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Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« on: June 25, 2006, 01:08:45 PM »
My little guy, Ringo ferret, is very sick. We suspect a blockage in his intestinal tract, but none of the local ferret vets are open or working today. And sadly, I simply can't afford emergency surgery. Not now, maybe in a week, maybe a month, and Ringo doesn't have that long.

He is not in pain. He is eating a little, drinking a little, even pooping and peeing a little. But the lump in his abdomen has not gone down, and he is unstable on his hind legs.

He is not my ferret. He belongs to his cagemate, benjamin, with whom he has always been silly in love. Benjamin is being gentle with him, and I am trying my best not to be a nudge and pick him up all the time (he tolerates it, but would really rather I just pat him on the head and let him cuddle with his bonded mate).

I am going to go get some baby food and try to keep him fed. But if this is a blockage (and maybe I will know tomorrow when I take him to the vet, assuming he lives until then) and the vet can't work with me financially, I might have to put him down.

I really love my pets. And this sucks so hard.

So if anyone has a spare second, toss some positive vibes this way, would you? He's just a little ferret, but he's sweet, and he never gets into trouble, and he always plays very gently, and he loves his Benjamin the way I wish someone loved me.

And he deserves better than I can afford.


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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #1 on: June 25, 2006, 01:12:11 PM »
I'm sorry to hear of Ringo's situation.  I know how much those little guys mean to you.  I'm getting together with some friends this afternoon for a healing circle and we'll definitely send some energy his way.

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2006, 01:39:03 PM »
aw, shiit, jk...of course.
my best thoughts and vibes to Ringo, and some to Benjamin and you, too.

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« Reply #3 on: June 25, 2006, 03:43:52 PM »
I might be online all night. I am sitting beside the ferret cage, and giving Ringo water by the capful from a bottle. He is really dehydrated, but will at least try and eat and drink if I hold it for him. Called around, and there seem to be zero vets, even emergency vet clinics, who can take a ferret on a Sunday. I was told that I could give him better care here until tomorrow, so I am going to sit here by the cage, and give him water and chicken gravy every couple of hours.

Just put my hand down on the cage, in front of Ringo's hiding place (a soda can box that he became very attached to). Ringo slowly raised his head, and laid it down on my hand. Just quietly looking at me, because he knows I can fix everything. God, I hope he makes it through the night. I know, it's ridiculous to get worked up over a pet, but my little guys are all I have.

Earlier today, Ringo had some energy, so I let him out of the cage alone (Benjamin was being a bully, as usual, and Ringo was not up for being dragged around). Ringo and I have this dumb game we play, where I run up and down the hall with this squeaky stuffed snake on a string, and Ringo chases it in circles. Today I let him catch the snake, which is never, ever part of the game. He held his head so high as he trotted it to his treasure corner, behind the sofa. I don't even think he noticed that I had to walk right behind him, holding the string, to make the snake "struggle" a little.

Once he had deposited the snake among his other treasures (now I know where the spare set of keys went) he came back out, very tired, and lay down at my feet.  Exhausted, jubilant.

Ya caught the snake, Ringo. You sure did. Good little man.

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #4 on: June 25, 2006, 03:55:52 PM »
Oh Jonathan!
Poor Ringo! I'm glad he's not in any pain though. I hope you manage to get him to a vet first thing tomorrow and get whatever treatment you can for him. I understand how much your pets mean to you...I'm the same with my cats!
Sending positive vibes across the ocean!
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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2006, 04:10:41 PM »
JK

My heart is breaking for you buddy.  I'm sending truck loads of good vibes to ringo!

RAB

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #6 on: June 25, 2006, 04:39:37 PM »
RINGO

Lots of positive vibes coming your way!

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2006, 04:44:40 PM »
Sending love and light and positive, healing energy to your furry little baby.....I hope he is doing better.

Love,

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #8 on: June 25, 2006, 05:04:53 PM »
Jonathan, give Ringo tons of ferret kisses for me... I'm sending assloads of positive energy your way.

