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Offline zachysmom

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Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« on: July 02, 2007, 10:34:47 AM »
Hi there,
First off, let me say  I am so glad there is this forum, because when I was first diagnosed back in 1995, let's say it was a man's world in HIV.
I have since found a great man to settle down with, and 2 1/2 years ago had a baby. Who I am very proud to say is healthy, vibrant,energetic,and now as a toddler driving me crazy. He has also been declared negative, thanks to the wonderful meds available now.
I just wanted to put the word out on this forum, that if anyone is considering having a baby, feel free to ask me any questions, since I've been there done that kind of thing.
Good luck to all you.
Nicole
From Russia with love,
Nicole

Offline camille07

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #1 on: July 02, 2007, 12:30:31 PM »
I have been thinking about it a lot recently.  Is your partner negative or positive?

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2007, 02:05:28 PM »
I am glad your're thinking about it. My partner is positive as well, so it wasn't as complicated getting pregnant as it would be if your partner is negative. However a good friend of mine is positive and her husband isn't, and is in the process of getting pregnant, she has to go through a fertility clinic and program. I will post more info when I hear from her to let you know what the process is all about. But with me it wasn't a problem, and the pregnancy wasn't so bad, though it did take a toll on my body, which I feel still to this day. Once I had the baby I stopped taking the meds and my numbers just shot up, but I'm back on meds ( Truvada, Viracept) and have been doing well ( undectable and last time I had labs done 4 months ago, tcell 699) so knock on wood.
The thing is you can have a baby, and be fine, and your baby can be negative. Talk with your doctor or Ob=gyn about what you need to do to get started.
Post back let me know how you are.
Nicole
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Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #3 on: July 02, 2007, 07:27:03 PM »
I just had a baby four weeks ago. We see her ID dr tomorrow to find out the results of her test although they have all stated that she should be negative. I am positive but my partner is negative. We actually have friends at the momment that are in the same situation and got pregnant on their own and he is still negative but they were very careful to only have the condom off when he was ejaculating.
I am still taking my meds and do not think that I will go off them as I like seeing that I am undetectable with a cd4 count in the 800's and want to try to keep it that way.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #4 on: July 03, 2007, 10:18:43 AM »
Congradulations on having a baby just 4 weeks ago. Ah I remember that wonderful time, anxiety, sleeplessness, and overwhelming joy.
I am sure the baby is negative as well, but this is just the beginning of the tests. There should be 2 or 3 more tests done for the RNA of the virus, to declare the baby negative and then a antibody test at around 12-18 months, that just tests for the remaining mothers antibody. Are you administering AZT to the baby?
By the way is it a boy or girl?
I am so excited for you, this must be a wonderful time. Congrats again.
let me know what's going on.
Nicole :o
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Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #5 on: July 03, 2007, 08:25:49 PM »
I have an 11 yr old (I had  been poz 4 years b4 I got pregnant) My son is negative :} I thank God for that. I was on AZT during my pregnancy, and had an AZT drip during delivery. It was the only med available for us back then. They truly are a blessing, I do believe he saved my life :}
Where am I and why am I in this handbasket?!

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #6 on: July 04, 2007, 09:58:26 AM »
this is so encouraging u know.  i do think about having a baby when i see my sisters with their babies and i wish i had mine. but this hiv thing obivously is an obstacle.  in fact i got tested because i wanted to have a baby whether it meant being a single mom or what.  i had even started saving money to look after the baby and all and was about to find a potential father. then i got the news. 

anyway as i was saying its encouraging knowing that i may be able to have a baby if or when i find the right person to get pregnant by. but its so complicated.. the relationship part of it, i'm REALLY REALLY bad at relationships.  anyway congrats to all the mothers and i wish you all the best!!

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« Reply #7 on: July 04, 2007, 10:42:43 AM »
Good for you in saving up for it, it's more than I did. One day it will be a reality for you as well, maybe a relationship isn't needed? If you can afford on your own, why not? You have us women here to support you. That you can count on.
 Nicole
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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #8 on: July 04, 2007, 04:00:13 PM »
Her name is Eden and she is giving us a run for our money! She had her second test yesterday and so far she is showing undetectable. We are administering the AZT to her though that is difficult keeping a schedule with her sleep patterns at the momment.
FKy I believe she saved my life also because I would have never thought to get a HIV test until it was probably too late!

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #9 on: July 05, 2007, 01:18:52 AM »
Wow, congrats to all the mommy's on here. I do hope to have a healthy neg child one day as well.
I am poz, my partner is neg. We are still not married as of yet, but that still hasnt stopped my mom asking to me to have a baby now. I am 33 1/2 and not marrried yet, but been with my parter for years so I know where she is coming from. I am much healthier then I was almost 2 1/2 years ago and my cd4 keeps on going up. My mom just really wants to be a grandma BAD! I want one too I guess. My whole issue right now is my weight. I mean I hate what the meds did to my self esteem, isnt being pregnant going to make me feel worse? I mean yes, I will get bigger right? The good thing about being pregnant, is that you are pregnant! LOL yuor supposed to get bigger...but what if your not happy with what you look like now? Did any have post partum depression? I have depression and I sometimes I am afraid to have a baby cause of the depression part.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, does anyone understand where I am coming from? Plus my partner would prolly want to get married first but who knows when that is going to happen. I dont want to be a mother at 40

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #10 on: July 05, 2007, 10:01:43 AM »
It's all good in all aspects. Don't have a baby because you feel pressure to have one from your mother. She is the typical mother though. But for what's it's worth, My mother had me when  she was 38, so no worries about age.
I do think you should talk with your partner about marriage and/or a baby. I think marriagae might be  alittle more palettable at first.
 As far as depression, well I had alittle bit of it, it was more anxiety about the whole thing, " I am a mother now, and I'm positive what am I going to do?" kindof thing My body did take a beating as a result of the pregnancy and c-section, it's just something i'm still working out and on. But it works out, just because you are positve doesn't mean you have to live your life in a box, or how you think society wants you to live. You are intitled to a happy life, and if that envolves a baby, well go for it.
We women have been through enough as is, and the HIV has made it that more complicated.
Talk with your doctor about your options. go from there.
From Russia with love,
Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #11 on: August 02, 2007, 03:37:25 PM »
hI , I was pregnent 2 month ago and had a natural abortion on week9, Now I am trying again.. I am positive and my husband is negative.
Is there a high risk for an abortion for hiv positive?
Also , I am taking viread+kaletra and videx and I read the ddi is not so recomended... my dr. never mentioned it can cause any dammage... do u happen to have any idea?

Offline zachysmom

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #12 on: August 02, 2007, 09:37:54 PM »
Hello,
I don't think an abortion is harmful to you, by way of being positive. I had one done when I was 19, because of a bad relationship. I am not against abortion, but it should not be used as a form of birth control, as well as having to many can be harmful to your health.
As far as the meds, you should talk with your doctor, about considering seriously having a baby. I'm not sure what cateragory those meds are in, if they are safe to take or not. I was on Viracept and was assured there would be not ill sideeffects to my baby, during pregnancy and after.

You should also talk with your GYNO as well as your ID doc, and have them in communication at all times during your pregancy, it is very important.

please let us know what your decision is and out come,
looking forward to hearing from you again,
Nicole
From Russia with love,
Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #13 on: August 03, 2007, 07:57:07 AM »
Nic,

I think she means is there a higher risk for a miscarriage when you'r poz. It's the same word for misscarriage and abortion in mine and Panda's native language. I would like to know too, and didn't find out. also considering age: is there a higher risk for miscarriage in your 30s and is it higher when you're poz?

Panda,

Regarding Viread, my doctors told me the effects on the fetus are unknown and that before trying to get pregnant I should switch the viread+epivir to combivir (= epivir+ azt). I can continue to take my viramune with the combivir. I don't know if videx is equivalent to viramune or not, and so don't know if it's safe, just know about the viread. Information about the safety in pregnancy is usually included in the borchure of the medicine as well.

Good luck with it,


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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #14 on: August 03, 2007, 11:11:33 PM »
Oh, sorry I was thinking about the other.
I have to say I don't know if the risk is higher due to HIV. I certainly haven't seen anything published about it, and my doc has never mentioned it as a possiblity.

