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Offline tagalog

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really scared!
« on: May 19, 2007, 12:03:14 AM »

hello Goo day!

until now i have been really trauma and paranoid. my story goes like this i have contact with a girl in Manila,Philippines whom i really don't know her. i have just meet her in supermarket. until we have decided to go all the way. during our the time we have contact my both legs felt numbs dont know if what is the main cause of that perhaps it is just my first time to experience like that. I am really scared for myself i have always asked the girl if she had any dieseases she said that she had not. the girl looks she has really some problem. it happens last April 2004... and now i got married and have a lovely wife and two kids. I love them very much.until now im really scared of being tested for hiv/aids for im really scared of knowing what would be the outcome of it. sometime i felt paranoid everytime i felt something wrong i'll always really scared. every time there are any skin problems rashes ect. i have always think really bad.

hope somebody can help me with this...
here's my questions,...

1.) is there any rest if the girl is being positive then you have sex with her in just 2 finishes it could be possible that i might have the risk of getting the disease if she has?

2.) during that contact don't used condom but i have used the method of withdrawal is the risk here is high?

3.) 3 years since that happen until now don't have tested myself for hiv/aids for im really scared of what will be the outcome. what will be my best options with this?

4.) having sex in 2 finishes using wthdrwal is it really a high risk for getting hiv/aids?

5.) The girl wanted me to right my name on a piece of paper, dont know whats the reason behind it but im really scared that maybe she had the disease and after what will happen to her she will report to the Department of Health and will tell health personnel that this guy is having sex with me? i have always been like really paranoid now.

Pls. do help me,,, i love my kids and my wife more than myself. dont want to be too much  paranoid of thinking this things.

Tagalog

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2007, 03:24:43 AM »
1.) is there any rest if the girl is being positive then you have sex with her in just 2 finishes it could be possible that i might have the risk of getting the disease if she has?

Sexual transmitted diseases .... are transmitted through sex... if it is quick or not is not the point. Plus, you have to understand that Hiv+ people not always "look like we really have some problem". We look as normal as others, you can't say by appearance if someone is poz or not. Ahh... numb legs is not a symptom of Hiv.... just for you to know.

2.) during that contact don't used condom but i have used the method of withdrawal is the risk here is high?

There is risk. Others will tell you if it is high or low.

3.) 3 years since that happen until now don't have tested myself for hiv/aids for im really scared of what will be the outcome. what will be my best options with this?

There is no best or worst option. There is one thing to do, get tested. That's the only way to recover your peace. Hiv is a serious illness, but nowadays it is possible to be controlled with meds. So don't make any scenario in your mind... just get tested and you might see there was no reason to be worried.

4.) having sex in 2 finishes using wthdrwal is it really a high risk for getting hiv/aids?

didn't you already asked that?

5.) The girl wanted me to right my name on a piece of paper, dont know whats the reason behind it but im really scared that maybe she had the disease and after what will happen to her she will report to the Department of Health and will tell health personnel that this guy is having sex with me? i have always been like really paranoid now.

Well, they haven't call you, have they? perhaps she just wanted to see you again... Don't paranoid... just get tested.

Friend, just get tested and once you get the negative result, take some time to get informed about Hiv and other sexual transmitted diseases and how to prevent them, that will help you not to worry without reason in the future and play safe. Good luck!
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Re: really scared!
« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2007, 05:34:58 AM »
Tagalog,

Since you've have unprotected sex you do need to be tested for HIV. The withdrawal method (pulling your penis out before you ejaculate) is certainly not an acceptable alternative for using latex condoms with water based lubricant. The window period for HIV testing is 13 weeks. You need to have your HIV test performed 13 weeks after the date of the last unprotected sexual encounter.

HIV is not an easy disease to transmit, especially from woman to man, and the chances of you having HIV from what you describe are not great. Nevertheless no risk is not the same as no risk and as I said above, you do need to be tested.

You should also be aware that STD's other than HIV such as chlamydia and gonnorrhoea are much more prevalent and contagious than HIV. All sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least once a year. Twice is even better. A full STD screen will include an HIV antibody test.

Symptoms such as "numb legs" do not mean anything when it comes to deciding if you have HIV infection or not.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread which contains links to our lessons on HIV testing and transmission to learn more about how HIV is and is not spread.