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #9 on: June 25, 2006, 05:05:42 PM »
puppy london sends puppy dog licks.

Hope the runt feels better soon jonathan

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #10 on: June 25, 2006, 05:21:05 PM »
such an easy thing to request.  Of course good thoughts and love and all good things coming yours and Ringo's way. 

robert
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« Reply #11 on: June 25, 2006, 08:38:12 PM »
JK,

I will keep you and Ringo in my daily anxieties.

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« Reply #12 on: June 25, 2006, 08:42:48 PM »
JK,

I send you all the good thoughts, wishes and vibes I can. I cast a positive aura in the direction of your apartment - centered on the cage..

R
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« Reply #13 on: June 25, 2006, 08:48:38 PM »
Jonathan,

I hope benjamin's pal gets well soon.

Cliff

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« Reply #14 on: June 25, 2006, 08:57:25 PM »
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(and maybe I will know tomorrow when I take him to the vet, assuming he lives until then) and the vet can't work with me financially, I might have to put him down.

If love is all you have, that is enough for Ringo.  I hope he makes it until tomorrow, but if he doesn't, you have the deepest sympathy from someone who still hasn't gotten over losing a beloved companion two years ago. Ringo loves you.

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« Reply #15 on: June 25, 2006, 09:08:39 PM »
Sending good thoughts your way.

How much will it cost to get Ringo all better?  Maybe the doc can you put you on a payment plan.  Doesnt seem fair he cant get the best treatment just because money is an issue.  Its just not right.

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« Reply #16 on: June 25, 2006, 09:19:58 PM »
Consumed and I sending thoughts your way.  We care about you, we care about your dearest ferrets.
I will light my St Francis candle...patron saint of animals. 

consumed and sae.

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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #17 on: June 25, 2006, 09:35:07 PM »
Hopfully Ringo is better by now. I so know what it is like to love a helpless being that solely depends on you for their every need.

 :'( JK :'( Ringo :'(

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« Reply #18 on: June 26, 2006, 12:50:30 AM »
Jonathan..I know how much your ferrets mean to you..sending you love, and hope you and Ringo get through this.

Hugs
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« Reply #19 on: June 26, 2006, 01:21:02 AM »
Jonathan...I sincerely hope Ringo will have a peaceful and all right until he sees the vet. I've always had pets ( cats & dogs ) and know very well the anxiety when our little companions aren't feeling well.

Regards,

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« Reply #20 on: June 26, 2006, 03:01:58 AM »
Jonathan,
I am sending all the positive, healing energy I can muster at this point.  It's late, (0300 Eastern time) but I am thinking of you and your beloved pets.


Take care,
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« Reply #21 on: June 26, 2006, 04:39:40 AM »
Dear Jonathan,

I have a purple candle burning for Ringo, hope he gets well again!

Sending lots of healing energy to Ringo in Atlanta.

Hugs to the three of you!

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« Reply #22 on: June 26, 2006, 09:10:21 AM »

((((((Ringo))))))

Sending all the love and positive good stuff I can. Hang in there... all three of you.

Hugs and furry love....
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« Reply #23 on: June 26, 2006, 09:17:06 AM »


Here's hoping Ringo is up and about this morning. What's the 411...we are all worried?

Hal

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« Reply #24 on: June 26, 2006, 09:54:40 AM »
I hope Ringo feels better this morning and makes a full recovery...In his little mind and body he knows he is loved by you and his mates.  Keep us posted.

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« Reply #25 on: June 26, 2006, 09:54:51 AM »
hey guys.

I got back from the vet a little while ago. I have been up for two days with Ringo, waiting for the vet to open.

Ringo tried so hard.

he would crawl, with hind legs that didn't work, to the water bottle, but lacked the energy to push the little ball. I gave him water whenever I heard him scramble around, with an eye dropper. Gave him Chicken gravy until he wouldn't eat anymore, then this nasty fish oil stuff that he loved.