I would have to say, if you exercise and eat right, and take your meds ( if you are on meds), then your reproductive system should be functioning normally, and your risks are about that of someone who is negative. Long winded sentence, but  I hope you understand what I'm saying. As far as being in your 30's, I don't think it's a real risk, until maybe you hit 35, since at that age, women do find it harder to conceive a child, but I assume it is because most women have they're biological clocks ticking at that age, and may be more concious of the hardship to conceive.
Getting pregant is actually very hard, the odds are against it naturally.... that's why babies are miracles.

Good luck, sorry again
Nicole
From Russia with love,
Nicole

Offline HealthyMomma

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #15 on: August 10, 2007, 10:08:38 PM »
Hi! I have been poz 4 years and had a healthy girl a year and half ago who is negative. I plan on having another one in a couple years.

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« Reply #16 on: August 10, 2007, 10:14:05 PM »
Right arm  ;D Healthy Mamma,
Just because your Positive doesn't mean you can't have a normal life, and enjoy the best part of it, which is having a baby....
good luck
NIcole
From Russia with love,
Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #17 on: August 26, 2007, 07:37:54 PM »
Hello all  :)  I just found this forum and wanted to add my little 2cents, LOL.  I am currently 4 months pregnant with my 5th child,  (I know the count is getting high), and aside from the usual pregnancy symptoms all is well.  I have been positive for 14 years now and this will be my 4th child since being positive.  I have all girls ages 16, 13 and twins that are 9.  My last 3 are all negative.  I am definitely blessed (hence the name) !!! I have to agree with the earlier posts that life does not end just because we are living with this.  Love is not out of our reaches either.  With my 13 year old I was taking AZT and with my twins Combivir.  I will start meds for this pregnancy this week but I'm not sure what they will be yet.  I don't know if my little bit about me is of any help to anyone but I hope so and I look forward to being an active part of this forum.  ;)

Offline zachysmom

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« Reply #18 on: August 27, 2007, 10:15:06 PM »
Welcome Blessed,
I look forward to reading your posts, and getting advice, since I only have the one kid, you have an army.... ;D :o ;D

Kids are a blessing and you are truly blessed....
Later gator,
Nicole
From Russia with love,
Nicole

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #19 on: August 28, 2007, 04:16:18 PM »
your info is always welcome Blessed. l should congratulate you on your productivity, it is encouraging especially to those youngsters who wish to have kids. l have two kids myself a 14 year old and 6 year old. l was diagnosed while pregnant with my 6yr old, my labs were quite good at the time, nevertheless they put me on AZT and Combivir on my second trimester. Did well and still doing well my son is negative and full of life, the only thing that worries me at times is that he is skinny and looks small for his age.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #20 on: August 30, 2007, 02:16:51 PM »
I've had two children a girl and a boy since i was diagnosed in '97.  I feel blessed both are HIV negative and healthy. 

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #21 on: August 30, 2007, 04:30:15 PM »
It's wonderful to read and meet all these amazing women who'd had baby, and even babies! That's really encouraging.

I'm almost 34 and I really want to have one. Just chatting to a friend who's 24 and about to have one. When I was 24 I got accidentaly pregnant and it was either the guy who got me pregnant or the unclean abortion he pushed me to have which endowed me with this virus, so it is extra symbolic for me. I want it so badly, but don't think my BF is ready at the moment. We have a lot of issues regarding our future life, as we are both foreigners where we live and settling down will take a while. We'll see. I don't want to push a baby on him, nor is it something that can happen "accidently" when you're in a magnetic relationship. I can only pray that he will want it too b/c I don't want to have a baby against his will.

On a slightly different note, Panda if you're reading I wrote you earlier that my doctors in the netherlands told me to get off Viread and switch to Combivir when i would like to concieve. But I saw another doctor privately in the UK, he is a huge expert and he told me straight out that all drugs except for PPI(?)  are in fact safe. I was very surised. he even explained to me in detail that sustiva (stokrin) is actually safe, but that the doctors want to "cover their ass" from potential lawsuits. I would still be cautious, but I do trust this guy and plan to listen to him even though he is a bit more "cutting edge" than most docs out there. Just a small update.

Take care everybody.........

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #22 on: August 30, 2007, 05:28:07 PM »
I am so inspired by this thread, especially Blessed1974.  I'm 33 and my husband I are ready to have children.  Sprinkle the baby dust this way.   :)

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« Reply #23 on: August 30, 2007, 06:50:18 PM »
hi, y'all are lucky.  I got preg. in '90 and was diagnosed 2 weeks later in the ob clinic.  They proceded to demand why I didn't disclose my status- which is how I was informed.  Then I was given a date for my abortion.  I hadn't been in church for years but I wanted to talk to a preacher.  They tested my man and he was poz too.  We never blamed eachother-we each blamed our selves-in silence.  It was such a relief when at a great suppport group, we were finally able to talk about our feelings.  We put things in God's hands and hoped we'd outlive the 6 month death sentence we were given-atleast until the birth.  I took no drugs, and my husband chose not to.  AZT was the only thing available and it made him sick.  Samantha was born poz and was neg. at `15 months.  I immediately got my tuibes tied so not to risk bringing an aids baby into the world.  My husband died in '93 and so did everyone else in our original support group; sometimes 2-3 a week.  I have 1 girl friend left  from then and we stay in touch.  I remarried 2 times.  First because docs. said I'd be gone within 2 years-so I got mmarried to my husband' s best friend so he'd take care of the kids.  Then out came the good drugs so we divorced-since I was gonna live awhile.  I remarried again and lived thru pain in the but teenagers-step and my own.  And continue to do so with my 16 year old.  But I don't regret a thing and wouldn't trade her for the world.  Don't let them grow up too fast and stay close to them because even if we beat aids-people still die other ways.  So never take tomorrow for granted and never stop the hugs-God Bless, Lisa

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« Reply #24 on: August 30, 2007, 06:55:26 PM »
Hi Lisa.

What a lifestory... my eyes are teary.

Please can you clarify but what you mean with "born pos and was neg. at 15 months". You mean that the treatment worked on her? I heard that some babies are tested poz but it is not actusally true, it's a false poz, but I am not sure it's the right info.

Glad you joined us,

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« Reply #25 on: August 30, 2007, 07:06:50 PM »
Wow very encouraging stories here! Blessed....you amaze me! I have one negative child and want another one. Actually I would like a couple more, but was thinking one more because I didn't want to be greedy and have so many kids and risk them being poz. But you have given me so much hope! Thank you!  :D

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« Reply #26 on: August 30, 2007, 10:48:22 PM »
                                         hey, samantha was a false positive.  Back then they couldn't test for the virus, only the antibodies, which she had.  At 15 months babies develop their own immune systems and shed their mom's antibodies.  That is why they encourage breast feeding if you don't have the bug.  They are usually a good thing except when you are looking for the actual virus-it fooled them; hence a false positive.  There were no drugs offered to pregos because of the danger.They didn't know enough about it.  Everyone was scared of AZT at the beginning.   The original doses prescribed were actually killing people.  It was too much on the liver. Eventually they cut back on dosing but people were still not convinced and most of the people I knew who died rather quickly had refused to take it.  Still people on it died-it just wasn't enough or it came too late.  No one knows why some people died so fast on or off AZT, It's just everyone is different.  I started after Sam was born and handled it O.K.  I prayed alot.  I also got Hep B and C.  They immunized Sam but she never shed the antibodies for Hep C-she is still poz for it.  I always hated all the attention HIV was getting when I needed info on my baby's Hep problem.  I seemed I couldn't get anywhere.  I always wondered why I never heard much about Hep since it is much easier to catch than HIV and just as potentially deadly.  They tell me my liver will go probably before an opportunistic disease can get me.  Which actually it is listed as an opportunistic disease-AIDS related.  I am not handed much hope for a transplant because of the dual diagnosis-much less the cost and my husband's insurance would never go for it.  I imagine it is a worry that is under my skin-one of many-and it eats at me.  Maybe it is causing my bi-polar/manic depression-who knows?  Whatever!  One of my favorite sayings-it always seems to fit.Interferon can put a clinical depressed person into a suicidal depression.  I don't want to do that to my family-so again I pray.  Anyway I have not been able to share with anyone in so long, it feels so good that I might can help someone as well as receive encouragement listening to y'all's good (positive) experiences and how things have changed.  Looking forward to hearing more from y'all-ask anything you want.   Sammi Is waiting to get back on my space so I'll go for tonight-Later, Lisa






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« Reply #27 on: August 31, 2007, 11:57:55 PM »
Hi Girls

I am not currently pregnant but wish to have a child next year.  Can anyone tell me how the meds are given to the baby.  Is it a liquid that is given to the baby?  the reason why I am asking is because my family does not know that I am positive and hope to keep it that way.  I know being a single mom, my mother would see to it that she is helping me out as much as possible after the baby is born, which I am so grateful for her help.  But in no way to I want her to find out.

