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Offline sos911

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help,opinions please
« on: July 28, 2007, 10:09:42 PM »
do i need tested,i was drunk and had protected sex with a high risk girl(multiple partners,drug use,unsure if she ever used needles)she was on her period and blood got on me.as far i remember the condom seemed fine when i was finished.i got sick 6 days later (sore throat white bumps in back of throat,major headache,no fever,no rash)this was a one time thing and i never have casual sex.i will never see this girl again so i cant find out her status.do i need  a test before i have sex again? thank you guys. i know your probably sick of questions like this but i'm pretty freaked out cuz i never get sick and i got sick 6 days later.can ars happen that fast?

Offline RapidRod

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2007, 10:21:55 PM »
You had protected sex and you were protected. You do not need to test. Keep using the condoms.

Offline sos911

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2007, 10:40:21 PM »
so you think getting sick was just a cold or virus.i never get sick and that and the sight of blood is what really freaked me out.i am married and dont wanna infect my wife should i wait for a test?

Offline RapidRod

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #3 on: July 28, 2007, 10:42:21 PM »
You did not have a risk.

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2007, 10:46:17 PM »
Hi

As Rod has alrady said you were not at risk..protected sex is just that ..PROTECTED.

Please check out Welcome Thread and follow the links.

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Offline sos911

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2007, 10:49:32 PM »
thank you guys,if the condom broke would i have definatly known it? sorry for the dumb questions just not very experienced.and if i did not have a risk i'm thinking i might need help getting over this obsession of me being infected ,its all i think about day and night.i sweat and get sick to  my stomach at least 3 times a days

Offline RapidRod

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2007, 11:00:48 PM »
Yes you would have known if it failed. You would have looked like you had a grass skirt on your penis.

Offline sos911

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2007, 11:05:51 PM »
so if you were me you'd feel perfectly fine having unprotected sex now?

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #8 on: July 29, 2007, 03:32:51 AM »
so if you were me you'd feel perfectly fine having unprotected sex now?

Whoa down there Champion! That's not what Rod said.

What the Rodman told you was that your condom didn't fail and that as a result you don't need to test. A view endorsed by Moderator Jan and myself. You don't need to test as a result of this incident.

But you do need to use in date, latex condoms with water based lubricant whenever you have anal or vaginal sex in the future if you wish to avoid potential HIV infection. Condoms so used will also protect you and your partners against a number of other sexually transmissible infections.

You should take the time to read our Welcome Thread as Jan advised you.

MtD

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #9 on: July 29, 2007, 05:31:26 AM »
so if you were me you'd feel perfectly fine having unprotected sex now?

As my illustrious partner Matty has told you (along with everybody else) You were never at risk given the scenario you propose, SOS.

There is a world of difference between protected and unprotected sex. Had you had unprotected sex (for shits & giggles), we would tell you to get tested at 13 weeks. This has nothing to do with the partner you (by admission) found suitable for your evening of hedonism. Any unprotected act requires testing at the appropriate time.

But  P R O T E C T E D   means just that...this is a no-risk encounter. Please leave your sordid guilt-trip out of out assessment.

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #10 on: July 29, 2007, 05:51:41 AM »
sos,

You need to know that PEOPLE are not high-risk, ACTIONS ARE! Unprotected intercourse is risky no matter what you think you know about a person, unless you are in a monogamous relationship with them and have tested TOGETHER.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

If you have EVER had unprotected intercourse with a person you can't be 101% sure of their hiv status, you need to get yourself tested. The only way to be sure of a person's status is to have tested together with them.

As far as the incident you bring to us goes, you don't need to test over it specifically as protected intercourse does not carry a risk for hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and CONSISTENTLY, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Offline sos911

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2007, 10:57:49 AM »
sorry,i didnt make myself clear.i have a wife of 5 years in which we always have unprotected sex.would you guys say it was safe to return to that without a test?and i got sick 1 week after he exposure,just a coincidince? i have avoided my wife and she is now thinking something is wrong because we havent had sex in 2 weeks?i feel guilty because if i gave her hiv i'd wanna kill myself.i made a mistake i'll never make again.so shoyld i abstain from sex with her til 13 weeks or do you guys think i'm ok?

Offline RapidRod

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #12 on: July 29, 2007, 11:07:04 AM »
You can stop with the drama of killing yourself. You did not have a risk for HIV. Your illness has nothing to do with what you did. I see no reason what so ever from abstaining from sex with her. The guilt you have, you'll have to come to grips with that yourself. We won't be able to help you with it.

Offline sos911

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« Reply #13 on: July 29, 2007, 11:19:30 AM »
i wasnt saying i wanna kill myself,i could live perfectly fine with the disease,i'm more concerned with giving it to her.i just thought i could get some sound advice from people who are more educated on the subject then i am myself.sorry if i pissed anyone off,just looking for some answers


thanks

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #14 on: July 29, 2007, 11:20:29 AM »
Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. From what you have reported there is no reason to assume the one you were using didn't do the job.

Guilt is a whole other matter. You're a dog like the rest of us guys and you went straying. You can't undo that. Lugging around guilt is not a love tribute to your wife. It does nothing good so take a breath, let it go and get on with your life.

Cheers,  
Andy Velez

Offline sos911

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« Reply #15 on: July 29, 2007, 11:28:59 AM »
thanks, this board have been a major help to me.the guilt is now gone,along with my symptoms,except a minor sore throat.the only scarry part of the situation is i was extremely drunk at the time which makes me second guess if i used the condom correctly.is 6 days to soon for ars?i will look forward to any of your answers and then will stop bothering you guys becuase i feel i'm annoying you.

thanks

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« Reply #16 on: July 29, 2007, 03:30:23 PM »
Yes, six days is too soon for ARS.

The wrong side of the condom? Puleeeeeeeeez! Tell your mind to give it a rest. It would have been more trouble to get it on that way than the right way. And even in the beyond unlikely scenario that you got it on inside out your dingus would still have been covered.

Give it up and get on with your life. You're condemned to live. 
Andy Velez

Offline sos911

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« Reply #17 on: July 29, 2007, 06:07:06 PM »
andy your a cool guy,thanks for the feedback.just kinda scary when your drunk and have a hazzy memory of what really went down.the condom just went on real easy and i'm usually a dumbshit when it comes to getting one on.but i do remember it being on after so i guess i'm ok.thanks again

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« Reply #18 on: July 29, 2007, 06:11:04 PM »
sos,

You don't have to be a dumbshit - click on and read the three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them with confidence.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #19 on: July 29, 2007, 06:11:16 PM »
Glad you found the exchange to be helpful.

In the future avoid mixing excessive drinking and casual sex. It's a dangerous combo.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline sos911

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Re: help,opinions please
« Reply #20 on: July 29, 2007, 06:15:42 PM »
maybe i just got lucky getting that one on huh?ann thanks for the info but it is too late for the one real time i needed it

 


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