Quantcast

Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
E-newsletters
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr MySpace
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Username:
Password:
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
April 20, 2014, 10:58:27 PM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 620617
  • Total Topics: 46759
  • Online Today: 273
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

IMPORTANT UPDATE
Posted Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" AIDSmeds forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future AIDSmeds Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all. 

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)  (Read 1569 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline rew

  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« on: April 08, 2007, 04:51:50 AM »
Hi everyone, I posted few years ago on aidsmeds. Everyone on the aidsmeds was very helpful to make me feel better about my situation. Thank you again.

My exposure was in 2003 (last week of august), I had unprotected vaginal sex with a girl I met in a bar. I had tested at 65th and 95th days after the exposure. They were both negative. I had lots of symtoms after my exposure, my symptoms contuniued even after my 95th day test. 

I tried to except the test results last 4 years. I was successful sometimes but recently I cant relax anymore because I made very big mistake again. I met my girlfirend 4months ago and we engaged in unprotected sex. And she now feels sick. I am scared that I infected her.  She is a very nice girl , we plan to get married but I feel I ruined her life. I feel very bad. I cant tell her anything. She says she feels tired and sleepy all the time. I dont know what to do. What do you guys suggest? Please help me.

Thank you...

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 27,947
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2007, 05:18:12 AM »
rew,

I guess you learned nothing in your previous time here.

Why are you having unprotected intercourse with this woman without testing together first? For all you know, she may have been hiv positive before you met her. You can't go by what someone says about their sexual history or how they look or what you think you know about them.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

You need to start using condoms NOW and you both need to test before you stop using condoms.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline rew

  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« Reply #2 on: April 08, 2007, 05:24:29 AM »
Ann, do you think I infected her?

I never had unprotected sex after my exposure in 2003. I was tested negative at 65tgh and 95th days. But still have some symptoms. What do you think? I am very scared that I infected her. Thanks for you help.

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 27,947
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« Reply #3 on: April 08, 2007, 06:50:16 AM »
rew,

If you never had unprotected intercourse after your CONCLUSIVE negative test back in 2003, then no, you could not have infected her. But how do you know she hasn't infected YOU? As you didn't test together with her before you stopped using condoms, you have no way of knowing unless BOTH of you test. As I said above, you need to be using condoms, every time, NO exceptions until you have tested negative together.

Hiv doesn't just happen to sex workers, you know, it can happen to ANYONE who has unprotected intercourse. She's having unprotected with you and you have no real way of knowing if she has had unprotected with others. Again, you can't go by what someone tells you about their sexual history or what you or even they THINK they know about their sexual health. Lots of people ASSUME they are hiv negative when they're not.

The bottom line here is you BOTH need to test three months after your last unprotected incident with each other, and you need to be using condoms in the meantime.

Unprotected intercourse is unprotected intercourse and it is a risk for hiv infection unless you know without doubt that your partner is hiv negative.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline rew

  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« Reply #4 on: April 08, 2007, 06:59:05 AM »
Ann, so  do you think the test done at 65th and 95th days after my exposure was good enough? How can we bu sure about it? I still have neck ache and fatigue. Thanks.

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 27,947
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: Back again need help (I think I infected my gf)
« Reply #5 on: April 08, 2007, 07:11:32 AM »
rew,

YES! You were conclusively hiv negative before you started having unprotected intercourse with your current girlfriend.

However, I don't seem to be getting through to you that you have put YOURSELF at risk AGAIN by having unprotected intercourse with your current girlfriend. You do NOT mention testing together WITH HER, so you do not know her status. For all you know, SHE may have been hiv positive BEFORE you met her.

You could not have infected her, as you were conclusively hiv negative before you met her. However, SHE may have infected YOU. Get it?

You need to start using condoms with her and you need to get yourself tested three months after your last unprotected encounter with her.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2014 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.