Thanks Sunseeker.


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« Reply #28 on: September 01, 2007, 12:34:14 AM »
Sun,
The medication is administered in a liquid form, which you would give your baby by mouth twice a day. I believe it needed to be refigerated as well.
It will be quite difficult to keep this a secret from your family especially your mom.
In my opion I would first work on resolving the disclosure issuse with your folks then concentrate on having a baby.

Good luck,
Nicole
From Russia with love,
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« Reply #29 on: September 01, 2007, 10:05:49 AM »
Sun, I was in the exact same situation as you. I didnt realize until the end of my pregnancy that I would have to give the baby meds...and my mom was coming to stay with me for a week! You wont be able to hide it. I tried for 2 days and finally had to sit down and just talk to her. It made things 1,000 times easier having her there to help remind me of med times and help when I was having trouble administering them. The first couple weeks you are so tired and when you do manage to get a few hours asleep you will find you have to wake up anyways to give the baby the meds on time...so then you get to wake the baby up too. Not fun!!! And its not exactly like the baby will just suck them down...they taste AWFUL!!!! My word of advice to you, would be to talk to your mother before you have a baby. It will make things SOO much easier for you! Good luck girl!  :)

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« Reply #30 on: September 02, 2007, 06:25:22 AM »
I'm so glad that the little piece of my story helped so many people!!!  As I said before I started meds and my doc put me right back on what I was taking prior to getting pregnant.  So far so good, I'm not getting sick or anything.  I'm taking Norvir, Truvada and Lexiva so I'm keeping my fingers crossed with that.  My doc since I was undetectable before taking those they hope that I'll go back to the same before the baby is born.  I still wasn't able to find out what I'm having because he or she wouldn't cooperate during the ultrasound, hopefully next time.

Just another little bit of info for Cat.  I don't know how serious you are about your baby making but you might want to try a supplement called EPO (evening primrose oil).  I'm as fertile as the day is long, LOL, but I know for a fact that the EPO does help as long as your cycle is regular.  If you google it you'll find out all the details.  GOOD LUCK :)

And Sun I agree with everyone else.  There's no way to give a baby those oral meds the way you need to when you first get home without anyone knowing that is staying with you  .  .  .

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« Reply #31 on: September 03, 2007, 08:52:00 PM »
Thank you Blessed.  Another friend of mine was just telling me about EPO this weekend.  I'm going to get a bottle tomorrow.

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« Reply #32 on: September 14, 2007, 12:05:03 PM »
Hi all , how are you ? I was trying to recover from my "misscarriage" / natural abortion I had few month ago .. I started to takeanti deepression drugs and I beleive it heps me.. We gave another try but it didn't success so I started o doing these neesels treatment ... in a chineece clinic. I read lots of article which encourage this kind of treatment and I beleive it can really help ... So please keep your fingers crossed for me !!
About my meds, my hiv dr. said this is the only combination I can take now due to ressistance I have and hoping there will be soon some new drugs I will be able to take, before we started the fertility treatment we switched the stockrin I was taking to Viramue and it ended with me having the Steven Johnson syndrom haveing me hopsitelized in ER in a very bad condition... almos passed away so I have to thank god I stay alive!!! Girls , I want to ask you if anyone of you is suffering from THE Lipo!! I have it in all shapes and ways, skinny leggs and arms ... mot ass and accumulated fat i my belly which I had it suctioned a year ago... can u please share with me how you handle it,did any one of you try any HGH tratment? I am so frustrated and my dr. promised me we'll give it a try after I'll get pregnent and give berth, this is my only hope, still I hope pur national health service will agree to pay for it. Did any one of you experinced any good body changes during the pregnancy ?

Dragonet - I have the feeling you are Israeli ... where are you staying right now ? Can we switch email address ?

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #33 on: September 24, 2007, 12:00:50 AM »
Just a couple of questions ...

1)  Is it possible for the father to be poz and still have mom and baby be negative - even without fertility clinics involved?  (Just thinking that maybe my husband has been poz longer than we thought.)

2)  If you become pregnant do you automatically have to start on meds even if your numbers are already good?

3)  Does your baby have to take meds after he/she is born?  And if so, for how long?  And do babies experience the side-effects that I've read about with the meds?

I thought I'd have to be done having kids but this sheds new light on the matter.  Also, I had recently read a study on POZ.com about poz women who became or were pregnant while poz had lived longer (or something to that effect - I'd have to read the article again to be specific).

...Now if I can only get my hubby to agree  ;)

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« Reply #34 on: September 24, 2007, 06:37:43 PM »
Hey SK,

I don't know the answer to number 1 because I am the postive person in my relationship.  But I can definitely answer 2 & 3.  You would need to take meds even if your numbers are okay more for the babys sake then for yours.  Also, for all of the times I've been pregnant I was always told to wait until the second trimester to start any kind of meds because during the first trimester being the most sensitive time for development you don't want the meds to interfere with that.  Lastly, yes the baby is required to take meds for the first 6 weeks and I've never seen any side effects.  Its a oral form of azt and from what I've seen the babies stomach it pretty well.

I read the article you're talking about too.  It was explaining how there has been a study that positive women who have children have a tendency to have better numbers and longer life span.  I remember thinking maybe that explains me considering all the kids I've had, LOL :)

I hope I helped with my info  .  .  .

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« Reply #35 on: September 25, 2007, 01:06:15 PM »
Hi ,

I also ready that is better start meds only after 3 month but what if I can not stop ? My dr. said I definitely can not stop with the meds. is this dangreous ?

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« Reply #36 on: September 25, 2007, 01:53:45 PM »
Hi. I was already on meds when I got pregnant so I continued to take them. The only was that my doc changed one of the pills because it wasn't a good choice for pregnant women. As far as I know there wasn't any danger once we switched meds.

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« Reply #37 on: September 26, 2007, 12:16:49 PM »
Hi , Can u please tell me more on your pregnancy experience?
I takes drugs for many years, my husband is negative, we tried 4 time on a fertility clinic and got pregnant only on the 5th sime, on week 6 a pulse was seen and I was so happy but then at the gegining of week9 in a regular u.s the dr. noted there is no pule, theychecked it few times and unfortunately I had to go throu an abortion . I got into these ideas that it happens to me cause of the hiv , so when I hear on women like you it give me hope, can you please share with me your experience a little more? How was the pregnancy? how did you give birth ?what about your baby? did he had to take any meds. ? Is your partner pos or negative? did you had to go through fertility treatments? How about any special side effect? How long you tried untill you managed to get pregnanat?
Do u suffer from lipo and if you do did it effect your body somehow during pregnancy? Sorry for asking so much questions , I just try to get some idea what am I heading for ?

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« Reply #38 on: September 26, 2007, 04:53:18 PM »
Hi Panda! My pregnancy was awful lol but I dont think it had anything to do with the HIV. I had bad morning sickness for the first 5-6 months. I got gestational diabetes. I did get shingles...that was HIV related. Which sucks because if you are pregnant there is nothing they can do for you. My viral load was a little above undetectable so I had a c-section. I liked the idea of a c-section better anyways because they can give you drugs via I.V. for a couple hours before giving birth. I had to give the baby meds for the first 6 weeks which was pretty awful, I'm not gonna lie. We managed to get through the first six weeks though and my daughter is negative! She is one healthy lil girl! My fiance is negative also. I didn't do fertility treatments nor do I suffer from lipo, so hopefully someone else can help you out with that!