Around 4 AM he stopped taking any water, and just wanted to be left alone.

Benjamin crawled in and slept on top on him until 745, when the three of us  went to the vet.I did not want Benjamin and Ringo seperated, because they were a bonded pair. And damnit, say what you want about me, I do know something about that.

There was nothing anyone could do but put him down.  Ringo was so far gone that the Ketamine alone did him in. The doctor (who was livid at the bad service I got over the weekend at the emergency vet) had intended to give him a shot of Special K, then gas him a little, then do a heart stick.

The preliminary diagnosis? A blockage, yes. But a latent cancer which had been slowly eating at him for a while. No matter what i would have done, poor Ringo was not meant to survive.

After the ketamine was delivered, Ringo went into a seizure. One of the more scary things I have seen. Finally, he calmed down, and  relaxed. I let Benjamin sniff him and lick him, to say goodbye. OUt of nowhere, Ringo's eyes snapped open, he grabbed my arm, looked around like he was seeing something so completely not on this earth, but was not afraid.

Then Ringo ferret collapsed in my arms and died.

Hell, I don't know what I believe in. But Ringo saw something right then, some place where a part of him longed to be, but was afraid to cross into. He took a leap, in my arms, and abandoned the malfunctioning body that had caused him pain. He's my sweet little man, my little pie.

Adam, my friend from the Zoo, who came over last night and slept on my futon while I sobbed, took Ringo to be composted and fed to the gardens. Iwrapped him in his favorite bedding, and put the Squeaky snake in with him... He earned it. He caught it.

I am still crying. And I will be crying for a while yet. Benjamin is wandering the apartment, looking for the clever place where I have hidden his special friend. Actually, he just walked from my bedroom into the hallway, and stopped at the light, to look at me. Ok, he seems to be saying, I give. Where is he?

Aw man. I'm so sorry. Life with Ringo is all Benjamin has ever known. In a way, me too.

Did the best we could. Poor little guy.

There's a smell, you know? Its the same smell, whether its a pet or a person. Death, coming close, the body beginning to shut down. Sebastian had it. My father had it. Ringo had it last night.

It cost me two hundred dollars and change to put him down this morning. Would have cost three or four times that for surgery.

I would have sold anything this morning for my little guy. My little sweet, stupid, clumsy guy.

I am rambling. I havent slept in two days. I just wanted to let you guys know that I appreciate your kindness, your gestures, your words of comfort and empathy. Anyone who has lost a pet, or lost anyone (I have a hard time making real distinctions) knows this particular kind of exhausted crazy.

Adam told me I did the best that anyone could. He said I should be proud. But I'm not. I am ashamed. My pets see me as God. And God does not let this happen.

I am going to be a little while getting over this. Apologies if I am not on my game for a little bit. Let me know if I go too far, ok?




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« Reply #26 on: June 26, 2006, 10:02:43 AM »
Sorry for your loss Jonathan, may you and Benjamin see better days ahead,

 :-[

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« Reply #27 on: June 26, 2006, 10:06:56 AM »
Its ten o clock AM my time. And I just poured three.. no, wait, four.. fingers of bourbon. I thumb my nose at polite society today.

Benjamin just went to sleep in the cage, with a sigh worthy of Sandra Bullock. Dude, I know. Seriously, I know. This is why I remain alone. Parting, through death or betrayal or the slow vamparism of time, is just too much. Too much. I really did not have enough left for even this.

We write platitides to people who lose pets. I know I do. But when you are isolated, alone with your disease, and all you have chaining you to this dirty rock are innocent creatures who you choose to accompany you, there's a whole different dynamic.

I never thought I would outlive Ringo.

I never wanted to, even.

And here I am, me and Benjamin. Alone, the two of us, without our friend. He, with the ticking time clock of a short life span. Me, the very, very same. Both of us together, but both so alone.

I am going to get very drunk. Because there is no other way I will be able to sleep.

