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I had a child, my son adopted when I was 15. It was his 25th birthday on April 28th, and I never thought I'd hear from him. Its 3.40am in UK and just got a call about an hour ago from the US from him, he forgot the time difference! I've always been on the adoption register so he could find me, but never imagined I'd be in this situation. He's coming to London next month. I'm terrified. If I tell him I'm positive, it'll either scare him off or devastate him...if I don't, I'm a liar

Hey Tigger-
   I should be keeping up on this forum.  I haven't been checking it out lately, and that's my fault.
     You don't even need to worry about disclosing to him right now.  You to have ALOT of catching up to do!  My daughter (who's 22) knows, but she's known ever since I tested positive.  She's had time to accept it.  Also, you and your kid haven't seen each other in years.  I would just get to know each other first and in time, if it's meant to come out it will.  Good luck!
Betty :-*

I agree. I don't have kids but it makes sense. Let him see how healthy and wholesome you are first!

"Disclose" always sounds to me like there is a big dark secret, in the dating context it can be interpreted this way... but in other cases, maybe "tell" would be less scary. If you had another illness, would you tell him right away or hold back a little? I think that is the key here. I mean, it's not like there is any rush or incentive to say anything as in the dating world.

Take care......... enjoy getting to know each other.

Queen Tokelove:
Awww Tigger girl, I know how you feel. My sister raised my youngest son and I was terrified because of all the drama she had given me in the past. Surprisingly enough my son accepted me and we talked about it. I agree with the others, make up for the lost time. Obviously, well to me anyway, it seems like he is reaching out. Let me know how it goes.....

Hi tigger

First of all I think it's wonderful that he wants to connect with you and is coming to visit you...but I agree with the other ladies, just take this time to get to know each other and just enjoy the time you'll have with him, there will be time later to talk to him about your status.

Keep in touch and let us know how things go.

Jan :-*


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