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Offline jsb

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scared for my wife
« on: April 08, 2007, 03:10:04 AM »
first,i wanna say thanks to everybody that keeps thi site running its very good one for somebody like me.i will make this really fast,i am a 31 male and married to a wonderfull woman who loves me very much,i made a terrible mistake one night and went to a stip club and  got drunk.fastfoward, i had sex with one of the stripper with a condom on, a week later i got sick.i had a flue and seems like a regular flu,but with diahrea,and cough. 2 weeks after the incident i had some liquid coming out of my penis and i knw it was chlamydia,went to the doc. to get tested and the doc. said it should be a good idea to get tested for hiv as well and as soon as he told me that i was like, oh no!!! my head was just turning.a week past the test came back and i was right chlamydia was pos. and of course the hiv test came back negg.about 3 to 4 weeks after the incident the rest of my symtoms appeared likke muscle pain,tinggling sensetion to my legs and arms,diarhea is still there and the famous rash, as soon as a realized that this maybe a ars symtom my anziety went off the roof. weeks past by and im on my 14th weeks diarhea is still there and rash and the tinggling,decided to get tested and the test came back neg. i and my wife couldnt beleive we were so happy that day that we celebrated u know...without protection.fastforward, im in my 9 months now and still worried just bec. i get tired really easily this past few weeks so tired that i just wanna sit down or sleep plus my wife is showing the same rash that i have even now though not so much as before.i forgot to mention that i still have irregular vm. and i think sometimes my legs feel cold and the tinggiling is still there.so 3 dyas ago i decided t ge tested again,i went to the doc.this fri. and will know the result this coming week.i hope i dont get the suprise of my life.wish me luck and thank u for reading my story,im from van.b.c. btw.
« Last Edit: April 08, 2007, 03:14:13 AM by jsb »

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2007, 05:11:55 AM »
jsb,

You did not have a risk for hiv infection so it is no surprise you have tested conclusively negative for hiv.

Chlamydia is another kettle of fish and it is entirely possible to become infected with it in the situation you did. Unlike hiv, chlamydia is easy to transmit and condoms don't always protect if you get some chlamydia-infected fluids on your penis.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

You do not have hiv. Whatever is causing you and your wife's problems have nothing to do with hiv. You both need to see your doctor to find out what is going on. We cannot diagnose you here, but we can tell you that you have tested conclusively negative for hiv - you do not have hiv.

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Offline jsb

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #2 on: April 08, 2007, 10:53:40 PM »
thanks Ann,some how i was waiting for your comment and some other regular here.i will get my result this week and hopefully it stays neg.my doc.said i could be just stressed out thats why i keep feeling this way and my wife's pimple all over her body and a weird pimple looking bumb about 2 inches above her vag.... is just a coincident,i really hope so.thanks Ann and to people that keep this site runnin i will let u know my result.thanks again ...fingers cross and still feelin tired

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #3 on: April 09, 2007, 08:33:51 AM »
Nothing you have described about your wife's physical symptoms is suggestive of HIV.

If her symptoms continue she should discuss them with her doctor.

I expect you will test negative for HIV. Guilt is a whole other matter and you seem to be loaded with it after having strayed. You're just a dawg like the rest of us. You can't undo that bit of your personal history. See it, accept it, take a breath and let it go. That's the best thing you can do for all concerned. Really.

Good luck on your test.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline jsb

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #4 on: April 09, 2007, 07:24:14 PM »
thanks ANDY for the advised.im a bit worried again,just came back from the hospital,i have to go the emergency last night because my back and stomach was hurting really bad and having a difficulty breathing.first i thought it was a heartburn then it felt like something i s sqeezing my body from the inside.and then for some reason i thought that going to the toilet would help,but it didnt.went to the washroom 3 times.anyway,the emergency doc. thought that it maybe hep.b or c coz they found out that the pain is really comig from the right side of my stomach.they did some test and it came back neg. but the doc. said that they found some enzymes in my liver (dont know what that means) .but he think that it might be my gall bladder that causing the pain, and gave me some pain killer and send me home and told me to get an x-ray just to make sure.i forgot to mention that i told him i got tested for HIVand he told me to get it check againwith m family doc. evethough i told him this is after 14 weeks since my exposure.i just have a question,,, howcome after telling them about my hiv concern still they did not test me on the spot.and just did the hep b and c.and could this be a symtom of hiv.

thanks again and pls. be patience with me im jst really worried.
still waiting for my result.


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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #5 on: April 10, 2007, 04:45:49 PM »
js,

They didn't test you on the spot because you told them you already had a conclusive fourteen week negative. Besides, what you describe has nothing to do with hiv. How could it when you don't have hiv?

Like your doctor, I would suspect a gall-bladder problem. Make sure you attend the follow-up appointments.

You are conclusively negative for hiv and all the worry in the world won't change that fact. The ONLY thing that may change that fact is if you go out and engage in unprotected intercourse. Use condoms and avoid hiv infection.

Ann
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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #6 on: April 10, 2007, 05:28:55 PM »
Also sounds like appendicitis.  Which i've had and it sucks.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

Offline jsb

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #7 on: April 17, 2007, 02:08:22 AM »
im back and still worried,i just had another stomach pain last night that lasted about 2 hours again started as a heartburn and then got worst,could this be one of those gas problem that pos. people are experiencing.and went to my doc. last week but she's on vac. and she have a replacement for a week,she's the one that i talked  and i asked her about the enzymes in my blood that they found in the hos. and she said its due from drinking too much alcohol which make sense a little bit coz i was drinking heavily this past 7 months,and just gave me a appont. for a ultra sound for my gall bladder thing and that was done. todat, i called my doc. for my hiv test and the nurse answer and i asked for my test useally she would say if its in or not  and give me the result on the phone but this time she asked for my # and she said my doc.will call me and this made me nervous. i mean why would she has to call my doc. to call me  this made me think that the test is in and she just doent wanna deal with me coz of the result.anyway,the nurse phone back and she simply just say that the test is not back yet so she could not  give me any result in a sarcastic kinda way or maybe its just me.again this made me think that my doc.is busy thats why the nurse called me back not her,coz maybe shes so busy that when she tells me the bad news she wouldnt have a time to spare to comfort me.and this... is my imagination...or this is what really happened?
THANKS AGAIN FOR READING AND GOD BLESS US ALL...

i hope 14 weeks is really good enough for hiv testing....and in my case .i know some people tested neg. at this time but then still test pos. after 6 months.
still have some little pimple like on my face,some looks like just a little bump and some have small fuzz in the middle that is more obvious when get wet,yes typical hiv rash,headaches,and weird feelings on my legs and loose vm.thanks again

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #8 on: April 17, 2007, 03:52:38 AM »
Pay attention! YOU DID NOT HAVE A RISK. YOU ARE NEGATIVE.. If you have a concern see your doctor. This is an HIV assessment forum.

Offline jsb

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #9 on: April 24, 2007, 10:36:37 AM »
hi guys im back and the result is back and it was negative.i just wanna say thank u all specially to ann,rod,andy,and acinKC. for being nice to everyone like me eventhought some of us,definately not me ,can be rude sometimes u guys r still here to give us support.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: scared for my wife
« Reply #10 on: April 24, 2007, 11:47:14 AM »
You're welcome.

And now...GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!

Cheers,
Andy Velez

 


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