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« Reply #28 on: June 26, 2006, 10:07:31 AM »


Rest In Peace Ringo :'(

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« Reply #29 on: June 26, 2006, 10:08:29 AM »
PS: God/dess bless you Jody. Thank you for who you are.

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« Reply #30 on: June 26, 2006, 10:10:01 AM »
Also hal, Joe, Melia, Cliff, Danny, Basque, everyone who responded to my transparent whoring for support. Thanks guys.

Im done for a little bit.

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« Reply #31 on: June 26, 2006, 10:17:52 AM »
JK,

I have lost pets and know what that does to you. However, the way you wrote about it left me a little speechless...reminded me of that last meow, of the warmth fading in my arms, of the tears on my wifes face. You certainly have a gift for being able to put in words that feeling that you feel now because I can picture it and I too want to cry.

 I won't patronize you with the usual words one chooses at this difficult time other than to say, my thoughts are truly with you.

R
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« Reply #32 on: June 26, 2006, 10:18:39 AM »
JK

Insert broken heart icon here.

(((((HUG)))))

Sorry for the loss--nothing else matters.  Just saying I'm sorry is all I can think of.

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« Reply #33 on: June 26, 2006, 10:22:48 AM »
RIP Ringo.
I'm so sorry for your loss, jk. 

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« Reply #34 on: June 26, 2006, 10:27:26 AM »
Rest in Peace little Ringo....
 :'(

I am so sorry Jonathan.

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« Reply #35 on: June 26, 2006, 10:37:07 AM »
Ringo's best friends were there with him. That's what I call beauty.

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« Reply #36 on: June 26, 2006, 10:39:13 AM »
I too know the heartbreak of losing a pet.

Im so sorry you lost Ringo. He was lucky to have a person that cared and loved him as you did.

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« Reply #37 on: June 26, 2006, 10:56:01 AM »
I'm so upset for you. This has been a bad day. The first Koi SAE and I picked outtogether died from a power failure I found him just as he stoped breathing. I actually revived him, it took two hours and I got him back swimming  but he died after midnight. It's just a sad day. Are thoughts are with you.
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« Reply #38 on: June 26, 2006, 11:07:49 AM »
Hi Jonathan,

I'm really sorry to read this and for your loss. Somehow I thought the outcome would be better when I wrote my message last night, but guess it wasn't meant to be.

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« Reply #39 on: June 26, 2006, 11:59:02 AM »
Dearest Jonathan,

My deepest condolences on your loss of Ringo and no it doesn't matter that he was a ferret, the point was he was part of your family and the loss is just as deep.  I've sent you a PM and if you need someone to talk to, just give me a ring.  Take care of yourself and Benjamin and please don't stay away too long.

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« Reply #40 on: June 26, 2006, 11:59:47 AM »
A prayer,


I feel so lost and alone since the passing of my loved one. Help me to know that the love that I feel for my pet remains alive and can nurture me through this time of adjustment through my loss.
Help me to understand that no one is ever lost and that spirit does not die.
When I feel this loss so deeply, remind me of what my life was before my pet came into my life so that I can see how much richer I am now for it.
Help me to draw upon my happy memories with my pet, just as a person draws upon money in a bank account. This bank of joy is my resource that I can spend to help me get through the days ahead.
Help me to transform my feelings of loss into feelings of wonder and gratitude for having been so blessed with this one in my life.
I am at a loss for words. I am not at a loss for love. I have been blessed and for this my loss turns to gain.



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« Reply #41 on: June 26, 2006, 12:46:59 PM »
*crying*

I am so sorry for your loss. It's never easy losing a pet. I lost one in August last year, and I still miss her.

*big, tearful hug*
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« Reply #42 on: June 26, 2006, 12:47:45 PM »
A Pet's Prayer

If it should be, that I grow frail and weak,

And pain should keep me from my sleep,

Then you must do what must be done

For this, the last battle, can't be won.

 

You will be sad, I understand.

Don't let your grief then stay your hand,

For this day, more than the rest,

Your love and friendship stand the test.

 

We've had so many happy years

What is to come can hold no fears.

