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Author Topic: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys  (Read 1494 times)

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Offline momoftwo

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my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« on: April 27, 2007, 09:08:27 PM »
Negative! ;D ;D ;D ;D
Some interesting things the nurse brought up to avoid contraction of the virus. She mentioned that he think about getting circumcised since this is for the long haul to risk infection of the virus. She said there have been a few studies on it. So I am curious, is it worth the pain of him getting circumcised?

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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2007, 09:12:17 PM »
Hi Mom!

This is GREAT news !  ;D ;D ;D

Circumcision is the latest talk about preventing HIV. If you search the forums on here for "circumcision" you will find some discussion about it. My fear is that people will get circumcised then have unprotected sex thinking this was the cure to HIV. We don't want that !

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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2007, 09:53:38 PM »
The inside of the foreskin is definitely a receptive area for transmission and increases the possibility of transmission during unprotected intercourse. 

Recently it's been in the news worldwide that a significant number of the medical establishment are encouraging circumcision as a means of reducing the infection rate.

I suggest both of you discuss this with your doctor and get specific details about the surgery, etc.



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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #3 on: April 28, 2007, 07:21:49 AM »
On the other hand, my uncut partner and I were together for a year and a half, having unprotected, before we knew my status. He's still hiv negative eight years later.

Personally, since condoms still must be used to protect against hiv infection, I wouldn't ever dream of asking my partner to get circumcised. I mean, what's the point? Condoms protect whether a guy is cut or not. He gets freaked out enough as it is when pets have to be neutered, I can't imagine (well, actually, I can!) what his reaction would be to his own circumcision.  :o

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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2007, 07:41:05 AM »
I can't believe I'm posting this.

I agree with Ann.

Matty the Damned is circumscised and performed both top and bottom roles. Whether you you're cut or not, condoms are the only way to protect yourself and your partner from the Virus.

On that basis, I'd recommend against getting him cut on the basis that this will protect him from HIV. It won't. Only condoms and lube can do that. And he can be cut or not to use those.

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« Last Edit: April 28, 2007, 08:25:33 AM by matty.the.damned »

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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2007, 08:10:58 AM »
She mentioned that he think about getting circumcised since this is for the long haul to risk infection of the virus. She said there have been a few studies on it. So I am curious, is it worth the pain of him getting circumcised?

NO, PLEASE NO!!!!!

I find the suggestion of circumcision totally barbarric at this point.  My sweetie is uncut, and we, like Ann, have had our share of exposures, and not one HIV+ test on his part after 19 years.  Please send this doctor to their room with the admonition to mind their own business.  Barbarism is not the answer to not becoming infected, period!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: my fiance's test came back...need some advice from the guys
« Reply #6 on: April 28, 2007, 08:23:39 AM »
I just want to amend my comments to agree with Ann, Matty & Moffie.

As long as you two consistently use condoms there shouldn't be any problem with regard to HIV transmission. They are very effective and do the job as long as they are used consistently.

My apologies for having wandered off topic as I was not thinking of your specific situation so much as that of men who are either not in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners are HIV negative or who for whatever other reasons may not always use condoms.
« Last Edit: April 28, 2007, 08:25:33 AM by Andy Velez »
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