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Author Topic: we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....  (Read 1565 times)

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Offline jinghua

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we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....
« on: April 08, 2007, 09:20:33 AM »
like i said my friends.....
i love him but i am still afraid to have sex with him
we are both poz, he is from another country, we met, we had sex (just once)

am i too reserved?
he said i need to change.....i like to have sex with him but the fear~~~~~it's still inside me.....

people said will get re-infected!!! i don't want both of us to expereince that again....not anymore....

i appreciate him to understand that i don't want to have too much sex......

anyone has this experience?

Live started to change...i wish i can have a better life...

Offline Sdgirl

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Re: we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2007, 10:21:23 AM »
If you have sex WITH a condom and use it properly, there is no chance of reinfection.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves.."Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?"

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....
« Reply #2 on: April 08, 2007, 11:10:07 AM »
Jing, please read our lesson about transmission. You may find some helpful information there.

Is it possible there are other issues involved in this situation which are not just about HIV, but also about sexuality specifically and intimacy in general in your relationship? It sounds like you two might benefit from more honest and open conversation about this.

How would you say your relationship is in general? Can you discuss things together? You don't say how long you've been HIV+. If it's relatively new for you or for both of you, that takes some getting adjusted to as well.

If you can tell us more about your situation I think you will get some informed support here.


« Last Edit: April 08, 2007, 11:12:12 AM by Andy Velez »
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Offline jinghua

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Re: we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....
« Reply #3 on: April 08, 2007, 11:57:41 AM »
Dear Andy,

Maybe u r right....i should read more.
Well, i have been poz for a year now and he is 146 days....
we talked a lot (he talked) and i listened to him, we met few months back and i think a further discussion is truly needed,ok, i will give him a call then.........

thank you

Live started to change...i wish i can have a better life...

Offline red_Dragon888

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Re: we are poz,i love him,he wants sex....i am still afraid....
« Reply #4 on: April 08, 2007, 09:31:09 PM »
you don't have to anything you do not want to do.  maybe you need time to think an feel comfortable, but you have to feel good to have sex even sex with condoms.

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