You'd not want me to suffer, so,

When the time comes, please let me go.

 

Take me where my needs they'll tend only,

 Stay with me to the end,

And hold me firm and speak to me,

Until my eyes no longer see.

 

I know in time you will see

It is a kindness you do to me

Although my tail its last has waved

From pain and suffering I've been saved.

 

Don't grieve it should be you,

Who decides this thing to do,

We've been so close, we two, these years

Don't let your heart hold any tears.

 

Smile - for we walked together,

For a little while.

RIP - Ringo Ferret



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Re: Good thoughts/positive vibes/candles requested
« Reply #43 on: June 26, 2006, 12:53:06 PM »
I'm so sorry for your loss, Benjamin too.

There are people saying goodbye and shedding tears for your  dear friend all over the world. May he rest in peace.

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« Reply #44 on: June 26, 2006, 01:24:09 PM »
Dear Jonathan
I am so so sorry. My heart truly goes out to you today.
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« Reply #45 on: June 26, 2006, 03:01:34 PM »
I love you, Jonathan.

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« Reply #46 on: June 26, 2006, 05:16:18 PM »
Jonathan,

You were a great Dad to Ringo.  May he rest in peace (and you try to get some rest too)

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« Reply #47 on: June 26, 2006, 05:25:38 PM »
Vale, Ringo Ferret.

My thoughts are with you JK and poor Benjamin.

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« Reply #48 on: June 26, 2006, 05:36:39 PM »
I'm so sorry!  It is wonderful that you were with him until the end.  From your description, it is obvious that he knew you were there to help him on his way.

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« Reply #49 on: June 26, 2006, 05:37:59 PM »
Jonathan....my heart goes out to you and also to Benjamin.

May Ringo rest in peace

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« Reply #50 on: June 26, 2006, 05:51:06 PM »
Peace, Love and Light to you and Benjamin.

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« Reply #51 on: June 26, 2006, 06:50:55 PM »
Hello Jonathan,

I want you to know how sorry I am to hear about the passing of Ringo,I do understand how difficult this must be for you.I raised some wonderful, loving little exotic pets throughout the years, and it was always such a difficult time, dealing with their passing. It's never easy...


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« Reply #52 on: June 26, 2006, 11:11:33 PM »
Jonathan,

I'm so sorry and saddened to hear of Ringo's passing.  At least he had his two best friends and the loves of his life there with him.

My heart goes out to you.

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« Reply #53 on: June 27, 2006, 12:12:56 AM »
Jonathan.....

I'm so sad.  I'm bawling my head off.

sorry....

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« Reply #54 on: June 27, 2006, 11:03:14 AM »
Absolutely!! Good thoughts and prayers going out to all of you!
Christine

I apologize, I did not read down through all the posts first. i am very sorry for your loss. My husband had a ferret, Stewie, when we first met, and she passed a few years ago.

Have you heard of the Rainbow Bridge?
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of Heaven is a place called the Rainbow Bridge. When an animal
dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to the
Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends
so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and
sunshine and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor;
those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we
remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing: they each
miss someone very special, someone who was left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops
and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; his eager body
begins to quiver. Suddenly, he breaks from the group, flying over the green
grass, faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your
special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to
be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again
caress the beloved head, and you look once more into those trusting eyes,
so long gone from your life, but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together...
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« Reply #55 on: June 27, 2006, 08:04:08 PM »
I am so sorry foy your loss.

You and Benjamin are in thoughts and prayers.

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« Reply #56 on: June 27, 2006, 08:07:39 PM »
Aw My thoughts and prayers are with you and your lovely friend.....hug and kiss
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« Reply #57 on: June 27, 2006, 10:00:00 PM »
Oh Jonathon..I just caught up with your post..I was so sad to hear about Ringo, with all those lovely stories you told me you have been left with some beautiful memories of him.

Thinking of you.

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« Reply #58 on: June 28, 2006, 12:12:44 AM »
Dear Jonathan,

I can feel that lump in your throat, remember it all too well.
I'm so sorry.

