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Author Topic: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.  (Read 1865 times)

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Offline Mouse

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What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« on: July 16, 2007, 04:14:16 PM »
I need to rant about this a second.

So my ex boyfriend calls me to catch up and stuff, tells me about this girl he's been seeing (jASFKJD BISEXUAL BOYS AHH) and asks me what I've been doing and I mention some of the guys I've been seeing and stuff. And he goes on this rant to me about how I need to stop sleeping around with people and how I'm going to get in trouble/someone's going to hurt me, etc. What the fuck.

ANd then I mentioned how things are going at this group we go to and how one of the people that go were banned and were trying to rally up all the people in the group to go against the facilitators because she's all peeved about being banned and he just goes, "Sounds like something you would do." WHICH WAS JUST COMPLETELY FUCKING OUT OF NOWHERE AND UNCALLED FOR.

I don't get why EVERY SINGLE TIME he calls me he has to say fucked up things to me now. I spoke to him a week ago and he had found out I'd kind of. Done stuff with this guy I liked, and he asked about it, and I said that i liked the guy but I was angry cause when I did stuff with him it wasn't reciprocated and my ex goes, "... you have it coming."

GOD. He's being such a bitter little twit. I'm so glad I broke up with him. :[

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2007, 04:18:41 PM »
Indeed, he does sound quite bitter.
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Offline thunter34

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2007, 04:53:29 PM »
Your ex is a trans bisexual?


God, I feel so vanilla just being plain old gay.
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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2007, 05:51:49 PM »
Why even bother talking to him? If all he does is snipe at you. Do you care if he says anything to the person you was getting all up close and personal with? If so, tell the ex to mind his own goddamn business and stay the hell out of yours... >:(
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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #4 on: July 16, 2007, 06:20:52 PM »
God, I feel so vanilla just being plain old gay.

You know it, pervert.

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #5 on: July 16, 2007, 06:24:02 PM »
Hi mouse

Sounds to me that there is still a bit of jealousy hanging around on his part, I'd stop taking his calls for a while and see what happens.

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #6 on: July 16, 2007, 08:55:19 PM »
OK... I'm going to advise you to do something completely immature and mean... but your ex sounds like one of those types who deserves it.

There are different types of people in this world... the ones who are nice and act like it... the ones who are nice but kind of hide it... the misanthropic ones who are sort of charming... the misanthropic ones who own it... the bitchy ones who own it... and the passive-aggressive fucktards.

The only way to get rid of the passive-aggressive fucktard is to be aggressive-aggressive with them.  Not physically, but emotionally.

So, what you have to do is insult them but not overtly.  You have to be ironically sweet back to them while spewing venom at the same time that has just a hint of, "bitch, I know all your weaknesses, so you might as well shut the hell up before I make you cry."

This takes some practice, but here's an example.

Let's say your ex says to you... "sounds like something you would do."

You say, as ebulliently and pointedly as possible something like this, "You are so right... when you knew me, I probably would have done something like that... but God... ever since we've broken up... I've just grown so much as a person!  I've really moved beyond a lot of self-destructive and pointless behaviors that were getting me nowhere.  I just feel like this... I don't know... sort of like this huge weight is lifted from my shoulders!"  Then, without missing a beat... you say, in a slightly darker tone "You know... I'd really, really love to go over all of this with you... but I'm not sure that there's anything further that I could learn from our relationship... aren't you bored going over this by now?"

You've just managed to insult your victim without actually actively insulting them... so they can't bitch to your friends.

Remember... tone and timing is key!

I really hate people like that... I've dated a few.  They're called "psychic vampires," and since they couldn't suck you dry when dating you, they're going to try now that you're not dating... except you're not having sex with them... so you might as well beat up on them until they leave you alone.

Nothing good can come from still hanging out with people like that... they thrive off making the cool interesting people (like yourself) go into a shame spiral.  Smack 'em back. 

There's time to learn how to handle things gracefully later.  You're dealing with an insufferable teenager.  Those can only learn from pain. 
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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #7 on: July 16, 2007, 09:01:11 PM »
He sounds not only bitter, but evil as well.  As we speak, I'm sending negative energy his way.  Just stay away from him, sweetie.
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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #8 on: July 16, 2007, 09:29:46 PM »
Your ex sounds very mean-spirited.  Why do you stay in touch with him?
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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #9 on: July 16, 2007, 11:04:41 PM »
LOL at
There are different types of people in this world... the ones who are nice and act like it... the ones who are nice but kind of hide it... the misanthropic ones who are sort of charming... the misanthropic ones who own it... the bitchy ones who own it... and the passive-aggressive fucktards.

LOL at "fucktard"  I'm gonna start using that one along with "stupid cunt" one of my personal faves......

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Offline Mouse

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #10 on: July 17, 2007, 12:02:08 AM »
I feel like since we've broken up he's decided to not give a flying fuck about how I feel about shit, when I was really, really careful about the entire situation when I broke up with him because I was afraid of hurting his feelings.

I don't want to get into a bitchfight with him, really. That's not what I'm looking to do. Everytime I bring up to him that he's said something rude, he goes, "LULLULZ I didn' tmean it like that." When his tone of voice when he actually said it was totally 'meaning it'. It's just not worth getting into a real fight with him about because he's the kind of person that doesn't listen to anyone.

e_e

I know he's jealous and he's bitter and shit, and part of me feels bad because I know he's like that because I broke up with him and I must've hurt his feelings by doing that, but seriously, there are ways to cope with that and some are more grown up than others.

While we were dating he was so doting and like. Sweet with me and careful and shit and now that we've broken up he's like an entirely different person. It's fucked up and kind of upsetting. The entire reason I broke up with him when I did and how I did was because I was hoping we'd be able to maintain a friendship.

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #11 on: July 17, 2007, 05:15:47 AM »
What happened to not answering his calls?

Or don't we do that these days.


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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #12 on: July 17, 2007, 06:37:20 AM »
 

"and I must've hurt his feelings by doing that"


Mighty mouse you don't need our relationship advice, you already know the appropriate, polite things to do.

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Re: What the hellllll? Ex boyfriends suuuck.
« Reply #13 on: July 17, 2007, 06:44:25 AM »
Sometimes it is necessary to walk away from such a situation.  I've found that splitting up with somebody that you feel guilty as the person responsible and therefore, need to make things better.  But that can make things worse, as you're the one who he's taking it on.

He needs to get over it and he will do in time.  I think you both need some space.  If a friendship develops, great.  If not, then rack it up to experience.

Good luck


 


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