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« Reply #39 on: September 26, 2007, 07:24:15 PM »
Hey Panda,

Also like HealthyMomma I had all 3 of my pregnancy without fertilization help.  All my girls are negative, my oldest 13 now and my twins 9.  I too had to give them all the oral for the 6 weeks but like I said they stomached it pretty well.  Luckily for me I've never had any type of morning sickness or anything like that with any of my children.  My partner is negative and I had all my children vaginally.  You may want to try a supplement called EPO (evening primrose oil) as a boost with trying to conceive.  If you google "EPO to conceive" it will tell you exactly how it used and how to take it.  I've used it as well as some of my friends and I know for a fact that it works :)  I'm pretty fertile but I used it to limit the amount of unprotected sex we had and I know for my last 2 pregnancies it only took the ovulation period during 1 month to conceive.  I don't have any personal experience with Lipo so I can't help you with that either.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #40 on: September 27, 2007, 06:22:15 AM »
Hi , thanks for sharing with me.
I have questions for you both,
I understand both of you did not go through any fertility treatments, but I don;t understand... I do not have any fertility problems and neither my husband but the only reason we are in this clinic is that we are not doing un protected sex. Yes, I am undetectable but still... Its a huge chance to take and I do not think its something I want to take, Didn't you afreid? I mean there is a chance after all your husband could have got infected, I really want to get your comment for this.

Also, About the Shingles - I have a question, I had Shingles about  4 years ago, it was one of the most horrible time of my life, it hit me on my face, all the right side of my face , But if I remember right, I think I was told that if you got it once, u can't get it again and I got it
on the WORST possibilty , I was in hospitel for long time with bladder on my face and scalp ... h.o.r.r.i.b.l.e. !!!!
Also , What most bothering me is how my body will react to the pregnanacy in the higher leves of pregnat, I mean I managed to get unfortunately only untill week 9 so there were not any changes yet but I mean cause of the lipo I was wonder if for example the pelvis area do get bigger like on every normal pregnant woman...

I will search for this EPO and I probably have questions, I also takes needles treatments, Hoping to get pregnant again very soon.


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« Reply #41 on: September 27, 2007, 07:59:47 AM »
Hi Panda,

I was going to write you in an email but this related to this topic. When you wrote me about the treatment, I was also wondering why? My doctor was very surprised when I told him that I heard that in Israel people do it in the hospital, he said here it is always at home, you have to measure your temprature every morning (in the rectum  :-\) [but now i read that it let's you know only AFTER the ovulation is finished  ???] and use some special kind of syringe to insert the sperm. When I know more, I will tell you. Maybe your doctors think that at the hospital it's more effective?

About the lipo, have you tried The Body for those questions?

When I read about your "adventures" with your health it makes me so sad and full of emotion. On one hand I feel sorry for you and on the other I admire how strong you are, esp. b/c I come from the same environment and I know how hard it is and how frustrating working through the medical system can be. If you have been through all that (also psychologically, socially) and have come to where you are now, and even kept working all these years, and all this in Israel where there are like 24 of us poz nondrug using women, that's just incredible.

Fingers crossed from here...   :-*  email coming soon when I emerge from under a mountain of work.

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« Reply #42 on: September 27, 2007, 11:02:14 AM »
Hi Dragonet and all.

The Hiv dr. at the begining when we first started to discuss this option of trying to get pregnant, he didn't talk with me about any fertility treatment, he told me what you wrote below , the "home made" way, we tried it for a while but it didn't work cause I could not find the day I ovulate, then we got into this clinic and with some drugs and injection we managed to set a date for the ovulation,
This month, due to the jewish holydays , I can not do this treatment so I think we will try this at home again, who knows...

About the EPO - I googled it, find lots of articles, I read you are allowed to take in only from the 1st day of period till the day you ovulate...Do u have any idea when I can buy it ?

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« Reply #43 on: September 27, 2007, 11:58:09 AM »
I am not the one who posted about EPO but I think I have seen in it in pharmacies in Israel or nature stores. I am sure you can call in advance and ask if they stock it.

I have a question, if you couldn't find the exact day in which you ovulate, was it not possible to just try it every day for like a week? Maybe I am naiive I am just really wondering b/c I don't want to waste time doing things that are not effective (when the time comes).

Good luck & hag sameach...

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« Reply #44 on: September 27, 2007, 12:57:00 PM »
Panda,

I'm not sure where you're located but you can get EPO anyplace they sell vitamins at.

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« Reply #45 on: September 27, 2007, 01:50:48 PM »
Hi Dragonet,
My gynecologist told me that the ovulation happens between day 12 to day 18 or 16 and that we should try day on and day off... that's what we did but nothing happens, later it turns that I ovulate probably on day 21, but still , when I checked with this stick to find when is this day I could not find it, what they do in this clinic is that on day 5 from the begining of the period I start takes this drug called "Iakaklumin" this encourage body to develope bigger follicle , then on day 10 I am taing an U.S and blood test and once they see everything fits they asking me to inject into my belly a material called "ovitrel" - the oveitrel is made of the actuall material the body release during the ovulation, so they are actually causing you to ovulate on a specific day when they set up a day to inject the sperm.
Anyway, this month I will again try at home , have nothing to loose...

Blessed - I have a question , its mentioned on the left side 5 month still counting , is this the stage of your pregnancy? 5 month ? And this U.S picture up there , is it your sweet little angel  ?

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« Reply #46 on: September 27, 2007, 06:31:24 PM »
Yes Panda, that's my newest blessing in my profile picture ;D  I'm due on January 28th and they think I'm finally having a boy after 4 girls.  We'll find out for sure what I'm having on the 11th.

But I wish you good luck in your continued attempt to conceive, it will happen when you least expect it.  Good luck  ;)

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« Reply #47 on: September 28, 2007, 04:53:16 AM »
Woh - 4 girls ? U are blessed !! ;D , Did you get pregnant with the 4 when u where negative and only the last one is while you are pos. ?
Also , hope its not too private to ask but, this current pregnancy well, u were not in any fertility treatment , did you manage to conceive like Dargonent mentioned below, home made ? Or.. I read here somewhere that a couple managed to concieve in the most "traditional" way and I can not understand how it can be when one is neg. and the other one pos.
Tell me, what about your blood tests, during pregnancy, are they stable ?
I mean, the cd4, and vl, is it still normal figures cause I heard during pregnancy the cd4 is going down,, how about your kidney and liver function, I was also told there is a lot of stress on thhese organs .
Its so good there is someone I can ask all these questions , I wish I will be in this position already where I will be able to share these feelings as well, I don't know... Sometimes I feel like it wont happen to me :(
Now I am sick, cought this cold and I am already a week at home, fever and everything, I feel so weak and probably that's why I feel so blue.
My mom will search for this EPO today but I wont start it this month cause I already had my period, I will start it as from the next one (unless there wont be a next one ;D) !!
I keep my fingures crossed foryou for a healthy pregnancy !!

By the way, can you pleasetell me how can I add on the left side on the screen a picture ?


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« Reply #48 on: September 28, 2007, 05:02:27 AM »
Well I managed to add picture but it aint moving , its animation,,,why it aint moving ?? Never mind, please ignore this message,I will figure it out, Please only refer to my previous message.

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« Reply #49 on: September 28, 2007, 05:24:28 AM »
Panda, sending you a PM....
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« Reply #50 on: September 28, 2007, 09:02:55 AM »
Hi Panda, that is not true about the shingles. For most people if you get them once you usually dont get them again. But for people that are HIV+, you are more likely to get them a second, or god forbid, third time. Because of the immune system. To answer your question about how I got pregnant, to be honest haha we had a couple problems...one time the condom came off and another time it broke. I want to get pregnant again sometime maybe in like a year. I was wondering how we are gonna do it. I'm guessing we will just try the home-made way and hopefully it happens! The funny thing is that with my ex I tried so hard to get pregnant and couldnt. Once I finally got pregnant I had a miscarriage. So then when I got with my current guy and we had a couple condom issues and I found out I was pregnant. Our bodies work in weird ways...

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« Reply #51 on: September 28, 2007, 07:24:48 PM »
Panda,

I found out my status during my prenatal treatment with my 13 year old.  My oldest is 16 and I was neg when I had her and my twins are 9 and we had them using the home-made method.  My lil' angel that I'm carrying now was not exactly planned.  We were talking about the possiblity of it and then I had an issue with antibiotics for a yeast infection, birth control and a condom mishap, LOL :)  But I believe whats meant to be will be.

