way, no need to say "if you were more...", "if only I could...", "if...". At this point there are no IFs, it can make the conversation sometimes go in a tangent. The point you make clear is that the relationship isn't working for you and you've decided that you have to move on, therefor he must move out as well.
Depending on the situation give him a set date he must move out, unless you feel that he isn't stable enough to allow him to stay a bit more. If you share the same bedroom and he needs some time to make other arrangement (within the set time he has to move out), start sleeping in different rooms... or he can sleep on the sofa, if you don't have a spare bedroom.
No matter how you slice it, if you've been together for 6 years, its going to be hard for your. You'll have your ups and downs. You might want to write down on a piece of paper at least 3 reasons why you need to terminate this relationship, if you find yourself getting to a point where you're reconsidering, take the piece of paper out of wallet and remind yourself why you took this decision.

Take care of yourself,
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Offline atxpozguy

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #11 on: July 08, 2007, 02:34:11 AM »
I have already told him in a phone call inquiring about the method he was sending me the $100 he owed.  ;)

After he told me he was not sending anything, I told him he needs to find another place to live, because you can no longer stay here with your urine collection, 3 dogs that are never taken outside and the stealing of my meds, that for the past year you claimed I was losing my mind about my meds missing.

He is toast...
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #12 on: July 08, 2007, 02:58:30 AM »
Good for you....You can do bad by yourself, you don't need help to fuck up...You are better than me, I would drop the pooches, piss and his clothes at his Ma Dukes....
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Offline Dachshund

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #13 on: July 08, 2007, 09:12:52 AM »
....like sand through the hourglass, so are the gays of our lives.






edited for minute typo
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Offline david25luvit

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #14 on: July 08, 2007, 09:29:09 AM »
Pat....

              You didn't mention whether or not your boyfriend has a job or not.  Is he gainfully employed?  And what reason does he give for not
honoring his agreement?  Irregardless of what anybody else thinks...What do you think?  Do you feel like he's taking advantage of you?  If so..
if you believe he has violated the agreement...then its up to you to face him down and let him know how you feel.  Text messaging is a coward's
way out.  If you want others to respect you ...you must first respect yourself.  Take him aside, sit him down and explain to him the problems his
lack of assistance has created and see if there's a solution.  If not he needs to go and as soon as physically possible.  

               Despite the financial hardship he has created...your heart must be breaking if you love the guy?  I know your head says one thing and
your heart says another but at some point you must reconcile the two.  My advice....confront him and talk about it.   If he cares about you he'll
do whatever is possible to help out....if not he needs to GO and GO QUICKLY.  My two cents worth anyway............
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Offline allopathicholistic

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #15 on: July 08, 2007, 10:07:35 AM »
I have already told him in a phone call inquiring about the method he was sending me the $100 he owed.  ;)

After he told me he was not sending anything, I told him he needs to find another place to live, because you can no longer stay here with your urine collection, 3 dogs that are never taken outside and the stealing of my meds, that for the past year you claimed I was losing my mind about my meds missing.

He is toast...

toast and an animal abuser:o  >:( dogs need to go outside!!!  >:(

Offline Dachshund

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #16 on: July 08, 2007, 10:13:02 AM »
Kick him to the curb and be done with it...anything less will just continue the drama.

Offline Carolann

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #17 on: July 08, 2007, 02:44:25 PM »
Yep, there are just too many red flags. Like the faux Brit hag says. Respect yourself.


CA

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #18 on: July 09, 2007, 01:09:44 PM »
the sooner you get it over with the better ,   piss hording , i don't under stand
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Offline atxpozguy

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #19 on: August 05, 2007, 03:54:03 PM »
Well, he finally arrived last night, of course, I was in bed watching tv. There was really no argument, he understand why he can't stay here anymore and already has new place to stay, at his mother's old house near his job. He already made a couple of trips backinforth moving his things and should have everything moved by Tuesday. I think he got the point after asking me for a hung when he walked in the door that I didn't give him. I still love him, but not the type of love during the first 2 years of our relationship. I wish him well and will always be his friend.
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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #20 on: August 05, 2007, 07:17:20 PM »
I'd be kicking his ass to the curb with the pee right behind him.  Why does someone keep their piss?  Sooner the better. 
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #21 on: August 05, 2007, 11:53:18 PM »
Good, Let the doorknob hit him where the good Lord split him. It is ok to be a friend but I think you have done enough. Let him be a friend for a change.
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Offline Oceanbeach

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Re: Relationship Needs To Be Over
« Reply #22 on: August 06, 2007, 02:09:55 AM »
Schweetheart,

I have been there, not with a "partner" but with the person who moved in right after I was sent home from the hospital.  They get violent next...  May I suggest that you get a restraining order, change the locks on your house and put everything outside which does no belong to you.  Have the best day
Michael

 


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