Regards,

MtD

Offline tagalog

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2007, 06:24:13 AM »
Sexual transmitted diseases .... are transmitted through sex... if it is quick or not is not the point. Plus, you have to understand that Hiv+ people not always "look like we really have some problem". We look as normal as others, you can't say by appearance if someone is poz or not. Ahh... numb legs is not a symptom of Hiv.... just for you to know.

There is risk. Others will tell you if it is high or low.

There is no best or worst option. There is one thing to do, get tested. That's the only way to recover your peace. Hiv is a serious illness, but nowadays it is possible to be controlled with meds. So don't make any scenario in your mind... just get tested and you might see there was no reason to be worried.

didn't you already asked that?

Well, they haven't call you, have they? perhaps she just wanted to see you again... Don't paranoid... just get tested.

Friend, just get tested and once you get the negative result, take some time to get informed about Hiv and other sexual transmitted diseases and how to prevent them, that will help you not to worry without reason in the future and play safe. Good luck!

Thank you very much with these inspiring advices, until now im really thinking of getting a test for myself to lighten up my mind. currently im living with my lovely wife and 2 kids since that happen im always asking myself for their future. I'm always praying to God that im free with this deadly disease because all i want is that i can spend more years with my family. I love them so much. Sometimes im really bothered when i felt myself that there is something wrong. Even few uncertain illnesses ill always think it too bad.

Im really afraid until now don't have my test and dont know what is my status now.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #4 on: May 23, 2007, 06:30:21 AM »
Tagalog,

You can pray to god all you want, but that won't tell you if you're infected or not. The only way to find out is to get tested.

Now ultimately getting tested is up to you and I think you'll probably test negative, but surely you owe it to yourself and your family to find out for sure. HIV (or any other STD for that matter) is not something you can simply ignore.

MtD

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #5 on: May 23, 2007, 08:09:40 AM »
Tag, Matty has got it down right for you. If you had intercourse without using a condom in the incident you're concerned about, then you need to get an HIV test.

Since it is not an easy virus to transmit, the odds are significantly in your favor that you will test negative. Then having eliminated HIV as a factor, you can discuss your symptoms with your doctor to find out the real cause of your problems.

Stop indulging your fears and living under this cloud of uncertainty. You don't have to feel brave to get tested. You can be terrified and still get it done. Given how long in the past this incident was you can test anytime now and get a reliable result.

Good luck with your test. Keep us posted.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline tagalog

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2007, 04:57:45 AM »


Thanks Andy,

It's been really wonderful to hear from someone whos really have converns to those people need some inspiring words. As of now i have change my mind maybe one of these days I'll try to get my test so that may i know my real status.

As of now I'm willing to have my test Andy im so thankful for your encouraging words although for me i have feel so worried about what will be the outcome if im getting my test but im praying that it will be fine. Honestly i have my hesitation to do with this because if the test would become acceptable it would be maybe the end of my life. I'll always thinking my wife and my 2 kids, they're really the best persons belong to me and dont want that someday they would be dragged with my stupid acts. I'm really ashame of myself too much. Here in the Philippines if people knows u that have that kind of disease you  would be denied in the society. You can hear lot of bad words from people around you it's like u will not die with the disease but u will die for those people who will insult you, thrown really insulting words. I have read some stories about this.

since that time happen, Im still single and were just having my relationship with my wife at that... the greatest fear that always occured in my mind that if that girl would carrying this disease then if i have been acquired from her then i'll transmit it to my wife and that most worst thing herethat time when we had making contacts with my wife at that time without using condom and in just few months she got pregnant with our first child and not knowing my real status at that time.

Hope i can have enough strength now to gest tested so that my life would be enlighten with it....

To all moderators here, thank you very much. Hope u can provide more of it for me so that my gain enough and more strength to carry on and got my test.

need more words from you guys.

Thanks,

Tagalo

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: really scared!
« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2007, 12:00:47 PM »
Tag, the only thing you need to do is to get your butt into a testing place and get that done. I expect you to test negative but that's not the same as actually collecting a negative result.

You've already spent way too much time and energy worrying about this issue. Get tested, collect what I expect will be a negative result and then get on with your life. You have way better things to do with your family than having this cloud hanging over you.

Good luck with your test and keep us posted.

Andy Velez

 


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