Anyway, onto your other questions, I've been undetectable for along time and I started back on my meds the beginning of my second trimester and my numbers are still good.  I'm undectable and 653 as far as my last test (they run my numbers about every 6 weeks).  They have been watching my kidneys because those numbers have been a little off this pregnancy but I've never had a problem in the past.  My biggest worry is keeping my numbers good enough so that I don't need a C-section (I have a big fear of being cut open). 

Any other questions you have feel free to ask.  I always wished I had someone to talk to throughout my time being pos so I'm more than happy to share anything I know from my experiences that might help someone else  ;D

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« Reply #52 on: September 30, 2007, 01:30:23 AM »
Hi Healthy, about the shingles , well I was definitely told at the hospital u get it once, they knew there I AM HIV and still that's what they told me , since I 've been through the shingles I think in the most horrible way I can not imagine myself going through it all over again, so I realy hope what they told me there is correct, u didnt get it twice right? Only while you were pregnant?

Blessed - planned or not planned this baby is a gift. I hope to get such a beautiful givt to my 33 birthday coming soon on november.

Its sunday morning and I have to get arrange to the offcie after missing for a week due to illness.


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« Reply #53 on: September 30, 2007, 08:57:06 AM »
Hi Panda,

Thanks for your lovely email, I am not at a 1000 though, that was someone else (our mutual acquintance), I am around 300 T cells, this week I will find out if I am still detectebale or not and the doc said if I am there is need for concern..  :o I will update you more.

Enjoy getting back to work... yes Sunday is the first day of the work week in some countries  ;). I also wish you the best birthday present.

Thanks to all the ladies for sharing all your stories here, I will be sure to bug you with questions when the time comes... I want to be "blessed" too.
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« Reply #54 on: September 30, 2007, 09:58:36 AM »
Hi ,

Dragonet my dear - I snet you few emails during the weekend , I guess you were bussy,.,

All , I decided I will but this home test to find my ovulation and try do it this month at home, the problem is these tests are very expensive and contains only 5 maybe 6 sticks and if I want to cover the whole optinal days I have to check as frm day 12 to the day I get my period so u can imagine already....
The dr. once explained me that there is some protein in the sperm that get into this woman circulation and help body get the ovulation to a stady time, but with me its complicated cause I was infected when I was very young at age 18.5 so since then.. well,,,you know.... condom was ny best body, didnt had a real chance to meat the good old sperm...
But my period always comes on time , so does it makes any sense ?

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« Reply #55 on: September 30, 2007, 02:56:17 PM »
Hi panda. I dont know why the people at the hospital would tell you that about the shingles. Most healthy people can only get them once. People with compromissed immune systems like us, can get them multiple times. I have only had them the one time while pregnant, one of my good friends who is HIV + has had them 3 times. You can def get them more than once. But you may never get them ever again either. Its just one of those things that differ from person to person.  Having HIV increases the risk of getting them more than once.

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« Reply #56 on: October 01, 2007, 01:36:45 AM »
Wow - now I 'm scared .
I will talk about it with my dr. , if I didn't know what it is I guess it wouldn't have bothered me but since I've been through this horrible experience I can not imagine myself going it through again specialy while pregnanacy... :o

Well anyway, now I must put all my effort on trying to get pregnant, seems to me now like mission impossible. :-\

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« Reply #57 on: October 02, 2007, 07:38:39 AM »
This topic is so close to my heart. I am in South Africa and I am battling to get a doctor who can help my husband and I. My husband is negative and I'm positive. Earlier this year after 3 failed attempts at artificial insemination,  I found out both my fallopian tubes are blocked and therefore our only option at the moment is IVF, which unfortunately not a lot of doctors do here in SA. I went to three fertility specialists and they all told me straight up that they will NOT help an hiv positive woman fall pregnant, but if it was the opposite and hubby was positive, they'd gladly help me. We've raised enough money for the IVF, which by the way costs between R20 000 and R40 000 per cycle - depending on the medication and injections you use. The doctor who did the artificial insemination unfortunately is not qualified to do IVF so we can't go back to him.

My heart is SO sore. My hubby and I's deepest desire is to have a baby. I have been positive for 11 years and yet I am still very healthy and have very good counts. My GP wrote referal letters for me to take to the specialists and yet they refused. The one doc went on to lecture me about how I can even think of having a baby when I am positive.....do I realise how selfish I am.....do I realise I don't have long to live and that when I die who will look after the baby? I couldn't even answer him - I just sat there and cried, and cried.

I am going to see another specialist I have been refered to who apprently does help HIV positive women. I'll be going on the 23rd October. Please pray for me. Hubby and I really want to have a baby.

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« Reply #58 on: October 02, 2007, 04:22:30 PM »
My dear ,
I am keeping my fingures crossed for you. I can not beleive there is actualy a dr. that told you this horrible things? U have full right to be a mother, how can he tell you this? According to what he say , no one who has any cronic disease ... its bulshit!! My dr. in Israel was so happy and encourage me when I told him I want to get pregnant, the problem in Israel is that IVF is not yet to be approved for hiv, its being now discussed in court... so we are now going through some other fertility treatment , one succeed but unfortunately ended up with miss carriage,,, so now we are going on second round.

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« Reply #59 on: October 03, 2007, 12:31:51 AM »
Tamika,

I'm with Panda because I can not believe how you are being treated.  I will definitely keep you in my prayers and you stay postive/hopeful as well!!! :)

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« Reply #60 on: October 04, 2007, 07:02:47 AM »
Just wanted to say I get so emotional each time I see you little baby on the side of the screen...I don;t know how its in your place, but where I coming from we are afreid of ... well not sure how to translate it, but like bad energy.. like , only after the baby is out safety you can breathe again...  you have about 4 month to go right?? Ho... so excited....
I realy hope this month is will be MY month.
By the way, finaly I managed to put my dancing image... this is me, I am not leaving untill I find the way... so don't go confused now as I will switch my beautifull animation collection all the time... ;D

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« Reply #61 on: October 04, 2007, 08:43:02 AM »

Thanks for the responses ladies. I was refered to a doctor. Spoke to the receptionist and she confirmed the doctor can help me. I've made an appointment for the 23rd of October.

Blow me some baby dust please  :)

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« Reply #62 on: October 04, 2007, 03:47:10 PM »
I am blowing baby dust all over this forum!!!!! :D

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« Reply #63 on: October 04, 2007, 05:57:51 PM »
Tamika,

You've got a cloud of dust coming from my way!!! ;)

Panda, thank you and yes I have a little less than 4 months left.  I do get worried but everytime I can look down at my growing belly and see him/her kicking or stretching I can breath easy, smile and continue to count my blessings.

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« Reply #64 on: October 05, 2007, 04:39:54 AM »
More dust from me,Tamika  i wish u all the best.  Blesses u are so lucky i hope everything goes well!!

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« Reply #65 on: October 05, 2007, 05:47:35 PM »
Thanks Tendai :)

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« Reply #66 on: October 09, 2007, 01:41:42 AM »
This topic is so great for positive women who have had or want to have a baby. If anyone asks me things about H+ pregnancy, this will be the first one I recommend.
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« Reply #67 on: October 11, 2007, 06:57:39 PM »
IT'S A BOY!!! ;D

After 4 beautiful little ladies I'm finally having a boy!!!  I just found out a couple of hours ago and couldn't wait to come home and share the news with all my new found friends here. :)

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« Reply #68 on: October 11, 2007, 11:38:28 PM »
Aww that is great! CONGRATS!!!!!!!! :)

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« Reply #69 on: October 12, 2007, 04:29:51 AM »

Congrats!!!!!!! Wow you really are blessed aren't you my dear? Have you thought of names yet?

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« Reply #70 on: October 12, 2007, 03:56:35 PM »
Thank you both!! :)

Oh yes, you are looking at a 5 month picture of baby Jordan in my profile  .  .  .

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« Reply #71 on: October 29, 2007, 11:08:58 PM »
Well since there seems to be many experianced mothers here I have a few questions. This is my fourth pregnancy, my first since testing poz. This is a question for the mothers who have had children while neg, then after testing poz.