I'll share my Reilly story, not to be selfish....but just to say that Ringo will be around for awhile for you, as Reilly was and is for me.

Reilly....

Reilly was my best friend and how I met my other best friend as we had Golder Retriever littermates and met at puppy school.  Reilly was the kind of dog you wait a lifetime for, and my friend was someone you only get a brief time to be with, but a friendship that forever changes you.  There was something about Reilly that was so unmistakable, so pure, that anyone who met him felt something special, albeit indescribable.  Sure he was a beautiful showdog (unsuccessful because the judge told him he was cute and he sat down and barked his thanks), but there was that 'something' about him. I could be walking down the street with him and the strange bus driver would stop to ask about him.  Everyone loved that dog, family, vets across the country, neighbors, friends...always asked about Reilly first. Even the Cargo guys at Air Canada would spring him loose to let him run around the terminal...a big no-no.  Reilly is how I became aware of HIV, for that same best friend died shortly thereafter from AIDS, and I was left with the two dogs for a very short time.  Having a golden was his dying wish, and on his gravestone is an etching of him and his dog. 

Reilly meant more to me than anything.  He judged (correctly) the men in my life and would find a way to show his disapproval or fear.  Sometimes he lived with my parents, when I had to travel or move across Canada, so he just built a bigger fan base, with neighbors dropping in to take him for walks.  He loved drive thrus and always managed to score a treat.  He was terrifed of bagpipes as I found out when I took him to a parade once.  More people wanted to watch Reilly than the parade, and he had so many friends IN the parade it was a complete debaucle because the kids stopped to say...LOOK there's REILLY, and he went nuts.  That was always the way with him.  I walked him down the aisle at my sister's wedding, he promptly rolled over and did this crazy upside down thing for the whole group...its hysterical when the bride has to step over the dog and no one minds...because it was Reilly afterall. 

I was traveling again...and I came home and Reilly wouldn't get up one evening and I just knew it had to be bad.  I got the phone call from the vet with news of anemia and my heart sank.  I had to leave for an interview the next day for two days and returned on the Sunday afternoon, he seemed bright, he seemed ok....so I let him sleep with me on the couch all day, but I knew.  By the next morning, we had to rush him to the vet and I had to put him to sleep, knowing he had struggled to wait for me to return to him to say goodbye. He never had a chance with such a raging cancer either.  I felt his soul leave in the same matter you describe and the pain of realizing the stark difference between him...and his poor body.  I don't think its normal that everyone in the clinic was crying that day...even the seasoned ones were devastated by the loss of my little old man.

For months after he would visit me.  Sometimes in a dream, sometimes a warning that something needed to be checked.  We got a new puppy later that year and Reilly's favorite sticks fell over twice for no reason...just as the puppy would be getting into trouble.  About a year ago I dreamed that Reilly came back to make sure I was ok, and that I hadn't forgotten him despite the new dogs.  Its still completely vivid in my mind, not a normal dream.

I planted a red dogwood with white flowers in the yard....it bloomed the next year exactly on the day he died, sure its a coincidence, and I knew it was a spring flowering type....but I got my first message from Consumed that same day two years later.   Those trees still bloom June 2nd.  Maybe I'm clownshit crazy, but I know I've felt Reilly at times when I really needed him.  Its not so often now, but still....he remains.

I wish that for you Jonathan.  I've accepted Reilly's passing, even moved on and loved new pets but there is nothing like my Reilly. 

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« Reply #59 on: June 28, 2006, 09:50:13 AM »
I am so very sorry for your heart. I know that Ringo's loss has devastated you, and Benjamin.
I've been in tears, since yesterday afternoon when I came across this thread.
This time it was my turn to clutch, and kiss my little furry Princess in the inconsolable sorrow for your beloved friend.
Sweetie, and I send gentle hugs, and kisses to you and Benjamin.
We love you. and are here if you ever need to talk. :'(
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