Do you think that the pregnancy posed a greater burden on your body after testing poz? My first three pregnancys were pretty normal, I had some morning sickness fatigue but nothing too bad. This pregnancy hasn't been horrible either but I feel as if it is taking a greater toll on my body. I'm more exausted then I had ever been with my other children. I've gained sufficient weight but I've gained far less during this pregnancy then I did with my others and the nausea and stomach issues are far worse also. I'm not sure weather to attribute this to my Poz status and the meds or if it's just that every pregnancy is different and this one is no exception. Any input would be helpful.

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« Reply #72 on: November 01, 2007, 10:19:21 PM »
Since I had only one child before I tested positive and am now on my 5th I can't say for sure if it was worse or not.  I do know that this pregnancy has been really draining but I've just chalked that up to me finally having a boy, LOL  ;)  Aside from that pretty much all my pregnancy were different in there own way but I just assumed that with age your body handles things differently too and never associated anything with my status since my doctors never did either.

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« Reply #73 on: November 02, 2007, 04:48:15 AM »
Hi,

Good luck to everyone who is pregnant or wants to be. It's so amazing... lots of love.
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« Reply #74 on: November 02, 2007, 07:05:59 PM »
 :-* thankyou thankyou thankyou !!

I cant believe how relieved I am to find this forum and this thread in generall I am currently 5 months pregnant and positive no one but my husband knows my status he is positive too we were only diagnosed last christmas and are not ready to disclose. I know it is wise to seek support but my family and friends are not who I wish to seek it from therefor I keep quiet. 

I talk to a few women on the positivly womens helpline and after christmas I will be going to meet up with some of them in london ( i live inthe uk )  I am starting medication to prevent transmission in a few more weeks I am confident I can take the meds properly and have prepared myself for it unfortunatly this has fallen at christmas where there will be many friends and family in and out of my house some of which are staying with me madness I know but I will keep my meds in my bedroom (knicker drawer probably lol ) my husband manages quite well to take his meds without anyone noticing ! I have to keep telling myself it will ok as I cannot contemplate people finding out right now there is alot of ignorance and i dont want them to know .... does that make me mad ?? all I hear is how people should share the burden with someone but I dont want to rush it.

anyone have any experience of taking medication and hiding it ?

sorry I am waffeling I am just so relieved to read all your stories you ladies are a true inspiration

thankyou so so much.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #75 on: November 02, 2007, 07:22:28 PM »
I tested positive while pregnant with my 2nd child in 1992. They did not offer any drug treatment or c-section to me. He was born positive and remained positive. He passed away in 1997.
I know things are alot different now with treatment options and the percentage of children who are born negative or eventually test negative is much better. Having a positive child is difficult. I wish you all the best of luck.

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« Reply #76 on: November 02, 2007, 08:22:06 PM »
Hope_full~~ I too have not disclosed to anyone. The only people who know my status are my doctors. It is hard when you have people in and out of the house as I too have had to hide meds at times. I fear somebody stumbling upon them and finding out my status before Iím ready to disclose. This is especially true for me since I work in healthcare and many of my friends are healthcare professionals.  What I do is I keep my med bottles in a private place (usually my bedroom). If I need to go somewhere I carry a small case made especially for carrying pills. I always keep an extra supply of meds in a case in my purse because Iím always on the go and if I end up being somewhere other then home and itís time to take my medication, its there and handy. This is easier then carrying the bottles around and you donít have to risk anyone seeing the labels. I wish you the best with your pregnancy. Good luck!!

Wini~~ Your story is heartbreaking!! It amazes me how just such a short time ago women who were poz  were more likely to have poz babies. What you have gone through is my worst fear. Have you had any children since the one who passed?

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« Reply #77 on: November 02, 2007, 08:52:52 PM »
No. A representative of the CDC came to see me the day I delivered and said "The CDC highly suggests you get a tubal ligation and we would of course pay to have the surgery"

I thought two kids was enough for me so the day after I delivered at 20 years of age I had my tubes tied.

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« Reply #78 on: November 07, 2007, 03:10:29 AM »
Hey Hope_full,

I see that I only have about a month and a half or so on you (currently 27 weeks) LOL :)  Even though I have been positive my whole adult life (since age 19) it was very hard disclosing to friends and family.  I still have many people in my life who do not know.  Just like Nygurl said I too keep my meds in different cases all the time that way there are no labels to deal with.  Whenever I'm out and about or we have company I'll just go in another room if its meds time and lock the door. 

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« Reply #79 on: November 14, 2007, 03:13:42 PM »
Yup, i found out my status when i was 4 months pregnant. I was put on viramune and viread emtriva..my baby is now 3 and free and clear.
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« Reply #80 on: November 14, 2007, 11:34:26 PM »
Hi All,

I've had two kids while being positive, I found out when I was pregnant with my first child.  My son is now 9 and my daughter is 6.  I was on AZT with both of them, my son got it in liquid form for the first 6 weeks of his life but my daughter didn't.  She got one dose at birth (wasn't AZT not sure of the name).  They are both negative.  And I have hidden and taken meds as well as given it to my son, I never disclosed until recently.

Hope everyone is well will chat soon again but this is another something I am hiding .... for now so can't talk for now.

Love and hugs
G

ps. congrats to all expecting mothers!!
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« Reply #81 on: November 15, 2007, 11:02:05 AM »
Oh yeh, and i had a c-section and an iv of AZT, i was already undetected but i still got that. Also my daughter hd to take oral medication..i forgot the name retrovir??..i think for 6 weeks and be tested until she was 18 months..tht was hard for me..bu ti am just glad she is negative!
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« Reply #82 on: November 23, 2007, 02:45:20 AM »
I'm pregnant ladies!!!!!  I just found out on Wednesday.  I'm 4 weeks along.  My first doc appt with my OB will be on Dec. 6.   I can't wait!!!  I'm spreading baby dust everywhere for whoever needs it.  :D

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« Reply #83 on: November 27, 2007, 02:44:56 PM »
OMG Catwoman!!!

I'm soooooooooo happy for you!  CONGRATS  ;D

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« Reply #84 on: November 27, 2007, 04:09:07 PM »
wow congratulations!!! what amazing news, I am so happy for you!!
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« Reply #85 on: December 11, 2007, 08:19:16 AM »
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Hope you have a lovely 9 months.

I'm also pregnant - 6 weeks :). Our first IVF worked! I am still struggling with the medication combinations though. I am on Ziagen and Combivir and its been really difficult to decide what to do as my gynaecologist says stop the medication until I'm at least 12 weeks pregnant and then re introduce but my physician is not for that route - he wants me to continue as there is a chance of drug resistance, etc.

But apart from that we are excited as this will be our first baby!

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« Reply #86 on: December 11, 2007, 01:10:14 PM »
Congrats Tamika :)

During all my pregnancies since I've been poz I have not taken meds the first trimester and that was because of the issue with that being the primary time of the babys development.  I've never had any issue with resistance either.  The one time that I attempted to take meds thru my first trimester I lost that baby but I don't know if was because of the meds or not.  Everyone is different of course but I just wanted to give you my experience.

Good luck and congrats again :)

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« Reply #87 on: December 13, 2007, 03:56:31 AM »
wow Tamika, sorry I missed this thread b4 - congratulations!!!!  Please keep us posted with the details.   :-*

I am so happy for you, may the "baby wave" continue.
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« Reply #88 on: December 16, 2007, 12:39:37 AM »
Congratulation Tameka!!!!!!  So exciting!!
I'm still taking my combo of Kaletra/Truvada.  I think I get something else added later.

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« Reply #89 on: December 16, 2007, 09:34:49 PM »
Thats awesome!! Good for you!!

I'd say send some dust my way, but my bf wants to be married first!
LOL

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« Reply #90 on: December 17, 2007, 02:58:23 PM »
I am pregnant, but it was a shock and still kind of overwhelming, since I am not usually that stupid to put myself at risk.  I was seeing an HIV positive man--I did the responsible thing and made sure to have both of us get tested for other STDs.  I was on birth control and we didn't always use condoms since we were monogamous.  I realize that if I had not thrown out the info sheet you get with prescriptions without reading it, I would have realized that the protease inhibitors I am on decrease the effectiveness and that we should have done the condoms as well.  I am usually meticulus and Miss Responsible, but i guess there is no point in beating myself up now.  I am slowly getting used to the idea that sometime in June I will have a baby (June 10 is the official due date, but I guess I could still have it any time that month).  Even though I broke up with the dad, I am glad that he will at least help out.  I am definitely glad that if I had to get pregnant, it is now, when I have access to treatments that will make it extremely unlikely that the baby will get it.
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« Reply #91 on: December 17, 2007, 03:16:11 PM »
Congrats Coffeechick :)

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« Reply #92 on: December 24, 2007, 12:24:18 AM »
Congratulations Coffee!!   ;D  It's such a blessing.

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« Reply #93 on: January 16, 2008, 06:53:21 AM »
Tamika asikana, congrats shaa. I'm really happy for u girl.
Coffee and catwoman congrats to  you too. i wish you all healthy pregnancies..
These forums are going to be responsible for a lot of babies it seems ;D ;D ;D

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« Reply #94 on: January 24, 2008, 11:37:31 PM »
I am so excited to find this forum! ;D
I have been + since 94.
I had my first son in 98, he is now 9, and healthy!
I had 2 boys and a girl in 03( Question:  If I say the twins +1 word, and someone does a search will my post show up?) anyway I had 3 at a time and they are all negative too.
Congrats to all the mothers! I look forward to talking to everyone!
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« Reply #95 on: January 25, 2008, 03:09:01 AM »
Hie Snowangel, welcome to the forums!
Girl you had THREE babies at once and all negative. :o :o Talk about amazing. Tell us more was it a natural vaginal birth or u had caesarian section. what special precautions and stuff did they have to do?
U get pregnant the normal way?
and to answer your question yes i think your post would show up if you used the twins + 1 word and someone searched the forums.
Hope to hear more from u!

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« Reply #96 on: January 25, 2008, 11:13:56 AM »
Thanks, Tendai!
Let's see, I got pregnant the old fashioned way :).  I had just started the pill a month or so before and thought I was in the clear. I found out at 17 weeks there was 3.  I had actually scheduled an abortion because I thought something was seriously wrong with the baby.  They give you an ultrasound before and the lady asked me if I wanted to know anything about the pregnancy.  Which I thought was strange.  So I said Yes.  She then asked me if I had twins in my family.  I said No, is it twins.  She said No......and then left me hanging.   When I asked her how many she saw she said 3. After the shock, I asked her if that was why I was feeling so sick and she said yes, you have 3 times the hormones going through you.  Do you want to continue with the abortion.  No way, and I left. They put me on complete bedrest at 25 weeks and I had the babies at 29.5 weeks thru c-section after my water broke early.  They each were just a tad of over 2 lbs so they were in the hospital for 6 weeks.  When I had my older son I was involved in a women and transmission study and so the kids got were able to get  monitored through that again.  They all had the oral medication as well.  I hope I remembered everything you asked, hopefully I will figure this out shortly :)

Coffee- Congrats on your pregnancy!  When my babies father found out there was 3 he took off until they were a couple of months old.  I know you said your babies daddy is going to be involved but if you every need any extra support.....my mantra when I was on bedrest was (and I am not religious at all)  God doesn't give you anything you can't handle...I just wish he didn't trust me so much  ;)...but anyway I am here for you, as I am sure everyone else here will be.
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« Reply #97 on: February 01, 2008, 11:05:34 AM »
Wow, Snowangel--you had THREE at one time!!!!!  Wow, that is amazing.  I don't think I could do it.  It puts my own situation in perspective.  I am luckily having only one.  I just actually updated my signature, but I had my ultrasound on Friday and I am having a boy.  He was a little coy at first, but finally spread his legs and showed us all his glory (or as the tech called it his "turtle", because evidently it looks like a turtle on the ultrasound).
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« Reply #98 on: February 01, 2008, 04:11:16 PM »
Hello. I am new to the forum.
I was tested poz in aug06. I am just about comign to terms with it now.
I am 5 months pregnant and am expecting a son.
I have a 16yr old daughter who is my world.
The babys father is gettign tested. We broke up at xmas but remain freinds for our sons sake.

I am on Combivir and Kalerta. My cd4 is 662.
I am told that my son will have combivir for 4 weeks when he is born and i am hoping for a normal birth.
 I did not think it was possible to be pregnant whilst poz but with all the right care and advice it is.

A mum to a fantastic daughter aged 16 and due a boy in may 2008!!

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« Reply #99 on: February 01, 2008, 11:16:35 PM »
Congratulations, Coffee !  That is so exciting to find out your are having a boy!  Have you figured out any names yet?  That is one of the hardest things I think.  I have 3 boys all together so our house is total chaos :)

Welcome and Congratulations to you too, Longpink!  I am new to this forum too.

Hope you are both feeling well!  Having a strange cravings?  With my first son it was spicy food, popiscles and shrimp cocktail.  The trip  lets...I think I ate a roast beef sandwich everyday.
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« Reply #100 on: February 03, 2008, 10:47:32 PM »
Congrats longpink!

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« Reply #101 on: February 04, 2008, 07:48:19 AM »
Congratulations, Coffee !  That is so exciting to find out your are having a boy!  Have you figured out any names yet?  That is one of the hardest things I think.  I have 3 boys all together so our house is total chaos :)

Welcome and Congratulations to you too, Longpink!  I am new to this forum too.

Hope you are both feeling well!  Having a strange cravings?  With my first son it was spicy food, popiscles and shrimp cocktail.  The trip  lets...I think I ate a roast beef sandwich everyday.
I am definitely having strange cravings.  The other day, I had a tub of cream cheese and ate it all with a spoon.  It's weird because I have never liked cream cheese and not even on a bagel, but I ate a whole tub, then went to the store and bought more.  I'm sure I'll eat more today.  I also have been craving KFC and also cookie dough.  Not baked cookies--just the dough.  Someone told me I probably should bake them due to the raw eggs, but I'll just have to do more research on risk level to see if it is still acceptable for me to eat it.

Cutting down on coffee was the hardest.  My doctor did tell me I could have some coffee, just cut the caffeine down drastically, since I am someone who can drink several pots of coffee a day--and I take it pretty strong, so I have been used to massive amounts of caffeine each day..  I am no longer feeling the withdrawals, but it was horrible at first.  Now I one cup of caffeinated and switch to decaf for any other.
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« Reply #102 on: February 09, 2008, 05:45:04 PM »
You have to be careful about the cookie dough.  You shouldn't eat it because of risk of salmonella from the raw eggs in it.  You might want to try drinking more milk too.  Your body wants it.  That's why you ate that whole tub of cream cheese.  LOL!!  I've been craving pizza all the time.  I tend to want more cheese and dairy and I wasn't big on that before I was pregnant.  Drinking the milk does double duty for me because it quells my heartburn too.

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« Reply #103 on: February 14, 2008, 10:43:06 AM »
Hey ladies, I was am newly diagnosised. 12/26/2007. I have 2 children ages 8 and 2. I want to have another, but my fear is will I see them grow up. I know there is no guanrantee. I could go out and get hit by a bus. I can't help it. Its just one of my fears. But reading these posts have comforted me. Thanks.

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« Reply #104 on: February 14, 2008, 02:55:44 PM »
Welcome Longpink...and Congrats ;D
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« Reply #105 on: February 15, 2008, 03:31:23 AM »
Welcome longpink. There is no guarantee in life whether u're POZ or not. Like u said u can be neg and yet get hit by a bus and leave your kids behind or u can be POZ and live to see your great-grandkids. With all the medicine available u can have another kid. Wish u the best.

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« Reply #106 on: February 22, 2008, 07:55:16 AM »

Wow snow angel - you really are blessed! I am pregnant now  and can't wait to know the sex of the baby.

Tendai ndeipi shamwari?

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« Reply #107 on: February 22, 2008, 10:57:33 AM »
Ndeipi iwe.hindava kurova so? how far along are u? are u on meds? i bet u are so excited asikana i envy u guys having babies.  keep us posted shaa. wofarisa murume wako! :-* :-*

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« Reply #108 on: February 22, 2008, 11:32:51 AM »
Congrats- Tamika.  That is very exciting when you do find out the sex.  That is one of the hardest parts, I think, picking out names :)
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« Reply #109 on: March 03, 2008, 10:29:31 PM »
I'm supposed to find out the sex of mine next Monday if it cooperates.  :D  I can't wait.

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« Reply #110 on: March 08, 2008, 11:42:04 PM »
Blessed1974,

Congratulations!!!  His picture is precious.  What a blessing!!!

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« Reply #111 on: March 10, 2008, 03:25:32 PM »
Thanks Catwoman :)

I hope your little bundle cooperates today so you can find out what you're having.

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« Reply #112 on: March 11, 2008, 05:17:33 AM »
Hi Blessed,

CONGRATS on that sweet baby! What a blessing.

It's so great to have all those moms and would be moms here. I'm still trying, when anything happens I'll let you know.

Good luck to everyone
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« Reply #113 on: March 11, 2008, 02:01:21 PM »
Thanks Drag  ;D

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« Reply #114 on: March 11, 2008, 04:46:19 PM »
Hi Blessed, Just wondering how you and your family are doing?  Is the baby sleeping through the night yet?  I hope so for your sake  ;D
Snow
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« Reply #115 on: March 13, 2008, 07:02:54 PM »
Hey ladies,

I had my ultrasound on Monday.  Everything was perfect and it's going to be a girl!!!  We are sooooo excited.

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« Reply #116 on: March 13, 2008, 07:28:22 PM »
Catwomen!
Congratulations!  I am so excited for you, I am glad everything is going well.  I hope you are feeling good too!
Have you thought of any names yet?
Snow
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« Reply #117 on: March 14, 2008, 08:32:54 AM »
congrats cat! i think girls are way better babies than boys.

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« Reply #118 on: March 14, 2008, 12:32:28 PM »
Hi Everyone
I've been lurking on here for a looong time but never had the courage to write. Dont ask me why.  Just wanted to share I have two healthy boys and I have just found out I'm pregnant. This is the worst time for it to happen to me as I am facing many issues and the logical thing would be to abort. But I can't do that due to having strong faith

My boys are 2 and 3 and I have been diagnosed since 99. 

Victory

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #119 on: March 14, 2008, 12:35:15 PM »
Welcome Victory!!,,Good luck with everything....
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« Reply #120 on: March 14, 2008, 12:41:55 PM »
Welcome, Victory and Congratulations!
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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #121 on: March 14, 2008, 02:17:34 PM »
Welcome Victory, and Congrads.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #122 on: March 14, 2008, 03:34:15 PM »
Welcome Victory and good luck :)

Snow, everything is going well and my lil' man gives me about 5 hours of sleep at night these days.  For him only being a month old I guess thats not bad, LOL

Cat, I'm glad you found out what you're having so now you can start picking a name.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #123 on: March 17, 2008, 11:32:26 PM »
Congrats Victory!!  We have her name all set already.  One less thing to worry about even though, I'm surprisingly not worrying like I thought I would.  I'm very adherent with my meds and I have a strong faith so I feel like she'll be just fine.  I can't believe I'm halfway through already.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #124 on: March 18, 2008, 10:18:59 AM »
Hie Victory
Congrats on the baby. I hope your faith will guide you making a decision about your baby.  God bless. 

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #125 on: March 20, 2008, 05:43:57 AM »
Congratulations Victory, & welcome.

Catwoman congrats on the ultrasound.

Ive also been wondering if the first months arent extra hard with giving the baby meds. Not that it would change me decision to try... maybe it's best not to know.

All the best to all you ladies,
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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #126 on: March 20, 2008, 02:20:24 PM »
Hey everybody,

This is also my first post here in this womens forum, I want to respond to you Dragonette and say that the first 6 weeks can at first seem very long and difficult due to the fact that you have to give your newborn baby liquid medication every 6 hours, and its a bit sad for the heart (at least it was for me) when you have to wake your beautifully sleeping baby at e.g. 3 am to force feed him/her the medication. BUT these first weeks go by pretty fast, and soon they are just a memory.

So don't let this stop you!!

I also want to say Congratulations to you pregnant women on here! I also have 2 wonderful and healthy little darlings, but If I was younger and had less c-section scars on my belly I would probably also want one more :)

Hugs to all !
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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #127 on: March 20, 2008, 02:55:02 PM »
Hi Sunflower,

Thanks! nice to see you here. Egads, 3 a.m...

Hugs
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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #128 on: March 20, 2008, 10:49:00 PM »
I remember those middle of the night AZT dosings.  Mini slept with us and we had her syringe on our night stand.  We'd also set 2 alarms just in case we missed the first one.  She got really good at taking her meds.  We'd roll her over, squirt it in, roll her back over, and she'd be none the wiser.  It was harder on us than it was for her.

Good luck with all the new babies!

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #129 on: March 20, 2008, 11:24:10 PM »
It was harder on us than it was for her.

My older son was good taking his too and he would suck it down and not even really wake up.  I on the other hand was exhausted, I tried to have his father give him a dose one night and he told me to F off  :-\.

The trip  lets were in the hospital the whole time so the nurses did if for me, which was a blessing. Big time!

It was hard, BUT it was worth every minute of it.


Hi Sun- Welcome  :)
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #130 on: March 21, 2008, 06:06:34 PM »
I have to agree with Minismom.  Giving my lil' man his medicine is only hard on me because he sleeps right thru it most times.  Luckily, I only have one week left (six weeks just flew by)!!!

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #131 on: March 21, 2008, 09:48:45 PM »
Does the baby get to stay in the unit with the regular babies when they are born?  The only people that know about my status are my parents, brothers, and husband.  No one, not even my in-laws know.  Are hospitals generally good about the privacy regarding the baby and myself?  During labor I want no one there except my husband and my parents if they are allowed, so I know no one else can see IV with the meds.  I'm probably conjuring up a worse picture in my mind than reality.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #132 on: March 21, 2008, 10:05:51 PM »
HI Catwoman-
Is totally up to you who you have in the delivery room with you.  Make sure that the doctors and nurses know that they should keep all your information confidential.  Yes, the baby will stay in the same unit with the other babies.  When I had my son in 98, they put me down the end of a hall all by myself, I was too out of it to notice but my mother did, who didn't know of my status at the time.  Everything worked out fine and no one found out.  Now a days with all the privacy acts, there should be no problem at all, BUT, if you do have one make sure you speak up and protect your rights.  Get your rest while you can...you will need it  ;D
Take care,
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Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #133 on: March 23, 2008, 04:29:09 PM »
Catwoman,

Snow is absolutely right about the privacy acts.  I just had my son last month and there were no disclosure issues at all.  I just made sure it was in my chart that no one was to discuss my status in front of anyone because my older children don't know yet and they're not going to find out until I'm ready.  The nurses and doctors were very understanding.  If they wanted to discuss an issue they waited until my room was empty or asked for privacy with me.  As far as the IV goes during labor there's no label on it that would indicate that it was something special just for you being pos.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #134 on: March 24, 2008, 06:42:12 PM »
Thanks for the congratulatory messages. I am definitely keeping the baby and it feels right but still don't have some answers. My theory is tomorrow will take care of itseff. I will introduce myself properly one of these fine days.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #135 on: March 26, 2008, 09:44:46 AM »
Good for you Vic. Who knows, maybe that baby of yours will turn out to be the person who discovers the cure for HIV/AIDS. See u soon.

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #136 on: March 27, 2008, 12:51:56 AM »
Thank you ladies for clearing up my concerns.  :)

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Re: Any women out there who have had a baby or are pregnant?
« Reply #137 on: March 30, 2008, 04:41:41 AM »
Hi! I have been poz 4 years and had a healthy girl a year and half ago who is negative. I plan on having another one in a couple years.
God Bless to all I just want to say that the HIV Virus has been Living with me because God and I are in control of this disease its been living with me since 1989  my son is negative & because of my Denial & non education I had another son in 1991 who is also negative  than I had another son in 1993  who is also negative so I say that to say that God is a awesome God see back than when I was diagnosed they didn't have the Great meds that they have now so I pray that if any Postive Woman wants to have a child they should PLEASE talk it over with their ID doctor & do all that the doctor tells you to do & most of all Pray and belive that God is a healer and that he can do all things and know that you are somebody inspite of whats living within you so be happy and live because having a child is a Dream come True I pray that what I wrote was helpful

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